Rosenberg on Nonviolent Communication ~ NVC

[josielenore]

Thank you so much for posting this. It meets my need for comfort and growth to be able to watch this!

[oquirk]

Dr. Rosenberg has trained many to use nonviolent communication to ease conflict across the world--and his work has taught me how to have the most healthy connections in my own life. Get his book, it's a quick read and may help change how you view your interactions and those around you. It may feel awkward at first, but the main thing is if your intention is really to understand the other, and have them understand you, that intention is what comes through. Marshall is an inspiration!

[rickiis]

By using NVC skills and consciousness, the violent situation I was involved with last week was calmed in 2 minutes by offering the other person empathy and then he was able to hear me. I don't theorize NVC yet really practice it daily. It does work in my life to bring peace and harmony, quickly and with quality. thanks always to Marshall..

[Tangler3]

Marshall shows us how to give respect for basic human dignity. We all have needs and are compelled to respond when our needs are denied. Due to modern technology, we now have the capacity to deal effectively with poverty. By utilizing the techniques of nonviolent communication, as poverty gradually falls away, we will chip away at other roots of war. Nonviolent communication is essential as we move towards an international society to save our planet.

[musetek]

I think hazlitt did not hear the video all the way through. Rosenberg has been in Israel dealing with the issues. His approach is different from Chamberlain or the Native Americans. Rosenberg is on the right track, an essential track at that.

[cfcreative1]

cult

[swamikitty]

Mr. Rosenberg's methods can be quite life-changing. I was recently introduced to the methods and began applying them immediately with wonderful results. Changing personal patterns is a long journey, however, learning and using NVC is a skill worth the effort.

[hazlitt1]

If Mr. Rosenberg is so effective in resolving conflict and dealing with thugs, why doesn't he go back and deal with his fellow Jews who keep stealing Palestinian land and suppressing and killing Palestiinian people!

[nirvana57857857]

hearing him share these brilliant ideas leaves me wondering if I'm a witness to seeds of emotional evolution

[MrStiftje]

@nirvana57857857

you are if you belief it

[aVeryBmovie]

If the world would follow Marshall's model of NVC, we would not have any need for war, violence or any power-over tactics. Violence is a horrible malignancy that results from early unmet childhood needs that people act-out on their own families and on the world.

[mooshoo56]

What gets me is: Why do people call him naiive? It's because he's NOT naiive that he's doing this work! It's because he knows that this is THE only solution that does work or has ever worked!!! God Bless You Marshall!

[hazlitt1]

Mr. Chamberlain tried the non violent approach, it got us World War Two. The Indians tried Ahimsa, the 'Way of non violence', it them 250 years of suppression, rape and robbery by the Brits. Wake up, there are some real f**kers in this world.

[MrInnerJoy]

M; talks about the difference between protective use of force &violence or punitive force. It adresses our need4 protection. Nonviolence does not mean not meeting our need for protection. It is quite the opposite while not denying others needs. It as about having everybody's needs getting met and conflicts being resolved peacefully. Some people did kill some others. When discussion is not possible, if violence is going on, protective use of force is necessary.

[hazlitt1]

joexrx says ' It is not human nature to hate, injure and kill', Look around you sir, our nature is patently so. Because we can 'do better', it does not mean we do not have a dark side within our nature. This is the naive thinking which allows the bad guys to continue. Some people unfortunately can only be stopped with bullets.

[Alexknobsob]

one of the skills we need more than anything else.

[soxrul12]

thanks marshall! you help me dominate my son.

[calm1111]

I really appreciate Marshall's contribution to life.

[mkahju]

I am deeply grateful to Marshall Rosenberg for his work! Being introduced into Non Violent communication seven years ago has enhanced my life quality tremendously and let me to discover my passion and mission in Life!

[Seigu007]

@mkahju the problem i have with non-violent communication is the communication part. How to formulate the proper sentence without sounding sarcastic or obtuse.

[rickiis]

Yes it can be challenging for new practitioners, yet when the intention is really for authenticity and to connect with the speaker, the words if offered flow out naturally and easily. Many times I don't need the words as the intention is felt by the speaker. When you do offer empathy verbally, try not to use need but maybe value, like such as: Do you want more confidence using NVC?

[dunbaraw]

Marshall's work has inspired deep lasting change and healing in my personal life. It has also largely contributed to my work as a mediator in juvinal dependency mediations and other conflict resolution. Do not underestimate the power of Marshall's tools, but realise they take time to incorporate into your life as unlearning the old ways will take time. The benfits are beyond your wildest imaginings!

