The effects of verbal abuse on society and everyday people

[alohasarahgirl]

I am so sorry for your suffering. Please try to find a few books on verbal abuse (abusers included). You just need love. This is one of the most detrimental forms of abuse and leaves the victim with little hope. You end up lashing out like your abusers. Don't do this, you have so much worth. They are harmful because our society is trained on fear and encourages narcissistic behaviors. The bullies who continued to threaten you here are harmful people. turn away. I promise you you are loved.

[mgmor7]

great video man, btw people in canada are usually nicer, and i hate saying this but u gotta stand up for yourself, even if u feel like an idiot for standing up to people, it's a lot better than not doing it, also confront them one on one not when there in a group

[nightcrawler511]

i hate it, im going into senior year im so fucking glad,idontcare if i see anyone from highschool ever again! i would go home and cry because of the things they said.i cried in class a few time but hid it.all because i love the beatles everyone made fun of me.it sucks! i still look forward to my future as in college etc. but now im stuck in this spiral depression becuz of school.i know im not the only beatle fan being picked on but it just sucks music use to be my escape until highschool:'(

[nightcrawler511]

@nightcrawler511 and even thought its summer im still depressed, because next month it'll start all over agin but i will be quiet i wont even socialize, i'll try to make everyone

[978Account]

Why do you tell us? We can't do anything about it, and almost everyone has been bullied once in his or her life. So you don't have to explain the effects to us.

[alohasarahgirl]

@978Account Use your brain and look it up, because this causes suicides and homicides. If you bully, you are accountable. Most of society cares. If you don't, then you shouldn't be here. There are shallow videos to watch. This video took immense courage, I am sorry you can not see that. Open your heart and your eyes or go live with wild badgers. We are human beings, capable of compassion and empathy. You are not utilizing your capabilities if you can not have understanding and GIVE support..

[ShadowZz123]

You should be great full, I mean, sure, your life "sucks" but it really doesn't.. I mean, Your mother and father raised you well, Some people don't EVEN have a mother or father, or Never seen them in their lives, You should be happy about your life, and don't be TOO Greedy with other people. you're life is fine.

[alohasarahgirl]

@ShadowZz123 Our suffering is valid, even when it may be less than others. Weakness is to ignore suffering, strength is to acknowledge and opens the doors to change. There is plenty of room to love all wounds.

[Bellain2ition]

The reason why I'm still alive is because I don't want to hurt the ones that I love. 

[bladerang12345]

ahh....zee strong silent type....good work..better than braggers and bullies..!

[FromBoomTown]

Yeah, I know what you mean. My dad was verbally abusive throughout my teen years. Sucks ass. By the end of it, there's nothing left but a hollow shell on the outside. Sucks to see people having a great life and wonder why they had it so good and you didn't.

[Blade666324]

Dude we are alot friendlier than the people you have been around If you do move to canada keep in touch with me I know how you feel I've been through the same stuff and it sucks it really dose these ignorant people can't relate to what we have been through and they never will it seems that most of these people were the bullies instead of the victims. if you ever need someone to talk to just pm me.

[DarkUnity1]

Also if u ever need any1 to talk to ill be willing to talk :) and im sure all ur other fans would love to talk to u 2 and help u or anything u need, so please dont end ur life ur like my idol. so please dont end ur life.

[MrLOL9999]

Donkers. listen. i know how it feels not to feel anything when you smile or hug someone. but you're moving to canada. this is your chance to start over again and make friends. dont give up.

[sephiroththeshadow]

dont you dare kill yourself then I would quit everything important to me that is a form of torment your giving by saying your end is near

[deztroyerz4152243]

wowwhywhereyousomean:o?

[qazuar]

The hugging and smiling thing just caught my attention. I don't feel anything either. I wish i did, but it just doesn't make any sense to me.

[maxzor1]

be it verbal or any type of abuse but you just have to stand up for yourself i had the same problem and those people started what they couldnt finish not that im saying go fuck them up but when you back them up into a corner knowing that they are saying shit that they cant back up especialy when they are not with their friends then they are just little scared cowards

[DragonKing450]

bottom line is: don't bully or abuse you noob son of a bitch bully =)

[subfoxus]

maybe you can keep the personal shit to yourself. yes that would save me 6 minutes of my time listening to some idiot who believes in suicide. dick.

[donkerskaduwee]

@subfoxus,thank you for your thoughtful comment.I didn't make this video for YOU.I made it to explain my position in the world to the people around me asking me questions.Also to help people like myself,humans like to know that they're not alone,that's the way we are.

