This reminds me how i react to my boyfriend, i really scare him sometimes.... i must seem like a crazy person... i must be so difficult to deal with ..Well I'm not this horrible but still...
I don't think she is actually mentally ill but I see the narcissist in her. She had double standards and I would catch her lying or doing things that weren't fair and when I brought them up she would either rationalize why it was ok or just say I don't trust her and that's not healthy for a relationship and she felt badgered and blamed. Well, ya no shit. So how bout you stop lying then?
I watch these videos and compare it to my breakup. I think my ex was so manipulative that she was able to make me look like the mentally ill and abusive one. I have to replay the breakup over and over to make sure I"m not like this.
There were things I said here and there that she has cherry picked and just used it all against me. She leaves out her part and when I bring it up she denies it all and takes things I said out of context and distorts the timeline of everything.
@JessioChalleno ,sounds like my ex who was a true narcissist with all 9 traits which is rare and a dangerous person! Look up narcissistic personality disorder..
People should try and understand this illness as it devastates lives. BDPs are so unbalanced its so sad, I recently finished a relationship with a person with BPD she was happy one day , sad the next , agressive the next, happy the next, manic the next, suicidal then happy again. The experience was the worst I have ever experienced in my life. I am thankful that I do not suffer like she did. Good Video thanks for posting,
It is not the "normal's" job to manage the BPD's behavior. That is making someone else responsible for the BPD's emotions and abuse and that is BS. Each of us is responsible for our own behavior. Period.
she needs to stop insulting him and calm down, she is really hurt that he is leaving her and he never really meant it with her. I know it is difficult to be in a relationship with a BPD but if you are a couple then both people have to work on themselves. It is ver easy to blame the "sick on" because you all are the "normal ones". But sometimes the normal ones abuse of this normal status and are lazy to develope skills to cope with bpd.
@phabbiola I agree, I have bpd. It's a living nightmare. I think I may have acted this way in my past to a partner and only in the last year of treatment have I identified my behaviour. She just saw it as ANOTHER abandonment, a bpd's worst nightmare. She just wanted him to say I love you and I will never leave you, everything is going to be ok. But people with bpd do not have any idea how to ask for that. It's like we were unable to grow emotionally due to a trauma from childhood and thats why
@JigabooCummin4U with some variations here and there...they do. Specially the blame part at the end. In that part the best thing to do is turn around and disengage completely!
Psychological projection and projective identification is nasty among BPD. They just blame everything on you and lie to other people that she is being victimized. My ex is Bipolar Type 1 and BPD..a very nasty combination. I had to record everything(self surveillance) to expose her lies. She once threatened to smash her face in the mirror and call the cops and tell them that I did it. Little that she knows is that I recorded that. And many times she threatens suicide if she doesn't get her way.
My God. It's like you were in my iPhone going through my texts. It took me a long time before I learned about BPD and what was going on between my girlfriend and myself.
As sad as it is to say, this video resembles the painful fights I have with my boyfriend. I have BDP& it is by no means a walk in the park for either people in the relationship. BDP'ers that don't have adequate mood swing medication treatment say a lot worse. They go through "episodes". Some are positive, some are negative and some are abusive. I feel sorry for everything I put him through but he understands that it's equally hell for me& I try my hardest to keep it together &he appreciates it.
I was accused of having borderline personality disorder from my expartner and i know that I exhibited past behavior but this is really unfair. I know for me and others who have borderline personality disorder you would have to literally insult and call out that individual's faults in order for their anger to come out. These are individuals who are victims of systematic and years of abuse so in order to survive they develop a defense mechanism.
The worst example of this is in the thoroughly corrupt Department Of Veterans Affairs. Veterans who seek counseling there in furthering documentation for combat related Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome are FORCED to talk about other issues, including the whole man and woman thing! When it becomes clear to the psychiatrist or psychologist doing the comp and pen evaluation that the male veteran has issues with the deeply sexist and abysmal behavior of so many females, he is mentally labeled!
The disgrace of the EARTH is that "psychologists" and "psychiatrists" who have less than NO concern or empathy for males and OUR rights, and are CLEARLY up the collective female crack, are STILL being granted licenses and allowed to practice! They are absolutely EVERYWHERE, and can't be escaped! They are absolutely unprofessional, and guilty of total and extreme malpractice against their male "patients!" If U won't agree with them, they mentally label U! Many men can't afford to undo the labels!
Damn dude, I can definitely empathize. I got kind of lucky cause my ex's parents moved to a different state and she drove there to move some stuff over. So you can bet that I took full advantage of that opening. Still had to deal with some BS, but it could have been a lot worse.
I remember mine claiming multiple miscarriages, saw her self mutilate, threaten suicide, turn into a raging alcy, manipulate my friends & family against me, etc. Had about a dozen warning signs. Oh well, live & learn
@scorpio11477 glad i'm not alone. I still have PTSD from it. Definitely a horrifying disorder to be in close contact with, especially when people dont believe you when you say she is totally nutballs, and instead side with her, as she pits people up against you, and divides everyone up. Its a sick game. She is gone now, but I can only imagine what dramas and manipulation she is thriving off creating now. And the pathological lying? Omg.. yours sounds quite low functioning, mine was a high type..
@Groomboy47 She was somewhat high functioning at first. She graduated from a fairly prestigious university. But after that, it was downhill. Of course most people settle down and get a job after graduating, but a "normal" life just isn't for these women. Couldn't hold a job, alcoholism grew worse and worse, got kicked out of her apartment. Those were just some of the highlights. Of course I don't have to explain to you the every day anxiety that goes along with being with a BPD.
@scorpio11477 the thing that messed with me was how she distorted things. lied to me about jobs she had, people she was friends with, things she had done. she would go on trips to places i'd never know where she went, would basically lie and create this totally distorted reality to spin things around and make me think things were the opposite of what they really are. very very highly emotionally abusive crazymaking behavior. total nightmare. anyone that has been with one and got out, jesus..
If I hadn't watched this video, I would've thought borderline in borderline girlfriend was used as a synonym for "almost." That means a borderline girlfriend would be a girl who's your friend or casual acquaintance and you haven't, or have unsuccessfully, asked her on a date. Boy, have I ever had a lot of those.
If I were Mike, I would walk (or preferably run) away after the breakup. He keeps talking like he's a stooge. Does he have some clingy attachment disorder?
@spinemelter2000 well borderlines prey on your good nature, and tend to focus on attracting dysfunctional males with issues of their own.. so as to prolong the trauma.. if he had sense he would just run.. but i had a 2.5 year relationship with a borderline and even I couldnt easily get away from her. They just have a way of infiltrating your deepest traumas and exploiting them.. very, very hard to get rid of a borderline..
@Groomboy47 HA! I got you beat. 3 years with a BPD. Not that it's anyting to brag about though. There were some good times, but most of it was pure hell. They can have a real lovable side which attracts people, but what lurks underneath is truly frightening. I was young, thought I could help and change her. Man, I'll never make that mistake again!
& yes, very difficult to shake them. Mine tried contacting my friends & family (including my at the time 8 year old sister) to track me down.
