I could never quit by reduction or near complete snuffing.. It took a girl saying that "we" were quitting...It worked. 30 Camel straights a day, following 10 yrs of smoking, and that same rate for the final 2 yrs, cut straight to zero. hard stop. Tried a cig 3-4months later [gf out of town] but it did noting for me and was annoying.. More than 20 yrs go by and still quit.. Best of luck..
If it is not full stop then you give yourself the excuse that you really haven't quit, justifying restarts.
I had to give up booze and grass to quit smoking because a drinks to wet without a cigarette and smoking weed was hypocritical and become a complete fitness freak for over a year, but it was worth it, i beat it, i got fit and in shape which was nice and now i feel better and can drink and smoke weed without craving nasty nicotine. Never feel bad for a lapse they will happen just get up the next day and don't smoke.
Oh, an idea just came to me. You can slap yourself REALLY hard on your face, in front of the camera, for all of us to see, for every cigarette you slip on. :D haha! Now, don't hold back on the slap... really give it to yourself, just as that smoke is giving it to your lungs. ;p
I'm on day 10 of quit number 15, 16, 17?? in 32 years. Longest I've gone was four years but I never quit quitting. One of these times it will take for good. I used the disposable e-cig the first four days but nothing since. Getting a horrible cold has helped. lol
After I quit (cold turkey) I had some cigarettes here and there, sometimes with my friends, sometimes on my own. Its not easy at all. The desire in your mind to have a cigarette periodically might never go away, but your willingness to actually do it will.
yeah when you actually get done smoking you'll still occasionally want one with a beer but you'll not want to finish it when you get a mouth full of smoke. because it's rude to bum one and take one drag and put it out I kept a pack that I only took to the bar urge to smoke vanished but that whole friendly being able to bum someone else a smoke thing still kinda fun.
I think you are doing amazing, Hairy! Amazing! And this is all about YOU.....its good to focus on yourself and to hell with what anyone else says or thinks. NO GUILT! What you are dealing with and going thru is addiction and withdrawal.....be kind to yourself. We are our own worst critics. Nicotine reaches the brain in 6 seconds, and in high doses causes depression. Already, with not smoking as much, you are on the road to recovery, and its ok if you take a few steps back here and there. xoxox
Wait till your lungs get cleared up and the boost in energy you will have, the smell in your stuff will go away, Dave will be happy as well. Stick to it and you will be so happy and proud of your accomplishment. Fuck the lawyers and the ex. Call your daughter and talk to her for support.
you shouldn't have any feelings of guilt, shame and self-loathing - you smoked 2 cigs in 2 days. You're winning - take each day as it comes, just keep the chin up this is a process
They say it takes 3 days for the nicotine to fully leave your system and thus end the cravings. You absolutely MUST quit cold turkey and survive those 3 days to truly quit. Patches or gum just perpetuate the addiction to nicotine, and continue the cravings... in which case you're merely substituting one addiction for another.
Wait until you have 3 days to yourself, stock up on food, and go 3 days without leaving the house.
Quitting smoking was one of the hardest things I have ever managed to accomplish. I haven't had a cigarette since I quit cold turkey in December of 1999, but I have had dreams about smoking so vivid that I woke up feeling a guilty mess! It's hard because it's legal, and even socially acceptable to smoke i some circles (although less so these days than in past years.) After decades of quitting and re-starting, the thing that finally made me quit for good was the ever increasing price.
As I said, I don't smoke, but I'm quitting my nail-biting habit. When I had a slip I felt no guilt, cause I knew that those things happen when you try to end a bad habit. I'm just happy that I'm finally managing to make a positive change. And that's what you have to keep in mind - you are actually in the process of quitting smoking! And a few slips are a natural part of that.
I'd say don't beat yourself up but in this situation guilt is much more helpful than forgiveness. I see the pub is your trigger as well, unfortunately i don't think there's a way to have both the pub and non-smoking. You might be able the integrate them successfully at some point but I sincerely recommend you take a long break from the pub for now. Remember even one cigarette resets the timer in your brain and just delays that point at which you don't think about smoking.
When people offer or ask if I drink or smoke, I say "No". What puzzles me is that the next thing they often say is either something about how they wish they could stop or a bad aspect of their habit.
