you seem to sincerely think that the way you're talking here is straightforward (interesting word choice) and authoritative (another one; implying, among other things, that gays are perceived and perhaps perceive themselves as lacking authority, authority residing with the non-gay establishment). but your sincerity notwithstanding, your talk from the first moment is as thoroughly infused with 'queer' as any i've ever heard. brings to mind the old saying about every man being three men, etc.
I'm not sure how to put this but... I don't really like gay people? If you will? I find most of them think there better then other people. I'm not sure why that's just how I take most of them... They seem cocky...(So to speak) I'm not saying all are like that I just find most of them are in my opinion. One of my friends was gay that I know longer talk to but for example he was chill he you couldn't even tell he was gay. Infact he picked up most of the girls when we would go to clubs.
Few people act the same way they do with one group of friends than they do with another. It doesn't necessarily mean you're being fake: you're still acting as yourself, just different sides of yourself at different times.
It's not about gay lisp or straight talk or anything... it's about controlling the tone on the customer service. ;) It is common to use that on customers service, I even use that tone PTC. :D
Men tolerate girlish behavior from women they want to fuck because they want to fuck them. That is the only reason. It's annoying when anyone behaves like a girl. Even little girls.
This vid isn't that gay at all, even with your chest glowing right in the middle. So I'm not even gonna hate on you like I normally would and say that everyone naturally changes their behaviour depending on whom they speak to. You don't speak with your friend the way you do with your boss, don't you? Same with different genders. And when gay men talk girlish with straight people (or, god forbid, in formal situations), that annoys the hell out of most of them and you will definitely get hated on.
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Mkay, this is an old video but so yeah, I love this. My friend group is pretty evenly split guys and girls. I'm the only gay one, and I definitely talk differently around the guys than around the girls. It isn't stereotypical flaming gay fairy or anything even close to that, but I definitely find myself slipping into some less "straight" inflections. And point two, omg I totally am also secretly convinced that like a whole tribe of guys is gay (and I kinda hope some of them are ;D).
Lol I have the same vacuum I wanna give u a mustach ride no I'm not gay I'm bi no I'm straight I like girls no I like booottthhhhhhh I'd rather talk to a girl then a guy
I'm bi and I completely understand. A bit sad you didn't talk about Bi people XD.
anyway, back to the comment...
I like muffins. No. WAIT!
A lot of straight guys flirt with each other, so generally, they get very good with sounding gay on purpose because they do it so much. It's a way guys compliment eachother without sounding gay. "Nice biceps" out of the blue kinda creeps straight guys out coming from another guy, but "AHMAHGAWD, GIRL! Nice Biceps!" doesn't. Confuses the hell out of me.
Talk how you feel comfortable and dont care what any one els thinks and talk how you want infront of your friends if they are your friends then they wont care how you talk and if they dont likehow you are then they wer never really your true friends wer they .Oh and when you was talking why was there two diffarent kirby vacuums infront of the door lol. Nice talking to you
You are walking on egg-shells, but it's impossible not to these days. I know a guy who speaks and gesticulates really "gay" or feminine. he's straight and very male in his activites and all that, but everyone thinks he's gay... Then there's me, no one has ever assumed I was gay and everyone treats me like mr. macho. I'm gay and I was raised with only women, but it doesn't seem to have affected my speech much. I would love to know how I sound, lol :p
Im a girl (no duh) but whenever im around my "girlfriends" i speak all deep and unnatural. Its embaressing cause they notice, but when im around my "guyfriends" I speak normal. I agree its interesting the way people speak and act in front of certaint people. hmmm.
My friends dont know that im super bi leaning gay.But sometimes when we drink and get loose my feminen side comes out and it can get some weird looks and then I realize whats happening and have to stop.This really sucks and It would be nice just to be who I really am,a guy who likes girls and who really like guys.
Yes, I understand what he's saying. What my response is saying is I'm glad that I am just who I am and do not have to change for ANYONE......Everyone nchanges certain mannerisms from group to group....even myself, but I'm never so far off that I have to worry about n"slipping":...then again who knows maybe I sound nlike a nbig ole queen and just think I sound more masculine....want to call me and gtell me what you think?????.....lol
Hey well im gay and in trying to be open about it lile its obvious after you get to know me but i want ppl to like know. Prob is ive got like the deepest voice in the school. Haha MSG me? Thanks
it's because you're not just gay, you're more than your 'sexual' orientation, and your gender is simply fluid. That's why you don't go ''ahh' and 'eeh' and occasionally pull back.