In a short while i won't bother you with any videos anymore,don't you worry.

[calladus123]

@donkerskaduwee o.o please dont tell me that your quiting D: PLEASE DONT!!!!1

[alohasarahgirl]

@donkerskaduwee These guys are rejecting the things they see in you that they can not accept in themselves. They are terrified to be authentic and admit they too are suceptible/human. Your video is very educated about verbal abuse. It is needed. You are needed. We need people like you, as you understand how important evolution beyond hate is. I could probably whoop both their asses, but I choose to be kind instead, you have to chose. Hate or love. They will drive u to hate. If not them, yourself

[redblitz99]

@subfoxus You are a perfect example of what he is talking about. Someone so undereducated about the facts in life lashing out on a person trying to bring light to your poor little self. Then when you don't understand the meaning of this video you verbally abuse. You has just commited the same act he was talking about. Honestly idk how donkers takes that... from what i get from the video he has already reached his boiling point and is ready to end this unbearbly life of verbal abuse.youhavenosoul

[DarkUnity1]

@subfoxus thts the kind of verbal abuse he was talking about tht comment was not called for, and if u thought it was a waste of time why'd u click it??? i mean it states wut its about in the title he should also allowed to express himself without ppl like u talking down to him.........

[leathalassassin]

@subfoxus he is talking about peole like you. If you dont like this then fair enoguh but keep your opinions to yourself

[AQgod812]

@subfoxus i wasted a seconds of my life reading your dumb comment

[mrsgreenthumb100]

@subfoxus Maybe a little compassion in your world would go a long way. Verbal abuse is more destructive than physical abuse and it never leaves you. Anger is one ugly emotion when people express it abusively and a lot of good points were made. It's harder to escape when you live with it in your family and it's to experience it as a child from other kids pretty much sucks. Again, it never leaves you but you can go beyond it. Donkersaduwee, don't give up it gets better...don't give up!

[mrsgreenthumb100]

@subfoxus Maybe a little compassion in your world would go a long way. Verbal abuse is more destructive than physical abuse and it never leaves you. Anger is one ugly emotion when people express it abusively and a lot of good points were made. It's harder to escape when you live with it in your family and to experience it as a child from other kids pretty much sucks. Again, it never leaves you but you can go beyond it. Donkersaduwee, don't give up it gets better...don't give up!

[alohasarahgirl]

@subfoxus What makes you lash out at someone who is suffering? Can you not except your own vulnerability? Will you not be good enough or loved if you are kind? Are you yourself abused? He did not waste our time, I appreciated this and the anger is understandable. You are not the center of the universe. We all have a right to enjoy this person. If you do not like them, keep your personal shit to yourself and stop wasting our time on this beautiful earth with your hate. Fair enough?

[SamIsATotalBeast]

... Why is it that like half of the people who watch adventurequest videos are bullied?

[shadowofvvk]

@SamIsATotalBeast

i'm pretty sure almost everyone who posted that they are bullied aren't...

[neruzindit]

@dontkerskaduwee i understand what u going through i am going through it too.Many times i feel like killing them but thankfully i am able to suppress that impulse to kill.I am also glad that retribution exists as strangely every time the bullies bully me they are deathly ill during the holidays.Just ignore them and continue with life.

[Louis43thebeastmast]

dude im sorry but i just belive its both was the person doing the wrong is bad but if the person that is abused does nothing... they can take the abuse for awhile but when they crack(and they will) they will wonder why this happened, why they are so sad and mad, things just do what you do best you know, you can play guitar play it, you can make friends with other muscisiens , you swim? train, go in a team, make friends, if you done you will just stand the abuse and crack after months, or years..

[Vaettir77]

If you have already endured so much, you are very strong in my opinion and I can see you pushing through your situation. In the end, those who can cope and adapt with what they are going through are winners; they are far above others. :)

[undeadpunk97]

pls don't suicide....just try to ignore them....i was verbal abused by my teacher last year....when i was 12....but i just except the fact and change my self...as soon a i reached my secondary school i was sooo happy that i need not to see her anymore.....but now things change for me.....anything happen you can rely on your fans...we will think of sumthing to solve your problems...promise me you wont suicide...i want you to promise us....we will always be there for you when you are down....; )

[undeadpunk97]

there will be no peace untill all the people die in this world or at least we will try to cange all the people...

