Funny how you have the same symptom as me of feeling bad for the people who hurt you, when they get in trouble for it. I've always cared more about the feelings and needs of people who are abusing (I mean even non-sexually) me (I mean, even coworkers, or authority figures) than I do about my own. It's like when you get sexually abused, you learn to believe that you aren't entitled to refuse to let other people abuse you, you feel like you always deserve it.
You are very strong for expressing this…a dark secret that many of us have but have not talked about. I don’t believe that you have to ‘get over’ it, as they say. Telling the truth about it, how you feel about it, is enough. Part of the dysfunction of our world is the poor valuation of the female. Her needs are not important, her contribution is not important, and her life is unimportant. We see things Fu@#%^ up presently in as much as we don't see the full humanity or worth of girl babies.
Khrys please keep these videos up because you just never know how your story may help another. Somebody may see this and it may give them hope to break free from an abuser. We need voices to stand strong and by telling our stories it is the only way we have to ending childhood sexual abuse. Let your voice be heard girl. I know it is difficult to talk about and difficult for people to hear yet by sharing it is the only way to bring the subject to light and to stand strong as survivors.
@PolarB36 I will keep them up, for sure. Making this videos has helped me to find closure in a way I didn't expect. Because I've told this story over and over and over again, but to tell it to a camera has just been different. Thanks again for the comment!
@PolarB36 It is not uncommon for parents to deny that abuse happens. It is hurtful to you when those are the people that are supposed to protect & love you & when they don't it hurts deep inside. Right now it is probably easily for you to place alot of blame and anger on your dad verses your abuser and that is because it seems safer. As you heal u will be able to place the blame & anger on your abusers too. It's also difficult for children of abuse to know they they have a right to say no.
@PolarB36 Although I was always told that I had that right, I didn't believe it. Also, I did blame my abuser for many years. It took a lot of talking and an earnest apology from him when I was fifteen for me to feel like I had the closure I needed to stop feeling angry toward him. But my father is someone that I have a lot of anger for, for many reasons. This was only one of the things that I feel like I will never forgive him for.
@BigJoeyfromBoston Oh I see. Yeah it's definitely hard to talk about/listen to. Thanks for your support, though. It was hard for me to keep these first couple videos up. I wanted to take them down so bad just because...I dunno, talking about all this publically really freaked me out. But I'm glad I kept them up.
You are so amazing to post this up and I definitely solute your courage. I have felt that same unprotectedness and at a very young age I reached a point where I felt like I was all I would ever have and it took a lot for me to stand against people and know that I didn't have to do what didn't feel right to me. We are survivors and I hope you forgive yourself for doing what you had to do to survive your experiences because we all have done things we are not proud of, but peace is possible!!~ Lady
Funny how you have the same symptom as me of feeling bad for the people who hurt you, when they get in trouble for it. I've always cared more about the feelings and needs of people who are abusing (I mean even non-sexually) me (I mean, even coworkers, or authority figures) than I do about my own. It's like when you get sexually abused, you learn to believe that you aren't entitled to refuse to let other people abuse you, you feel like you always deserve it.
LanceHertford 1 month ago
I mean, even when you're talking about wanting to seek legal action, I'm thinking in my mind "No, I couldn't do that to them".
LanceHertford 1 month ago
@LanceHertford
I couldn't have said it better myself. Thanks for watching.
KhrysHermary 1 month ago
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MsAshleymarie21 3 months ago
thank u so much!
cherrilicious1001 4 months ago
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Thank you, too! =]
KhrysHermary 3 months ago
You are very strong for expressing this…a dark secret that many of us have but have not talked about. I don’t believe that you have to ‘get over’ it, as they say. Telling the truth about it, how you feel about it, is enough. Part of the dysfunction of our world is the poor valuation of the female. Her needs are not important, her contribution is not important, and her life is unimportant. We see things Fu@#%^ up presently in as much as we don't see the full humanity or worth of girl babies.
Magnesiumfire 8 months ago
Khrys please keep these videos up because you just never know how your story may help another. Somebody may see this and it may give them hope to break free from an abuser. We need voices to stand strong and by telling our stories it is the only way we have to ending childhood sexual abuse. Let your voice be heard girl. I know it is difficult to talk about and difficult for people to hear yet by sharing it is the only way to bring the subject to light and to stand strong as survivors.
PolarB36 1 year ago
@PolarB36 I will keep them up, for sure. Making this videos has helped me to find closure in a way I didn't expect. Because I've told this story over and over and over again, but to tell it to a camera has just been different. Thanks again for the comment!
KhrysHermary 1 year ago
@PolarB36 It is not uncommon for parents to deny that abuse happens. It is hurtful to you when those are the people that are supposed to protect & love you & when they don't it hurts deep inside. Right now it is probably easily for you to place alot of blame and anger on your dad verses your abuser and that is because it seems safer. As you heal u will be able to place the blame & anger on your abusers too. It's also difficult for children of abuse to know they they have a right to say no.
PolarB36 1 year ago
@PolarB36 Although I was always told that I had that right, I didn't believe it. Also, I did blame my abuser for many years. It took a lot of talking and an earnest apology from him when I was fifteen for me to feel like I had the closure I needed to stop feeling angry toward him. But my father is someone that I have a lot of anger for, for many reasons. This was only one of the things that I feel like I will never forgive him for.
KhrysHermary 1 year ago
Again, your bravery and courage are commendable, Khrys. my heart just aches at this story.
MainelyButch 1 year ago
@MainelyButch Thank you for your support, Ang. :)
KhrysHermary 1 year ago
Maaan that was even more horrible!! I think I`m scarred now!
BigJoeyfromBoston 1 year ago
@BigJoeyfromBoston I'm really unsure of how to reply to this comment. :\
KhrysHermary 1 year ago
@KhrysHermary Ya i just meant that i now may be scarred for life haven heard your story! Not meaning to make lite, but i can`t help but cringe.
BigJoeyfromBoston 1 year ago
@BigJoeyfromBoston Oh I see. Yeah it's definitely hard to talk about/listen to. Thanks for your support, though. It was hard for me to keep these first couple videos up. I wanted to take them down so bad just because...I dunno, talking about all this publically really freaked me out. But I'm glad I kept them up.
KhrysHermary 1 year ago
@KhrysHermary No prob! Sometimes talking to a camera can be very therapeutic!!
BigJoeyfromBoston 1 year ago
You are so amazing to post this up and I definitely solute your courage. I have felt that same unprotectedness and at a very young age I reached a point where I felt like I was all I would ever have and it took a lot for me to stand against people and know that I didn't have to do what didn't feel right to me. We are survivors and I hope you forgive yourself for doing what you had to do to survive your experiences because we all have done things we are not proud of, but peace is possible!!~ Lady
LadyLover1213 1 year ago
@LadyLover1213 Thank you so much. :)
KhrysHermary 1 year ago