When people say "embrace a gay side" usually it's another way of saying embrace your psychological side, your gender-bending side. (usually, the 'other' gender for a masculine/male guy).
Personally, I don't get the whole thing. I talk the way I talk to anyone, maybe with my B/F in bed, I might sound a bit different sometimes, cause my defenses are down. But I generally feel like I talk the way I do because that's who I am. I don't change from person to person or group to group. Even my wife hates the whole put on gay voice and attributes
@hotrodbod1 "Put on gay voice and attributes"? He and commenters here are talking about putting on a 'straight' (masculine) voice through learned fear of letting their natural 'gay voice' out, not the other way round. There's no stigma attached to men sounding masculine, hence you can't understand changing your voice: you've not grown up to feel self-conscious about how you seem to certain people. Many feminine boys, gay and straight learn to 'butch up' to avoid harassment from other males.
It's funny how worried you are about offending people, but it's true all that your saying, especially seeing as you point out that there are loads of exceptions.
It's a bit weird just how much you managed to sound like that certain type of girl there - but only on purpose at least.
i defintely do the same when im around straight guys...idk why i feel the need to tone down "the gay" but i catch myself doing it a lot...most likely its because i live in hicksville, but its not like they dont im gay...its wierd ya idk
Gay people speak like girls because they feel like girls they relate to them. gay guys look for men because its a something lagging in their life. the dominate male influence is low which results in sexual desire for men. Case solved.
I found this massively entertaining because I have been thinking the same thing for the longest time. I think the speech change (which is something I do too) is just part of a want to fit in or maybe just not stick out so much. I am also the same as you on the other end of that spectrum. My girlfriends describe it as me turning my flame up (similar to a gas stove). I find it hilarious.
I also agree that the way in which we all speak is extremely interesting! I personally believe that the way we speak and the intonations of our speech depends greatly upon the nature of our body. For instance the level of the hormones within out body and the nature of our minds (if that makes any type of sensibility). Anyway, as you stated, it is difficult to judge someone solely on the way that person speaks because everyone talks in one way or another.
WOO! I'm loving your channel. Your topics are great and plus you talk smoothly and you make me feel relaxed and entertained. And, yes, it's true people tend to change their voices depending on the place they are and the people they're meeting, and one will also mimic the generalized idea of speaking attached to the circumstance. Ohw well, then sometimes you get to see people exaggerating in the way they talk or so, but it could be you just have a different idea on how you would act if it were u.
"Jack from Will and Grace" is what I use instead of "girly".
Have you noticed that your behaviours and mannerisms have generally changed since coming out, aside from the obvious openly dating and expressing interest in guys?
When I'm around straight people, I find I have to restrain my idiolect. It's true that I like the sound of the word "fabulous" (shape of its spelling as well) but I can't say it around some of my straight friends. They get creeped out.
I totally agree with what you're saying and I hope you didn't offend anyone. To get scienc-y, what your talking about is called linguistic convergence and I think it just has to do with wanting to fit in more than any sort of insecurity or shame with our identities. Anyway, very interesting topic. Thanks Jared.
@miamlarda As a linguist, and one who specifically studies language contact, I just want to make a minor correction to your statement :) Language Convergence is a phenomenon that acts over groups who speak different languages, that live with and are in contact with each other. What Jared is referring to is simply social register shifting. Sorry to be picky :)
If you are mostly like what is presented here in your videos, then I'd quickly become a loyal friend to you. Wow, I just read that back and it does come across as rather creepily obsessive.
Voices are confusing. It's hard to talk about them without sounding like you're stereotyping. I'm friends with a straight, married guy in his early 40s and you would swear he was gay. He has a strong lisp, a feminine, high voice, and what you would consider "gay" mannerisms (lots of wrist action, drama, you get the idea).
Speaking of the way people talk, you should do a video about the way teens (esp. girls) text or type now. Omgggg theyyy loveee tackinggg onnn extraaa letterssss likeee thiss!
haha, dude i can totally relate to what ur sayin... most my friends are straight guys and yeah, this whole thing about talking gay or straight, I'm totally aware of it when I talk. ... at least sometimes, or most the time, I dunno ;D
great video, you're right the change in accents is interesting and most often just natural. i came to ny when i was 5 from india, i remember speaking (english) to my parents at home with one accent and when i went to school another more 'american' accent would naturally come out. i think we just adapt to our surroundings without realizing it.
