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  • the guy that i was with for about 8 months has been my friend for about a year and a half and i told him pretty much the same thing, that for relationships to work you have (or at least should) friendship between the two people. he broke up with me because he thought that he felt like we were just friends, do you think it was just not meant to be with him?

  • I wish you were my aunt.. Thank you so much. :)

  • thank you........someone i cared about really deeply hurt me and i wasnt going to talk to them again but i guess they deserve another chance

  • Very valuable words, and high value person you are. Thank you for this moment, Lemonette.

    Regards from Portugal!

  • Ï know what she´s talking about, people should realize that nice ass or beautiful face are no reasons to commit sharing a lifetime with a person. If U want to look for a sign that U Rtaking the correct decision, just think about the way U feel for her/him. When U know some details about a person and don't bothers U the way it would if some else did the same, if Uenjoy just sitting next to her, if U feel like U R a team working to reach each other's wellness, get married then :-)

  • awsome story lady.. hope u stay married for 30 more years

  • @CatchMeMonster hey, why don't you shut up, you apparently are crazy and have no life. You also don't even know how to spell grannies. So, you go get a life, learn how to spell, and don't get on youtube to put people down just to make yourself feel better. Youtube is a place to watch videos, entertain, make videos, be informative, and get feedback on videos, not for some little p.o.s. to say rude things to good people just to be a jerk and feel better about their shitty lives.

  • As a young person of 25yrs, I must say that this video speaks the truth in everyway shape and form. I know a lot of people can't accept it but I hope those people still listen to it.

  • Nice thoughts but I don't like hearing stuff like, "person perfect for you," or, "soul mate." When this world has 6 Billion people in on and the most you will get to know in your life is almost definitely less than one thousand.

  • @CatchMeMonster let her do her stuff. look at you when you're old and when you make videos, you are gonna regret for ranting about old people on youtube, and when you are old, im gonna fuck up you likes and dislikes. fuck off and gtfo!

  • Thumbs up if Traveler brought you here ;)

  • I really respect you, I just came across this video and it helped me alot:) Thank you.

  • Great advice. Thank you.

  • oh gee, I've been with the same lady for 40 years, and married for 30 some year, and we got 3 kids, and some grand kids. And I've known her for over 50 years too. We grew up living next to each other, and so I've known her for the majority of my life, she moved into the house next to ours when i was 6 years old, and im 57 now

  • @CatchMeMonster and youtube arent for douchebags either

  • Do you live in the car ... ?

  • @hermitmason111 do u live with your mom?

  • My husband is perfect! I decided that years ago. Anytime I find evidence to the contrary, I disregard it, on account of my previous decision! I love my husband and he loves me. We are so content.

  • how would you know? youre fat

  • OMG is this video still here? I remember this was the FIRST video I ever saw when I got into YouTube :D

  • Asian wives alone and try to chat her #lushfmlk.info#

  • @CatchMeMonster fuck you

  • You make up all the words you want to, Lemonette! I think that might be a 'constitutionary' right!

  • I loved your open and honest way of dealing with this topic. Too many folk are giving up tooo tooooo quickly on a sacred important serious thing such as the union of two individuals in a marriage.

  • I love you lemonette!

  • I love you lemonette <3

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  • I happened upon this video by accident. Excellent advice!

    Cecil

  • O MY

  • exactly, why would you get married for just sex? if you just want to have sex, have sex, dont get married.

    marriage is for two people who are seemingly perfect for each other. it bonds your two lives together, and sex is not the only thing in life... it is important, but theres so much else to take into account

    i mean, i have loved girls, but just because i love them and think they are the sweetest things, doesnt mean they are perfect for me

  • My nanny and grabdad were married for 50 years

  • Thank you so much. i am a 21 year old guy....and all u have said has made sooo much sense. No wonder you are still with your husband....

  • the sun shines brighter because of your luminescent wisdom

  • wise lady - thank you

  • I love your accent and such wise words :)

  • outstanding !!!!!

  • woah, those words are very wise.. they actually helped me xD and i just wandered along this video randomly.. Wow thank you ^.^

  • you are exactly right its forgiveness...fabulous video i have subbed, and congrats on nearly a million views

    a viewer from london UK

  • i needit this today thank you.

  • I feel like your a family member when you talk, its nice hearing real advice from a REAL person, I hope i can reach that in my relationship one day! God bless you, and I cant wait to hear your video when you and your husband reach your 50 year mark :)

  • LMFBO!!!

  • omg i think u are sooo cool!!! thank u for sharing!!!!

  • I think this was wonderful. Thank you for sharing.

