I could tell by watching this, that you are as confused and fucked up as me right now! And I hope it doesn't just happen to straight people, being swept off your feet; 'cause that's what I want.
you're going to find out the hard way that relationships are not everything. they don't make you happy, and they are not the ultimate thing that makes people happy. look at people in their 40's, 50's and beyond that were married for 20 years or more and get a divorce. be true to yourself first, and be happy as a single guy. gay or straight, relationships don't happen like in the movies. AND MAKE SURE TO FUCKING WEAR CONDOMS ALWAYS!
AWW, I THINK YOUR LOOKING FOR IT IN THE WRONG PLACES, YOUR TWO PICKY, DONT SETTLE, BUT YOU KNOW DONT HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS, IF YOUR FEELING SOMONE THAN GO WITH IT, SO WHAT IF HE IS A LIL CHUNKY OR A LIL SHORT, OR DOESNT HAVE THE SEX APPEAL YOU WANT OR WHATEVER YOU GET ME.!!
...just continue being proactive about it and at the same time living your life to the fullest ...I believe it's true when they say that the best things in life are worth waiting and fighting for...Personally, I don't even mind waiting till I'm 40 until I find that *special someone-although God knows I surely do not want to wait that long-___- haha! But you just gotta continue having faith man and do what you do best; dreamin and working hard to make those dreams come true. Good luck kiddo!=)
So as you said *patience is key here...you don't necessarily need gay friends...what you need is just *real friends...it would be AWESOME to have friends who are gay but you can still live a rich and fulfilling life without them...basically continue choosing who *you believe is worthy of being that *true friend regardless of their sexual orientation...and in terms of finding that significant other you just need to hang in there man and believe in what you want...don't put an age limit to it...
hey man! New subscriber here and I can SOOOOOO relate to this video! I am also a *hopeless romantic* but I prefer *hopeful lol...Actually, I know that is possible to find the guy/girl of my dreams and all I need to do is just continue being me and sharing myself with the world(just going out there a bit and not losing myself and my morals and ideologies in the process)...
Joaquin, I think the matter for you not finding a "gay lover" Is because, maybe in person you don't show your "Gayness"? Or gay people don't know your gay right off the back, but sometimes you do have to express something just to get something, if that makes sense? Maybe try doing some things that gay people do? Or how they act? But try experimenting! :)
@superocin Do you realize that your being so openly hateful toward a person that hasn't addressed you in any way to cause such attention, is pretty despicable and saddening on your part. I hope you realize this one day. <3
@chrispycrunchy86 I know. Im actually bad mouthing him to cure his gayness.. its a technique to know which is greater; his sexuality or his patriotism. LOL. kidding.. i just hate homos. ^^ peace out.
even though you're gay you don't really necessarily need gay friends to hang out to..all you need is someone who can actually trust you and can accept you for who you are and whatever you think you are. you just need to be proud of yourself, be yourself and everything will follow. though its hard sometime, well maybe most of the time, but yeah...you just need to think positive :D
Yea, i agree with you about the whole "should have gay friends thing." I have some but there not one's that i can hang out with~~long story. The reason you should have them is because it's kind of like a support, and it's people that you share something in common and can share your closest thoughts with, not that you can have things in common with straight people, but there's a difference. They're gonna b able to relate to things with you others can't.
Fuz is fun. Love the music. Lots of downe peeps are single into their 30s =X and I usually take the boys outside the club to make out with them .. away from judgement =X .
this is thee first time i have seen one of your videos and i tottally relate, im gonna watch ur other videos but on just seeing that video i feel exactly the same way!
I agree with you to an extent. i mean but your sort of discriminating against the gay community without even realizing it. You address it in the video which is good and have become aware of why your single. We must take risk in life as i'm pretty sure your aware of so making gay friends not ppl to date is good because you have stuff in common
I think being gay is hard for a lot of asian ppl because many asian cultures are family oriented and you don't want to shame your family and of course its nothing to be ashamed about, but when societal tradition exists its hard to be expressive.
I agree w/ jdnesbeth27 too cause I actually do have a few gay friends, but all they want is to get naked and hug or stuff and I might not be into them or just not ready yet.
Agree w/ KingJustin2010. Its hard for people in our community to find friends like us. They're out there, but it can be hard to pick them out of such a diverse crowd. You don't want to make a mistake. At least there's a network of us, here online.
Aww, dude I'm a hopeless romantic too and I'm like you, waiting for that right girl. I'm a lesbian btw. Its happened for gay people I know, just be patient hon.
i'm very selective when it comes to my friends in general. I have preconceieved notions of gay people usually do to because I was active in the "gay community". now i think its' hard to trust alot of gay guys. It's hard to find a good BF inside a club too. i mean yeah it's possible. don't get me wrong there are some good gays out there to trust :)
those stories of love at first sight they do exist i have seen them happen ... not to me sadly .. but its harder with gay ppl because its just so rare, theres just less of a chance then with straight ppl to meet sombody just like that.. we have our clubs and other forms of night life and our online dating sites, it sucks but what can we do.
DUDE!!! OMG...i freakin now wat yur talking about!!! cuz like...i want gay friendz but Also..I DONT wanna b wit just guyz cuz THERE GAY..you know...and like i put up like Emotional Barriers plus...the whole single thing..i think its because i really dont get out enough to like Gay Places..i know gay people but ...I DONT...i dunno BUT DUDE...we have soo Much in Common ...i know wat your talking about
OMG! This is an old vid but i totally understand the age thingy. I mean i'm pretty young still but I don't want to be the 40 yr old gay guy that's still looking for "love" lol. And I think one of the problems is that a lot of gay guys aren't like you or even me who want relationships. A lot of guys just want to "test drive". EHHH NOT KOOL!
Love is love bbyboy, it doesnt have a gender. So there are stories like that for anyone and everyone. Ive only started to watch ur videos so im not sure if uve found that someone yet, but like you said. Patience is key. =] xoxo
i was saying the same thing the other day that i dont have any gay friends,i really mean this you are an inspiration really,i know the next videos are gonna be fine. and no madie656 he's not gay,he's gonna marry me remember and i'm a girl (smiling.
i dont have any straight friends :P or gay friends! haha. i only have female friends. Well i mean, i have straight guy friends, but like, im not all that close to them. Straight guys automatically think im wierd or some shit like that. uh. whatever. but hey! your cute. haha.
