I think you made a great point about gaydar being based on stereotypes of the gay community. Another word for gaydar may actually be "profiling" since it uses factors of the individual's identity to place him/her in a group
I do think the Gaydar exists - its just hard to be accurate. I have a hard time telling when a guy is gay or not - I try to watch how they carry themselves because I think body language is a very important factor. I also take into account their clothing and mannerisms; bright colored clothing and the way they move and act. Though, you can never know if a guy is gay or not - unless you ask them.
Gaydar is a subconscious analytical process, a study showed that even when judging only a person's inert face (no body language to read), gay people's "snap" judgement is unusually accurate about orientation. (It's when they start thinking about it that results get screwy, just trust your instincts.) Straight people have this built in too, but obviously have significantly less use for it. It's similar to how left handed people are fastest to notice a person's handedness.
I don't think gaydar exists, I mean I guess how some acts around their same sex would be a clue but I don't think you could tell just by looking at someone, I have horrible gay-dar it's one of the things that keeps me from getting a girlfriend because I think 95% of the girls I like are straight lol. Oh and I like your screenname :)
@devilshomie I do think gaydar exists. I used to like this gay who is 'straight'. I mean, he behaves like a straight guy, talks like a straight guy, moves like a straight guy, has had girlfriends... but I noticed there was something and I don't know what it was, but I just kinda knew he should be gay. He's never said it to me or anyone I know, but I've talked about it to other gay friends and they totally agree. I'm just so sure that he's gay...
I see what ya sayin... I'm a straight guy with more gay than straight friends and for me it's the body language but my mate says it's more than that...damn you gays and your secret handshakes lol
I do not really go out trying to figure out if people are gay or not, but what always gives people away to me is when someone makes a comment of "Is that your boyfriend/girlfriend" or something similar assuming the person is straight. There is a certain look on the persons face, especially if they are still in the closet, in reaction to those kinds of statements that no one else seems to pick up on, but is very obvious since it is familiar to me
Your videos are excellent and I like your Canadian accent. OK, I'm a lesbian and I have pretty good gaydar for...gay men. But I have lousy gaydar with women. I have sometimes developed a big crush on a woman whom I think is gay, but it turns out they aren't. That is embarrassing as well as really frustrating. So, aside from the stereotypes which go along with being an obviously "butch" woman, how do lesbians know who the other lesbian is?
I think I have a gaydar; like you said, I feel like there's something there; there's that unexplainable feeling, like a special connection. But then I never find out if they're gay or not because it's non of my business, unless of course I'm interested but I'm not. :)
Gaydar exists only amongst people who are relatively open about being gay..that doesn't mean people who act "totally gay". Most people who are gay are very in the closet ..and give off no vibe as to being interested in the same sex. I'm not gay..but I have a fair amount of openly gay friends. And when this topic comes up in converstaion they will admit they are often surprised by people who they think are totally straight who turn out in the end to be gay.
be careful Erik about ur "eye contact" as "gaydar" in Germany eye contact is expected n is NOT a sign of gaydar or sexual comeon.....s8t german guys WILL look u righ in the eyes n if u think that is come on...u might very likely be mistaken. trust me on this one please...
I dont really know if it exists but i think i mostly go based on stereotypes. For gay males, typically they speak a certain way and they might have more feminine interests. As for girls, its harder but if they constantly talk about "hot" girls of course I get suspicious like anyone would.
I do believe that gaydar is real and that it reaches further than just stereotypes. It's like an extra sense. There's just something there and I can just read them and have an over all feeling.
We are not faggots ass hole we are gay (or bisexual in my case) and if u don't like us the get the he'll off this channel mister I love spamming faggots. I hope you get railed by your mother every bight for the rest of your fuckin pathetic life!!!
Gaydar definently exist lol it's like an oh my spider senses are tingling lol :)
I never thought I had a gaydar. People would say they saw a fem guy, and I'd be like nope, nothing is ticking.
Though I guessed a few times someone was gay based on the way they look at other guys, and was right, and twice yet again when I looked a guy in the eye. There is just something about it.
Just recently a guy I found really attractive was walking past me, and I felt "the heat" so to speak. I don't know if he feels the same way but I found out later I was right, he's gay.
The eye contact is SO true. Straight guys never look at other straight guys in the eye (and might I add this trend makes befriending stranger straight guys very difficult and frustrating). All it takes is 2 seconds and you can tell there's something going on with this guy who seems to be into you. But I have to agree that a significant amount of gaydar goes off of stereotypes. I know masculine gays I would never guess no matter how much I've been around gays in my life.
It exist! When I'm out shopping for food or clothes, i'll get that occasional glance from another guy. When both our eyes meet and linger for a little longer than usual you can pretty much confirm a mutual interest. Obviously thats not 100% effective but more times than not I've been right.
Well, if you see a person that is completely 'flaming', you've got a fair chance of assuming he is gay.
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But short of that, I think gay people use the same instinct that straight people do. Straight people can usually intuit when someone is interested in them. Usually based on lingering looks etc....
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Sometimes that instinct is wrong, but more often it is right.
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I typically fall back on the 'Strangers in the Night' model. You walk into a room and certain people stand out, catch your eye.
i always thought gaydar was just noticing if someone is gay or not and not exactly bringing attraction into the picture. i for one am pretty good at determining if someone is gay or not just by watching someone. i think it's just an addition of subliminal clues taken from body language and stuff like that, and maybe some people aren't in tune with that or dont notice the details.