[judygast]

Marshall Rosenberg has created a model of communication that is changing the world. I highly recommend it. There are loads of materials on the cnvc website to help people learn the model.

[NLPNVC]

This method of communicating has changed my life. I recommend it highly.

[shannashaan]

This man's compassion, spirit and method are stunning and real.

[joexrx]

Yes, violence is not necessary. We do not have to continue with war after war after war. It is not human nature to hate, injure and kill. We can do better.

[Shantigarbha]

I love this video! I so appreciate what Marshall Rosenberg is trying to do by finding a language of life to communicate in violent situations.

[fdelahanty]

Great video. Dr. Rosenberg clearly shows how listening with empathy to the Palestinian man who called him "Murderer" was powerful and transformative. I also love his example of the "peace talks" which were not likely to lead to peace because the language used was accusatory or judgmental. When Dr. Rosenberg "translated" the attacking words into feelings and needs on both sides, the upset was resolved. I'd like to learn to listen like this to people who are upset and be this kind of peacemaker

[mjb4101]

Marshall Rosenberg's non-violent communication is such a freeing way of connecting to people, and finding our common humanity. Great stuff.

[PaddyAtkinson]

I have only recently been introduced to NVC but have found it very benificial in my close relationships. I have also found it valuable in allowing positive communication with people have disagreements with.

[yepadoob]

Great stuff and very much needed today. Particularly like watching Marshalls interpreation of what is going on in others. Thanks for posting it!

[efautsch]

I attended a NVC workshop led by Marshall Rosenberg 7 years ago, and I remember him saying that he wished he could change what he called his technique to "Compassionate Communication". Although my efforts to practice NVC in difficult situations have mixed results - primarily because I am not a skilled practioner - I always try to remember the "compassion" part, and that alone helps.

[powermindset]

I've revolutionized my communication in large measure thanks to what I've learned from Marshall Rosenberg's teachings. I highly recommend not only this video but also his books. I'm convinced this work can help a person deepen one's insight and increase the joy one brings to one's actions and interactions. It gives me great hope for everyday life and for progress in the world.

[mtvyfan]

I have worked with Nonviolent Communication for about a year now and it really can work. It is difficult to learn and apply in todays world however, because we are all communicating using judgments and blame and need to use this process desperately to fix our world.

[KandyLippincott]

thoughtful and obvious ideas, thank you. Patience with angry, loud, hatefilled shouts are tricky--takes practice. I have to practice this and also giving a non agressive response after listening and REALLY hearing complaints from someone. Thanks for posting this quiet peaceful technique.

[reidres]

Violence is sometimes a way to get others to listen. If a group cannot get their needs met and is being suffocated by another group that does not appear to be listening, then it may be time to throw manners out the window. I think it is useful to consider that there are as many narratives as there are groups. And that the terms "terrorist" and "gunman" should not be considered to have a connotation any more negative than soldier, airman or supplier of weapons. It is a bad narrative that kills.

[matt4052]

So simple...yet so powerful.

[revdupcc]

I first used the NVC tools to be with my ailing mother, who I was caring for. I will be ever grateful for the gift of connection that my mother and I enjoyed before her death. When I simply listened to her (by guessing her feelings and needs) rather than trying to fix her, we were able to get to what was really important and how much we loved and appreciated each other. Thank you NVC.

[rubinkuppel]

this is such a hopefull way of meeting , really meeting, with other people.

[pennygreen65]

Thankyou Marshall. It is so worth learning this language. You give me hope for the world!

[croyable]

I read Marshall Rosenberg's NVC and a few of the mini-books from his website and I have to say it really saved me during a low point in my life. I feel as if a void has been filled and can't see my future without this gift.

[voiceofthegrandstand]

Marshall Rosenberg's work provides real hope for healthy, cooperative and reciprocal relationships with each other, whether as individuals, in the home, the neighborhood, the workplace, the community, or the world at large. Its a paradigm shift. But it will have to be taught systematically to everyone, perhaps a K-12 curriculum could be written for schools all over the world. What a difference in one generation it would make.

[karenveronica1]

Great message. Thanks.

[ehf3000]

Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication is profound gift to humanity. Thank you for posting this!