  • *hug*

  • I think you are a a wonderful, wonderful angel! Loved what you said completely - about forgiveness in a relationship. It is not the easiest thing to do because so many times we bring our ego in between - and we go like - 'how could s/he do this to ME?!' - but I have begun to feel how important it is to learn to forgive the tiny imperfections in another human being.. ((Hugs))

  • this is very wise but why are you in your car with the seat belt on?

  • thanks for sharing.

  • ok ?

  • Your words have echoed in my head so many times since I watched this video: "You have to have a hefty, hefty amount of forgiveness in your heart if you're gonna last 30 years with somebody. Both of you do." Thank you sooo much, 1 million times over, for posting this video and bringing so much reassurance and warm advice to all of us who watch. You are so wise and sweet & I wish all the best for you and your husband. Both my sweet man and I will remember your words. God bless. <3

  • Well, she's certainly brightened my day with her video, so I don't think that constitutes as failing at life. And I'd rather watch this video than Dr. Phil anyday.

  • I think it's pretty useful advice.

  • Hi, my name is Chuck; I think this is a very good video you posted. I posted a video response, but I had to delete it because of the poor sound quality, but I think this is a very important message for many people out there who want to have a relationship with somebody. I can see how important forgiveness is and two people in a marriage relationship really need to have that if they want their marriage to last for many years, or most importantly, the rest of their lives.

  • kill them both it's the only way

  • do you live in that car?

  • im sorry. a fall is to rise again even in this late in the day and age. we all make it with or without them. hang on NANCY youll do it again. lane

  • Bravo.

  • I really like this. It reinforces what Ive experienced knowing what it means to love and commit with total acceptance of the person you love, as they are. If you want to change the person, you don't love them, you love your ideals, not the person.

  • You Rock!

  • Very sage advice, ma'am.

  • You want to talk equality?

    1: On a date, the man should pay for what he eats. The woman should pay for what she eats.

    2: Woman can pull out their own seat, and open their own doors.

    3: If there is a draft, woman should also have to go.

    4: If there is a divorce, the man should pay for his legal bills. The woman should pay for hers.

  • 5: The divorced father and mother should have equal custody rights. The father should not see their child only once a week.

    6: The father should not have to pay 1/3 of his paycheck for child support while the mom gets a free ride with alimony.

    If you disagree with ANY of these above statements, then you fit the feminist stereotype. If this is the case, then you are no better than the rest.

  • I love what you had to say. and I took all your words to heart. My relationship's been having problems with honesty, and from this, I've gotten the best advice around. Thank you very much lemonette, you're a life saver.

  • why do you have your seatbelt on while parked?

  • Personally, the seatbelt makes me a little comfortable and safe. Thats just me.

  • what did you do when you got bored in your relationship over time?

  • hahaha not sure why this in in my playlist.. Whatever its cool =P

  • I love this video

  • Lanette,

    I love hearing stories of successful marriages like yours! Coming generations would do well to heed your advice :)

    -J.T.

  • wtf dont u have a job

  • if your gona insalt someone altleast spell the words rite 0k Bouddy i d0 liek 2 spelllll words w0ng toooo

  • It's just so god damned hard these days. Feminism really screwed things up...for BOTH men and woman.

  • fuck U. There are faults that lie within both genders that contribute to most relationship issues. To be as ignorant as to blame problems on THAT is just extremely stupid and deserves to have thier head shoved in a toilet.

    to clear up your stupidity on this: Feminism is just the wacky notion that women are people and deserve to be treated as such. So hard for puny brains, isn't it? Sheesh.

  • No, fuck you.

    Feminism has ruined the relationship between men and woman by setting them against one another. I have seen wonderful woman transformed into feminist man-hating bitches after taking "Women's studies" or some other related crap. They walk around like the world fuckin owns them something, and it DOESN'T!

  • I'm feminist and I don't hate every man I see. It's for equality, not to OWN EVERYTHING! what's so bad about wanting the same respect? I understand that women were treated badly all those years ago, but that's the past and it doesn't do any good to be angry over it. You're the one whose got your head twisted with stupid information. GET YOUR FACTS STRAIGHT BEFORE YOU ARGUE BECAUSE YOUR OPINION IS JUST ONE HUGE, WRONG BIASED STERIOTYPE.

  • Well...you got something smart to say to that? Or what?

  • How about you? You just sound like a sexist, facist pig. Good luck having a girlfriend with that attitude.. most things you listed were just things men do out of curtioucy or just to be a gentlemen (which mind you, were set by men themselves), as for custody, the women did bring them into the world and often give better care. The man only has to pay for care of the child, not HER selfish needs. I hope this is the last of your woman hating rampages. It isn't looking good for you.