Perhaps you can give an insight into these common responses.
7 years ago I went cold turkey after 20 years and it was tough but stick with it, the first couple of weeks are the worst, but it does get better, the cravings will eventually ease till you no longer notice them, but beware, in your quiet moments the tiny voice of nicotine will call to you.
In social situations don't say "no thx i'm trying to give up" say "no thx i don't smoke" and act like you never smoked ever, train yourself off them.
Just don't go from 20 cigs a day to 20 meals a day
Harry it's not us that you are betraying. Naturally we all want you to win and will feel disappointed if you don't win this fight. But we are not directly affected. As i told you in my own story my fingers were perpetually orange from the nicotine from smoking 2 packs of Pall Mall a day. So I know how hard it is to quit. Throw away the ashtrays (yes even the expensive ones) lighter and all smoking paraphernalia you have in your house. Seeing these objects are triggers.
Don't be tough on yourself if you have a smoke occasionally... Just resolve to keep off them as much as you can and move on. It's not just the nicotine, it's oral gratification, something to do with your hands... It's like an old friend you are leaving behind.
Hey Hairy, here's something that worked for me: I put a rubber band around my wrist, and every time I thought about smoking, I would snap my wrist with the rubber band. Skinner's Reinforcement theory really does work. After awhile, every time I thought about smoking, I would mildly associate it with the pain I received from snapping the rubber band on my wrist. That and exercising were the two things that helped me get through the pains of quitting. 5 years as a nonsmoker now. Go for a jog!
Hairy, ex smoker here for over 6 years and I got to say it is still difficult to have a few drinks and not want to smoke. They go hand and hand and it never gets easier especially after a few pints. Use this experience to strengthen your resolve to continue quitting. Use the negative experience as fuel for will power if necessary. Good luck with it.
Harry this was your "one" shot a quitting. Like most smokers you probably won't try it again. You smoke because you're a loser. Losers don't learn, or try to improve themselves, or try to quit again when they fail. I'm an x-loser too. You'll possibly try quitting one more time. When you fail again, you'll forget about it. This is the realm of the loser.
Another person I'm subscribed to stopped smoking at end of last yr & vlogged about it. He's the dude of TheJapanChannel. Mb u can get something out of him explaining his experience & the reasoning that got him through it: watch?v=XVx7ifflT4M (there's a playlist).
My dad was a heavy smoker. His health suffered from it until he decided 2 stop. He'd distract himself by eating a carrot whenever he'd have a craving.
Always sad to see people I like ruin their health with drugs such as smoking.
None of us can know exactly what you are going through, we can just try to support you in any way we can. Feel what you have to, Hairy. Do what you have to, Hairy. If you lapse, it only proves you are human. What a wonderful gift to give your children, a non smoking parent.( By the way, when I went through the breakup with my ex, I was lucky I didn't start smoking CRACK. So give yourself a break.) Just sayin. Peace.
I could never quit by reduction or near complete snuffing.. It took a girl saying that "we" were quitting...It worked. 30 Camel straights a day, following 10 yrs of smoking, and that same rate for the final 2 yrs, cut straight to zero. hard stop. Tried a cig 3-4months later [gf out of town] but it did noting for me and was annoying.. More than 20 yrs go by and still quit.. Best of luck..
If it is not full stop then you give yourself the excuse that you really haven't quit, justifying restarts.
AtheistCitizen 5 months ago
My mom makes a delicous dish with corned beef. It´s called "Labskaus", looks really nasty, but tastes fine.
kirafan68 5 months ago
I had to give up booze and grass to quit smoking because a drinks to wet without a cigarette and smoking weed was hypocritical and become a complete fitness freak for over a year, but it was worth it, i beat it, i got fit and in shape which was nice and now i feel better and can drink and smoke weed without craving nasty nicotine. Never feel bad for a lapse they will happen just get up the next day and don't smoke.
1empathy 5 months ago
Oh, an idea just came to me. You can slap yourself REALLY hard on your face, in front of the camera, for all of us to see, for every cigarette you slip on. :D haha! Now, don't hold back on the slap... really give it to yourself, just as that smoke is giving it to your lungs. ;p
Oh, I've never smoke before.
huyked 5 months ago
I'm SOOOO ashamed of you! ;D j/k
Nah, don't worry about it. Just make the smoking derailment a non-habit, and more and more days in between.
