wow, I can relate to this a lot - I never considered that I had social anxiety. Particularly about wishing there was a pause button; that's why I like chatting online to people!
If you want to get better go to a AA meetings and share your feelings and thoughts no matter how gross they are with a crowd full of people looking at you without judgement. You will find and discover through your own eyes looking at them that your feelings do matter and you are your own person, who does not have to pretend manipulate or control.
The thing about your sister: I do the same thing with my brother and he with me. Its called fantasy bonding. we subconsciously bond to them and surrender our sense of worth and integrity in return that they like us. we see it as love but its quite the opposite if your honest. deep down inside, you dont want to believe that you dont really think she will love you if she knew about how awful some of your feelings and thoughts are. self is lying to self so that you wont have to deal with the pain.
the first thing I would suggest is to let yourself be and feel the rejection while looking in peoples eyes. what social anxiety sufferers usually do is avoid eye contact to try and hide the fact they have anxiety and basic trust issues. You have to let yourself naturally develop a sense of yourself as an individual, around others. your anxiety tells you to isolate but do the opposite. once you get rejected enough times, you will start to figure out who you really are as your own person.
this shit sucks, ruining my life. i need to get a job, like walmart,simple and easy.and im so afraid too, cuz im always worring about what people might say or if they look at me.
You are just like me and I am a 48 year old woman. I feel like I would be so much more successful today in life if I didn't have this disorder. I have a suggestion for you when making videos. Look into the camera and talk, it will make your message more meaningful. I understand completely, everything you mentioned is exactly my problem in life. It will help me to know more people who are going through what I am going through. I blow many job interviews because I'm scared to present myself.
I've had the very same symptoms of Social anxiety and I'm not quite sure if it makes me feel any better to know that I'm not alone in my situation. I hope that everyone who has social anxiety can find a cure.
The secret to curing social anxiety is by going and having some fun with your bestest friends.
Try going with someone on a tour of a foie gras farm. It's GREAT fun to watch the ducks. They get to pig out on lots of food and that's swell *get it (giggle).
Then you can try going to a political rally with some friends. Rick Santorum is giving his speech bragging about how he nearly bankrupted Pennsylvania.
Personally I love meeting people at Evangelical Jesus Camp. I'm also an active Breatharian
i totally absolutely know exactly what ur going through in fact i go through the same lol its not funny but it feels great to know im not alone yeesss thanks for this video if u want to be friends we can.
Thank you for this video. I want you to know that you are a very articulate young lady. Please keep posting your videos. I'm learning a lot from you. I have a family member who has SA and you have helped me understand so much. Thank you
The secret to social anxiety is that you are forcing yourself to put others feelings before your own. The way i found to break the chain is when I am in a place that i feel nervous. I cause a scene. I become loud i try to make them smile or laugh.
Do something unexpected. Everyone expects people to be polite in public, So you should be a bitch or applaud at random people. Just be stupid fun.
So true, the most common trigger is when you think about the social anxiety kicking in while being among people. The solution is amazingly simple. You need to teach yourself to be less self-conscious. Like focusing on details of the environment and thinking about that and focusing on other people listening to them, smiling, and mostly think about others and how they behave and everything should be about others not you.
Your videos are helping others. I myself suffer from this sooooo bad and trying to explain myself I've never been able to find anyone who could relate and that would make me feel even worse because I thought I was some weirdo. It is very comforting to know that I am not alone. Maybe our suffering can be use to help others. PLEASE....keep it up. Sincerely Sharon Brown. <3 and friendship.
i know exactly what you mean. i think the person who criticized you is a stupid fkng idiot. ignore him/her! you're so pretty and smart. i hope maybe you can talk to someone/ take medication (i do) and relax a little more each day. i know it's a slow process though <3
knowing that you have the disorder is such a huge advantage.i suffered from SA with neurotic anxiety for 7 years..and i dont even know..well the recovery will really take time..and the only way to get rid of it is-- to get rid of it..i know its not easy.but thats the only way...just try to eliminate one symptom at a time or day..just start from the smaller ones to the big ones,,try to resist it..tell yourself that this is not normal..and therefore you ought to do the normal..always pray^^
This is totally like me!!! Lowering of voice, talking fast, not making eye contact, wow... And all of those are symptoms of anxiety, I'm guessing. Oftentimes people think they lack social skills BUT IT'S NOT TRUE!! It's the stupidi anxiety's fault!! Soo don't blame it on yourself, kidos. N fuck what people think. :)))
plz you don't have shit if you are willing to put your self on cam. every single video on here with you wannabe that want to get attenuation are fake . dumb cunts
Jesus can sent you free. he is the only hope to man kind, Jesus said come to me and I will give u a new life! ask Jesus to come to your heart,that Jesus died in the cross so everybody that accept him will have peace and eternal life.
I just kept telling myself it's all in my head. Part of it is my ego and how much better I think I am than other people. So I though it all evened out in the end. I convinced myself to care less about what people might think of me and eventually that happened.
It's been so long so I might not be able to give out the best advice. But just keep at it I guess. Never hold out on anything and confront whatever you're hiding from. Gradually you'll build up the courage and work it out.
Doesn't seem like social anxiety, but you have many same symptoms as me. You didn't talk anything about any psychosomatic symptoms though. :/ 5:35 is quite normal though. Or maybe it isn't, but to me it feels quite normal :)
i am still like this but i have gotten better. the trick is to force yourself in social situations where you feel uncomfortable. the more times you do it the easier it gets.
@AKBeazBoi This right here is right on the spot. It definitely does work. A couple of years back, I used to be a LOT worse in social situations than I am now. I used to be shy and nervous and all those negative feelings. All of that vanished over the years and it's almost all gone now. I still barely talk to some people, but it's out of a lack of subjects to talk about rather than fear... etc. I guess this is as good as it gets, I don't mind though.
@AKBeazBoi It's as you said, you have to force yourself into situations you're not comfortable with and eventually you'd get used to it and the fear would go away. I hung out with my cousin and his group of friends some times, and a friend's group of friends. I used to get invited to go certain places or do certain things where a lot of people are would be involved but declined and lazy'd out. I changed that and overtime it got better.