now madonna having a british accent as soon as she moved there, well that's just whack ;)
i've met alot of lesbians who talk like their trying to sound ghetto, seriously? why would anyone purposfully speak that way? i have an annoyingly high voice, i kinda sound like a kid i think, but i dont talk girly...i dont think, but when i get upset my voice goes up really high and makes a squeaking sound...that'll bring in the ladies, lol
My voice changes depending on my mood and who I'm speaking too. So does my laugh, for some reason. When I'm around really close friends or family, I have a really obnoxious "teehee" laugh, as opposed to... around less close friends or... specific occasions around close friends I sort of... guffaw.
realy? I'm gay and I'm usualy more jolly and open twards straight men (in a bro sort of way) when I'm with females I'm more dip-shit and critical ... and other gay guys ... ehhh ... they make me nervious ... xP lol
You are so awesome:) I'm really quite the same in the way that I speak to girls versus guys. Around guys, I tend to talk more plainly and about stuff that I know will interest them, whereas with girls I tend to be able to talk about stuff like Lady Gaga, musicals etc in a more passionate way. I don't think that means I'm putting on a facade. It's just that while I'm very good friends with these guys, there's no point in talking to them about stuff that doesn't interest them.
I used to wonder about the gay guy voice & the answer is pretty graphic. When guys are with guys & they stretch certain parts of their body, it pushes upwards against the diaphragm & lungs, compressing the air space available, resulting in a higher pitch voice, much like smaller cords in a piano make a higher note then a longer one. This only happens from A LOT of continued pressure & the change is extremely gradual.
Sorry for the long comment, but there's your answer!
Not a huge issue to change your voice or behavior to reflect your environment or company you are with. It's called mirroring and is done all the time, consciously or not.
Have you ever found yourself talking with a southern accent when speaking to a southerner for an extended period of time? Or starting to sound a bit british when talking to your fave lad in London?
Well that's a little bit of the same with a bit or group dynamics mixed in...
I think the way a person speaks is what they do not who they are. As you said about boys speaking like girls- it's just what they are doing not who they are!
keep up the good vlogging very interesting at times
in a girl voice >> (omg shut up this relates to me soo much) man voice (yeah dude i hear ya) HAHAH but for real this is interesting to think of. very true. stay sexy
Jared- I totally agree with you. When I speak, most times it is with a masculine sensibilty. Then when I get around people who know I am gay the "queen" comes out in me (which can be fun.) How come your picture is not up under staff on the Showcase website. I totally love my 09 Orange Fit Sport. Honda rocks.
this is a great video...something i think about a lot. as a black person, i am well aware of how i speak (it's been said that i don't have a "black" voice, and i'm pretty okay with that). i think most of us have our different voices or tones, and it's just a natural thing. however, it doesn't stop me for being almost paranoid about the way i talk in certain situations.
I have been told that I don't sound gay but when I tried to put up my own videos they sounded so gay that I deleted them. I don't think your voice sounds gay. Nice chest and really cute vacuum cleaner.
I think everyone does that. I do at least. We all have a character that we must play around certain people. I feel it to be as interesting as you do. I've always thought the same thing, and seriously had discussions on it with others. That's one of those "lunchtime discussions''. It's cool to get everyone's viewpoint on this idea that we talk differently around others.
I have a phone voice too but only when I'm talking to people who I don't know well.
I vary my tone when talking with friends a lot ;P Especially when its sarcasm or something similar I will lower my voice or make it higher and lots of different things, I cant really remember now I think about it ;P
I'm a gay guy with a particularly deep kind of monotonous voice. Most people consider the way I speak to be very proper, but when I'm around actual posh people they remind me words ending in an E sound I pronounce very deep. But I will admit that when I see a cute guy I become a lot more chatty and authoratative, but I can do a kind of raspy surfer guy/rockstar voice when I'm with friends just for fun.
I don't think masculinity and feminity have anything to do with sexuality. Like you said you have gay and straight men and women whose voices are on a whole spectrum of tones and pitches. Keep making vids like this I enjoy watching them <3
i know i definitely have my phone voice, and my talking to grandma on the phone voice... dunno about other voices... but people have said that i sometimes slip in and out of an australian/south african accent ... weird :D:S
I do that too, sometimes I talk quite "girly" but most of the time it's normal,like my voice is just w/e, and when Im around different groups of friends I tend to talk a bit differently too but I can't help it xP, it's just what happens and how my voice and its tone come out xD
You have an awesome phone voice btw xD if I talked to you over the phone, even if I didn't know what you looked like or anything at all I would be like ">.> this guy is pretty awesome and super nice..."
