I am a married woman but my tolerance for cheating is below 0. I refuse to fight for a man that not only cheated once but he continuously cheats and had a baby. I love myself to much for the bullshit. She needs to let him go he’s giving her terms like she did something. What about what he did, the pain he causing her, he out there having unprotected sex could have brought home anything. My aunty who was in her 30’s died from AIDs and left six kids behind her HUSBAND cheated and infected her.
Your friend needs to get her head out of her heart. She may love this man but he clearly doesn't respect her. If what she's dishing isn't enough for him, which clearly it isn't, there isn't a reason for her to downgrade her value for a man who can't afford her. We praying for her. Too sad.
Is your friend forreal? Does she feel that's what she's worth? Smh i really don't understand how she doesn't see the only option. Leave him alone. He is evil for that.
She is staying and he is crazy! One day she might just snap and run over his ass in the driveway. You can give her all the good advice you can, but she is not ready to listen. When she stops talking to you about it, she'll make a decision on her. She is actually trying to get you to cosign her staying with this man and that's crazy.
He is asking too much in my opinion. He betrayed her and wants her to "accept" not only the child (which I can understand b/c child is innocent) but he wants her to be cool with the mistress he is still in love with?! Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He is not remorseful or anything about the wrong he has done. As painful as it may be, she should accept the relationship is toxic and she should leave.
As a married woman I would be out! This man not only committed adultery,had a child wife the woman now the wife has to deal with it!!! NO MA'AM The bible says he who has found a wife find a good thing! She is the treasure not him!!!! I would never tell someone to leave their spouse but don't be no fool LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! And if she truly loves herself she would co parent with this man and that is all! Let the girlfriend put up with his crap! Cause he is going to be staying out and everything
SHE NEEDS TO GET THE HELL ON!!!!!! Married or not, no one should ever be treated like this. It's just common sense. She needs to say either you leave that woman alone or I'm leaving you.
Wow! I'm not married however I'm sure that with marriage come some sacrifice.... but at what point do you have respect for self? Take him to court before this new baby gets here! He has no respect for her! Where does he have the right to put stipulations on the relationship? He was the screw up! Even with the stipulations hes saying hes going to be with her and the mistress anyway!! Be Blunt and tell Her like it is, sometimes we need to hear things in a way that helps stimulate a response!
Please get her away from him! He purposely sought out, laid up with & reproduced another woman. Clearly, by him laying down so many stipulations for her to stay w/ him, he is trying to push her away. I have been married for 13 yrs & in this situation, I would tell my husband to kick every rock known to man. She MUST love herself before she can love anyone else. I wish her the best. -_-
LOVE...that seems to be the Answer for this Situation, Arrangement, Predicament, LOVE. Most importantly LOVE OF SELF. You mentioned that husband Loves the wife, but he is IN Love with the other women. Your Friend, the wife, is LEARNING THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL. This is a lesson in learning to Love YOURSELF. THis I KNOW for SURE LOVE does NOT, and I mean DOES NOT HURT.
I think you should not give her any advice at all. You are not marred yourself so how could you give her sound advice? If she was my friend I would just listen that is what I think you should do.
@mizstarr1 That is why I made this video. I am in fact not married and never plan on it so I reached out to this audience to find out how, perhaps, married folk would handle this situation. I agree, I have just been lending a listening ear.
First thing, how is he going to set ANY terms when he is the one totally wrong. Its backwards. He has no respect. You're right she needs to let him go on.
Hell, she aint tired of his shit yet. When she realize that the shit stinks by all means she should clean the trash out of her house. She is allowing that mess, so she should have to deal with his shit. She is rewarding his infidelity with loyalty. What kind of mess is that? Either she is a fool in love, or in love with the fact that she still have somebody. I will be alone for the rest of my life, before I let someone punish me for being me.
Sounds like he is purposefully asking for ridiculous terms so that she would be forced to leave him. If she leaves him then he is free of guilt. He would just say "well I tried to work it out so she left me. So that's why I'm with the mistress. My wife abandoned me". He wants a divorce and doesn't have the balls to ask for one. He is making it difficult for her to stay on purpose
oh HELL naw. that negro lost his mind. he obviously knows she is desperate and weak for him or else he wouldn't be bold enough to tell her he has another chick and expect her to deal with it.
Some times people are stuck on stupid. She's traumatized right now and probably is comfortable with the devil that she knows as opposed to the devil that she doesn't know. All I say is, continue to compliment her strengths and accomplishments. It's probably going to take a while before she's confident enough to love herself first. She also needs a good lawyer.
It seems as though he wants the marriage to be over but isn't man enough to say so. Maybe he's hoping that with all of his "terms" and lack of participation that she will make the call. Tell her harems aren't legal here. If she were to agree he will be the other woman all the time and expect her not to complain. Stop accepting the behavior and they will stop playing around.
Ugh! I'm so over hearing stories of men that don't want to or know how to be men. She needs to leave and do what is in the best interest of herself and her son. And staying married to a 'single' man is NOT in their best interest. As hard as it is to leave...it's far worse to stay. It will NOT get better. And if he is making demands, then you can be certain it will only get worse.
He is too much of a coward to say that he wants a divorce but he has spoken loud and clear. And unfortunately he will string his wife along until she leaves him. Games. He has no respect for his wife, marriage or family. She will come to know this and she will unleash her own wrath. Just be a friend and talk her of the ledge when she is tempted to whoop some a**. Taking care of herself and child is her priority.
its funny how people who dont have shit like to think they are shit!! like a woman who doesnt have a man in her life and couldnt keep one if her life depended on it! like a nigga telling me how to get some money when he doesnt have any!!! but my point is stay out of peoples relationships!! because no one has no room to talk!!!!
How is he giving demands? He is the one who broke the vows!!! If it was me I would run without looking back. I think some couples can rebuild again after an affair. but I don't see how it could work in this situation. Not only is there a baby but he is also in love with this other woman. Does she think she will be happy in this marriage? I can understand that she wants to work it out but she has to love herself first!!!
I personally believed that she should stay....untilll you said he wanted her to accept the mistress. That is the height of disrespect. If he wants to be with her ( the mistress) the let him goooo! Wth. You already cheat on me and you want me to accept her? Really now. Cheating and trying to give rules.....and another baby!!!! Oh he'll no!
I bet you my left arm that he is still seeing this woman. She really needs to decide if this is what she is willing to accept from her HUSBAND or not. Me personally I think I deserve more respect from my husband, true mistakes happen however her husband needs to be more considerate of his WIFE when it comes to this situation.
She need to leave his a**! Some women take too much stuff. We as women need to have standards and stand by those standards. Simpliy he wants his cake n eat it too! She is not the one that messed up, he did. And he says he loves someone else. As for the other woman she stupid also. 2nd place is not a goal that anybody she be n! These women need to wise up. But she does need to pray about it
One last thing, she also has to think about what example she is setting for her child as far as relationships go and how two people respect, honor and love each other.
