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  • I like the way you say "Tschüss!" Your accent is hardly noticeable...you sound like you have german relatives!

  • Hi, a creepy guy non-sociable guy here. To overcome creepiness take up an improv to learn to have fun and not give a shit.

  • yeah it all works, and blah blah ... I've always done good in this matter, but my gosh PICKUPCHIK... you fit and funny as hell! Can't stop watching these vids hahahaha.... it's way too much fun.

    RECIEVE SOME LUV from the south of the globe!

    H.

  • One day we will live in a world where all the geek-offs who are conpensating for their insecure sexualities will fuck-off... literally... and clear the way for those gals who are looking for serious guys to approach Us at the bar & maybe have the courtesy to refill our glasses as they pour some for themselves. I guess this will require free booze though so I'll have to risk my life is a rebellion against the chauvanistic womanizers first. Hehe... writing that felt really good ;()

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  • does hopping, jumping, pretending to be dancing, and singing and laughing with friends count as having fun? xD

  • get sum muscles??

  • so if im shy and dont socialize much does that make me a creepy guy?

    i cant help it :(

  • u r my pip pip

    say hi pip pip

  • I suppose I'm the creepy guy sometimes. But it only happens when i feel like 'Oh they're having a good time, I probably shouldn't step in and fuck things up like I usually do'

  • Hey Colleen. Ich mag deine Videos sehr und war jetzt auch mal auf deiner Website, und habe jetzt erst herausgefunden das du aus Deutschland stammst. Hätte mir ja eigentlich früher auffallen können. :D

    Ich freue mich auf neue Videos.

    Alles Gute.

    David

    aus Aachen ;-)

  • I think all I need is to plan going out with female friends, but how to get those? I have some, they are married, but every one that I know is busy or working, so we need to plan things. It kind of sucks, how do I go about recruiting more female friends that just wanna hang out?

  • I'm sorry , but I can't keep my eye off your boobies :(

  • i really like your accent! (:

  • Damn it, I'm the creepy guy in my senior class =(

    I talk to people, but maybe for like 2 min before it gets awkward.. well the school year is almost over for me so I guess i can just overlook this lol

  • A neighbor of mine is always the life of the party. He is the party. Girls swarm around him. Some girl is always ready to go anywhere with him. He strangles nice little girls. But girls forgive him, because he's so funny and exciting, even though he's a total moron. Well, who am I to talk bad about a guy that women just die for? I'm just an antisocial creep, I guess.

  • right for a start fuk offfffffffffffff

  • Easy, find some friends that won't start yapping over which girls have rejected them. I want to have a good time! not sit around, drinking beer with a sausage party and talk about women..

  • Your pretty great teacher. I learnt alot of skills of social interactions and attractions from guys but it's so much simplier and real being told from a girl.

    You have something here

    And nice boos

  • hey, there are girls like that too

  • you have really good gestures - a very natural public speaker!

  • ok i feel bad saying this but i need too......i cant talk to girls...i just get really nevovs i start over thinking..it alot like the movies were a there geek goes up to a hot girl and says he like hot dogs..ya its that bad

  • i like this girl all her friends say she likes me i like her she seems like she likes me weve been friends for three years ive asked her out once before she said yes then a week later right beofre are date said she didnt want to go i didnt change anything um we had a falling out were friends again um she doesnt have really long lasting relationships my friends say she cant make up her mind and i should move on but i cant stop thinking about her please help. and sorry its so long

  • @woolkev12 lol i kno im not the pickupchick but i personally think u should move on i had the same issue in my last relationship lasted like a day..=( but yea i think u should move on. dont be a jerk to her. but like in one of pickupchicks videos i recall make it seem like u can lose her interest easily that way the decision isnt up to you but her.

  • what do you say at the end of your videos sounds like you say "jizz"

  • @pkrory7 she says tschüss(say: dshurs[for english speakers])... german for bye, ciao. it sounds a bit alike though ;)

  • oh right haha !

  • im a creepy guy... but my girlfriend is even creepier... i think this video is flawd... bein creepy is the new red.. :P

  • Im not really creepy, just to embarrased to talk to anybody for being affraid of rejection. Girls just don't give me a chance =(

  • i'm not too sociable i like a girl but im scared to talk to her and i only talk to my friends because im afraid people will make fun of my voice...or looks lol

  • i think i might the creepy guy but its not because i dont have fun i just get nervous around alot of people... any suggestions on how i should handle that?