@scorpio11477 man i had to change my phone number seven times and move back home with my parents. and she, "accidentally", got pregnant, just as I tried to break up with her.. not to mention she threatened me and my friends, destroyed my furniture, jumped through my window, and stalked the shit out of me for an entire year, and set up 2 fake email accounts, a fake facebook account, and pretended to be at least 3 different people..
@Groomboy47 Damn dude, I can definitely empathize. I got kind of lucky cause my ex's parents moved to a different state & she drove there to move some stuff over. So you can bet that I took full advantage of that opening. Still had to deal with BS, but it could have been a lot worse.
I remember mine claiming multiple miscarriages, saw her self mutilate, threaten suicide, turn into a raging alcy, manipulate my friends & family against me etc. Had plenty of warning signs. Live & learn I guess
Had to send a BPD friend packing earlier this summer. Could not handle the drama. It took several emails, 2 "no contact" warnings and a police report to finally get her to STFU and go away. I feel sorry for guys that have to break up with BPD women, because it was hard enough to deal with ending a friendship with a BPD person; watched my back for weeks after that one!!!
yours sounds like heaven.. my BPD, "accidentally", got pregnant as I tried to break away, then dragged me into the worst year of my life. the constant threats, violent outbursts, lies, incessant non stop drama, reality twisting emotional abuse, abusive double standards, double binds, pitting people up against me.. non stop craziness..it was awful, but i got away unscathed, even though i had to change my number 7 times and delete an email acc and move back home with my parents to get rid of her
my God that sounds like how my daughter talks to her boyfriend... how she talks to everyone that loves her... kills me just listening to it... i hope with everything in me anyone w/bpd gets the help they need... this disorder sux :(
About 95% of the women out there in this country.... And I'm not really sure the name fits their diseases.... There's nothing "borderline" about these crazy women.
Hahahaha I love you for making this. It's funny cause I'm brown (Persian) and have BPD. and my bf is white and we literally have had talks like this. [in case you were wondering everything is fine now and we have a very stable relationship and have been dating for 2 years. For those with BPD you can get through it.]
A telling cartoon that shows, whatever the woman's faults might be--and some, at least as portrayed here, are evident--thean and presumably author of the cartoon script is more interested in prolonging this otherwise pointless dialogue so that he can try to belittle and infantilize the woman by acting Mr. Smug, Calm Superior to her, than he is at all in actually breaking up. He's just up to the same old tricks that have infuriated her. If he really wanted, out of this exchange, to end it like
It's totally pointless to get on the defensive with someone determined to blame you. The first time she said to F off, he should have walked out. I think the last thing anyone should do is offer friendship when they are trying to break up. You care (or feel you need this person) & the other doesn't. Learn. Put a stop to it and let time heal your wounds before seeking a new relationship. Tell yourself, "This too shall pass" and look for new interests in life.
Oh God. This is so close to my last break-up. Everybody should be educated on the traits of BPD victims and know how to avoid anyone suffering from BPD who is not seeking treatment. It is very, very nasty.
@jperson2007 damn skippy.. i was with a borderline who was nearly a full blown sociopath.. even a year and a half after I got rid of her, she has been stalking me with a fake facebook profile pretending to be somebody else.. not to mention the two fake yahoo accounts and the other identities she made up, the pathological lying, crazymaking drama, hell basically.. i went through hell cause of this crazy person.. sorry to all the bpds out there, but you cause misery for others.
@jperson2007 my thoughts exactly.. but you really need to have personal experience with a borderline to realize just how dangerous and unstable they really are.
if your GF is borderline, just break it off and assume the friendship dead. The discussion isn't worth having and remaining friends will just give him/her false hope.
@CommitToFocus Another option: show compassion and help your girlfriend get help. Learn about dialectical behavior therapy, schema therapy and transference-based psychotherapy, discuss the options with her, and tell her you know she's hurting and you're on her side.
@CommitToFocus It's always worth learning about what makes other human beings tick, and showing compassion for those who are hurting. I hope you'll hear me, as a person with BPD who recovered through proper treatment, when I say that this is a brain disorder, that we are not sociopaths, that we're not out to manipulate you, that we CAN get better, and that if you show us kindness and concern while keeping your boundaries intact, it can change our worlds.
@spershall I fully acknowledge the problem is fixable. All I'm saying is I don't think its wise to stay with someone with that problem. There's no real way to know if they will be compatible in the end. Not to mention the mental abuse you go through in the process.
@CommitToFocus You're right that there's no excuse for not getting help, because help exists. Dialectical behavior therapy is the gold standard for treating this illness. I'm living proof that it works; Marsha Linehan is a goddess as far as I'm concerned. I'm really sorry you've been hurt by a person with BPD. And I definitely know it can feel like abuse to be with us. But we CAN and DO get better, and your love and support truly can make all the difference.
LOL if i could get a man to actually say it was over instead of leaving me hanging and wondering.,..It would be done. Trust me. How to break up with a borderline...Tell her its done. Dont take her calls...and dont say you still love her and wish her well!!! wth
If I was that guy, I would've walked away FOREVER less than 2 minutes in. It says in the description that it was from an email exchange. Same concept. A couple of replies like that broad dished out, and I would've blocked her.
It's pretty hard to watch. I wonder why people take so much crap. It's pointless. Send the bitch packing and try to find happiness. Jeez.
Wow. I've had this "conversation" nearly verbatim with my soon to be ex wife many times.. Fear, insecurity, threats, accusations, confusion.. yep it's all there. This is very sad for both parties and knowing this is the "fuel" they crave is just crazy..
my girlfriend has BPD and i'm being tortured for 1 year and 4 months now and i can't get over it ... i just can't break up with her she can manipulate me when she feels I'm gonna leave her and i return to her like a bitch....and the cycle goes on again and again
@babolla please go to shrink4men and join the forum, seek help you wil get support. you must go no contact. I did the same thing. I was trapped with a borderline for 3 years, it was the worst time of my life. they are parasites and energy vampires of the worst kind. you just need to man up cut her off and deal with the fallout. NO CONTACT. i really feel for you.
this is so unreal, thats not how it happens. you are lucky if \you get to finish one sentence without being interrupted with more accusations and more insults.
the law is based upon what "reasonable" people do. when there is a question, the case goes before a judge and/or a jury to determine whether or not the behavior was in fact reasonable. BPD's trademark is being non-reasonable in their demands and then blaming the other guy for not going along. Since there is no judge or jury in the room, the bpd usually gets their way because most people aren't comfortable with confrontation and too quickly try to make peace. BPD's pick their 'victims.'
@tpaigeme Absolutely untrue. We do not "pick [our] victims." Trust me when I tell you that there is NO malicious intent; we don't go out looking for someone to hurt. What we do is go out looking for someone to love, and it wounds us deeply when others don't return that level of love. We suffer from inappropriate emotionality to the point that this disorder has been described as a psychic "bleeding out." We're like emotional burn victims, trying to build a skin. But we're not sociopaths.
