Maybe touch upon how to prepare.. Mentally and as far as baby stuff... Financially, and anything else us soon to be moms should know that you wish you knew before your daughter came. :)
her navigate her own anxiety! So, you could prep the caregiver on how you'd like them to comfort her in advance. Sorry that took so long, but it's important to understand the reasoning behind it. At least for me it was. It has worked REALLY well, and one of the little girls I took care of had parents who worked a ton, so she had a lot of separation anxiety. I think finding a caretaker who is very patient and caring is important. Take good care of yourself, I'm sure you're a wonderful mom!
@MissJessyeNorman Thank you! that makes total sence. I think she understands time a lot more now. At the time I filmedthis video she was much younger. Over time she has learned a lot and has NO problem with me or her dad leaving her with family or friends. She actually says 'BYE'! and will shut the door in my face :-( O think its harder for me than her
Sometimes the child would be upset for a long time, most times, it would be over fairly soon. It's just important for the cargiver to give hugs, Acknoweldge that the child's feelings are real and valid, and remind them of the real time mommy will be home.
Ok, lol, this is long. Second, it might e good for you to talk with friends and/or a counselor about your own fears. You are doing the hardest job in the world, and you deserve support. If you get support for your fears, you'll help
It's SUPER important to get eye contact to make sure she's taking in what you say. Then when the childs parent would leave, they would always say, with eye contact again, when they would be back and how long it would take. There would often be tears when they left but I would usually just hold the child while they cried, tell them it was ok for them to be upset, that it's hard when mama goes, and that mama will be back at the time we had all discussed.
Also telling her when you'll be back is very good, so she has something concrete on both ends. If the person who's gonna take her could come even five minutes early just so there's some time with everyone together it's helpful. So, in my position, I would say things like " Mommy is gonna be leaving in ten minutes, ok, in ten minutes. She will be back in five hours at five o'clock " At the five minute mark I might give a little reminder.
Here's how my mom explained it to me. Children have very little control over what they do, and when they do it. This is frustrating for them, just as it would be for you or me to have most things we do controlled by someone else. Being ripped away from doing something with no warning is stressful. I realize that your daughter must be pre-verbal given her age, but babies can still understand a lot. So a five minute warning can give her time to adjust to the idea and change gears.
Kudos to you for asking for people's ideas, it shows very good character, putting your child's well-being before your own ego! So many parents don't do that, so I think you're miles ahead for that. You should know that I am not a mom, but I have had really positive experiences taking care of young children, and have been told I have a gift for it. so I have two ideas that have worked for me. Oh, and I got this advice from my own mom, so really, it is advice from an experienced mom...
I'm a guy, but I absolutely love your mom blogs. I'm definitely looking forward to having my own kids and raising them and being there for them. I was almost aborted...my dad didn't want me, but I thank God my mom loved and had me. And growing up with a dead beat father has forced to vow to be different. God bless all the single women out there fighting strong to raise their children, and may God help the men to step up and play the role of fathers.
@oanochie Oh cool! Yeah My dad is a loser and I havent had a relationship with him for almost 15yrs. My boyfriends dad has been in and out also but is around now. But his experience with his dad makes him want to be the best father he can be and he is such a great hands on dad!
You have a gorgeous daughter, what about rice milk or soy milk they're healthier for adults so my an option?? That aside, stay positive and keep using the positive assertive energy. I meant to post this on your other vid.
is it normal to see a child who is 19 months old and still haven't talk yet ?
by the way he a boy lol but peoples from outsides tells me it normal since girls talk early before them so im kinda worried that he wont talk until he turns 2
I think you are an amazing mom from all you've said. Its normal for a child to develop separation anxiety from what I saw with my cousins and nephew. As long you reassure her of your love and she's surrounded by people you trust, she'll be fine.
About your mom and how you are not yet comfortable with leaving her babysit...she raised you, must have done good enuf job. Her earlier objection was probably about having a baby with a bf who already has a kid by another woman.
@hippieCy08 Thank you! And I think you're right Now its all love but I know its a lot for a mother to swallow> Its all love now and we're doing great!
