My life is shit. Never really had a girlfriend. Never had a kiss, never felt wanted. My birth mother didnt even fucking want me. Gave me up for adoption. Started popping pills non stop when i was 14_19. Forced to go to rehab. Been clean now for about 3 years. I am tired of being alone. I just have to accept i will never feel compation.
I know this is an older video of yours and I'm still working my way through your playlist, but what is your opinion on 25+ year old virgins and your thoughts on how men might view women who are in their mid-20s and still virgins. Within that age group (25-30 y/o), I know some men who explicitly state they will not date a virgin and I feel like women who are 25+ and still virgins feel somewhat ashamed of that fact. Just curious to know your thoughts on the topic.
Mmkay, I'm a sixteen year old girl making cinnamon toast listening to your videos! I like you're advice, and even though I'm too young to apply some of your advice, best believe I'm stowing it away for later use! :)
Ok so Im 13 and loads of people in my school year have started doing... sexual stuff.. lets say... and I really dont know what to do?! Ive been with my boyfriend over a year and I know I love him but Im not sure if Im ready, or if Im responsible enough yet! Advice please?<3
@TheJoWo666 The reason why I asked if you watched this video is bcz I answered your questions in this video.
1. If you're not ready to do it DONT DO IT! There will be a time when you ARE ready for that, and more. And there will be NO Question.
2. Are you responsible enough? At 13 hon? What job do you have to take care of a baby? You dont even buy your own panties, how you gonna give somebody what's in it?
3. You need to learn YOU b4 you let someone else try to.
@mindharvester Why don't you sit down somewhere and be QUIET. As a 17 y.o. "Boy" why are yu advising a 13 y.o. Girl to engage in sexual intercourse based on whether she's "Good Looking?"
You realize your encouragement is aiding in the delinquency of a minor, and not only reprehensible, and irresponsible, but in real life, its ILLEGAL. This is the internet & you can try to play your lil game. Im letting you know, as a Grown Woman, its Not funny.
I'm 14, I recently lost my virginity to a boy i thought loved me. He had just turned 17 when i had sex with him. He then stuck around for a month or two, then walked out on me. I have now been left feeling alone, and heartbroken. I feel cheap and used. The worst part is, i know i would take him back, without a sencond thought.
don't get depressed....in this world it's very tuff to find the real honest man..i am a guy of age 21year old from India..u know my girl friend cheated me...she did say always that i love you but behind this she have a lot of guy whom she was physically closed while she is only 19year old only...so i think it's very tuff to find the honest girl/boy...so please don,t be upset...just think it was a bad moment for you...& that moment has been over..be successful in your aim...
I'm 15. I've been in love with same person for almost 5 years now, as unlikely as it sounds. I want him to be the one to take my virgintiy. I've hurt him a lot and I don't know if he'll be with me forever, but I know that's what I want. I think I'm ready to be closer to him than any one else has.
i love your vids! that is so True.. lol, i can't even look at my personal private parts because i just feel so ashamed so how can i let a guy?.. but yeah, i'm waiting! i met a guy that made me feel so special but at the end he just wanted sex.. i'm happy i didn't go all the way, because i would've been heartbroken for a longg time & used.
Okay, So i'm 15...and let me just say, you have furthur clarified for me that I should not have any future problems with being a virgin in my 20s. I know that i'm not going to be having sexual relations with young guys now because i'm much more intteligent than that. I feel that I would be thought as less of a woman in my 20s if I were still a virgin. I would just wonder if the guy that i'm in a relationship with, in my 20s, would not want to be with me or "wait" for me to have sex with him...
hello i am 15 i like a guy that is 7 month yunger then me but he is my friend...but i dont wanna risk our frindship if he reject me and you know it suks to get rejected for the friest time..butit kills me if he ends up hateing me but its been 12 years since we been friends so what should i do should i cunfec or give up please tell me what do u think its not like i wanna have....it but i gust want him to be my boyfriend so what do u think pleas tell me
lol girl when you was putting that makeup on, I wasnt listening to a damn thing u were saying, it was soo distracting! I was like ohh thats how you put 'this' and 'that' on, i was learning more about the makeup lol but anyways, Im a happy 18 year old virgin!!! I mainly watched it 2 hear about ur experiance. I plan on staying one till im 30ish, old enough right? Btw-I discoverd ur page 6/24/2011, u getta new fan everyday :)
I have friends who cannot even remember their first time, they were too drunk, too stupid. I'm lucky, yes i'm young, but I'm in love. And when I first had sex, I was happy, I was comfortable, I was ready, I was with the boy I loved and still love. And I've glowed ever since. It was perfect. A word to the wise, if it doesn't feel perfect, it's not worth the loss. When it's perfect, you're not loosing your virginity, you're giving it away, as a gift...
I'm very happy to have seen this, if only I saw this several yrs ago. But I am happy to be a virgin at 25 and am waiting till marriage. *crosses fingers* let's hope that I can make it!
I kept my virginity until I was married and had a great life before and after marriage. I'd say "dont judge" - but if I could live my life again I wouldnt do it any differently, I'd say find the right (type of) person and go for it :-)
When I was 14, I lost my virginity under the staircase at my old high school.. It sounds like it would've been a bad first time and place, but I was in a rebellious phase, and I really enjoyed it. I've been pleasuring myself since I was young, and sexual desire came naturally to me. I had a few chances to lose my virginity before, but I knew I wasn't ready. When I finally met the right guy, I knew. We dated until I was 16, and he was my first love. I have never regretted that story in my life.
I wish i had a big sister like you, i wish i'd seen this earlier in my life would have saved me alot of worry and paranoia. I feel like i've learnt alot today. Never really had these kind of discusions with my mum or anything so... woaw. Feel like i know exactly what to tell my children in the future now. This kind of education should not be left up to schools they dont tell you like it is like this.
This is the first time I've seen one of ur videos and I really have to agree with u. I'm 19 going on 20 and still have my virginity in tack. In fact I plan to stay celibate until my wedding night, however far away that may be. And that might be 5 or maybe even 10 years from now. Some people don't understand that ones virginity is a vertue. My grandmother says that when u lay down with a male, it's like giving a part of ur soul away and you never feel the same. So those of you reading this comme
This is awesome. Very good life advice and has given me really good perspective as I was having questions about the very things you addressed. Thanks so much for caring!
This is awesome. Very good life advice and has given me really good perspective as I was having questions about the very things you addressed. Thanks so much for caring!
That's some fucking gold digger shit. If a woman falls in love with a man it's about the relationship not with the wallet. A woman is supposed to love a man for him not his bank. That's some gold digger shit.
In dire situations they're supposed to care for each other and their kids. Straight up and down. A man can't trick all the time. How many times do women dump they man for their bread? All the fucking time. Get real.
@Gengar10000000000 I dont think she was implying that you should sleep with a guy because he has money. She was simply warning all females that it would be wise not to lay down with a guy who cannot even support himself. That is not to say that you can not still love him. You can wait to sleep with him, but still be together at the same time. You know, its sad...so many ppl dont know how to act or what to do in a relationship were sex is omitted...like really??? Ppl need to take their time
Sex is about popularity. Losing your virginity is a trophy. Their is so many nerds who don't get laid out there male and female who want to be in your position. It's not about virginity. That's just a name for somebody who hasn't had sex yet.