She already has her answer, he has no respect or love for her. I agree with your perspective and maybe she needs to hear that. The other issue she needs to face is what is going on with her that she is willing to comprise herself to try fix something when her husband has no love or respect for herself, why does she feel she deserves so little because while he is the asshole in this story it takes two to tango and her staying in this relationship with those conditions tells him yes disrespect me
I just think she doesn't really love herself because if she did she would have the courage to stand up and protect herself and her children from this type of blatant disrespect. He is setting up a situation where he wants the wife to tolerate this other woman.Like he's trying to have two wives. He also doesn't sound really repentant and is just going through the motions so that he can keep his wife. True repent means to confess and turn away. I don't think he's done either.
Girl Bye! That's just too many demands for me. I'm married, and I know that it's complicated when it comes to the "divorce" thing. But, you will not cheat on me, and THEN tell me what you want me to do. It's a wrap! Point blank, period.
He obviously feels that she's desperate enough to roll with it, because otherwise he wouldn't expect her to deal with that mess. Poor girl...
I see it TOTALLY as you do; zero tolerance all the way!
If he was sorry about the affair he would be groveling at her feet, not making ground rules, PERIOD. So yeah, divorce sounds good to me cause the guy is blatantly shameless.
A lot of times when people are in a situation they cannot see their way out of a paperbag. She sounds scared to be alone, too. But what's the price does she want to pay to have someone around who does not first of all respect and love her? He's only going to do it again. Maybe she hasn't bumped her head enough yet to see what's going on. You need to let her figure it out on her own and just be that listening ear.
Dude is drop dead wrong.He's putting more stress on an already stressful situation by asking her to accept this woman as if they have a open marriage.But what happen to"for better or Worse;in sickness and in Health; til death do us part". This falls under worse and will take hard work to make it better.She shouldn't leave,but she shouldn't accept the other woman.If he can't accept that then he should go.They should Set an example for their children and keep their word that they made before GOD.
Like you...I am not married so I cannot really say I am an expert on that subject. I have my thoughts but again, like you, I don't think they are necessarily appropriate. What I will speak on is you being a good friend to her... you are a good friend to listen to her problems but don't make yourself so available that her problems begin to weigh on you...especially since she doesn't seem to be willing to make any moves to address the issues. Just my thoughts. Sometimes friends can be draining.
If she chooses to stay with him and "work" it out then she will learn the hard way that u cant make someone love you. If she loves him that much let her know that, the child they have together might grow to have animosity towards him once they are older and could possible harbor sour feelings towards her for dealing with this. I know I still hate my dad for cheating and I dont really respect my mom for staying...and the 2 kids he dad out side of our family ....we will never get along
This is an open and shut case! The day he told me that bs would of been the day he was with his mistress permanently! Moved out and all! I was with my high school sweetheart for 18 years! Married for 8 years! He wouldnt hold up to all of his hubby responsibilities so I left! Yeah it's mad time invested but ummmm why invest more??? Tell her to get some rest, wake up, watch waiting to exhale and then handle her business! Snap out of it! Smh enjoy your day sis!
She needs to kick his sorry ass to the curve real talk.How the hell you gonna get someone else pregnant and then give somebody ground rules? He got to be crazy as all hell. One word divorce!!
She needs to love and respect herself enough and keep it moving. This man does not seem the least bit remorseful with all his terms and conditions. No she does not need to accept this child and definitely not the home wrecker, the only child of his she needed to accept we're the child or children that we're there previous to them being married. He broke the vows on so many levels , now you adhere to my terms and conditions!!!! Yes if she chooses to stay in this marriage she will have to deal w
Even in marriage you do not have to deal with the bull! He will find out the grass is not greener on the other side and I agree, take his ass to court, get what is hers and support for those kids!
Once you're married you have to work things out regardless of what happens BUT you can't work out things with someone who doesn't want to. He is in no position to be making demands of her.
@onyxbeauty1988 you're right, he has no right to be making demands when he is in the wrong. And you can work things out but sometimes working out might be a divorce, adultery is legitimate grounds for ending a marriage.
cont... with the mistress. If it is hurting her and she wants to be the number one and only, then she has to leave the marriage. If not, she will have to come into contact with the mistress and the child. I don't think that the husband would not bring the baby into the home. Women like to put up with so much, If the shoe was on the other foot, the man would get rid of his wife after the wife had an affair. If the wife got pregnant by another dude, the husband would divorce without even thinking
The man did wrong by being unfaithful to his wife in so many ways. The good thing is that she is aware of the mistress and the baby that is on the way. The wife has to choose what she will do about it. The husband is right. If she wants to stay in the marriage then she has to accept the mistress and the baby on the way beecause that is her husbands lover and unborn child. She has to accept the whole package because they are part of her husbands life. He even says that he is in love>>>
I'm sure everybody she has told has given their opinion on what she should and shouldn't do. But right now she needs to be heard. Her world is crashing in around her and she's losing herself in the process. Just continue to be her friend and listen to her, hear her out. She will eventually make a decision in her own time.
And I have not read all of the comments but ANYONE saying they need to stay together after all he has done and said...... #SITDOWN. Love is Love Marriage is Marriage. DON'T try to create your own idea of what that is. Women think we have to put up with EVERYTHING and we don't! He has been dishonest, nasty, uncompassionate and disrespectful.. who wants to be in a marriage like that. And if he is not fighting.. then why should she! GOODNIGHT! ...got my blood pressure all up early in the morning.
NO... NO.. You will NOT be MARRIED to me and then tell me you IN LOVE with another women? Ok.. LOVE HER THEN. But what you won't do is share with another woman what you are suppose to have with me. He has NO RESPECT for his wife! She needs to establish her self worth and find herself again. She has a beautiful child she needs to worry about and she does not want this curse to be carried down to her child. The longer I watch this video the more upset I get. GOOD LORD.. what is going on in on!!!
I'm sorry to hear of this situation. I do know how she feels. Currently, her life is turned upside down and she is questioning everything. I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU because he wont stop seeing the mistress. I'm pretty sure that what you see in her physically is her self-esteem is depleting. I suggest that you continuously tell her how beautiful and wonderful she is a person. Tell her how special she is. Ask her if this is example she wants for her children. Hope this is helps.
she should leave his ass! more then likely he is feeding the other woman with the same non scene. i was in love with someone who had a baby for someone else! and although it hurt, i had to get out of there. i don't settle for good enough, nor do i allow myself to be someone else good enough!
It`s really complicated, he`s just bullshiting her basicly i mean he is looking for a way out. She will wake up from that hell one day. There no advise when it comes to relationship just listen to her unfortunately
Ask her if he would be allowing her to do the same thing had she had the affair. Turn to Jesus he will help her through, it's always harder in the beginning.
Also remind her by her allowing herself to become so distraught by this man to the point of physical illness, her own child has to be suffering also and that she needs to keep it together to raise him or her. Children can sense our pain and they suffer also. Her husband has flipped out, and
Be a listening ear, until you can't any more but she has to come to her own senses. Sometimes this can take a while. Especially if she has low self esteem, which it sounds like she does.
