Is Cyber Sex Really Cheating?

[redpeterable]

Your 'advice' is embarrassing. And by the way, I do not believe for one second that you, Jenn, buy half the the things you say. What the fuck do you crave this douchebag Dan's approval for, or the approval or the entire male community on youtube? You're hot and intelligent and my god, could do way better than Monsieur Dickwad on your right.

[FitnessGuru1988]

Stop extending the definition of cheating to accommodate insecurities you have in your relationships. There's no sexting just texting and there's no cyber cheating just looking at nude pics online. Granted texting and looking at nude photos online can be a precursor to cheating and can be guidelines for ending a relationship, but they in themselves are not cheating. Cheating = Doing the Nasty and that's it.

[Silentium92]

There is no cheating as long as you have an open relationship which is more interesting than monogamy :D

[acerb45666555]

CyberSex is not cheating! even fucking a "working girl" is not cheating! its only cheating when the two cheating parties actually fall in love and cook up a plan of escape! then, of course, the offended wife may kick his ass all the way to hells gates!

[carly10111213]

I love this

[lappenstomper8]

anyone here wanna cyber sex ?

[caro1063]

cybersex phone sex is cheating you get emotionally attached to the person you are having cyber with even to the point of a cyber relationship where u fall in love with that person when you fall out with that person it really hurts so much,its worse emotionally than real life.you cant talk to that person so sort things out.the pain is very real.

[stewartx5]

A better question might be "is cybersex really sex or a poor substitute?" Regardless, I think sitting in front of a computer and talking about it for hours, day after day, is a little twisted. Something (reality, social interaction, emotional well-being, or whatever) is clearly missing from these people's lives. In any case, cybersex opens a door to sex and cheating in the real sense, which is why I'd object to participation by either my spouse or myself.

[AquariusLowtide]

My guy and I had an open relationship online. We thought it was not a big deal, but it was. When these other people ask to talk to on the phone, know personal detail about you, and wish to meet you one day, and your thinking about doing it. It is cheating. Too much drama..Not worth it. So we joined a virtual reality world together, and do freaky, fun things together. It's alot better now for us to act out our fantasies with each other.

[doutzen177]

CYBERSEX IS CHEATING - ANYONE WHO SAYS ANYTHING ELSE IS FOOLING THEMSELVES SO GOOD, THAT THEY START TO BELIEVE IT!

- and they are all loosers.

[keichan22]

Trust is like an egg if you cracked its impossible to bring it back to normal!!!

[FantomShadowz]

its not cheating if you dont get caught-(that includes nude camming) lol

[NinpoLOL]

Im horny ;) someone cyber me ;)

[TheChokebuster]

My BF is into GROSS crap and I am into OTHER things so yea I DO cheat but so does he.

[Physics400]

Cybersex is not cheating

[danporto]

What about taking a dump infront of your partner. You wouldnt do that in front of them does that make it cheating?

[TMLAPAN]

Of course it's cheating

[unholyblackheart]

phone sex " ooo the number 4 sound like anal " LOL

[TheOneAsianGirl]

LOL!! Phone sex from Family Guy!! It was HALARIOUS!!

[smileyguysz]

lol phone sex...what are you desperate??

[TheForce870]

I don't think Cyber Sex is cheating at all. Sex is being inside that person physically.

If you're just telling that person "I'm taking your shirt off", its just words, you're not actually doing anything!

That's like saying "Boom, I just shot you in the skull and being convicted of murder. You see what I'm saying?

[dduble07]

wanna phone fuck???

[Sponge143]

yeah, if i'm a girlfriend...i would feel like a crap...when he enjoyed most of his time watching over those crazy stuffs online...what's the use of me being his girl...it's a pain in a butt having those kind of person in our lives...we are here willing to give our everything and there he is enjoying himself behind our back...that sucks and a big turn off for me...i will rather stay single for the rest of my life than being with someone who will treat me like a crap...