It is a mind set. That's some little girl shit. "Oh I had my first time" fuck that. It's about the first time and it's called a virginity. So many people who want to have sex can't because of the way they look. It's not about virginity, it's a fact of life
@Gengar10000000000 And are you trying to say that ppl are virgins, not by choice, but because of their appearance or reputation. Well that is most certainly a lie. Some ppl actually choose the route of celibacy because we were told early on to respect ourselves and our bodies. A man and woman's virginity should be a gift to one another after marriage. That is how I feel and I am not a nerd or unattractive...and i'll be turning 21 soon
I can't stress for the young girls to wait. Wait for someone you have no doubts about. Someone who doesn't pressure you or "expect" sex from you. I waited til I was 20. My man was totally cool with whatever I wanted to do & I was the one who initiated it. Whatever you do ladies do it on your terms & do it because YOU want to. As far as the condoms go if you are in a committed relationship if you have to use condoms for any reason outside of birth control ..SIDE EYE your partner in my opinion
In addition you don't get any do overs in this life about ANYTHING. So think about everything long & hard & then act. Especially with sex... as a woman ... there can be more consequences for engaging in sex versus being a man. I know sooo many people who wish they had "waited" for their first time because it turned out to be with the wrong person. Sharing yourself is a beautiful thing... no thy self & love thy self above ALL others. Thats my 2 cents.
I literally dated a guy for three years (without sex) simply because I wasnt ready (15yrsold) and I didnt trust him. Come to find out, I had every reason to not trust him! lol...
When you are young and inlove... I honestly believe ur judgement is off, rather than when you are of a mature age.
my husband and i waited until our wedding night, granted it was VERY difficult, especially leading up to the wedding knowing that we were going to be together, but waiting just makes the experience not only wonderful but magical.
to all you young teenagers wanting to experience all this sexuality, just wait, you never want birth control to fail or a condom to fail, wait until you are stable, and if he or she really loves you, then they will wait forever if thats what it takes.
To be honest I Lost my Virginity around 18 which think was te perfect age for me, However Tko I was wondering if both of us was really enjoying it but she ejaculated and I didnt does that mean im still technically a virgin?
To be honest I Lost my Virginity around 18 which think was te perfect age for me, However Tko I was wondering if both of us was really enjoying it but she ejaculated and I didnt does that mean im still technically a virgin?
I seriously have grown more respect for you on a whole different level. You are truly an amazing being. This video was absolutely WONDERFUL. You was preaching the TRUTH. I am 25 years old and turned to celibacy late last year. I thought it would be a challenge but I realize how strong I am as time go by. This video SOLIDIFIES my decision on it and encouraged me I was doing the right thing for ME. You are SoOoOo RIGHT. Personally I'm clean and want to stay clean. I will ALWAYS protect myself. :-)
@tonyatko... im 14 and ive found my first love. hes almost 16 and we have a few months till this planned sex . i love him and i have desires and i wanna remember him forever. well right now at least. im coming to you because i need help , he promises to wear a condom and he has no diseases. but should i follow through with it?
@bigbrat202 Do you have a job? Do you have the ability to handle ALL of the repercussions of sex? Including an un-planned pregnancy? Or unwanted disease? 14 is still a bit young. If you guys are going to be together forever, WHY do you have to do this right now? And WHERE are you going to do this? At your PARENT'S HOUSE? Wearing the little panties your PARENTS Bought for you, using the money your MOMMY & DADDY gave you? Come on. Slow Down. Nothing you have is Your OWN. Grow up a bit first
I think 14 is too young to have sex, I agree. But you'd be suprised how much sexual knowledge younger girls have now days. When I was 13 I also had my own money, I made. And brought my own panties and clothes, don't assume.
@JuicingDailyTV Honey, you DO realize that 13 is younger than the LEGAL AGE to work in the United States... so where did you get your "Own Money" which you "Made?"
I think it is very appropriate for me to "Assume" that a 13 year old is still dependent on his/her parents.
It is also appropriate for me to "Assume" that a 13 yr old (Despite "knowledge" of sex) being incapable to handle the full responsibilities & repercussions of sex.
Actually it is irresponsible to ALLUDE a 13 y.o should.
@TonyaTko I'm from London. And I used to have my own very small business, if you will. Selling cookies and cokes in the school playground, making about £30 a day which was about $50 back in 2007.
So you're saying you should not have sex unless you're able to handle anything which may arise from sex? That's crazy, that's a nice theory you have there, but it will never work. I bet some people even watched this video and thought "OMG she's so real" and then had sex later that day...
@BBYoungLady NO Body should be having sex until they can handle the responsibilities thereof, including but not limited to: Un planned pregnancies, Children, Disease, Emotional duress, Scholastic & Economic distraction as well as Spiritual & metaphysical denigration.
This includes emotionally & financially under-prepared adults as well.
Sex IS a big deal. If a person has "Desires" Get a TOY! :)
@TonyaTko but then if everyone thought about that hardly anyone would be reproducing because that's all they'll have on their minds. Sex safe is the best sex, obviously, but still. I do not frown upon teenagers having sex as long as they're not careless with it.
@BBYoungLady You see, teenagers are in a particularly sensitive sector in that they lack the emotional maturity to deal with the repercussions of sex.
Part of me advising people to wait, ironically, is BECAUSE of situations like yours: Regret. Either for the act or the person they did it with. I waited will I was 20 and in Love. And I advise everyone to not only wait until they PHYSICALLY desire it (which is easy) but until they find the person they WANT to remember Forever (Which is Hard)
I lost my virginity when I was 15. I knew about sex when I was very young which made me very curious and I desired to have sex before I hit puberty, I just didn't go through with it. I lost it at the beginning of 2010 and I don't regret losing it, I just regret losing it to the person I lost it too, because he didn't treat me with respect. Now that I have more self-respect he's trying to holla at me saying that he always had love for me - psh whatever.
im pretty sure this is the best vid ive ever watched on youtube. me and my girlfriend are still both virgins. we made a promise to eachother to wait for a while before we mess around. her mom had her at a young age as did my mom and i dont want to make the same mistake but her, on the other hand, wants a baby and if i wouldnt have come around she may have already gotten pregnant. i love her and i can see myself with her and she feels the same. just give me tips to make her relize wats right
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for posting this. I was just thinking about giving it up to my now ex. I mean i'm 18 & i want to wait until marriage but its sooo hard when your the only virgin in your cirlce of friends & sex is all they talk about & that's all the guys want. But really, thank you. This has helped me.!
i say the best way to not get these things is like tanya said check him, use protection and wait. till your ready to deal with any consequences. thanks tanya i learned alot from this video compared to my dads litlle talk which just consisted of just keep your legs closed and youll be fine. again thanks so much
thanks alot and i learned alot from u. though i must admit that i was pressure by the people around me to do it and also out of curiosity but yeah , we have the same idea that must be careful and be a responsible individual if u dont ur life to be ruin! and also now that deseases is spreading the whole wide world, i ask my fiance to have a hiv or stds test to know if he s really clean and safe;) funny. thanks again for your care and im sure u are enjoying and having a lovely sex life;)
Thank you so much for this video xx I was going to wait until marriage until sex because of my religion but this helps me realise I'm not the only one whose gonna say "Oi back off" lol plus I wouldve waited until marriage to have sex with a guy anyway because I am super super super super super shhyyy :O
My first time was SO bad! I did it with a guy I barely knew, and he treated me like shit. He bent me over the sink in his bathroom and didnt care about me, I was crying because of the pain and he was like « i dont care » and he continued.
Hi I'm 11 and really like this one girl who has had sex with like 6 guys but whenever I talk to her she always mentions sex! I think I should get her to see this vidio!