I totally identify with all your top three listed symptoms. It's so hard for me to make eye contact with people and think at the same time. I find if I look at the floor or just avert my eyes somewhere else, my thoughts are allowed to flow better, but then i stress out about that person thinking that I'm not totally committed to the conversation, but I am! I also feel that i lose my own self when i have conversations with people, except if theyre my close friends.
Yeah, it gets to the point where I shake uncontrollably. I instantly lose my personality as well when I speak to people. When something exciting happens, I don't know how to express excitement.. or happiness. I seem really dull when it comes to people who don't know me. There's only one person I feel genuinely comfortable around and that's my sister. I didn't always used to be this way.. it definitely developed through a series of events in my life that makes me fear social interaction.
@belindamcgery uhmm no..been there done that...never but pharmaceuticals in your body! If you have anxiety problems, try cannabis, its all natural and good for you
You're very pretty. Don't be ashamed, I have the same problem as you. I too get nervous around people to the point where I am emotionally neutral because I feel as if people are looking out for my facial expressions (which they are) and are going to make fun of me because I might not look the right way for them. So I look unhappy which is my emotionally neutral state (only in school and when I'm anxious or depressed). This makes people think Im a mean guy who doesn't like anyone but thats false.
I can hear the fear in your voice, see the anxiety in your eyes. Obviously you are afraid of the unknown, as most people are, but unfortunately for you this fear is amplified to the point where it can/does take over your life. Subconsciously you anticipate negative reaction, and in turn, you receive copious amounts of anxiety that shouldn't even be there in the first place. But believe me, this does not have to be the case, and once you rise above this disorder you can learn to fly
and i would also be parniod alot and think i would say something wrong to some one and i would think i did something wrong and ask multiple questions,
i have the same type of issues that you have, the one you struggle talking to someone and you mess up your words alittle bit, and talk really fast and also people would think you have lisp or something and they say what? it can be really embarrassing lol i have aspergers and ocd and adhd ..... your not alone :)
i know just how you feel ive had this for over ten years ive been reclusive because of it but i have a social worker and a councillor that helps quite a bit
This social anxiety thing has been the pharmaceutical companies trying to sell a drug to you all. We all have had all these feelings that you are talking about. Sounds like the way I felt when I grew up and even to this day. Also sounds like the paranoid feeling you get from smoking weed. Good luck with your journey :-)
@iSkyhigh As sketchy as pharmaceutical companies may be, social anxiety disorder isn't just something made up by money hungry companies... its an actual disorder tht effects ppls lives..
"We all have had these feelings" if everyone had those feelings I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel as bad having SA.. It's an actual neurological issue, not some faux condition created by shrinks -.-
@irishgirl993 You probably are but just can't see it. Beauty is not all cookie-cuttered. My SA caused me to greatly feel ugly but now that my SA is getting better (and it does get better!), I can see that I am good looking. Plus, others can see it now, too.
Hi. I may have a minor case of social anxiety, but I'm not really sure. I'm no expert, but I find you as very interesting. I think that if you talk to people like you are talking to the camera, people will fall in love with you. I just want you to know that your opinion matters and I don't want you to worry so much about what others think of you. If you could see the person that I see, I feel that you would think better of yourself. I hope you get through this, please don't give up.
The thing you say about "loosing your personality" happens to me too. I take it a step further and I often find myself "putting on" emotion or personality to what I'm saying but, since it isn't natural, I guess it comes across out of place and weird. Then that person thinks I'm absolutely strange. I think I do it because of the "social anxiety about social anxiety" you mentioned before - I don't want to answer like a "robot"
I think I just gave up trying to show myself. it's very frustrating to be social and good and bad thoughts keep passing again and again inside my mind about how people see me, am I being nice or not or too childish or too rude or...or...?? Keep trying and fighting against it!!!!! o// we support you! xD thanks for share it with us xD
so I feel unconfortable near everybody and act shy....actually, most of what you said about acting is what I make and try hard to do the opposite but it's really tense and we can't avoid a bad feeling inside like nobody notice us... (cont.)
Maybe I identify with you...I don't know right but I feel like I can't show myself to others as if they would stop liking me if they are just my friends and if it's a person I've just met I can't show myself in no way 'cause I feel like they really will think I'm an idiot and try to avoid me... (cont.)
This is sooo relatable. I'm a very opinionated person, but it always makes someone uncomfortable because I express then so..."intensely" I guess, like I'm not going to change my mind. But even little opinions, like a band I like, I can't even talk about because what if a bigger fan or someone that hates that band starts criticizing me?
I always get into an awkward situation becase someone's question won't process in my head if I'm anxious, and I won't even hear it at all. So uncomfortable...
Same here!! I felt like a loner until I heard this!! :D Hahaha I feel so much better that there are people with similar experiences. I feel this has to do alot with Spirituality.
It sounds, looks and feels unhealthy. I can hear you struggling with your breathe. Deep breathing through the diaphragm can aid you really well. It helps you relax and become more aware so you are able to handle situations more effeciently. Long, deep breathing is very beneficial in many ways.
SA has AGED me so much, I'm only 23 but I've been through so many stages in my lfie of trying overcome it and then regressing back to a hermit. today I'm putting myself out there though, I think its important to have a goal in life, something you can distract yourself with at any moment. I also think anxiety is our true adventurous self being trampled on by society, but thats a whole different story..
"Let go and let flow" like mother nature.....and remember "what you resist persists." So ya that book... "At last a life" by "Paul David" and the other book. Google "Panic Away" and go to the website. Get the e book. I've taken Psychology at University, read tons of books, reflected everyday, studied religion and these books were key for me :). I hope they could help you like me.
I've struggled with social anxiety for 6 years. From almost none to being worried of going to a store. NOw it's just in groups like family, but not in my spiritual class group. I just wanted to say that it is human nature to adjust to people around you. Energy always mixes and finds a middle ground. So that okay, let it go. I highly recommend a book called "At last a life." It's about a guy who couldn't even look at people and was depersonalized for 8 years, and made it out.
I'm exactly the same... Social anxiety is terrible. I've been house bound for over a year, and only leave for school and mandatory appointments. It's horrible... I don't feel like I can even express my opinion on... say my favourite music without being judged?!