I think most of this change comes from what one has in common with a certain group. When I hang out with my Political Science friends, I speak more intellectually because we're often addressing politics. When I'm with my clubbing friends, I talk with strange voices and leave out the intellect. Changing with different groups of people doesn't mean that one isn't being his/her true self. That person is being a different part of his/her self. We are all multi-faceted in our personality traits.
I find that I, involuntarily, change vocabulary and accents depending on which group I'm with. If I'm with my family for example, I speak like the northern Luxembourg dialect that I was brought up with and if I'm with friends, only 20 miles further south I speak with the southern Luxembourg accent. It's really weird when both groups meet and I suddenly become conscious of how I switch between the two. I don't think I change my mannerisms a lot, but my 'groups' are quite similar to each other.
lol the way i talk, and i hate thats its different, actually depends on who i'm talking to. gender is usually irrelevant. It totally depends on how well I know the person and the relationship we have. ya. <3
No dude I get you. I'm not "girly" but i am gay. So I TOTALLY get you. I'm in highschool but I teach acting classes. Like you I have my Job voice. (phone voice) or for me my (teacher voice) Which is different from everything else! I have my more manly guy voice and my less manly voice.....yea. I feel you man =P
Lulz, I still think it is funny that you live so near me! We like should like totally go shoppppiiiiinnngg!!!!!! Hahaha, if I had any money, that would be cool. Are you more near PV or Fashion Square?
I know what you are talking about because my straight friends have asked me why I don't talk like a gay guy. I really am not sure why people have these weird stereotypes I think people are just people and if you like a person it should not matter how they talk. I also think its normal to change how you talk around different people.
People talk how they talk. The problem is gender expecttions and some people don't expect other people to break those kinds of expectations. And besides that it's only natural the way we talk changes with the people we are with, all our behaver is situational and dependent on context, so why would speach be any different?
I do the same thing! like i'm all "guy" like when i'm around my straight guy friends. PLUS speaking to you on Skype, i've seen you speak very up and down. it's awesome! <3
OH and YOU'RE VACUUM changed suddenly.
i'm gonna ask you next time we chat and see how i talk. haha.
Well I just think you are who you are and you talk the way you talk. I notice myself changing up my talk all the time but most of the time it is kind of hard to change the way I talk because I'm very country!
Take care and stay safe!
Oh yeah I have a big crush on you so anything you do I like so there!
I'm trying to pay attention to what you're saying but I'm totally distracted by your man cleavage (RAWR!!) Seriously, though, I've noticed that I have a work voice, a mom&dad voice, and a "normal" voice I use with friends.
I'm a gay male who confuses the gay stereotype because I am nothing like the stereotype and I sound nothing like it either. That also helps when I don't want people to know.
I agree that people speak differently around different people.......but what if you happen to meet up with both guys and girls at the same time, then do you behave somewhere in between? hmM....
Great you said that, I was just fighting with it in me for some time . trying to speak to anybody in the same way, but then it wasn´t always me and yup, I was also feeling like I´m betraying myself (have to prove something) and acting pose t be super straight.
So, no more fighting, diversification (based on different people) is the way!
My boyfriend slags me for having a "taxi driver" voice-its when we're getting a taxi and my accent gets more "working class" (for want of a better phrase). I have a very sexy phone voice as well I have been told :)
yer its like you said, people change their voices for so many things. The way i talk around my family is different to the way i talk to my friends and within my group of friends, i have different ways of talking if you know what i mean. Vocabulary is also a huge part of how i talk. sort of like the formal and unformal thing if you know what i mean,
LMAO I love this video. I always notice how people talk, I love noticing how people fluctuate the tone of their voice. One thing I ALWAYS notice with a lot of the guys I know is how differently they talk with their guy friends than with their girl friends. But normally I just like looking for accents cos I'm weird like that. :p
Everyone, myself too, change our voices to fit a situation for 2 reasons. 1-fear of rejection from the person, persons we are talking to. 2- we must talk a certain way doing business, talking with friends, with strangers, our peers, our fellow employees and so on. It's true, if we watch ourselves, we act like actors on a stage most of our day without giving any thought to it.
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you seem to sincerely think that the way you're talking here is straightforward (interesting word choice) and authoritative (another one; implying, among other things, that gays are perceived and perhaps perceive themselves as lacking authority, authority residing with the non-gay establishment). but your sincerity notwithstanding, your talk from the first moment is as thoroughly infused with 'queer' as any i've ever heard. brings to mind the old saying about every man being three men, etc.