@123thegamers sorry but if your 11 if this girl is around your age (i'm 12 turning 13 in a month) if she had sex with other guys SHE IS A FRICHIN SLUT sorry please give her this video.
tonya at first i looked at the time of this video and I was like it's too long. but I watch it while i was playing my ds. and I'm glad I watch it till the end. You pointed out a lot of good point like if someone tells you he's safe you don't know. And it's gonna be scary as hell when that docter comes in and tells you , you got gornoria. but i enjoyed this and I wanna send a heart to you. :)
You are so cute. I love this video and while I'm not into guys the advice helps me out too. No matter you're sexuality, it's better to wait and have sex with a person you love who you know loves you more than your body.
where were you whan I was 12 ?! >...< anyway my first time was when i was 12 and it was becouse I wanted to and the guy was so scared it was ... weird not good but not bad , and when i saw the blood I was like "OMG I'M GONNA DIE?!" but it was ok cuz i didnt XD and well we never did it again but the year after i did it again with another guy and it was great this time he knew what he was doing =3
and now i'm doin it like 1~2 times a day and I love it of course I'm always Prepared X)
one of my friends was 10 when she lost hers and is still having sex. Shes 12 or 13 now. Shes pushing me into it. Im 15 and still a virgin. She lost hers to her cousin. How long should i wait? And another thing does it hurt? She wont tell me. I have two guys that like me. Me and one of them his name is Dalton have been talking about having sex. Its weird. I just dont feel comforatable about showing him my body. What do i do?
@BVBfan4life97 Hey Darling... Firstly, WATCH THIS VIDEO from beginning til end, and I just attached another video abt Virgin lips. Plz watch that one and then write back
I was actually 15 and I have been with my boyfriend since jr high. His parents were in vegas while we stayed in california. We had the whole house to ourselves... We took the master bedroom. When I said I was ready he let me get undressed and everything... It actually was a lil paibful, but it goes away. He was so giving. Have fun!!
its inspirational how passionate you are about your beliefs, a lot of respect for you there :-)
i lost mine at the age of 17 with my boyfriend. at the time we'd ben together for 2 years. he was a virgin too and this helped cos there was no pressure to be like any previous partners. waiting so long before doing it taught me tht i could trust him. of course it hurt but it was very tender and special. dfnitely worth waiting instead of jumping straight in xxx
I was told to check this, as a man, I was well beyond impressed!!!!
Lots of girls out there Parading themselves ready for stuff they spend the rest of the life miserably regretting. Some Dying!!!
The world is filled with horrible realities which once begun in MOST cases can never ever be undone.
RESPECT YOURSELF, Love is so much more than Who's Who, and googly eyes, pressured gifts, and sweet spoken nothings laced with pressures subtle with selfish gain.
i agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'm 20 and still a virgin! i want to give myself to the man i wanna marry and will marry me (of course) and have a happy family and grow old with :)
Thank you so so So so So much !!! ,,, Im so glad i found this video !!! ,,, This helped me so much :DDDDDD ,,, Your such a amazing person that i just cryed when i saw your videos ,,,, Youre a hero to me !! :** ,, Love yaa Tonya ,, :**** Your Awsome !!
TonyaTko, you are a wonderful, graceful and powerful woman. I have been a subscriber for quite some time and I love your videos. Thank you for all that you share.
I waited to lose my virginity too and as you say, it set a standard and the pace for the rest of my life by reminding me of my self worth and self respect.
I am very happy that younger subscribers have you near to guide them. Please do not stop what you are doing. Much love, from London
Tonyatko, I'm 19 years old and I'm still celibate, and I really appreciate your advice. But I still have fantasies but I'm keeping myself until marriage to a handsome Asian man. But...I haven't found "the one" yet....
Keep your virginity as long as you can, wait until you find "the one" or in a permanent/ long lasting relationship. You have enough in your plate to worry about (e.g., pains of growing up, discovering yourself, school, grades, homework, friendship, etc.). It is not worth giving up your virginity so young and to a jerk. Respect your power girls.
what do u think abt arrange marrages shuld we go for having sex with the guys what we are hooked up with by our parents ??? but i am glad to watch this vedio it cleared alot of doubts for me i am glad i am a virgin and i knw wen and hw i shuld be giving it to sumone not looseing it thnk u
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u i am not married i am still a virgin and i am abt to get marreid i vebeen knwing him since 4 years so i am still not gona let this man enter my body only wen I am ready i am so gald
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u i am not married i am still a virgin and i am abt to get marreid i vebeen knwing him since 4 years so i am still not gona let this man enter my body only wen I am ready i am so gald
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio
I just wanted to thank you for being so open and honest about such a serious topic,
I myself had my first time sex when I was 19, and I have to say it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I was laughing so hard when you got to the "parent's floor" part because that was the EXACT thing that happend to me when I was 17 years old.
But I'm glad I waited, most of my friends now rather won't talk about their first time because it was something they'd rather forget... such a shame right?
I wish my mother discussed these things with me like you did. I found out first hand the hard way & there is no going back, just got to move forward. Sex education in school wasn't enough for me, just made me more curious. Peer pressure made me want to get it over with it. I was raped & everything went down here 4rm there. After that when it came to guys, I thought if I flipped the script then I could receive some kind of control of my life back. Boy, was I wrong. Thanks u so much 4 the advice.
Hii tonya i really liked this video and your so right about everything you discussed. xD Oh, and u did keep me focused by doin ur makeup.. :D ur very pretty :D
I like how open, honest and real this woman is...she makes a lot of valid points and it is evident that she cares for people. Thank you Tonya. I believe this video has probably helped a lot of young people! =) You go girl! If you ever want to take a singing lesson, let me know! LOL! ~ Dot
@TonyaTko We're in Los Angeles sweetie, but I also do lessons over Skype and phone for my touring stars and those who can't make it in to my studio. Look up my channel for site info. I like how you teach people to love who they are. I do the same for singers so we've got somethin' in common. Give us a shout hon!
ugh.. i so wish i had watched this video sooner.but then again based on my mistakes i have learned to respect my self and my body.as of now i think i have found the right man who has waited and plenty more. :)
i think she has a big point ! girls 13 -17 shouldnt be having sex this early no matter wat guys say. they may say baby i luv you nd i wanna show my luv to you ... boy if you wanna show your luv to a girl buy her flowers or write her a poem dont try to force me to have sex with you.. thats just my perspective !(:
i think she has a big point ! girls 13 -17 shouldnt be having sex this early no matter wat guys say. they may say baby i luv you nd i wanna show my luv to you ... boy if you wanna show your luv to a girl buy her flowers or write her a poem dont try to force me to have sex with you.. thats just my perspective !
i feel like youre my mother. im only 15 i am a virgin, and i really appreciate this information. it really made me think twice about having sex right now.
i am about to go to high school and the pressure in middle school was hard so i know going to high school their game will get harder and harder to resist ,i already planned on waiting but i cant wait until i find the right MAN not boy MAN! but thanks for your motivation! (:
This comment has received too many negative votesshow
Everything you say is biased, misinformed, one-sided, and is basically spitting in the face of the 'birth control' femininity revolution of the late 60s and early 70s. Its very easy to ban something or say something is wrong if you've never done it before, and its very easy to tell others what to do if you've already done it.
Stop being a fucking hypocrite. Unless you were a virgin until marriage to give it to your HUSBAND, fuck off...bitch.
