so wonderfuly said. i only wish that my own mother would watch this movie maybe it ill opean her eyes and see where i come from. i only wish that bobby would have found someone he could talk to rather then takeing his life. i to almost done the same thing and im so glad and thankful that i came back.
I thank my "Ultra Cool" Dad to this day for being so "Unflinchingly Kind", while knowing all the while ,that Bobby and I had been sharing my bed! That was the early 1980's , so my Dads' rather "Progressive" attitude was very ahead of its' time! And I too sweet one am glad, and thank G-D that you "Came Back"!
Sadly, though I had loved Bobby dearly, I was ill equipped to recognize, let alone understand the level of "Sheer Anguish" that poor sweet boy had been enduring! I do have the fond memory of my "Macho, Super Conservative, Ex College Football Playing" Dads' kindness and acceptance of Bobby, on the many occasions he permitted him to "Sleep Over" in our home with me!
Poor Bobby had been hurt and damaged, as "Sigourneys" character stated, "Beyond Repair"! I had been but a teenage boy myself at the time, and had had a fairly different experience, when I "Came Out" to both of my folks!
My sweet friend! There were in fact people who loved Bobby and tried to make him feel good about who and what he was at the time! But attitudes towards Gay people, like those of his Mother Mary, were almost "Universally" held by the "Society" at large during those days!
Wow, my "Hellenic" friend! Bobby and Mary Griffiths' story, or at least Lifetimes' adaption of it sure left an impression upon you my friend! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover "Blaine" here, and it might just come as a surprise to you to learn that your beautiful Country was one of the first places I fled to, the Summer of 1984 the year after Bobbys' suicide! The beautiful clear blue waters of the "Aegean", and "Super Paradise Beach" on Mykonos, helped me to forget!
I have to say this movie had an impact on me as well. I was raised in church and taught that it's a sin and you'll go to hell. However I have family members on both sides that are homosexual and a lot of the family stay away. I used to be one of those judgmental people until I learned that God is about love and how are you going to judge when no one is perfect but yet God still loves us.
And watching this movie I couldn't stop crying because I'm a mother and I couldn't imagine something like that happening to my kids. And it opened my eyes to love and appreciate everyone more because I have a lot of homosexual friends and they are awesome and I trust them more than church people. I had to learn the hard way about that when I got pregnant before marriage and was told that God wasn’t pleased with me!
So I can relate a little to what he went through all the whispers and judgmental people even my own family for a long time. My brother told me he didn’t want anything to do with my baby and how could I do that! I felt ashamed and I felt like God was mad at me until one of the youth Pastors reached out to me and told me that God loves me regardless.
Now I forgave a lot of those people but the pain and hurt took some time to get over but it did. It gets better and being gay doesn’t make you a sinner it makes you the person God wanted you to be which is yourself. This movie just opened my eyes so much more about homosexuals that I didn’t know or was uneducated about.
Sorry for all my replies but it wouldn't let me post just one reply. I’m sorry for your loss and I know that Bobby is with God touching all those young people’s lives who need someone to love them and accept them for who they are and know that it gets better! ;)
@mraztime25 I am sickened that we're still being haunted by the specter of this most horrific, as well as profane phenomenon! But I am confident that with great friends and allies like you here, in what remains of this struggle, we shall indeed make this a thing of the past! Where it squarely belongs I might add!
Thank you for that my dear sweet friend! I too believe in my heart that Bobby is in the arms of a loving G-D! As for me do take heart, though I did in fact care very deeply for Bobby, as of the year 2013, he will have been gone these 30 years now!
Thank you so much for your kind words my friend and I heard someone say once “If Christians weren’t so judgmental this world would be a better place” but I replaced it with “If people weren’t so judgmental this world would be a better place.” The reason I did that is because some people always tend to judge someone by their race, religion, gender, someone's sexual orientation, or someone’s past because they feel there way is right and the only way!
However these things truly don’t matter because in the end we are all the same because we bleed the same, hurt the same and love the same. Again thank you for your kind words Hun and know that I pray blessings on you in all you do!
You're remarkable dear friend, you've evoked "The Bards" words in "The Merchant of Venice" , "If you prick us, do we not bleed? Thank you also for your blessings darling, In meeting you, I've already received yet another one for the day!
Ti Amo Molto L'Amica Mia! (I Luvs Ya Lots My Friend)
I truly believe that this little. 90 minute "Made for TV" movie has done more to "Humanize" LGBTQ people, than anything else in my lifetime! Thank you for your kind words! It's expressions of the "Transformed Hearts and Minds" of wonderful folks such as yourself here, that for me personify "G-Ds' Grace" at work!
Your Friend Always!
Blaine
P.S. What a wonderful and loving Mother you must be!
@mraztime25 I've been studying your posts here, and I too can't get over the fact that a "Television Adaptation" of a book that I am in, which documented the life and suicide of a boy I had loved so very long ago, when I was but a boy myself, has not only gone on to be viewed around the World! But appears to have succeeded in completely altering the "Public Discourse" regarding the dignity and rights of LGBTQ people, the phenomenon of "Gay Teen Suicide", and so much more!
"Cara Signora Bella e Dolce"! And that's "Dear Beautiful Sweet Lady" to you darling! You are truly blessed to have arrived at this "Insightful" understanding of the true nature of G-Ds' unequivocal love for all of his children!
"Ragazzo Dolce", and that's "Sweet Boy" to you! I'm gonna second "samaelal" here, by saying that your Mother does indeed need and I bet love you to boot! Your future or "Fate" has in absolutely no way to be that of poor Bobby's! Kiddo, Bobby took his life a very long time ago, in a much different America! In fact as of the year 2013, Bobby will have been gone these 30 years now! Everything is changing "Buddy", and the future for LGBTQ people has never looked brighter
@JesusFreak5337 It's your mother that actually needs you. She needs you to teach her that being gay is not a sin, she needs you to understand that what you are is normal. Parents are not gods. They are human beings. You are ok. Never ever let anyone convince you that this is not the case. If you need to talk, to open up or discuss, let any of us know. Good luck!
My mom.. Is just like she was.. She brings me down every time I bring up the word gay.. I still haven't came out to her yet.. But I have a feeling the story is going to go just like this.
@JesusFreak5337 don't worry babe! even though we haven't met i know you're a strong person. you will get through it! message me if you ever need some advice. i would LOOOOOOVE to help and just chat!
Hey my "Christ Lovin" little buddy! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here wanting you to know that unlike the days when Bobby and I were two "Out Boys" , dating and trying merely to love each other, today there are scores of folks, both gay and straight, ready to surround, protect and support you! I see "truechild4real" has already stepped forward with some beautiful, strong words of encouragement! I promise many more will follow!
This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, just wishing to express that I hope your Mom will watch it with you! Please just try and keep in mind when the two of you do watch it together, that this was the way things were many years ago!
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci! (Lots a Love n' Kisses)
@blainebill39 Thank you so much. I really want my mom to accept that I am what I am. Nowadays, I try to tell her but it seem like she doesn't listen to me when I try to talk about this. Anyway, I keep trying. Thank you so much for you wishes....love.
@vittoriobanaroo In it not only will you find a beautiful, factually based story regarding "Same Sex Relations", but a highly evolved, sophisticated Ancient Culture, that treated them rather "Matter of Fact", and without slander or judgement of any kind! And I'm here for you as well my friend!
You're more than welcome my sweet "Thai" friend? Is that correct? I know this can be difficult for folks in modern "Asian Societies" , and your culture is rich and very distinct! However, just for your own reference, you might want to "Wiki" the well documented legend of first c. BCE Chinese Emperor "Ai" (Han Dynasty) , and his "Cut Sleeve Boy"!
I cannot tell you just how much I, Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, am moved by this declaration of yours my friend! There has indeed been a "Paradigm Shift" in attitudes regarding LGBTQ people! And it brings tears of joy to my eyes to see one of my brothers or sisters recognize it head on! "Ti Amo Molto Per Questo" or, "I Luvs Ya Lots For This"!!!!
blainebill39SWow! The real "David"!? This is awesome. Thanks for responding Mr. Blaine(: nice to knw someone out there who cares. Bobby will ALWAYS be remembered!!!