When I was single, I would just rely of friends to tell me if someone was checking me out. I'm completely oblivious and naive otherwise, lol love the vids :)
There are definitely many clues- of course the aforementioned eye-contact, but using the linguistic perspective, studies done at the University of Chicago suggest that there are subtle differences in speech patterns between gay and straight males. Not the stereotypical "lisp"- but rather, some differences that are only noticeable to a trained professional. Perhaps it's a combination of visual and verbal cues that makes up gaydar. I know that I usually can tell if a guy is gay by listening to him
I'm your 999th viewer of this vid! hahaha! Gaydar definately does not exist in my opinion. Ive been wrong about guys way too many times! One guy we went to school with who we all were convinced was gay turned out 100% straight and is happily married now with 3 kids! Its the ones that act too straight that turned out gay! : 0 /
Eye contact is a great way of meeting men . Be careful, as most latent homosexual men have not understood that they are gay, and the eyes of such men will communicate openly with yours. Many born-again Christians in flight from themselves fall into this category, even as they preach loudly against gays. Contact with one of these men is potentially dangerous. I know of one who committed suicide after a gay encounter, and this devastated the gay man that engaged him. So exercise extreme caution.
If it does exist then mine isn't very good, everyone in my family thinks that my 3rd floor neighbor (who I have a huge crush on and is sadly moving away) is gay. I don't see it but they all think he is, it's really annoying because I would love to ask but then there's the drama involved in that. All I know is that he is very good at keeping eye contact something I fail at, so you can imagine my nerves and awkwardness lol.
@SharinByakuGan if he is leaving you should said something or it's going to be on your mind for a while with you saying "what if he felt the same way", trust me I made a mistake by not letting someone know how I feel and it's still pops in my mind anytime something comes along that reminds me of that person...:P
@SpiritualKnightX I made a mistake of sending him an anonymous "email". If I were to say anything about the matter he will immediately know it was me who sent it and yeah embarrassment is my cryptonite, still sucks though! I really want to know .... =[
I do see what you are saying and I totally agree what you said, but how do you separate what you want to see, from what you are seeing. Basically how do you distinguish form fantasy and reality? Because I am not really a risk taker, and I dont want to pursue someone (especially at work when you haft to see them on a regular basis) and Im totally wrong. And if the person totally reacts negatively, that would be a disaster..??
Oh, my god! You've probably heard this before -- or maybe not -- but you look like a young Oscar Wilde! Actually, it's uncanny!
In 1997, British actor Stephen Fry played Wilde in the film "Wilde". But, you could play him as a younger version in a stage production. Ever thought of studying drama and acting? ;)
Okay, I need to chime in on this one. I think that Gaydar does exist but it's not just about eye contact. It's also body language and the content of the conversation. The way they hold themselves when the conversation starts... they lean in during the conversation and maintain eye contact... a ton of other things. Eye contact is important but it's more than just that. Gaydar is learning to assess all of these behaviors and figuring out if they are a potential match. Just my two cents.
@MrBroyden I very much agree with you about everything you said. I too pay attention to more than just eye contact. There are numerous things humans do that potentially send out clues and signs.
wrestling is the number one way to discover these things, Any wrestler who is bi or gay just knows exactly what i am talking about. Like if a guy lets you pin him to easily, he likes the contact and wants you on him. Schoolboy pin is probably the best moves in wrestling for gay guysm the guy on the bottom is loving it and it grows by the minute, these r just the a few of the things, there r many more
Gaydar exists. It's a finely tuned instinct that exists in gay people. As time goes on and you are around gay people and interact with them a lot you become more finely tuned to mannerisms, lingo, looks, and other markers that one would identify as gay that are not sterotypical and would fall off a breeder's notice.
Gaydar exists. It's the subtle, almost subliminal queues that you pick up on...almost like a gut instinct. Eye contact is just a very small factor in the overall determination, in my opinion.
Gaydar does exist. It's a form of very subtle, perceptive body language. Mannerisms are part of the mix, but I notice it mostly in the eyes. I can't describe it exactly, but there is a certain introspective, intelligent softness that I can see in a guys eyes that gives it away.
as a disabled gay man, I've experimented a lot. i did the bar scene but got old quick. i go to a gay gym/swim club, nudist camping, orgy, nude gatherings and blackout nights. i am a quadriplegic and use a power chair. i really BLOW away the scene. I'm different but get around. you are cool DUDE.
gaydar is out there, but I've been wrong. people at work would fall over dead if they knew. but my neighbors and friends all know and TOLERATE me. looking at me in a wheelchair, people don't know. I'm a queercrip that looks straight. i don't use it as a cover, though.
gaydar is out there, but I've been wrong. people at work would fall over dead if they knew. but my neighbors and friends all know and TOLERATE me. looking at me in a wheelchair, people don't know. I'm a queercrip that looks straight. i don't use it as a cover, though.
You're absolutely correct Erik, not only gaydar exists but it's also a lot of fun and sometimes a blessing. However I often wonder whether maybe a "straightdar" exists as well and I suspect it does. Ciao.
I think you touch on it at the end - the key factor is attraction.
I've never met a straight guy with gaydar. I think 90% of what I consider to be my gaydar is mostly wishful thinking. I find the guy attractive, ergo, I hope he's gay, ergo, I assume he is gay.
But like I've always said, never let the fact that he has a girlfriend stand in your way of making a pass... ;)
being that all my crushes have been on straight guys(because i dont know any other gay guys) i tend to look away, behind them, or pretend to check my phone while talking to them cuz i feel like a creeper just kinda looking at them like that when i know they're never gonna be interested lol.
I think humans pick up subtle queues (mostly body language). Queues that we aren't or rather often aren't aware of on a conscious level, they tell us all sorts of things about a person and how they feel about their environment. That's what I think "gaydar" is mostly.