He is asking for to much as the person who has disrespected her... staying with him should not come with accepting this other woman dealing wiht and loving the extra child yes but the mother no that is to much. He dosnt seem remorsful... im leaning to the take him to the bank for her sanity sake
Sounds like he's doing as much as he can get away with...He knows that she's accepting his Disrespect. His Actions speak the truth of his Heart.I would advise her to have some Self Respect & stand up for her Self! Ultimately it's up to her. You're better than me; I'm at a point in my life where I just have a hard time listening to that type of stuff from my friends. When I find my self getting more pissed off than the person who's experiencing the B.S. I know it's time step out of the equation.
If he is not working hard for her forgiveness and on bending knee every second of the day trying to fix things then she needs to start packing her bags. There is no need for the mistress to be there at anytime. He is the father of the child and he can do what he needs to do physically and financially to support the child without her.
I should say that he had a harder time than I did being apart of the little girls life in the beginning but he never gave me any terms (I wish this negro would have gave me an ultimatium) We both play a big part in her life he has custody rights and that Woman is not allowed even in my driveway I wish she would. It's been 5 years and we all make mistakes because I've made my own but Marriage isn't perfect and the only advice I can give is for her to follow her heart,don't allow him to walk on it
Anyways, For the first couple of weeks I left him, I was hurt, couldn't think, I took off from work for a week and I literally shut down. He had hid it from me because He knew the whole time about the woman being pregnant and didn't say a word. The baby girl was born Two days from my own child's birthday so the baby and my oldest are exactly 3 yrs and 2 days apart. It took lots of marriage counseling, prayer, crying but I love my husband and I'm committed to this marriage.
I was on a family vacation with my in laws along with other family members to Disney World (My first time) and everyone on the trip was in a bad mood the whole week and as soon as we got back from the trip the next day I went to visit my Mom and I recieved a "Text Message" from my husband stating that he had another child. I thought this fool was joking one that he would email some shit like that to me instead of telling me and two when the hell did this happen. Make a long story short.
I usually would not put my business in the street especially on youtube where my login is my real name but I really enjoy watching you and this story hits home with me. I am in the same situation as your friend. A mother of two girls and a stepmother to one. 5 years ago my life changed for the worst it felt like at the time. My husband of 3 years at the time and my husband and I were both 23 and had been married for just 3 years and I found out that he had, had another child by cheating on me.
Yeah... your friend should have said something about the affair earlier when she knew. This WHOLE mess would have been avoided if she confronted him and set him straight. The fact that he professes that he is in love with another woman is ground enough for terminating the marriage... without even considering the other baby. Your friend really has no choice now BUT to move on. Ladies, don't let your man get away with cheating, once you know SAY SOMETHING and avoid the horrible mix up
Tell her that POS is not worth two dead flies as my MIL would say! By staying with him she is totally disrespecting herself and setting a very poor example for her child. That damn fool is not going to change his behavior. Later on, she may snap and kill his azz. Then she'll be in jail...for what?!! Her body is trying to tell her this as well...that's why she's ill.
Ohhh Hell No...... It's bad enough she puttin up with the fool, but for him to tell her to accept/invite his side piece...In her HOUSE...... HELL NO!!!
Oh hell naw! DIVORCE! I understand that they have been together for a while BUT if he loved her he would not have cheated on her! Then he has the nerve to have "terms" ??? She needs to let that shit gl for real! There isn't anything to work out! He wants to have his cake and eat it too and that ain't right! Tell your friend to file papers and move on!
If this man truly loved his wife (which I doubt), then he wouldn't put her in this tough situation and consider her feelings. But just the fact that he put these asinine conditions that she has to "accept the mistress" is utterly preposterous and absurd. He's only giving the wife these BS conditions so he can escape the feelings of guilt, shame, and dispair that he has put upon his marriage and family because of his ill actions.
You're good. I don't even have tolerance for hearing the drama. It's too draining. So you KNOW I wouldn't - and I mean no kind of dayum way - tolerate a disrespectful man. Homegirl needs to determine how much her sanity and peace of mind is worth. Then put forth some actions to protect herself.
Also the fact that this "man" (and I use the term very loosely) slept with his wife and risk putting her in danger with the possibility of giving her an STD demonstrates carelessness, selfishness, and an extreme lack of consideration for her safety, health, and feelings. I think the wife needs to find her inner strength to make the most toughest decision she could make.
It seems to me that this man is very selfish and only thinking of himself. He's making all these bs conditions to his wife only for his convenience. Just the fact that he blatantly says to his wife that he's still in love with the mistress tells me that he's not ready to let go of the relationship and not really willing nor ready to work on his marriage. Until he's ready and willing to let go of that adulterous relationship, the wife will need to think really hard if she wants this marriage.
this happened to my sister their divorced now together over 10years married not even 1 year and he has a baby by someone else the other woman was disrespectful she found out in a argument with him then my sister wanted another baby before finding out he said no but turned around and got a low life pregnant it hurts to see someone your close to hurt like this
Love will make you change and sometimes be blind...with that being said she needs to let him go be with the other woman and he can make his conditions with her....I hate when things like this happen to good people then why would he put her in danger not using a condom she need to divorce and get her spousal support with child support pray about it and be DONE!!!
LEAVE HIS ASS ASAP!!! Sorry, but that's wat is gonna have to happen. Sh will find a real man someday ... But that selfish dude ain't it!!! Real talk:)
How the hell is HE the one one with conditions n shit?!!!! When he was the one that cheated!!?? My concern is for the woman that is NOT in her right mind. What are HER conditions for him I wonder..... I bet she doesnt even have any. such a shame
But he didn't care. If she stays, for the rest of her life, she'll question his every move. It's a terrible feeling. It's heartbreaking. The shit sucks!! More than sucks. I hope your friend leaves, let him have a relationship with kid, but leave. It's not fair, he doesn't respect her. He doesn't love her. Ultimately it's her decision, hopefully she makes the right one for her and her kid
I think you are spot on. I know its her choice and decision but truth is truth. The AUDACITY to cheat on your wife AND your family and then have stipulations??? Excuse me? Who the **** does he think he is? Love your self and your children enough to walk away from an unhealthy relationship. They can still have a relationship with their father. If she is tormented with all this, it WILL affect her children. They see her stressed out...its going to worry them.
If he did it once, he'll do it again & again! And why would you want someone that doesn't respect you or your marriage.If he is this bold about it, what is she gonna go when he brings home an STD. And now that she knows that he is a hooker whore, she needs to go get tested!! It's a bad situation that is only gonna get worst. He nor the chick is gonna respect her for staying. It makes her look weak & foolish & no woman should put up with that.Get a man that will treat you like the queen you are.