Please take comfort "Kiddo", unlike Lifetimes' character "David" which was fictional, your "Uncle" Blaine here was actually in the late Leroy Aarons' book "Prayers for Bobby", and was never seen "Stepping Out" on Bobby, by leaving a club/bar with another guy! Though I had a huge "crush" on Bobby, because I am an only child, I also looked up to him like the "Big Brother" I had always wanted! I am so "freakin" proud of you "Ragazzo Dolce" (Sweetie Boy)!
Wow! The real "David"!!! This is soooo awesome. Thank yu for responding Mr. Blaine(: nice to knw that someone out there cares!! Bobby will ALWAYS be remembered!!!
Couldn't stop the flow of tears..........God loves me jst like he love(S), still, jst like He loves every homosexual that has ever walked the face of this Earth. America is so full of overly religious nuts who do not even understand a topic they hear about once and condemn it. I live in south Alabama.....I knw all bout hate!! Stupid close-minded ppl, sickening, inbred ppl!!!!! Why hate?
Few of them sweetie, would recognize "Christs Good News" were he to return for "The Second Coming" and reiterate it himself! And know this as well my sweet "Southern Friend", that "I Luvs Ya Lots Too"!!!!!
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci! (Lots a Love n' Kisses)
Tuo Nuovo Amico Per Sempre! (Your New Friend Always)
Hey darling "Ragazzo Bello Coraggioso Forte e Dolce"! And in "Italiano" sweet one that is one "Beautiful,Brave, Strong and Sweet Boy"! Oh you may very well be all "Grown Up", it doesn't matter! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, to tell you that what does matter is that you are indeed "A Child of G-D" , precious to and loved by him unequivocally! Continue to disregard that "Christianist Nonsense"!!!
It is in fact a story of LGBTQ history, for by 2013 Bobby will have been gone for 30 years! I hope that together we all of us gay and straight, can vow to bring an end to the senseless loss that still has a stranglehold on our society!
It is edifying to know that Bobby and Mary Griffiths' story resonated so well with so many people like yourself "Ragazzo Dolce" (Sweetie Boy)! But please if you will take it from Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, dearest David "Beloved of G-D"!
Marianne Darling! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, and I adore you for expressing how moved you've been by Bobby and Mary Griffith's story! I saw Mary and the entire Griffith Clan last July, for the first time since the mid 1990s! We discussed at length the remarkable generation that is yours "Ragazza Dolce"(Sweet Girl) , and how we believe that you and yours will indeed go on to change everything!
I know that I didnt choose to like the same sex so if anyone thinks its not normal they must be wrong because im 100% sure I didnt wake up one day thinking "I'm going to get hated every day of my life to like men for a reason I still don't know". No, just no.
The really sad part of being gay is that nearly all gays have straight parents that really don't understand what being gay is really like or what it means. I believe God has a plan for every person born and it is instilled in the child's genes at conception. God doesn't make mistakes. Men make mistakes. God loves diversity as witnessed by the different colors of our skin and eyes and hair. God loves gays just as he loves straight.
Thank you for you comment and I hope no-one ever forgets what happened as it inspired people to fight for gay rights and to that end we of the younger generation should truly be grateful as we now have so much more freedom and rights to express our selves and let's hope this film and it's message keeps on inspiring the younger gay communities to be themselves no matter what people or religion could dictate what we should be.
Sigourney Weaver is so amazing in this film it brought me to tears and it hits hard on the pressure that both churches and family can put on a gay teenager. My mum hated it when I told her I was gay she didn't treat me the same way I on some level know the pain he went through and the way it was described was heart aching "it's like being wrapped in barbed wire in sinking sand" is the way Bobby describes his inner pain as he can't tell anyone how he feels.
@blainebill39 oh... I feel like I want to cry.. I can feel you.. I don't know if I was you what i was doing with that.. Thank u for doing this.. for speak to everyone of us.. it's like we talk with Bobby.. I'll always think of you to sweetheart... bless it be..
Hey Christos my sweet "Hellenic" friend, I appreciate those sentiments, but let us both dry our tears, I know I've shed far too many over the ensuing years, and instead take hands, stand up and say "Enough"! This garbage has got to stop! Join me "Bello"!!! If I've taken anything new from my history with Bobby and peoples reaction to his story, it's that people are finally "Getting It", and do not in fact want this to happen to any young person gay or straight!
Yes Christos my sweet new "Hellenic" friend, I was interviewed by the late Leroy Aarons' for his book in the mid 1990s, because Bobby wrote of me and my Dad, who often allowed him to stay with us, in his journals which were found by his Mother Mary, and were what Mr. Aarons based his book on in part! For over a year after its release I couldn't bring myself to read it because, I was fearful for years that something I might have done, contributed to Bobbys' pain!
He's gone for a reason.. please!! Just listen!! Learn!! Don't understand but just except it.. just let it go and hug you're child before it's to late..
My parents said they need to talk to me today about my identity today a.k.a my secuality. My dad is a pastor and my mom has already told me that homosexuals must die in hell. Today i will be coming out and today will be the first day of spending my life like Bobby Griffiths, with parents who wont understand this. and will call me sick and perverted. But i will not give up because i hope they will come around and eventually it will get better.
I'm so sorry that Bobby Griffiths' "Once Upon A Time" young lover/boyfriend here, failed sweetheart to see your post earlier! Let no one tell you that you are undeserving or deserving of anything other than G-Ds love and approval!!!Make no mistake, you are precious and of extremely high value to him and to Bobbys' old boyfriend here as well! Though "Coming Out" may likely never be an easy decision, unlike then many now will stand right with you, myself included!
People need to worry about themselves and not what others are doing. Everyone sins. Everyone sins. It is not for you to judge. That is up to the lord himself.
Honestly, I was moved to tears by this film, particularly during his mother's speech. It conveys a true message of hope to everyone out there who might be feeling like Bobby, waiting for their families to open up their hearts and let them know how much they love them and assure them that it's going to be all right. It also warns everyone to think twice and choose their words wisely when expressing their opinions and feelings, as many people could be unnecessarily hurt by those unkind words.
I believe that true acceptance comes from within ourselves, though, and we need to work from there if we want to be accepted by others. We might also be struggling to live a decent and happy life, but we must remember that LOVE is what makes us stronger and what really adds meaning to everything in this beautiful world.
If I may say two things that strike me as utterly remarkable about your heartfelt reaction to Bobbys' story! Firstly it is almost completely in opposition to the general reaction at the time of Bobbys' suicide! But even more remarkable to me is that your reaction appears to be in the vast majority of todays' sentiments on the subject! Imagine if you will my friend that when people learned that he and I had been lovers, some actually asked why I hadn't done the same?
i know. i used to be a huge closeted homophobe coz of my belief since my entire life i grew up in different culture and belief, after watchin this movie, it totally changed me. i'm not homophobes or a giant ignorant git. i love everyone else, just like god say love your neightbours as yourself. god loves everyone, sinner or not. he only detest sin not the sinner. whoever, gay or not, god loves them all. so why judge, when we all are sinners and human. adultery or anythin else isnt better
Tear jerker. Tsssss...... I just wish that some great hacker would kindly play this on every national television worldwide. And I wish...that by the time he plays this, my mom and dad would be watching. :///
I'll do more than pray for you "Amico Mio" I've already visited your channel and wish to say that Bobby Griffiths' lover/boyfriend of long ago here, will be honored to extend his hand in friendship! I refuse to allow you to continue to feel alone!
Il Suo Nuovo Amico Per Sempre (Your New Friend Always)
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci (With My Love And Kisses)
As Bobby Griffiths Lover/Boyfriend when I was a young man, I've placed numerous posts here, over the past year! Lately, I have been receiving some rather indignant PMs, charging that my posts were somehow for personal gain!"
I would like to answer those charges and say unequivocally, I am out for "Personal" gain! If by sharing my relationship with Bobby from long ago, and contrasting those very different times, from the way things for queer(LBBT/gay) people are today, I am able to dissuade
just one young person , from harming themselves, then that would be my personal gain!
I recently came out to my mother that I was bisexual, though not in the way I was hoping.
Though about 7 months ago she told me she wouldn't have a child of hers like someone of the same sex. And in December she was telling me that she knew me and that she knew I wasn't into girls.
Now that she knows officially that I am bisexual, she treats me as if nothing changed. I'm glad she knows what I am, because it took a HUGE wait off of my chest.