Jesus, I sound like this... But then, there would be some sort of begging, some "I would do anything..." "Please come back, I would be nothing without you; I'm sorry, it was all my fault..." It goes back and forth. It's not all negative. That's why it's so hard to break up with a borderline.
@700moby try 10 years, she's my best friend, great conversations, we used to be together, broke up, had many fights, i now understand what was going on, i still love the bitch :\ if only she didn't have this disorder, ugh it blows, what can i do :\
this video is really showing Bpd's as totally unsensable people.
maybe some Bpd's act like this but some dont.
Bpd's like myself , can also get into relationships with bad people that really are abussive. i was with this guy once that always treated me really bad in public. when my friends saw this they told me to leave him. i thought nothing was wronge. anyway this video is really untrue.
Well, my empathy ends when a person starts abusing me. I don't believe anyone is required to feel empathy for someone who hurts them, nor do they have to care at all about what will help the person get better. That is simply not their problem to deal with, when their own well-being is being assaulted. Unless a relationship is codependent, having a person empathize and care about one's health and well-being requires that person to show equal care and empathy in return.
The problem has two sides. The man in this little film does continue to talk with the girlfriend and not just leave. He is emotionally dependent... or he became emotionally dependent..
The comments here are insensitive, if you think you experienced pain try walking in the shoes of a person with borderline personality disorder, you wouldn't last a second without slitting your wrist.
@MsAgnosticatheist Try walking in the shoes of a non-BPD with a BPD. Don't think you'd last very long. Not enough to make me slit my wrists though... sorry, I'm not a waif.
@JaneDoejb Actually I have, my ex-boyfriend is either borderline or narcissistic. He abused me and even put a knife to my throat, stole from me, etc. Yet I forgive him because I know his is mentally ill. Hate and judgement don't help people get better. I'm not saying you shouldn't break up with them, yes you have to do what you need to do to save your own sanity. Just saying you should have empathy and love and don't hate.
@JaneDoejb i agree, its hard to feel empathy for a borderline when all they do is shit on you, abuse you, stick to you like shit, lie, create insane drama, and try to torment you to death.. cut them off, and say goodbye.. one borderline relationship is MORE than any reasonable person should have to endure for one lifetime.. you live and you learn.. but the best thing to do to a borderline is just to RUN.. GTFO.. boom..
Like many other psychopats, BPD people use alot of the projection defence mechanism described in psychoanalisis. They expel from their ego what is to hard too accept and say that about an other person. For example: "You are a manipulative person" means "I am a manipulative person", or " I used to be strong, until you came along" means " You used to be strong, until a came along, and I ruined your self confidence".
This is so familiar to me . I had a woman who has done almost word for word to me. It lasted 7 years and is still lurking. I had a letter sent to her from my attorney and have called her husband and in laws trying to have them do something about her. .I agree with you @runn3rboy. This woman had wrecked my marriage and turned my life into a complete hell by stalking me on Facebook and making new email addys up to continue to hit me and involving so many people in her chaotic rampage .
@700moby damn skippy. its horrible. i went through it for nearly 3 years, it was hell. She actually crushed my self esteem so much I developed an eating disorder and virtually gave up on life. Getting away from her was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I had to change my number seven times to get away from her stalking and harrasment. She was a BPD horrorshow nightmare. as bad as a terminator, if not worse.
I really can't stop laughing watching this, this really really happened just like how my ex gf behaves. She will blame me, curse me, tell me not to find her anymore, but then calls me and text me again.The drama never ends! LOL i gave up talking.It helped me a lot.The only way to deal with this people is to not feed in their drama.
@runn3rboy they are the most extreme drama queens you could ever meet. They are welling up with so much internal chaos they dont care who they drag into it, and love the attention. They leave a trail of wreckage wherever they go.
See girls, this is the crap we have to put up with. The myth of the sweet girl is such a bogus stereotype. This girl is still sexy, though, unfortunately. Guys would still do her.
lol nice comeback. Perhaps you're entertained by the idea that most borderlines are this way because you're in denial? I think the ones like *this* haven't learned life's lessons. She obvious doesn't empathize with passive aggressiveness, he keeps feeding the beast tool As far as help goes, I think what's best is not saying malicious things like "good luck with your recovery." What are you referring to anyway? Another assumption? If you let anyone walk all over you they will, bdp's especially.
@MushroomKingdom602 ..er.. if u have any experience in dealing with BPD specialists they all say pretty much the same thing. That 90+% of all borderlines pretty much act exactly the same way, with definable and predictable destructive behaviour patterns and chaotic manipulative crazymaking psychosis. They, "dont", learn lifes lessons. They are fucking crazy. And they dont feel "empathy", the way normal people do. That is why they have a personality disorder, cause they are the whole bag of nuts
@Groomboy47 BPD can feel levels of empathy far beyond your's. They feel horrible unbearable guilt on the other side of they prideful illusionary words.
@MsAgnosticatheist.. that may be true, but the psycho I was with showed very little empathy towards me and seemed to be selfishly focused on her own emotional state 99.9% of the time. She was totally happy with manipulating any and everyone she came into contact with. Feeling false empathy for others at my expense. Pathological lying and generally emotionally abusive behaviour. She worked hard to distort my sense of reality to get better control of me, and would resort to threats and violence.
@Groomboy47 In fact, we are not "fucking crazy," we are people whose brains are at the mercy of an impulse control disorder. We absolutely do "learn life's lessons," when someone helps us, and we feel so much empathy it seems like it might break us sometimes. We are not psychotic, though we can show "transient, stress-related paranoid ideation," which is one of the diagnostic criteria. I hope you'll read about Marsha Linehan's work.
I know because i've done plenty of research and i'm not retarded. If it walks like a duck, and quacks like one, you guessed it? 90% of borderlines behave in typically predictable and abusive, manipulative ways. It doesnt take a rocket scientist or a "professional", to get it. The best thing that a borderline can do is own up to the disorder, and seek correct medical assistance from specialists to ease the suffering of those that come into contact with them. Good luck with your recovery.
@Groomboy47 You might as well talk down about someone for having cancer You should all just be happy if you are free and don't have this disorder it is hell. 10% of us kill ourselves...not all are like the woman in this video it only shows one mood of the borderline when there are a distict 5. It is alot harder to be borderline than to deal with one. We did not ask for this it is a disease believed to be created by abuse as a child while the brain is developing.
I was in a relationship with a borderline. it was a nightmare so severe i still have PTSD from it. They tend to slowly chip away at your self esteem with constant debilitating and casually cruel and insulting behaviours. And pathological lies and manipulations. It really is a awful disorder, but the people that really suffer are the ones that come into contact with the borderline. But she is high functioning and in denial. I really feel sorry for her next victim. the best u can do is run.
Just because you experienced this with one girl doesn't mean they're all like that. I see a lot of videos portraying girls with BPD like this, I'm not. The disorder simply makes it difficult to be logical of emotions, especially when they blind us, and it can be an enabler for immature actions and self-loathing. But she was like that because she wasn't developed as a person. She could still have BPD and be emotionally introspective, and be more objective of her words and actions.