And had a kid. I was devastated. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I stayed with him, tried to deal. When this woman couldn't afford to pay her rent, he had to. When she couldn't provide for herself, he had to because of his son. The woman also tried her best to come between us as she had the baby to keep him around. So I'm guessing, since he still loves her, she loves him too? So he'll be taking turns laying up with both of them? I get she has time and feelings invested. I get that they have kid b
Know what? Just say "he doesn't love you only-he loves her. He is making her a priority, not you. He has cheated on you and will continue to do so. He isn't working for your forgiveness or for your relationship. You are fighting for a man who gave you & your love up. What's more-this relationship is the example you're providing to your kids. These are the facts. Do you think all of that is ok?" Is she says yes, she stays. If no, she leaves.
Hey girl! The guy has already told your friend in words and in deeds that he loves the other woman and the baby. I think your friend needs accept the fact that the man loves the other woman, and the baby. If he gives her the option, and she wants to do it, she can be in an additional relationship with him, knowing and honoring the fact that he is in a relationship with the other woman. Or she can follow your advice and move on. Best wishes to her and all that are involved.
He's in love with another woman and wants her to accept that?!? That's not how it works. He's not respecting her or her feelings. That in itself should make this an easier decision. I understand she has time and feelings invested. I understand that they have a child together but he knew that and didn't care. Dealing with another woman's child that was conceived during your marriage and dealing with the woman too?!? I've been that woman. Though not married, my boyfriend of nearly 7 years cheated
You can sit and tell everything anyone can think of. She has to make the choice on her own to leave this man. If she keeps settling for his bs answer and "terms" her marriage is going to be bs. I'd be damned if my husband told me his "terms" on making it work. you are the one who made the mistake. He'd be gone, there would be no working it out, especially if the man is as dumb and absent minded as this man she has.
Any man who cheats & then gives conditions to his WIFE=not husband material. Cheaters must be sorry to the depths of their souls for it to work. Wanting to include the baby & minimize the conflict between wife & mistress are good things. Subjecting the wife to the humiliation & heartache of having said mistress in her home is NOT. He doesn't sound sorry or like he'll be faithful. Divorce & work her happiness & becoming a functioning team for the sake of the kids. Staying=heartache for everyone.
By setting up "terms" I feel he is trying to make her feel like HE is being the reasonable one making her question things she shouldn't have to in the first place. She should be setting up terms for him to follow...Seems like hes trying harder to cater to the mistress and not his wife. I wonder the reason for that...
In my humble opinion there is nothing you can really say to someone like that. If she not even willing to move on, she isn't going to listen to reason. You just have to pray for her and let her decide.
What he is asking for is bigamy (and eventually polygamy, in all likelihood). He wants to be "married" to his wife and also have a marital relationship with his mistress (someone you have sex with and raise a child with is, in effect, your spouse).
If the idea of being one of a string of wives appeals to her, then by all means, she should accept his terms. She should find out if he is equally cool with her having other husbands to cater to all of her needs that he isn't meeting.
He is in the wrong and that's unfair to their marriage. He already broke the sacredness of the union of a marriage by cheating but to keep disrespecting her after she found and expect her to follow terms of his wrong doing, she needs to tell him to kick rocks and let him go.
lol. cmon now tnt. u know as well as i know that ish aint gon work. marriages barely work without that soap opera. she may as well collect her child support and hit the road. thats realness. how a cat gonna get some goods and go raw? wtf?
I am a married woman but my tolerance for cheating is below 0. I refuse to fight for a man that not only cheated once but he continuously cheats and had a baby. I love myself to much for the bullshit. She needs to let him go he’s giving her terms like she did something. What about what he did, the pain he causing her, he out there having unprotected sex could have brought home anything. My aunty who was in her 30’s died from AIDs and left six kids behind her HUSBAND cheated and infected her.
machie84 3 weeks ago
Your friend needs to get her head out of her heart. She may love this man but he clearly doesn't respect her. If what she's dishing isn't enough for him, which clearly it isn't, there isn't a reason for her to downgrade her value for a man who can't afford her. We praying for her. Too sad.
chocdessert 1 month ago
Is your friend forreal? Does she feel that's what she's worth? Smh i really don't understand how she doesn't see the only option. Leave him alone. He is evil for that.
BritneyGiggles 1 month ago
She is staying and he is crazy! One day she might just snap and run over his ass in the driveway. You can give her all the good advice you can, but she is not ready to listen. When she stops talking to you about it, she'll make a decision on her. She is actually trying to get you to cosign her staying with this man and that's crazy.
mscearthly 1 month ago
let me introduce her to my friend Mr. Vorce -- first name Di...
muzixgurl 1 month ago in playlist More videos from Thinknappythoughts
can you do a hair update?
jazzepink 1 month ago
@jazzepink yes, yes, I WIll...coming soon
Thinknappythoughts 3 weeks ago
Been there and ( I ) decided to divorce him hands down. I have zero tolerance for BS!
Girlyfries01 1 month ago
@Girlyfries01 i give you a (((STANDING OVATION))!!!!!!!
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
He is asking too much in my opinion. He betrayed her and wants her to "accept" not only the child (which I can understand b/c child is innocent) but he wants her to be cool with the mistress he is still in love with?! Sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He is not remorseful or anything about the wrong he has done. As painful as it may be, she should accept the relationship is toxic and she should leave.
caprimomx2 1 month ago
@caprimomx2 Not a lick of remorse...son carrying on like his shit dont stank!
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
As a married woman I would be out! This man not only committed adultery,had a child wife the woman now the wife has to deal with it!!! NO MA'AM The bible says he who has found a wife find a good thing! She is the treasure not him!!!! I would never tell someone to leave their spouse but don't be no fool LOVE YOURSELF FIRST! And if she truly loves herself she would co parent with this man and that is all! Let the girlfriend put up with his crap! Cause he is going to be staying out and everything
MrsFabuloisty01 1 month ago
SHE NEEDS TO GET THE HELL ON!!!!!! Married or not, no one should ever be treated like this. It's just common sense. She needs to say either you leave that woman alone or I'm leaving you.
canvasck 1 month ago
Wow! I'm not married however I'm sure that with marriage come some sacrifice.... but at what point do you have respect for self? Take him to court before this new baby gets here! He has no respect for her! Where does he have the right to put stipulations on the relationship? He was the screw up! Even with the stipulations hes saying hes going to be with her and the mistress anyway!! Be Blunt and tell Her like it is, sometimes we need to hear things in a way that helps stimulate a response!
RemToyy 1 month ago
Every woman he slept with, she slept with to. Is aids a fairytale?
Desery168 1 month ago
Please get her away from him! He purposely sought out, laid up with & reproduced another woman. Clearly, by him laying down so many stipulations for her to stay w/ him, he is trying to push her away. I have been married for 13 yrs & in this situation, I would tell my husband to kick every rock known to man. She MUST love herself before she can love anyone else. I wish her the best. -_-
LuvingLibra 1 month ago 2
LOVE...that seems to be the Answer for this Situation, Arrangement, Predicament, LOVE. Most importantly LOVE OF SELF. You mentioned that husband Loves the wife, but he is IN Love with the other women. Your Friend, the wife, is LEARNING THE GREATEST LOVE OF ALL. This is a lesson in learning to Love YOURSELF. THis I KNOW for SURE LOVE does NOT, and I mean DOES NOT HURT.