I love how honest you are. I think it is really important for us moms to be honest with one another, it really helps. My mom is a psychologist and when I went through separation anxiety my mom told me this, "Obviously, you are doing something right. Until he's two and a half don't worry about it.". She was right!! He does very well around people now.
im am not a mom. i am actually 14.but i love babys and i love learning about babys. and you are so great. u seen like a wonderful mommy. your daughter is so cute..
my mom told me to always talk to my daughter even when she was very little and explain what is goin on. at this stage she has fear that if u leave u wont come back. begin explaining why u leave and tell her mommy will be back. i felt guilty, but at some point i had to go bac to work and i needed me time every now and then :-)
I will keep you posted on how it goes....my mom and hubby arent excited but after talking to the daycare owner and discussing my reasoning she said it's really good for them to interact with other kids and people...and for me to get have at least a few hours of "me" time as well...btw love the blowout...
@incognegra143 baby steps! I took my daughter to a class at Gymboree and she LOVED it! But at the end of the class there was a flea in her hair!! So I may try another location but she really enjoyed playing with the other babies! Im working on a gym membership so hopefully in the next few months! Long time no see by the way ;]
My son is 10 months old and the only time he doesnt mind me leaving the room is when other kids are around.I'm a stay and home mom and still breastfeed so Im sure that has a lot to do with it.Due 2 the attachment it can get frustrating because I want to start bk the gym w/out feeling guilty. So I've decided that im taking him to a daycare that is directly across the street from the gym 3x's a week for 1/2 a day so he can play w other babies and realize that when I leave that i Will be bk...
theres a great center that I found out about while working at a daycare center im looking into it for my lil one.....google them im sure theres one in ur area its called gymboree....great way for u to meet other moms and londyn would be around babies her age...and its fun! my daughter is in daycare while i go to school and she has developed tremendously...love ur hair and makeup in this video hun...looking forward to more vids
Get her around other children ASAP , lol I didn't socialize my youngest ( she's almost 11) until she was 3. I sent her to a K-3 program the same year my oldest went to kindergarten I wish that I had joined some sort of play group earlier so that way she would be around other children besides her sister & cousins.
@1stHumesgirl I have looked online for the Mom and baby play groups and cant find any in my area, but i I could get involved with something like that, it would be perfect!
I love what you said about how you decided to continue on with the pregnancy so its your responisibility to be with her and not push her off on to everyone else. Thats a great and responsible mentality and I wish more young moms thought this way. I love all of your videos. I dont even have a baby and I love this series too lol.Good luck with everything!
Hi! I love your hairstyle. What direction did you roll or curl your hair to get it to flip out a little? How did u do your bangs?
mrsarp09 9 months ago
Maybe touch upon how to prepare.. Mentally and as far as baby stuff... Financially, and anything else us soon to be moms should know that you wish you knew before your daughter came. :)
trustarr6 9 months ago
I love this series.. Could you do a video about how to prepare for a new born? I am due in September and as things get closer I start to stress out'
trustarr6 9 months ago
I love this series.. Could you do a video about how to prepare mentally for a new Bormann
trustarr6 9 months ago
I have been watching your videos, they have helped alot with my hair. I was just wondering what products u found more useful for your hair.
brittneyjohnson95 11 months ago
I love your videos... I have 3 boys so this all sounds very much familiar. It sounds like your like your an awesome mom... Keep up the good work...
diannashanette 11 months ago
@diannashanette Thank you, im trying :-)
shortysgs03 11 months ago
what lipstick are you wearing?
snicky82 1 year ago
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shortysgs03 1 year ago
her navigate her own anxiety! So, you could prep the caregiver on how you'd like them to comfort her in advance. Sorry that took so long, but it's important to understand the reasoning behind it. At least for me it was. It has worked REALLY well, and one of the little girls I took care of had parents who worked a ton, so she had a lot of separation anxiety. I think finding a caretaker who is very patient and caring is important. Take good care of yourself, I'm sure you're a wonderful mom!