  • Sadly, I'm the creepy guy. Yeah, and it kinda hurts knowing it's a big no-no. The other thing is that I don't expect women to come up to me, I just want to have fun. I know that I create a bad environment for people trying to socialize with me. If I can't maintain a conversation that isn't both painful and slow I feel bad for people I talk to. Why am I this way? A weird mentality maybe, but I also don't feel like I can relate to most people. There are few people I can talk to enjoyably.

  • You know what your problem is ? Too much time by your self or too much time in the computer. You need to go out more talk, to all different types of people, socialize more. The more you do it the better it gets. Socializing is a skill, the mote practice the better you get.

  • @TF2legend Very true!!! You don't just wake up one day and become good at something. It takes practice!!! The more you put yourself out there and practice socializing, the more you'll get the hang off converting with the ladies ; )

  • @thepickupchick sometimes socializing can have negative effects..........

  • @theoneali it can if you talk to much crap hehehe

  • Nice DSL!

  • @TF2legend Thanx

  • idk if you're not having a good time maybe it's not the place you want to be. maybe bars and clubs aren't the place for you. some of the best time i've had were never really in those types of place, thats just me..

  • GET NEW FRIENDS!!!

  • i once had a big tooth infront of my mouth ...lol and that was so enberrasing . i couldnt start a conversation or even laugh out loud but now i have my braces on and im 19 but i cant wait until i have a nice smile !!

  • @DrVJJ well i hawe two of them! and i look like a vampire =)) (some girls get scared when they see them!) i guess that's why i'm shy and never had the courage to lol. The doctor said the braces are useless, and extraction is almost imposibble because they're too long. So here i am a lonely 20 yo guy searching 4 hlp. P.s. i never even kissed a girl! so let's get real: what girl wants a vampire? maybe Stephenie Meyer =))

  • its very true you have to stop caring what girls think or at least pretend to and they will notice you but might not come up to you

  • Another great video! That so true! Every guy out there has his most favorite wing man! Why? Cuz the guy can have fun! If u dont have have a wing man/good buddie, look arround you! There is the guy who loves to drink and chats about all kind of funny and interesting stuff! It could be any hobbie or what ever that you share! And its true even if u just stay and talk to ur buddie girls will come and see what ur talking so much about :D

    Great videos!

  • You box?!

    You keep getting hotter and hotter...

  • i think im one of those creepy unsocialable guys.... i dnt mean to be... but i guess when i'm with my friends and not tlking to them much... i am :( ..... i guess i jus need to find something to tlk about when im with my friends so im not sitting there listening but not engaging in conversation... jus sitting in silence

    .... though im not really the kinda of guy that a girl would want to approach anyway.

  • how come johnny depp has this creepy guy aura and still kate moss wants to kill herself over him?

  • kate moss is anorexic and ugly. she is not a hot woman. her skin is also disgusting. then again, that's cause she is british.

  • @acouzticworx Well... he also has a charming personality, a sort of aloofness about him as well as that rugged man thing...

    he's a catch! :D

  • DRINK MORE!!!!

  • NICE RACK

  • theres great lighting in all your videos

  • will you marry me?

  • watch more of ur videos? lol

  • Ok guys heres some real advice: take some speed or xtc and you will be confident as fuck and not be able to stop chatting people up

  • There's truth in this statement.

  • Alguien que le consiga un novio a esta chica.

  • I wànne check you out! pff

  • HEY IM ONE OF THOSE CREEPY QUIET GUYS!!! but its not because im not confident, its because i look at most societey and people i meet like they are sheep, or vermin... and other times im horribly rambunctious... and come off as a little rude, because i say some pretty off the wall shit to people i barley know... i get way personal very early, to sort of test my boundries... and even if i did cross that line and make some one angry or upset i dont really care... i think i might be bi polar

  • i commend you!

  • or a wannabe holden caulfield

  • I am kinda scared around girls and i always go monotone idk what to do any advice?