Thank you so much for this video. More women, virgins or not, should watch this. I'm so glad I'm sticking with my celibacy. You are heaven sent, thank you again. :)
Uh, if children are losing their virginity BEFORE high school, you're not the one thats messed up. If someone makes fun of you just ignore them, they're just uncomfortable with themselves.
bravo :) this video rocks thank you soooo much for being such an insiration and the wonderful advise!! :) if young girls all over the world saw this video they would change thier mind in an instant....you are amazing :)
@TonyaTko what do u think abt arrange marrages shuld we go for having sex with the guys what we are hooked up with by our parents ??? but i am glad to watch this vedio it cleared alot of doubts for me i am glad i am a virgin and i knw wen and hw i shuld be giving it to sumone not looseing it thnk u
thank you so much for this video, i'm a 22 year old female and a virgin, and i'm going to wait until i find someone who loves me and who i love and someone who cares for me. To all girls and woman its not a shame even if we doubt sometime its not a shame being a virgin and waiting for true love, i've seen friends throw it away for someone they hardly knew i want it to be special so wait! to the person in this video you are an amazing woman, you are like an angel..so sweet and pretty i subbed!
ya i was molested when i was 8. i think thats why ive been a virgin for so long. i barely realized that last year. then i realized that i needed to go to therapy.
this is so insightful..i am 17 and still a virgin i had my first bf wen i was 16. some ppl think this is weird but i was never ready for a relationship and my first bf thought i was going to sleep with him after a month and i ended the relationship bcuz of it. my mom has always told me not to trust guys and so i am alwyas thinkin wen i guy tlks to me wat the reason is.. all of my close friends recently lost their virginity and thers is a little pressure for me to lose mine with my current bf..
My life is shit. Never really had a girlfriend. Never had a kiss, never felt wanted. My birth mother didnt even fucking want me. Gave me up for adoption. Started popping pills non stop when i was 14_19. Forced to go to rehab. Been clean now for about 3 years. I am tired of being alone. I just have to accept i will never feel compation.
perryk829 3 weeks ago
@perryk829 I fell bad for u bro... i woud help u but i dont know how
dreamer0x0 5 days ago
I know this is an older video of yours and I'm still working my way through your playlist, but what is your opinion on 25+ year old virgins and your thoughts on how men might view women who are in their mid-20s and still virgins. Within that age group (25-30 y/o), I know some men who explicitly state they will not date a virgin and I feel like women who are 25+ and still virgins feel somewhat ashamed of that fact. Just curious to know your thoughts on the topic.
ShyShayC 1 month ago
Mmkay, I'm a sixteen year old girl making cinnamon toast listening to your videos! I like you're advice, and even though I'm too young to apply some of your advice, best believe I'm stowing it away for later use! :)
sweettartzrock 1 month ago
ms lady you need no make up dont add nothing you pretty as you are!!!
empressdrean1984 2 months ago
Ok so Im 13 and loads of people in my school year have started doing... sexual stuff.. lets say... and I really dont know what to do?! Ive been with my boyfriend over a year and I know I love him but Im not sure if Im ready, or if Im responsible enough yet! Advice please?<3
TheJoWo666 2 months ago
@TheJoWo666 Have you watched this video?
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 months ago
@TonyaTko Yes, I have seen quite alot of your videos.I just need advice!<3
TheJoWo666 2 months ago
@TheJoWo666 The reason why I asked if you watched this video is bcz I answered your questions in this video.
1. If you're not ready to do it DONT DO IT! There will be a time when you ARE ready for that, and more. And there will be NO Question.
2. Are you responsible enough? At 13 hon? What job do you have to take care of a baby? You dont even buy your own panties, how you gonna give somebody what's in it?
3. You need to learn YOU b4 you let someone else try to.
Did that help?
-Tko
TonyaTko 2 months ago
@TheJoWo666 na it depend if you are good looking the words of an 17year boy
mindharvester 1 month ago
@mindharvester Why don't you sit down somewhere and be QUIET. As a 17 y.o. "Boy" why are yu advising a 13 y.o. Girl to engage in sexual intercourse based on whether she's "Good Looking?"
You realize your encouragement is aiding in the delinquency of a minor, and not only reprehensible, and irresponsible, but in real life, its ILLEGAL. This is the internet & you can try to play your lil game. Im letting you know, as a Grown Woman, its Not funny.
Young ppl listen to advice
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 month ago
@TonyaTko illigal where are talking about just lufe your life hump who you want sex is not illagal under 18 in my country 0.o
mindharvester 1 month ago
Well, I'm still a virgin, and I plan to wait till I'm married
Kitsuneprincess2 2 months ago 2
I'm 14, I recently lost my virginity to a boy i thought loved me. He had just turned 17 when i had sex with him. He then stuck around for a month or two, then walked out on me. I have now been left feeling alone, and heartbroken. I feel cheap and used. The worst part is, i know i would take him back, without a sencond thought.
steviekinsxox 2 months ago
@steviekinsxox
don't get depressed....in this world it's very tuff to find the real honest man..i am a guy of age 21year old from India..u know my girl friend cheated me...she did say always that i love you but behind this she have a lot of guy whom she was physically closed while she is only 19year old only...so i think it's very tuff to find the honest girl/boy...so please don,t be upset...just think it was a bad moment for you...& that moment has been over..be successful in your aim...
3636shanu 2 months ago
I'm 15. I've been in love with same person for almost 5 years now, as unlikely as it sounds. I want him to be the one to take my virgintiy. I've hurt him a lot and I don't know if he'll be with me forever, but I know that's what I want. I think I'm ready to be closer to him than any one else has.
tutuChan17 3 months ago
WOW<3 YOU RELLE MADE ME COMFTY WHILE WATCHING THIS<3
makeuplover428 4 months ago
Use condoms and everything will be ok
ShovelHorse 5 months ago
i love your vids! that is so True.. lol, i can't even look at my personal private parts because i just feel so ashamed so how can i let a guy?.. but yeah, i'm waiting! i met a guy that made me feel so special but at the end he just wanted sex.. i'm happy i didn't go all the way, because i would've been heartbroken for a longg time & used.
blackbarbiie89 6 months ago
You need your own talk show like Tyra !
klncutie 6 months ago 6
@klncutie Well, pass my video around to as many ppl as possible and hopefully it will get into the right hands ;-)
-Tko
TonyaTko 6 months ago
Personally.. with God as my guide.. i dont plan on practicing sex without a licence.. Marriage! i'm 25
Thesunbeam777 6 months ago 2
Me and my girlfriend lost our virginity when we were 13 is that bad?
MrRed1383 6 months ago
love this video
shanniebaby123 6 months ago
She basically saying make the poor guy follow you like a lost dog? Other then that good advice.
borofalcon101 6 months ago
Okay, So i'm 15...and let me just say, you have furthur clarified for me that I should not have any future problems with being a virgin in my 20s. I know that i'm not going to be having sexual relations with young guys now because i'm much more intteligent than that. I feel that I would be thought as less of a woman in my 20s if I were still a virgin. I would just wonder if the guy that i'm in a relationship with, in my 20s, would not want to be with me or "wait" for me to have sex with him...
BiancaAngie96 6 months ago
hello i am 15 i like a guy that is 7 month yunger then me but he is my friend...but i dont wanna risk our frindship if he reject me and you know it suks to get rejected for the friest time..butit kills me if he ends up hateing me but its been 12 years since we been friends so what should i do should i cunfec or give up please tell me what do u think its not like i wanna have....it but i gust want him to be my boyfriend so what do u think pleas tell me
lily90084 7 months ago
lol girl when you was putting that makeup on, I wasnt listening to a damn thing u were saying, it was soo distracting! I was like ohh thats how you put 'this' and 'that' on, i was learning more about the makeup lol but anyways, Im a happy 18 year old virgin!!! I mainly watched it 2 hear about ur experiance. I plan on staying one till im 30ish, old enough right? Btw-I discoverd ur page 6/24/2011, u getta new fan everyday :)
Super2fine 7 months ago
YOU're awesome. Can you please be my big sister?
reach2mypocket 7 months ago
And why are you putting on makeup?? God, you know that you can do that before you make the video.