Your video was perfect, it gave me a lot to remember to talk about when I get a therapist and a way to phrase some things I hadn't really articulated before. So thank you. :)
this is exactly what i go through. whenever i’m in that moment i know i should go on medication or something because its so obvious i have a problem. the thing is that once i’m alone again i feel fine and i just forget about it. being alone for me is like heaven. haha. but after a while, i'll need to be around people. as long as its only 1 or 2 that i know well. any more than that forget it.
You're welcome. It's not that bad, I've had it my whole life, and I'm the only one in my city I know with this. Everyone's else is so creepy and "extrovert".
I agree, they don't really listen, and don't hear you. I hate when that happens and they "didn't hear you". That's just gross, you should ignore them forever.
yeah i dont think i have social anxiety really... but that last point you made is exactly what happens to me i feel like an average conversation is too fast paced at times especially a one to one conversation with someone i barely know :SS but ithen again it happens to people im comfortable with too so i guess im just a bit slow... lawl :D
hi lavendar, i had excruciating social anxiety my whole life till july 2011. this lady helped me. her work is free and there is no money exchange. her name is byron katie and her website is thework [dot] com. i hope you check it out and if not now, i hope you find reliefe from the website (or somewhere) soon. i lived the helll of s.a. for my whole life. you cant tell by looking at me cuz i am friendly and successful. but deep inside my hell knew no boundaries. peace and merry xmas.
I can understand what you mean about not being able to focus on what the other person is saying,and not being able to make eye contact. I have the same problems :(
I LIKE YOUR VIDEO ITS REAL YOU KNOW I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY WHEN IM AROUND PEOPLE I JUST SHUT DOWN AND DONT TALK AND LOOK ALL SCARED I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE OR WITH LIKE MY ONE CLOSE FRIEND BUT ANYWAYS I LIKE YOUR VIDEO KEEP TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WHAT YOU TO DO
I also do the robot. I used to do the chameleon aswell but now I refuse to. I don't start conversation nor do I carry it but when talked to I am honest about what I say.
Being honest, I found, does help but when your in robot mode you have a kind of automatic response to people. So you need to think for a few seconds about what you really think when someone says something or asks you something. With practice it becomes easier.
from the 1st 15 seconds of this video I realized u had an anxiety problem because u had to explain why u said I'm making another video.. because your brain automatically thinks.. oh wait what will people think about me if I said that...
I have that, and it sucks -.- I just moved to a new school, I have pretty much no friends there, and all the teachers think there is something wrong with me. Even my family, all they do is call me shy, and whatever -___- I hate it,!
When i talk ( rarely ) in a group everyone always listen probably due to my massive height but rarely i get any feedback / emotions back at me. They are like "meh."
It's really hard for me to make jokes (never works)
I think by the amount of comments and views you've gotten you are definitely making videos people want to see and saying things they need to hear, so I wouldn't worry about that. It's extremely comforting to hear people talk about the same difficulties that you have. Social anxiety is so alienating by nature, that it's wonderful to relate and be guided by someone who understands what you're going through. You should be extremely proud of yourself. Hope you are doing better.
I see how many people have commented, so someone has probably already said this, but everything you've said is so true for most people with social anxiety. The hard part is getting it off your chest and then moving on. Meditation is probably the most helpful thing I've done to help me socially. I have to meditate before interacting. It's exhausting but it works. Look into deep meditation and visualization. It takes enormous concentration, but is extremely empowering.
This has been me my entire life. Everything you said. Thanks for making this video..it's so comforting to know i'm not alone. I'm a mess. I also stutter and I have panic attacks at times. I wish you the best. It got worse for me when I began college. This really takes over your life I'd do anything to be able to feel like I can freely express myself whenever I wanted..
Wow this is exactly like me. It just started after I moved away from my friends. I used to be really outgoing with EVERYONE and everything came so easy. It's been a year after trying to act normal around people at my new school and everything you said happens to you happens to me. I hope this doesn't take over my whole life. Also it feels like my personality is going away as time goes on. =/
I heard in a documentary about social anxiety disorder that people with this problem are usually really good hearted and sensitive people, and those are the people that everyone needs the most. By the looks of it and reading all the comments, they were absolutely right. Your videos are great. Just being yourself will help others that feel just like you. You just helped me ;o)
yhis social thingy is ruinin my life, im not dickin around here the amount ov shit i get for this annoyin ass thing makes me wnna kill myself. its ok for sum1 to say talk more, i physicly cant do that, its a gigantic problem for me, i dont no what do do, i need serious help.
you are beautiful! I felt the same way when I was your age. face your fears! just think, what's the worst that could happen.
love yourself! no matter what people think. that's the key! write a list of what you KNOW is amazing about you. and relay these things in your mind. breathe deep lots!
this video is great. I KNOW many people can relate.
I think we are empaths, hence why we are "anxious", we just sense shit more than most folks! I also have the SAME PROBLEM, the SAME EXACT PROBLEM when making videos. It could take 5 or take cuts before I get it right and do this naturally. Is that a symptom of social anxiety disorder, what I just described???
I reckon i have this cant talk to people properly or play group games even with my family they fill me with dread...an i get tongue tied on the phone..if i try make eye contact ill even start laughing or feel like when do i look away will they think im weird if i keep looking at them...an i cant keep conversation going i just say yeah an no an oooh okay
i have a very similar form of SAD. theres other videos explaining SAD that are so extreme where the person doesn't have any friends and literally doesn't talk, but i see what your saying. i get a mono toned around people i dont know and i lose my personality, and i also have trouble making eye contact. ive been called awkward or boring, but to my friends im the funniest coolest person but i cant express it to other people.
your just like me, i also act like the person i talk to :) it's odd and i sometimes feel afraid speeking out and get self conscious and suffer from anxiety badly,i also never comment much because i'm afraid of what people may think, i'm suprised just did it right now, if only i could find more people like you in this world, life would be WAY more easier
if i try and make video.. but cant concentrate while talking cos i keep thinking what the viewers will think of my each sentence... i feel very self conscious around people.. I wish i didnt have social anxiety :(
Unlike you I could never make a video. I'd have to film myself from the waist down and disguise my voice!! My SA is really quite severe and the thought of appearing on cam as "just me" is very scary.
it sucks having it. lt hangs over my head like crazy. When I talk, I lose who I am each second and then I worry about if I act weird like I think I do if that makes any sense. Instead of listening to a conversation I just talk a whole lot. people's eyes make me freak out too. Medicine made it a whole lot worse for me and then when I'm not on it I get all depressed.
ohh everything you said always happens to me. ALWAYS...I hate it so much...