@MushroomKingdom602 so i am assuming you are suffering from BPD? its all well and good to attempt to rationalize the disorder, but most borderlines are best known by the trail of wreckage they leave in their wake.. And if u have enough awareness to be able to understand the reasoning behind your actions you are unlike 99% of true borderlines that live in a state of complete denial and take absolutely no responsibility for their toxic and abusive behaviours..
@Groomboy47 True borderline? lol. Do you have a PhD in psychology? Your comments are bias! How can you possibly know how Borderlines act on a massive scale? You can only speak for the one person you came in contact with. How someone was raised will make them into what they become. If a parent choose to instill consequences and teach manners, they will act as so. Responsibility, empathy, morality...etc. Without that... ?! I don't think acting like an immature brat will get me anywhere in life.
You're not fooling anyone, and only hurting your case even more with your comments. You don't realize this, but you demonstrate the EXACT kind of nastiness and abusiveness you claim that not all borderlines exhibit in your comment about how not all borderlines exhibit nasty and abusive behavior. It's incredibly ironic and just proves the point of this video even more. You say you are an exception, but the fact that you aren't still shines through no matter what you claim.
@Groomboy47 Take a psychology class, in fact watch some videos by the Standford PHD Robert Sapolsky. Or any PHD, borderlines have to deal with horribly extreme emotions. You have no idea what they go through and how the human brain works. You don't have to have one as a friend but don't hate.
Did anyone heard the police sirens at the end of this video?
TheZinkman1985 18 hours ago
crazé yet entertaining
TheZinkman1985 18 hours ago
This reminds me how i react to my boyfriend, i really scare him sometimes.... i must seem like a crazy person... i must be so difficult to deal with ..Well I'm not this horrible but still...
at least this vid made me laugh a bit lol
2ExistIstoResist 6 days ago
Sounds like my ex who was a real psycho!!! Lol
TheZinkman1985 6 days ago
Gawd, hard to see which one is more of the whiner here.
BoyMonarch 1 week ago
BPD for everyone!!!
Every man must experience a Borderline woman once, just so that they can learn to avoid these women forever! :D
micmackz 1 week ago
shit, this exactly what i put my boyfriend through- i am really trying to work on it.
skater14990 1 week ago
Hhaahah! Sounds like my ex!
sn9696 2 weeks ago
I don't think she is actually mentally ill but I see the narcissist in her. She had double standards and I would catch her lying or doing things that weren't fair and when I brought them up she would either rationalize why it was ok or just say I don't trust her and that's not healthy for a relationship and she felt badgered and blamed. Well, ya no shit. So how bout you stop lying then?
JessioChalleno 2 weeks ago
I watch these videos and compare it to my breakup. I think my ex was so manipulative that she was able to make me look like the mentally ill and abusive one. I have to replay the breakup over and over to make sure I"m not like this.
There were things I said here and there that she has cherry picked and just used it all against me. She leaves out her part and when I bring it up she denies it all and takes things I said out of context and distorts the timeline of everything.
JessioChalleno 2 weeks ago
@JessioChalleno ,sounds like my ex who was a true narcissist with all 9 traits which is rare and a dangerous person! Look up narcissistic personality disorder..
sn9696 2 weeks ago
People should try and understand this illness as it devastates lives. BDPs are so unbalanced its so sad, I recently finished a relationship with a person with BPD she was happy one day , sad the next , agressive the next, happy the next, manic the next, suicidal then happy again. The experience was the worst I have ever experienced in my life. I am thankful that I do not suffer like she did. Good Video thanks for posting,
period181 3 weeks ago
reading through some of these "comments" i am unclear if the majority of you know what the term Mental Illness is?
IHeartNivo 3 weeks ago
WTF is this? is this supposed to be fun?
MrAleksiev 3 weeks ago
...wow... dude this conversation would drive me crazy in real life. Sometimes it's better to just say good bye and cut your losses.
dmajorhiphopproducer 4 weeks ago
ambulance hahahhaaaaa
HaTeMeLoVeMe77 1 month ago
It is not the "normal's" job to manage the BPD's behavior. That is making someone else responsible for the BPD's emotions and abuse and that is BS. Each of us is responsible for our own behavior. Period.
shrink4men 1 month ago 3
she needs to stop insulting him and calm down, she is really hurt that he is leaving her and he never really meant it with her. I know it is difficult to be in a relationship with a BPD but if you are a couple then both people have to work on themselves. It is ver easy to blame the "sick on" because you all are the "normal ones". But sometimes the normal ones abuse of this normal status and are lazy to develope skills to cope with bpd.
phabbiola 1 month ago
@phabbiola I agree, I have bpd. It's a living nightmare. I think I may have acted this way in my past to a partner and only in the last year of treatment have I identified my behaviour. She just saw it as ANOTHER abandonment, a bpd's worst nightmare. She just wanted him to say I love you and I will never leave you, everything is going to be ok. But people with bpd do not have any idea how to ask for that. It's like we were unable to grow emotionally due to a trauma from childhood and thats why
KatieKaute 3 weeks ago
@phabbiola
I take it u suffer from the condition, correct?
malarki5 1 week ago
Run!
drdrew7d 1 month ago
omg i think u copied and pasted my emails to my ex ....:( even the karma bs...
envyduck2000 1 month ago 3
Wow do people actually act like that?
JigabooCummin4U 1 month ago
@JigabooCummin4U with some variations here and there...they do. Specially the blame part at the end. In that part the best thing to do is turn around and disengage completely!
vatreniboris 1 month ago
@JigabooCummin4U
YES!
malarki5 1 week ago
Psychological projection and projective identification is nasty among BPD. They just blame everything on you and lie to other people that she is being victimized. My ex is Bipolar Type 1 and BPD..a very nasty combination. I had to record everything(self surveillance) to expose her lies. She once threatened to smash her face in the mirror and call the cops and tell them that I did it. Little that she knows is that I recorded that. And many times she threatens suicide if she doesn't get her way.
tkathryyn 1 month ago
my borderline ex i just broke up with name is susan also, laughed so hard the first second!! ahaha
ddatsun620 2 months ago 2
My God. It's like you were in my iPhone going through my texts. It took me a long time before I learned about BPD and what was going on between my girlfriend and myself.
jakyll 2 months ago
@jakyll fuckin crazyness
Billymarkz 2 months ago
As sad as it is to say, this video resembles the painful fights I have with my boyfriend. I have BDP& it is by no means a walk in the park for either people in the relationship. BDP'ers that don't have adequate mood swing medication treatment say a lot worse. They go through "episodes". Some are positive, some are negative and some are abusive. I feel sorry for everything I put him through but he understands that it's equally hell for me& I try my hardest to keep it together &he appreciates it.
Binxamillion 2 months ago
@Binxamillion how do you make things work?
face2facechick 2 months ago
@face2facechick Understanding, respect, patience and love.
Binxamillion 2 months ago
@Binxamillion I wish you all the best. It is very difficult.
nobodady1 1 month ago
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Go girl u tell him, he really is no good for u!
gayproud1 2 months ago
Wtf, did you go thru my txt and wright them out in some voice-to-speech program??