[undeadpunk97]

i know what you mean.....i was 13 still am....my friends call me a devil and i was so mad at him....so if he called me a devil...i show him one...it was deep in my heart i showed my trueself.....i beat him up like there is no tomorrow......i juct cant take it when people call me a devil or say bad words abt my family....i got 4 stroks of caning in school because of him...btw he is really asking for it....i told my principal everything and she didnt belive me....because the boy was in wheelchair

[80MaxWell08]

I wish I could convince you not to do this. I wish I knew the words to convince you there is still something worth living for. If I did though then I would probably try telling them to myself first. I know the pain of being an emotionless shell but I've almost always known that.I tried suicide a few times but was always too cowardly to go through with it. All I can offer you now is my own friendship if you desire it. It is ultimately your decision but know that I will be here for you if needed.

[SamIsATotalBeast]

Heres somthing for everyone to think about... If the obscene things that people that are bullied in school are justified then what about the people abused at home. These people could become bullies at school yet their actions arent "justified"

[EpigDuelVids]

@SamIsATotalBeast HA! There's a stereotype for ya. Most bullies aren't actually abused at home. I've encountered numerous amounts of rich white bullies whose parents love them to tears, and they think it's "funny" to pick on kids who are different from them, and whose parents encourage (directly or indirect) them to do it. That whole "the bullies have abusive parents thing" is a load of BS in my opinion.

[EpigDuelVids]

I disagree with all these people saying that you can just "get over it". If people keep pushing and pushing someone to the edge of a cliff, and then that "someone" decides to jump, whose fault is it, really? It's the people who pushed him to the edge of the cliff. The can't take back what they did. Neither can the 'someone' who jumped. I love you Donkers, and I want you to stay with us, but if you feel like taking your life is the only way to overcome the constant torment in your life, tha

[EpigDuelVids]

@EpigDuelVids n I wouldn't blame you for attempting or actually taking your own life, or even taking the lives of those wh ohave made your life a living hell for the past 19 years. Watching your video made me realize something. My situation is exactly the same as yours, with the exception that I am younger. That is all.

[SamIsATotalBeast]

@EpigDuelVids As long as you have a few friends, bullying shouldn't affect your life to severely as friends can help bring you through anything.

[pikanite]

I have supported you, I put belief in you. Don't ruin your life from words, I understand it's hard as I am.. bullied to.. I'm still in school but because of my appearance mostly and how I am so.. different. I'm bullied.

Things will get better.. believe in that.. Keep on going till the end when you are meant to die and rest in peace.

Do it for your fans those you have given such joy to.. me being included.

Think. Listen. Don't let the bullies win.

[azazazaz878]

hmmm. i understand that your being bullied or harrased,but dude. cmon. i completely understand that "your lifre sucks" or stuff like that. but it reay doesnt. ya know what. just make new friends and stick up for yourself when people put you down. you cant keep going through life ike this. if you do something like pushing them or telling them to stfu, im sure they will stop. the longer you let this continue the worse it will become. wehn you go out, make new friends and dont be shy. dont give up.

[donkerskaduwee]

@azazazaz878,my parents want to move to canada,if the people here reject me then i will probably jump in front of a car.That's if i don't do it before we get there.

[azazazaz878]

@donkerskaduwee stay strong donkers. even if you sto making videos just keep your head held high and kee moving. youll get there.

[xXxTai280xXx]

Just look foward into the future and don't give up on life just because your high school year sucked but you have a chance to make your colledge year a blast. That's all I want to say to you and lastly, I've learned many lessons from you like "Love to be loved and love to hated". Sorry for my long messages but i wanted to share my personal experience. Stay strong man =/.

[SamIsATotalBeast]

@xXxTai280xXx Dude... I know wishing some imaginary being is going to make people you don't like lives suck after they die and yours great is probably a good coping mechanism for you, but you should really try and face reality. You'll be better for it.

[ShadowxRunnerx]

Ok. Well I don't suffer from mental instability nor being bullied in highschool, however hear me out on my perspective. \ It is important not to take to heart many abusive words that are said to you by a bully. Verbal bullies are often insecure themselves, but instead of turning inward ( being shy ) they turn their instability towards others, or perhaps they bully to fit in with their friends. Either way, it is not justified. BUT YOU MUST NOT TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY!

[benCANNIBAL]

Heya Stephan, you've hit a lot of key factors in this video, and I'm going to shed some light on some of your problems.