I think I'm the same way with relationships. And it feels like it takes forever, but I've learned... one day at a time... (it works for me, for now. LOL.)
This video is cute. You just need to take your time, you are a really cute and sweet guy. So a boyfriend will come, no doubt about that! And hey, friends are more important than a boyfriend right?
There are plenty of guys sitting at home (or anywhere else), watching your videos, listening to what you have to say and are in complete agreement because they are, if not in the exact same situation, in a similar one. Where do you meet those guys?
and its all bullshit...ugly people live happily ever after as well as homosexuals and any other minority in this country...aka anyone who isnt white rich and gorgeous! watevs mexicans are gonna take over soon so watch out babe...here we come lmao !!! MWAH ;)
I got soo much to say ; "I need gay friends to functio" reminded me of mean girls where hes too gay to function hilarious! The ending about the guy who you want to just appreciate you to no end and make you feel like your worth the world and every minute of his time! That right there made me wanna cry...foreal lmao its stupid but i just wanted to hug you! and at the end where your like gays still get that right lmao ..it was like the whole cinderella thing the ugliesdont get a happilyever after
you're so interesting to listen to..whether it be when your speaking about being gay.. or whether your speaking with misscarolinexoxo..or even your 6 words.. you're great..if i was gay i'd be your friend..:) your gay series is great..am working my way through them..
wow i actually teared up watching this but i feel you boy. i can honestly say your an inspiration to those going through what you are going through. and don't trip that you won't find that "person." that day will eventually come. i wish you the best.
this made me a little emo as well. thanks alot! lol ;) naw... very moving. made me think a lot. maybe too much? i dunno. well thanks for sharing your heart.
hey joaquin, my name's mimi =) just wanted to say hi and also that fairy tale endings DO happen to everybody.
it's hard, i'll admit, putting yourself out there in hopes of having that perfect someone stumble across your path isn't all cakes and sprinkles.
i'm not gay, but i'm openly bisexual and in a way i can kind of understand the frustrations. ha, i'm not much help and i'm rambling, but just wanted to say keep your head up 'cause prince charming sometimes really is right around the corner =)
Good for you man... Very proud of you for finally coming out. I hope the transition isn't to difficult for you. you're a chill guy and i wish you the best.
so, when you see couples in the club kissing and whatnot, you feel jealous and sad that you can't have something like that? cuz if i were you, i would.. =(
aaaw..just by watching this...ilikejoaquin too..ur a cutie, why if i wasn't a married straight filipina..i might just be looking to be your gay lover..! I realize this vlog was way back in July and I haven't watched the rest of ur vids I hope ur one step closer to finding that true life movie romance...excuse me while i go press the subscribe button..kisses MizisG
i don't feel sorry for you but i really wish you, truly wish you the BEST OF LIFE... just hang-on. who knows right... :) hold onto HOPE... i believe that there is one person that match us... :) kudos....
dude, i totally feel you... I mean, you're not just gonna settle for something like "just to have someone" I mean we all want to have someone but its that someone who is totally and can make us feel complete and satisfied. One hard thing that is happening in our life, my life and to those who are single since... it totally hunts us, no matter how we say that we are happy but then it hunts us so much...
even tho im just 17 i can totally relate to you, and i don't have any gay friends, heh =/ and your videos are very inspiring and just plain good luck to you man - Matt
who cares if someones gay?? why should it be a big deal if one of your friends are gay? im chill wiht gay ppl they dont bother or bug or freak me out cus there are the same as me. if they were hitting or flirting with me thats another story i would just tell them look im sorry but im not gay but im down to be your freind butmaybe thats just how i was raised i dunno i just hate when ppl are all i dont wanna hang with him becouse he's gay.
stories like that do not only exsist for straight people. they exsist for people in general...and last time i checked gay people were human beings. just be patient. since you have standards ur most likely going to get that one guy who will sweep you off of your feet.
tons of respect for you for doing this. I'm not gay, but I know that there are other people out there that feel the same way you do and need to hear this :)
I have similar trepidations about relationships and feelings about gay friends. The majority of my close friends are straight and I wouldn't have it any other way, but being gay can be esoteric and having a group of gay can be make situations as such more tangible. Keep truckin' and exhaust all possible ways until you find your niche.
LGBT centers is another avenue in cultivating a rapport with similar people cuz it's an org that focuses on important issues. Plus, they don't speak from an alcohol induced standpoint =P in regards to your blog about how you think every guy is gay until proven otherwise, I am right there with you! esp. with the Filipino gangsta boo's, they be lyin' sometimes! They are suspect! At any rate, props for those blogs, I'm sure it resonates with a lot of who feel the same, but cant quite say it yet.
I'm gay, I live in the Bay area, and I go to Fuz sometimes...I'll be your gay friend :) haha...naw but really tho I TOTALLY feel you about the couples in the gay clubs...If I'm sober, I tend to start getting depressed too
I'll be yer gay friend! cuz yer fuckin adorable! & im not crazi && i got a boo that i don't make out with n tha club && ya im movin 2 elk grove this spring
I like this new series you have started. Being gay is hard enough as it is but wthout gay friends its even harder. if you want a long distance gay friend hit me up
that's right, just be cool with your life, look at me, I'm in my 30's, gay and still single(sigh!) but hey! what the heck I'm cool and happy with my life .
Hopeless romantic? Haha, I don't think it just happens between straight people. But don't just dwell on that "movie scene" moment, let if flow you know? Would be nice though. Haha.
:P but dont u just wish that it was always like that tho ughhh people in hollywood need to quit playing and making us believe things that dont happen hahah
But I do love it when movie moments like that do happen. Even though it is a typical scene it never seems to get played out. You know? Haha, Idk. Random.