MissJessyeNorman 1 year ago
@MissJessyeNorman Thank you! that makes total sence. I think she understands time a lot more now. At the time I filmedthis video she was much younger. Over time she has learned a lot and has NO problem with me or her dad leaving her with family or friends. She actually says 'BYE'! and will shut the door in my face :-( O think its harder for me than her
shortysgs03 1 year ago
Sometimes the child would be upset for a long time, most times, it would be over fairly soon. It's just important for the cargiver to give hugs, Acknoweldge that the child's feelings are real and valid, and remind them of the real time mommy will be home.
Ok, lol, this is long. Second, it might e good for you to talk with friends and/or a counselor about your own fears. You are doing the hardest job in the world, and you deserve support. If you get support for your fears, you'll help
MissJessyeNorman 1 year ago
It's SUPER important to get eye contact to make sure she's taking in what you say. Then when the childs parent would leave, they would always say, with eye contact again, when they would be back and how long it would take. There would often be tears when they left but I would usually just hold the child while they cried, tell them it was ok for them to be upset, that it's hard when mama goes, and that mama will be back at the time we had all discussed.
MissJessyeNorman 1 year ago
Also telling her when you'll be back is very good, so she has something concrete on both ends. If the person who's gonna take her could come even five minutes early just so there's some time with everyone together it's helpful. So, in my position, I would say things like " Mommy is gonna be leaving in ten minutes, ok, in ten minutes. She will be back in five hours at five o'clock " At the five minute mark I might give a little reminder.
MissJessyeNorman 1 year ago
Here's how my mom explained it to me. Children have very little control over what they do, and when they do it. This is frustrating for them, just as it would be for you or me to have most things we do controlled by someone else. Being ripped away from doing something with no warning is stressful. I realize that your daughter must be pre-verbal given her age, but babies can still understand a lot. So a five minute warning can give her time to adjust to the idea and change gears.
MissJessyeNorman 1 year ago
Kudos to you for asking for people's ideas, it shows very good character, putting your child's well-being before your own ego! So many parents don't do that, so I think you're miles ahead for that. You should know that I am not a mom, but I have had really positive experiences taking care of young children, and have been told I have a gift for it. so I have two ideas that have worked for me. Oh, and I got this advice from my own mom, so really, it is advice from an experienced mom...
MissJessyeNorman 1 year ago
I'm a guy, but I absolutely love your mom blogs. I'm definitely looking forward to having my own kids and raising them and being there for them. I was almost aborted...my dad didn't want me, but I thank God my mom loved and had me. And growing up with a dead beat father has forced to vow to be different. God bless all the single women out there fighting strong to raise their children, and may God help the men to step up and play the role of fathers.
oanochie 1 year ago
@oanochie Oh cool! Yeah My dad is a loser and I havent had a relationship with him for almost 15yrs. My boyfriends dad has been in and out also but is around now. But his experience with his dad makes him want to be the best father he can be and he is such a great hands on dad!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
I've read it's very normal and can last up until 2 years old (approx.)
pvelaz78 1 year ago
@pvelaz78 Yes I know, my boyfriends son is almost 4 and he just started getting better about 8months ago
shortysgs03 1 year ago
Good advice!
parentsask 1 year ago
You have a gorgeous daughter, what about rice milk or soy milk they're healthier for adults so my an option?? That aside, stay positive and keep using the positive assertive energy. I meant to post this on your other vid.
Njuzu07 1 year ago
@Njuzu07 Oh yes shes much better with the milk now not a problem! Thank you!!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
is it normal to see a child who is 19 months old and still haven't talk yet ?
by the way he a boy lol but peoples from outsides tells me it normal since girls talk early before them so im kinda worried that he wont talk until he turns 2
choo403 1 year ago
@choo403 Dont worry all kids develope at different rates boy or girl, but Im noe expert so I would definately recommend talking to your doctor
shortysgs03 1 year ago
I think you are an amazing mom from all you've said. Its normal for a child to develop separation anxiety from what I saw with my cousins and nephew. As long you reassure her of your love and she's surrounded by people you trust, she'll be fine.