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I'm not sure how to put this but... I don't really like gay people? If you will? I find most of them think there better then other people. I'm not sure why that's just how I take most of them... They seem cocky...(So to speak) I'm not saying all are like that I just find most of them are in my opinion. One of my friends was gay that I know longer talk to but for example he was chill he you couldn't even tell he was gay. Infact he picked up most of the girls when we would go to clubs.
TekTut0rials 1 month ago
Few people act the same way they do with one group of friends than they do with another. It doesn't necessarily mean you're being fake: you're still acting as yourself, just different sides of yourself at different times.
amen4me 2 months ago
It's not about gay lisp or straight talk or anything... it's about controlling the tone on the customer service. ;) It is common to use that on customers service, I even use that tone PTC. :D
TheBrazenHell 2 months ago
The vacuum in the back; SOON
atrophy669 3 months ago
Men tolerate girlish behavior from women they want to fuck because they want to fuck them. That is the only reason. It's annoying when anyone behaves like a girl. Even little girls.
msa1985 4 months ago
If you called me in your work voice I would throw myself at you over the phone.
tooblanktofunction 6 months ago
XD you are so funny and your so right.
SuperSpecialWorld 7 months ago
This vid isn't that gay at all, even with your chest glowing right in the middle. So I'm not even gonna hate on you like I normally would and say that everyone naturally changes their behaviour depending on whom they speak to. You don't speak with your friend the way you do with your boss, don't you? Same with different genders. And when gay men talk girlish with straight people (or, god forbid, in formal situations), that annoys the hell out of most of them and you will definitely get hated on.
VictorSobakus 8 months ago
You are awesome!!
C1I1N2 8 months ago
This Guy Is Like Totally Awesome ... Please Make More Videos !!! You're A Cute Guy That's Not Afraid To Express Your feelings ...... I'm a Straight Female
Msundertaker14 9 months ago
Put a damn shirt on, that looks so gay.
GuyWithBluePoop 9 months ago
Mkay, this is an old video but so yeah, I love this. My friend group is pretty evenly split guys and girls. I'm the only gay one, and I definitely talk differently around the guys than around the girls. It isn't stereotypical flaming gay fairy or anything even close to that, but I definitely find myself slipping into some less "straight" inflections. And point two, omg I totally am also secretly convinced that like a whole tribe of guys is gay (and I kinda hope some of them are ;D).
steelvenom2003 10 months ago
Lol I have the same vacuum I wanna give u a mustach ride no I'm not gay I'm bi no I'm straight I like girls no I like booottthhhhhhh I'd rather talk to a girl then a guy
WoundedCallMedic1980 10 months ago
That made me realize that I too have a 'phone voice'. Mine is kinda creepy though. Anyway, great vid, I just subscribed ._.
meandhitme 1 year ago 2
Omg I love you your freaking awesome. : D <3
haleyguigger 1 year ago
I'm bi and I completely understand. A bit sad you didn't talk about Bi people XD.
anyway, back to the comment...
I like muffins. No. WAIT!
A lot of straight guys flirt with each other, so generally, they get very good with sounding gay on purpose because they do it so much. It's a way guys compliment eachother without sounding gay. "Nice biceps" out of the blue kinda creeps straight guys out coming from another guy, but "AHMAHGAWD, GIRL! Nice Biceps!" doesn't. Confuses the hell out of me.
Faceacerawr 1 year ago
you're good at talking :)
y0ich1 1 year ago
Talk how you feel comfortable and dont care what any one els thinks and talk how you want infront of your friends if they are your friends then they wont care how you talk and if they dont likehow you are then they wer never really your true friends wer they .Oh and when you was talking why was there two diffarent kirby vacuums infront of the door lol. Nice talking to you
azza7145 1 year ago
You are walking on egg-shells, but it's impossible not to these days. I know a guy who speaks and gesticulates really "gay" or feminine. he's straight and very male in his activites and all that, but everyone thinks he's gay... Then there's me, no one has ever assumed I was gay and everyone treats me like mr. macho. I'm gay and I was raised with only women, but it doesn't seem to have affected my speech much. I would love to know how I sound, lol :p
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hey I got to tell you same thing YOU ARE A FUCKEN GAY ASS BITTH OH I DON`T KNOW HOW YOU GAY`S LIVE YOU ARE SO NASTY :P
hannahwesberry 1 year ago
Love the vacuum in the background. (:
QueeroCheerio 1 year ago
Im a girl (no duh) but whenever im around my "girlfriends" i speak all deep and unnatural. Its embaressing cause they notice, but when im around my "guyfriends" I speak normal. I agree its interesting the way people speak and act in front of certaint people. hmmm.