  • "How about you? You just sound like a sexist, facist pig. Good luck having a girlfriend with that attitude..."

    My list of 1-6 doesn't sound sexist at all. Sounds about as fair as you can get. If fact, that's what things would be like if they were truly equal. You can either have equality or chivalry, but not both.

    I would not want any woman who tries to have both. I'll be just fine without her, trust me.

  • At least she's able to get with someone.

    Get a life.

  • what in hell is a granyes?

  • i think its a polish soup :S

  • looks like grandma (granyes) to me, by the way relationships have changed now is how you look and how much money do you have if you are a successful well you are a winner

  • @lemonette LOL, I was thinking the same thing... I assume it's the opposite of granno?

    Anyway, keep up the good work, I really love your videos.

  • I appreciate your concern, but I think that you are presuming too much.

  • thats pretty low dude... i mean come on.. you DONT HAVE TO BRING THAT UP. im pretty sure she doesnt want people saying stuff like that! (and yes i stopped myself from swearing in that)

  • Many things could be a reflection of inner pain. You focus on weight because that is very visable but you have your flaws just as much as any other person does, perhaps your flaws aren't as visable as other's are.

  • i dont necesarly understand why hyperactive "symbolise the perfect person" people like you always have to make a reference on obesity. How would you come to the conclusion that people are tormented by their looks? I think that you should let people live how they want to and try not to but into their own lives to make your "perfect community"....

  • @Feelthemusic4ever What kind of stupid shit is that to say to somebody? are you a nutjob?

  • Great commentary. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us all!

  • Im single again.. I commented this video a year or so ago when I was with a previous girl. This video always makes me feel better about finding someone right for me.. I dont ever seem to have much luck. just when I find someone I like they are gone after a few months and im on square one again..

  • i may be younger but i respect u!

    kudos!

  • Why are you doing this in ur car???

  • This vid really made me miss my mother (shes in heaven now). I'm 20 now and I've been telling my friends since I was 17 that love is all about the dishes, doctors appointments, and waking up everyday with someone next to you, ready to face the everyday world of laughs, tears, and what have yous together. Sex doesn't nearly show as much love as those things do. I guess I got that from Mom, and you Lemonette brought all that back. You are one smart cookie, Kudos!

    Take Care - Sammy

  • get a life woop woop !! i like ur hair and glasses xx

  • Great Advise, I have been with my husband for almost 9yrs now, and he and I are best friends! I agree so much about the forgiveness, we all make mistakes and mess up!

    I love him so much, I have to go call him right now......

  • im so in love too.. :)

  • I love that she wears her seatbelt while parked.

  • you need your own advise column.

  • everyone can have the perfect relationship.

    you just need to play with the right tools.

    helping one perfect relationship at a time,

    Hope & Darrell

    we've been dating for 2 weeks. we're so in love!

  • I've always told my wife: "I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you". (-; SEX is out the window after about two years. It loses it's appeal. You have a successful relationship, you ARE an authority! I love what you're saying, I "hear" every word.

    Love to you,

    Stefan from Kentucky

  • Thank you so much for this video~~

  • WOW...

    this was amazing,

    im not even exaggerating,

    im 13, and have had a boyfriend for going on 9 months the 14th and this helped with all the questions, and doubts ive EVER had,.

    keep doind great,

    you truly have a talent!

    this video was spectacular!

  • This video helped me out so much. Makes me proud to be a fellow Southern gal :)

  • I think you are very wise and insightful. Thank you for posting this, it's wonderful. And forget those people who leave hating comments. Your too nice of a person to have something like that said to you. =) Go girl!

  • great video...

    I may be 20... but all of this is no surprise to me... which is goood

    =)

  • damn you are one wise woman! totally subscribed!

  • I think you are very lucky lemmonette. I have been alone now since 1990. I brought my son up on my own and learend to depend on just me. I seem to attract the liars and the cheaters so therefore if I see a guy and think he is cute or whatever, I go in the oppisite direction because I know i am a weirdo magnet for some reason. I am happy for you though.

  • dont feel bad i have the same magnet,, im 37 raised 3 kids and still cant get a good one either.

  • aw...well I think we are the smart ones :o) hu. maybe some day in my life..In the mean time i ma happy raising my son..You are a good mom to your kids.

  • I love Tom.

  • i agree with you and me and my boyfriend and i have been toghter for 2 years i hope we will be toghter forever like you and your husband will probably be.

    great vid!

  • thank you that was very sweet.

    :)

  • I feel like I knew the things she said, but I needed to be reminded of it. Thanks for this video, it was really meaningful!