Regardless of how popular and respected someone in high school was for being a bully, and being socially accepted does not reflect how well they'll do later in life, you're right with their attitudes they are favoured, but too many times you see people in their 30's who acted like this and end up in prison, on drugs, alcoholics or dead. Another reason people commit these acts

[benCANNIBAL]

@benCANNIBAL Is that they themselves have their own insecurities, they may have a bad life at home and a dwindling future for themselves so seek to make others miserable. You've had a bad start, I know but college is different, you meet people with similar likes and dislikes as you, you have a chance to make first impressions on people. Don't let it go to waste, you know there's always religon, and the early years of your life are what define you, but not what set you in stone, happy holidays

[owensamrob]

So are you saying you want to take your own life? Im sure all of us have been the victims of verbal abuse. I certainly was, I used to be the most confident guy you could meet, I could sing dance act ect in front of people. Then I moved schools where I seemed different because of my accent and confidence. I got ripped on a daily basis and to be honest im still recovering from that today, 7 years later.

[Kinginkognito]

... this may help you in your life and i wish u good luck and enough physical and mental power to even go through the hardest times.

~kinginkognito

[Kinginkognito]

donkers, i was a victim of bullying in my previous school.

they beat me till i almost collapsed, they threw me out of the window, they smashed doors into my face, the even almost killed me once.

i want to be honest, i had very crazy thinkings during that time and ive almost given up in the end.

but things have changed, i changed school, started from 0 and created a new image of myself. the time ive gone through changed my life and now im having many friends and a quite nice life.

i hope that...

[Life4Bl00d]

Verbal abuse is hurting , i once wanted to die but my fren helped me get back on my feet

[dannystoll84]

Verbal abuse is a cruel and terrible thing, but there will always be bullies. We can only hope the amount and severity of verbal abuse will go down some day.

[dannystoll84]

Think about people like Einstein or Bill Gates. I don't know for sure, but it's hard to imagine they didn't suffer from verbal abuse. Yes, they were hurt by it, and yes, it scarred them, but they were able to turn the other way and they went on to change the world. That's why I suggest you do so too. Avoid those who try to bring you down. Stay a member of groups that support you (like this one).

[donkerskaduwee]

@dannystoll84,appreciate the support.But you see,like i mentioned,this isn't a matter of just enduring.Some don't have the mental strength to endure these people.I never did and now look at me.Some people are destructive by nature,they live to inflict pain,but never ever count on it returning,until it does then they cannot understand how it happened,that's if their alive after it.

[dannystoll84]

@donkerskaduwee I'm probably not smart enough to be able to help much, but just know that there are people who look up to you, and that you should look up to yourself as well.

[dannystoll84]

I completely agree that verbal abuse can be permanently scar someone – I have suffered a good amount myself (I'm a freshman in high school). Still, as much as anyone can say about us, they know nothing about our true selves, about the feelings we have on the inside. Although this means they can hurt you without knowing they had (or at least be able to claim so), it also means they do not know you, and thus their insults mean nothing.

Out of space, will continue in another comment

[hiro857122]

okay dude i know that bad things happened to you but the things that you typed just seemed wrong to me like it didnt make any sense i cant explain it like your mentally stable so why dont you just move one i dont know your logic just seems so wrong to me if you have a strong will then why say "dont now how much i havee left in me. im sorry to have failed you' why not just move on i know that sounds like a no shit kind of thing but what happened in the past is in the past carry on i know your

[AQzElite1]

Also, I know people that can hold in their anger and keep it in. And then you have people like myself. I get so angry at things I go nuts. I bite my hand to calm myself, sometimes I punch brick walls around my house. It's just, people dont understand what verbal abuse/bullying can do to people. Thats why you hear about massacres on the news, because they can't take it anymore.

[NecroCrime]

Whenever a crowd of people come together, they try to get into positions. People try to be the strong ones and to keep this, they have to keep the others weak and show them their place.

This is because we are thought that only the strong and hard working ones will be successful in future.

This is a deep problem of human psycology and not just a "school bully" that needs a lesson.

[donkerskaduwee]

@NecroCrime,that's why i added workplace.This thing is like an epidemic,establishing dominance over others so that they submit to anything you say is sick.Ever notice how these people do what they do in larger groups?Never trying the same trick on a larger group or individual.

Some people are sick,plain and simple.

[NecroCrime]

@donkerskaduwee

WRONG!

People are never sick by themselves. Society makes them this way. Society made you sick just as sick as the one bullying you.

When a Human being is born it is blank as a piece of paper. Parents, teachers, politics and everything else will turn this being into what it is now.

To chance this "bullying" you don't need to just change this persons view but you need to change the whole world.

These People are not the evil ones. It is the society that made them "evil".

[benCANNIBAL]

@NecroCrime See what you're saying Necro is that everyone is Tabla Rasa, a clean slate, which has always been one side of the psychological debate of nature vs nurture, are we born evil or raised?

