Wishful Mondays With Nicole - Image Acceptance

[Thisheartimperfect]

i really love how bluntly honest you are, ive felt the same way, but ive never had the guts to say it, so thank you for saying it! ur a truely inspirational woman!

smile! your beautiful! = )

[michaelinChicago]

Sure, you are such a beautiful lady, but I really enjoy your intelligence....I love it.

Michael in Chicago

[AwesomeForever]

Great video.

It is late. I will watch more tomorrow. And really respond.

I am too tired to cover points that you made.

I know.

LInda

[MsBeFit]

Honestly, most of my life I thought the same way...I lost 60lbs got to my ULTIMATE goal weight and yet...I felt lost and without a purpose...It's like, I spent so much time focusing on losing weight and once I finally got there...I didn't know what to do with myself! I think that the pursue of that "ideal weight" was what I really enjoyed...It sounds crazy I know!

[Jinxie228]

I posted a video response.. but its a video I did back on April 1st but it touched on this subject after the first minute that is. lol

[kristine0002]

great video nicole. you were very honest about your feelings. That is not always the easiest thing to do.

i really hope we get to meet someday soon <3

[WishfulShrinking]

You are right, fat people always want to be thin, thin people always want more boobs or butt or curves, curvy people want to be less curvy. Maybe we are all just doomed :P

[vzballa]

God, the whole being taken seriously thing got to me soo much when I was at my heaviest...I really never felt anyone did, and felt everyone was just laughing at me all the time whenever I did try to be serious...I remember that being a driving force in losing my weight, and to be honest, I really think its true that some people don't take bigger people seriously, its sooo wrong, but I feel like people take me seriously now that I am smaller...its definitely fucked up!

[WishfulShrinking]

Just goes to show how being overweight really screws not only with you psychically but mentally and emotionally. It's a 'fat-paranoia' we have, thinking we aren't good enough, we are being laughed at, etc. I envy those overweight woman (or men) that love themselves and don't give a damn about what others think.

[vzballa]

totally agree with you..those people that just don't care...how the heck do they do it!

[penguinsandcocaine]

I can relate to what you are saying so much. This was a GREAT VIDEO!!! :)

[WishfulShrinking]

Thanks :)

[Imskinnyinside]

I DO NOT accept myself this way. I DO NOT love my body. I don't have to love it to lose weight. I just have to be greatful for it, which I am. I am greatful for it and therefore I am attempting to take care of it. I will not be satisfied until I am in a healthy range.

[WishfulShrinking]

Thanks for that, accepting ourselves at a high weight means we are settling. Not being satisfied means that we will work towards bettering ourselves!

[mollybcutie2000]

What a Great Honest Video!! Ive felt this was also and still do sometimes :o) I'm working on the Mind while i'm working on the Bod :o) They are both big Mountains to climb!! One step at a time girl!

[WishfulShrinking]

Thanks Molly, i'm climbing those mountains with ya girl.

[Tishy205]

lol I totally understand what you mean about having that psychological feeling of comparing yourself to others like you went to meet her. I feel that way all the time at school... sometimes i even refuse to take pictures with my friends because I know that they look smaller than me. And it has alot to do with self acceptance... being confident in who you are... But I also feel like the first step is on the inside... once you accept yourself... everyone else will too, right :) <3

[WishfulShrinking]

You are exactly right, once we accept ourselves then who CARES if people accept us or not, we love ourselves, to hell with whoever doesn't agree :)

[2kute2bbig]

2years ago when I created a myspace account and found a bunch of old friends and they wanted to meet up, I kept saying I was too busy cuz I was emberrassed for them to see me cuz they still were thin and pretty and I was huge!!! until recently when I started loosing weight that I started finally meeting up with them, I know they weren't thinking what I thought but I still did not accept myself.

[WishfulShrinking]

I think a lot of us feel like that, we use our weight as an excuse not only to meet new or old friends, but travel, do adventurous things, go out and live life.

