I am sorry the daughter in-law does not get it. No matter where you live your culture is your culture. As for the son I hope he matures to the point that he can fully appreciate how beautiful he is, and he is what he is because of his parents. His children should know them and love them. Not treat them with the disrepect that he and his wife show them. It takes effort to know your in-laws ask them questions and learn. It's the only way to make sure your husband is happy and at peace.
If you live in an English speaking country for long enough (generations) the need to learn another language will die because of the internationalism of English. We should fight against this 'narrowing' of cultural experience.
Everyone should try to learn another language. I am working on it too^^
Thank you for posting this, it gives light and rejects stupid stereotypes that the world viewer people as. I so much respect for the parents how they lived their lives freely without worrying about the world putting them down. It's just sad that Michael is unwilling to compromise with his parents and allows his wife to misunderstand his parents without attempting to understand their perspective.
He's the oldest son so he should be understanding of his parents point of view. So he should have educated his wife of his culture differences. Parents will automatically have their guard up with their kids spouses, until they put in faith that you love their son or daughter, respect them as an elder and to make right choices.
Wow, I'm sure the parents are not perfect, but Sandy ...there is just too much to say. She flat out tried to say that after being in this country for 35 years Mike's mom should know more about AMERICAN culture. There is no 1 American culture. Then she forgot that his father is American soshe played the ignorance card. You married a biracial man you kids are going to be multiracial, you would think that at some point she might try to learn about the cultures her husband grew up with.
That Kimchi comment was really rude for the daughter in law to make. It seems that the son has been very disrepectful to his parents. But i'm sure there are lots of things a viewer that we don't know.
This was an excellent documentary, I hope it won many awards. It detailed interfamilial dynamics as well as the intercultural differences. I saw a typical interracial family that sometimes experiences the ugly part of society when the enter into these unions. I believe that Michael had some childhood things he was not able to process and it has definitely affected him in adulthood. He still seems like a decent guy and I hope that he allows his children a relationship with his parents. Great!
TO answer someone's question about Michael and his parents,they have made amends and are a very close family. I went to the Soul2Seoul website and everything is fine.
Sandy has dismissed the values of that family. This is common in White and racists environments. The parents only have themselves to blame. They should have raised Michael in a more diverse environment. It is obvious that the kids hate being different. The kids grew up with a support system. Therefore, Micheal accepts the racists remarks from his wife as he probably did when he was kid from the other kids. He probably just happy to be loved by a white woman. It's sad.
I mean.. for example, If I got introduced to my boyfriend's mother.. regardless whether he's white/black/asian/etc I won't just call his mother by her first name.. of course I would call her mrs.something.. unless after I call her mrs then she says call me brenda.. if she's cool with that.. then it's all good I'll call her brenda from then on. so the daughter in-law's excuse of supposedly not knowing the black/korean culture is just a bunch of bull crap to me.
regardless whether it is the Korean/Black culture... even in the white culture you don't call somebody older with the first name.
With most black Americans you can call a black woman by her first name if you are younger, but you usually have to say miss first as in Miss Kathy etc. or miss/mrs Johnson. We also say mother Johnson/ mamma Johnson etc. It's so common it's second nature and I don't realize I'm doing this until I get around another culture/group who doesn't.
but like what I was trying to say is that.. both the parents already had issues with the daughter in law because like the father said, he only learned about the wedding after the 1st son said they got married in Vegas, I bet that came as a shock.
and if you saw the prev video, the mother said that one time the daughter in-law mentioned "that stinking kimchi" which is quite an insult.. especially since kimchi is part of Korean culture and the mother of her husband is Korean.
Did you catch that subtle hint that just because the mother has been in American longer than she has been in Korean that she should have Korean views of etiquette.
regardless whether it is the Korean/Black culture... even in the white culture you don't call somebody older with the first name. it's a matter of etiquette.. you only call by the first name if that person allows you to or prefers to be called by their first name.
I really hope Michael and his parents don't still have the grudge that they had. It's not good if they're still not talking to each other. The longer they wait to set things right the harder it will be for them once they do decide to just let it go. Great documentary!!! I can definitely relate.
I am sorry the daughter in-law does not get it. No matter where you live your culture is your culture. As for the son I hope he matures to the point that he can fully appreciate how beautiful he is, and he is what he is because of his parents. His children should know them and love them. Not treat them with the disrepect that he and his wife show them. It takes effort to know your in-laws ask them questions and learn. It's the only way to make sure your husband is happy and at peace.
twtdst 3 years ago 3
wait, so all the kids married white? it's hard to hear the audio...
projectmimiko 3 years ago
If you live in an English speaking country for long enough (generations) the need to learn another language will die because of the internationalism of English. We should fight against this 'narrowing' of cultural experience.