Also, in my experience it is much harder to tell if a woman is gay than a man (unless she is super butch). Sociality we are allowed to flirt more, and often do it unconsciously with both sexes independent of sexual preference...
Just like the "eyes are the windows to the soul" I always say the "Fly is the window to your junk!" haha JK..but seriously, I think I know exactly what your talking about. Gaydar does exist. Sometiemes I just know. Even if the person isnt camp at all, theres just a connection and you know....
yes 'gaydar' exists. its not just for us too. Ive met straight guys who can tell. it doesnt just cover stereotypes either. ive been able to point out masculine gay guys and guys who are straight that could be mistaken for gay. its hard to explain how i can tell AND its nothing shallow like types of clothes or hairstyles. havent tried the eye thing.
I have great gaydar, but I never used eye contact to trigger it. It's more so the vibe of the person that gives it away for me. Also there's little clues that one could use that apply to both fem and masc gay men. Gay men "prance" when they walk, because there's a little more of a push off of the ball of their foot when we walk. Also gay men usually walk and sit with more of a straight back than str8 men.
This is difficult to answer, maybe yes maybe not. It is good to make eye contact with a smile and talk to the person so you may find out.
Good news by the way, Swiss airspace open tomorrow 20th April from 8:00 local time. Rest of european airspace partially open. It is incredible what a mess nature can cause.
When people are in the gay village they avoid eye contact with people they are not sexually attracted too. People confuse eye contact with flirting. Sadly this makes gay environments very cold places.
Gaydar exists! My ex had it... can't explain it. AND my Hags have it too. They tell me all the time, when they see a guy... they know he's got some sugar in him! LOL! Eye contact/locking eyes... and they guy doesn't look away, yeah, he's gay and hiding in the closet. Enjoy your vids.
I always felt the eye-contact gaydar is easily explained by this: looking a guy in the eye, gaydar is when the guy looks back and keeps eye-contact just a second or two too long--straight guys will not hold eye-contact with another guy, but will quickly look down. When a guy keeps up the eye-contact just a little too long, that's when I call it gaydar. Of course, nothing is 100%.
gaydar does exist but i has nothing to do with people skills. you use those at work. gaydar is more of an emotion or a feeling. but it is not always right. so be careful just the same.
there are definitely body language mannerisms and linguistic cues that gay men have picked up to try to find each other- aka gaydar. remember, there was a time when we couldn't all be out and proud. we needed to develop lil cues to know we were around, be it Oscar Wilde's carnation or Castro/NYC hanky code. linguistic cues also developed like Polari. there's also some linguistic research that shows that gay men sometimes take on "feminine" speaking styles like a higher voice or a rising voice.
I've never experienced gaydar, but I'm terrible at reading body language and am terrible at eye contact, especially with people I don't know well. On a reverse note, practically everyone I've known thinks I'm straight until I tell them I'm gay.
I'm not sure if eye contact is really necessary to find out if someone's gay. Of course it helps, but I've had a few gaydar experiences with "straight looking" women and I'd find out they were gay without having eyecontact or a connection or anything.
It's hard to pinpoint what it is, but I guess it's some sort of vibe they have.
Of course it does, you can tell mainly by eye contact, body language and of course if hes got a hard on while your talking to him . LOL. But seriously you can usually tell most of the time after a while and it is mainly eye contact to start with. by the way, your friend has a good hand action, LOL
i suppose there's no reason why it couldn't exist its just people reading other people and some people are just better. I mean there are people who are able to tell when people are lying and make a career out of it.
Gaydar dose exist and u are completely right it is all in the eyes. from my experiences u can often tell instantly after netting a guy if they are gay or strait well 9 times outta 10 anyway buy looking them into they eyes and giving them a smile
I think that the eyes are important, and if they seem to really like you. To a lesser extant, I wold say demeanor, and how they behave with the opposite sex. If they seem courteous or friendly around the opposite sex, but not trying to flirt, and they have a more expressive demeanor [hard to quantify], and have a particular look in their eyes. Then he's probably gay. And of course, if he scopes out other guys. lolz
You're right. Eye contact is the key. Most guys will look away, but gay guys tend to keep it longer. Unless of course it's a angry straight guy that wants to stare you down. LOL.
There's no gaydar. If there is, not everyone has it. Even in gays. One of my close friends is a lesbian and she thinks everyone's gay who isn't gay and when someone is gay, she doesn't catch it. It's hilarious!
Gaydar exists. I have a fairly highly tuned one. The biggest thing that tips off gaydar is something called "gay eyes". This usually applied more to gay men. It refers to the way a gay man views the world in a sense. In general, a gay man with "gay eyes" is extremely observant of the world around him (specifically other men), when he feels no one is watching him.
As a older gay male I must tell you YES gaydar is really. like you I have found that if a male looks me in the eyes and gives a big smile 9 out of ten times he is gay or at least bi. Plus just from watching the manners of alot of guys is a tip off, now don't get me wrong stright men have manners, but more gay men are more comfortable touching and talking with other men. Plus they dress way better!!LOL
I agree!, gaydar goes way beyond stereotypes, it's like barddude said it's all about the vibes a certain person gives and definitely it's all about eye contact!
In my 20s, a woman I knew taught me a way to figure out whether a guy was gay or straight. It involved eye contact as you described. Straight men will usually look a woman up and down (even very quickly) upon meeting her, while gay men will do the same to a guy. It changed my dating life (I was often hitting on straight guys by mistake). For the last 14 years, the sexual orientation of only one guy has concerned me, i.e., my partner. ;-)
It certainly does exist... gaydar is based on a number of things, including eye contact, facial expressions, body language, and so forth. And the interesting thing is, some women can pick up on it as well, because they know how straight guys typically act around them, so if a guy acts differently, they start to put two and two together...