  • @fuzzy31077 Stop being a pussy.haha

  • maybe try less worrying so much about what the girls think of you, if you relax and be yourself Im sure girls will like you. As a female I like to talk to people who make me feel relaxed because of their confidence. Confidence comes from the energy you give off (relax, be yourself, and smile!!) youll do fine!

  • i like to have fun but my biggest weakness is dancing. i hate dancing and i suck at it. what if a girl asks me to dance? what are some other ways to have fun with a girl?

  • See I always thought girls liked the cool and laid back type of guy. I'm usu more worried about coming on too strong. But now ur saying instead of coming across as cool, I'm creepy--lol. U can understand why most guys don't have a darn clue about girls :/

    Anyway, cool videos!

  • damn.. I feel like I've wasted 19 years of my life just becus I've never seen a girl this perfect lol..

    Forgive me Colleen but I'm in love with you :D

  • I'm kinda non-social, but I don't sit around looking at everyone else XD

    Usuallly just hang out with a couple of friends, so I guess I'm not really non-social, I just don't like being in big groups because it's too hard to pay attention to what people are saying.

  • infact i am a lady killer and i wish i lived in l.a.

    coz i love that pair of gloves in the background and your self asteem.any way carry on.

  • I'm terribly shy around people that i don't usually hang with and I think it comes off as creepy to a lot of people :(

  • im like this... but it's not just with girls... im a loner and nobody likes me :( (I'm still in Grade 11) what can i do to make more friends?? please help... i mean like i want male and female friends...

  • im friends with a girl that i like but i dont know how to get her to hug me and stuff and really come up to me to talk to me.

    What do you reccomend i do?

  • pretty good advice, but its really hard to fake having a good time, especialy if youre alone.  so what can you do?

    having a drink is a good idea but thats not enough..dancing? still not quite good enough. the fact is girls are too intimdated and or shy. thats why guys have to be in a group of at least 3.

  • i canz grow a beerd?

  • Here's a good Pick up line:

    Pick a number between 6 and 9.....if you don't get it..... than we can put it together..

  • This was easily your best video by FAR. Very good advice that anyone can use, and this time it really seemed more than before that you actually care. Keep it up like this, and you'll be raking in the subscribers......though the point is, you're not supposed to care about that. ;) Haha.....but I think you get it.

  • my problem is im really shy around people i dont know and around girls in general. now if i know you im fine but around people i dont know i freeze up.

  • And actually even if I asked one out I got that feeling like I wouldnt know what to talk about with her and I would made to look like an idiot or something ;/ that's kind of fear i guess... can't overcome it

  • Yeee hmm i guess im one of these guys too... or not i am not guessing, i am one ;/ just don't know how to fix it... All you're saying in your videos are SO TRUE 'bout my and not only about me i see...

    Maybe it's not like that I'm unsociable I guess it's a thing you said in some of your previous videos... I kinda am worried about being refused or something.. and what would other think of me laugh at me maybe idk.. I just have that strange feeling :/ and I'm afraid I can't get over it..pls help..

  • I've learned alot about talking to chicks...but it's this one female I'm into but It's hard to talk to her and look at her because she makes weird faces. Should I just bite the bullet and make eye contact like I'm supposed to do or what...I'm confused.

  • im not a creeper i just have all of these feelings and things ive wanted to say for forever. and this girl finally liked me and i think i put it on a little thick and scared her away. now i feel terrible and lonlier than ever. please please help

  • i laugh and have a good time but i have moments where i'm completely serious, but i always try not to be creepy

  • good point girl.

  • wow i just discovered you're channel !

    Unfortunately i'm one of those unsociable guys, i mean i can have fun with friends but to shy to approach a girl and talk.

  • i don't understand.. girls want to interact with homosexuals?

  • This made me laugh

  • I'm a unsocialable girl

  • creepy...fair enough

    rattlesnake's eyes are kind of creepy.

    a female(pretty sure it was female, gut feeling)sunned anywhere she felt like, just stretched right out, no fear. women

  • Gona be hard to get back to everyone wont it ? =P no need for response just sayin.' nice vids tho =)

  • OMG im one of these people!

  • well sometimes I dont even look around the room I more or less stare at my shoes... I guess thats why no one wants to hang with an el depresso lol

  • 1:10 Du bist echt eine geborene Psychologin;!

