Omg this is so right. There have been times where the words just flow natrually and fluidly. The times where I cant focus my communication is when i'm wondering whats the person thinking about what im saying and trying to force the reaction I want that person to have with what im saying.
Great points. I have been blamed for forgetting what I have said in a letter because the other person is totally stressing me out by their agressive delivery. I think taking a deep breathe can help and avoiding sugar which causes hyper activity.
Well intentioned, and impractrical. Most people will be unable to follow this suggestion because they don't know they're controlled by a "false self." To free your true Self (who doesn't worry unduly about what others think), see "Lesson 1" in "gercacn"s YouTube Channel or view sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
These people in my class allwyas seem to laugh at eveyrthing i say and exchange glances with each other..........these questions now pop in my head ''is it my voice?'' ''was that the wrong answer'' ''maybe i should just stop taking''.........
hate these people because i have now lost my confidence in speaking.....its messed.
Great tip... Even Accepting people even if they act wierd is a really a big endeavour. I have started accepting & acknowledging people. 'Espoir Smart English through Management Ideas' has given me a lot of tips to become sociable & I have started looking at human race as easy to impress.
Knowing yourselves & understanding what others expect can be a good starting point. As Stephen R. Covey says "Start with the End in Mind". Have a reason for the interaction is very important.
Great tip... Even Accepting people even if they act wierd is a really a big endeavour. I have started accepting & acknowledging people. 'Espoir Smart English through Management Ideas' has given me a lot of tips to become sociable & I have started looking at human race as easy to impress.
Knowing yourselves & understanding what others expect can be a good starting point. As Stephen R. Covey says "Start with the End in Mind". Have a reason for the interaction is very important.
I agree. Many times we think about what will people think if i speak. If you speak they will recognize you atleast. But if you do not speak then it will also have -ve impression. Effective listening and mental focus gererates thoughts process. And this thoght process is also important to communicate effectively. If you speak with clear thought then communication will be very effective.
Articulating, your thought's clearly and organising them, I think is one of the way's of effective communication skill's, it also will help keep calm.
I'm sorry, but a lot of people are in their own little world. I hate saying this, but people are so dumb!
And I thought as we get older, our communication skills improve. I was wrong. Other people just wind me up, they seldom make an effort to listen, they forget things, and they do stupid things. At least when I make a jerk out of myself, I apologise. People are so childish and self centered now. Man, people wind me up. Even people like the police need proper listening skills
@pluto4847 yes I totally agree with you, listening is an art, I did counselling training, even people like doctor's, and nurse's it suprises me, how poor listener's they can be, rather than actually listen, they seem to assume they know the point, there's a difference between hearing and listening. Also body language can show your listening, and improve communication, so someone can feel "heard".
@MrMatthew554 I tried lecturing police officers, doctors, and even a politician or two, but all I could see was: 1) They were looking at their watch; 2) Checking their cell phone; or 3) even worse looking at the floor.
Its like, 'Hello, can you hear what I am saying? ' Than I have to raise my tone like, 'HELLO CAN YOU HEAR ME?' And than when I get their attention they say, 'Hey don't you yell at me dude. ' In response I say, 'I'm not yelling. I'm raising my voice so you'll hear me.'
Many years back a power line was down so I told a police officer, "Its unsafe. Please do not go down there! Lets get the situation assessed first.' A
And what does he do, 'He completely ignores me and goes down there.' When he comes back he's cussing and swearing at me, but I remind him, I never told him to go down there.
Its complete ignorance of these people who don't have the common decency to listen.
Indeed listening is an art. Body language can show you are listening and and communicating properly.
One thing I try to do to demonstrate that I am listening is that when they are discussing things with me, I try to paraphrase the major points of the discussion. Not like a parrot--repeating word for word, but just the major points. People really appreciate this. I also like to to acknowledge their name like, 'Sam, I know exactly what you are saying.'
some great inforamtion here thanks
chrispikeyp 1 month ago
i enjoyed this vid
shoppittsburghnow 1 month ago
Omg this is so right. There have been times where the words just flow natrually and fluidly. The times where I cant focus my communication is when i'm wondering whats the person thinking about what im saying and trying to force the reaction I want that person to have with what im saying.
ironlunatic1 2 months ago
Great points. I have been blamed for forgetting what I have said in a letter because the other person is totally stressing me out by their agressive delivery. I think taking a deep breathe can help and avoiding sugar which causes hyper activity.