Ah, I like what debbieomi says, "Just don't quit quitting!"
huyked 5 months ago
Just don't quit quitting!
I'm on day 10 of quit number 15, 16, 17?? in 32 years. Longest I've gone was four years but I never quit quitting. One of these times it will take for good. I used the disposable e-cig the first four days but nothing since. Getting a horrible cold has helped. lol
debbieomi 5 months ago
After I quit (cold turkey) I had some cigarettes here and there, sometimes with my friends, sometimes on my own. Its not easy at all. The desire in your mind to have a cigarette periodically might never go away, but your willingness to actually do it will.
mconn2112 5 months ago
yeah when you actually get done smoking you'll still occasionally want one with a beer but you'll not want to finish it when you get a mouth full of smoke. because it's rude to bum one and take one drag and put it out I kept a pack that I only took to the bar urge to smoke vanished but that whole friendly being able to bum someone else a smoke thing still kinda fun.
ratholin 5 months ago
I think you are doing amazing, Hairy! Amazing! And this is all about YOU.....its good to focus on yourself and to hell with what anyone else says or thinks. NO GUILT! What you are dealing with and going thru is addiction and withdrawal.....be kind to yourself. We are our own worst critics. Nicotine reaches the brain in 6 seconds, and in high doses causes depression. Already, with not smoking as much, you are on the road to recovery, and its ok if you take a few steps back here and there. xoxox
jakluk4 5 months ago
Wait till your lungs get cleared up and the boost in energy you will have, the smell in your stuff will go away, Dave will be happy as well. Stick to it and you will be so happy and proud of your accomplishment. Fuck the lawyers and the ex. Call your daughter and talk to her for support.
saxmanchiro 5 months ago
you shouldn't have any feelings of guilt, shame and self-loathing - you smoked 2 cigs in 2 days. You're winning - take each day as it comes, just keep the chin up this is a process
theaxster 5 months ago
They say it takes 3 days for the nicotine to fully leave your system and thus end the cravings. You absolutely MUST quit cold turkey and survive those 3 days to truly quit. Patches or gum just perpetuate the addiction to nicotine, and continue the cravings... in which case you're merely substituting one addiction for another.
Wait until you have 3 days to yourself, stock up on food, and go 3 days without leaving the house.
eagleeye1975 5 months ago
Quitting smoking was one of the hardest things I have ever managed to accomplish. I haven't had a cigarette since I quit cold turkey in December of 1999, but I have had dreams about smoking so vivid that I woke up feeling a guilty mess! It's hard because it's legal, and even socially acceptable to smoke i some circles (although less so these days than in past years.) After decades of quitting and re-starting, the thing that finally made me quit for good was the ever increasing price.
wavymavy 5 months ago
As I said, I don't smoke, but I'm quitting my nail-biting habit. When I had a slip I felt no guilt, cause I knew that those things happen when you try to end a bad habit. I'm just happy that I'm finally managing to make a positive change. And that's what you have to keep in mind - you are actually in the process of quitting smoking! And a few slips are a natural part of that.
ThSkBj 5 months ago
Dont get hung up on the slips, just start again and try to fight the urge again and againand agian.good luck.
trendy09 5 months ago
I'd say don't beat yourself up but in this situation guilt is much more helpful than forgiveness. I see the pub is your trigger as well, unfortunately i don't think there's a way to have both the pub and non-smoking. You might be able the integrate them successfully at some point but I sincerely recommend you take a long break from the pub for now. Remember even one cigarette resets the timer in your brain and just delays that point at which you don't think about smoking.
WilliamPbrane 5 months ago
After your example, I'm gearing myself up to stop smoking from tomorrow night. I'm going to make sure I have no money available to buy tobacco.
yellowlabrador 5 months ago
1 and a 1/2 is nothing. keep up the good work. i'm proud of you. i have a feeling you will stop. good going man.
peace.
lardo444 5 months ago
When people offer or ask if I drink or smoke, I say "No". What puzzles me is that the next thing they often say is either something about how they wish they could stop or a bad aspect of their habit.