[littlequeen64]

YES, it's cheating.Found out on VALENTINES DAY,when my husband (of 25 yrs)got careless with his e-mail.He has had long relationships with dominatrix's online and real life. Shocking .I am devastated,like a punch in the gut.3 kids and 2 grankids.I am literally sick, nerves are shot....So if you think online affairs are'nt destructive,his e-mails began quite mild and got worse.The family is really hurting right now.....it's not worth all this......promise.He is losing respect and trust.

[nickthecomedian]

i will admit for all of us we have all done this stuff.

[KingOystar]

having cyber or phone sex when your married and your doing it with someone who isnt your spouse your cheating! it is clear as day!

[supamanxxx]

Well, its hurting trust if they dont know about it.

But cyber sex when it comes down to it...Is still only typing words and talking about sex, In my opinion, No worse than watching a porno.

But in real life? Any sexual act you actually DO with another person besides your partner, is in fact in a way..Cheating.

[acase22003]

I agree good def of cheating "if you wouldnt do it in front of them then its cheating"

[smallrootbeer]

I don't hug other guys in front of my bf because he doesn't like it.. but he doesn't really care as long as it is not in front of him

[mpboss]

i dig that, good def of cheating "if you wouldnt do it in front of them its cheating"

[xXhelmsdeepXx]

After I cum in my BITCH'S ass, I phone her up on my cellphone and be like BITCH talk sexy to me. Naturally she abides, hit that bitch with my shoe when she wasn't in the mood.

[skinandbones42]

i feel bad for the person your with, you treat your girl friend/wife like crap. seriosuly stop abusing her and stop telling us what you do to her, treat her like a human being. what your doing to her is horrible

[thepowerofIandI]

sorry, but this is completely off subject. how do you ask questions that will probably get put on youtube? i'm just wondering.

[bunch1ca]

this is so confusing, really a tough situation

[Janusha]

If sex isnt great with your partner then you will eventually seek that elsewhere.. simple as that.

[casanoval33t]

so smoking weed with some friends is cheating on your girlfriend haha so unproffesional these series are a comedey no doubt

[Sk2k52]

if you lying or trying to make sure she doesn't find out about it, yes it is.

[af18chic]

I think if that guy tried to cyber with his wife it might liven up their sex life. That way he could open up with her without having to be embarrassed about it or feel silly. And they would both get what they want and she wouldn't be going behind his back. They should just pretend as if they don't know each other online.

[loderchris]

Dan makes a really good point here, 1:35, hats off.

[Bobzeaux]

Yes, it's cheating.

How do you think cyber sex is justifiable?

[wolfinside]

I love these guys. Once again, Jenn and Dan get to the heart of the matter. Relationships should be defined by each individual couple. Cheating for some may not be cheating for others. But Dan and Jenn's rule of thumb makes perfect sense. "if you wouldn't do it with your partner sitting beside you, then it's probably cheating" Good, ... common sense. Thanks for another great video.

[OBxSMITHxOB]

actually cheating is when u have intercourse with someone else which not with ur wife but it is lieing tho to ur spouse.

[VictusDwayne]

Cyber sex if it involves a camera is just like, watching a porno flick on your computer, if anyone can get off to a prono flick or the sound of someone hitting climax, then yes it's the same as what would be with cyber sex over a camera or mic.

You won't know what it's like until you try it, and if you haven't then go try it already people!

[VictusDwayne]

Sorry Dan & Jen i just had to say that. :-(

[DanAndJenn]

I almost agree with you...

Cyber sex is different than porn because there is actual interaction between the people involved. With porn, you're watching something that's pre-recorded - no interaction.

[HappySoldierHE]

true that.

[gossamerwindweb]

COMMUNICATION. I think most all of the questions posed to you could be answered by saying COMMUNICATE! ;)

[DanAndJenn]

Thank you! can't say that enough.

If we can all just talk to one another, wouldn't life be much easier for everyone...

[Mattmon2]

Cyber sex is definitely not cheating. There is a vast difference between TALKING ABOUT sex and DOING sex.