TheArtsyDude 7 months ago
Your hair looks really ugly, sorry.
TheArtsyDude 7 months ago
girls hit puberty before boys, duhhh
beanerbomb 7 months ago
thumbs up if you like Virginity: How I Lost Mine, When to Lose Yours. TonyaTko on S-e-x, Disease, Pregnancy etc
sexykatie90 7 months ago
@SheThaBoss yes its *not* easy. Pray that the lord continues to give me strength. Thanks for the kind words.
hotdyme86 7 months ago
I have friends who cannot even remember their first time, they were too drunk, too stupid. I'm lucky, yes i'm young, but I'm in love. And when I first had sex, I was happy, I was comfortable, I was ready, I was with the boy I loved and still love. And I've glowed ever since. It was perfect. A word to the wise, if it doesn't feel perfect, it's not worth the loss. When it's perfect, you're not loosing your virginity, you're giving it away, as a gift...
ilovelinx 7 months ago
I'm very happy to have seen this, if only I saw this several yrs ago. But I am happy to be a virgin at 25 and am waiting till marriage. *crosses fingers* let's hope that I can make it!
hotdyme86 7 months ago 3
@hotdyme86 Wow... I'm surprised. Your comment gives me hope.
SheThaBoss 7 months ago
I'm happy to still b a virgin at 20:)
Just not ready yet.
bluehoodie91 7 months ago 2
I love you. You are so honest :3. Thank you for telling the truth about sex and everything else <3
Maeve2011 8 months ago
i admire you so much. <3
MsSpark1994 8 months ago
I respect you....
xuan99xuan 8 months ago
I wish you were my big sister : )
disisnaomi 8 months ago
I kept my virginity until I was married and had a great life before and after marriage. I'd say "dont judge" - but if I could live my life again I wouldnt do it any differently, I'd say find the right (type of) person and go for it :-)
AndyWhite007 8 months ago 2
Oh Jesus this is the first wise women I see . I hope to meet you someday
all regards
prx33 8 months ago
I love you! you're so funny its unreal. and i love what you have to sayyy ♥
MelzThreeDaysGrace 8 months ago
I love you! you're so funny its unreal. and i love what you have to sayyy ♥
MelzThreeDaysGrace 8 months ago
You are absolutely amazing. :)
lhsmbd13 8 months ago
When I was 14, I lost my virginity under the staircase at my old high school.. It sounds like it would've been a bad first time and place, but I was in a rebellious phase, and I really enjoyed it. I've been pleasuring myself since I was young, and sexual desire came naturally to me. I had a few chances to lose my virginity before, but I knew I wasn't ready. When I finally met the right guy, I knew. We dated until I was 16, and he was my first love. I have never regretted that story in my life.
4thc2junkie0 9 months ago
I wish i had a big sister like you, i wish i'd seen this earlier in my life would have saved me alot of worry and paranoia. I feel like i've learnt alot today. Never really had these kind of discusions with my mum or anything so... woaw. Feel like i know exactly what to tell my children in the future now. This kind of education should not be left up to schools they dont tell you like it is like this.
tessra 9 months ago
This is the first time I've seen one of ur videos and I really have to agree with u. I'm 19 going on 20 and still have my virginity in tack. In fact I plan to stay celibate until my wedding night, however far away that may be. And that might be 5 or maybe even 10 years from now. Some people don't understand that ones virginity is a vertue. My grandmother says that when u lay down with a male, it's like giving a part of ur soul away and you never feel the same. So those of you reading this comme
victoriapalasky663 9 months ago
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This is awesome. Very good life advice and has given me really good perspective as I was having questions about the very things you addressed. Thanks so much for caring!
SanuraSeatra 9 months ago
This is awesome. Very good life advice and has given me really good perspective as I was having questions about the very things you addressed. Thanks so much for caring!
SanuraSeatra 9 months ago
That's some fucking gold digger shit. If a woman falls in love with a man it's about the relationship not with the wallet. A woman is supposed to love a man for him not his bank. That's some gold digger shit.
In dire situations they're supposed to care for each other and their kids. Straight up and down. A man can't trick all the time. How many times do women dump they man for their bread? All the fucking time. Get real.
Gengar10000000000 10 months ago
@Gengar10000000000 I dont think she was implying that you should sleep with a guy because he has money. She was simply warning all females that it would be wise not to lay down with a guy who cannot even support himself. That is not to say that you can not still love him. You can wait to sleep with him, but still be together at the same time. You know, its sad...so many ppl dont know how to act or what to do in a relationship were sex is omitted...like really??? Ppl need to take their time
thickncurly16 4 months ago
Sex is about popularity. Losing your virginity is a trophy. Their is so many nerds who don't get laid out there male and female who want to be in your position. It's not about virginity. That's just a name for somebody who hasn't had sex yet.
It is a mind set. That's some little girl shit. "Oh I had my first time" fuck that. It's about the first time and it's called a virginity. So many people who want to have sex can't because of the way they look. It's not about virginity, it's a fact of life
Gengar10000000000 10 months ago
@Gengar10000000000 And are you trying to say that ppl are virgins, not by choice, but because of their appearance or reputation. Well that is most certainly a lie. Some ppl actually choose the route of celibacy because we were told early on to respect ourselves and our bodies. A man and woman's virginity should be a gift to one another after marriage. That is how I feel and I am not a nerd or unattractive...and i'll be turning 21 soon
thickncurly16 4 months ago
You are very funny and inspirational. God bless you :)
JishDC 10 months ago
......ther is this 13 year old at my school that is pregnant......
lonelyemochick1 10 months ago
In Brazil, its LEGAL to have sex when yur 15-16 for guys and 14-15 girls i believe lol maybe not MORAL but hey... its legal XD
HaruhiMariotaku 10 months ago
I can't stress for the young girls to wait. Wait for someone you have no doubts about. Someone who doesn't pressure you or "expect" sex from you. I waited til I was 20. My man was totally cool with whatever I wanted to do & I was the one who initiated it. Whatever you do ladies do it on your terms & do it because YOU want to. As far as the condoms go if you are in a committed relationship if you have to use condoms for any reason outside of birth control ..SIDE EYE your partner in my opinion
HalfPastDopeTV 11 months ago
In addition you don't get any do overs in this life about ANYTHING. So think about everything long & hard & then act. Especially with sex... as a woman ... there can be more consequences for engaging in sex versus being a man. I know sooo many people who wish they had "waited" for their first time because it turned out to be with the wrong person. Sharing yourself is a beautiful thing... no thy self & love thy self above ALL others. Thats my 2 cents.
HalfPastDopeTV 11 months ago
Nic£ advice but I am 16 and still I am a salabate does that really annoy
mugash1000 11 months ago
You are such an inspirational person!
I totally agree with you...
I literally dated a guy for three years (without sex) simply because I wasnt ready (15yrsold) and I didnt trust him. Come to find out, I had every reason to not trust him! lol...
When you are young and inlove... I honestly believe ur judgement is off, rather than when you are of a mature age.
malenekaren 11 months ago
I hav a question: How can you tell when ur boyfriend is lying to you? Because sometimes I can't even tell :/
marisycat17 11 months ago
my husband and i waited until our wedding night, granted it was VERY difficult, especially leading up to the wedding knowing that we were going to be together, but waiting just makes the experience not only wonderful but magical.
to all you young teenagers wanting to experience all this sexuality, just wait, you never want birth control to fail or a condom to fail, wait until you are stable, and if he or she really loves you, then they will wait forever if thats what it takes.
kelliebeaniscool 11 months ago
thank u sooooo much you've saved my virginity.....im 17,still a virgin
not gonna lie m really horny hahaha but i aint ready to lose it
89tequila 11 months ago
To be honest I Lost my Virginity around 18 which think was te perfect age for me, However Tko I was wondering if both of us was really enjoying it but she ejaculated and I didnt does that mean im still technically a virgin?