IAMWILLETTE 1 month ago
@IAMWILLETTE Yes, being IN love with someone else...well it's pretty much a done deal! Thank you for commenting and sharing your insight
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
I think you should not give her any advice at all. You are not marred yourself so how could you give her sound advice? If she was my friend I would just listen that is what I think you should do.
mizstarr1 1 month ago
@mizstarr1 That is why I made this video. I am in fact not married and never plan on it so I reached out to this audience to find out how, perhaps, married folk would handle this situation. I agree, I have just been lending a listening ear.
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
He clearly does not respect her if he is giving HER ultimatums and he's the one who messed up. Leave him!
bsquared0408 1 month ago
He is out of his mind. She should leave his ass.
StellarExplosion11 1 month ago
This has been flagged as spam show
She needs to tell her husband that she is not living in an episode of Sister Wives....
proud2banurse 1 month ago
She needs to tell her husband that she is not living in an episode of Sister Wives....
proud2banurse 1 month ago
@proud2banurse rotfl!!
RacquelNM 1 month ago
First thing, how is he going to set ANY terms when he is the one totally wrong. Its backwards. He has no respect. You're right she needs to let him go on.
LovelyGlow01 1 month ago
Hell, she aint tired of his shit yet. When she realize that the shit stinks by all means she should clean the trash out of her house. She is allowing that mess, so she should have to deal with his shit. She is rewarding his infidelity with loyalty. What kind of mess is that? Either she is a fool in love, or in love with the fact that she still have somebody. I will be alone for the rest of my life, before I let someone punish me for being me.
dibbled33 1 month ago
Sounds like he is purposefully asking for ridiculous terms so that she would be forced to leave him. If she leaves him then he is free of guilt. He would just say "well I tried to work it out so she left me. So that's why I'm with the mistress. My wife abandoned me". He wants a divorce and doesn't have the balls to ask for one. He is making it difficult for her to stay on purpose
WandaWomyn 1 month ago 3
oh HELL naw. that negro lost his mind. he obviously knows she is desperate and weak for him or else he wouldn't be bold enough to tell her he has another chick and expect her to deal with it.
MzCaramelOne 1 month ago in playlist Liked videos 2
Comment removed
JayandKay2511 1 month ago
Some times people are stuck on stupid. She's traumatized right now and probably is comfortable with the devil that she knows as opposed to the devil that she doesn't know. All I say is, continue to compliment her strengths and accomplishments. It's probably going to take a while before she's confident enough to love herself first. She also needs a good lawyer.
Moonflower8e 1 month ago 2
It seems as though he wants the marriage to be over but isn't man enough to say so. Maybe he's hoping that with all of his "terms" and lack of participation that she will make the call. Tell her harems aren't legal here. If she were to agree he will be the other woman all the time and expect her not to complain. Stop accepting the behavior and they will stop playing around.
brewatch 1 month ago
Ugh! I'm so over hearing stories of men that don't want to or know how to be men. She needs to leave and do what is in the best interest of herself and her son. And staying married to a 'single' man is NOT in their best interest. As hard as it is to leave...it's far worse to stay. It will NOT get better. And if he is making demands, then you can be certain it will only get worse.
allstone02 1 month ago
He is too much of a coward to say that he wants a divorce but he has spoken loud and clear. And unfortunately he will string his wife along until she leaves him. Games. He has no respect for his wife, marriage or family. She will come to know this and she will unleash her own wrath. Just be a friend and talk her of the ledge when she is tempted to whoop some a**. Taking care of herself and child is her priority.
zengirl4 1 month ago
its funny how people who dont have shit like to think they are shit!! like a woman who doesnt have a man in her life and couldnt keep one if her life depended on it! like a nigga telling me how to get some money when he doesnt have any!!! but my point is stay out of peoples relationships!! because no one has no room to talk!!!!
truthseeker206 1 month ago in playlist Liked videos
How is he giving demands? He is the one who broke the vows!!! If it was me I would run without looking back. I think some couples can rebuild again after an affair. but I don't see how it could work in this situation. Not only is there a baby but he is also in love with this other woman. Does she think she will be happy in this marriage? I can understand that she wants to work it out but she has to love herself first!!!
msblackrose79 1 month ago
I personally believed that she should stay....untilll you said he wanted her to accept the mistress. That is the height of disrespect. If he wants to be with her ( the mistress) the let him goooo! Wth. You already cheat on me and you want me to accept her? Really now. Cheating and trying to give rules.....and another baby!!!! Oh he'll no!
chocolatte242 1 month ago
DEUCES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
yoruba21 1 month ago
@yoruba21 hahahah...right...simple as that!!!
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
I bet you my left arm that he is still seeing this woman. She really needs to decide if this is what she is willing to accept from her HUSBAND or not. Me personally I think I deserve more respect from my husband, true mistakes happen however her husband needs to be more considerate of his WIFE when it comes to this situation.
GodivaBeauty 1 month ago
She need to leave his a**! Some women take too much stuff. We as women need to have standards and stand by those standards. Simpliy he wants his cake n eat it too! She is not the one that messed up, he did. And he says he loves someone else. As for the other woman she stupid also. 2nd place is not a goal that anybody she be n! These women need to wise up. But she does need to pray about it
chocolatekisz 1 month ago
One last thing, she also has to think about what example she is setting for her child as far as relationships go and how two people respect, honor and love each other.
MsKPJ 1 month ago
She already has her answer, he has no respect or love for her. I agree with your perspective and maybe she needs to hear that. The other issue she needs to face is what is going on with her that she is willing to comprise herself to try fix something when her husband has no love or respect for herself, why does she feel she deserves so little because while he is the asshole in this story it takes two to tango and her staying in this relationship with those conditions tells him yes disrespect me
MsKPJ 1 month ago 6
@MsKPJ amen, AMEN!!!!
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
I just think she doesn't really love herself because if she did she would have the courage to stand up and protect herself and her children from this type of blatant disrespect. He is setting up a situation where he wants the wife to tolerate this other woman.Like he's trying to have two wives. He also doesn't sound really repentant and is just going through the motions so that he can keep his wife. True repent means to confess and turn away. I don't think he's done either.
Lovelyvegan26 1 month ago
Girl Bye! That's just too many demands for me. I'm married, and I know that it's complicated when it comes to the "divorce" thing. But, you will not cheat on me, and THEN tell me what you want me to do. It's a wrap! Point blank, period.
He obviously feels that she's desperate enough to roll with it, because otherwise he wouldn't expect her to deal with that mess. Poor girl...
rawd1975 1 month ago
Oh HE has conditions when he was cheating...naw son. That's done. Even the Bible says you can chuck the deuces when the spouse cheats so...yeah.