This is the only movie that made me cry only because it was something that I can relate to. I felt what Bobby felt. Pain, Rejection and Isolation. This is truly a great movie!
I started bawling during this part--which is so surprising cause I've never cried during a movie. but this was heartbreaking and sweet. I wish my parents felt this way about me
They're the best friends and the closest two people I've ever seen. They still tell each other they love each other even though they're now apart. My father has always preached this message and although I was always nodding along it wasn't until my mother came out that I saw the prejudiced in life against gays.
This film, especially this part, has left me speechless. How many lives has the world lost due to ignorance and biggotry of others? Love and hate, both are a four-letter word but with quite a different meaning. Why must we seek the latter?
both mo10fing and accidenta1 should be ASHAMED of themselves. maybe the world hates "flamers," and maybe the world hates gay people, but hating either ISN'T OKAY. we shouldn't be teaching people, as a society, that there are (lawful) ways that you can act that make you disgusting to others. did you not watch this movie? god loves you JUST AS YOU ARE. that includes effeminate people. so SCREW YOU BOTH for implying that one group of people is "acceptable" while it's okay to hate the other.
Prayers for Bobby will make you weep for humanity. How with all the reasoning used of imaginary beliefs to bring so much hate and pain to gain control of their society and condemn each other. And maybe, just maybe there are some Bobbies out there who will be able to live a full and happy life and bring joy to others, if only the veil of hatred stoked by ignorance can be lifted just ever so little. EVERYONE should see this movie and look within and ask yourself, Where can I change this story?
It is not only for gay people ,it is about every difrents.People must understand that we are not same and we must respect and love anyone when he ask for help.we may be parents or friends or sisters,brother,never mine,we must help.
Everybody should listen to this words. I am a gay guy, and I suffer what she says for years and years when I was a teenager. I hope someday society will understand that homosexuality is not a decease, it cant be cured, because there's nothing wrong with gay people. It doesn't need to be cured.
People are going to be ignorant of this kind of thing, what are you supposed to do about it? I grew up a Christian & most of my life I was taught that being gay was a sin so I went along with it for a while until a couple years ago. I don't think it's fair how much gay and lesbian people get judged. I don't think it matters HOW gay someone is, they all deserve respect. EVERYONE deserves respect & I find it sad that it seems like respect in general is disappearing.
@ThreePockySticks She only realized her mistakes AFTER Bobby died. Isn't that pathetic? He was begging for her to accept him and it was like she was miles away. It wasn't sinking in at all.
@roguegirl29 Is a movie, course, but used to happen in the rieal life what you say, and coincidentially this movie is based on the real life, so my answer to your question si YES she's pathetic, but all of as are, because we know what we have once we've lost it...and it's really sad.
@roguegirl29 As a gay male who's been through a scenario pretty similar to Bobby... and lived... I have to put in my two cents here. My mom said some horrible things to me. But after much work and a lot of time she eventually came around. It took a lot of tears but our relationship is great today. My mom isn't a bad person at all, she just didn't understand. It takes time to open minds... if Bobby had been emotionally able to give his mom more time, she may have come around the way mine did.
I never thought being gay was wrong. As I grew of of elementary school, i nto middle school, i was bombarded with anti-gay hate. I didn't understand why at first. Then i found out it was "in the bible", which made me even more confused because i never believed the bible was more than children's stories. I just finished this movie, and I'm still tense from when he killed himself. I think her message is so powerful and everyone should hear it.
Don't beat her up guys. You only know what you are taught. Up until I got into middle school all I knew was being gay was wrong because that's what I was taught... I tried so hard to change myself... But I can't. If someone is gay, god made them that way, and you shouldn't sway just look a pray for a brighter and more acceptant day...
@corrie2013 How can you call her a bitch when she has realized her mistake and repented for it? Yes, there were a few times when I wanted to reach through the TV and slap her, but the word "bitch" was the LAST thing that came to mind.
What I don't understand is why do people hate gays? Is it because their not "normal?" Because somehow people just assume that gays just are not "normal." It really pisses me off. Sure the Bible says being gay is wrong. But it's just confusing because the Bible also says that God loves everyone, gay or straight. The Bible also teaches us to be tolerant of one another. That means if you hate on a gay, you're supposedly sinning? My real question is: What is it about gays that straight people hate?
Simple, the Christian Right and others who will not even tolerate gays, who portray them as self-centered deviants, want the world to work their way. They don't give a damn about what gays think. For example, Focus on the Family, successfully indoctrinating children for over 30 years. They try to discredit anyone who disagrees with them. They won't even tolerate 'National Day of Silence'. Its insane! How many gay teens have to die before the crazed religious Right gives a damn?
And on a side note. There's a great documentary about that - "For the Bible Tells Me So". Its all about homosexuality's supposed conflict with religion. One of the accounts in the film is from a woman who taught her lesbian daughter according to Focus on the Family's methods. The girl went on to kill herself. And of course, did they have anything to say? No.....
mary griffith is truly evil. she will never go to the heaven she so much believes in. she pushed her son off that bridge. there is no redemption for that. ever.
Well, if it wasn't gods will, why didn't he stop it? Well you see, if something happens it IS his will, if it doesn't, it's not, and sometimes, things just happen, to challenge us, and test faith.
Perhaps its because I would be the child in this situation, but i didnt find this as moving as when Bobby and his mother where in the kitchen. I started crying my eyes out as soon as that scene started.
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I wasnt commenting on the movie at all. Nowhere in my comments was i ridiculing the movie. Its people like Bobby i feel sorry for. Those who are gay but treated badly by society because of the flamers out there who push their mannerisms way overboard.
@mo10fing Then why the hell did you post your comment on this video instead of something else? it makes absolutely no sense, and now it just seems like you're trying to clean up your mistakes with excuses.
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@accidenta1 dude i didnt make any mistakes. Nobody else's comments are about the movie. Their comments are all about their sad story of how their gay and they want sympathy. I was merely stating a comment too. No one else is jumping all over my comments except you. Theres obviously something im saying thats resenting you like crazy. Wait.... are you one of the gays im describing?
@mo10fing Their comments have every bit to do about the movie. The movie is about your family resenting you because you're gay, and the people who comment on this video have experience or sympathizes about that. Your comment has nothing to do with what the movie was about at all. I'm pissed because it's people like you I have to deal with every day of my life, and I'm not going to just stand by while you make some crap comment on something irrelevant to the video.
@mo10fing i get what your saying. there are people out there that dont know how to rein it in (and yes hitting on staright people is a good example). and those are the type of people straight people are uncomfortable around. however this was the wrong vid to post that on, considering this bobby fellow didnt seem like that at all (R.I.P.). maybe a different vid would have sufficed. and yes, i am a gay teenager. so i know what im talking about
Society doesn't treat gay folk badly because of "flamers". Gay children and adults are treated badly because of ignorance and hate. Such as you display. Yes, you. You choose to blame gay folk for their own discrimination. That is reprehensible. I find you reprehensible. And I find your bigotry to be way overboard.
you know what accidenta... there are now millions of arguments on youtube comments pages its funny. I dont wanna be part of that group. but its pretty sad how a lot of gay people can be spotted in a crowded scene simply by appearance and personality. My work just hired some new blood. The first week the whole plant knew that one of them was gay. He hit on just about every guy that worked there the first week. The world doesn't hate gays. They hate flamers. There is a difference
@mo10fing You sound just like my father, almost exactly word to word. He also says the same about blacks. How there are black people who are fine the way they are, and there are (N-word)s who steal and don't deserve the be trusted. That is one of the reasons why I hope some day I can move out of the house and leave before he ever finds out about me.
@mo10fing What still bugs the hell out of me is why you chose THIS movie to say this. Like I said before (and I will keep saying this), Bobby was nothing like that AT ALL and that was the whole damn point of the movie. That anybody can be gay, not just those you are ridiculing right now. And not even THEY deserve the crap that's coming out of your mouth.
@accidenta1 i didnt ridicule the movie at all. I feel sorry for bobby. Those who are gay but treated badly by society because of the flamers out there who push their mannerisms way overboard.
@mo10fing Are you fucking nuts? you hate "flamers" meanwhile you have favorited a video on your youtube profile of two guys making out? are you in fuckin denial?