Listen, dont think so hard kay? (: ur awesome and anyone who knows you is very, very lucky(((: you dont have to have gay friends to function. Anyone who is close to you (as a friend of course...(:) will chill and have coffee with you. GO OUT! Be yourself like you are with us on YouTube. Get out there and make a move man (((: You dont need gay friends for that! Go get your man (: .... dont be emo joaquin. Goshness :D
I don't wanna say I feel the same as you, but I never had a boyfriend, been to clubs like 2-4 times, i lost count but it was depressing cause everytime I went to the club, u see everyone happy and with ppl however it just makes u realize how alone you are. I also don't drink... so I'm always alert of it... You don't have to be ugly to be single, or alone I should say... but yeah I'm one of those people that waiting for romance, and I too am afraid of becoming the 40 yr old virgin.
It's sorta.. well no because I actually suffer from depression, it is depressing.. You see these people so happy, and what are "we" doing... busting our ass at work 40 hours a week, being used by everyone even our family cause of generosity, having no one to relate to cause there aren't those type of people around you. I'm scared to even date, cause. I dunno, I guess its just what I desire is like way out there, to fall inlove with one and stay with them forever. I don't wanna be divorced/left.
on the reals though about its kinda wierd macin at the club and doin all that. but it kinda sux cuz ya be feelin like you do need someone. you miss the feeling of havin someone. i feel ya on that. i also like to put myself in those romantic movies. i feel ya so much on that.
i feel ya on that lackin on a friend, gay friend to you. i feel that im lacking a friend that i can be comfortable in sharing whats in my mind.
feeling of lackin a certain friend and lacking that companionship. i feel ya
damm dude. dont think to hard . ever one has . some one . to care for them. .=on earth . im sright.. but i have .lots at work . and there . cool with me. .. look . .. youll be ok . yay . kool . friend.
good one .. im admired that you would do dat ..in a video especially lolz umm yea well i kno that itz hard not having gay friends cuz i kno that they could relate to you better then regular onez you kno but just dont trip you'll be ok cuz even if you dont got gay friendz you got straight friendz who will be there for you trhough da thik and thin just chill and take it easy alrite lov yah deucez
Yeah...i think you should take your own advice and chill, cos the harder you try to find your significant other the more it seems to elude you. when ur in a chilled state then it wont seem so painful....and someday soon ur Mr Right will sweep you off you feet...stay sweet
hahaha i look like a gangster? haha thanks? well to be honest, not all gay people look like the stereotypical gay person people play them off to be. i for one dont think i am, i have gay tendencies to play that "gay" role, but thats just not me. hey you never know, someone close to you might be gay, but is just in the closet so just be mindful of what you say =P. anyway thanks for sharing and subscribing =] HOLLAH
Noah's Ark lol.. ye it's hard in the downe scene.. especially being filipino or also havin strict families. word up to you man, just keep doin wat u doin and you'll find that One soon..trust
i love noahs arc! ahhhhhhhh. but yeahhh filipino families + gay = hard times. agree. but yeah, i think im not too worried about that ONE, but i am worried about my social life with gay folks haha. :P thanks for the thoughts tho. by the way im going to name my future son garett cause i think its hella sexy hahaha
i could always be your gbf (gay best friend) on youtube! we can go shopping together! haha. anyways, i think your videos are always so inspiring and interesting as always. i wish you could reply back to me sometimes :( but oh wells, i hope everything goes well with you. & just keep your head up high-- don't find love, let love find you!&forget about fuz, go to LA and hit up RAGE :D
& yes gay+ straight people feel the same. you're silly. haha. you'll find someone soon, just be optimistic :)
i hella understand ur situation with the whole not having many gay frnd because thats how i used to be till recently but once u got them it helps hella much truthfully. Any ways i been to FuZ once and i didnt like it cuz every one is so cliquey and no one really mingled. any way you'll find somone =]] btw ur vids are always fun to watch =]
yeahhhh real talk...gay friends = functionality. but yeah i agree, people be staring at you and muggin the fuck outta you. and you feel like they talking behind your back. its like WTF!??? yeah i dont like the gay scene so much cause its sometimes full of assholes like that. shrugs. but hopefully i do find someone :P hehe thanks
joaquinnnnn! tell me why.. i'm your friend on downelink and you NEVER talk to me.. even when i see you on campus =\ well just letting you know that if you need someone to talk to or anything.. i'm here. and guess what?! i go to SFSU also. for real... lets kick it. see ya around campus when school starts! and when i see you.. I WILL say hi. haha finally. <3
hahah i dont have a downelink anymore!!! haha anyway i need more lesbian friends. real talk. actually i just need lesbian friends haha i think theyre cute and fun =0 LIKE YOUHHHH haha aww hopefully you say hi to me and we become friends! :D haha anyway hit me up on myspace or facebook if you want =] love krista :D
hahah yesss! making new gay friends is ALWAYS fun! message me your myspace or email so its not all out in the open for the world to see. love joaquin <3333
thank you so much for the sweet message you wrote me and just opening up to me. thank you. im glad i could reach out like that. thanks for being a buddy man =]
dude i went for a quick minute to fuz for the first time and it was iight.. Never really been motivated to just go haha. haha You need gay friends and straight friends. A good escape if one group gets too bleh u know??. DUDE! and haha if youre on DL, everyones done everyone pretty much. haha. You'll find someone though.. hella feel you on the couples thing though.
yeahhh i was never really motivated to go. i only went cause of my friends wanting to go and before because of fysh and chicks...but its whhhhateverrrrrr. yes it gets bleh. agree everyones done everyone hahahahahahaa. :P thanks buddy
I don't have a group of gay friends, either. I happen to like having straight friends around, weird. "To function", I completely understand that. You feel you can't be yourself, when in all actuality, you are being yourself. Couples at the club annoy me as well... Oh, well. We'll get through. Same sit. here... <3
i dunno its just some things that gay people and other gay folks get that straight folks will never get ya know. and im all for straight friends cause i have hella of em, but now its more like alright i need to find my own people in a way you know. its like our own culture. we try to find whats pilipino now...rather than just sticking to what we know is american. gets? well yeah...couples at clubs ughhh esp when they kiss right next to you LOL haha.
mahh nigg it NEVER gets easier for gay people. i think you only need ONE gay friend, all my life i've only ever had one gay friend and we fell in love with eachother. Kinda fairytale-ish? Most people are cautious on who they invest their time in but you have to take that risk or you'll be stuck with what you have. jst open up a lil and you'll see that it'll take you to places you've always wanted to be at. hit it bk when it's nothin.
thanks for the advice. yeahh it never does. but i really feel i need to find that ONE or maybe a group. but yeah i totally agree, if it happens, id be happy with just one. but yeah i think its taking the risk thats preventing me from doing it, but we'll see. thanks tho =]
I could tell by watching this, that you are as confused and fucked up as me right now! And I hope it doesn't just happen to straight people, being swept off your feet; 'cause that's what I want.