[Slim4Iife]

Loved it!

Nicoleeeeeeeeeeee, I'm gong to kick your butt to think that people won't like u.

I can't wait to see u and give you a BIG HUG!!!!!!!!!!!! Woohooo can't wait for next month. I will post a video response for this video, I think I have a great story to share :)

Cheers,

Mari

[WishfulShrinking]

Oh I can't wait to see you AND your big hug next month :D

[emgbear1286]

Great Video Nicole! I wish I could go and meet you next month! You make great videos! You are always looking great in them too! Hope you have a nice week!

Em

[WishfulShrinking]

Thank you for watching :D

[FindingKristy]

You are beautiful, and I love your honesty in this video. You are going to be so happy after the meet-up, and I'm sure you are going to have a wonderful time, and everyone is going to love you! Great Video! <3

[WishfulShrinking]

Thank you Kristy, why is it that we can all so easily compliment and have real meaning and feeling behind the praise we give for each other, but never accept others compliments :/

[waterchicklet]

I think you should read, Dr. Phil's 7 Keys To Weight Loss Freedom. It helped me lose weight in the past and I'm re-reading it, and the section I'm on now, is one that describes negative self talk, which I think is exactly one of your major themes in your struggle. I think this book will help you if you give it a look-see. hugs, xo

[WishfulShrinking]

Ok I will check it out. I am all about self-doubt...which like you said it my root problem in moving forward with this. Ugh.

[junkinthetrunkk]

YAY! I love this video Nicole! I can't WAIT to meet you next month! you are beautiful, georgeorus, intelligent, and MY BFF!

<3 Amber

[WishfulShrinking]

I can't wait either <3333

[fit2btried]

Nicole - great vid - submitted a video response of something I did about a week ago on this subject.

[WishfulShrinking]

Thank you, will watch in a few minutes :)

[DynaChik]

Where are you going next month?

[WishfulShrinking]

To a gun convention in California. I'll bring my bandanna if you bring yours!

[DynaChik]

Oh boy sounds FUN!!! **starts cleaning guns** Can't wait for the meetup :D

[Rachele77]

Nicole, very candid conversation!!! I love this blog!! Honestly even at 148-lbs, I had a hard time accepting myself too!! Great topic thanks for sharing <3 R77

[WishfulShrinking]

It was a bit candid wasn't it *gulp* :) Thank you for your support, here on this channel and personally <3

[JamieSnyderTV]

Just because we want to be a certain weight, there's no reason not to love what you've got in the meantime.

Improve on what you love, don't improve to be loved.

[WishfulShrinking]

You are dead on. I focus so much on the negative and not the positives.

[rushedartist]

why do we do these things to our heads???? we get these ideas that we're not good enough and i don't know the explanation for it. i mean, everybody wants to look their best...sometimes we get in a rut and end up at a weight that we can't believe we're at and then want to hide in a hole and not come out----i'm at that point right now. i feel too fat to do anything and i feel too fat to even make videos...about weight loss. haha. unreal. i totally relate, chick. you are beautiful tho. always.

[WishfulShrinking]

I wish you would come out of hiding Eisy, we all beat ourselves up, but put yourself out here for us to help you. I may not be shedding lbs right now but being a part of this community makes me never give up fully on myself or my goals.

[rushedartist]

hi, i'm making videos again. i know i know...i sort of gave up, but i'm back and trying to lose the weight once again. i just got sick of never succeeding. i felt like a big failure. i stopped stickam because i felt it was distracting me from losing weight, then i ended up taking an extra long break. not good...but i missed you so much and everybody. maybe i'll come on stickam. i just feel like a big hypocrite.

[ASHLEYxECLECTIC]

Aww you're so beautiful inside & out. :)

I would have felt the same exact way if I was meeting Shanti, or anyone else for that matter, so I completely understand where you're coming from.

you're gorgeous love! <3

[WishfulShrinking]

Thank you Ashley, I think by the end of next month I will hopefully get over that roadblock.