@mo10fing You know, it's fucking people like you that make me feel like shit everyday. So, it's okay to be gay as long as you keep it a secret? It's okay to be gay as long as you act like some macho shithead? If someone's natural personality is feminine and flirtatious, it's just as wrong to condemn them for that as it is to condemn someone for being gay. Don't act like you're all supportive of gays if you're going to leave shitty comments like that.
I HATE most gay people. Not because of their orientation or their lifestyle. Believe it or not im gay myself. What I hate about gay people is thier way of flaunting who they are. Where does it say that gays are supposed to speak with a lisp? Or wear flashy clothing? Ill never go to gay bars anymore because thats all i see in gays. If your gay fine, just keep it to yourselves and quit with the overdramatic personality.
@mo10fing And where does it say that we can't act like that? Where does it say that girls can't play sports or guys can't cook in the kitchen or that asians have to always be doctors? You're stating a STEREOTYPE. I myself, when I told my friends I was gay, they were so surprised and admitted that they couldn't see me as gay. And if gays act like that, so what? Is it going to harm you if they talk a certain way or act a certain way? Why don't YOU keep your overdramatic personality to yourself?
@mo10fing If anything, this movie proves your argument wrong. I don't even know why you chose this specific video to post something like this. Bobby was far from a flaunting, lisp speaking, flashy clothes wearing individual you would ever meet.
so wonderfuly said. i only wish that my own mother would watch this movie maybe it ill opean her eyes and see where i come from. i only wish that bobby would have found someone he could talk to rather then takeing his life. i to almost done the same thing and im so glad and thankful that i came back.
marklove1able 4 days ago
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I thank my "Ultra Cool" Dad to this day for being so "Unflinchingly Kind", while knowing all the while ,that Bobby and I had been sharing my bed! That was the early 1980's , so my Dads' rather "Progressive" attitude was very ahead of its' time! And I too sweet one am glad, and thank G-D that you "Came Back"!
Love Blaine
blainebill39 2 days ago
@marklove1able
Sadly, though I had loved Bobby dearly, I was ill equipped to recognize, let alone understand the level of "Sheer Anguish" that poor sweet boy had been enduring! I do have the fond memory of my "Macho, Super Conservative, Ex College Football Playing" Dads' kindness and acceptance of Bobby, on the many occasions he permitted him to "Sleep Over" in our home with me!
blainebill39 2 days ago
@marklove1able
Poor Bobby had been hurt and damaged, as "Sigourneys" character stated, "Beyond Repair"! I had been but a teenage boy myself at the time, and had had a fairly different experience, when I "Came Out" to both of my folks!
blainebill39 2 days ago
@marklove1able
Ciao Bello!
My sweet friend! There were in fact people who loved Bobby and tried to make him feel good about who and what he was at the time! But attitudes towards Gay people, like those of his Mother Mary, were almost "Universally" held by the "Society" at large during those days!
blainebill39 2 days ago
Replaying for the 3rd time T.T
TheAwesomeGlee 6 days ago
best speeck in history actually
AnthonyEsel 1 week ago
@AnthonyEsel
Wow, my "Hellenic" friend! Bobby and Mary Griffiths' story, or at least Lifetimes' adaption of it sure left an impression upon you my friend! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover "Blaine" here, and it might just come as a surprise to you to learn that your beautiful Country was one of the first places I fled to, the Summer of 1984 the year after Bobbys' suicide! The beautiful clear blue waters of the "Aegean", and "Super Paradise Beach" on Mykonos, helped me to forget!
blainebill39 1 week ago
@blainebill39
I have to say this movie had an impact on me as well. I was raised in church and taught that it's a sin and you'll go to hell. However I have family members on both sides that are homosexual and a lot of the family stay away. I used to be one of those judgmental people until I learned that God is about love and how are you going to judge when no one is perfect but yet God still loves us.
mraztime25 1 week ago
And watching this movie I couldn't stop crying because I'm a mother and I couldn't imagine something like that happening to my kids. And it opened my eyes to love and appreciate everyone more because I have a lot of homosexual friends and they are awesome and I trust them more than church people. I had to learn the hard way about that when I got pregnant before marriage and was told that God wasn’t pleased with me!
mraztime25 1 week ago
So I can relate a little to what he went through all the whispers and judgmental people even my own family for a long time. My brother told me he didn’t want anything to do with my baby and how could I do that! I felt ashamed and I felt like God was mad at me until one of the youth Pastors reached out to me and told me that God loves me regardless.
mraztime25 1 week ago
Now I forgave a lot of those people but the pain and hurt took some time to get over but it did. It gets better and being gay doesn’t make you a sinner it makes you the person God wanted you to be which is yourself. This movie just opened my eyes so much more about homosexuals that I didn’t know or was uneducated about.
mraztime25 1 week ago
Sorry for all my replies but it wouldn't let me post just one reply. I’m sorry for your loss and I know that Bobby is with God touching all those young people’s lives who need someone to love them and accept them for who they are and know that it gets better! ;)
mraztime25 1 week ago
@mraztime25 I am sickened that we're still being haunted by the specter of this most horrific, as well as profane phenomenon! But I am confident that with great friends and allies like you here, in what remains of this struggle, we shall indeed make this a thing of the past! Where it squarely belongs I might add!
Love Blaine
blainebill39 1 week ago
@mraztime25
Thank you for that my dear sweet friend! I too believe in my heart that Bobby is in the arms of a loving G-D! As for me do take heart, though I did in fact care very deeply for Bobby, as of the year 2013, he will have been gone these 30 years now!
blainebill39 1 week ago
@blainebill39
Thank you so much for your kind words my friend and I heard someone say once “If Christians weren’t so judgmental this world would be a better place” but I replaced it with “If people weren’t so judgmental this world would be a better place.” The reason I did that is because some people always tend to judge someone by their race, religion, gender, someone's sexual orientation, or someone’s past because they feel there way is right and the only way!
mraztime25 1 week ago
@blainebill39
However these things truly don’t matter because in the end we are all the same because we bleed the same, hurt the same and love the same. Again thank you for your kind words Hun and know that I pray blessings on you in all you do!
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@mraztime25
Ciao Bella!
You're remarkable dear friend, you've evoked "The Bards" words in "The Merchant of Venice" , "If you prick us, do we not bleed? Thank you also for your blessings darling, In meeting you, I've already received yet another one for the day!
Ti Amo Molto L'Amica Mia! (I Luvs Ya Lots My Friend)
Blaine
blainebill39 1 week ago
@mraztime25
I truly believe that this little. 90 minute "Made for TV" movie has done more to "Humanize" LGBTQ people, than anything else in my lifetime! Thank you for your kind words! It's expressions of the "Transformed Hearts and Minds" of wonderful folks such as yourself here, that for me personify "G-Ds' Grace" at work!
Your Friend Always!
Blaine
P.S. What a wonderful and loving Mother you must be!
blainebill39 1 week ago
@mraztime25 I've been studying your posts here, and I too can't get over the fact that a "Television Adaptation" of a book that I am in, which documented the life and suicide of a boy I had loved so very long ago, when I was but a boy myself, has not only gone on to be viewed around the World! But appears to have succeeded in completely altering the "Public Discourse" regarding the dignity and rights of LGBTQ people, the phenomenon of "Gay Teen Suicide", and so much more!
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@mraztime25
Ciao Bella!
"Cara Signora Bella e Dolce"! And that's "Dear Beautiful Sweet Lady" to you darling! You are truly blessed to have arrived at this "Insightful" understanding of the true nature of G-Ds' unequivocal love for all of his children!
blainebill39 1 week ago
@JesusFreak5337
"Ragazzo Dolce", and that's "Sweet Boy" to you! I'm gonna second "samaelal" here, by saying that your Mother does indeed need and I bet love you to boot! Your future or "Fate" has in absolutely no way to be that of poor Bobby's! Kiddo, Bobby took his life a very long time ago, in a much different America! In fact as of the year 2013, Bobby will have been gone these 30 years now! Everything is changing "Buddy", and the future for LGBTQ people has never looked brighter
Blaine
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@JesusFreak5337 It's your mother that actually needs you. She needs you to teach her that being gay is not a sin, she needs you to understand that what you are is normal. Parents are not gods. They are human beings. You are ok. Never ever let anyone convince you that this is not the case. If you need to talk, to open up or discuss, let any of us know. Good luck!
samaelal 2 weeks ago
My mom.. Is just like she was.. She brings me down every time I bring up the word gay.. I still haven't came out to her yet.. But I have a feeling the story is going to go just like this.