[jessiedcarpenter]

I have read some of Marshall's books, but it is even better to see and hear him speak. It inspires me to continue working on my communications skills!

[GyspyGirl333]

I am really inspired by the skill development this man shares with the world. My husband and I now giggle when we are in old habits of passive voilence in our communication because we are so relieved that we see it for what it is. What a gift, Thank you Mr. Rosenberg and your team for presenting this stuff.

[ladragonitta]

"You should better manage your emotions" they'd always say to me: at work, at home... I was realizing how my way of expressing my emotions (crying, shouting, etc.) was hurting others, but I had found no way not to let them out other than to simply silence them, which was NOT the solution for me at all. With NVC, I found a way to connect to my feelings, to understand how they relate to specific needs I have, how to express them in a way that does not hurt others... Peace starts with our selves...

[yesmilli]

NVC is the most empowering tool to create connection that I know of, I hope you watch this and pass it around, cheers from Milli

[jcjessup]

More than anyother clip on youTube this one gives me real hope. The world Will change and is changing for the better.

[Monique00Mike]

We had the privilege to hear Marshall give this talk live in NZ. He is truly inspirational. Practicing NVC makes a big difference to our lives and those we interact with. This approach is desperately needed to help overcome the dominant global patterns of conflict and environmentally destructive behaviour.

[bunz11]

thanks for letting us know abt him. A more "active" form of Tolle's way - no?

Nina

[willowing]

so glad it's finally on youtube as i requested a while ago! yay!! :) x

[johnfarwell]

thank you tam for passing this url on.

very much appreciated.

john

[theresafield]

Seeing this video available on YouTube leaves me feeling excited, hopeful and grateful - I want so much for us to experience peace and satisfaction in relation to friends, family and world, and I believe Rosenberg's methods go a long way toward making those needs MUCH MORE LIKELY to be met. If peace is possible, much of it can begin here, by discarding old violence-serving beliefs, and tuning in to basic human needs.

[corinasimonro]

As a beginner in peace work, this method of communication brought to me another consciousness of human relations. I am extremely grateful for the personal experience of knowing nvc. It is wonderful to see people connecting to it all over the world. I know people who even apply this knowledge in talking to the political leaders of their region and country in the USA campaign for a Department of Peace. It is a piece of global culture of peace worth considering. I am happy it exists as a choice.

[LifeJourneyer]

In this world where so much violence occurs within families, societies, between countries and environmentally, Marshall Rosenberg's message provides genuine hope and a vision for a more peaceful future.

[sailakimbo]

superb

[JeniDrew]

Knowing that there are people like Marshall Rosenberg on the planet gives me a lot of hope. Learning NVC gave me the courage to bring children into this world. My hope is that the consciousness of nvc continues to spread, bringing hope and real skills for "human connection" to more and more people.

[yaelbrisker]

Always inspiring to hear the man who has brought to us a practical way in which we can have real understanding and compassion for each other.I have been learning and using NVC for 6 years and it has radically changed the way I see my fellow humans. I was sorry that his last words get cut off....

[marattila]

Non violent communication has helped me enormously. Becoming more aware of my needs and connecting with others is powerful and wonderful. This video is inspiring and I hope more and more people can learn to never hear what others think of them. This is a great way to break out of the violence that is so endemic in our world.

[cassesq1]

Very powerful stuff. Non-violent communication helps us to learn to shut off the noise of pain and suffering and really hear the humanity and needs of others.

[zlangsjoen]

i have such gratitude for this form of communication and for the feedback i have already begun to receive as i make this a daily practice. i wish you wings in getting this message out.

[mfte260]

Your speaking to the Palestinians directly aroused in me a feeling of betrayal, because I felt that empowering them in any way encroaches on my need for safety. However, I must also admit that your application of NVC in the most dire situations does give your ideas more credibility.

[reidres]

What is important about what Rosenberg and Carter have done is to try to build bridges. Your goal should be a satisfied Palestinian population. Because we have seen that a surpressed Palestinian population is a false cure for your concerns. A satisfied Palestinian population isn't going to be attacking anyone. But don't expect them to be satisfied with less than you or I would be satisfied if we were in their shoes.

[reidres]

The preceding was in response to a post by mfte260, but YouTube didn't put it in the correct place.

On another topic, it would be interesting to know Rosenberg's response to whether he thinks that he could have talked to Saddam and gotten him to be a good person using the NVC strategy. Is he totally against coercion? Or is that just an area that isn't part of his mission? Which is fine, of course.