TheObicha 3 months ago
I also want to say that I am against hostile behavior and am sorry if someone is the victim of abusive behavior. Peace and love to you.
beki4peace 3 months ago
I was accused of having borderline personality disorder from my expartner and i know that I exhibited past behavior but this is really unfair. I know for me and others who have borderline personality disorder you would have to literally insult and call out that individual's faults in order for their anger to come out. These are individuals who are victims of systematic and years of abuse so in order to survive they develop a defense mechanism.
beki4peace 3 months ago
The worst example of this is in the thoroughly corrupt Department Of Veterans Affairs. Veterans who seek counseling there in furthering documentation for combat related Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome are FORCED to talk about other issues, including the whole man and woman thing! When it becomes clear to the psychiatrist or psychologist doing the comp and pen evaluation that the male veteran has issues with the deeply sexist and abysmal behavior of so many females, he is mentally labeled!
sixtiesrockboy 3 months ago
The disgrace of the EARTH is that "psychologists" and "psychiatrists" who have less than NO concern or empathy for males and OUR rights, and are CLEARLY up the collective female crack, are STILL being granted licenses and allowed to practice! They are absolutely EVERYWHERE, and can't be escaped! They are absolutely unprofessional, and guilty of total and extreme malpractice against their male "patients!" If U won't agree with them, they mentally label U! Many men can't afford to undo the labels!
sixtiesrockboy 3 months ago
Does the girl really have a Borderline Personality Disorder? Looks like standard female behavior to me.
MrSpazchow 3 months ago
You have to love it when people with BPD use their therapist's name and their compulsive lying to try to prove that they're right.
Kairuka 3 months ago
This is what it was like when I dumped my ex.
nym685 3 months ago
Damn dude, I can definitely empathize. I got kind of lucky cause my ex's parents moved to a different state and she drove there to move some stuff over. So you can bet that I took full advantage of that opening. Still had to deal with some BS, but it could have been a lot worse.
I remember mine claiming multiple miscarriages, saw her self mutilate, threaten suicide, turn into a raging alcy, manipulate my friends & family against me, etc. Had about a dozen warning signs. Oh well, live & learn
scorpio11477 4 months ago
@scorpio11477 glad i'm not alone. I still have PTSD from it. Definitely a horrifying disorder to be in close contact with, especially when people dont believe you when you say she is totally nutballs, and instead side with her, as she pits people up against you, and divides everyone up. Its a sick game. She is gone now, but I can only imagine what dramas and manipulation she is thriving off creating now. And the pathological lying? Omg.. yours sounds quite low functioning, mine was a high type..
Groomboy47 4 months ago
@Groomboy47 She was somewhat high functioning at first. She graduated from a fairly prestigious university. But after that, it was downhill. Of course most people settle down and get a job after graduating, but a "normal" life just isn't for these women. Couldn't hold a job, alcoholism grew worse and worse, got kicked out of her apartment. Those were just some of the highlights. Of course I don't have to explain to you the every day anxiety that goes along with being with a BPD.
scorpio11477 4 months ago
@scorpio11477 the thing that messed with me was how she distorted things. lied to me about jobs she had, people she was friends with, things she had done. she would go on trips to places i'd never know where she went, would basically lie and create this totally distorted reality to spin things around and make me think things were the opposite of what they really are. very very highly emotionally abusive crazymaking behavior. total nightmare. anyone that has been with one and got out, jesus..
Groomboy47 4 months ago
If I hadn't watched this video, I would've thought borderline in borderline girlfriend was used as a synonym for "almost." That means a borderline girlfriend would be a girl who's your friend or casual acquaintance and you haven't, or have unsuccessfully, asked her on a date. Boy, have I ever had a lot of those.
spinemelter2000 4 months ago
If I were Mike, I would walk (or preferably run) away after the breakup. He keeps talking like he's a stooge. Does he have some clingy attachment disorder?
spinemelter2000 4 months ago
@spinemelter2000 well borderlines prey on your good nature, and tend to focus on attracting dysfunctional males with issues of their own.. so as to prolong the trauma.. if he had sense he would just run.. but i had a 2.5 year relationship with a borderline and even I couldnt easily get away from her. They just have a way of infiltrating your deepest traumas and exploiting them.. very, very hard to get rid of a borderline..
Groomboy47 4 months ago
@Groomboy47 HA! I got you beat. 3 years with a BPD. Not that it's anyting to brag about though. There were some good times, but most of it was pure hell. They can have a real lovable side which attracts people, but what lurks underneath is truly frightening. I was young, thought I could help and change her. Man, I'll never make that mistake again!
& yes, very difficult to shake them. Mine tried contacting my friends & family (including my at the time 8 year old sister) to track me down.
scorpio11477 4 months ago
@scorpio11477 man i had to change my phone number seven times and move back home with my parents. and she, "accidentally", got pregnant, just as I tried to break up with her.. not to mention she threatened me and my friends, destroyed my furniture, jumped through my window, and stalked the shit out of me for an entire year, and set up 2 fake email accounts, a fake facebook account, and pretended to be at least 3 different people..
Groomboy47 4 months ago
@Groomboy47 Damn dude, I can definitely empathize. I got kind of lucky cause my ex's parents moved to a different state & she drove there to move some stuff over. So you can bet that I took full advantage of that opening. Still had to deal with BS, but it could have been a lot worse.
I remember mine claiming multiple miscarriages, saw her self mutilate, threaten suicide, turn into a raging alcy, manipulate my friends & family against me etc. Had plenty of warning signs. Live & learn I guess
scorpio11477 4 months ago
Had to send a BPD friend packing earlier this summer. Could not handle the drama. It took several emails, 2 "no contact" warnings and a police report to finally get her to STFU and go away. I feel sorry for guys that have to break up with BPD women, because it was hard enough to deal with ending a friendship with a BPD person; watched my back for weeks after that one!!!
petsitterElaine 4 months ago
yours sounds like heaven.. my BPD, "accidentally", got pregnant as I tried to break away, then dragged me into the worst year of my life. the constant threats, violent outbursts, lies, incessant non stop drama, reality twisting emotional abuse, abusive double standards, double binds, pitting people up against me.. non stop craziness..it was awful, but i got away unscathed, even though i had to change my number 7 times and delete an email acc and move back home with my parents to get rid of her
Groomboy47 4 months ago
my God that sounds like how my daughter talks to her boyfriend... how she talks to everyone that loves her... kills me just listening to it... i hope with everything in me anyone w/bpd gets the help they need... this disorder sux :(
praxtiprat 4 months ago
@praxtiprat it actually sux more for the people that come into contact with the borderline.
Groomboy47 4 months ago
This therapist Bonnie sounds like a confused bitch herself...
Ninjalectual 4 months ago
@Ninjalectual Lmao!
InsaneNuYawka 4 months ago
"Just because you were going to pay for the car doesn't mean you get to have a say in [the car] I want." Holy shit she was insane!