Gaydar does exist. It is simply keen perception, the same way that there are people who can tell what kind of person you are based off of very little actual contact.
My Gaydar is not centered around stereotypes, because it doesn't take real Gaydar to pick up on shallow things.
For me it's their energy and subtle body language. And eyes are also a major indicator as well because the eyes are the windows to the soul. It's cheesy but it's true.
There is definitely a level of stereotypes when it comes to gaydar, but I agree with you that it's not everything. There are plenty of vibes a person can give off. I myself know a few straight people who knew right away that I was gay, even though I'm not a typical stereotype of a gay man. I have also felt something going on with others who have turned out to be gay. It's true that sometimes its in the eyes.
I think you made a great point about gaydar being based on stereotypes of the gay community. Another word for gaydar may actually be "profiling" since it uses factors of the individual's identity to place him/her in a group
znhnd 3 hours ago
There's mean people at my school so I dont look them in the eye (most of them are ugly)
Sookie7441 1 week ago
zzz my Gaydar sucks I have had gay guys hit on me and not even know it....
RicardoDJP 1 month ago
I do think the Gaydar exists - its just hard to be accurate. I have a hard time telling when a guy is gay or not - I try to watch how they carry themselves because I think body language is a very important factor. I also take into account their clothing and mannerisms; bright colored clothing and the way they move and act. Though, you can never know if a guy is gay or not - unless you ask them.
Kororocks12 6 months ago
Gaydar is a subconscious analytical process, a study showed that even when judging only a person's inert face (no body language to read), gay people's "snap" judgement is unusually accurate about orientation. (It's when they start thinking about it that results get screwy, just trust your instincts.) Straight people have this built in too, but obviously have significantly less use for it. It's similar to how left handed people are fastest to notice a person's handedness.
RaptorClaws24 6 months ago
thumbs up if ur gay!!! :D
uran00b121896 7 months ago
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uran00b121896 7 months ago
Im a guy.....lets make out
uran00b121896 7 months ago
is there radar on circumsisied me too? I am not joking? Intact Gaydar? I think thereis what about you girlie men?
IbnNero 7 months ago
I don't think gaydar exists, I mean I guess how some acts around their same sex would be a clue but I don't think you could tell just by looking at someone, I have horrible gay-dar it's one of the things that keeps me from getting a girlfriend because I think 95% of the girls I like are straight lol. Oh and I like your screenname :)
devilshomie 8 months ago
@devilshomie I do think gaydar exists. I used to like this gay who is 'straight'. I mean, he behaves like a straight guy, talks like a straight guy, moves like a straight guy, has had girlfriends... but I noticed there was something and I don't know what it was, but I just kinda knew he should be gay. He's never said it to me or anyone I know, but I've talked about it to other gay friends and they totally agree. I'm just so sure that he's gay...
AssProKicker 6 months ago 2
gaydar is so real! just ask any poker player, er, any winning poker player. it's all about tells (body language).
hoosiergambler 11 months ago
I see what ya sayin... I'm a straight guy with more gay than straight friends and for me it's the body language but my mate says it's more than that...damn you gays and your secret handshakes lol
petelloyd73 11 months ago
faggot
regenjo 1 year ago
@regenjo why r u even here? stay closeted.
rajibdavid 10 months ago
@rajibdavid Yeah, since all people that don't like faggots are automatically gay. Your so full of it.
regenjo 10 months ago
@regenjo why the fuck r u here? maybe u had a remarkable gay experience in past and you're afraid u liked it ?
rajibdavid 10 months ago
@rajibdavid I will have a remarkable gay experience when every faggot is burning in hell. And I'm definitely gonna like that.
regenjo 10 months ago
@regenjo Intolerant people will also go to hell #ouch you're certainly pressed.
rajibdavid 10 months ago
@rajibdavid I doubt it.
regenjo 10 months ago
my gaydar sucks. if some guy is hot i think they must be gay. If they are ugly is dont really care, u are one of the hot ones by the way.
yourextremeadventure 1 year ago
I do not really go out trying to figure out if people are gay or not, but what always gives people away to me is when someone makes a comment of "Is that your boyfriend/girlfriend" or something similar assuming the person is straight. There is a certain look on the persons face, especially if they are still in the closet, in reaction to those kinds of statements that no one else seems to pick up on, but is very obvious since it is familiar to me
amoredaroxanne 1 year ago
Your videos are excellent and I like your Canadian accent. OK, I'm a lesbian and I have pretty good gaydar for...gay men. But I have lousy gaydar with women. I have sometimes developed a big crush on a woman whom I think is gay, but it turns out they aren't. That is embarrassing as well as really frustrating. So, aside from the stereotypes which go along with being an obviously "butch" woman, how do lesbians know who the other lesbian is?
sophelet 1 year ago
I think I have a gaydar; like you said, I feel like there's something there; there's that unexplainable feeling, like a special connection. But then I never find out if they're gay or not because it's non of my business, unless of course I'm interested but I'm not. :)
parkcardy 1 year ago
I would like to think I have gaydar, But I clearly don't. Lol.
Tazn0x 1 year ago
Gaydar exists only amongst people who are relatively open about being gay..that doesn't mean people who act "totally gay". Most people who are gay are very in the closet ..and give off no vibe as to being interested in the same sex. I'm not gay..but I have a fair amount of openly gay friends. And when this topic comes up in converstaion they will admit they are often surprised by people who they think are totally straight who turn out in the end to be gay.
mooneepondskid 1 year ago
@puritygirl1
you're a fucking looney toon!