JesusFreak5337 2 weeks ago
@JesusFreak5337 don't worry babe! even though we haven't met i know you're a strong person. you will get through it! message me if you ever need some advice. i would LOOOOOOVE to help and just chat!
truechild4real 2 weeks ago
@JesusFreak5337
Ciao Bello
Hey my "Christ Lovin" little buddy! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here wanting you to know that unlike the days when Bobby and I were two "Out Boys" , dating and trying merely to love each other, today there are scores of folks, both gay and straight, ready to surround, protect and support you! I see "truechild4real" has already stepped forward with some beautiful, strong words of encouragement! I promise many more will follow!
blainebill39 2 weeks ago
This makes me cry! I want my mom to watch this movie........
vittoriobanaroo 3 weeks ago
@vittoriobanaroo
Ciao Bello!
This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, just wishing to express that I hope your Mom will watch it with you! Please just try and keep in mind when the two of you do watch it together, that this was the way things were many years ago!
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci! (Lots a Love n' Kisses)
Blaine
blainebill39 2 weeks ago
@blainebill39 Thank you so much. I really want my mom to accept that I am what I am. Nowadays, I try to tell her but it seem like she doesn't listen to me when I try to talk about this. Anyway, I keep trying. Thank you so much for you wishes....love.
vittoriobanaroo 2 weeks ago
@vittoriobanaroo In it not only will you find a beautiful, factually based story regarding "Same Sex Relations", but a highly evolved, sophisticated Ancient Culture, that treated them rather "Matter of Fact", and without slander or judgement of any kind! And I'm here for you as well my friend!
Blaine
blainebill39 2 weeks ago
@vittoriobanaroo
Ciao Bello!
You're more than welcome my sweet "Thai" friend? Is that correct? I know this can be difficult for folks in modern "Asian Societies" , and your culture is rich and very distinct! However, just for your own reference, you might want to "Wiki" the well documented legend of first c. BCE Chinese Emperor "Ai" (Han Dynasty) , and his "Cut Sleeve Boy"!
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@pjmalik100
Ciao!
I cannot tell you just how much I, Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, am moved by this declaration of yours my friend! There has indeed been a "Paradigm Shift" in attitudes regarding LGBTQ people! And it brings tears of joy to my eyes to see one of my brothers or sisters recognize it head on! "Ti Amo Molto Per Questo" or, "I Luvs Ya Lots For This"!!!!
Blaine
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blainebill39 1 month ago
blainebill39SWow! The real "David"!? This is awesome. Thanks for responding Mr. Blaine(: nice to knw someone out there who cares. Bobby will ALWAYS be remembered!!!
rickyjarman 2 months ago
@rickyjarman
Ciao Bello!
Please take comfort "Kiddo", unlike Lifetimes' character "David" which was fictional, your "Uncle" Blaine here was actually in the late Leroy Aarons' book "Prayers for Bobby", and was never seen "Stepping Out" on Bobby, by leaving a club/bar with another guy! Though I had a huge "crush" on Bobby, because I am an only child, I also looked up to him like the "Big Brother" I had always wanted! I am so "freakin" proud of you "Ragazzo Dolce" (Sweetie Boy)!
Zio Blaine
blainebill39 2 months ago
Wow! The real "David"!!! This is soooo awesome. Thank yu for responding Mr. Blaine(: nice to knw that someone out there cares!! Bobby will ALWAYS be remembered!!!
rickyjarman 2 months ago
Couldn't stop the flow of tears..........God loves me jst like he love(S), still, jst like He loves every homosexual that has ever walked the face of this Earth. America is so full of overly religious nuts who do not even understand a topic they hear about once and condemn it. I live in south Alabama.....I knw all bout hate!! Stupid close-minded ppl, sickening, inbred ppl!!!!! Why hate?
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@rickyjarman
Few of them sweetie, would recognize "Christs Good News" were he to return for "The Second Coming" and reiterate it himself! And know this as well my sweet "Southern Friend", that "I Luvs Ya Lots Too"!!!!!
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci! (Lots a Love n' Kisses)
Tuo Nuovo Amico Per Sempre! (Your New Friend Always)
Blaine
blainebill39 2 months ago
@rickyjarman
Ciao Bello!
Hey darling "Ragazzo Bello Coraggioso Forte e Dolce"! And in "Italiano" sweet one that is one "Beautiful,Brave, Strong and Sweet Boy"! Oh you may very well be all "Grown Up", it doesn't matter! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, to tell you that what does matter is that you are indeed "A Child of G-D" , precious to and loved by him unequivocally! Continue to disregard that "Christianist Nonsense"!!!
blainebill39 2 months ago
im speechless, truly incredible
JannellCords 2 months ago
Sigourney was stunning in this scene and it is absolutely CRUSHING :_(
816cameron 3 months ago 2
A STRONG MESSAGE with love and compassion should this story be upheld with faith in our future!
davidlhartzog 3 months ago
@davidlhartzog
It is in fact a story of LGBTQ history, for by 2013 Bobby will have been gone for 30 years! I hope that together we all of us gay and straight, can vow to bring an end to the senseless loss that still has a stranglehold on our society!
Blaine
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@davidlhartzog
Ciao Bello!
It is edifying to know that Bobby and Mary Griffiths' story resonated so well with so many people like yourself "Ragazzo Dolce" (Sweetie Boy)! But please if you will take it from Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, dearest David "Beloved of G-D"!
blainebill39 3 months ago
AMAZING movie ! made me cry ! The message that has been put through is great ! Great movie
tomate6401 3 months ago
This is a chilling scene.
816cameron 3 months ago
What a beautiful and heartbreaking moment.. I adore Prayers for Bobby. <3
xgoesundefinedx 3 months ago
@xgoesundefinedx
Ciao Bella!
Marianne Darling! This is Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend "Blaine" here, and I adore you for expressing how moved you've been by Bobby and Mary Griffith's story! I saw Mary and the entire Griffith Clan last July, for the first time since the mid 1990s! We discussed at length the remarkable generation that is yours "Ragazza Dolce"(Sweet Girl) , and how we believe that you and yours will indeed go on to change everything!
Ti Amo Molto Per Questo!
Blaine
blainebill39 3 months ago
This was one of Weaver's greatest acting achievements. She should have received an Emmy.
Marchant2 4 months ago
I'm a very Christian girl and if my children came to me saying there gay, I'll give them the biggest hug I could ever give and say I still love you.
screechingsoul 4 months ago 30
@screechingsoul u are a true christian my friend
cantosprofanae 2 days ago
I know that I didnt choose to like the same sex so if anyone thinks its not normal they must be wrong because im 100% sure I didnt wake up one day thinking "I'm going to get hated every day of my life to like men for a reason I still don't know". No, just no.
FinalFantasyXPro 4 months ago 3
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The really sad part of being gay is that nearly all gays have straight parents that really don't understand what being gay is really like or what it means. I believe God has a plan for every person born and it is instilled in the child's genes at conception. God doesn't make mistakes. Men make mistakes. God loves diversity as witnessed by the different colors of our skin and eyes and hair. God loves gays just as he loves straight.
Labyrinth1959 4 months ago
no such thing as coincidence. i cry every time i watch this movie... it reminds me so much of what i had to go through.
shelbyoryan11 4 months ago
@blainebill39
Thank you for you comment and I hope no-one ever forgets what happened as it inspired people to fight for gay rights and to that end we of the younger generation should truly be grateful as we now have so much more freedom and rights to express our selves and let's hope this film and it's message keeps on inspiring the younger gay communities to be themselves no matter what people or religion could dictate what we should be.
HotheadHammer1 5 months ago
this made me cry
kille6 5 months ago
Sigourney Weaver, you are wondeful beyond words.
gracebrown01 5 months ago 3
Sigourney Weaver is so amazing in this film it brought me to tears and it hits hard on the pressure that both churches and family can put on a gay teenager. My mum hated it when I told her I was gay she didn't treat me the same way I on some level know the pain he went through and the way it was described was heart aching "it's like being wrapped in barbed wire in sinking sand" is the way Bobby describes his inner pain as he can't tell anyone how he feels.