CoreyAMG 3 weeks ago
This music in the back round is soo;;;
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kayno9167 3 weeks ago
Amen sister! you are so amazing!
sailorsimon1 1 month ago
I'm A Hopeless Romantic As Well !!!
Never Had A Boyfriend !!
Erickloksz94 1 month ago
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sweetpinay123456789 4 months ago
you're going to find out the hard way that relationships are not everything. they don't make you happy, and they are not the ultimate thing that makes people happy. look at people in their 40's, 50's and beyond that were married for 20 years or more and get a divorce. be true to yourself first, and be happy as a single guy. gay or straight, relationships don't happen like in the movies. AND MAKE SURE TO FUCKING WEAR CONDOMS ALWAYS!
DavidJosephDanbee 5 months ago
awww i know how it is! eventually u just want someone instead of being alone.
ccfan81 8 months ago
AWW, I THINK YOUR LOOKING FOR IT IN THE WRONG PLACES, YOUR TWO PICKY, DONT SETTLE, BUT YOU KNOW DONT HAVE HIGH EXPECTATIONS, IF YOUR FEELING SOMONE THAN GO WITH IT, SO WHAT IF HE IS A LIL CHUNKY OR A LIL SHORT, OR DOESNT HAVE THE SEX APPEAL YOU WANT OR WHATEVER YOU GET ME.!!
arturohewrote 11 months ago
...just continue being proactive about it and at the same time living your life to the fullest ...I believe it's true when they say that the best things in life are worth waiting and fighting for...Personally, I don't even mind waiting till I'm 40 until I find that *special someone-although God knows I surely do not want to wait that long-___- haha! But you just gotta continue having faith man and do what you do best; dreamin and working hard to make those dreams come true. Good luck kiddo!=)
jahvin88 1 year ago
So as you said *patience is key here...you don't necessarily need gay friends...what you need is just *real friends...it would be AWESOME to have friends who are gay but you can still live a rich and fulfilling life without them...basically continue choosing who *you believe is worthy of being that *true friend regardless of their sexual orientation...and in terms of finding that significant other you just need to hang in there man and believe in what you want...don't put an age limit to it...
jahvin88 1 year ago
hey man! New subscriber here and I can SOOOOOO relate to this video! I am also a *hopeless romantic* but I prefer *hopeful lol...Actually, I know that is possible to find the guy/girl of my dreams and all I need to do is just continue being me and sharing myself with the world(just going out there a bit and not losing myself and my morals and ideologies in the process)...
jahvin88 1 year ago
i am gay, and i'll be your friend
jdcinsf 1 year ago
come to america........
driverain2 1 year ago
Joaquin, I think the matter for you not finding a "gay lover" Is because, maybe in person you don't show your "Gayness"? Or gay people don't know your gay right off the back, but sometimes you do have to express something just to get something, if that makes sense? Maybe try doing some things that gay people do? Or how they act? But try experimenting! :)
stewartolmedo10 1 year ago
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FAGGOT!! giving my country a bad name!
superocin 1 year ago
@superocin baby this country is giving itself a bad name regardless of gays LOL
ilikejoaquin 1 year ago
@superocin Being so hateful gives us a bad name dude!
silversteinAG 1 year ago
@superocin Do you realize that your being so openly hateful toward a person that hasn't addressed you in any way to cause such attention, is pretty despicable and saddening on your part. I hope you realize this one day. <3
chrispycrunchy86 1 year ago
@chrispycrunchy86 I know. Im actually bad mouthing him to cure his gayness.. its a technique to know which is greater; his sexuality or his patriotism. LOL. kidding.. i just hate homos. ^^ peace out.
superocin 1 year ago
@superocin aww, can I give you a man hug. yes homo. :)
chrispycrunchy86 1 year ago
sigh im currently goin threw this sigh
its like u took my thoughts and vlogged them
prepzila 1 year ago
Aww you looked like you were about to cry =)
but I understand you on this I have the same situation too.
Just hang in there friends will come around.
TheALEXdoa 1 year ago
even though you're gay you don't really necessarily need gay friends to hang out to..all you need is someone who can actually trust you and can accept you for who you are and whatever you think you are. you just need to be proud of yourself, be yourself and everything will follow. though its hard sometime, well maybe most of the time, but yeah...you just need to think positive :D
BRAVOASHLEY 1 year ago
Yea, i agree with you about the whole "should have gay friends thing." I have some but there not one's that i can hang out with~~long story. The reason you should have them is because it's kind of like a support, and it's people that you share something in common and can share your closest thoughts with, not that you can have things in common with straight people, but there's a difference. They're gonna b able to relate to things with you others can't.
yoka955 1 year ago
Fuz is fun. Love the music. Lots of downe peeps are single into their 30s =X and I usually take the boys outside the club to make out with them .. away from judgement =X .
letopho 1 year ago
this is thee first time i have seen one of your videos and i tottally relate, im gonna watch ur other videos but on just seeing that video i feel exactly the same way!
spectrum101 1 year ago
I agree with you to an extent. i mean but your sort of discriminating against the gay community without even realizing it. You address it in the video which is good and have become aware of why your single. We must take risk in life as i'm pretty sure your aware of so making gay friends not ppl to date is good because you have stuff in common
NZavala18 1 year ago
UR a handsome Pinoy!
costales84 1 year ago
yur super cutee!!!!!
danielababee 1 year ago
i totally feel u on that. I'm pretty much at the same age and at the same state with my life. super appreciate you talkin about it. thanks brotha.
dk654321 2 years ago
omgee your so soft spoken and cute but in a strange way it just makes me want to see you when your pissed off.... that kinda turns me on.