PoshtenOgtar 1 year ago
You fucking faggots are a disgrace to all humanity! mother fucking bitch!
PoshtenOgtar 1 year ago
be careful Erik about ur "eye contact" as "gaydar" in Germany eye contact is expected n is NOT a sign of gaydar or sexual comeon.....s8t german guys WILL look u righ in the eyes n if u think that is come on...u might very likely be mistaken. trust me on this one please...
Pisces31660 1 year ago
I dont really know if it exists but i think i mostly go based on stereotypes. For gay males, typically they speak a certain way and they might have more feminine interests. As for girls, its harder but if they constantly talk about "hot" girls of course I get suspicious like anyone would.
northerncomfort96 1 year ago
I do believe that gaydar is real and that it reaches further than just stereotypes. It's like an extra sense. There's just something there and I can just read them and have an over all feeling.
CrackeDxEggsx4U 1 year ago
gay dar is real. It's a feeling that gay guys feel. I mean, you can sense your kind :)
bvlgary09 1 year ago
I recently found out that one of my closest friends was gay and I had NO idea loll
That might be because we're both girls and I'm not gay. =P who knows
If gaydar does exist...I don't have it at all hahaa [fact]
MusicallyKayla 1 year ago
whats with thar girl at the end? hahaha XD nice one....i dont know its very complex as u say...
ephimer 1 year ago
@kfag131 Breeder!
separatesix 1 year ago
i`m straight but he does have a point
Tommy19557 1 year ago
This has been flagged as spam show
BECAUSE IM GAY!
TheMegaStix 1 year ago
im gay and stealthy under the gaydar
stanleycupchamps2009 1 year ago
i like it when boys kiss boys too
;)
Bubblepoopdanie 1 year ago
We are not faggots ass hole we are gay (or bisexual in my case) and if u don't like us the get the he'll off this channel mister I love spamming faggots. I hope you get railed by your mother every bight for the rest of your fuckin pathetic life!!!
Gaydar definently exist lol it's like an oh my spider senses are tingling lol :)
darthdylan1000 1 year ago
Your eyes look like cocks. why do so many faggots have cock eyes?
iSpamYouFaggots 1 year ago
uuhhhhhhh girl :)
SimontheSorceror 1 year ago
I never thought I had a gaydar. People would say they saw a fem guy, and I'd be like nope, nothing is ticking.
Though I guessed a few times someone was gay based on the way they look at other guys, and was right, and twice yet again when I looked a guy in the eye. There is just something about it.
Just recently a guy I found really attractive was walking past me, and I felt "the heat" so to speak. I don't know if he feels the same way but I found out later I was right, he's gay.
spartacandream 1 year ago
@spartacandream
None of the guys I guessed were gay were anything to do with any of the stereotypes.
spartacandream 1 year ago
The eye contact is SO true. Straight guys never look at other straight guys in the eye (and might I add this trend makes befriending stranger straight guys very difficult and frustrating). All it takes is 2 seconds and you can tell there's something going on with this guy who seems to be into you. But I have to agree that a significant amount of gaydar goes off of stereotypes. I know masculine gays I would never guess no matter how much I've been around gays in my life.
inaeurotrance 1 year ago
It exist! When I'm out shopping for food or clothes, i'll get that occasional glance from another guy. When both our eyes meet and linger for a little longer than usual you can pretty much confirm a mutual interest. Obviously thats not 100% effective but more times than not I've been right.
falcon262 1 year ago
Well, if you see a person that is completely 'flaming', you've got a fair chance of assuming he is gay.
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But short of that, I think gay people use the same instinct that straight people do. Straight people can usually intuit when someone is interested in them. Usually based on lingering looks etc....
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Sometimes that instinct is wrong, but more often it is right.
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I typically fall back on the 'Strangers in the Night' model. You walk into a room and certain people stand out, catch your eye.
blueboyblue 1 year ago
The ball-pumper at the end had me cracking up!!!!
alexmunroe 1 year ago
@alexmunroe I'm very happy you liked that part, she is quite skilled!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
i always thought gaydar was just noticing if someone is gay or not and not exactly bringing attraction into the picture. i for one am pretty good at determining if someone is gay or not just by watching someone. i think it's just an addition of subliminal clues taken from body language and stuff like that, and maybe some people aren't in tune with that or dont notice the details.
rocktronical 1 year ago
i agree, it does exist.
funny ending with the girl... LOL
skinnypidgin 1 year ago
When I was single, I would just rely of friends to tell me if someone was checking me out. I'm completely oblivious and naive otherwise, lol love the vids :)
crs42066 1 year ago
There are definitely many clues- of course the aforementioned eye-contact, but using the linguistic perspective, studies done at the University of Chicago suggest that there are subtle differences in speech patterns between gay and straight males. Not the stereotypical "lisp"- but rather, some differences that are only noticeable to a trained professional. Perhaps it's a combination of visual and verbal cues that makes up gaydar. I know that I usually can tell if a guy is gay by listening to him
willrod1989 1 year ago
I'm your 999th viewer of this vid! hahaha! Gaydar definately does not exist in my opinion. Ive been wrong about guys way too many times! One guy we went to school with who we all were convinced was gay turned out 100% straight and is happily married now with 3 kids! Its the ones that act too straight that turned out gay! : 0 /
Supportahol 1 year ago
me gustan tus videos, se nota que tienes la cabeza bien puesta, mucha suerte con tus estudios (y con los chicos también)
te escribo en español para que practiques un poco, un abrazo
agent9752 1 year ago
Eye contact is a great way of meeting men . Be careful, as most latent homosexual men have not understood that they are gay, and the eyes of such men will communicate openly with yours. Many born-again Christians in flight from themselves fall into this category, even as they preach loudly against gays. Contact with one of these men is potentially dangerous. I know of one who committed suicide after a gay encounter, and this devastated the gay man that engaged him. So exercise extreme caution.