  • smart women,.. keep up

  • you make a really good point in a relationship about forgiveness.

  • Very well said! Great advice!

  • true very true

  • Hey, I think your very brave for doing this vid and what you said strikes home

    Best wishes

    Dave

  • Thanks

    for the love

  • I have been in a relationship for over 6 years and I think everything you said applies. Thanks for the vid.

  • This was enjoyable. Thank you for being so strong. I know I cannot stand putting myself out there on the internet. It's crawling, absolutely crawling, with the shallow, the selfish, and the narrow minded. Not to mention the inexperienced prat who believes they're all knowing. I could take a leaf out of your book really.

  • that was profound for me... thanku :)

  • You really are a good girl.

  • Nearly One Million views ;]

  • ok.... good video, but y film it in a car? r u homeless or something? lol just kidding.

  • :-)

  • You are a beautiful person, wish i have the same attitude towards life.

  • you go girl :)

  • Amen

  • Thanks - I'm only 20 but I love hearing advice from people who have been there.. I will remember all this for my next relationship =)

  • you are so real =)

  • haha cute, i find this very accurate

  • in our today civilization you may be right, but i want to make all who read this post of mine think about all the things we believe to be right or normal. in humanities past relationships were there to have children. (like all animals) i say a relationship doesnt make any sense without sex, it's in harder words pointless/no real relationship if you dont have children. by the way i myself have no children, and i dont belong to a religion or similar dumb believeing-things, i am a thinking person.

  • "...or similar dumb believeing-things, I am a thinking person."

    ROFL!!! People need religion because it gives them a purpose for life, and something/someone to turn to when things get rough. Just everyone doesn't think like you (thank GOD) doesn't mean it's "dumb." Anything "thinking person" worth their salt should come to that realization.

    TOLERANCE.

  • You are a beautiful person, wish i have the same attitude towards life.

  • great vlog, thanks.

  • What a great, honest, and wise vlog. Loved this, Lemonette, really did.

  • lemonette help me please. Mine walked out after 33 years. I am scared because marriage is all I know. Just a little country girl from the carolinas

  • wow almost 1 million views wow

  • You have been quite honest in your speach. But I think you forgot to mention the one reason that keeps most people together, and that is the fear of being alone. It takes quite a lot of guts to admit it, though.

  • I am not billy, however...

    THANK YOU, for making this video.

    Forgiveness is something that a lot of us, forget to "pack" in that bag.

    And also, more of us, tend to look at what the other one is doing for the relationship, as opposed as what WE are contributing.

    great video. thanks again.

  • ...you also need to know when to stop forgiving. because when you don't know when to stop,you'll enable yourself to be used as a doormat.

  • thanks for this it makes me think, cause im sooo young. Love this vid im soo happy i found u lemonette. But anyways i better go watch another oneofyer vidsim watching them all xx

  • lemonette you contraducted everything you said how could you lemonette!

  • Lemonette i've watched this video one million times probably and its great every time. you're the best!

  • no thanks

  • hahahah ur great!!

  • i really like how u handle some of these jerks!

  • omg lemonette! *gives you a biiig hug* your awesome. ive been looking for help in my relationship for a while now.. and all i needed to see was your video. your a VERY smart lady.. i miss having someone like that around to talk to. <33

  • Forgiveness! You hit the nail on the head! Good Job!

    Psalm 86:5 -- "For thou, Lord, art good, and ready to forgive; and plenteous in mercy unto all them that call upon thee."

    Luke 6:37 -- "Judge not, and ye shall not be judged: condemn not, and ye shall not be condemned: forgive, and ye shall be forgiven"

    Luke 17:3 -- "Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him."

  • Hi Lemonette, love your advice and wisdom. I've been married 29 yrs.

  • okay

  • wonderful.

  • lol.. I loved it when you said "...plus I think he's stll cute"

  • I love this woman! I'm 14 but I understand!

    I believe the best relationship involves chemistry first. Just like you said. And I agree on the sexual part, I mean, you should have some physical attraction to the person, but that's not all that should matter.

    Congrads on the long-lasting relationship! You're one of those very lucky people to have someone in your life for so long! Just like my parents they were together since age 15 and are in their mid and late 30s and still goin' strong..

    :)

  • Brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. Words to love by.

  • Hey Lemonette,

    You taught me more bout' relationships that anyone else. Least of all my parental figures. I love you Lemonette. You the God damn best. If I can be half as happy as y'all, I'll be doin' good.

    Josh

    xoxox

    Ps: add me to your myspace.

  • Hey Lemonette Where did BillyBigUn64 go?

  • Cool video.