[tantefien]

This is very powerful. I have interviewed Dr. Rosenberg and taken his workshop, and experienced the effectiveness of his approach.

There are ig problems in the world, and there is big hope. We just have to choose and commit to what's true and what works.

[kenmooreski]

There is hope for the world; one mind at a time, mine first. Whew: Can I be like Marshall? How many lives (mine first) could be postititively affected? How about you?

Learning to listen, learning to remember others first. This I can do, one day at a time.

[lbarounis]

Love it. Thanks for the video.

[lbecknell]

What inspiring examples in this short video. We can learn to live together in peace by learning how to bring the conciousness of Nonviolent Communication into our daily lives and into global interactions.

[PeaceCanBe]

Way to go, what a great video! I really want to master these tools too!

[Rosemountain51]

Marshall is an extraordinary human being. NVC is like learning a foreign language, and like learning a foregin language, it enables people to connect in a way they haven't connected before...what a gift!

[hsyutzy]

Wisdom.

[fjdaley001]

I will do something every day to help spread this wonderful work!

[pugadise]

At the beginning of this year I was the biggest sceptic in regards to NVC. Having done a ITT with Marshal and then taken my learned skills back to Australia, I have managed to change many conflicts into conversations that considered the needs of both sides and successfully avoided meetings that ended up with members screaming at each other.

Thank you Marshal for devoting your live to one of Peace and Harmony. Jim, thank you for sharing this video with us. Namaste, Phoebe

[lainey7327]

Marshall Rosenberg's work in nonviolent communication has added to the skills I've learned from people like Stephen Covey & Thomas Gordon. He insists that we connect to our feelings and uncover what needs of ours are being met (or not). I love when he says, "I didn't pay attention to what they were *thinking*, I connected with what they were *feeling*". If he can do it on international mediation levels, then it behooves us to practice it within our families and workplaces! It works everywhere.

[Tanguera1949]

Shows how hearing feelings and needs, rather than what people actually say, can lead to understanding where there was anger and hostility before. Excellent!

[experiensor]

I am myself a mediator who uses Marshall's system (in mediation and in life). I have changed the course of many lives, in large part because I have learned so about what human beings need to communicate well from Marshall. I am grateful that that Marshall Rosenberg lives and teaches...

[sabiuniverse]

A clear introduction to NVC. Imaging what the wider circulation of this method could have in reducing violence and meeting people's needs.

[leeanngott]

NVC is a tool anyone can use to improve their relationships and how they communicate. Rosenberg's book "Nonviolent Communication" explains what it is and how to do it.

[ECmama]

This sounded unrealistic to me AT FIRST, but now it seems brilliant. I do find it challenging to change my own patterns of communication, but I am so hopeful that ALL of my relationships (from work to family life and beyond) will benefit from my learning to use/integrating non-violent communication into my life. Inspiring!

[djmamarosa]

Wow..I am delaing with a fight I had with my mother and she is hating someone...I can see thru the wisdom of this man, Marshall, that she is in extreme pain...I can hope to hear her pain and not the violence of her words....

[suzzzester]

What the world needs now is love AND non violent communication. Be a cheerleader for your humanity and practice/learn NVC and you will transform the world. We all make a difference. We all matter. We all can use NVC to be beautiful and gentle people. Thank you Marshall.

[BBQ112]

Wunderbar! Endlich ein neues Video von Marshall. Ich hoffe, ich schaffe es irgendwann noch mal, ihn live zu erleben. Schade, dass die Tonqualität sich anhört als hätte er das in einen leeren Tonkrug gesprochen.

[living1love]

I like how he creates a way for us all to participate in his style of non-violent communication-by always giving us examples of how he's used it.

[concepts4change]

Such wonderful simplicity and easy to use communication the encourages understanding rather than the daily assumptions we so often default to. Thanks Marshall for all your great work!

[steveshack]

Terrific interview. It's heartening to know there are people out there who are doing this kind of work. We never hear about them. The media is too obsessed with perpetuating conflict.

[joebrummer]

Marshall's work has transformed my life.  It has changed how I communicate with others. It has changed how I solve conflicts both in my professional life and my personal life. I have watched this process change others too!

I would encourage others to read the book, Speak Peace!

[sietsesterrenburg]

Great to hear. Gives me hope for a bright future and supports me in my daily practice of nvc.