SLEOGTO 1 year ago
Is your user name supposed to be ironic?
wecaan 1 year ago
I think Gaydar certainly is real and you got the point about eye contact spot on.
UMNERRR 1 year ago
If it does exist then mine isn't very good, everyone in my family thinks that my 3rd floor neighbor (who I have a huge crush on and is sadly moving away) is gay. I don't see it but they all think he is, it's really annoying because I would love to ask but then there's the drama involved in that. All I know is that he is very good at keeping eye contact something I fail at, so you can imagine my nerves and awkwardness lol.
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
@SharinByakuGan if he is leaving you should said something or it's going to be on your mind for a while with you saying "what if he felt the same way", trust me I made a mistake by not letting someone know how I feel and it's still pops in my mind anytime something comes along that reminds me of that person...:P
SpiritualKnightX 1 year ago
@SpiritualKnightX I made a mistake of sending him an anonymous "email". If I were to say anything about the matter he will immediately know it was me who sent it and yeah embarrassment is my cryptonite, still sucks though! I really want to know .... =[
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
I do see what you are saying and I totally agree what you said, but how do you separate what you want to see, from what you are seeing. Basically how do you distinguish form fantasy and reality? Because I am not really a risk taker, and I dont want to pursue someone (especially at work when you haft to see them on a regular basis) and Im totally wrong. And if the person totally reacts negatively, that would be a disaster..??
SpiritualKnightX 1 year ago
@SpiritualKnightX I know exactly what you mean.
SharinByakuGan 1 year ago
Oh, my god! You've probably heard this before -- or maybe not -- but you look like a young Oscar Wilde! Actually, it's uncanny!
In 1997, British actor Stephen Fry played Wilde in the film "Wilde". But, you could play him as a younger version in a stage production. Ever thought of studying drama and acting? ;)
By the way, great video!
Tuxster3 1 year ago
I believe in gaydar, but I don't call it "gayday." I just say that "my feelers are acting up."
jjlucash 1 year ago
Okay, I need to chime in on this one. I think that Gaydar does exist but it's not just about eye contact. It's also body language and the content of the conversation. The way they hold themselves when the conversation starts... they lean in during the conversation and maintain eye contact... a ton of other things. Eye contact is important but it's more than just that. Gaydar is learning to assess all of these behaviors and figuring out if they are a potential match. Just my two cents.
MrBroyden 1 year ago 8
@MrBroyden I very much agree with you about everything you said. I too pay attention to more than just eye contact. There are numerous things humans do that potentially send out clues and signs.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
wrestling is the number one way to discover these things, Any wrestler who is bi or gay just knows exactly what i am talking about. Like if a guy lets you pin him to easily, he likes the contact and wants you on him. Schoolboy pin is probably the best moves in wrestling for gay guysm the guy on the bottom is loving it and it grows by the minute, these r just the a few of the things, there r many more
njwrestler47 1 year ago
Gaydar exists. It's a finely tuned instinct that exists in gay people. As time goes on and you are around gay people and interact with them a lot you become more finely tuned to mannerisms, lingo, looks, and other markers that one would identify as gay that are not sterotypical and would fall off a breeder's notice.
speedoboyny 1 year ago
Gaydar exists. It's the subtle, almost subliminal queues that you pick up on...almost like a gut instinct. Eye contact is just a very small factor in the overall determination, in my opinion.
cynterslave 1 year ago
Gaydar does exist. It's a form of very subtle, perceptive body language. Mannerisms are part of the mix, but I notice it mostly in the eyes. I can't describe it exactly, but there is a certain introspective, intelligent softness that I can see in a guys eyes that gives it away.
ebreis7 1 year ago
Hilarious!
UnicornBooty 1 year ago
as a disabled gay man, I've experimented a lot. i did the bar scene but got old quick. i go to a gay gym/swim club, nudist camping, orgy, nude gatherings and blackout nights. i am a quadriplegic and use a power chair. i really BLOW away the scene. I'm different but get around. you are cool DUDE.
FreeWheelerLife 1 year ago
gaydar is out there, but I've been wrong. people at work would fall over dead if they knew. but my neighbors and friends all know and TOLERATE me. looking at me in a wheelchair, people don't know. I'm a queercrip that looks straight. i don't use it as a cover, though.
FreeWheelerLife 1 year ago
gaydar is out there, but I've been wrong. people at work would fall over dead if they knew. but my neighbors and friends all know and TOLERATE me. looking at me in a wheelchair, people don't know. I'm a queercrip that looks straight. i don't use it as a cover, though.
FreeWheelerLife 1 year ago
You're absolutely correct Erik, not only gaydar exists but it's also a lot of fun and sometimes a blessing. However I often wonder whether maybe a "straightdar" exists as well and I suspect it does. Ciao.
whataboutAlfie 1 year ago
@whataboutAlfie Did you receive my reply to your email I sent a couple weeks ago? I'm sure some kind of straightdar probably does exist as well.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
gaydar exists!!!!!!!! if you have an iPhone, GRINDR tells you how close the nearest gay is to you! LOL. I want a BF like you! YUM!
sneakerjockCA 1 year ago
I think you touch on it at the end - the key factor is attraction.
I've never met a straight guy with gaydar. I think 90% of what I consider to be my gaydar is mostly wishful thinking. I find the guy attractive, ergo, I hope he's gay, ergo, I assume he is gay.