P.S Also like the hair style my has the same.
MrDeath1001 1 year ago
@MrDeath1001 Loosing your virginty means you penetrated with someone. In other words, you lost it.
Mugenta 11 months ago
To be honest I Lost my Virginity around 18 which think was te perfect age for me, However Tko I was wondering if both of us was really enjoying it but she ejaculated and I didnt does that mean im still technically a virgin?
MrDeath1001 1 year ago
Lol My Aunt has the same hair style i think its cool.
MrDeath1001 1 year ago
I seriously have grown more respect for you on a whole different level. You are truly an amazing being. This video was absolutely WONDERFUL. You was preaching the TRUTH. I am 25 years old and turned to celibacy late last year. I thought it would be a challenge but I realize how strong I am as time go by. This video SOLIDIFIES my decision on it and encouraged me I was doing the right thing for ME. You are SoOoOo RIGHT. Personally I'm clean and want to stay clean. I will ALWAYS protect myself. :-)
MissMillionsNYC 1 year ago
yea good point tko thanks . u really helped me. ill wait till i have the money and the time for a baby. thanks again.
bigbrat202 1 year ago
@tonyatko... im 14 and ive found my first love. hes almost 16 and we have a few months till this planned sex . i love him and i have desires and i wanna remember him forever. well right now at least. im coming to you because i need help , he promises to wear a condom and he has no diseases. but should i follow through with it?
bigbrat202 1 year ago
@bigbrat202 Do you have a job? Do you have the ability to handle ALL of the repercussions of sex? Including an un-planned pregnancy? Or unwanted disease? 14 is still a bit young. If you guys are going to be together forever, WHY do you have to do this right now? And WHERE are you going to do this? At your PARENT'S HOUSE? Wearing the little panties your PARENTS Bought for you, using the money your MOMMY & DADDY gave you? Come on. Slow Down. Nothing you have is Your OWN. Grow up a bit first
Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago 32
@TonyaTko
I think 14 is too young to have sex, I agree. But you'd be suprised how much sexual knowledge younger girls have now days. When I was 13 I also had my own money, I made. And brought my own panties and clothes, don't assume.
JuicingDailyTV 8 months ago
@JuicingDailyTV Honey, you DO realize that 13 is younger than the LEGAL AGE to work in the United States... so where did you get your "Own Money" which you "Made?"
I think it is very appropriate for me to "Assume" that a 13 year old is still dependent on his/her parents.
It is also appropriate for me to "Assume" that a 13 yr old (Despite "knowledge" of sex) being incapable to handle the full responsibilities & repercussions of sex.
Actually it is irresponsible to ALLUDE a 13 y.o should.
-Tko
TonyaTko 8 months ago 9
@TonyaTko I'm from London. And I used to have my own very small business, if you will. Selling cookies and cokes in the school playground, making about £30 a day which was about $50 back in 2007.
So you're saying you should not have sex unless you're able to handle anything which may arise from sex? That's crazy, that's a nice theory you have there, but it will never work. I bet some people even watched this video and thought "OMG she's so real" and then had sex later that day...
JuicingDailyTV 8 months ago
At the same time, if a girl desires to have sex, I don't see why they shouldn't esp. If she's over 16 and isn't pressured into it.
BBYoungLady 1 year ago
@BBYoungLady NO Body should be having sex until they can handle the responsibilities thereof, including but not limited to: Un planned pregnancies, Children, Disease, Emotional duress, Scholastic & Economic distraction as well as Spiritual & metaphysical denigration.
This includes emotionally & financially under-prepared adults as well.
Sex IS a big deal. If a person has "Desires" Get a TOY! :)
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko but then if everyone thought about that hardly anyone would be reproducing because that's all they'll have on their minds. Sex safe is the best sex, obviously, but still. I do not frown upon teenagers having sex as long as they're not careless with it.
I don't think you can get a toy at 16 lol
BBYoungLady 1 year ago
@BBYoungLady You see, teenagers are in a particularly sensitive sector in that they lack the emotional maturity to deal with the repercussions of sex.
Part of me advising people to wait, ironically, is BECAUSE of situations like yours: Regret. Either for the act or the person they did it with. I waited will I was 20 and in Love. And I advise everyone to not only wait until they PHYSICALLY desire it (which is easy) but until they find the person they WANT to remember Forever (Which is Hard)
Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
I lost my virginity when I was 15. I knew about sex when I was very young which made me very curious and I desired to have sex before I hit puberty, I just didn't go through with it. I lost it at the beginning of 2010 and I don't regret losing it, I just regret losing it to the person I lost it too, because he didn't treat me with respect. Now that I have more self-respect he's trying to holla at me saying that he always had love for me - psh whatever.
BBYoungLady 1 year ago
im pretty sure this is the best vid ive ever watched on youtube. me and my girlfriend are still both virgins. we made a promise to eachother to wait for a while before we mess around. her mom had her at a young age as did my mom and i dont want to make the same mistake but her, on the other hand, wants a baby and if i wouldnt have come around she may have already gotten pregnant. i love her and i can see myself with her and she feels the same. just give me tips to make her relize wats right
metallumx 1 year ago
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for posting this. I was just thinking about giving it up to my now ex. I mean i'm 18 & i want to wait until marriage but its sooo hard when your the only virgin in your cirlce of friends & sex is all they talk about & that's all the guys want. But really, thank you. This has helped me.!
MyzzAlisha25 1 year ago
@MyzzAlisha25 Im so glad I posted it now too... From comments like yours... Thank you
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
Im 13 and im not a virgin anymore....
Its just go automatic :D
arnoke3 1 year ago
i say the best way to not get these things is like tanya said check him, use protection and wait. till your ready to deal with any consequences. thanks tanya i learned alot from this video compared to my dads litlle talk which just consisted of just keep your legs closed and youll be fine. again thanks so much
love ya!
bigbrat202 1 year ago
thanks alot and i learned alot from u. though i must admit that i was pressure by the people around me to do it and also out of curiosity but yeah , we have the same idea that must be careful and be a responsible individual if u dont ur life to be ruin! and also now that deseases is spreading the whole wide world, i ask my fiance to have a hiv or stds test to know if he s really clean and safe;) funny. thanks again for your care and im sure u are enjoying and having a lovely sex life;)
lizabasa2002 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this video xx I was going to wait until marriage until sex because of my religion but this helps me realise I'm not the only one whose gonna say "Oi back off" lol plus I wouldve waited until marriage to have sex with a guy anyway because I am super super super super super shhyyy :O
Thank you again so much
P.s your realllyyyyy pretty :)
xXDenverXx1 1 year ago
My first time was SO bad! I did it with a guy I barely knew, and he treated me like shit. He bent me over the sink in his bathroom and didnt care about me, I was crying because of the pain and he was like « i dont care » and he continued.
Girls, be careful with guys.
uberfriponne 1 year ago
I can't believe you got laid...
TheVerySpecialThommy 1 year ago
Thank you for making this video it has rlly helped thanx
rachulx 1 year ago
Hi I'm 11 and really like this one girl who has had sex with like 6 guys but whenever I talk to her she always mentions sex! I think I should get her to see this vidio!