OnRock19 5 hours ago
its like im the outsider of the outsiders.. they hang out while I am all alone.
100kkasper 10 hours ago
wow, I can relate to this a lot - I never considered that I had social anxiety. Particularly about wishing there was a pause button; that's why I like chatting online to people!
HaxUK 1 day ago
If you want to get better go to a AA meetings and share your feelings and thoughts no matter how gross they are with a crowd full of people looking at you without judgement. You will find and discover through your own eyes looking at them that your feelings do matter and you are your own person, who does not have to pretend manipulate or control.
jason79558 3 days ago
The thing about your sister: I do the same thing with my brother and he with me. Its called fantasy bonding. we subconsciously bond to them and surrender our sense of worth and integrity in return that they like us. we see it as love but its quite the opposite if your honest. deep down inside, you dont want to believe that you dont really think she will love you if she knew about how awful some of your feelings and thoughts are. self is lying to self so that you wont have to deal with the pain.
jason79558 3 days ago
the first thing I would suggest is to let yourself be and feel the rejection while looking in peoples eyes. what social anxiety sufferers usually do is avoid eye contact to try and hide the fact they have anxiety and basic trust issues. You have to let yourself naturally develop a sense of yourself as an individual, around others. your anxiety tells you to isolate but do the opposite. once you get rejected enough times, you will start to figure out who you really are as your own person.
jason79558 3 days ago
Hey, I really liked your video. Has your social anxiety lessened?
maxt999 4 days ago
Pretty girl with a nice video.
mobbdeepreppa 4 days ago
this shit sucks, ruining my life. i need to get a job, like walmart,simple and easy.and im so afraid too, cuz im always worring about what people might say or if they look at me.
TheZoelzer2 6 days ago
You are just like me and I am a 48 year old woman. I feel like I would be so much more successful today in life if I didn't have this disorder. I have a suggestion for you when making videos. Look into the camera and talk, it will make your message more meaningful. I understand completely, everything you mentioned is exactly my problem in life. It will help me to know more people who are going through what I am going through. I blow many job interviews because I'm scared to present myself.
screen4metube 6 days ago
Ah I, naively, thought this was just me.
MsRoadrunner1990 6 days ago
When you said ' I basically lose my personality when I'm around people' I was like oh my god same fucking here
mizzkronik1 6 days ago
@mizzkronik1 hey bitch, ahahaha
MsRoadrunner1990 6 days ago
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CarVanCarIm 1 week ago
I'm think I'm in love. Why can't I meet a girl with SA like this? :(
tibor29 1 week ago
I've had the very same symptoms of Social anxiety and I'm not quite sure if it makes me feel any better to know that I'm not alone in my situation. I hope that everyone who has social anxiety can find a cure.
YourGuardianWolf47 1 week ago
i guess i have social anxiety too then..
svcghost 1 week ago
is the anxiety she feels because of SA too??? just being curious not irony....
Deusex63 1 week ago
The secret to curing social anxiety is by going and having some fun with your bestest friends.
Try going with someone on a tour of a foie gras farm. It's GREAT fun to watch the ducks. They get to pig out on lots of food and that's swell *get it (giggle).
Then you can try going to a political rally with some friends. Rick Santorum is giving his speech bragging about how he nearly bankrupted Pennsylvania.
Personally I love meeting people at Evangelical Jesus Camp. I'm also an active Breatharian
katsumorymoto 1 week ago
i totally absolutely know exactly what ur going through in fact i go through the same lol its not funny but it feels great to know im not alone yeesss thanks for this video if u want to be friends we can.
shyneztime1287 2 weeks ago
Thank you for this video. I want you to know that you are a very articulate young lady. Please keep posting your videos. I'm learning a lot from you. I have a family member who has SA and you have helped me understand so much. Thank you
312Yolanda 2 weeks ago
This sounds like me.
WHOAitssusan 2 weeks ago
thankyou for ur video! :) ur so pretty! :) i have SA too.
kinchou23 2 weeks ago
The secret to social anxiety is that you are forcing yourself to put others feelings before your own. The way i found to break the chain is when I am in a place that i feel nervous. I cause a scene. I become loud i try to make them smile or laugh.
Do something unexpected. Everyone expects people to be polite in public, So you should be a bitch or applaud at random people. Just be stupid fun.
Woodall1776 2 weeks ago
@Woodall1776 lol
1honeylovely 2 weeks ago
Sometimes I stutter when I talk to people and it's hard for me to make eye contact too.
chicks123 2 weeks ago
it feels good to know that im not the only onee! thanks! <3
And so true on ppl saying im boringg part..:)
cynthiamdltshell1 2 weeks ago
when will i have sexy lady friends ? HONEST QUESTION .
UKGLfemaddict 2 weeks ago
@UKGLfemaddict
You need to just get friends. WANKER!
mrhenryleopard 1 week ago
I can totally relate to everything you say, my shyness is so bad! I sometimes think I am the most socially awkward person ever :3
Renstar4u 2 weeks ago
So true, the most common trigger is when you think about the social anxiety kicking in while being among people. The solution is amazingly simple. You need to teach yourself to be less self-conscious. Like focusing on details of the environment and thinking about that and focusing on other people listening to them, smiling, and mostly think about others and how they behave and everything should be about others not you.
codergames 3 weeks ago
That sounds just like me!!!
martialag 3 weeks ago
<3 u
crazy10bears 3 weeks ago
Your videos are helping others. I myself suffer from this sooooo bad and trying to explain myself I've never been able to find anyone who could relate and that would make me feel even worse because I thought I was some weirdo. It is very comforting to know that I am not alone. Maybe our suffering can be use to help others. PLEASE....keep it up. Sincerely Sharon Brown. <3 and friendship.
mrssharon1964 3 weeks ago
WAIT.. you have to make a video to make a video o.o lets make a video ??? wtf video IN a video thats videoception.