Gauraonline 4 months ago
good
asprin187 6 months ago
Well intentioned, and impractrical. Most people will be unable to follow this suggestion because they don't know they're controlled by a "false self." To free your true Self (who doesn't worry unduly about what others think), see "Lesson 1" in "gercacn"s YouTube Channel or view sfhelp.org/gwc/guide1.htm
gercacn 6 months ago
Ilike what was said,dont worry a bout what people,will think of you be confident and take control
esteward29 6 months ago
what if you dont have a message?
paenitet7nullum 11 months ago
yea easy then done
ItsFreddyFred 1 year ago
Keep it up. Its very important to have a good communication!
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Thanks! This short video did more for me than the 5 minute videos!
MissKatRob 1 year ago
These people in my class allwyas seem to laugh at eveyrthing i say and exchange glances with each other..........these questions now pop in my head ''is it my voice?'' ''was that the wrong answer'' ''maybe i should just stop taking''.........
hate these people because i have now lost my confidence in speaking.....its messed.
PurlyDiluted 1 year ago
@PurlyDiluted maybe u talk when you shouldnt, i know ppl who do that all the time. and ppl laugh at them. idunno vman
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Great tip... Even Accepting people even if they act wierd is a really a big endeavour. I have started accepting & acknowledging people. 'Espoir Smart English through Management Ideas' has given me a lot of tips to become sociable & I have started looking at human race as easy to impress.
Knowing yourselves & understanding what others expect can be a good starting point. As Stephen R. Covey says "Start with the End in Mind". Have a reason for the interaction is very important.
ProfessorYasin 1 year ago
Great tip... Even Accepting people even if they act wierd is a really a big endeavour. I have started accepting & acknowledging people. 'Espoir Smart English through Management Ideas' has given me a lot of tips to become sociable & I have started looking at human race as easy to impress.
Knowing yourselves & understanding what others expect can be a good starting point. As Stephen R. Covey says "Start with the End in Mind". Have a reason for the interaction is very important.
ProfessorYasin 1 year ago
in other words, fuck emotions. slaughter emos. YAY!
a11gregjockca 1 year ago 2
I agree. Many times we think about what will people think if i speak. If you speak they will recognize you atleast. But if you do not speak then it will also have -ve impression. Effective listening and mental focus gererates thoughts process. And this thoght process is also important to communicate effectively. If you speak with clear thought then communication will be very effective.
funfaroo 1 year ago
Articulating, your thought's clearly and organising them, I think is one of the way's of effective communication skill's, it also will help keep calm.
MrMatthew554 1 year ago
@MrMatthew554
I'm sorry, but a lot of people are in their own little world. I hate saying this, but people are so dumb!
And I thought as we get older, our communication skills improve. I was wrong. Other people just wind me up, they seldom make an effort to listen, they forget things, and they do stupid things. At least when I make a jerk out of myself, I apologise. People are so childish and self centered now. Man, people wind me up. Even people like the police need proper listening skills
pluto4847 1 year ago
@pluto4847 yes I totally agree with you, listening is an art, I did counselling training, even people like doctor's, and nurse's it suprises me, how poor listener's they can be, rather than actually listen, they seem to assume they know the point, there's a difference between hearing and listening. Also body language can show your listening, and improve communication, so someone can feel "heard".
MrMatthew554 1 year ago
@MrMatthew554 I tried lecturing police officers, doctors, and even a politician or two, but all I could see was: 1) They were looking at their watch; 2) Checking their cell phone; or 3) even worse looking at the floor.
Its like, 'Hello, can you hear what I am saying? ' Than I have to raise my tone like, 'HELLO CAN YOU HEAR ME?' And than when I get their attention they say, 'Hey don't you yell at me dude. ' In response I say, 'I'm not yelling. I'm raising my voice so you'll hear me.'
pluto4847 1 year ago
@MrMatthew554
Many years back a power line was down so I told a police officer, "Its unsafe. Please do not go down there! Lets get the situation assessed first.' A
And what does he do, 'He completely ignores me and goes down there.' When he comes back he's cussing and swearing at me, but I remind him, I never told him to go down there.
Its complete ignorance of these people who don't have the common decency to listen.
pluto4847 1 year ago
@MrMatthew554
Indeed listening is an art. Body language can show you are listening and and communicating properly.
One thing I try to do to demonstrate that I am listening is that when they are discussing things with me, I try to paraphrase the major points of the discussion. Not like a parrot--repeating word for word, but just the major points. People really appreciate this. I also like to to acknowledge their name like, 'Sam, I know exactly what you are saying.'
pluto4847 1 year ago
Talk straight Good tip
matrixdogg 2 years ago
it is ok. some time we get stuck, then what gonna do
helloswash 2 years ago
good
MewBaura 3 years ago
thank you, i will try
justzforever 3 years ago
this is very good stuff... and very true.. "focus on the message and not the emotion"
blindsurgeonc 3 years ago
Very true
nabz11 3 years ago