    Once again a nice vid and the picture one your youtubepage is really awesome, I mean that one where your standing "naked" next to your surfboard;)))))))))))))

    I wish I had such a hot girlfriend as you are( Okay die Schleimspur war länger als der Weg von New York nach L.A.)

  • I'm a creepy guy, but I don't think it's a problem. I'm loving it! In fact if girls don't like me for me they are not freaking worth it.

  • this summer i was at the introductioncamp for my new school. there was this girl, she has something special about the way she looks. i was some sort of hypnotised, then one night there was a campfire and we sat there with the entire group, we were facing eachother. I looked at her through the fire and she looked back, we've been staring that way for 30 seconds, it was the best moment of my life. since then i've never really talked to her, although sometimes i see her walk around at school.

  • and everytime i see her i get that strange feeling. I still cant get her out of my mind and the only thing that keeps me going is seeing her every now and then at school. i've been wanting to say this for a long time, and I feel really relieved now.

  • I don't want to be disrespectful, but have her boobs got even bigger? I like to hear her advices she's an enjoyable lovable and funny person, and the most important delightfully beautiful, I'm checking her videos to learn how to pick her up, but this time was a little distracting, so I was wondering

  • is this basically a guide How to win over you?!

  • well i do alot of things stupid and i guess creepy but i do it cause no one likes me . so i push thm away befor ithey push me out....ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh­hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

  • I often do the creepy guy thing when I'm at an event or show and only know one person, who usually is the host, or in the band, etc. They're too busy for me to really hang with so I stand at the bar alone. I've just realized what I should do, though. I should have a good time with my friend for as long as I can and before they go, ask them to introduce me to someone they know there that they think I could talk to, male or female. And hopefully I'll meet people that person knows, etc. Make sense?

  • Good tip!

  • your always enjoyable to watch cause you know what your talking about! :)

  • I guess you could say i'm an individual and like to broadcast the fact that i am not like every other douchebag on this planet xD

  • what you just did right there

    just made u a douchbag

  • Thank you.

    What you just right there

    just made u a douchbag 2

    :)

  • I could safely say i am like the other 2 guys below.. i'm a pretty quiet guy that keeps myself to myself.

    If someone comes and speaks to me i'll chirp up and be a lot more energetic etc but usually in a club situation (since that's where i work) i am very glum. Bores me to tears. I don't like dance music... =/

    Main problem is i am set in my ways of doing everything myself and flying solo. Most girls just don't get that part of me.

  • i mean im not un sociable its because im used to being a loner

  • yes i am one of those creepy guys i guess as you put it.

    I don't go out with friends in fact Ive not had the time to go out in years, i don't interact because i`m UN sociable its because i`m used to being a loner.....

  • aww you're so adorable as usual :)

    but personally I prefer quiet observer guys, somewhat mysterious. The point is mostly to be comfortable in a social situation rather than having fun with it.

    What matters the most is being yourself and be confident about it

  • i'm.....not really sociable...

    Mainly cuz

    1. I'm not much to look at

    2. I am pretty nice to people...I'm not arrogant, but what other people like....I h8.

    e.g football, dancing, etc...

    3. Technically, yes when I'm ''forced'' to go to clubs, I do isolate myself, cause I don't like dancing.....

    PS No girl has come up to me....never. and also I'm 14.

    How bout that, Colleen, can you tackle my problem?

  • Yup thats me too....I like to talk about things that people who club and stuff dont like to talk about like outdoorsy stuff and truck and stuff like that. But you know what if a girl dont like me for what I am then its not worth even trying to talk to her.

  • if I ever go up to a girl in my school, there are two possible aftermaths.

    likely one: She rejects me, finds out I like her, we weirdly stop talking wth each other + my peers and her friends make fun of me.

    The unlikely one: She says yes, we go out and on the next day of school, my so called 'friends'' will come up with direct questions e.g ''Have you f***d her?'' ''Have you licked it?'' etc etc...

    This is what bothers me.Both options, as unlikely as one of them may be, are still pretty nasty

  • Ur a fucking loser... change ur life NOW!!!!!

  • It's easy for you to say....I can't just force myself to go with the flow. If I don't like clubbing, I won't force myself to like it or even fake it... as xmoddriver16 said ''what if a girl dont like me for what I am then its not worth even trying to talk to her''

    That's true...