DK5Fan4lyfe 2 years ago
see, i told you i'd comment! this one is my favorite. so cute<3. awhs.
maaaattxD 2 years ago
Believe me I know what it is like because I am a black gay guy. Btw you are a cute gaysian.
ItsYaManJ 2 years ago
I feel ur frustrations, its complicated.
I think being gay is hard for a lot of asian ppl because many asian cultures are family oriented and you don't want to shame your family and of course its nothing to be ashamed about, but when societal tradition exists its hard to be expressive.
Rzaz0921 2 years ago
I agree w/ jdnesbeth27 too cause I actually do have a few gay friends, but all they want is to get naked and hug or stuff and I might not be into them or just not ready yet.
Rzaz0921 2 years ago
Agree w/ KingJustin2010. Its hard for people in our community to find friends like us. They're out there, but it can be hard to pick them out of such a diverse crowd. You don't want to make a mistake. At least there's a network of us, here online.
Rzaz0921 2 years ago
We share ALOT of the samee concerns! I'm glad to see i'm not aloe out here in the world..THNX!
KingJustin2010 2 years ago
You sound so sweet.
ntmaerrett 2 years ago 4
dude! i love ur lips! my eyes r just glued to them!!..(:
sparkeycampos 2 years ago 2
OMG im am the same mine are all straight lol But I feel like if I meet a gay person they just want to have sex and 4/5 times im right sadly...
jdnesbeth27 2 years ago
i think being gay is hard period. regardless of race :/...
props to you for doing these vlogs! :)
blah369 2 years ago
Dude your HOT...if you were straight Id totally date you
MsAshonte 2 years ago 3
You are too cute and sexy. I am so glad you "play for our team".
mancheeks64 2 years ago
Im gay.. and Im a filipiNo =) cOOL! uR not Alone Jar! =)
TheChez1020 2 years ago
ima subsrcibe yu. yur amazing !
chrisjlv15 2 years ago
of course this stuff happens to gay people :) its happening to me x]
chrisjlv15 2 years ago
hey i'll be ya gay friend...im very open minded... honest... opinionated...
nygndanyc 2 years ago
what software do u use to edit ur videos??
da12nvmp 2 years ago
gay friends to relate to
LatinshawtyTS 2 years ago
I'm lesbian and all my friends are lesbian too. It's kinda hard sometimes. Lots of drama since we kinda all date with each other too. XD
LuwBren 2 years ago
I know you probably get this all the time, but you look like Tiger Woods, lol!!!
gun15509 2 years ago
I have a group of friends who don't think they are gay, lol.
rauron9 2 years ago
<3 i really love your videos.
theflipgurl 2 years ago
UR CUTE
CYRINTHIA212 2 years ago
Aww, I have lot of gay friends and i know how you feel, but hey your still young babe you'll be ok ;)
TiaLoren28 2 years ago
OMG no joke watching this almost made me cry...Im going through almost exactly the same thing as you!!!...
jasonstandart 2 years ago
Aww, dude I'm a hopeless romantic too and I'm like you, waiting for that right girl. I'm a lesbian btw. Its happened for gay people I know, just be patient hon.
orchidsunderthemoon 2 years ago
i'm very selective when it comes to my friends in general. I have preconceieved notions of gay people usually do to because I was active in the "gay community". now i think its' hard to trust alot of gay guys. It's hard to find a good BF inside a club too. i mean yeah it's possible. don't get me wrong there are some good gays out there to trust :)
nicklivesinkalihi 2 years ago
those stories of love at first sight they do exist i have seen them happen ... not to me sadly .. but its harder with gay ppl because its just so rare, theres just less of a chance then with straight ppl to meet sombody just like that.. we have our clubs and other forms of night life and our online dating sites, it sucks but what can we do.
great video :D
deepblue301 3 years ago
stories like that do exist. wait for it...
smoothinak 3 years ago
i need gay friends also, i moved from my one tru gay friend to follow my dreams in nyc. and im also a a hopeless romantic as well
dbones1984 3 years ago
DUDE!!! OMG...i freakin now wat yur talking about!!! cuz like...i want gay friendz but Also..I DONT wanna b wit just guyz cuz THERE GAY..you know...and like i put up like Emotional Barriers plus...the whole single thing..i think its because i really dont get out enough to like Gay Places..i know gay people but ...I DONT...i dunno BUT DUDE...we have soo Much in Common ...i know wat your talking about
bluedude09 3 years ago
OMG! This is an old vid but i totally understand the age thingy. I mean i'm pretty young still but I don't want to be the 40 yr old gay guy that's still looking for "love" lol. And I think one of the problems is that a lot of gay guys aren't like you or even me who want relationships. A lot of guys just want to "test drive". EHHH NOT KOOL!
K7J7P2 3 years ago
Love is love bbyboy, it doesnt have a gender. So there are stories like that for anyone and everyone. Ive only started to watch ur videos so im not sure if uve found that someone yet, but like you said. Patience is key. =] xoxo
steezybeats 3 years ago
i was saying the same thing the other day that i dont have any gay friends,i really mean this you are an inspiration really,i know the next videos are gonna be fine. and no madie656 he's not gay,he's gonna marry me remember and i'm a girl (smiling.
autolinkfun33 3 years ago
So jw, in a relationship, would you rather play the girl? or the guy?
soejammm 3 years ago
your so cute.
i dont have any straight friends :P or gay friends! haha. i only have female friends. Well i mean, i have straight guy friends, but like, im not all that close to them. Straight guys automatically think im wierd or some shit like that. uh. whatever. but hey! your cute. haha.
soejammm 3 years ago
Understanding and caring straight friends are just as good as *gay* friends. Gay is not a monolith.
Would you prefer a narcissistic gay friend over or a caring straight one? No? Focus on quality friends not a specific group.
Also, If you're basing your self-worth on who you're with/being with *someone*, then you're only focusing on one piece of being a person.
You're like homeboy-emo.
loopy77 3 years ago
That "hopeless romantic" story was adorable.