About your mom and how you are not yet comfortable with leaving her babysit...she raised you, must have done good enuf job. Her earlier objection was probably about having a baby with a bf who already has a kid by another woman.
hippieCy08 1 year ago
@hippieCy08 Thank you! And I think you're right Now its all love but I know its a lot for a mother to swallow> Its all love now and we're doing great!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
I love how honest you are. I think it is really important for us moms to be honest with one another, it really helps. My mom is a psychologist and when I went through separation anxiety my mom told me this, "Obviously, you are doing something right. Until he's two and a half don't worry about it.". She was right!! He does very well around people now.
DarlingNikkie27 1 year ago
@DarlingNikkie27 I agree and thank you! two and a half...good to know!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
im am not a mom. i am actually 14.but i love babys and i love learning about babys. and you are so great. u seen like a wonderful mommy. your daughter is so cute..
brianaray10 1 year ago
my mom told me to always talk to my daughter even when she was very little and explain what is goin on. at this stage she has fear that if u leave u wont come back. begin explaining why u leave and tell her mommy will be back. i felt guilty, but at some point i had to go bac to work and i needed me time every now and then :-)
unelson 1 year ago
I will keep you posted on how it goes....my mom and hubby arent excited but after talking to the daycare owner and discussing my reasoning she said it's really good for them to interact with other kids and people...and for me to get have at least a few hours of "me" time as well...btw love the blowout...
incognegra143 1 year ago
@incognegra143 baby steps! I took my daughter to a class at Gymboree and she LOVED it! But at the end of the class there was a flea in her hair!! So I may try another location but she really enjoyed playing with the other babies! Im working on a gym membership so hopefully in the next few months! Long time no see by the way ;]
shortysgs03 1 year ago
My son is 10 months old and the only time he doesnt mind me leaving the room is when other kids are around.I'm a stay and home mom and still breastfeed so Im sure that has a lot to do with it.Due 2 the attachment it can get frustrating because I want to start bk the gym w/out feeling guilty. So I've decided that im taking him to a daycare that is directly across the street from the gym 3x's a week for 1/2 a day so he can play w other babies and realize that when I leave that i Will be bk...
incognegra143 1 year ago
You are absolutely gorgeous and have a great personality. You seem like a great mom!
crimsoncali 1 year ago
@crimsoncali Thank you so much!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
Very informative your hair always looks great I love it curly and straight.
musicjzz 1 year ago
I really like your hair that way.
gucci51080 1 year ago
theres a great center that I found out about while working at a daycare center im looking into it for my lil one.....google them im sure theres one in ur area its called gymboree....great way for u to meet other moms and londyn would be around babies her age...and its fun! my daughter is in daycare while i go to school and she has developed tremendously...love ur hair and makeup in this video hun...looking forward to more vids
HoneyK1020 1 year ago
@HoneyK1020 Ill look that up thank you!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
Get her around other children ASAP , lol I didn't socialize my youngest ( she's almost 11) until she was 3. I sent her to a K-3 program the same year my oldest went to kindergarten I wish that I had joined some sort of play group earlier so that way she would be around other children besides her sister & cousins.
1stHumesgirl 1 year ago
@1stHumesgirl I have looked online for the Mom and baby play groups and cant find any in my area, but i I could get involved with something like that, it would be perfect!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
I love what you said about how you decided to continue on with the pregnancy so its your responisibility to be with her and not push her off on to everyone else. Thats a great and responsible mentality and I wish more young moms thought this way. I love all of your videos. I dont even have a baby and I love this series too lol.Good luck with everything!
BabyLove6290 1 year ago 5
@BabyLove6290 Thank you so much!
shortysgs03 1 year ago
OMG!!!!! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR HAIR THIS WAY!!! Gorgeous!!!
BiracialBrittany 1 year ago 5
OMG!!!!! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR HAIR THIS WAY!!! Gorgeous!!!
BiracialBrittany 1 year ago
OMG!!!!! I ABSOLUTELY LOVE YOUR HAIR THIS WAY!!! Gorgeous!!!
BiracialBrittany 1 year ago