    If you're already the cool kid in school, your life's good in school... but then at jobs, the 'nerds' here are the ones who will have real jobs, that'll earn the big bucks.

    Then i'll call YOU a loser.

  • so is the pick up chick single?!....

  • This does not apply to me thank God..lol...I always find someone to laugh and chat with at an event...is fun to socialize w cool ppl! Cheers. :)

  • no i'm not a creepy unsociable guy :D i dont even have problems talking to girls or anything ... kinda makes me wonder why i still watch ur vids sometimes O.o

  • you look good (take it as a compliment.

  • Okay so assume I'm completely antisocial and serious all the time and I never really talk and that's just the way everyone knows me as. How could I possibly just go for a change from one day (loosing the serious attitude)? Not only it is hard, it would also be kind of weird to be all happy and singy all of a sudden.

  • Coleen Pleas I Need Help I Am Afraid To Ask Her Out And And Really Dont Know If She Really Likes Me So Please I Need your help tchuss

  • Just straight up ask her out confidence is the single most important thing when talkin to a girl... Being a douch can also achieve this goal but don't expect It to last in that case... Girls who are attracted to douches can't tell the difference between confidence/doucheism lol.

  • thnaks you really helped me but i am still afraid from rejecting

  • well dude you'll never know untill you go ask her, just go say hi, and tell her she looks interesting and you'd like to chat for awhile?

  • Getting rejected/failing is part of life make a point of going out and getting rejected so you can overcome it, hell how you handle rejection can often earn you some respect... The only thing you gotta remember is gettin back into the fray cuz otherwise you will just never know and that's far worse then rejection

  • also stop capitalizing every word in sentences, girls like guys that aren't retards.

  • i tried being that happy guy in the corner, laughing and giggling , looking like i was having a good time, unfortunately i was by myself, and the nurses that approached me werent looking for a good time, they gave me a nice white jacket, and a ride to their home, Askabar prison, so HI from the prison, i finally got computer priviledges for good behavior! :P

  • Say hi to Serious! Oh wait.. he escaped :l

  • not fun

  • stop being bittter about not having computer priviledges, mr. grumpy foot!

  • It's funny to me :D

  • your a hottie

  • Sadly I suffer from social anxiety after my "wife to be" was unfaithful. Ever since, I have not dared to talk to a woman. I can't take the risk, even thought I really want someone new in my life.

  • That's quite the hurdle to overcome... Were you the cause of it?? Sometimes if a woman doesn't get the attention they want/need they feel it's a valid reason to cheat...

  • but im too nervous!!

  • i can totally relate to xmonke55 below me. i'm social AFTER i feel comfortable with the people i'm around, and get really nervous. i HAVE tried starting random conversation at school and such though so i guess that's progress?

  • aw man im the creepy guy, im too shy and when ever im at a party or somthing i just dont do anything cus i suck at having conversations with tons of people at a time or in/around a group of people....FML

  • @xmonke55:

    As they say, never too late to learn.

    Best of Luck.

  • How was Europe Colleen hope you had a great time over there :-)

  • im very unsocial...i talk if someone ask me a question or if i starts a conversation with me...i probably should actually talk to people more often

  • TACO - SALAD!!! >:O

  • u came to europe?

    Why u didnt say anything?

  • Idk I am good at telling some girls I think they are hot. But only the ones I like as a friend. The ones I like like I can't talk to unless they talk to me because I can't breath when in around them. I can make anybody latch though.

    Please get back with me like you say. I have a situation that I don't feel comfortable posting here.

    Ps. Good job on the station I saw you there and I was like I didn't even know she could act lol.

  • I think my problem is that when a hot girl looks my way even though she may be interested i turn away like i didnt see her i dont know, it seems to me like if i look at a girl across the room and she looks back at me all shes thinking is "dam im too good for him why is he lookng my way" to be honest i dont know what to do to fix this i guess follow the things you said in this vid but its not always that easy for me. I hope you do get back to me on the issue.

  • same here or i think shes saying in her mind ew pervert or something lol

  • It was going really well and then she decided she wanted to dance so I was following her and her friend to the dance floor when my buddy came over and was talking to me for a minute or so, I turned around to go back to the dance floor and I saw her and her friend leaving. I think they were being kicked out by one of the bouncers. I ran outside to see if I could find her and by that time she was already gone. I missed my chance FML!

