Approach Anxiety Destroyer

[bryanero]

tip #1 was so creepy it had me laughing lol

[datingwomensex]

Cool.



[f50koenigg]

For me its better being direct in approaching woman.

[LedHendrix408]

This is a good exercise for guys who are having trouble getting out in the field, especially for day game. But it doesn't eliminate approach anxiety.

[f50koenigg]

@LedHendrix408 It won't eliminate your approach anxiety ever. It will just increase your confidence to approach woman. Once you master this youll gain 80 % of confidence and 20 % nervousness. The 20% doesn't affect you anymore.

[LedHendrix408]

@f50koenigg I completely agree it won't eliminate it permanently. But I don't even feel this exercise will get you 80 % confidence. I would say this might do 30 %, but to reach 80-90 you would have to actually make approaches. In fact, IMO in order to reach the highest amount of confidence you need to try going direct during the day.

[f50koenigg]

@LedHendrix408 AGREE!

[stratocaster1986able]

Idk about anybody else but in Engalnd if you approach a woman on the street as a stranger they will immedietly back off regardless of how nice you are being, they will think you are a serial killer/rapist/mugger. I am being serious.

[marreco167]

@stratocaster1986able Indeed,.

[Speslad]

Sometime i feel it worthless

[Xavygravy]

Perfect method.

[bauuau18]

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[yungtrill420]

Of course, that's called "Pushing your comfort zone". It's derives from the law of "Habituation" that specifically states "A decrease in stimuli after repeated exposure to a certain action". I've done it MANY times, and I don't get nervous as much as I used to, but more like "doubt". I'm already getting over my "Kissing Anxiety". Basically what I do is that after I've spoken to a girl for a bit, I go for the kiss JUST to practice.

[yungtrill420]

If she rejects you, SO THE FUCK WHAT. It's HIGHLY unlikely that she will EVER see you again. It's not like she's going to grab a butchers' knife or a gun and kill you. I don't know WHERE the fear of rejection comes from, but they say it's hardwired to your neurological system since you were little. Like children would want to join a group, but they would be given that social stigma and get rejected. That's my best inference.

[TheArsanist88]

@yungtrill420

your complete lt correct. This is something you either get over or stay with. it's a self-destructive relationship between you and a fallacy.

[702gangsta]

carlos u are the shit!!!! ive been trying to figure out how the hell get over my approach anxiety ima do it and ill let u know if it worked for me

[lifeforce109]

@702gangsta

I'm in a similar place!

how did it go? did you get over it? how

[LedHendrix408]

@702gangsta did it work?

[coverthypnosis]

Nice tips.

[eternalpeacedm]

hi, i´ve made the second step already, so i think that i can make an excercise kind of harder, like making opener opinion or something...and then..make the step 3...just that i didn´t get the "momentum" =S...can you explain me please...because i speak in spanish and sometimes i can´t listen well

[TheArsanist88]

@eternalpeacedm

I get a feeling you should learn to love yourself and practice being thankful for the things you do have. this is easier when you don't care that the negatives are true (the things that discourage us) because you will either change them or accept them. So you see, courage to tackle a big problem can come from something as simple as be grateful.

[iraklispro]

what about opinion or direct opener? ,

thx

[Gouryella91]

whats the scientific reason for AA...Does it have to do with risky behaviour and your amygdala?

[primetimesuspect]

gimme your money

[johnyct9760]

Got your book it helped a lot very sweet!

[pmasta333]

had an awesome on that i did completely by mistake. At the gym i was goin to wipe down the weight bench but i took the spary bottle from the spot it usually is and it was the only one. Wat do you know she was waiting there befuudled like wheres the sprayer. It was like she was waitin for me. And boom, convo and number

[imoretull]

Great stuff. Probably the easiest, step by step way to logically ease anxiety. I would also like to add, maybe the "swish pattern" to "view" the girl as friendly, looking for security/vulnerable (in a good way). Or in other words, a swish pattern to see yourself protecting her, comforting her, talking slow/funny to her. Repeat the swish pattern with this advice and you'll be ultra-calm and be the calm/natural guy women feel comfortable with.