Yokochick79 1 month ago 2
I see it TOTALLY as you do; zero tolerance all the way!
If he was sorry about the affair he would be groveling at her feet, not making ground rules, PERIOD. So yeah, divorce sounds good to me cause the guy is blatantly shameless.
Tyrschick 1 month ago
A lot of times when people are in a situation they cannot see their way out of a paperbag. She sounds scared to be alone, too. But what's the price does she want to pay to have someone around who does not first of all respect and love her? He's only going to do it again. Maybe she hasn't bumped her head enough yet to see what's going on. You need to let her figure it out on her own and just be that listening ear.
nettiegonehealthy 1 month ago
Okay as a guy am I allowed to comment?
gatorplaya2g 1 month ago
@gatorplaya2g yes most certainly...PLEASE!!!
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago
I am going to have to do a video response on this one..and try to cover several aspects of some of the deeper issues
1. I do not feel sorry for her
2. common sense is that what she is now wanting to do is compete with the hoer he cheated with
3. Ranting with no solutions and change makes me ill
4. Check out my vid response for the rest...it's deep you guys.
sophisticatcovergirl 1 month ago
Dude is drop dead wrong.He's putting more stress on an already stressful situation by asking her to accept this woman as if they have a open marriage.But what happen to"for better or Worse;in sickness and in Health; til death do us part". This falls under worse and will take hard work to make it better.She shouldn't leave,but she shouldn't accept the other woman.If he can't accept that then he should go.They should Set an example for their children and keep their word that they made before GOD.
ahavaharuach 1 month ago
I would be OUT bye bye... to him out of there no excuses no explanations nope out of there!
sophisticatcovergirl 1 month ago
Like you...I am not married so I cannot really say I am an expert on that subject. I have my thoughts but again, like you, I don't think they are necessarily appropriate. What I will speak on is you being a good friend to her... you are a good friend to listen to her problems but don't make yourself so available that her problems begin to weigh on you...especially since she doesn't seem to be willing to make any moves to address the issues. Just my thoughts. Sometimes friends can be draining.
qochemist 1 month ago
If she chooses to stay with him and "work" it out then she will learn the hard way that u cant make someone love you. If she loves him that much let her know that, the child they have together might grow to have animosity towards him once they are older and could possible harbor sour feelings towards her for dealing with this. I know I still hate my dad for cheating and I dont really respect my mom for staying...and the 2 kids he dad out side of our family ....we will never get along
princessdaedae09 1 month ago
This is an open and shut case! The day he told me that bs would of been the day he was with his mistress permanently! Moved out and all! I was with my high school sweetheart for 18 years! Married for 8 years! He wouldnt hold up to all of his hubby responsibilities so I left! Yeah it's mad time invested but ummmm why invest more??? Tell her to get some rest, wake up, watch waiting to exhale and then handle her business! Snap out of it! Smh enjoy your day sis!
spierceish 1 month ago
@spierceish Right! Why in the Hell to invest more time!
sophisticatcovergirl 1 month ago
We need to set standards and boundaries and somethings need to be deal beakers . LOVE YOURSELF
ddarby64 1 month ago
@ddarby64 Yes Wow! Sometimes common sense is thrown out of the window
sophisticatcovergirl 1 month ago
She needs to kick his sorry ass to the curve real talk.How the hell you gonna get someone else pregnant and then give somebody ground rules? He got to be crazy as all hell. One word divorce!!
Duna410 1 month ago
If she's not depending on him, she should leave. I don't see the point in staying in an open marriage if she don't want it to be open.
c0c0puffz 1 month ago
She needs to love and respect herself enough and keep it moving. This man does not seem the least bit remorseful with all his terms and conditions. No she does not need to accept this child and definitely not the home wrecker, the only child of his she needed to accept we're the child or children that we're there previous to them being married. He broke the vows on so many levels , now you adhere to my terms and conditions!!!! Yes if she chooses to stay in this marriage she will have to deal w
ddarby64 1 month ago
@ddarby64 Yes keep it moving is HE serious?
sophisticatcovergirl 1 month ago
Even in marriage you do not have to deal with the bull! He will find out the grass is not greener on the other side and I agree, take his ass to court, get what is hers and support for those kids!
sshabon22 1 month ago
Once you're married you have to work things out regardless of what happens BUT you can't work out things with someone who doesn't want to. He is in no position to be making demands of her.
onyxbeauty1988 1 month ago 11
@onyxbeauty1988 you're right, he has no right to be making demands when he is in the wrong. And you can work things out but sometimes working out might be a divorce, adultery is legitimate grounds for ending a marriage.
sweetpagoda 1 month ago
cont... with the mistress. If it is hurting her and she wants to be the number one and only, then she has to leave the marriage. If not, she will have to come into contact with the mistress and the child. I don't think that the husband would not bring the baby into the home. Women like to put up with so much, If the shoe was on the other foot, the man would get rid of his wife after the wife had an affair. If the wife got pregnant by another dude, the husband would divorce without even thinking
mindyourbizok 1 month ago 2
The man did wrong by being unfaithful to his wife in so many ways. The good thing is that she is aware of the mistress and the baby that is on the way. The wife has to choose what she will do about it. The husband is right. If she wants to stay in the marriage then she has to accept the mistress and the baby on the way beecause that is her husbands lover and unborn child. She has to accept the whole package because they are part of her husbands life. He even says that he is in love>>>
mindyourbizok 1 month ago
I'm sure everybody she has told has given their opinion on what she should and shouldn't do. But right now she needs to be heard. Her world is crashing in around her and she's losing herself in the process. Just continue to be her friend and listen to her, hear her out. She will eventually make a decision in her own time.
MyNameIsAfrika 1 month ago
Dude is crazy! Why is he setting conditions? She needs to leave! Infidelity is a deal breaker.
bernadettelsmith 1 month ago
If I was your friend, I would lawyer up! If they have a house together she should divorce him and keep the house!
rednailvarnish77 1 month ago
He's still fucking her (the mistress). Stop being so stupid.
jahforce7 1 month ago 4
@jahforce7 Oh I agree...I know he is...100%. Trying to tell her that is like pulling teeth!
Thinknappythoughts 1 month ago 2
And I have not read all of the comments but ANYONE saying they need to stay together after all he has done and said...... #SITDOWN. Love is Love Marriage is Marriage. DON'T try to create your own idea of what that is. Women think we have to put up with EVERYTHING and we don't! He has been dishonest, nasty, uncompassionate and disrespectful.. who wants to be in a marriage like that. And if he is not fighting.. then why should she! GOODNIGHT! ...got my blood pressure all up early in the morning.
26LevelsOfKlass 1 month ago
@26LevelsOfKlass LoLs!! please don't get the blood pressure up
ChristLight23 1 month ago
NO... NO.. You will NOT be MARRIED to me and then tell me you IN LOVE with another women? Ok.. LOVE HER THEN. But what you won't do is share with another woman what you are suppose to have with me. He has NO RESPECT for his wife! She needs to establish her self worth and find herself again. She has a beautiful child she needs to worry about and she does not want this curse to be carried down to her child. The longer I watch this video the more upset I get. GOOD LORD.. what is going on in on!!!
