Coffee Talk - 2yr 3 mos post RNY - BRINGING DOWN THE WALLS!

[Sexacjun]

I'm so glad you made this video. I, now, don't feel alone. I am in your shoes. I am disappointed in myself. I should be overwhelmed with joy instead I'm unhappy. I never made it to goal. I lost around 115 lbs but still obese. I'm searching for a healthy BMI and it's so far away. I'm almost two years out and it scares me. I need to get a game plan as well.

[neecyd63]

@Sexacjun Well don't give up! I think you should make a video about what you feel your walls are. It sounds kind of silly but you know verbalizing some of what I was feeling going through here really helped me. And I know it's only a couple of days but I am going to celebrate those couple of days of feeling like I'm re-energized. Is my life perfect yet...no...don't suppose it ever will be...which is good as it gives me something to work towards. Thanks for your support! .

[faithkp]

HARD CORE exercise like DAILY. Then I lose *little* bits here and there. It's hard to be motivated when I don't see large numbers dropping anymore. I also have a REALLY hard time not comparing myself to others. It seems like everyone who had surgery around the time I did are BELOW their goal weights and running marathons. I could still *stand* to lose 20 pounds. You are right that it is so hard to feel like a shining success when you never reached a "goal weight". MIND GAMES I tell you!!

[neecyd63]

@faithkp ...so it's really all about buckling down and getting back to it...and a big part of that will be dedicating the TIME necessary to do that...I do notice though that if I am 'good'... the lbs do start coming off again...so REFOCUS and discipline is what I'm working on...I can't imagine how difficult it would be with a family and for you a baby...all I have to worry about is me...so kudos to you and other mom's ...amazes me always!

[faithkp]

First... your hair is adorable :-) It's been a while since I have been able to catch a video of yours! I have to say that you are looking GREAT to me. I am right there with you as far as searching for motivation to lose more weight. It's hard when you already feel... say 90% satisfied with your weight lost to this point! I can eat anything and everything and maintain. I have to work DAYUM hard if I want to lose anymore. We are talking calorie counting, water guzzling, and...

[neecyd63]

@faithkp hey girl! I've been watching you...lol sounds like a stalker eh? Seriously ...thank you! Motivation is hard to maintain when life gets so busy and the losing slows...but if I'm completely honest with myself if conscious of my day to day actions...I KNOW why the scale isn't moving down...and it is hard work to get re-engaged with the whole process...but I'm trying...I too really have no restrictions as far as what I can and can't eat for the most part ..cont'd

[Kellawanda]

140-150 pound weight loss maintenance!!! HEY....snap out of it. Losing weight isnt the hard part. Tons of people lose weight. The HARD PART is maintaining!!!! You are a success. I see success when I look at you! What do they say...90% of people gain weight back from various ways of losing weight? Youve kept off a whole person!!!

[neecyd63]

@Kellawanda hi Kelli! Thank you. Intellectually I know you're right...and even 75% of the time emotionally I know you're right...I've just been wobbling a bit lately...but I have to say that hearing back here from all of you...who I might add have been the folks I've found so inspiring... helps oodles to bolster my confidence. I am proud of my maintenance in the past yr. I think verbalizing the struggles was a good thing because they don't feel insurmountable anymore if that makes sense!

[cabernetqueen]

it is all about the process- not the goal number-- and for me-- I know my loss and maintenance has to do with my choice to eat 97% veggies and lentils etc---- no fat in lentils- no hormones etc--- injected in them... think about it a bit!

[neecyd63]

@cabernetqueen it is about the process...and I've watched a few of your old videos Sal because I remember you standing tall and declaring you were done! You were still going to follow the rules...but you were happy with your weight and you were done! And I think that's a healthy attitude to take...so that's what I decided I'm going to do focus...follow the rules...and see what happens for the next 6 months...cuz that's when I'm going to go see a plastic surgeon here and start that process!

[cabernetqueen]

my neecy- i never knew you suffered from the same issues that I do-- you seem to me- soooo accomplished and therefore "worthy and valuable" but I do get it! one way we differ is -I don't hold back from letting stuff out-- I am just selfish enough! other people's pain and life issues DO NOT DISCOUNT your own feelings and perspectives-- SOME ONE SAID THAT TO ME ONCE... yay YOU ARE RECALLING YOUR SUCCESSES! you are my sweet Neecy- and you are the only one of you-- you are so loved!