I think I'm the same way with relationships. And it feels like it takes forever, but I've learned... one day at a time... (it works for me, for now. LOL.)
RUTGERSpaul 3 years ago
This video is cute. You just need to take your time, you are a really cute and sweet guy. So a boyfriend will come, no doubt about that! And hey, friends are more important than a boyfriend right?
ericos 3 years ago
There are plenty of guys sitting at home (or anywhere else), watching your videos, listening to what you have to say and are in complete agreement because they are, if not in the exact same situation, in a similar one. Where do you meet those guys?
Not a damn clue.
ilovesecondhandsmoke 3 years ago
i can't catch up..
are you gay?
madie656 3 years ago
or...or...you could like marry me... lets be foreal here...i feel a connection! jk but your the best new crush ! foreal lmao foreal
juaneezy19910209 3 years ago
We should totally be best friends bitch...um yea !!! HUH ..OMG am i smart or what...!!!
juaneezy19910209 3 years ago
and its all bullshit...ugly people live happily ever after as well as homosexuals and any other minority in this country...aka anyone who isnt white rich and gorgeous! watevs mexicans are gonna take over soon so watch out babe...here we come lmao !!! MWAH ;)
juaneezy19910209 3 years ago
I got soo much to say ; "I need gay friends to functio" reminded me of mean girls where hes too gay to function hilarious! The ending about the guy who you want to just appreciate you to no end and make you feel like your worth the world and every minute of his time! That right there made me wanna cry...foreal lmao its stupid but i just wanted to hug you! and at the end where your like gays still get that right lmao ..it was like the whole cinderella thing the ugliesdont get a happilyever after
juaneezy19910209 3 years ago
and lacking gay friends...is harder.
i TOTALLY fuckin agree!@! its so hard when you lack a gay community for support!! tear!
juaneezy19910209 3 years ago
ur cute
mlysenior 3 years ago 6
you're so interesting to listen to..whether it be when your speaking about being gay.. or whether your speaking with misscarolinexoxo..or even your 6 words.. you're great..if i was gay i'd be your friend..:) your gay series is great..am working my way through them..
Nancee76 3 years ago
Dont Worry. Its Okay, I barely have any friends. And I've never been in a REAL relationship either. You're not alone.
Patience has never been something that I've been good at, I always want instant results but it never happens.
Droopy321 3 years ago
wow i actually teared up watching this but i feel you boy. i can honestly say your an inspiration to those going through what you are going through. and don't trip that you won't find that "person." that day will eventually come. i wish you the best.
turkey408 3 years ago
this made me a little emo as well. thanks alot! lol ;) naw... very moving. made me think a lot. maybe too much? i dunno. well thanks for sharing your heart.
rob(zilla)
iamrobzilla 3 years ago
you can call me when you need to talk. :) im not gay, but im bi!
KRZYZDOLL83 3 years ago
aww if i was gay and a guy i wud be ur friend.
ACRK05 3 years ago
hey joaquin, my name's mimi =) just wanted to say hi and also that fairy tale endings DO happen to everybody.
it's hard, i'll admit, putting yourself out there in hopes of having that perfect someone stumble across your path isn't all cakes and sprinkles.
i'm not gay, but i'm openly bisexual and in a way i can kind of understand the frustrations. ha, i'm not much help and i'm rambling, but just wanted to say keep your head up 'cause prince charming sometimes really is right around the corner =)
hotmihomia 3 years ago
Good for you man... Very proud of you for finally coming out. I hope the transition isn't to difficult for you. you're a chill guy and i wish you the best.
Reubnate88 3 years ago
when you said that you know what you want you automatically leave out alot of guys who you would benefit from being with
agoodgirlNOT 3 years ago
so, when you see couples in the club kissing and whatnot, you feel jealous and sad that you can't have something like that? cuz if i were you, i would.. =(
XR0N4LDX 3 years ago
hmmm, i got a question. why is it hard to be gay AND being FILIPINO?
XR0N4LDX 3 years ago
cause i am =(
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
you know i can be your friend because i really need the inspiration to keep going in this lifestyle.
jmarrlelbee 3 years ago
hehe aww thanks :P
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
aaaw..just by watching this...ilikejoaquin too..ur a cutie, why if i wasn't a married straight filipina..i might just be looking to be your gay lover..! I realize this vlog was way back in July and I haven't watched the rest of ur vids I hope ur one step closer to finding that true life movie romance...excuse me while i go press the subscribe button..kisses MizisG
MizisG 3 years ago
hahahahhah this girl hahah :D thanks for all the love and feedback it really means a lot =] haha u better get it with your married self haha :D
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
i don't feel sorry for you but i really wish you, truly wish you the BEST OF LIFE... just hang-on. who knows right... :) hold onto HOPE... i believe that there is one person that match us... :) kudos....
Rhapsv 3 years ago
harts u
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
dude, i totally feel you... I mean, you're not just gonna settle for something like "just to have someone" I mean we all want to have someone but its that someone who is totally and can make us feel complete and satisfied. One hard thing that is happening in our life, my life and to those who are single since... it totally hunts us, no matter how we say that we are happy but then it hunts us so much...
Rhapsv 3 years ago
even tho im just 17 i can totally relate to you, and i don't have any gay friends, heh =/ and your videos are very inspiring and just plain good luck to you man - Matt
aznmatt5 3 years ago
thank u so much :P stay tuned..i got more where that came from hehe
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
who cares if someones gay?? why should it be a big deal if one of your friends are gay? im chill wiht gay ppl they dont bother or bug or freak me out cus there are the same as me. if they were hitting or flirting with me thats another story i would just tell them look im sorry but im not gay but im down to be your freind butmaybe thats just how i was raised i dunno i just hate when ppl are all i dont wanna hang with him becouse he's gay.
activesk8r91 3 years ago
word. word! haha "im not gay but im down to be your friend" ahhaha thats fun haha yeahh ure lucky u got raised well :P
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
ahha yeah ive grew up respecting the people around me im a lover not a fighter. =]
activesk8r91 3 years ago
hollllah!!! haha
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
exactly, i wish there were more straight people like you.