iambehindcloseddoors 1 year ago
My friends dont know that im super bi leaning gay.But sometimes when we drink and get loose my feminen side comes out and it can get some weird looks and then I realize whats happening and have to stop.This really sucks and It would be nice just to be who I really am,a guy who likes girls and who really like guys.
biwon 1 year ago
Yes, I understand what he's saying. What my response is saying is I'm glad that I am just who I am and do not have to change for ANYONE......Everyone nchanges certain mannerisms from group to group....even myself, but I'm never so far off that I have to worry about n"slipping":...then again who knows maybe I sound nlike a nbig ole queen and just think I sound more masculine....want to call me and gtell me what you think?????.....lol
hotrodbod1 1 year ago
602, so you live in Arizona? (yeah, I stalked you).
EmberflyLayouts 1 year ago
Deng, I really like this video, yeah it happens to me too
chefseb29 1 year ago
Hey well im gay and in trying to be open about it lile its obvious after you get to know me but i want ppl to like know. Prob is ive got like the deepest voice in the school. Haha MSG me? Thanks
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nmesla 1 year ago
It was so nice of you to stop your vacuuming to make this video!
rosselliot 1 year ago
That´s your video where you´re sexier.
BaulerRicardo 1 year ago
Very Interesting! Funny you have a vacuum in the background! I was just taking a break in vacuuming to look at this video!
Janice327 1 year ago
does anybody else think he high...?
averagehippie 1 year ago
being gay forguys is sexy!!!!!
slimcheyenne 1 year ago
it's because you're not just gay, you're more than your 'sexual' orientation, and your gender is simply fluid. That's why you don't go ''ahh' and 'eeh' and occasionally pull back.
When people say "embrace a gay side" usually it's another way of saying embrace your psychological side, your gender-bending side. (usually, the 'other' gender for a masculine/male guy).
GeoTrans89 1 year ago
Personally, I don't get the whole thing. I talk the way I talk to anyone, maybe with my B/F in bed, I might sound a bit different sometimes, cause my defenses are down. But I generally feel like I talk the way I do because that's who I am. I don't change from person to person or group to group. Even my wife hates the whole put on gay voice and attributes
hotrodbod1 1 year ago
@hotrodbod1 "Put on gay voice and attributes"? He and commenters here are talking about putting on a 'straight' (masculine) voice through learned fear of letting their natural 'gay voice' out, not the other way round. There's no stigma attached to men sounding masculine, hence you can't understand changing your voice: you've not grown up to feel self-conscious about how you seem to certain people. Many feminine boys, gay and straight learn to 'butch up' to avoid harassment from other males.
optifog 1 year ago
you're so dapper and smooth lol it's epic
trumpetgirl5 1 year ago
I love your videos! I need to post some of mine.
amaraca 1 year ago
while watching this video, i keep trying to look at you, but i can't stop looking at the vacuum. lol
argarius 1 year ago
It's funny how worried you are about offending people, but it's true all that your saying, especially seeing as you point out that there are loads of exceptions.
It's a bit weird just how much you managed to sound like that certain type of girl there - but only on purpose at least.
221chris 1 year ago
You basically say voice dont have to be an indicative of sexual orientation...
But you say boys with delicate voices are secretly gay (or you secretly think they're gay) and thats a complete contradiction to the fact
JansRox 1 year ago
im a girl and i have a kind of boyish voice. expect when im tired. when im tired its high and preppy-like. =P
TrueLifeification 1 year ago
Yeah... you know those gay guys who are always saying 'hey, hello'. :P
nawffoh 1 year ago
Why is your Vacuum cleaner always in the background?
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Do gay boys mimic girls, or do girls mimic gay guys? I read its girls mimicking gay guys.
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Enquiring Minds Want to Know.
blueboyblue 1 year ago
I firmly believe that deep in your heart, you are an old biddy lady.
ellhorn 1 year ago 11
omfg in my videos i notice i have a gay lisp
now im paranoid if i talk like that all the time
january91994 1 year ago
Why is your vacuum out?
Xaraxm 1 year ago
i defintely do the same when im around straight guys...idk why i feel the need to tone down "the gay" but i catch myself doing it a lot...most likely its because i live in hicksville, but its not like they dont im gay...its wierd ya idk
tjshowbound 1 year ago
Would have never thought you were gay
blynbb 1 year ago
@blynbb Which means you're straight.....