There are many theoris supporting both, but I know people in the purest of families who have turned evil, and you're right, bullying will never stop, it is a part of human life, it's how people overcome it and challenge it, everyone has something to give even if they don't know it, just need to findit

[NecroCrime]

@benCANNIBAL

I still refuse to give those evil people all fault. They are raised in the illusion that bullying others is "good", otherwise they wouldn't do it. Saying those people are just plain evil is the same as saying that people that massacre are just plain crazy.

You have to find the root of those problems and if we start to talk about it, we could fill books.

[donkerskaduwee]

@NecroCrime,you're right.But there's one thing society can never give to you,you're born with it.The moral compass,every person has that inside of them.Are you telling me that when someone calls someone else a dirty indian or a south african faggot,that they were taught to say that?

People have understanding of this,yet they refuse to admit it.In new zealand i was repeatedly mocked and asked if i have aids since i'm from africa.Was also jokingly asked why i'm not black,daily.

[SamIsATotalBeast]

@donkerskaduwee I bet if you'd shrugged it off they'd have stopped and excepted you. Theres pretty much no bullying at my school because no one pays attention to petty insults and nobody wants to waste there time harrassing someone when they could be chilling with their friends.

[NecroCrime]

@donkerskaduwee

I believe that this moral compass is still thaught, especially if your family is thinking that way. Nonetheless they're assholes but you can't help people that don't want help, or simply don't see the problem, like all racists and fascists.

[depress0r]

Dude, who cares about anybody else? Your potential for life is better than theirs, you CAN do better. You have the intelligence and understanding to do many things. People in my life tell me this, but it's hard to get the message. I don't plan on doing anything with my life because I fear the sense of failure. I have an undeniable sense of fear. You don't need to engage in conversation with people if you know they're only going to wind you up. Sometimes, you just need to stop.

[donkerskaduwee]

@depress0r,what will happen if a generation of silenced and afraid people need to contribute to society?You get bastards that plainly hurt people because they can.This is a huge issue in my life.It's about time people wake up.

When people in colleges and schools go berzerk,everyone wants to say he/she was wacko and then empathize with the morons that caused it.Then they want to cry?Wtf is the matter with the world?

[ultra505]

The world can never change once it has been decided.

[ultra505]

scratched*

[ultra505]

I never stabbed anyone but I did scrated myself.

[AQzElite1]

Your completely right, bullying or putting people down can permanently scar somebody. They don't realise. Sure, it can be a joke, but sometimes jokes can be taken too far. It always happens with me. Catch your mate on his own, his fine. Catch him with another mate, shit happens. They joke and things. But some people don't necessarily 'catch' the joke. That is a thing I hate about bullies, they say it's a 'joke'. And that's where people change. Why can't this fucked up world just be friendly?

[ancienking]

Dude. You look to world from wrong angle. You talk like Chirstian. Thats your problem. Its because all religions talk like people were important. Everybody wants to be inportant. Thats how conflicts starts. That all shit you talk about starts. Thats because people want to be important. They want to be more than game pieces. Trying to change world is stupid, because you would need to delete everything which makes it wroten. Not doing anything is even worse. I know what you mean. I had same thing

[donkerskaduwee]

@ancienking,this is not about being important.It's like saying i'm special because there's nobody on earth that looks like me,when in reality there is nobody that looks alike,not even identical twins.It's about having respect for peoples feelings.Just imagine for example you were asian or indian,how will you end up feeling if i call you a dirty indian or a yellow asian every day?

Some people can shake words off,while other just can't.I'm one of those people that can't shake insults repeatedly

[ancienking]

@donkerskaduwee I never talked about you. I talked about those who call you like that. They want to be more inportant than others thats why they try to make other to feel that way. Respect dont exist. Emotions dont exist. Humans create those to feel alive. You dont need to be asian or indian. You just need to be different.

[donkerskaduwee]

@ancienking,oh.Sorry for the confusion,and yeah...Emotions is a tricky business,sometimes they are faked in order to give yourself more security.Without a vision for the future,you will slowly waste away and perish,the bible warns you against that.

[ancienking]

@donkerskaduwee You talk like bidle was given to use by god. Thats wrong. Bible wasnt faxed from the heaven. Humans made it. Because humans made it-there can be mistakes. Security doesnt exist. It just a word. Future mustn exist because it will be worse. What really must be done is world must be destroyed, time must be destroyed and everything must be started from beggining.

[ultra505]

@ancienking For world to change is to destroy like you said.

[ultra505]

I had this experience once and I can never get it off my chest.

[donkerskaduwee]

@UnstoppableKrieger,in what sense?

[FRELIGATOR]

1st?