XR0N4LDX 3 years ago
stories like that do not only exsist for straight people. they exsist for people in general...and last time i checked gay people were human beings. just be patient. since you have standards ur most likely going to get that one guy who will sweep you off of your feet.
18tweety 3 years ago
tons of respect for you for doing this. I'm not gay, but I know that there are other people out there that feel the same way you do and need to hear this :)
xxpinklipgloss 3 years ago
thank u :) thank u
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
"finally" wasnt the correct word my bad haha.
iLLKiDDRAYY 3 years ago
finally your not wearing a hat in-doors, apparently you want to KEEP your hair lol.
iLLKiDDRAYY 3 years ago
hahaha ur funny
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
umm ur hot for a gay dude!
i still have much respect for you my guy cousin is hot but bisexual
ljpreyes 3 years ago
mmm did you just say that your cousin is hot?
awkward!!
xxpinklipgloss 3 years ago
yes i did say he is hot - we live in the modern times right? i had no other intentions but to mean that he looks good...
ljpreyes 3 years ago
ha ok
xxpinklipgloss 3 years ago
LOL like i said...hook it up? LOL
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
hahahah thanks? ...
hes hot but bisexual...mm ok? HAHA hook it up?
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
ceekayarr (16 hours ago)
HAHAHA ! You big doofus.
& Hello ilikejoaquin. =)
Its a shame You live so far away ( ... ) !
- that's my cousin's reply lol
ljpreyes 3 years ago
HAHAHA ! You big doofus.
& Hello ilikejoaquin. =)
Its a shame You live so far away ( ... ) !
ceekayarr 3 years ago
I have similar trepidations about relationships and feelings about gay friends. The majority of my close friends are straight and I wouldn't have it any other way, but being gay can be esoteric and having a group of gay can be make situations as such more tangible. Keep truckin' and exhaust all possible ways until you find your niche.
jpAKAauberella 3 years ago
word! thanks for the feedback
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
LGBT centers is another avenue in cultivating a rapport with similar people cuz it's an org that focuses on important issues. Plus, they don't speak from an alcohol induced standpoint =P in regards to your blog about how you think every guy is gay until proven otherwise, I am right there with you! esp. with the Filipino gangsta boo's, they be lyin' sometimes! They are suspect! At any rate, props for those blogs, I'm sure it resonates with a lot of who feel the same, but cant quite say it yet.
jpAKAauberella 3 years ago
esp. with the Filipino gangsta boo's, they be lyin' sometimes! LOL HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH oh man! thanks agian for the feedback
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I'm gay, I live in the Bay area, and I go to Fuz sometimes...I'll be your gay friend :) haha...naw but really tho I TOTALLY feel you about the couples in the gay clubs...If I'm sober, I tend to start getting depressed too
DTQ 3 years ago
aww yay be my gay friend? YAY :D hahah yeah if im sober im emo hahah jp =]
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I'll be yer gay friend! cuz yer fuckin adorable! & im not crazi && i got a boo that i don't make out with n tha club && ya im movin 2 elk grove this spring
lilbodhi07 3 years ago
ahah aww ur fun :D
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I like this new series you have started. Being gay is hard enough as it is but wthout gay friends its even harder. if you want a long distance gay friend hit me up
AustenRanDelTV 3 years ago
aww ure fun hart u
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
that's right, just be cool with your life, look at me, I'm in my 30's, gay and still single(sigh!) but hey! what the heck I'm cool and happy with my life .
ttomador 3 years ago
good as long as you happy
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I'm a gay too and have a gay friend who is my chief as well, but I like to have a gay friend like joaquin as well!
ttomador 3 years ago
aww hart u
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
ugh i HATE "those couples". but i know how ya feel.... it kinda makes me sad :/
SilverSpoons 3 years ago
Hopeless romantic? Haha, I don't think it just happens between straight people. But don't just dwell on that "movie scene" moment, let if flow you know? Would be nice though. Haha.
simonxauby 3 years ago
:P but dont u just wish that it was always like that tho ughhh people in hollywood need to quit playing and making us believe things that dont happen hahah
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
But I do love it when movie moments like that do happen. Even though it is a typical scene it never seems to get played out. You know? Haha, Idk. Random.
simonxauby 3 years ago
word i feel ya
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
80srulez 3 years ago
:P thanksss <3
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I don't wanna say I feel the same as you, but I never had a boyfriend, been to clubs like 2-4 times, i lost count but it was depressing cause everytime I went to the club, u see everyone happy and with ppl however it just makes u realize how alone you are. I also don't drink... so I'm always alert of it... You don't have to be ugly to be single, or alone I should say... but yeah I'm one of those people that waiting for romance, and I too am afraid of becoming the 40 yr old virgin.
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
It's sorta.. well no because I actually suffer from depression, it is depressing.. You see these people so happy, and what are "we" doing... busting our ass at work 40 hours a week, being used by everyone even our family cause of generosity, having no one to relate to cause there aren't those type of people around you. I'm scared to even date, cause. I dunno, I guess its just what I desire is like way out there, to fall inlove with one and stay with them forever. I don't wanna be divorced/left.
Ultimatenshi 3 years ago
on the reals though about its kinda wierd macin at the club and doin all that. but it kinda sux cuz ya be feelin like you do need someone. you miss the feeling of havin someone. i feel ya on that. i also like to put myself in those romantic movies. i feel ya so much on that.
i feel ya on that lackin on a friend, gay friend to you. i feel that im lacking a friend that i can be comfortable in sharing whats in my mind.
feeling of lackin a certain friend and lacking that companionship. i feel ya
CReyes510 3 years ago
thanks christine for your love and thoughts thanks!
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
damm dude. dont think to hard . ever one has . some one . to care for them. .=on earth . im sright.. but i have .lots at work . and there . cool with me. .. look . .. youll be ok . yay . kool . friend.
genmaster119 3 years ago
hahah youre fun? thanks for your thoughts.