But like I've always said, never let the fact that he has a girlfriend stand in your way of making a pass... ;)
Maelwysii 1 year ago
being that all my crushes have been on straight guys(because i dont know any other gay guys) i tend to look away, behind them, or pretend to check my phone while talking to them cuz i feel like a creeper just kinda looking at them like that when i know they're never gonna be interested lol.
GayNurd 1 year ago
I look into your eyes every time you post a video but it hasn't worked for me yet. ;-)
alaninnh 1 year ago
I have a theory that most of gaydar is either empathy and mirror neurons or microexpressions -- I agree!
Love the vlog - keep em' coming! : p
Atman82 1 year ago
yes there is a gay language..i took two years in High School.
hahaha i love kathy griffin
TheRingoChannel 1 year ago
I think humans pick up subtle queues (mostly body language). Queues that we aren't or rather often aren't aware of on a conscious level, they tell us all sorts of things about a person and how they feel about their environment. That's what I think "gaydar" is mostly.
Also, in my experience it is much harder to tell if a woman is gay than a man (unless she is super butch). Sociality we are allowed to flirt more, and often do it unconsciously with both sexes independent of sexual preference...
madeofyucca 1 year ago
Just like the "eyes are the windows to the soul" I always say the "Fly is the window to your junk!" haha JK..but seriously, I think I know exactly what your talking about. Gaydar does exist. Sometiemes I just know. Even if the person isnt camp at all, theres just a connection and you know....
pvampire 1 year ago
totally agree ! haha
zooger55 1 year ago
well if you act a sertain way try and find that same quality in others and that might help in figureing out their sexuality without asking them
shyyguyy111 1 year ago
yes 'gaydar' exists. its not just for us too. Ive met straight guys who can tell. it doesnt just cover stereotypes either. ive been able to point out masculine gay guys and guys who are straight that could be mistaken for gay. its hard to explain how i can tell AND its nothing shallow like types of clothes or hairstyles. havent tried the eye thing.
Reisce 1 year ago
I have great gaydar, but I never used eye contact to trigger it. It's more so the vibe of the person that gives it away for me. Also there's little clues that one could use that apply to both fem and masc gay men. Gay men "prance" when they walk, because there's a little more of a push off of the ball of their foot when we walk. Also gay men usually walk and sit with more of a straight back than str8 men.
TheVirgoGuy 1 year ago
Hehe, I agree with you pretty much. =] And btw, you totally look like my first "love" <3 haha, random, but yeahh!
finalcloud 1 year ago
@finalcloud cool! =D
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
This is difficult to answer, maybe yes maybe not. It is good to make eye contact with a smile and talk to the person so you may find out.
Good news by the way, Swiss airspace open tomorrow 20th April from 8:00 local time. Rest of european airspace partially open. It is incredible what a mess nature can cause.
arminfurrer 1 year ago
@arminfurrer That is good to hear! I hope there are no eruptions around the time I go to Europe!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
When people are in the gay village they avoid eye contact with people they are not sexually attracted too. People confuse eye contact with flirting. Sadly this makes gay environments very cold places.
cavejourney 1 year ago
@cavejourney That's not good to hear!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
Gaydar exists! My ex had it... can't explain it. AND my Hags have it too. They tell me all the time, when they see a guy... they know he's got some sugar in him! LOL! Eye contact/locking eyes... and they guy doesn't look away, yeah, he's gay and hiding in the closet. Enjoy your vids.
bxact 1 year ago
I always felt the eye-contact gaydar is easily explained by this: looking a guy in the eye, gaydar is when the guy looks back and keeps eye-contact just a second or two too long--straight guys will not hold eye-contact with another guy, but will quickly look down. When a guy keeps up the eye-contact just a little too long, that's when I call it gaydar. Of course, nothing is 100%.
nexttsar 1 year ago 8
@nexttsar I agree with you. That's what I was thinking!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
Maybe there is some sort of gaydar between gays but I dont think there is one for non-gays.
I have set off quite a few peoples gaydar, though Im not gay, just pretty flamboyant.
So really Id agree with the person that thinks its based on stereotypes.
TherianthropeAndrewH 1 year ago
i think it probably exists. its just an intuition. you might just know.
p2pjoe 1 year ago
Not everyone has it. Some can pick up on clues and intuition. You got it or you don't.
Flanole 1 year ago
gaydar does exist but i has nothing to do with people skills. you use those at work. gaydar is more of an emotion or a feeling. but it is not always right. so be careful just the same.
ftldrdl 1 year ago
I think i am normally good at telling if someone is gay but yeh i agree with eye contact it helps a lot but i dont say i have gaydar as such
RolyUnGashaa 1 year ago
there are definitely body language mannerisms and linguistic cues that gay men have picked up to try to find each other- aka gaydar. remember, there was a time when we couldn't all be out and proud. we needed to develop lil cues to know we were around, be it Oscar Wilde's carnation or Castro/NYC hanky code. linguistic cues also developed like Polari. there's also some linguistic research that shows that gay men sometimes take on "feminine" speaking styles like a higher voice or a rising voice.
edzekiel101 1 year ago
I've never experienced gaydar, but I'm terrible at reading body language and am terrible at eye contact, especially with people I don't know well. On a reverse note, practically everyone I've known thinks I'm straight until I tell them I'm gay.
Stephen5000 1 year ago
I'm not sure if eye contact is really necessary to find out if someone's gay. Of course it helps, but I've had a few gaydar experiences with "straight looking" women and I'd find out they were gay without having eyecontact or a connection or anything.