Ninjalectual 4 months ago
I had to change my number lol and then the bitch brought my mum into it.... psycho
Dolphidood 4 months ago
About 95% of the women out there in this country.... And I'm not really sure the name fits their diseases.... There's nothing "borderline" about these crazy women.
mergashmerga7 4 months ago
Hahahaha I love you for making this. It's funny cause I'm brown (Persian) and have BPD. and my bf is white and we literally have had talks like this. [in case you were wondering everything is fine now and we have a very stable relationship and have been dating for 2 years. For those with BPD you can get through it.]
Summer0Life 4 months ago
am i the only guy with bpd? O_O
1xXxEMOBOYxXx4 5 months ago
I laugh so hard when I listen to this women, she is so dramatic. And the poor guy OH GEE!!! HA HA HA
gorillatwist 5 months ago
Sounds like my Ex & I!!!
jeffreyswiderski 5 months ago
A telling cartoon that shows, whatever the woman's faults might be--and some, at least as portrayed here, are evident--thean and presumably author of the cartoon script is more interested in prolonging this otherwise pointless dialogue so that he can try to belittle and infantilize the woman by acting Mr. Smug, Calm Superior to her, than he is at all in actually breaking up. He's just up to the same old tricks that have infuriated her. If he really wanted, out of this exchange, to end it like
URLy2Rise 5 months ago
wats borderline npd and bpd? bipolar disorder?
jafas115 5 months ago
@jafas115 npd-narcissistic personality disorder bpd-borderline personality disorder.honey.btw,u could check it on the net.lol
NoMoreBigLies 5 months ago
this sounds more like npd than bpd.
somekindamillie 5 months ago
It's totally pointless to get on the defensive with someone determined to blame you. The first time she said to F off, he should have walked out. I think the last thing anyone should do is offer friendship when they are trying to break up. You care (or feel you need this person) & the other doesn't. Learn. Put a stop to it and let time heal your wounds before seeking a new relationship. Tell yourself, "This too shall pass" and look for new interests in life.
LALABAI1 5 months ago
Without the music, this would sound so unpleasant.
plugee 5 months ago
Oh God. This is so close to my last break-up. Everybody should be educated on the traits of BPD victims and know how to avoid anyone suffering from BPD who is not seeking treatment. It is very, very nasty.
jperson2007 5 months ago
@jperson2007 damn skippy.. i was with a borderline who was nearly a full blown sociopath.. even a year and a half after I got rid of her, she has been stalking me with a fake facebook profile pretending to be somebody else.. not to mention the two fake yahoo accounts and the other identities she made up, the pathological lying, crazymaking drama, hell basically.. i went through hell cause of this crazy person.. sorry to all the bpds out there, but you cause misery for others.
Groomboy47 4 months ago
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spershall 4 months ago
@jperson2007 my thoughts exactly.. but you really need to have personal experience with a borderline to realize just how dangerous and unstable they really are.
Groomboy47 4 months ago
if your GF is borderline, just break it off and assume the friendship dead. The discussion isn't worth having and remaining friends will just give him/her false hope.
CommitToFocus 5 months ago
@CommitToFocus Another option: show compassion and help your girlfriend get help. Learn about dialectical behavior therapy, schema therapy and transference-based psychotherapy, discuss the options with her, and tell her you know she's hurting and you're on her side.
spershall 4 months ago
@spershall no its not worth it they will drag u to hell.
Groomboy47 4 months ago
@spershall Not worth it. They can do all that on their own, then start looking for a partner.
CommitToFocus 4 months ago
@CommitToFocus It's always worth learning about what makes other human beings tick, and showing compassion for those who are hurting. I hope you'll hear me, as a person with BPD who recovered through proper treatment, when I say that this is a brain disorder, that we are not sociopaths, that we're not out to manipulate you, that we CAN get better, and that if you show us kindness and concern while keeping your boundaries intact, it can change our worlds.
spershall 4 months ago
@spershall I fully acknowledge the problem is fixable. All I'm saying is I don't think its wise to stay with someone with that problem. There's no real way to know if they will be compatible in the end. Not to mention the mental abuse you go through in the process.
CommitToFocus 4 months ago
@CommitToFocus You're right that there's no excuse for not getting help, because help exists. Dialectical behavior therapy is the gold standard for treating this illness. I'm living proof that it works; Marsha Linehan is a goddess as far as I'm concerned. I'm really sorry you've been hurt by a person with BPD. And I definitely know it can feel like abuse to be with us. But we CAN and DO get better, and your love and support truly can make all the difference.
spershall 4 months ago
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jessrector 5 months ago
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jessrector 5 months ago
LOL if i could get a man to actually say it was over instead of leaving me hanging and wondering.,..It would be done. Trust me. How to break up with a borderline...Tell her its done. Dont take her calls...and dont say you still love her and wish her well!!! wth
julez85ismyname 5 months ago
okkk!!!
chazbeats 5 months ago
I would of assassinate her if she said that to me
MegaSonicNinja 5 months ago
If I was that guy, I would've walked away FOREVER less than 2 minutes in. It says in the description that it was from an email exchange. Same concept. A couple of replies like that broad dished out, and I would've blocked her.
It's pretty hard to watch. I wonder why people take so much crap. It's pointless. Send the bitch packing and try to find happiness. Jeez.
hecbiz75 5 months ago
Wow. I've had this "conversation" nearly verbatim with my soon to be ex wife many times.. Fear, insecurity, threats, accusations, confusion.. yep it's all there. This is very sad for both parties and knowing this is the "fuel" they crave is just crazy..
dripgoss 5 months ago
my girlfriend has BPD and i'm being tortured for 1 year and 4 months now and i can't get over it ... i just can't break up with her she can manipulate me when she feels I'm gonna leave her and i return to her like a bitch....and the cycle goes on again and again
babolla 6 months ago
@babolla wellcome to my world...
franky1pro1 6 months ago
@franky1pro1 This is sad
babolla 6 months ago
@babolla please go to shrink4men and join the forum, seek help you wil get support. you must go no contact. I did the same thing. I was trapped with a borderline for 3 years, it was the worst time of my life. they are parasites and energy vampires of the worst kind. you just need to man up cut her off and deal with the fallout. NO CONTACT. i really feel for you.
Groomboy47 4 months ago
@Groomboy47 You're right buddy... "No contact" is the only keyword that works.
Thanks for the help and I'm in the phase of manning up now as you call it :)
very tough though but I need to do it.
Cheers
babolla 4 months ago
this is so unreal, thats not how it happens. you are lucky if \you get to finish one sentence without being interrupted with more accusations and more insults.
franky1pro1 6 months ago
@franky1pro1 based on an email discussion so the guy could actually get a word in!
k1ng401 5 months ago 4
these voices r so funny lol
caitlinisreggaegirl 6 months ago
Borderlines are insane. Don't bother with them.