P.S. Your hair looks awesome
123thegamers 1 year ago
@123thegamers sorry but if your 11 if this girl is around your age (i'm 12 turning 13 in a month) if she had sex with other guys SHE IS A FRICHIN SLUT sorry please give her this video.
~Kelsey
kcphipps1998 1 year ago
tonya at first i looked at the time of this video and I was like it's too long. but I watch it while i was playing my ds. and I'm glad I watch it till the end. You pointed out a lot of good point like if someone tells you he's safe you don't know. And it's gonna be scary as hell when that docter comes in and tells you , you got gornoria. but i enjoyed this and I wanna send a heart to you. :)
Lilbluerocket 1 year ago
@Lilbluerocket Thanks. I'll take your <3 and send you a (((HUGG)))
I'm glad you watched it too. Please forward this to anyone you know with questions. Tell them to play it in the background while theyre doing chores.
Love ya!
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
TonyaTko ...so when i put in but i don't come in i'm still virgin or i loose it ?
paneksshops 1 year ago
You are so cute. I love this video and while I'm not into guys the advice helps me out too. No matter you're sexuality, it's better to wait and have sex with a person you love who you know loves you more than your body.
EternitysSlave 1 year ago
@EternitysSlave I KNOW, RIGHT?? she's so cute! She seems to care and is adorable.
missprisss 1 year ago
I just wanted to say, you are amazing. Absolutely amazing.
What is the first time like? I'm 15 (girl), and really not ready, but I wanted to know.
LifeMustard 1 year ago
where were you whan I was 12 ?! >...< anyway my first time was when i was 12 and it was becouse I wanted to and the guy was so scared it was ... weird not good but not bad , and when i saw the blood I was like "OMG I'M GONNA DIE?!" but it was ok cuz i didnt XD and well we never did it again but the year after i did it again with another guy and it was great this time he knew what he was doing =3
and now i'm doin it like 1~2 times a day and I love it of course I'm always Prepared X)
SweetestDollie 1 year ago
one of my friends was 10 when she lost hers and is still having sex. Shes 12 or 13 now. Shes pushing me into it. Im 15 and still a virgin. She lost hers to her cousin. How long should i wait? And another thing does it hurt? She wont tell me. I have two guys that like me. Me and one of them his name is Dalton have been talking about having sex. Its weird. I just dont feel comforatable about showing him my body. What do i do?
BVBfan4life97 1 year ago
@BVBfan4life97 Hey Darling... Firstly, WATCH THIS VIDEO from beginning til end, and I just attached another video abt Virgin lips. Plz watch that one and then write back
But most importantly DONT DO ANYTHING YET.
Watch. Listen. Write.
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@BVBfan4life97 wait until you feel it is right and you know without a doubt the guy is worth it.. trust me.. you will know...
MissSparkles10 1 year ago
im not having sex untill i get maryed
dlp3rdlegend 1 year ago 22
@dlp3rdlegend dont fall in love with a concept.. the more power to you but if you only see it as a concept it wont be so great.... good luck
MissSparkles10 1 year ago
u got the same little dimples as me!
Asia28282 1 year ago
His penis looked like a coke can! Lmbao...you a trip
ICETSUCKS 1 year ago
I was actually 15 and I have been with my boyfriend since jr high. His parents were in vegas while we stayed in california. We had the whole house to ourselves... We took the master bedroom. When I said I was ready he let me get undressed and everything... It actually was a lil paibful, but it goes away. He was so giving. Have fun!!
katie1112223331 1 year ago
wow.
its inspirational how passionate you are about your beliefs, a lot of respect for you there :-)
i lost mine at the age of 17 with my boyfriend. at the time we'd ben together for 2 years. he was a virgin too and this helped cos there was no pressure to be like any previous partners. waiting so long before doing it taught me tht i could trust him. of course it hurt but it was very tender and special. dfnitely worth waiting instead of jumping straight in xxx
great video, thankyou xxx
MellyEmmyxx 1 year ago
Omg I love your hair! :)
cutegiggles1 1 year ago
I was told to check this, as a man, I was well beyond impressed!!!!
Lots of girls out there Parading themselves ready for stuff they spend the rest of the life miserably regretting. Some Dying!!!
The world is filled with horrible realities which once begun in MOST cases can never ever be undone.
RESPECT YOURSELF, Love is so much more than Who's Who, and googly eyes, pressured gifts, and sweet spoken nothings laced with pressures subtle with selfish gain.
ForeverResplendent 1 year ago
Your so sweet and hilarious! Thanks for sharing
LCknosJB21 1 year ago
i love this lady!! XD
adelinefr 1 year ago
i agree!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i'm 20 and still a virgin! i want to give myself to the man i wanna marry and will marry me (of course) and have a happy family and grow old with :)
secretheart5875 1 year ago 4
Your a perfect example of wat a woman should be !!!!! :*****
Katarinka009 1 year ago
Thank you so so So so So much !!! ,,, Im so glad i found this video !!! ,,, This helped me so much :DDDDDD ,,, Your such a amazing person that i just cryed when i saw your videos ,,,, Youre a hero to me !! :** ,, Love yaa Tonya ,, :**** Your Awsome !!
Katarinka009 1 year ago
TonyaTko, you are a wonderful, graceful and powerful woman. I have been a subscriber for quite some time and I love your videos. Thank you for all that you share.
I waited to lose my virginity too and as you say, it set a standard and the pace for the rest of my life by reminding me of my self worth and self respect.
I am very happy that younger subscribers have you near to guide them. Please do not stop what you are doing. Much love, from London
creepycarrie 1 year ago
Tonyatko, I'm 19 years old and I'm still celibate, and I really appreciate your advice. But I still have fantasies but I'm keeping myself until marriage to a handsome Asian man. But...I haven't found "the one" yet....
Sahar736 1 year ago
Hello, Tonyatko. I read your response and it was very helpful.
Sahar736 1 year ago
i love you!!! lmao ... real stuff. You're hilarious!
XoLuvlkhoneyXo 1 year ago
To all the young girls out there:
Keep your virginity as long as you can, wait until you find "the one" or in a permanent/ long lasting relationship. You have enough in your plate to worry about (e.g., pains of growing up, discovering yourself, school, grades, homework, friendship, etc.). It is not worth giving up your virginity so young and to a jerk. Respect your power girls.
ekateri28 1 year ago 3
@ekateri28 i agree *thumbs up* in everything you say - i like how you dont mention marriage in there either
MissSparkles10 1 year ago
Thank you so much. :)
corsair42893 1 year ago
what do u think abt arrange marrages shuld we go for having sex with the guys what we are hooked up with by our parents ??? but i am glad to watch this vedio it cleared alot of doubts for me i am glad i am a virgin and i knw wen and hw i shuld be giving it to sumone not looseing it thnk u
jojojojo447 1 year ago
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this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u i am not married i am still a virgin and i am abt to get marreid i vebeen knwing him since 4 years so i am still not gona let this man enter my body only wen I am ready i am so gald
jojojojo447 1 year ago
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u i am not married i am still a virgin and i am abt to get marreid i vebeen knwing him since 4 years so i am still not gona let this man enter my body only wen I am ready i am so gald
jojojojo447 1 year ago
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this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u
jojojojo447 1 year ago
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this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio thnk u
jojojojo447 1 year ago
this has been an amazing vedio for me just two thumbs up for u and u have a very cute smile i was so concentarting on word by word that u were saying i am glad u shared ur personal experience and ppl do learn alot what they need to do frm others experience so i am really GLAD i wtached this vedio
jojojojo447 1 year ago
This woman is a god. Full of truth! I'm 14 and i know some friends that lost virginity at 11 years old! WE LIVE IN A TERRIBLE SOCIETY!
spanish111japan 1 year ago
Good advice.
azetair1 1 year ago
I just wanted to thank you for being so open and honest about such a serious topic,
I myself had my first time sex when I was 19, and I have to say it was one of the best decisions I've ever made. I was laughing so hard when you got to the "parent's floor" part because that was the EXACT thing that happend to me when I was 17 years old.