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
mzlaughz13 3 years ago
Yeah...i think you should take your own advice and chill, cos the harder you try to find your significant other the more it seems to elude you. when ur in a chilled state then it wont seem so painful....and someday soon ur Mr Right will sweep you off you feet...stay sweet
ramihs 3 years ago
thank you thank you
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
OMG! i'm 26 and i dont have a bf....its the end of the world, sniff sniff sniff :(
ramihs 3 years ago
its alright :P ...you'll find yours
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
i knew that ur gay but it's all good. gay peeps are fun to be with...^^
jjolan02 3 years ago
ahah ... thanks? haha
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
omg ur gay?
BABYGHURLMARY 3 years ago
wow i don't know what to say,your really gay?you look like a gangster.anyways respect for coming out the closet
mikeokhurtz 3 years ago
hahaha i look like a gangster? haha thanks? well to be honest, not all gay people look like the stereotypical gay person people play them off to be. i for one dont think i am, i have gay tendencies to play that "gay" role, but thats just not me. hey you never know, someone close to you might be gay, but is just in the closet so just be mindful of what you say =P. anyway thanks for sharing and subscribing =] HOLLAH
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
Noah's Ark lol.. ye it's hard in the downe scene.. especially being filipino or also havin strict families. word up to you man, just keep doin wat u doin and you'll find that One soon..trust
MystaBadajos 3 years ago
i love noahs arc! ahhhhhhhh. but yeahhh filipino families + gay = hard times. agree. but yeah, i think im not too worried about that ONE, but i am worried about my social life with gay folks haha. :P thanks for the thoughts tho. by the way im going to name my future son garett cause i think its hella sexy hahaha
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
i could always be your gbf (gay best friend) on youtube! we can go shopping together! haha. anyways, i think your videos are always so inspiring and interesting as always. i wish you could reply back to me sometimes :( but oh wells, i hope everything goes well with you. & just keep your head up high-- don't find love, let love find you!&forget about fuz, go to LA and hit up RAGE :D
& yes gay+ straight people feel the same. you're silly. haha. you'll find someone soon, just be optimistic :)
raymonstah 3 years ago
i hella understand ur situation with the whole not having many gay frnd because thats how i used to be till recently but once u got them it helps hella much truthfully. Any ways i been to FuZ once and i didnt like it cuz every one is so cliquey and no one really mingled. any way you'll find somone =]] btw ur vids are always fun to watch =]
lanzcuevas 3 years ago
yeahhhh real talk...gay friends = functionality. but yeah i agree, people be staring at you and muggin the fuck outta you. and you feel like they talking behind your back. its like WTF!??? yeah i dont like the gay scene so much cause its sometimes full of assholes like that. shrugs. but hopefully i do find someone :P hehe thanks
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
oh and yes... those fairytale stories happen to gay people. i met my girlfriend at bart. :D
xkrista 3 years ago
joaquinnnnn! tell me why.. i'm your friend on downelink and you NEVER talk to me.. even when i see you on campus =\ well just letting you know that if you need someone to talk to or anything.. i'm here. and guess what?! i go to SFSU also. for real... lets kick it. see ya around campus when school starts! and when i see you.. I WILL say hi. haha finally. <3
xkrista 3 years ago
hahah i dont have a downelink anymore!!! haha anyway i need more lesbian friends. real talk. actually i just need lesbian friends haha i think theyre cute and fun =0 LIKE YOUHHHH haha aww hopefully you say hi to me and we become friends! :D haha anyway hit me up on myspace or facebook if you want =] love krista :D
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
hahah yesss! making new gay friends is ALWAYS fun! message me your myspace or email so its not all out in the open for the world to see. love joaquin <3333
xkrista 3 years ago
hey man, people are people so speak yah mind! much respect!
GenTosMenTos 3 years ago
mmmm wait...what you mean? i kinda got confused on this one =( ahhaha srry im slow...
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
lol, some people are critical when it comes to gays in what they have to say. just sayin i appreciate that you can speak out nahimsayin?
GenTosMenTos 3 years ago
ohhh got ya :D hahaha srry =] haha
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
Much respect to you.
Thanks for sharing.. love your vids :)
AMAC390
amac390 3 years ago
=] thanksss
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
Please don't feel down, I understand how your feeling.
There is nothing wrong with you, we all have those thoughts and feelings and it never gets any easyer.
You just have to think positive :)
Jagamp 3 years ago
thank you so much for the sweet message you wrote me and just opening up to me. thank you. im glad i could reach out like that. thanks for being a buddy man =]
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
dude i went for a quick minute to fuz for the first time and it was iight.. Never really been motivated to just go haha. haha You need gay friends and straight friends. A good escape if one group gets too bleh u know??. DUDE! and haha if youre on DL, everyones done everyone pretty much. haha. You'll find someone though.. hella feel you on the couples thing though.
andrewjay215 3 years ago
yeahhh i was never really motivated to go. i only went cause of my friends wanting to go and before because of fysh and chicks...but its whhhhateverrrrrr. yes it gets bleh. agree everyones done everyone hahahahahahaa. :P thanks buddy
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
I don't have a group of gay friends, either. I happen to like having straight friends around, weird. "To function", I completely understand that. You feel you can't be yourself, when in all actuality, you are being yourself. Couples at the club annoy me as well... Oh, well. We'll get through. Same sit. here... <3
That "Half Pinoy" Kid,
infused08
infused08 3 years ago
i dunno its just some things that gay people and other gay folks get that straight folks will never get ya know. and im all for straight friends cause i have hella of em, but now its more like alright i need to find my own people in a way you know. its like our own culture. we try to find whats pilipino now...rather than just sticking to what we know is american. gets? well yeah...couples at clubs ughhh esp when they kiss right next to you LOL haha.
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago
mahh nigg it NEVER gets easier for gay people. i think you only need ONE gay friend, all my life i've only ever had one gay friend and we fell in love with eachother. Kinda fairytale-ish? Most people are cautious on who they invest their time in but you have to take that risk or you'll be stuck with what you have. jst open up a lil and you'll see that it'll take you to places you've always wanted to be at. hit it bk when it's nothin.
iimdowne 3 years ago
thanks for the advice. yeahh it never does. but i really feel i need to find that ONE or maybe a group. but yeah i totally agree, if it happens, id be happy with just one. but yeah i think its taking the risk thats preventing me from doing it, but we'll see. thanks tho =]
ilikejoaquin 3 years ago