It's hard to pinpoint what it is, but I guess it's some sort of vibe they have.
chocogirl30 1 year ago
Yes, it definitely exists. :)
tattooskin72 1 year ago
Of course it does, you can tell mainly by eye contact, body language and of course if hes got a hard on while your talking to him . LOL. But seriously you can usually tell most of the time after a while and it is mainly eye contact to start with. by the way, your friend has a good hand action, LOL
gaykernow 1 year ago
i cant even figure out if someone is into me, let alone figure out if they are gay or not.
FreaksIncorporated 1 year ago
wonderful video stud
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SOUTHWESTCUB 1 year ago
i suppose there's no reason why it couldn't exist its just people reading other people and some people are just better. I mean there are people who are able to tell when people are lying and make a career out of it.
Afarrell18 1 year ago
Gaydar dose exist and u are completely right it is all in the eyes. from my experiences u can often tell instantly after netting a guy if they are gay or strait well 9 times outta 10 anyway buy looking them into they eyes and giving them a smile
GDvD007 1 year ago
I think that the eyes are important, and if they seem to really like you. To a lesser extant, I wold say demeanor, and how they behave with the opposite sex. If they seem courteous or friendly around the opposite sex, but not trying to flirt, and they have a more expressive demeanor [hard to quantify], and have a particular look in their eyes. Then he's probably gay. And of course, if he scopes out other guys. lolz
gustjorodedheo 1 year ago
You're right. Eye contact is the key. Most guys will look away, but gay guys tend to keep it longer. Unless of course it's a angry straight guy that wants to stare you down. LOL.
JayBellBooks 1 year ago
There's no gaydar. If there is, not everyone has it. Even in gays. One of my close friends is a lesbian and she thinks everyone's gay who isn't gay and when someone is gay, she doesn't catch it. It's hilarious!
igytsiycm 1 year ago
@igytsiycm Thanks for your thoughts!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
Gaydar exists. I have a fairly highly tuned one. The biggest thing that tips off gaydar is something called "gay eyes". This usually applied more to gay men. It refers to the way a gay man views the world in a sense. In general, a gay man with "gay eyes" is extremely observant of the world around him (specifically other men), when he feels no one is watching him.
grayeyeswatching 1 year ago 7
@grayeyeswatching Dittos!
jimbobubbadj 1 year ago
@grayeyeswatching Thanks for your comment! I think being gay has made me more observant, especially when it comes to people and their personalities.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
As a older gay male I must tell you YES gaydar is really. like you I have found that if a male looks me in the eyes and gives a big smile 9 out of ten times he is gay or at least bi. Plus just from watching the manners of alot of guys is a tip off, now don't get me wrong stright men have manners, but more gay men are more comfortable touching and talking with other men. Plus they dress way better!!LOL
Texasred63 1 year ago
@Texasred63 Thank you for sharing!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
I believe in it. Bit sometimes you can be wrong.
And do know that lot's of gays never come out of the closet.
Gaygreetzz from Holebis ♥♂♂,♀♀♥
Holebis 1 year ago
I've experienced myself, and know a few others, that have jewdar.
Mine stopped working properly when I stopped believing though.
It's subconcious recognition of signals, giving people a hunch, it can be wrong, wether it's jewdar, gaydar or secretly an aliendar.
APDurrant 1 year ago
I agree!, gaydar goes way beyond stereotypes, it's like barddude said it's all about the vibes a certain person gives and definitely it's all about eye contact!
HRHrMegafan 1 year ago
Eye contact is great, but it can trigger a bad reaction if the guy you're checking out is in denial, in the closet or insecure about his sexuality.
Also, my gaydar is highly accurate, but it has been tripped a couple of times by wishful thinking. Ouch!
trisshandy 1 year ago
@trisshandy yeah, sometimes wishful thinking does get in the way!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
In my 20s, a woman I knew taught me a way to figure out whether a guy was gay or straight. It involved eye contact as you described. Straight men will usually look a woman up and down (even very quickly) upon meeting her, while gay men will do the same to a guy. It changed my dating life (I was often hitting on straight guys by mistake). For the last 14 years, the sexual orientation of only one guy has concerned me, i.e., my partner. ;-)
ProfMTH 1 year ago
@ProfMTH Thank you for the advice and for sharing!
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
It certainly does exist... gaydar is based on a number of things, including eye contact, facial expressions, body language, and so forth. And the interesting thing is, some women can pick up on it as well, because they know how straight guys typically act around them, so if a guy acts differently, they start to put two and two together...
vwestlife 1 year ago
@vwestlife I bet some straight guys have possess some abilities too.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
As soon as you asked the question, I immediately thought of the eye contact thing, as well! It happens to me nearly every day...weird.
PolyesterSweater 1 year ago
Gaydar does exist. It is simply keen perception, the same way that there are people who can tell what kind of person you are based off of very little actual contact.
My Gaydar is not centered around stereotypes, because it doesn't take real Gaydar to pick up on shallow things.
For me it's their energy and subtle body language. And eyes are also a major indicator as well because the eyes are the windows to the soul. It's cheesy but it's true.
PurpleHoneyBear 1 year ago
@PurpleHoneyBear Thank you for sharing! I think you are very right.
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
Oh Gaydar DOES exist.
JCJasion 1 year ago
@JCJasion It's cool you think so too
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
There is definitely a level of stereotypes when it comes to gaydar, but I agree with you that it's not everything. There are plenty of vibes a person can give off. I myself know a few straight people who knew right away that I was gay, even though I'm not a typical stereotype of a gay man. I have also felt something going on with others who have turned out to be gay. It's true that sometimes its in the eyes.
Barddude 1 year ago
@Barddude Thanks for sharing your input!! =D
StraightActingGayGuy 1 year ago
Ya'll are adorable!
yaymamayay 1 year ago