Xaraxm 1 year ago
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Gay people speak like girls because they feel like girls they relate to them. gay guys look for men because its a something lagging in their life. the dominate male influence is low which results in sexual desire for men. Case solved.
Joey2Tube 1 year ago
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Joey2Tube 1 year ago
you have an old man feel.. ?Do you hang around old people?
Joey2Tube 1 year ago
you say "like" a lot.
gameboyoutoob 1 year ago
602!! w00t w00t Phoenix : )
I was actually back down there for spring break last week, but I didn't see you. Maybe next time.
danishguyky 1 year ago
I found this massively entertaining because I have been thinking the same thing for the longest time. I think the speech change (which is something I do too) is just part of a want to fit in or maybe just not stick out so much. I am also the same as you on the other end of that spectrum. My girlfriends describe it as me turning my flame up (similar to a gas stove). I find it hilarious.
apostolicguy89 1 year ago
Just saying, I used my insane creeper skills to find out the number to your work place.
TTTMMRMLewis 1 year ago
I also agree that the way in which we all speak is extremely interesting! I personally believe that the way we speak and the intonations of our speech depends greatly upon the nature of our body. For instance the level of the hormones within out body and the nature of our minds (if that makes any type of sensibility). Anyway, as you stated, it is difficult to judge someone solely on the way that person speaks because everyone talks in one way or another.
TheKalebKouture 1 year ago
My voice inflection usually changes when I talk to elderly people.. I wonder what that says about me.
doppimus 1 year ago
WOO! I'm loving your channel. Your topics are great and plus you talk smoothly and you make me feel relaxed and entertained. And, yes, it's true people tend to change their voices depending on the place they are and the people they're meeting, and one will also mimic the generalized idea of speaking attached to the circumstance. Ohw well, then sometimes you get to see people exaggerating in the way they talk or so, but it could be you just have a different idea on how you would act if it were u.
pedromauricio 1 year ago
I like that there are vacuum cleaner ads popping up for this video. Maybe Oreck can cut you a deal?
schmoe56789 1 year ago
"Jack from Will and Grace" is what I use instead of "girly".
Have you noticed that your behaviours and mannerisms have generally changed since coming out, aside from the obvious openly dating and expressing interest in guys?
When I'm around straight people, I find I have to restrain my idiolect. It's true that I like the sound of the word "fabulous" (shape of its spelling as well) but I can't say it around some of my straight friends. They get creeped out.
theflamingpi 1 year ago
I totally agree with what you're saying and I hope you didn't offend anyone. To get scienc-y, what your talking about is called linguistic convergence and I think it just has to do with wanting to fit in more than any sort of insecurity or shame with our identities. Anyway, very interesting topic. Thanks Jared.
miamlarda 1 year ago
@miamlarda As a linguist, and one who specifically studies language contact, I just want to make a minor correction to your statement :) Language Convergence is a phenomenon that acts over groups who speak different languages, that live with and are in contact with each other. What Jared is referring to is simply social register shifting. Sorry to be picky :)
weskos 1 year ago
If you are mostly like what is presented here in your videos, then I'd quickly become a loyal friend to you. Wow, I just read that back and it does come across as rather creepily obsessive.
tht2323 1 year ago
That vacuum saw getting closer and closer......LOOK OUT!!!
GForceNinja 1 year ago
VACUUM. <3 What did you end up naming it.
I quite enjoyed this video.
tagalicious2789 1 year ago
Aww, you're so cute! *hugs*
evildanger 1 year ago
Flip those last 2 lines *Comment FAIL*
KoolCordell 1 year ago
yeah that would be creapy
"Hi is Jared from youtube there?"
".......I'm sorry who?"
"You know Jared Pickthiscar?"
".......Are you calling about a customer?"
"............." *hangs up*
I completely agree with you on the voices i do it a lot around people I like.
That would be Super awkward.
KoolCordell 1 year ago
Voices are confusing. It's hard to talk about them without sounding like you're stereotyping. I'm friends with a straight, married guy in his early 40s and you would swear he was gay. He has a strong lisp, a feminine, high voice, and what you would consider "gay" mannerisms (lots of wrist action, drama, you get the idea).