HotheadHammer1 5 months ago
@blainebill39 oh... I feel like I want to cry.. I can feel you.. I don't know if I was you what i was doing with that.. Thank u for doing this.. for speak to everyone of us.. it's like we talk with Bobby.. I'll always think of you to sweetheart... bless it be..
ChristosAsteris 5 months ago
@ChristosAsteris
Ciao Bello!
Hey Christos my sweet "Hellenic" friend, I appreciate those sentiments, but let us both dry our tears, I know I've shed far too many over the ensuing years, and instead take hands, stand up and say "Enough"! This garbage has got to stop! Join me "Bello"!!! If I've taken anything new from my history with Bobby and peoples reaction to his story, it's that people are finally "Getting It", and do not in fact want this to happen to any young person gay or straight!
blainebill39 5 months ago
Amazing speech.
marcelofonteboa 5 months ago
@blainebill39 The real Bobby's boyfriend? OMG!!!!
Well... I was so sad when i saw the movie but you know what?
He help me understand many thing... I was go to the pride for Bobby..
I pray for his soul.. I wish that he was die for a reason... God bless you, Bobby's soul and all of us!!
ChristosAsteris 5 months ago
@ChristosAsteris
Ciao Bello!
Yes Christos my sweet new "Hellenic" friend, I was interviewed by the late Leroy Aarons' for his book in the mid 1990s, because Bobby wrote of me and my Dad, who often allowed him to stay with us, in his journals which were found by his Mother Mary, and were what Mr. Aarons based his book on in part! For over a year after its release I couldn't bring myself to read it because, I was fearful for years that something I might have done, contributed to Bobbys' pain!
blainebill39 5 months ago
one of the most moving speeches ever heard <3 :')
emankhs 5 months ago
Skips -.-
Zombieboy94 6 months ago
1 person is a down-right conservative.
BayAreaOrBust 6 months ago
Why cannot this be the message from the church instead of hate?
bananaorange20 6 months ago
He's gone for a reason.. please!! Just listen!! Learn!! Don't understand but just except it.. just let it go and hug you're child before it's to late..
ChristosAsteris 6 months ago
My parents said they need to talk to me today about my identity today a.k.a my secuality. My dad is a pastor and my mom has already told me that homosexuals must die in hell. Today i will be coming out and today will be the first day of spending my life like Bobby Griffiths, with parents who wont understand this. and will call me sick and perverted. But i will not give up because i hope they will come around and eventually it will get better.
TheYoonface 6 months ago
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@TheYoonface
Ciao !
I'm so sorry that Bobby Griffiths' "Once Upon A Time" young lover/boyfriend here, failed sweetheart to see your post earlier! Let no one tell you that you are undeserving or deserving of anything other than G-Ds love and approval!!!Make no mistake, you are precious and of extremely high value to him and to Bobbys' old boyfriend here as well! Though "Coming Out" may likely never be an easy decision, unlike then many now will stand right with you, myself included!
Blaine
blainebill39 6 months ago
@TheYoonface How did it go for you? Did your parents accept you?
tekkencentre 5 months ago
People need to worry about themselves and not what others are doing. Everyone sins. Everyone sins. It is not for you to judge. That is up to the lord himself.
kathconserv 6 months ago 2
Stunning performance by weaver.
kathconserv 6 months ago
this bit always makes me cry ... beautiful film ... I love itt!!
tomothyterrific684 7 months ago
i cried waterfalls ... she is a wonderful actress!
CheesyKiss 7 months ago
Omg :'(
Btw112169 7 months ago
Honestly, I was moved to tears by this film, particularly during his mother's speech. It conveys a true message of hope to everyone out there who might be feeling like Bobby, waiting for their families to open up their hearts and let them know how much they love them and assure them that it's going to be all right. It also warns everyone to think twice and choose their words wisely when expressing their opinions and feelings, as many people could be unnecessarily hurt by those unkind words.
robbiemvd 8 months ago
I believe that true acceptance comes from within ourselves, though, and we need to work from there if we want to be accepted by others. We might also be struggling to live a decent and happy life, but we must remember that LOVE is what makes us stronger and what really adds meaning to everything in this beautiful world.
R.I.P. Bobby Griffith.
robbiemvd 8 months ago
@robbiemvd
Ciao Bello!
May G-D Bless you "Amico Mio"!
Bobby Griffiths' old lover/boyfriend here, just wants to give you the "Shout Out" he thinks you deserve for "getting it"!!!!!!
Blaine
blainebill39 7 months ago
@robbiemvd
Ciao!
If I may say two things that strike me as utterly remarkable about your heartfelt reaction to Bobbys' story! Firstly it is almost completely in opposition to the general reaction at the time of Bobbys' suicide! But even more remarkable to me is that your reaction appears to be in the vast majority of todays' sentiments on the subject! Imagine if you will my friend that when people learned that he and I had been lovers, some actually asked why I hadn't done the same?
Blaine
blainebill39 6 months ago
I cry every time I watch this movie
Duii26 8 months ago 3
i know. i used to be a huge closeted homophobe coz of my belief since my entire life i grew up in different culture and belief, after watchin this movie, it totally changed me. i'm not homophobes or a giant ignorant git. i love everyone else, just like god say love your neightbours as yourself. god loves everyone, sinner or not. he only detest sin not the sinner. whoever, gay or not, god loves them all. so why judge, when we all are sinners and human. adultery or anythin else isnt better
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Loved this film a lot
100lovecool 8 months ago
Tear jerker. Tsssss...... I just wish that some great hacker would kindly play this on every national television worldwide. And I wish...that by the time he plays this, my mom and dad would be watching. :///
cromatize 9 months ago 43
Thanks from an FTM gay Catholic struggling with depression. I just wish my mom would see this. ;__; Man has screwed up the Church so damn much.
Please pray for me guys and gals.......I feel so alone.
SanguivorousRevenant 9 months ago 4
@SanguivorousRevenant
Be strong! Christ loves you, He's by your side, He can understand what others can't. Count on my prayers ^_^
sciappi74 8 months ago
@SanguivorousRevenant
Ciao Bello!
I'll do more than pray for you "Amico Mio" I've already visited your channel and wish to say that Bobby Griffiths' lover/boyfriend of long ago here, will be honored to extend his hand in friendship! I refuse to allow you to continue to feel alone!
Il Suo Nuovo Amico Per Sempre (Your New Friend Always)
Con L'Amore e Molti Baci (With My Love And Kisses)
Blaine
blainebill39 6 months ago
This speech wet my eyes
Panduka304 9 months ago
This should be required viewing in every high school in the country..Powerful, painful, but ultimately affirming message...
SeattleRexx 9 months ago 3
Probably one of the saddest movies I've ever seen. ;_;
misery34 9 months ago
@accidenta1
Ciao Amici!
As Bobby Griffiths Lover/Boyfriend when I was a young man, I've placed numerous posts here, over the past year! Lately, I have been receiving some rather indignant PMs, charging that my posts were somehow for personal gain!"
blainebill39 9 months ago
@accidenta1
I would like to answer those charges and say unequivocally, I am out for "Personal" gain! If by sharing my relationship with Bobby from long ago, and contrasting those very different times, from the way things for queer(LBBT/gay) people are today, I am able to dissuade
just one young person , from harming themselves, then that would be my personal gain!
Blaine
blainebill39 9 months ago
i can't remember the last time i cried from a movie. so moving!
andrewvandekamp00 9 months ago
I love this Film....it ist very amazing....
waldomif 9 months ago
I cried 5 each time I watched it.
timmotytimmoty 9 months ago
Holy Crap...... 0_0
GarrettP130 10 months ago
I hope my parents accept me! :(
DevoursCake 10 months ago
Ot's so touching i wana start crying.
keg10609 10 months ago
I recently came out to my mother that I was bisexual, though not in the way I was hoping.
Though about 7 months ago she told me she wouldn't have a child of hers like someone of the same sex. And in December she was telling me that she knew me and that she knew I wasn't into girls.
Now that she knows officially that I am bisexual, she treats me as if nothing changed. I'm glad she knows what I am, because it took a HUGE wait off of my chest.