ChicagoFusion 6 months ago
She's not a BPD victim, she's a woman. Not that men are any better, of course.
acr08807 6 months ago
the law is based upon what "reasonable" people do. when there is a question, the case goes before a judge and/or a jury to determine whether or not the behavior was in fact reasonable. BPD's trademark is being non-reasonable in their demands and then blaming the other guy for not going along. Since there is no judge or jury in the room, the bpd usually gets their way because most people aren't comfortable with confrontation and too quickly try to make peace. BPD's pick their 'victims.'
tpaigeme 6 months ago 2
@tpaigeme Absolutely untrue. We do not "pick [our] victims." Trust me when I tell you that there is NO malicious intent; we don't go out looking for someone to hurt. What we do is go out looking for someone to love, and it wounds us deeply when others don't return that level of love. We suffer from inappropriate emotionality to the point that this disorder has been described as a psychic "bleeding out." We're like emotional burn victims, trying to build a skin. But we're not sociopaths.
spershall 4 months ago
I feel drained just watching this..
1adadada 6 months ago 2
Jesus, I sound like this... But then, there would be some sort of begging, some "I would do anything..." "Please come back, I would be nothing without you; I'm sorry, it was all my fault..." It goes back and forth. It's not all negative. That's why it's so hard to break up with a borderline.
HaDagesh 6 months ago
I would have ended this conversation by about the 1:00 mark.
Thesterness 7 months ago
Jesus i sound like that girl :,( i hate this illness i get all stupid like that and cant control the stupid crap i say i hate it
fushadragon 7 months ago 10
@fushadragon - Dialectical Behavioral Therapy. Ask a counselor about it. It might help?
Hawaiiansky11 6 months ago
9 people are dating this girl
heIium37 7 months ago
Narcissists have black and white thinking as well. Thats why they get along so well with BPD's in the beginning anyway...
MizMizzy 7 months ago
the girl sound exactly like me....
luckymony1 7 months ago
@luckymony1 wow i feel sorry for yur husband or bf.
TheMightykaz 6 months ago
- Being jealous of others or always being suspicious of others motives
- Believing that others are jealous of you and suspicous of your motives
- Trouble keeping healthy relationships, especially with the opposite sex
- Setting unrealistic goals for yourself or for others
- Being easily hurt and rejected – living from one pitty party to another
- Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional.
TrakSpock1 7 months ago
- Taking advantage of others and then justifying your actions
- Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
TrakSpock1 7 months ago
Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms include:
- Believing that you’re better than others
- Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness
- Exaggerating your achievements or talents
- Expecting constant praise and admiration
- Believing that you’re special and acting accordingly
- Failing to recognize other people’s emotions and feelings
- Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
TrakSpock1 7 months ago
I like the music for some reason
BlackPoisonxX 7 months ago
Just walk away Mike!
CharroDavid 8 months ago 2
this is all very chaotic. I dont know why it goes on for so long. Jesus just end it.
Godlim17 8 months ago
Or maybe the boyfriend in this scenario is a Narcissist how about that?
MizMizzy 8 months ago
I'm not your daddy I'm your grandpa..
..I'm not your daddy I'm your grandpaa...
BreeOnTeeVee 8 months ago
haha "shut your god....damn mouth"
VonJost 8 months ago
No way did the therapist actually say all that. How long until this wonderful therapist becomes devalued?
qwexas 9 months ago
@700moby try 10 years, she's my best friend, great conversations, we used to be together, broke up, had many fights, i now understand what was going on, i still love the bitch :\ if only she didn't have this disorder, ugh it blows, what can i do :\
DevilsDomain 9 months ago
Don't engage the crazy, dude. "Dear susan, It's over. I wish you luck." The end. ;)
DoulaAsh 9 months ago
These voices would be hilarious if they didn't mirror every single fight i've ever had with my Fiancée :(
bassiks 9 months ago in playlist Mental Health
Wow...did they record me last week??
TifflovesBoosie 9 months ago
this video is really showing Bpd's as totally unsensable people.
maybe some Bpd's act like this but some dont.
Bpd's like myself , can also get into relationships with bad people that really are abussive. i was with this guy once that always treated me really bad in public. when my friends saw this they told me to leave him. i thought nothing was wronge. anyway this video is really untrue.
AtarasBlog 10 months ago
@AtarasBlog mannie BPD's arr leik this, the 1sr 3 arr EXAKTLIE leik this, not all arr but A LOT, hence it as a Disorder, i wisch you much luck :)
LeonSkottKennedey 9 months ago
the guy in this video is totally codependent and needs therapy. why is he paying for a girlfriends car after just 9 months if not to control?
mystical784 10 months ago
hahahalol omg
cabadura1000 10 months ago
@MsAgnosticatheist
Well, my empathy ends when a person starts abusing me. I don't believe anyone is required to feel empathy for someone who hurts them, nor do they have to care at all about what will help the person get better. That is simply not their problem to deal with, when their own well-being is being assaulted. Unless a relationship is codependent, having a person empathize and care about one's health and well-being requires that person to show equal care and empathy in return.
swork29 10 months ago 2
The problem has two sides. The man in this little film does continue to talk with the girlfriend and not just leave. He is emotionally dependent... or he became emotionally dependent..
Kritiker9 11 months ago
@Kritiker9 This is scary.... Im 100% that guy.... and she my girlfriend.... im always keep talking...
777Chileno 10 months ago
Why is he still in the room at 2.00?
rotcafarg 11 months ago
The comments here are insensitive, if you think you experienced pain try walking in the shoes of a person with borderline personality disorder, you wouldn't last a second without slitting your wrist.
MsAgnosticatheist 11 months ago
@MsAgnosticatheist shit, if only they would
Zeffrin101 10 months ago
@MsAgnosticatheist Try walking in the shoes of a non-BPD with a BPD. Don't think you'd last very long. Not enough to make me slit my wrists though... sorry, I'm not a waif.
JaneDoejb 10 months ago
@JaneDoejb Actually I have, my ex-boyfriend is either borderline or narcissistic. He abused me and even put a knife to my throat, stole from me, etc. Yet I forgive him because I know his is mentally ill. Hate and judgement don't help people get better. I'm not saying you shouldn't break up with them, yes you have to do what you need to do to save your own sanity. Just saying you should have empathy and love and don't hate.
MsAgnosticatheist 10 months ago
@JaneDoejb
bpdisnotinsanity 5 months ago
@JaneDoejb i agree, its hard to feel empathy for a borderline when all they do is shit on you, abuse you, stick to you like shit, lie, create insane drama, and try to torment you to death.. cut them off, and say goodbye.. one borderline relationship is MORE than any reasonable person should have to endure for one lifetime.. you live and you learn.. but the best thing to do to a borderline is just to RUN.. GTFO.. boom..
Groomboy47 4 months ago
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spershall 4 months ago
Like many other psychopats, BPD people use alot of the projection defence mechanism described in psychoanalisis. They expel from their ego what is to hard too accept and say that about an other person. For example: "You are a manipulative person" means "I am a manipulative person", or " I used to be strong, until you came along" means " You used to be strong, until a came along, and I ruined your self confidence".
ciutacu 11 months ago
This is so familiar to me . I had a woman who has done almost word for word to me. It lasted 7 years and is still lurking. I had a letter sent to her from my attorney and have called her husband and in laws trying to have them do something about her. .I agree with you @runn3rboy. This woman had wrecked my marriage and turned my life into a complete hell by stalking me on Facebook and making new email addys up to continue to hit me and involving so many people in her chaotic rampage .