[neecyd63]

@cabernetqueen awww sweet sassy Sally! You know I have never considered myself accomplished...but I will do as Janie advised a couple days ago on FB and say Thank You. I almost started to explain all the reasons why I am not accomplished...why do we do that? But yes I do struggle with feeling less than worthy and so I worry sometimes people will find out I am a fraud and really don't know what the hell I'm doing...I mean I do better but I do still struggle with that...you know I love you!

[QuiltingConnieB]

Wow sweetie you have been Super busy love the hair neecy i think we all have to fight that crazy hunger Love you Girl love connie <3<3

[neecyd63]

@QuiltingConnieB Hi Connie..thanks! I have been super busy...but then when I feel like I've about hit a wall I do remind myself that it's only because of having lost so much weight that I CAN keep up the pace I have this past year....btw you are totally a rockstar in how well you are doing postop girl...I am soooo proud of you... I saw you in that turkey trot! wtg! Keep it up Connie....you are an inspiration!

[MissJanieHere]

i am so happy you got a chance to talk to us. I think that you look absolutely beautiful. This journey is not easy..especially as we get farther out and start making a more "comfortable" life for ourselves. We know what we can eat and not get sick... and some of that stuff is not the best...and throw in emotional eating and it makes the hill a little steeper. What's important is being self aware..and remembering what it is we really want. You can do this. I believe in you.

[neecyd63]

@MissJanieHere Thanks Janie for your support & inspiration. It is odd that as we get more comfortable with our new more 'normal' lives it gets easier to fall back to beating ourselves up for some perceived shortcoming...it is a battle...some times uphill...support of people like yourself and everyone that I've come to know and love here online (and in some case got to meet in Vegas last year) help alot to re-inspire when I am having a few bad days/weeks...I have never thrown in the towel...

[cancerfree200]

we all fall off the wagon at sometime of our journey the good thing is that we can always get back on track.and you will do it..you will reach your goal.. i think you look beautiful but i understand how the loose skin effects you cause i have it too.. i love the new hairdo..

[neecyd63]

@cancerfree200 you are right we can get back on the wagon...thank you for stopping in and for your feedback...the loose skin is an odd thing really because on one hand I'm grateful to have it sans the fat that used to fill it but on the other hand I really detest it...so I try to ignore it...sometimes I can sometimes not so much..lol.

[rockybarragan]

You look absolutely gorgeous! Love the hair!

I think a lot of us are guilty of comparing ourselves to others. I do that from time to time too. You're comparing yourself to WLS people but I compare myself to everyone and it drives me batty! I don't do it often but when I do...ugh!

I've missed you on here but I'm grateful you poke your head in every once and awhile.

Much love!

Rocky

[neecyd63]

@rockybarragan thanks Rocky, I'm liking the hair too. My last cut was a butcher job...I haven't been able to get in to see my usual stylist for a couple months ..I was so glad when she could get me in Friday night...I'm not that fussy about my hair..it grows fast..but the last cut was horrid so much happier :) Yes we need to stop comparing ourselves right..how about we start to emulate instead..like I want to be just like you! I've missed you all too! Will try to be more of a regular!

[crosspecans]

you look so pretty !! humming ....save a horse, ride a cowboy song. when i see you it makes me want a bowl of chilli. i think you need more sun!! you ARE amazing. ((huggs)) when i grow up i wanna be like you. love ya. waves~~~

[neecyd63]

@crosspecans lol you are so cute Susan...ride a cowboy eh? I THINK I need to have more sun while I'm having a nice warm bowl of chili...know of anywhere we could do that...hey maybe shoot few pistols while we're at it? OMG I still remember how much fun we had...like it was yesterday rather than 2 yrs ago...*huggs* back!

[seemego2150]

Hi Neecy! Your hair looks great for morning time! and I must say you look good too. I thought you looked like you'd weight, actually. It was nice to see you so don't be a stranger...and don't be too hard on yourself. :)

[neecyd63]

@seemego2150 Thank you. I do watch videos ...saw a couple of yours recently and you are looking awsome too girl! And yes I will try to not be too hard on myself.