ABulletsEmbrace 10 months ago
This is the only movie that made me cry only because it was something that I can relate to. I felt what Bobby felt. Pain, Rejection and Isolation. This is truly a great movie!
giogarcia16 10 months ago
I started bawling during this part--which is so surprising cause I've never cried during a movie. but this was heartbreaking and sweet. I wish my parents felt this way about me
mexicangardner101 10 months ago
PERFECT !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
PANGEWRGIOU 10 months ago
My Dad is a Minister,
My Mother is Gay,
They're the best friends and the closest two people I've ever seen. They still tell each other they love each other even though they're now apart. My father has always preached this message and although I was always nodding along it wasn't until my mother came out that I saw the prejudiced in life against gays.
...I love this movie.
ThePopculturist 11 months ago 3
@ThePopculturist
Ciao!
Wow, how blessed you are to have been raised in such a loving and supportive family!
The generosity of your words is evidence of this! I tried messaging you on your channel,
but you don't appear to have a comments function enabled! When Bobby and I were boys
and in love, we could only dream of a world, were other young people "got it"!
Grazie!
Blaine
blainebill39 11 months ago
Sigourney is so a GIANT actress.....she´s my Idol...really
xXCyberelfexX 11 months ago 53
@xXCyberelfexX agreed! =]
accidenta1 11 months ago 7
This film, especially this part, has left me speechless. How many lives has the world lost due to ignorance and biggotry of others? Love and hate, both are a four-letter word but with quite a different meaning. Why must we seek the latter?
angelsnight 11 months ago
both mo10fing and accidenta1 should be ASHAMED of themselves. maybe the world hates "flamers," and maybe the world hates gay people, but hating either ISN'T OKAY. we shouldn't be teaching people, as a society, that there are (lawful) ways that you can act that make you disgusting to others. did you not watch this movie? god loves you JUST AS YOU ARE. that includes effeminate people. so SCREW YOU BOTH for implying that one group of people is "acceptable" while it's okay to hate the other.
danagrl52 11 months ago
The scene in the movie when Bobby's mother give her speech to the local city council is such a powerful, powerful moment.
816cameron 11 months ago
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Prayers for Bobby will make you weep for humanity. How with all the reasoning used of imaginary beliefs to bring so much hate and pain to gain control of their society and condemn each other. And maybe, just maybe there are some Bobbies out there who will be able to live a full and happy life and bring joy to others, if only the veil of hatred stoked by ignorance can be lifted just ever so little. EVERYONE should see this movie and look within and ask yourself, Where can I change this story?
816cameron 11 months ago
Great movie.
comp122 11 months ago
This is the most saddest and meaningful movie I have ever watched. I love this movie with all my heart because it sends out an important message.
Kevsta3k 1 year ago
I've never seen this movie, but I'll have to watch it sometime. That was powerful.
Loner4Life 1 year ago
@accidenta1
I'm going to go out on a limb here folks, but a fellow Yt' er sent me a rather
nasty PM questioning my right to post on these clips. They claimed that my
"posts" were all about myself! I 've tried to be subtle thinking that would be discrete, as well as tasteful.
blainebill39 1 year ago
@accidenta1 But the time for disretion is over, so I shall be perfectly clear!
I was Bobby Grifiths lover, or boyfriend, if you prefer! I feel I have as much right
to share my memories as does anyone to comment on the Lifetime movie.
blainebill39 1 year ago
@accidenta1
Am I in it for any personal gain? You bet I am ! Anything to further the dialogue on
stopping what continues to be our national tragedy/travesty, is my personal gain.
I also invite anyone who would care to learn more about the real Bobby Griffith to send me a message
Sincerely,
Blaine Andrews
blainebill39 1 year ago
It is not only for gay people ,it is about every difrents.People must understand that we are not same and we must respect and love anyone when he ask for help.we may be parents or friends or sisters,brother,never mine,we must help.
sistersmk2 1 year ago
Bravoooooooooo
sistersmk2 1 year ago
This kinda reminds me of me &my grandmaa , the way she is with me having a girlfriend , but this changed her views on me . . KINDA .
MSandateee 1 year ago
Everybody should listen to this words. I am a gay guy, and I suffer what she says for years and years when I was a teenager. I hope someday society will understand that homosexuality is not a decease, it cant be cured, because there's nothing wrong with gay people. It doesn't need to be cured.
randallpp 1 year ago
People are going to be ignorant of this kind of thing, what are you supposed to do about it? I grew up a Christian & most of my life I was taught that being gay was a sin so I went along with it for a while until a couple years ago. I don't think it's fair how much gay and lesbian people get judged. I don't think it matters HOW gay someone is, they all deserve respect. EVERYONE deserves respect & I find it sad that it seems like respect in general is disappearing.
GordonLevitt89 1 year ago
When I saw the trailer for this, there were comments saying "I want to slap that bitch". Well, look at her now. She repented. Did you?
ThreePockySticks 1 year ago
@ThreePockySticks She only realized her mistakes AFTER Bobby died. Isn't that pathetic? He was begging for her to accept him and it was like she was miles away. It wasn't sinking in at all.
roguegirl29 1 year ago
@roguegirl29 Is a movie, course, but used to happen in the rieal life what you say, and coincidentially this movie is based on the real life, so my answer to your question si YES she's pathetic, but all of as are, because we know what we have once we've lost it...and it's really sad.
shoelias008 1 year ago
@roguegirl29 As a gay male who's been through a scenario pretty similar to Bobby... and lived... I have to put in my two cents here. My mom said some horrible things to me. But after much work and a lot of time she eventually came around. It took a lot of tears but our relationship is great today. My mom isn't a bad person at all, she just didn't understand. It takes time to open minds... if Bobby had been emotionally able to give his mom more time, she may have come around the way mine did.
PowerDiva 1 year ago
I never thought being gay was wrong. As I grew of of elementary school, i nto middle school, i was bombarded with anti-gay hate. I didn't understand why at first. Then i found out it was "in the bible", which made me even more confused because i never believed the bible was more than children's stories. I just finished this movie, and I'm still tense from when he killed himself. I think her message is so powerful and everyone should hear it.
Empep12 1 year ago
Don't beat her up guys. You only know what you are taught. Up until I got into middle school all I knew was being gay was wrong because that's what I was taught... I tried so hard to change myself... But I can't. If someone is gay, god made them that way, and you shouldn't sway just look a pray for a brighter and more acceptant day...
tighmir 1 year ago
Which church does Bobby belong?
Jehovas Witness?
Baptist Church?
Please tell me.
I feel very sorry that this boy commited suicide, it is very sad that he had no comfort and took his young life....
1969Ragnar 1 year ago
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Elizabeth Edwards, you will be missed
"I don't know why anybody else's marriage has anything to do with me...I'm completely comfortable with gay marriage."
shenadoa 1 year ago
that witch lost her son because she was too busy bible bashing. A child is too be loved not rejected
corrie2013 1 year ago
@corrie2013 How can you call her a bitch when she has realized her mistake and repented for it? Yes, there were a few times when I wanted to reach through the TV and slap her, but the word "bitch" was the LAST thing that came to mind.
Empep12 1 year ago
171 likes and 1 dislike now what does that tell you.
rebelreptile 1 year ago 4
@rebelreptile The LIKES now are 296 and the DISLIKE is still one! What does THAAAT tell y0u? Great movie!
Alex92H 9 months ago
Ah, I started crying a little bit watching this. )':
perfect7cell 1 year ago 3
What I don't understand is why do people hate gays? Is it because their not "normal?" Because somehow people just assume that gays just are not "normal." It really pisses me off. Sure the Bible says being gay is wrong. But it's just confusing because the Bible also says that God loves everyone, gay or straight. The Bible also teaches us to be tolerant of one another. That means if you hate on a gay, you're supposedly sinning? My real question is: What is it about gays that straight people hate?
FightingZerk 1 year ago
@FightingZerk
Simple, the Christian Right and others who will not even tolerate gays, who portray them as self-centered deviants, want the world to work their way. They don't give a damn about what gays think. For example, Focus on the Family, successfully indoctrinating children for over 30 years. They try to discredit anyone who disagrees with them. They won't even tolerate 'National Day of Silence'. Its insane! How many gay teens have to die before the crazed religious Right gives a damn?
