Children and Divorce

[parkesme]

America is Babylon Incarnate. My soon to be ex-wife is from this place, and america changed her. Turned her into a little b. Now she is in life for herself. Every american woman I see - they are trash to me.

[SiSWA11]

Divorced ruined my life

I was 8 or 9 and now I'm 14 I still cry on what hapened ,,

[DiaryofaDivorcedDad]

I don't know if it's inevitable that older children will "pick sides" in the divorce. Mine did. Even though I had a terrific relationship with both of them (daughter who is a young teenager, son is a newly minted young man) and we communicated at first. They both slowly began to want less and less to do with me. Now I rarely see either of my children. Both live with their mother. And because they wont communicate with me, I don't know the source of their resentment. And I can't defend myself.

[RobertMOdell]

Divorce damages children. Start speaking the truth, or you will be guilty of these lies.

[RobertMOdell]

One word: ADULTERY.

Adulterers will not see the Kingdom of God.

[Badkitty1108]

My father spent my whole childhood trying to convince me of how bad my mom was and comparing me to her negatively- at the age of 6! I began censoring myself from an early age so that I wouldn't be compared to her. So he didn't get to know the real me until years later. So sad.

[shh120]

Thank you. My divorce was five years ago. My son has physical symptoms and suffers from anxiety. I hear "mom's house" "dad's house" too.

My question is how to cope with a child who shows favortism for the "buddy" parent? We have shared parenting and spend equal time with our son but he still cries when dad drops him off and always says dad is his best friend. I'm blamed even though I refuse to tell my son what brought about the divorce because I don't want him to know what his dad did.

[Badkitty1108]

Just be kind to your kid. You don't have to be a buddy to be a good parent. Stop worrying about being blamed. Kids can sense the anger and will take it personally. Just focus on showing love.

[mattdoyle1964]

No one marrys with the intention of divorcing. Of course it is not harmless! No one said it is harmless. In the end, the behavior of parents during the divorce process creates the harm.

[cynthiakisses]

you are a fool if you think divorce is harmless. it hurts all involved. if you are a liar and a coward who might sometime in the future consider divorce -dont marry at all.

[RobertMOdell]

Amen.

[ent66]

I want to die now that my parents are divorced, every day I have to see the face of a liar. Weather im with my mom or my dad their both liars!!!!!!!!!!!!

[tourettesufferer]

its sad. i suffer from tourette's syndrome right now. the doctors all say it was caused by the stress when my parents divorced.