KiriouSs 3 weeks ago
i know exactly what you mean. i think the person who criticized you is a stupid fkng idiot. ignore him/her! you're so pretty and smart. i hope maybe you can talk to someone/ take medication (i do) and relax a little more each day. i know it's a slow process though <3
angelsmoke25 3 weeks ago
That is exactly what I do I start acting like people I chill with 5:18
XxOneTrueKillxX 3 weeks ago
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knowing that you have the disorder is such a huge advantage.i suffered from SA with neurotic anxiety for 7 years..and i dont even know..well the recovery will really take time..and the only way to get rid of it is-- to get rid of it..i know its not easy.but thats the only way...just try to eliminate one symptom at a time or day..just start from the smaller ones to the big ones,,try to resist it..tell yourself that this is not normal..and therefore you ought to do the normal..always pray^^
38marga 3 weeks ago
This is totally like me. You are not alone even if it feels like it.
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This is totally like me!!! Lowering of voice, talking fast, not making eye contact, wow... And all of those are symptoms of anxiety, I'm guessing. Oftentimes people think they lack social skills BUT IT'S NOT TRUE!! It's the stupidi anxiety's fault!! Soo don't blame it on yourself, kidos. N fuck what people think. :)))
spaghettiisnasty 3 weeks ago 5
plz you don't have shit if you are willing to put your self on cam. every single video on here with you wannabe that want to get attenuation are fake . dumb cunts
D3ealwithit 3 weeks ago
@D3ealwithit eh , you be mad mon.
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Jesus can sent you free. he is the only hope to man kind, Jesus said come to me and I will give u a new life! ask Jesus to come to your heart,that Jesus died in the cross so everybody that accept him will have peace and eternal life.
filipemirandamartins 3 weeks ago
What a beautiful person (=
RadarSol 4 weeks ago
@RadarSol Yea she is !
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I just kept telling myself it's all in my head. Part of it is my ego and how much better I think I am than other people. So I though it all evened out in the end. I convinced myself to care less about what people might think of me and eventually that happened.
It's been so long so I might not be able to give out the best advice. But just keep at it I guess. Never hold out on anything and confront whatever you're hiding from. Gradually you'll build up the courage and work it out.
Nebster173 4 weeks ago
I feel you there 100%.
UnstoppableChaos 1 month ago
@UnstoppableChaos me too...
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you don't seem boring my love, you seem fantastically smart and very friendly.
richeybee 1 month ago
@richeybee Yea so true!
RicianHD 3 weeks ago in playlist Favorite videos
Doesn't seem like social anxiety, but you have many same symptoms as me. You didn't talk anything about any psychosomatic symptoms though. :/ 5:35 is quite normal though. Or maybe it isn't, but to me it feels quite normal :)
Archferumphis 1 month ago
I have the same problems, and I think my ADHD is making it worse, too... or it's the root cause, really. Oh and you're really pretty ^^
Wh3tst0nE 1 month ago
I can relate to. And I appreciate very much this video and I think you're gorgeous girl. Really.
inthevortexness 1 month ago
everything you said is exactly what i do.. Thx
lilkiller20 1 month ago
SOOOOO very true!!
beunka2 1 month ago
after watching this, i think i have it.. :( anyone got any advice?
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NeverlessHD 1 month ago
i am still like this but i have gotten better. the trick is to force yourself in social situations where you feel uncomfortable. the more times you do it the easier it gets.
AKBeazBoi 1 month ago
@AKBeazBoi This right here is right on the spot. It definitely does work. A couple of years back, I used to be a LOT worse in social situations than I am now. I used to be shy and nervous and all those negative feelings. All of that vanished over the years and it's almost all gone now. I still barely talk to some people, but it's out of a lack of subjects to talk about rather than fear... etc. I guess this is as good as it gets, I don't mind though.
Nebster173 4 weeks ago
@Nebster173 so what was your man method for solving your social anxiety and do you have any advice on how to combat and deal with it? thanks
AKBeazBoi 4 weeks ago
@AKBeazBoi It's as you said, you have to force yourself into situations you're not comfortable with and eventually you'd get used to it and the fear would go away. I hung out with my cousin and his group of friends some times, and a friend's group of friends. I used to get invited to go certain places or do certain things where a lot of people are would be involved but declined and lazy'd out. I changed that and overtime it got better.
Nebster173 4 weeks ago
I totally identify with all your top three listed symptoms. It's so hard for me to make eye contact with people and think at the same time. I find if I look at the floor or just avert my eyes somewhere else, my thoughts are allowed to flow better, but then i stress out about that person thinking that I'm not totally committed to the conversation, but I am! I also feel that i lose my own self when i have conversations with people, except if theyre my close friends.
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nickychemz 1 month ago
I like how you say "losing personality" that is a good way to put it.
jushank 1 month ago
Anyone else hear what people say, but automatically say 'what?' anyway?
ukLeeham720 1 month ago
@ukLeeham720 all the time!
vonnysocks 1 month ago
@ukLeeham720 Yep, do that all the time
jushank 1 month ago
Yeah, it gets to the point where I shake uncontrollably. I instantly lose my personality as well when I speak to people. When something exciting happens, I don't know how to express excitement.. or happiness. I seem really dull when it comes to people who don't know me. There's only one person I feel genuinely comfortable around and that's my sister. I didn't always used to be this way.. it definitely developed through a series of events in my life that makes me fear social interaction.
freakishlypeculiar 1 month ago
Social anxiety chicks are hot, this girl and all the girls in the suggestion videos ------------>
Someone needs to set up a SAD dating site.
JetFighters 1 month ago
Try meds and Cbt. Ive had some success with this combination. You guys should come and talk to us other social anxiety sufferers on Mapofmates.
belindamcgery 1 month ago 8
@belindamcgery uhmm no..been there done that...never but pharmaceuticals in your body! If you have anxiety problems, try cannabis, its all natural and good for you
ahoplite 1 month ago
@belindamcgery
CBT?