But I'm glad I waited, most of my friends now rather won't talk about their first time because it was something they'd rather forget... such a shame right?
ChiiSakura 1 year ago
I wish my mother discussed these things with me like you did. I found out first hand the hard way & there is no going back, just got to move forward. Sex education in school wasn't enough for me, just made me more curious. Peer pressure made me want to get it over with it. I was raped & everything went down here 4rm there. After that when it came to guys, I thought if I flipped the script then I could receive some kind of control of my life back. Boy, was I wrong. Thanks u so much 4 the advice.
Neutralification 1 year ago
Preach!
Neutralification 1 year ago
you are sooo cool!!! i love your videoss!!!
KCalliope 1 year ago 2
Hii tonya i really liked this video and your so right about everything you discussed. xD Oh, and u did keep me focused by doin ur makeup.. :D ur very pretty :D
Walterluvr 1 year ago
its 1 in 3 women.....
poo23414 1 year ago
thank you for being so honest and open, this vid will help a lot of ppl
royalblue212 1 year ago
I like how open, honest and real this woman is...she makes a lot of valid points and it is evident that she cares for people. Thank you Tonya. I believe this video has probably helped a lot of young people! =) You go girl! If you ever want to take a singing lesson, let me know! LOL! ~ Dot
DotsVoiceStudios 1 year ago 15
@DotsVoiceStudios How did you know? I've always wanted singing lessons. Where are you located?
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko We're in Los Angeles sweetie, but I also do lessons over Skype and phone for my touring stars and those who can't make it in to my studio. Look up my channel for site info. I like how you teach people to love who they are. I do the same for singers so we've got somethin' in common. Give us a shout hon!
DotsVoiceStudios 1 year ago
thank you mamma tonya tko ( :
BaRamone 1 year ago
Your shiny =)
KennyGuyHD 1 year ago 2
ugh.. i so wish i had watched this video sooner.but then again based on my mistakes i have learned to respect my self and my body.as of now i think i have found the right man who has waited and plenty more. :)
amusment 1 year ago
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i think she has a big point ! girls 13 -17 shouldnt be having sex this early no matter wat guys say. they may say baby i luv you nd i wanna show my luv to you ... boy if you wanna show your luv to a girl buy her flowers or write her a poem dont try to force me to have sex with you.. thats just my perspective !(:
selenagim 1 year ago
i think she has a big point ! girls 13 -17 shouldnt be having sex this early no matter wat guys say. they may say baby i luv you nd i wanna show my luv to you ... boy if you wanna show your luv to a girl buy her flowers or write her a poem dont try to force me to have sex with you.. thats just my perspective !
selenagim 1 year ago 3
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Thanks God there's someone who even tries to talk some sense into young people...
Amount of Your views shows, that some people actually listen to You. It's great what You are doing. Congratulations!
cudownaemilia 1 year ago
Thanks God there's someone who even tries to talk some sense into young people...
Amount of Your views shows, that some people actually listen to You. It's great what You are doing. Congratulations!
cudownaemilia 1 year ago
You're so sweet. I love the advice. It was immensely helpful for me. I felt the hug lol. ^_^
MareMareLovesPurple 1 year ago
Your hair is isick
Motarify 1 year ago
i luv yur complexion
ximmeNyamaddx 1 year ago 4
i feel like youre my mother. im only 15 i am a virgin, and i really appreciate this information. it really made me think twice about having sex right now.
jobobebo 1 year ago 23
@jobobebo nah, go for it
TheVerySpecialThommy 1 year ago
i am about to go to high school and the pressure in middle school was hard so i know going to high school their game will get harder and harder to resist ,i already planned on waiting but i cant wait until i find the right MAN not boy MAN! but thanks for your motivation! (:
xoxo9me9 1 year ago
this was the best sex advice i've ever heard because you just kept it 100!!
finallylol 1 year ago 3
This comment has received too many negative votes show
Everything you say is biased, misinformed, one-sided, and is basically spitting in the face of the 'birth control' femininity revolution of the late 60s and early 70s. Its very easy to ban something or say something is wrong if you've never done it before, and its very easy to tell others what to do if you've already done it.
Stop being a fucking hypocrite. Unless you were a virgin until marriage to give it to your HUSBAND, fuck off...bitch.
darkwraith007 1 year ago
Thank you so much for this video. More women, virgins or not, should watch this. I'm so glad I'm sticking with my celibacy. You are heaven sent, thank you again. :)
allybis 1 year ago 2
Im just realy freaked out since im going to high school next year , and everyone's gonna be like , haha your a virgin , how am i gonna avoid that?
TimeNotLost 1 year ago
@TimeNotLost
Uh, if children are losing their virginity BEFORE high school, you're not the one thats messed up. If someone makes fun of you just ignore them, they're just uncomfortable with themselves.
XvalogramX 1 year ago
bravo :) this video rocks thank you soooo much for being such an insiration and the wonderful advise!! :) if young girls all over the world saw this video they would change thier mind in an instant....you are amazing :)
singer13XP 1 year ago
can you send me a message i have a question. i love this video! it should be very helpfull to many!
thunderdakota 1 year ago
@thunderdakota I Do read my comments. Whats up?
-Tko
TonyaTko 1 year ago
@TonyaTko what do u think abt arrange marrages shuld we go for having sex with the guys what we are hooked up with by our parents ??? but i am glad to watch this vedio it cleared alot of doubts for me i am glad i am a virgin and i knw wen and hw i shuld be giving it to sumone not looseing it thnk u
jojojojo447 1 year ago
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thunderdakota 1 year ago
thank you so much for this video, i'm a 22 year old female and a virgin, and i'm going to wait until i find someone who loves me and who i love and someone who cares for me. To all girls and woman its not a shame even if we doubt sometime its not a shame being a virgin and waiting for true love, i've seen friends throw it away for someone they hardly knew i want it to be special so wait! to the person in this video you are an amazing woman, you are like an angel..so sweet and pretty i subbed!
ATouchOfMagic88 1 year ago 4
ya i was molested when i was 8. i think thats why ive been a virgin for so long. i barely realized that last year. then i realized that i needed to go to therapy.
punkkimiko 1 year ago 2
im scard to be arownd duds all my life and im 18 its gust so uncomfortuble even with cusens
mscowable 1 year ago
this is so insightful..i am 17 and still a virgin i had my first bf wen i was 16. some ppl think this is weird but i was never ready for a relationship and my first bf thought i was going to sleep with him after a month and i ended the relationship bcuz of it. my mom has always told me not to trust guys and so i am alwyas thinkin wen i guy tlks to me wat the reason is.. all of my close friends recently lost their virginity and thers is a little pressure for me to lose mine with my current bf..
angelbaby16a 1 year ago
thats the fun of being a guy.....
HackFlashGamer 1 year ago
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HackFlashGamer 1 year ago
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pakao lady!!
Ya tau makeup karlai woh, ya sirf baat karai!!
Stop emphasising, I am gettng persnl !!
BANDARYA!
noorme1 1 year ago
pakao lady!!
Ya tau makeup karlai woh, ya sirf baat karai!!
Stop emphasising, I am gettng persnl !!
BANDARYA!
noorme1 1 year ago