26LevelsOfKlass 1 month ago
I'm sorry to hear of this situation. I do know how she feels. Currently, her life is turned upside down and she is questioning everything. I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU because he wont stop seeing the mistress. I'm pretty sure that what you see in her physically is her self-esteem is depleting. I suggest that you continuously tell her how beautiful and wonderful she is a person. Tell her how special she is. Ask her if this is example she wants for her children. Hope this is helps.
locslov4eva 1 month ago
DOGS KNOW WHO TO BARK AT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
she should leave his ass! more then likely he is feeding the other woman with the same non scene. i was in love with someone who had a baby for someone else! and although it hurt, i had to get out of there. i don't settle for good enough, nor do i allow myself to be someone else good enough!
danga421 1 month ago
It`s really complicated, he`s just bullshiting her basicly i mean he is looking for a way out. She will wake up from that hell one day. There no advise when it comes to relationship just listen to her unfortunately
christellepene 1 month ago
Ask her if he would be allowing her to do the same thing had she had the affair. Turn to Jesus he will help her through, it's always harder in the beginning.
Vickygrl737 1 month ago
Also remind her by her allowing herself to become so distraught by this man to the point of physical illness, her own child has to be suffering also and that she needs to keep it together to raise him or her. Children can sense our pain and they suffer also. Her husband has flipped out, and
Vickygrl737 1 month ago
Be a listening ear, until you can't any more but she has to come to her own senses. Sometimes this can take a while. Especially if she has low self esteem, which it sounds like she does.
Vickygrl737 1 month ago
He is asking for to much as the person who has disrespected her... staying with him should not come with accepting this other woman dealing wiht and loving the extra child yes but the mother no that is to much. He dosnt seem remorsful... im leaning to the take him to the bank for her sanity sake
addarkandlovely 1 month ago
Sounds like he's doing as much as he can get away with...He knows that she's accepting his Disrespect. His Actions speak the truth of his Heart.I would advise her to have some Self Respect & stand up for her Self! Ultimately it's up to her. You're better than me; I'm at a point in my life where I just have a hard time listening to that type of stuff from my friends. When I find my self getting more pissed off than the person who's experiencing the B.S. I know it's time step out of the equation.
AllisonLPayne 1 month ago 16
If he is not working hard for her forgiveness and on bending knee every second of the day trying to fix things then she needs to start packing her bags. There is no need for the mistress to be there at anytime. He is the father of the child and he can do what he needs to do physically and financially to support the child without her.
TaneshaCorley 1 month ago
And if he is working hard for her forgiveness and on bending knee for her then she needs to make some serious changes.
TaneshaCorley 1 month ago
I should say that he had a harder time than I did being apart of the little girls life in the beginning but he never gave me any terms (I wish this negro would have gave me an ultimatium) We both play a big part in her life he has custody rights and that Woman is not allowed even in my driveway I wish she would. It's been 5 years and we all make mistakes because I've made my own but Marriage isn't perfect and the only advice I can give is for her to follow her heart,don't allow him to walk on it
TaneshaCorley 1 month ago
Anyways, For the first couple of weeks I left him, I was hurt, couldn't think, I took off from work for a week and I literally shut down. He had hid it from me because He knew the whole time about the woman being pregnant and didn't say a word. The baby girl was born Two days from my own child's birthday so the baby and my oldest are exactly 3 yrs and 2 days apart. It took lots of marriage counseling, prayer, crying but I love my husband and I'm committed to this marriage.
TaneshaCorley 1 month ago
I was on a family vacation with my in laws along with other family members to Disney World (My first time) and everyone on the trip was in a bad mood the whole week and as soon as we got back from the trip the next day I went to visit my Mom and I recieved a "Text Message" from my husband stating that he had another child. I thought this fool was joking one that he would email some shit like that to me instead of telling me and two when the hell did this happen. Make a long story short.
TaneshaCorley 1 month ago
I usually would not put my business in the street especially on youtube where my login is my real name but I really enjoy watching you and this story hits home with me. I am in the same situation as your friend. A mother of two girls and a stepmother to one. 5 years ago my life changed for the worst it felt like at the time. My husband of 3 years at the time and my husband and I were both 23 and had been married for just 3 years and I found out that he had, had another child by cheating on me.
TaneshaCorley 1 month ago
Yeah... your friend should have said something about the affair earlier when she knew. This WHOLE mess would have been avoided if she confronted him and set him straight. The fact that he professes that he is in love with another woman is ground enough for terminating the marriage... without even considering the other baby. Your friend really has no choice now BUT to move on. Ladies, don't let your man get away with cheating, once you know SAY SOMETHING and avoid the horrible mix up
Filmchica 1 month ago
Tell her that POS is not worth two dead flies as my MIL would say! By staying with him she is totally disrespecting herself and setting a very poor example for her child. That damn fool is not going to change his behavior. Later on, she may snap and kill his azz. Then she'll be in jail...for what?!! Her body is trying to tell her this as well...that's why she's ill.
msfullroller 1 month ago
i can see accepting the child bc she / he did not ask to be made. but there is no way she can accept the mistress. she should just file for divorce.
acestarone 1 month ago
Ohhh Hell No...... It's bad enough she puttin up with the fool, but for him to tell her to accept/invite his side piece...In her HOUSE...... HELL NO!!!
sexyphora 1 month ago
Oh hell naw! DIVORCE! I understand that they have been together for a while BUT if he loved her he would not have cheated on her! Then he has the nerve to have "terms" ??? She needs to let that shit gl for real! There isn't anything to work out! He wants to have his cake and eat it too and that ain't right! Tell your friend to file papers and move on!
KokoGigglesLots 1 month ago
If this man truly loved his wife (which I doubt), then he wouldn't put her in this tough situation and consider her feelings. But just the fact that he put these asinine conditions that she has to "accept the mistress" is utterly preposterous and absurd. He's only giving the wife these BS conditions so he can escape the feelings of guilt, shame, and dispair that he has put upon his marriage and family because of his ill actions.
mercyhurstchic 1 month ago
look in the "gold book" its something in there for it .
nappyknotts93 1 month ago
You're good. I don't even have tolerance for hearing the drama. It's too draining. So you KNOW I wouldn't - and I mean no kind of dayum way - tolerate a disrespectful man. Homegirl needs to determine how much her sanity and peace of mind is worth. Then put forth some actions to protect herself.
future2331 1 month ago
Also the fact that this "man" (and I use the term very loosely) slept with his wife and risk putting her in danger with the possibility of giving her an STD demonstrates carelessness, selfishness, and an extreme lack of consideration for her safety, health, and feelings. I think the wife needs to find her inner strength to make the most toughest decision she could make.