[DanAndJenn]

Cyber Sex is NOT cheating like Anal Sex is NOT sex. It's amazing how many hoops and loop holes people create to justify the 'virgin' label.

"We had anal sex, oral sex, finger sex, but I'm still a virgin!"

This seems like the same thing for cheating...

[Mattmon2]

Anal sex is actually doing sex. My point still stands. Cyber sex is only talking about sex. If the two people cyber sexing meet up and actually have sex (or anal or oral), then that would be cheating.

[DanAndJenn]

That's why we call it 'emotional' cheating...

[Mattmon2]

If a wife finds an email from another woman to the husband saying "let's have sex", that email would not be cheating. It would be evidence for the possibility that they have actually met up and had sex. If that did happen, that would be cheating.

[DanAndJenn]

Does he know the woman? Why did his wife 'find' the letter when he should have told her about immediately - unless he has something to hide...

[BMiBudz]

how the hell does cyber sex do anything for anyone :S i will never understand... cyber sex is a pointless and most idiotic thing i have ever heard and i feel sorry for ppl who actualy get off on it :S

[Chris20Luvs]

i would defintely say that cyber sex is cheating. i feel that sex is not just a physical act but also a mental act. because before the physical activity the mental is what actually iniates the physical. so although through cyber sex you are not physically having sex. you have already commited the mental sexual act so tha is just as important.

[maskedphrogg]

Only if you do it right :-p

or well (-:

[maskedphrogg]

My bad, you got to the heart of the matter in the middle of the vid..then went and didn't listen to yourselves.

Spelling out in no uncertain terms the point[s] I raised in my first comment. Then, much to my chagrin, you went ahead and pronounced the behaviour as "bad" w/o giving any evidence to support your conclusion. Suggesting a single way to include the partner, in what some would suggest as an unnatural situation, does not relieve you of the duty to defend your judgment..Perhaps kinky...

[maskedphrogg]

You got some really unrealistic "rules"

ah hem....

If it's not part of the rules a couple has arranged btwn them, then eh hemmm.. It's NOT breaking the rules.

Next time maybe you should stick to the topic at hand and not go off on some presumptive set of "rules" that don't apply to the audience.

So then... is _pretend_ sex.. iow just TALKING about it, equate to infidelity?

Keeping in mind that simple lust is not a sin, ACTING OUT lust may be....but just talking about it?y'all are in a dreamland

[DanAndJenn]

That's our whole point... Simply having sex with someone is not cheating to us. Yes, that is one societally accepted definition, but that's what we're all about - "Question Everything!"

We want to redefine 'cheating' in a relationship to include emotional as well as physical cheating.

[DanAndJenn]

Every couple should define their own rules and accepted behavior for their particular relationship.

[maskedphrogg]

Make up your mind[s]

You just got done saying "Simply having sex with someone is not cheating to us." and follow that with your redefining cheating as being emotional as well as physical. Well is physical sex cheating or not? It's pretty obvious you aren't aware of what qualifies as "cyber sex" so it's a bit presumptive of you to pronounce it as cheating as well.

[DanAndJenn]

Physical sex as well as cyber sex is cheating if you are doing it without your partner's approval...

If you are having cyber sex with another person behind your partner's back - that's cheating.

If you're having cyber sex with someone other than your partner and your partner is OK with it, then it's not cheating because you're not lying or breaking the trust.

Make sense?

[SunnyMarkos]

what if u two were to break up?!?!?!

[DanAndJenn]

We choose to follow our passions together and at this point in our lives we choose to be together. We could stress about the future, but we choose to enjoy today!

Is that weird?

[Miko7778]

I will not judge your character for doing this and i agree with D&J

[jeanintro]

Lol! Dan: "In the dark?"

I love you Dan. AAAah! You guys makes me laugh while answering serious questions, you guys rock!

[DRiPPz6800]

FIRST COMMENT AGAIN

[DanAndJenn]

LOL :-)

Thanks for watching!!!

D&J