[acebrawler73]

I dig this carlos. Good stuff man.

[Gadget9393]

Sounds good but what do you do when women just ignore you when you simply say hi to them as you pass by? I live in Seattle and this is what happened to me. They all pretty much kept walking without an acknowledgement.

[streetfightermatt]

lol of course a woman is going to ignore you if you walk past her and say hi... wait until a chick is still, and say something cocky and funny

[brn4wrk]

her response to you is irrelevant, unless she hits you with her purse:) wich is not going to happen... the goal of this is to feel comfortable in a situation with a women step by step..even if she says hi back, you can go - sorry i'm in a hurry, but you can leave my your phone number, and well chat later ;)

[Gadget9393]

Interesting. Thanks.

[bones19565]

@Gadget9393 it means you aren't being loud enough. vocal projection is key.

[Gadget9393]

Can you explain & clearify this one a bit further. I'm not quiet and I usually am loud enough for them to hear me.

[imoretull]

You have to firmly believe in all your being that interrupting her is only natural. For example, if it was your baby sister, you wouldn't necessarily take no for answer, but just playful tease her for being impolite. You have to flip the switch and view her almost like a little kid, and no matter what she says, you are comfortable with it and just respond naturally. In other words, if you were the president of the US, interrupting a simple girl like that is no big deal. Perception is the key

[visionimagify]

Gotta' love bitches ah?

[DjKDM7000]

@Gadget9393: Not sure how it goes in Seattle, but I've hear many people who visit Arizona from the east coast say that Arizona is horrible because no one says hi or speaks to each other like they do in the east coast. However, I do have people, especially more women, who do tend to say hi to me, so I have no idea what's going on with Seattle. Now that I think of it, it doesn't make logical sense for me to really be nervous after what I just said, but then again, emotion isn't logical...

[MikkoC]

Most of the puas don't have good tips how to get rid of approach anxiety. These tips are awesome!

[stg230876]

Hey Carlos,

this is a very good advice. I will try this out  tonight!

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[5zerocool]

this is good advice. Its called being "in the groove" and momentum is key here.

[Say0n]

Theres is a point where the AA is incredible painfull, just second before open your mouth... this point is the peak of the AA, it has a limit, it cannot go further or grow... when you cross that peak the axiety goes down permanently...

Dr. Paul

[mrfatd]

my approach anxiety is awfully intense.. i'll try this but i always felt horrible nervous tension approachin and i dont think it can ever go away..

[SubzeroedMind]

Great vid and exercices! I agree, you should just become comfortable with being surrounded by people and talking to them without stress.

[officialdjkash]

i feel the opposite of what you say. you say imagine and opener and dont say it.

once i walk past and let the opportunity slip not saying naything, i feel worse off and feel like kicking myself for not using the opener i came up with on the spot.

so this gets me in a worse state..

[carlosxuma]

You misunderstood - I never said "stare her down." I said make eye contact.

[SmokeyxSniper]

does anyone else think "observing women" IE staring them down before approaching will creep them out?

it seems like it would look predatory

[Orlin81]

Carlos gracias por la tecninca.

Carlos thanks fot the tecnique

[arthurzanoni]

without knowing this stuff it was how i naturally began, exactly in the same way, exactly for the same pheriod...fascinating how the mind works.

[arthurzanoni]

he kicks asses! but ahah he remembers me the guy of Chocolate Rain! AHAHA

[ballin1822]

He's the fucking man

[arthurzanoni]

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hey seriously. I'm improving a lot thanks to all the pua courses, dvd, books etc. Lots of concrete results, but i still have a problem: street. Street is my biggest dream but i can't actually do that. any suggestion?

[standekoster]

Use Eft

and you can do everything

[mannycomforter]

whats eft?

[standekoster]

Emotional freedom technique

it neutralizes any negative emotion you want,search on youtube

Destroy your approach Anxiety

[worldofaddictcraft]

you kick david wygants ass

[luckyvidoes]

Very well said Carlos!

[leopower7]

Thanks! Cool techniques!