How does cock and ball torture cure social anxiety?
mrhenryleopard 1 week ago
@mrhenryleopard -_- lol...
oxytocy 1 week ago
You're very pretty. Don't be ashamed, I have the same problem as you. I too get nervous around people to the point where I am emotionally neutral because I feel as if people are looking out for my facial expressions (which they are) and are going to make fun of me because I might not look the right way for them. So I look unhappy which is my emotionally neutral state (only in school and when I'm anxious or depressed). This makes people think Im a mean guy who doesn't like anyone but thats false.
d1995a3 1 month ago
story of my life!
MyNameIsMaddyOK 1 month ago 14
you are still lucky because my hands, cheek, legs and my voice will shaking even just talk in class...
narsha2 1 month ago
hi, hope your well! great video btw!
just by watching it...I realised I got the same problem...cuz I act like those ways too!
its good to know Im not the only one with the same social issues. =/
hope everything is going better in that task now!
and keep making videos!!
have a nice day ahead! :)
cheers^^
vimarinaroxx 1 month ago
I can hear the fear in your voice, see the anxiety in your eyes. Obviously you are afraid of the unknown, as most people are, but unfortunately for you this fear is amplified to the point where it can/does take over your life. Subconsciously you anticipate negative reaction, and in turn, you receive copious amounts of anxiety that shouldn't even be there in the first place. But believe me, this does not have to be the case, and once you rise above this disorder you can learn to fly
InTeNsItYuNdEfInEd 1 month ago
and i would also be parniod alot and think i would say something wrong to some one and i would think i did something wrong and ask multiple questions,
cassiibabee 1 month ago
i have the same type of issues that you have, the one you struggle talking to someone and you mess up your words alittle bit, and talk really fast and also people would think you have lisp or something and they say what? it can be really embarrassing lol i have aspergers and ocd and adhd ..... your not alone :)
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pioneer237 1 month ago
You are pretty
Blankname101 1 month ago
same things i do too
fullofuploads 1 month ago
I do exactly the same things that you do :(
kapaprincess94 1 month ago
YOU AREAWESOME AND PRETTY! YOU'LL B A RICH COOL WOMAN SOMEDAY I PROMISE
mandapandazon 1 month ago
u cant is a word i use alot must be i can do
jamie54809 1 month ago
i see in your video that you say i cant speak with people properly you seem to put your self down thats the wrong thing to do
jamie54809 1 month ago
i started reading a book its called think your crazy think again
jamie54809 1 month ago
no matter how many times ive had anxiety im still here learn to think differantly positive thinking will give you a positive mood
jamie54809 1 month ago
what i would say is just dont give up keep on going every body has good days and bad days
jamie54809 1 month ago
i know just how you feel ive had this for over ten years ive been reclusive because of it but i have a social worker and a councillor that helps quite a bit
jamie54809 1 month ago
This social anxiety thing has been the pharmaceutical companies trying to sell a drug to you all. We all have had all these feelings that you are talking about. Sounds like the way I felt when I grew up and even to this day. Also sounds like the paranoid feeling you get from smoking weed. Good luck with your journey :-)
iSkyhigh 1 month ago
@iSkyhigh As sketchy as pharmaceutical companies may be, social anxiety disorder isn't just something made up by money hungry companies... its an actual disorder tht effects ppls lives..
"We all have had these feelings" if everyone had those feelings I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel as bad having SA.. It's an actual neurological issue, not some faux condition created by shrinks -.-
Chadleeezy 3 weeks ago
Is it just me or are most people with social anxiety good looking?
guidedfarandthrough 1 month ago
@guidedfarandthrough
I have it and I'm considered not that great looking.:p
irishgirl993 1 month ago
@irishgirl993 You probably are but just can't see it. Beauty is not all cookie-cuttered. My SA caused me to greatly feel ugly but now that my SA is getting better (and it does get better!), I can see that I am good looking. Plus, others can see it now, too.
guidedfarandthrough 1 month ago
i have social anxiety disorder and i have a lisp.. not a good combination :)
UsBeatingU 1 month ago
Hi. I may have a minor case of social anxiety, but I'm not really sure. I'm no expert, but I find you as very interesting. I think that if you talk to people like you are talking to the camera, people will fall in love with you. I just want you to know that your opinion matters and I don't want you to worry so much about what others think of you. If you could see the person that I see, I feel that you would think better of yourself. I hope you get through this, please don't give up.
drdavidbanner20 1 month ago
The thing you say about "loosing your personality" happens to me too. I take it a step further and I often find myself "putting on" emotion or personality to what I'm saying but, since it isn't natural, I guess it comes across out of place and weird. Then that person thinks I'm absolutely strange. I think I do it because of the "social anxiety about social anxiety" you mentioned before - I don't want to answer like a "robot"
himynameisbede 1 month ago
I think I just gave up trying to show myself. it's very frustrating to be social and good and bad thoughts keep passing again and again inside my mind about how people see me, am I being nice or not or too childish or too rude or...or...?? Keep trying and fighting against it!!!!! o// we support you! xD thanks for share it with us xD
Mandychan93 1 month ago
so I feel unconfortable near everybody and act shy....actually, most of what you said about acting is what I make and try hard to do the opposite but it's really tense and we can't avoid a bad feeling inside like nobody notice us... (cont.)
Mandychan93 1 month ago
Maybe I identify with you...I don't know right but I feel like I can't show myself to others as if they would stop liking me if they are just my friends and if it's a person I've just met I can't show myself in no way 'cause I feel like they really will think I'm an idiot and try to avoid me... (cont.)
Mandychan93 1 month ago
Wow you just described what I pretty much do! But yeah thanks for the video it really helped me. Glad I'm not the only one :)
smellycatrulesxX 1 month ago
I can't even go to a darn antique store because the neighborhood it's in is a bit crowded! DX
BecauseAlexWasBored 1 month ago
This is sooo relatable. I'm a very opinionated person, but it always makes someone uncomfortable because I express then so..."intensely" I guess, like I'm not going to change my mind. But even little opinions, like a band I like, I can't even talk about because what if a bigger fan or someone that hates that band starts criticizing me?
