How to deal with Bullies

[HAMSTERlover65]

In math the girl behind me pokes me ( very hard ) and hits me with her calculator and it hurts so ill try that

[beautylicious5]

:D God bless you

Thank you

[FarmGiraffe]

wow this is new advice :D

[poshnile]

I will try this

[KemeticYoga]

This is very nice. May God Bless You. Peace.

[skyecolispeedo]

i will trye this will tell you if it works

[LolliePopRockz]

when i got bullied by these 2 girls i told my brother not my mum nd he got this gang of punks as in studed bels and mahecans and stuff to go up to them and threaten them to back off and i hvnt herd from them agen, not once.

[mdeioma]

When you return threat with threat and violence with violence you become the very bully you wish to defeat. Then you are acting the part of a bully. That make you a worse bully. When one can meet agression with peace you will have nullified escalating negative energy.

[MARCOKAY1]

doesnt work you shud just fite back and kick d head off ur bullies.. get yer bruvvas after them

[mdeioma]

What does'nt work? Did you try it? Standing up for yourself is good but fighting is not effective. Did you ever see War Games? The inevitible result is more fighting. If bullying takes a physical form, legal action is an option, but if we are still talking about name calling and making faces then taking physical action will do more damage to yourself than the other person. Then you become the bully.

Irish!

[melo15813]

i will tell u how to deal with it pull a columbine or fight back but dont be a pussy

[mdeioma]

What is the current status of those young men now?

I feel your frustration and that is exacly the time to take a deep breath and think clearly about cause and effect.

Absorb the energy then transmute it to something positive.

[luckydic3]

just learn martial art trust me you get physicaly and mentally stronger

[mdeioma]

Great suggestion, I did learn martial arts years later and yes it can help in many ways.

[geronimonist]

It does help but no very much. The reason is that you can't always use force or violence either because the bully is much bigger/stronger or because you can get in a lot of trouble either in school or workplace. Also there is a risk of the bully retaliating and possibly ganging up on you with more friends. I think doing more research on bullying and learning about it helps the most. Knowledge is power. So branches like psychology and philosophy are good, because they help you discover yourself.

[Enforcer122]

This was really helpfull!, thanks =].

btw You're so adorable i just wanna' hug you lol

[mdeioma]

Big Hug : )

[mdeioma]

People who treat others with disrespect do not see you as "the same" as them. One way to be percieved as the same is to find a common interest and to first show respect to them. For example admire her good taste which she must have if she likes the same person as you.

Grade school and high school is about finding the balance between fitting in and still being a unique individual.  If you do not achieve one you achieve the other so with this philosophy you always win.

[Shaz2778]

bullyine is the most pointless thing ever what has this world come to! its always the nice ones!!!!!!!!!!

[1radstallion]

what a girl! good for you!!!!

[pazcecipaz]

great message , thank you (o:

[Fattboy26]

Well done

[Bustertexan123]

i'll try tat and c how it works. i'll comment back and tell if it works or not.

[squib56]

I've looked for many techniques and many videos, This is the best technique I've ever seen. Thank you so much for sharing this with everyone. God bless you and keep raising people's spirits :D x

[Cortanaxx9]

Wow! i hope dat works wiv atleast most bullies. i for one know how it feels.

[bobboberan]

good for you and I think the courage to voice your method and joy in your voice speaks volumes .

[gisltome]

You are so adorable, sweet and genuine. I'm past getting picked on but could have used it in school a few times so i'm sure your video will help others. May you always feel blessed and happy.

[denisedm4]

You are such an amazing and wonderful person. Keep doing what your doing, you are going to be very happy and successful in this life. And you will help many people. Thank you for shining your light in the world.

[researchfiend]

Good stuff for adults too.

[ishredderi]

Thanks for the help!

[leela1970]

amazing....way to go Greta Garbo girl.

[CrementialRS]

I was just randomly linked to this video, and it makes me wonder, I wish there was more people like you on YouTube.

[mdeioma]

Try this technique. When people look, look back to observe. Consider that your entire body is a data recorder and focus your whole attention to receiving and recording this data. Sound tone of voice, expression on face. Be hypervigilent. That will help you not to get emotionally engaged and reactive. Then later when you are alone, process the data and see if there is information in the encounter that can bring you wisdom and perspective.

[freefall2time]

I am in high school and am picked on all the time with looks, names, being able to all that is said behind my back, and the rumors. I need help

[cybervigilante]

Thanks. Good idea. Most bullies will pass up a fearless presence.