  • We were having a good conversation and everything which was a good thing since I was feeling abosolutely no pain since I drank alot before I even got to the bar. At one point one of her friends came along and was talking to her so i turned back to the bar to think about getting another drink and when I turned back around she was right there in my face. Kind of stunned me a little since i wasn't expecting that but we ended making out for a good 10 minutes or so every now and then.

  • There was a guy just off to my right and I just made simple conversation while I was waiting for my drink. All I said was "It's a hell of a party they've got going on in here tonight" and just as I finished that 3 girls came along and turned to him and were talking to him and one turned out to be his cousin. He ended up buying me a beer and bought all of us 3 rounds and I struck up a conversation with his cousin who seemed interested in me so I returned the favour and bought us all a round.

  • hmm reminds me of what happened to me last friday night. I was at a pub I had never been in before to drink and there was tons of people and there was a line up outside just waiting to get in. It was me and one of my friends we were hanging around outside on the patio having a drink at first and then he went and was talking to this girl. I then relized I had finished my drink and went back into the bar I was just waiting for one of the bartenders to take my order.

  • girls want whatever guy that already has a girl around him.. its pretty pathetic .. hot chicks want the dude with social status.. whats funny is that all girls grow old fat and ugly and settle their standards LOL!

  • i was at a party this weekend, and then this girl was walking by, stopped to talk to myself and a friend standing next to me, after a conversation, i find out its her bday, i gave her a bday hug, and she walked away, should i have tried to keep it going? or did i do a good thing?

  • I tend to not make any kind of move even after making eye contact and seeing a slight smile from a girl across the room :/

  • im still kicking myself over a recent encounter. i was having a good time and making eye contact with this girl across the bar. i motioned for her to come over and she did. she said she wanted to dance with me, but wait for a better song. couple minutes later she left. shoulda just danced with her.

  • nice to know you're so superficial

  • Can you fart in front of a beautiful woman..... Even if it's an accident?

  • no lol

  • @pinkeyedtennisshoes wtf man

    no you cant if its an accident then start smoking or sth

  • I know the girls are looking my way, but i only seem to befriend the ones that are already taken, wtf?

  • great work. i subscribed

    thanks for posting this as a video response

    keep up the good work

  • I need more help with a girl that I barely talk to but I really like her. It's strange because a month ago we were talking everyday about everything. Please help Colleen

  • @CailSnowAdams I can't get into detail here so maybe message me and we can chat privately

  • @CaliSnowAdams

    Are you Bi-Polar?

  • i actually learned something today. thanks =)

  • im the guy sitting and relaxing. Id see a girl and do nothing. thats it.

  • god damnnnnnnnnnnnnn you're sexy! but about the video, i think its quite good advice. ive never been a back to the wall/bar kinda guy. i go to the club to have fun not be miserable.

  • Im not a creepy guy. but what advice would you give to someone who dances really well? Like If a girl compliments your moves what would you say?

  • Ask her to dance with u.

  • i wish you make love to you.

  • Oh my God no! On behalf of most women (as woman myself) we encourage you! There is NO way we will fear you as being weird or boring - you actually had the balls to approach us! Those other guys that just stand there are weird and boring.

    Just do it, please!

  • i need help on my game (what to say when talking to a girl and how to approach them) you think you can make a vid about that

  • Have you got any tips for me on meeting girls, I hate going to pubs and clubs because I don't drink, but when I do go out with my mates we normally end up in a pub / club and I usually get really depressed and sometimes just leave because I get pretty upset about being in a pub wasting another night. I like going surfing and music venues where people are with similar interests, but this usually means going on my own. Please help :(

  • lol frame that cleavage for views

  • Douche.....

  • BOOBIES!!! :D

  • people immediately assume that im socially awkward and dirty just because i dress weird. and i dont even dress bad, i wear jeans a t shirt and usually a hoodie or something but its whatever.

  • Well I use to be very sociable and the life of there party, but over the years that has changed. I now just feel awkward. Might have something to do with past gfs or rejecting, but it happens to everyone. My thing is, why can I not get over it? I am not a bad looking guy, tall(6'6"), athletic, and I smell good(been told so). Any advice for getting over this and improving my luck?