I always get into an awkward situation becase someone's question won't process in my head if I'm anxious, and I won't even hear it at all. So uncomfortable...
BecauseAlexWasBored 1 month ago
Same here!! I felt like a loner until I heard this!! :D Hahaha I feel so much better that there are people with similar experiences. I feel this has to do alot with Spirituality.
It sounds, looks and feels unhealthy. I can hear you struggling with your breathe. Deep breathing through the diaphragm can aid you really well. It helps you relax and become more aware so you are able to handle situations more effeciently. Long, deep breathing is very beneficial in many ways.
jonoce633 1 month ago
SA has AGED me so much, I'm only 23 but I've been through so many stages in my lfie of trying overcome it and then regressing back to a hermit. today I'm putting myself out there though, I think its important to have a goal in life, something you can distract yourself with at any moment. I also think anxiety is our true adventurous self being trampled on by society, but thats a whole different story..
TheSnowyDrake 1 month ago
I used to have the same problem, when I was younger. Thank you, Lexapro! I'd be outta luck w/o you.<3
Traumfanger85 1 month ago
"Let go and let flow" like mother nature.....and remember "what you resist persists." So ya that book... "At last a life" by "Paul David" and the other book. Google "Panic Away" and go to the website. Get the e book. I've taken Psychology at University, read tons of books, reflected everyday, studied religion and these books were key for me :). I hope they could help you like me.
patrickbed 1 month ago
I've struggled with social anxiety for 6 years. From almost none to being worried of going to a store. NOw it's just in groups like family, but not in my spiritual class group. I just wanted to say that it is human nature to adjust to people around you. Energy always mixes and finds a middle ground. So that okay, let it go. I highly recommend a book called "At last a life." It's about a guy who couldn't even look at people and was depersonalized for 8 years, and made it out.
patrickbed 1 month ago
I'm exactly the same... Social anxiety is terrible. I've been house bound for over a year, and only leave for school and mandatory appointments. It's horrible... I don't feel like I can even express my opinion on... say my favourite music without being judged?!
EccentricMushroom 1 month ago
i'm the same way..
korilei23 1 month ago
get in a fight lads
jackfantoe 1 month ago
Your nervousness and insecurity is really cute... you need a bf ? I'm really good at cuddling :)
DracoAquarian1 1 month ago
i think i just found out i have social anxiety.. -_-
ThoseHotChicksAreHot 1 month ago
Your video was perfect, it gave me a lot to remember to talk about when I get a therapist and a way to phrase some things I hadn't really articulated before. So thank you. :)
noobglass 1 month ago
this is exactly what i go through. whenever i’m in that moment i know i should go on medication or something because its so obvious i have a problem. the thing is that once i’m alone again i feel fine and i just forget about it. being alone for me is like heaven. haha. but after a while, i'll need to be around people. as long as its only 1 or 2 that i know well. any more than that forget it.
AhYaOk 1 month ago
If people aren't willing to take the time to hear what i say, then they don't deserve to know. That's the principle I operate on now.
LordApera 1 month ago
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I agree, they don't really listen, and don't hear you. I hate when that happens and they "didn't hear you". That's just gross, you should ignore them forever.
Soveraine 1 month ago
At least you made a video, and you can coordinate mind with speech well :(
Astharot90 2 months ago
@Astharot90 Don't worry, we will make it one day :)
ChrisKroeger17 1 month ago
yeah i dont think i have social anxiety really... but that last point you made is exactly what happens to me i feel like an average conversation is too fast paced at times especially a one to one conversation with someone i barely know :SS but ithen again it happens to people im comfortable with too so i guess im just a bit slow... lawl :D
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Carlos51748 2 months ago
I can understand what you mean about not being able to focus on what the other person is saying,and not being able to make eye contact. I have the same problems :(
musicproducer16 2 months ago
I LOVE your hair color. :)
musicproducer16 2 months ago 2
lol are you.........me?
rastamalaysia 2 months ago
I LIKE YOUR VIDEO ITS REAL YOU KNOW I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM WITH SOCIAL ANXIETY WHEN IM AROUND PEOPLE I JUST SHUT DOWN AND DONT TALK AND LOOK ALL SCARED I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE OR WITH LIKE MY ONE CLOSE FRIEND BUT ANYWAYS I LIKE YOUR VIDEO KEEP TALKING ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT NOT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE WHAT YOU TO DO
Ebezzle 2 months ago
I also do the robot. I used to do the chameleon aswell but now I refuse to. I don't start conversation nor do I carry it but when talked to I am honest about what I say.
Being honest, I found, does help but when your in robot mode you have a kind of automatic response to people. So you need to think for a few seconds about what you really think when someone says something or asks you something. With practice it becomes easier.
CallidusAnguis 2 months ago
you just described my condition
ironmantis25 2 months ago
your video is good but can u do onje with how u know some one has it how they act xx
maggieXashXjennX18 2 months ago
from the 1st 15 seconds of this video I realized u had an anxiety problem because u had to explain why u said I'm making another video.. because your brain automatically thinks.. oh wait what will people think about me if I said that...
ImTwixtorXD 2 months ago
You described everything that I do!! I thought I was the only one who had these problems. Thanks so much for sharing =)
Lana383 2 months ago 21
you are cute, why should you have trouble looking at people in the eye
AtlantiXYL 2 months ago
@AtlantiXYL
It's a disorder, you can't help it.
Lana383 2 months ago 2
I have that, and it sucks -.- I just moved to a new school, I have pretty much no friends there, and all the teachers think there is something wrong with me. Even my family, all they do is call me shy, and whatever -___- I hate it,!
Daniella97Girl 2 months ago
Please take five minutes to google or youtube ibogaine therapy ! It is very full on but works miracles
chr1st1an20061 2 months ago
When i talk ( rarely ) in a group everyone always listen probably due to my massive height but rarely i get any feedback / emotions back at me. They are like "meh."
It's really hard for me to make jokes (never works)
I guess i am just boring -.-'
wexa89 2 months ago
hotness!
nkelly1432 2 months ago
I think by the amount of comments and views you've gotten you are definitely making videos people want to see and saying things they need to hear, so I wouldn't worry about that. It's extremely comforting to hear people talk about the same difficulties that you have. Social anxiety is so alienating by nature, that it's wonderful to relate and be guided by someone who understands what you're going through. You should be extremely proud of yourself. Hope you are doing better.