Perhaps you can give an insight into these common responses.
SpookyFan 5 months ago
7 years ago I went cold turkey after 20 years and it was tough but stick with it, the first couple of weeks are the worst, but it does get better, the cravings will eventually ease till you no longer notice them, but beware, in your quiet moments the tiny voice of nicotine will call to you.
In social situations don't say "no thx i'm trying to give up" say "no thx i don't smoke" and act like you never smoked ever, train yourself off them.
Just don't go from 20 cigs a day to 20 meals a day
mark9165 5 months ago
Harry it's not us that you are betraying. Naturally we all want you to win and will feel disappointed if you don't win this fight. But we are not directly affected. As i told you in my own story my fingers were perpetually orange from the nicotine from smoking 2 packs of Pall Mall a day. So I know how hard it is to quit. Throw away the ashtrays (yes even the expensive ones) lighter and all smoking paraphernalia you have in your house. Seeing these objects are triggers.
KasparHauser6 5 months ago
Don't be tough on yourself if you have a smoke occasionally... Just resolve to keep off them as much as you can and move on. It's not just the nicotine, it's oral gratification, something to do with your hands... It's like an old friend you are leaving behind.
AuntieDiluvian 5 months ago
Ps. We all stumble here & there when trying to change our ways - i'm sure you'll get there & don't beat yourself up too much.
xtro1969 5 months ago
ooh corned beef butties with a bit of onion nom nom nom
xtro1969 5 months ago
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spotmoker 5 months ago
Hey Hairy, here's something that worked for me: I put a rubber band around my wrist, and every time I thought about smoking, I would snap my wrist with the rubber band. Skinner's Reinforcement theory really does work. After awhile, every time I thought about smoking, I would mildly associate it with the pain I received from snapping the rubber band on my wrist. That and exercising were the two things that helped me get through the pains of quitting. 5 years as a nonsmoker now. Go for a jog!
spotmoker 5 months ago
Hairy, ex smoker here for over 6 years and I got to say it is still difficult to have a few drinks and not want to smoke. They go hand and hand and it never gets easier especially after a few pints. Use this experience to strengthen your resolve to continue quitting. Use the negative experience as fuel for will power if necessary. Good luck with it.
Relativisticism 5 months ago
Harry this was your "one" shot a quitting. Like most smokers you probably won't try it again. You smoke because you're a loser. Losers don't learn, or try to improve themselves, or try to quit again when they fail. I'm an x-loser too. You'll possibly try quitting one more time. When you fail again, you'll forget about it. This is the realm of the loser.
bigboy45454545 5 months ago
I hope you'll pull through. Think of the benefits. Good luck!
playgrrrr 5 months ago
Another person I'm subscribed to stopped smoking at end of last yr & vlogged about it. He's the dude of TheJapanChannel. Mb u can get something out of him explaining his experience & the reasoning that got him through it: watch?v=XVx7ifflT4M (there's a playlist).
My dad was a heavy smoker. His health suffered from it until he decided 2 stop. He'd distract himself by eating a carrot whenever he'd have a craving.
Always sad to see people I like ruin their health with drugs such as smoking.
playgrrrr 5 months ago
None of us can know exactly what you are going through, we can just try to support you in any way we can. Feel what you have to, Hairy. Do what you have to, Hairy. If you lapse, it only proves you are human. What a wonderful gift to give your children, a non smoking parent.( By the way, when I went through the breakup with my ex, I was lucky I didn't start smoking CRACK. So give yourself a break.) Just sayin. Peace.
TheAmishking 5 months ago
I don't know how I missed the first video, but I wish you all the best in your efforts.
JoesephKatana 5 months ago
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Yourjonnyonthespot 5 months ago
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Yourjonnyonthespot 5 months ago
If you're at all prone to depression plan to deal with that.
deepashtray 5 months ago
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Yourjonnyonthespot 5 months ago
Dude, The fact that you have decided to work towards the goal of stopping your addiction will pay off.
Do not give up trying and don't kick yourself.
What you are actually observing here, in first person, is the overpowering addictive quality of this particular drug.
You can quit, it is punctuated with failures at times, and guilt is not your friend now.
Just resolve to quit.
bobster451 5 months ago