DIVORCE.
mercyhurstchic 1 month ago
It seems to me that this man is very selfish and only thinking of himself. He's making all these bs conditions to his wife only for his convenience. Just the fact that he blatantly says to his wife that he's still in love with the mistress tells me that he's not ready to let go of the relationship and not really willing nor ready to work on his marriage. Until he's ready and willing to let go of that adulterous relationship, the wife will need to think really hard if she wants this marriage.
mercyhurstchic 1 month ago
this happened to my sister their divorced now together over 10years married not even 1 year and he has a baby by someone else the other woman was disrespectful she found out in a argument with him then my sister wanted another baby before finding out he said no but turned around and got a low life pregnant it hurts to see someone your close to hurt like this
jazzynatural1 1 month ago
Comment removed
tbey82 1 month ago
Love will make you change and sometimes be blind...with that being said she needs to let him go be with the other woman and he can make his conditions with her....I hate when things like this happen to good people then why would he put her in danger not using a condom she need to divorce and get her spousal support with child support pray about it and be DONE!!!
jazzynatural1 1 month ago
LEAVE HIS ASS ASAP!!! Sorry, but that's wat is gonna have to happen. Sh will find a real man someday ... But that selfish dude ain't it!!! Real talk:)
cgmuriuki 1 month ago
He is a nut. He wants the whole cake not just a piece. She needs to divorce him today.
He doesn't love her.
Theagelessbeauty 1 month ago
I think that this is more serious than I can fix, but wow is all i can say...
FAMFIRSTJ 1 month ago
How the hell is HE the one one with conditions n shit?!!!! When he was the one that cheated!!?? My concern is for the woman that is NOT in her right mind. What are HER conditions for him I wonder..... I bet she doesnt even have any. such a shame
Shellzhere718 1 month ago
But he didn't care. If she stays, for the rest of her life, she'll question his every move. It's a terrible feeling. It's heartbreaking. The shit sucks!! More than sucks. I hope your friend leaves, let him have a relationship with kid, but leave. It's not fair, he doesn't respect her. He doesn't love her. Ultimately it's her decision, hopefully she makes the right one for her and her kid
Skinni86 1 month ago
I think you are spot on. I know its her choice and decision but truth is truth. The AUDACITY to cheat on your wife AND your family and then have stipulations??? Excuse me? Who the **** does he think he is? Love your self and your children enough to walk away from an unhealthy relationship. They can still have a relationship with their father. If she is tormented with all this, it WILL affect her children. They see her stressed out...its going to worry them.
Yaa13 1 month ago
If he did it once, he'll do it again & again! And why would you want someone that doesn't respect you or your marriage.If he is this bold about it, what is she gonna go when he brings home an STD. And now that she knows that he is a hooker whore, she needs to go get tested!! It's a bad situation that is only gonna get worst. He nor the chick is gonna respect her for staying. It makes her look weak & foolish & no woman should put up with that.Get a man that will treat you like the queen you are.
jhall2033 1 month ago
And had a kid. I was devastated. Couldn't eat, couldn't sleep. I stayed with him, tried to deal. When this woman couldn't afford to pay her rent, he had to. When she couldn't provide for herself, he had to because of his son. The woman also tried her best to come between us as she had the baby to keep him around. So I'm guessing, since he still loves her, she loves him too? So he'll be taking turns laying up with both of them? I get she has time and feelings invested. I get that they have kid b
Skinni86 1 month ago
Know what? Just say "he doesn't love you only-he loves her. He is making her a priority, not you. He has cheated on you and will continue to do so. He isn't working for your forgiveness or for your relationship. You are fighting for a man who gave you & your love up. What's more-this relationship is the example you're providing to your kids. These are the facts. Do you think all of that is ok?" Is she says yes, she stays. If no, she leaves.
alleycatfire 1 month ago
Hey girl! The guy has already told your friend in words and in deeds that he loves the other woman and the baby. I think your friend needs accept the fact that the man loves the other woman, and the baby. If he gives her the option, and she wants to do it, she can be in an additional relationship with him, knowing and honoring the fact that he is in a relationship with the other woman. Or she can follow your advice and move on. Best wishes to her and all that are involved.
maximuslyricus 1 month ago
He's in love with another woman and wants her to accept that?!? That's not how it works. He's not respecting her or her feelings. That in itself should make this an easier decision. I understand she has time and feelings invested. I understand that they have a child together but he knew that and didn't care. Dealing with another woman's child that was conceived during your marriage and dealing with the woman too?!? I've been that woman. Though not married, my boyfriend of nearly 7 years cheated
Skinni86 1 month ago
You can sit and tell everything anyone can think of. She has to make the choice on her own to leave this man. If she keeps settling for his bs answer and "terms" her marriage is going to be bs. I'd be damned if my husband told me his "terms" on making it work. you are the one who made the mistake. He'd be gone, there would be no working it out, especially if the man is as dumb and absent minded as this man she has.
NaturallyNaomi1920 1 month ago
Any man who cheats & then gives conditions to his WIFE=not husband material. Cheaters must be sorry to the depths of their souls for it to work. Wanting to include the baby & minimize the conflict between wife & mistress are good things. Subjecting the wife to the humiliation & heartache of having said mistress in her home is NOT. He doesn't sound sorry or like he'll be faithful. Divorce & work her happiness & becoming a functioning team for the sake of the kids. Staying=heartache for everyone.
alleycatfire 1 month ago
Ask her, "What do you think your self worth is?"
amourturner 1 month ago
By setting up "terms" I feel he is trying to make her feel like HE is being the reasonable one making her question things she shouldn't have to in the first place. She should be setting up terms for him to follow...Seems like hes trying harder to cater to the mistress and not his wife. I wonder the reason for that...
CleezyClark 1 month ago
In my humble opinion there is nothing you can really say to someone like that. If she not even willing to move on, she isn't going to listen to reason. You just have to pray for her and let her decide.
amourturner 1 month ago
What he is asking for is bigamy (and eventually polygamy, in all likelihood). He wants to be "married" to his wife and also have a marital relationship with his mistress (someone you have sex with and raise a child with is, in effect, your spouse).
If the idea of being one of a string of wives appeals to her, then by all means, she should accept his terms. She should find out if he is equally cool with her having other husbands to cater to all of her needs that he isn't meeting.
TheSupasweet 1 month ago 2
He is in the wrong and that's unfair to their marriage. He already broke the sacredness of the union of a marriage by cheating but to keep disrespecting her after she found and expect her to follow terms of his wrong doing, she needs to tell him to kick rocks and let him go.
fadiliscious 1 month ago
damn. so what if she comes up pregnant and he isnt the father? no way in hell he stays.lol
southernkomfort00 1 month ago
lol. cmon now tnt. u know as well as i know that ish aint gon work. marriages barely work without that soap opera. she may as well collect her child support and hit the road. thats realness. how a cat gonna get some goods and go raw? wtf?
southernkomfort00 1 month ago
kick his ass to the curb!
5016jay 1 month ago
Hell no !
5016jay 1 month ago