Gandalf54231 1 year ago
@FightingZerk
And on a side note. There's a great documentary about that - "For the Bible Tells Me So". Its all about homosexuality's supposed conflict with religion. One of the accounts in the film is from a woman who taught her lesbian daughter according to Focus on the Family's methods. The girl went on to kill herself. And of course, did they have anything to say? No.....
Gandalf54231 1 year ago
mary griffith is truly evil. she will never go to the heaven she so much believes in. she pushed her son off that bridge. there is no redemption for that. ever.
Meskiagkasher 1 year ago
Well, if it wasn't gods will, why didn't he stop it? Well you see, if something happens it IS his will, if it doesn't, it's not, and sometimes, things just happen, to challenge us, and test faith.
PhilConey1 1 year ago
@accidenta1
Bobby Griffiths suicide took place more than 27yrs ago, and for most of that time,
if and when I suffered, it was in silence, alone with my saddness or despair. But
my friends, saddness is the option or refuge of children without hope, and I have
been hopeful for some time now! I in this 21st century and a citizen of one of the greatest
republics in recorded history, have finished with saddness. I'm now just plain, fucking
angry! No actually, I'm enraged!!!
blainebill39 1 year ago
@accidenta1
Bobbys' suicide has been made "high profile" due
to the book and movie, and I'm glad of it. But why in hell aren't people screaming
at the senseless carnage of bloody September 2010? I want heads to roll! And I
will not accept from public or school officials, "We saw no signs, and had no way of
knowing!". Fuck anyone who dares to claim this! That is unacceptable!
blainebill39 1 year ago
@accidenta1 I think people in positions of responsibility would
be fortunate if jobs were all they lost, careers should be at stake as well. I'm looking
forward to reading of people being draged into depositions! Bullying, and the denegration
that accompanys it must have real consequences for the perpetrators!
Blaine
blainebill39 1 year ago
@accidenta1
Billy Lucas (15) September 9, 2010. Indiana
Cody J. Barker (17) September 13, 2010. Wisconsin
Seth Walsh (13) September 19, 2010. California
Tyler Clementi (18) September 22, 2010. New Jersey
Asher Brown (13) September 23, 2010. Texas
blainebill39 1 year ago
@accidenta1
Harrison Chase Brown (15) September 25, 2010 Colorodo
Raymond Chase (19) September 29, 2010 Rhode Island
Felix Sacco (17) Septmber 29, 2010 Massachusettes
Caleb Nolt (14) September 30, 2010 Indiana
These are of course the names of those children reported in September of 2010
to have taken their own lives after having been bullied for being gay! Disgusting!!!
Blaine
blainebill39 1 year ago
Perhaps its because I would be the child in this situation, but i didnt find this as moving as when Bobby and his mother where in the kitchen. I started crying my eyes out as soon as that scene started.
mak3myda3 1 year ago
I have watched this a thousand times and i cry every time......
oceanyah1 1 year ago
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I wasnt commenting on the movie at all. Nowhere in my comments was i ridiculing the movie. Its people like Bobby i feel sorry for. Those who are gay but treated badly by society because of the flamers out there who push their mannerisms way overboard.
mo10fing 1 year ago
@mo10fing Then why the hell did you post your comment on this video instead of something else? it makes absolutely no sense, and now it just seems like you're trying to clean up your mistakes with excuses.
accidenta1 1 year ago 3
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@accidenta1 dude i didnt make any mistakes. Nobody else's comments are about the movie. Their comments are all about their sad story of how their gay and they want sympathy. I was merely stating a comment too. No one else is jumping all over my comments except you. Theres obviously something im saying thats resenting you like crazy. Wait.... are you one of the gays im describing?
mo10fing 1 year ago
@mo10fing Their comments have every bit to do about the movie. The movie is about your family resenting you because you're gay, and the people who comment on this video have experience or sympathizes about that. Your comment has nothing to do with what the movie was about at all. I'm pissed because it's people like you I have to deal with every day of my life, and I'm not going to just stand by while you make some crap comment on something irrelevant to the video.
accidenta1 1 year ago 24
@accidenta1 amen from me!! NO more tolerance for hatred!
luvbites23 10 months ago
@mo10fing i get what your saying. there are people out there that dont know how to rein it in (and yes hitting on staright people is a good example). and those are the type of people straight people are uncomfortable around. however this was the wrong vid to post that on, considering this bobby fellow didnt seem like that at all (R.I.P.). maybe a different vid would have sufficed. and yes, i am a gay teenager. so i know what im talking about
jewbowl225 1 year ago
@mo10fing
Society doesn't treat gay folk badly because of "flamers". Gay children and adults are treated badly because of ignorance and hate. Such as you display. Yes, you. You choose to blame gay folk for their own discrimination. That is reprehensible. I find you reprehensible. And I find your bigotry to be way overboard.
amcoca 1 year ago
you know what accidenta... there are now millions of arguments on youtube comments pages its funny. I dont wanna be part of that group. but its pretty sad how a lot of gay people can be spotted in a crowded scene simply by appearance and personality. My work just hired some new blood. The first week the whole plant knew that one of them was gay. He hit on just about every guy that worked there the first week. The world doesn't hate gays. They hate flamers. There is a difference
mo10fing 1 year ago
@mo10fing You sound just like my father, almost exactly word to word. He also says the same about blacks. How there are black people who are fine the way they are, and there are (N-word)s who steal and don't deserve the be trusted. That is one of the reasons why I hope some day I can move out of the house and leave before he ever finds out about me.
accidenta1 1 year ago
@mo10fing What still bugs the hell out of me is why you chose THIS movie to say this. Like I said before (and I will keep saying this), Bobby was nothing like that AT ALL and that was the whole damn point of the movie. That anybody can be gay, not just those you are ridiculing right now. And not even THEY deserve the crap that's coming out of your mouth.
accidenta1 1 year ago 2
@accidenta1 i didnt ridicule the movie at all. I feel sorry for bobby. Those who are gay but treated badly by society because of the flamers out there who push their mannerisms way overboard.
mo10fing 1 year ago
@mo10fing Are you fucking nuts? you hate "flamers" meanwhile you have favorited a video on your youtube profile of two guys making out? are you in fuckin denial?
XforeverlongingX 1 year ago
@mo10fing You know, it's fucking people like you that make me feel like shit everyday. So, it's okay to be gay as long as you keep it a secret? It's okay to be gay as long as you act like some macho shithead? If someone's natural personality is feminine and flirtatious, it's just as wrong to condemn them for that as it is to condemn someone for being gay. Don't act like you're all supportive of gays if you're going to leave shitty comments like that.
hearttopmodel05 1 year ago
I HATE most gay people. Not because of their orientation or their lifestyle. Believe it or not im gay myself. What I hate about gay people is thier way of flaunting who they are. Where does it say that gays are supposed to speak with a lisp? Or wear flashy clothing? Ill never go to gay bars anymore because thats all i see in gays. If your gay fine, just keep it to yourselves and quit with the overdramatic personality.
mo10fing 1 year ago
@mo10fing And where does it say that we can't act like that? Where does it say that girls can't play sports or guys can't cook in the kitchen or that asians have to always be doctors? You're stating a STEREOTYPE. I myself, when I told my friends I was gay, they were so surprised and admitted that they couldn't see me as gay. And if gays act like that, so what? Is it going to harm you if they talk a certain way or act a certain way? Why don't YOU keep your overdramatic personality to yourself?
accidenta1 1 year ago
@mo10fing If anything, this movie proves your argument wrong. I don't even know why you chose this specific video to post something like this. Bobby was far from a flaunting, lisp speaking, flashy clothes wearing individual you would ever meet.
accidenta1 1 year ago
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@mo10fing
There is a plethora of gay social clubs and organizations where one can meet like
minded people with varying interests! When Bobby Griffith and I were kids and dating
nothing even close to this existed!
So buck up my friend and give yourself more credit!
Blaine
blainebill39 1 year ago
@mo10fing
My friend, why so cynical? You must be aware that the queer(LGBT) community
is far more diverse than the architypes you've referenced! I too used to wince
apon encountering effete behavior, guys in drag, and flamboyant dress and manners.
But these are just a small, albiet highly visible, part of the greater LGBT community!
blainebill39 1 year ago