Everyone should try to learn another language. I am working on it too^^
NevermindTheCoals 3 years ago 6
Thank you for posting this, it gives light and rejects stupid stereotypes that the world viewer people as. I so much respect for the parents how they lived their lives freely without worrying about the world putting them down. It's just sad that Michael is unwilling to compromise with his parents and allows his wife to misunderstand his parents without attempting to understand their perspective.
christaluvsdrama 3 years ago 3
He's the oldest son so he should be understanding of his parents point of view. So he should have educated his wife of his culture differences. Parents will automatically have their guard up with their kids spouses, until they put in faith that you love their son or daughter, respect them as an elder and to make right choices.
christaluvsdrama 3 years ago
Very interesting Documentary! How old is this by the way???
striker1224 3 years ago
Wow, I'm sure the parents are not perfect, but Sandy ...there is just too much to say. She flat out tried to say that after being in this country for 35 years Mike's mom should know more about AMERICAN culture. There is no 1 American culture. Then she forgot that his father is American soshe played the ignorance card. You married a biracial man you kids are going to be multiracial, you would think that at some point she might try to learn about the cultures her husband grew up with.
minnied84 3 years ago
That Kimchi comment was really rude for the daughter in law to make. It seems that the son has been very disrepectful to his parents. But i'm sure there are lots of things a viewer that we don't know.
LadyFlameSniper 3 years ago
Enjoyed watching this documentary. Thanks for sharing!
ameliabedelia99 3 years ago
This was an excellent documentary, I hope it won many awards. It detailed interfamilial dynamics as well as the intercultural differences. I saw a typical interracial family that sometimes experiences the ugly part of society when the enter into these unions. I believe that Michael had some childhood things he was not able to process and it has definitely affected him in adulthood. He still seems like a decent guy and I hope that he allows his children a relationship with his parents. Great!
forensicmommy 3 years ago 6
TO answer someone's question about Michael and his parents,they have made amends and are a very close family. I went to the Soul2Seoul website and everything is fine.
tanio12 4 years ago 2
Oh, great. I was kind of bummed about the estrangement, too. Funny, since I only know these people from this documentary.
ameliabedelia99 3 years ago
Sandy has dismissed the values of that family. This is common in White and racists environments. The parents only have themselves to blame. They should have raised Michael in a more diverse environment. It is obvious that the kids hate being different. The kids grew up with a support system. Therefore, Micheal accepts the racists remarks from his wife as he probably did when he was kid from the other kids. He probably just happy to be loved by a white woman. It's sad.
alecniles 4 years ago 11
I mean.. for example, If I got introduced to my boyfriend's mother.. regardless whether he's white/black/asian/etc I won't just call his mother by her first name.. of course I would call her mrs.something.. unless after I call her mrs then she says call me brenda.. if she's cool with that.. then it's all good I'll call her brenda from then on. so the daughter in-law's excuse of supposedly not knowing the black/korean culture is just a bunch of bull crap to me.
dangdutasik 4 years ago 6
regardless whether it is the Korean/Black culture... even in the white culture you don't call somebody older with the first name.
With most black Americans you can call a black woman by her first name if you are younger, but you usually have to say miss first as in Miss Kathy etc. or miss/mrs Johnson. We also say mother Johnson/ mamma Johnson etc. It's so common it's second nature and I don't realize I'm doing this until I get around another culture/group who doesn't.
TVwriter23 4 years ago 5
ic..
but like what I was trying to say is that.. both the parents already had issues with the daughter in law because like the father said, he only learned about the wedding after the 1st son said they got married in Vegas, I bet that came as a shock.
and if you saw the prev video, the mother said that one time the daughter in-law mentioned "that stinking kimchi" which is quite an insult.. especially since kimchi is part of Korean culture and the mother of her husband is Korean.
dangdutasik 4 years ago 2
Did you catch that subtle hint that just because the mother has been in American longer than she has been in Korean that she should have Korean views of etiquette.
TVwriter23 4 years ago 5
you mean the American views of etiquette?
dangdutasik 4 years ago 4
regardless whether it is the Korean/Black culture... even in the white culture you don't call somebody older with the first name. it's a matter of etiquette.. you only call by the first name if that person allows you to or prefers to be called by their first name.
dangdutasik 4 years ago 3
wow... they both sound like my parents, and my parents are both asian.. but like their views about life, etc is similar.
dangdutasik 4 years ago
I really hope Michael and his parents don't still have the grudge that they had. It's not good if they're still not talking to each other. The longer they wait to set things right the harder it will be for them once they do decide to just let it go. Great documentary!!! I can definitely relate.
afroshaolin 4 years ago 2