PotentM 2 months ago
I see how many people have commented, so someone has probably already said this, but everything you've said is so true for most people with social anxiety. The hard part is getting it off your chest and then moving on. Meditation is probably the most helpful thing I've done to help me socially. I have to meditate before interacting. It's exhausting but it works. Look into deep meditation and visualization. It takes enormous concentration, but is extremely empowering.
PotentM 2 months ago
This has been me my entire life. Everything you said. Thanks for making this video..it's so comforting to know i'm not alone. I'm a mess. I also stutter and I have panic attacks at times. I wish you the best. It got worse for me when I began college. This really takes over your life I'd do anything to be able to feel like I can freely express myself whenever I wanted..
alopez3111 2 months ago
I still love this video thanks for not pulling it down. Saw it a couple years ago maybe, for the first time. You are way cute also:)
braneden 2 months ago
Wow this is exactly like me. It just started after I moved away from my friends. I used to be really outgoing with EVERYONE and everything came so easy. It's been a year after trying to act normal around people at my new school and everything you said happens to you happens to me. I hope this doesn't take over my whole life. Also it feels like my personality is going away as time goes on. =/
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ModernThreads 2 months ago
I heard in a documentary about social anxiety disorder that people with this problem are usually really good hearted and sensitive people, and those are the people that everyone needs the most. By the looks of it and reading all the comments, they were absolutely right. Your videos are great. Just being yourself will help others that feel just like you. You just helped me ;o)
yany1101 2 months ago
Why are you not making any more videos? I feel like I relate to you more than any of the other people on here with social anxiety that I've seen.
beavisandbutthead104 2 months ago
yhis social thingy is ruinin my life, im not dickin around here the amount ov shit i get for this annoyin ass thing makes me wnna kill myself. its ok for sum1 to say talk more, i physicly cant do that, its a gigantic problem for me, i dont no what do do, i need serious help.
XxLMCSAGEGxX 2 months ago
There is a pause button. Only it isn't labelled but when somebody uses it it is preceeded by the sound "wait".
XonWechtvt 2 months ago
@Baylorchick20 ty your words mean so much to me. its so easy to socialize on the computer-_-
tatum635 2 months ago
having this sux, at school im so lonely and have no friends. i am a complete loser.
tatum635 2 months ago
@tatum635 Your not a loser. I know what that feels like and trust me it gets better just dont give up! Peace
Baylorchick20 2 months ago
you cute =)
61605mont 2 months ago
you are beautiful! I felt the same way when I was your age. face your fears! just think, what's the worst that could happen.
love yourself! no matter what people think. that's the key! write a list of what you KNOW is amazing about you. and relay these things in your mind. breathe deep lots!
this video is great. I KNOW many people can relate.
lots of love!
-A.S
amandasilvera 2 months ago
I think we are empaths, hence why we are "anxious", we just sense shit more than most folks! I also have the SAME PROBLEM, the SAME EXACT PROBLEM when making videos. It could take 5 or take cuts before I get it right and do this naturally. Is that a symptom of social anxiety disorder, what I just described???
HappyHooker83 2 months ago
i luv red heads
2012XF3 2 months ago
Actually, I have SA to, and I see my self in you in almost every aspect in that regard...
roberth1990 2 months ago
I reckon i have this cant talk to people properly or play group games even with my family they fill me with dread...an i get tongue tied on the phone..if i try make eye contact ill even start laughing or feel like when do i look away will they think im weird if i keep looking at them...an i cant keep conversation going i just say yeah an no an oooh okay
tammygirl100 2 months ago
i have a very similar form of SAD. theres other videos explaining SAD that are so extreme where the person doesn't have any friends and literally doesn't talk, but i see what your saying. i get a mono toned around people i dont know and i lose my personality, and i also have trouble making eye contact. ive been called awkward or boring, but to my friends im the funniest coolest person but i cant express it to other people.
GraffiDmusic 2 months ago
your just like me, i also act like the person i talk to :) it's odd and i sometimes feel afraid speeking out and get self conscious and suffer from anxiety badly,i also never comment much because i'm afraid of what people may think, i'm suprised just did it right now, if only i could find more people like you in this world, life would be WAY more easier
xCrazyKidz421x 2 months ago
if i try and make video.. but cant concentrate while talking cos i keep thinking what the viewers will think of my each sentence... i feel very self conscious around people.. I wish i didnt have social anxiety :(
MegaKardashianFan 2 months ago
It Hurts.. i thot i was alone.... :(
MegaKardashianFan 2 months ago
I know how u feel.
Social anxiety sucks :(
I get really awkward & i sometimes have to clear my throat a lot cause i feel like there's something stuck in it.. then my voice sounds all weird xD
Sometimes i feel like people are judging me, or i think they think I am ugly.. ahhhhhh! i HATE it!
and i also feel like i can't be my true self around anyone either.
Btw u genuinely look like a great person & u shouldn't worry what people think..i know it's easier said than done, but we have to fight it
xxTheDoorsFanxx 2 months ago 17
@xxTheDoorsFanxx omg...I feel the same D:
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Mandychan93 1 month ago
Unlike you I could never make a video. I'd have to film myself from the waist down and disguise my voice!! My SA is really quite severe and the thought of appearing on cam as "just me" is very scary.
WeTheStrange 2 months ago in playlist SOCIAL ANXIETY
it sucks having it. lt hangs over my head like crazy. When I talk, I lose who I am each second and then I worry about if I act weird like I think I do if that makes any sense. Instead of listening to a conversation I just talk a whole lot. people's eyes make me freak out too. Medicine made it a whole lot worse for me and then when I'm not on it I get all depressed.
deadlock365 2 months ago
@deadlock365 At least you talk! I mean I wish I could be like you! I don't talk at all!!
TheIcepink18 2 months ago
@TheIcepink18 thanks :) my girlfriend helped me a helluvalot too. she pulled me out of my shell. then i got the courage to face people head on
deadlock365 2 months ago