TheBK56 11 months ago
@TheBK56 what, the same thing happened to me.. like peas in a pod hey?
Groomboy47 4 months ago
@700moby damn skippy. its horrible. i went through it for nearly 3 years, it was hell. She actually crushed my self esteem so much I developed an eating disorder and virtually gave up on life. Getting away from her was one of the hardest things I have ever done. I had to change my number seven times to get away from her stalking and harrasment. She was a BPD horrorshow nightmare. as bad as a terminator, if not worse.
Groomboy47 11 months ago
@runn3rboy so you're laughing because of someones mental problem?
ivyleesillypants 11 months ago 4
I really can't stop laughing watching this, this really really happened just like how my ex gf behaves. She will blame me, curse me, tell me not to find her anymore, but then calls me and text me again.The drama never ends! LOL i gave up talking.It helped me a lot.The only way to deal with this people is to not feed in their drama.
runn3rboy 11 months ago
@runn3rboy they are the most extreme drama queens you could ever meet. They are welling up with so much internal chaos they dont care who they drag into it, and love the attention. They leave a trail of wreckage wherever they go.
Groomboy47 11 months ago
I'll bet Susan was really hot! they usually are. Mike did the right thing.
PrintedTruth 1 year ago
See girls, this is the crap we have to put up with. The myth of the sweet girl is such a bogus stereotype. This girl is still sexy, though, unfortunately. Guys would still do her.
JoeyFudd 1 year ago
I don't know what "farmally" means. I was diagnosed by some psychologists years ago.
MushroomKingdom602 1 year ago
lol nice comeback. Perhaps you're entertained by the idea that most borderlines are this way because you're in denial? I think the ones like *this* haven't learned life's lessons. She obvious doesn't empathize with passive aggressiveness, he keeps feeding the beast tool As far as help goes, I think what's best is not saying malicious things like "good luck with your recovery." What are you referring to anyway? Another assumption? If you let anyone walk all over you they will, bdp's especially.
MushroomKingdom602 1 year ago
@MushroomKingdom602 - Were you farmally diagnosed as BPD?
TheJayWhitecotton 1 year ago
@MushroomKingdom602 ..er.. if u have any experience in dealing with BPD specialists they all say pretty much the same thing. That 90+% of all borderlines pretty much act exactly the same way, with definable and predictable destructive behaviour patterns and chaotic manipulative crazymaking psychosis. They, "dont", learn lifes lessons. They are fucking crazy. And they dont feel "empathy", the way normal people do. That is why they have a personality disorder, cause they are the whole bag of nuts
Groomboy47 1 year ago
@Groomboy47 BPD can feel levels of empathy far beyond your's. They feel horrible unbearable guilt on the other side of they prideful illusionary words.
MsAgnosticatheist 11 months ago
@MsAgnosticatheist.. that may be true, but the psycho I was with showed very little empathy towards me and seemed to be selfishly focused on her own emotional state 99.9% of the time. She was totally happy with manipulating any and everyone she came into contact with. Feeling false empathy for others at my expense. Pathological lying and generally emotionally abusive behaviour. She worked hard to distort my sense of reality to get better control of me, and would resort to threats and violence.
Groomboy47 11 months ago
@Groomboy47 In fact, we are not "fucking crazy," we are people whose brains are at the mercy of an impulse control disorder. We absolutely do "learn life's lessons," when someone helps us, and we feel so much empathy it seems like it might break us sometimes. We are not psychotic, though we can show "transient, stress-related paranoid ideation," which is one of the diagnostic criteria. I hope you'll read about Marsha Linehan's work.
spershall 4 months ago
I know because i've done plenty of research and i'm not retarded. If it walks like a duck, and quacks like one, you guessed it? 90% of borderlines behave in typically predictable and abusive, manipulative ways. It doesnt take a rocket scientist or a "professional", to get it. The best thing that a borderline can do is own up to the disorder, and seek correct medical assistance from specialists to ease the suffering of those that come into contact with them. Good luck with your recovery.
Groomboy47 1 year ago
@Groomboy47 You might as well talk down about someone for having cancer You should all just be happy if you are free and don't have this disorder it is hell. 10% of us kill ourselves...not all are like the woman in this video it only shows one mood of the borderline when there are a distict 5. It is alot harder to be borderline than to deal with one. We did not ask for this it is a disease believed to be created by abuse as a child while the brain is developing.
bpdisnotinsanity 5 months ago
A woman calling self-defense "Abuse." Been there, done that.
TomMSTie1138 1 year ago
I love this video. i've watched it soooo many times.
cableman123 1 year ago
@2006minicooper Perhaps he became P/A after dating a BPD.. they tend to do that.
cableman123 1 year ago
I'm so glad that now I can put a label on this!
TheLightningStalker 1 year ago
I was in a relationship with a borderline. it was a nightmare so severe i still have PTSD from it. They tend to slowly chip away at your self esteem with constant debilitating and casually cruel and insulting behaviours. And pathological lies and manipulations. It really is a awful disorder, but the people that really suffer are the ones that come into contact with the borderline. But she is high functioning and in denial. I really feel sorry for her next victim. the best u can do is run.
Groomboy47 1 year ago 5
@Groomboy47
Just because you experienced this with one girl doesn't mean they're all like that. I see a lot of videos portraying girls with BPD like this, I'm not. The disorder simply makes it difficult to be logical of emotions, especially when they blind us, and it can be an enabler for immature actions and self-loathing. But she was like that because she wasn't developed as a person. She could still have BPD and be emotionally introspective, and be more objective of her words and actions.
MushroomKingdom602 1 year ago
@MushroomKingdom602 so i am assuming you are suffering from BPD? its all well and good to attempt to rationalize the disorder, but most borderlines are best known by the trail of wreckage they leave in their wake.. And if u have enough awareness to be able to understand the reasoning behind your actions you are unlike 99% of true borderlines that live in a state of complete denial and take absolutely no responsibility for their toxic and abusive behaviours..
Groomboy47 1 year ago
@Groomboy47 True borderline? lol. Do you have a PhD in psychology? Your comments are bias! How can you possibly know how Borderlines act on a massive scale? You can only speak for the one person you came in contact with. How someone was raised will make them into what they become. If a parent choose to instill consequences and teach manners, they will act as so. Responsibility, empathy, morality...etc. Without that... ?! I don't think acting like an immature brat will get me anywhere in life.
MushroomKingdom602 1 year ago
@MushroomKingdom602
You're not fooling anyone, and only hurting your case even more with your comments. You don't realize this, but you demonstrate the EXACT kind of nastiness and abusiveness you claim that not all borderlines exhibit in your comment about how not all borderlines exhibit nasty and abusive behavior. It's incredibly ironic and just proves the point of this video even more. You say you are an exception, but the fact that you aren't still shines through no matter what you claim.
tleab29 1 year ago
@Groomboy47 Take a psychology class, in fact watch some videos by the Standford PHD Robert Sapolsky. Or any PHD, borderlines have to deal with horribly extreme emotions. You have no idea what they go through and how the human brain works. You don't have to have one as a friend but don't hate.
MsAgnosticatheist 11 months ago