Speaking of the way people talk, you should do a video about the way teens (esp. girls) text or type now. Omgggg theyyy loveee tackinggg onnn extraaa letterssss likeee thiss!
ryansmith83 1 year ago
Haha i do that too but im th inbetween part and same with my friends too. (:
theclaybird 1 year ago
ha you have my username as norcalvlogs lol(in the tags)
NORCALVLOG 1 year ago
oh my!
PickThisCar 1 year ago
i suppose voices could reflect how your feeling, often people go high pitched if they are nervous, i tend to go super posh dunno why though...
MZRCful 1 year ago
haha, dude i can totally relate to what ur sayin... most my friends are straight guys and yeah, this whole thing about talking gay or straight, I'm totally aware of it when I talk. ... at least sometimes, or most the time, I dunno ;D
Linu86 1 year ago
great video, you're right the change in accents is interesting and most often just natural. i came to ny when i was 5 from india, i remember speaking (english) to my parents at home with one accent and when i went to school another more 'american' accent would naturally come out. i think we just adapt to our surroundings without realizing it.
now madonna having a british accent as soon as she moved there, well that's just whack ;)
ajaydurani 1 year ago
i've met alot of lesbians who talk like their trying to sound ghetto, seriously? why would anyone purposfully speak that way? i have an annoyingly high voice, i kinda sound like a kid i think, but i dont talk girly...i dont think, but when i get upset my voice goes up really high and makes a squeaking sound...that'll bring in the ladies, lol
DarkRainbow2007 1 year ago
is that an ancient Kirby vacuum in the background lol
XxTennisFan001xX 1 year ago
straight guys who you think are gay would be a good video
SimpIyRoxen 1 year ago
that vacuum cleaner looks like the type my aunt has. hers is 25+ yrs old. those things were built like a tank back then.
pliepl 1 year ago
My voice changes depending on my mood and who I'm speaking too. So does my laugh, for some reason. When I'm around really close friends or family, I have a really obnoxious "teehee" laugh, as opposed to... around less close friends or... specific occasions around close friends I sort of... guffaw.
Kezzybob 1 year ago
my voice messes with people :)
it depends on my mood :)
CRAIGPLAGUEX 1 year ago
LoL, the "that's awesome, yeah, yay!" that's so true lol. I'm with you 100%
focking42 1 year ago
Make another video about straight guys who you think are gay! I have one of those.
Sco6014 1 year ago
realy? I'm gay and I'm usualy more jolly and open twards straight men (in a bro sort of way) when I'm with females I'm more dip-shit and critical ... and other gay guys ... ehhh ... they make me nervious ... xP lol
MoNzTeR969 1 year ago
You are so awesome:) I'm really quite the same in the way that I speak to girls versus guys. Around guys, I tend to talk more plainly and about stuff that I know will interest them, whereas with girls I tend to be able to talk about stuff like Lady Gaga, musicals etc in a more passionate way. I don't think that means I'm putting on a facade. It's just that while I'm very good friends with these guys, there's no point in talking to them about stuff that doesn't interest them.
Love your work :)
leida001 1 year ago
WARNING GRAPHIC COMMENT!
I used to wonder about the gay guy voice & the answer is pretty graphic. When guys are with guys & they stretch certain parts of their body, it pushes upwards against the diaphragm & lungs, compressing the air space available, resulting in a higher pitch voice, much like smaller cords in a piano make a higher note then a longer one. This only happens from A LOT of continued pressure & the change is extremely gradual.
Sorry for the long comment, but there's your answer!
Uassked4it 1 year ago
Not a huge issue to change your voice or behavior to reflect your environment or company you are with. It's called mirroring and is done all the time, consciously or not.
Have you ever found yourself talking with a southern accent when speaking to a southerner for an extended period of time? Or starting to sound a bit british when talking to your fave lad in London?
Well that's a little bit of the same with a bit or group dynamics mixed in...
You sound LOVELY no matter what...
<3 <3 <3
AuntieMamiesBlog 1 year ago
proving your masculinity in front of the other men has nothing to do with sexuality ;)
smithydll 1 year ago
I think the way a person speaks is what they do not who they are. As you said about boys speaking like girls- it's just what they are doing not who they are!
keep up the good vlogging very interesting at times
pogsick 1 year ago
Very well expressed, and yes its common for people to adjust their behavior based on the people around them.
Also: 1) What is up with those huge basketballs?
2) I miss the 'cello.
robertbangkok 1 year ago
in a girl voice >> (omg shut up this relates to me soo much) man voice (yeah dude i hear ya) HAHAH but for real this is interesting to think of. very true. stay sexy
edhernan534 1 year ago
well ur voice is probably more restrained around guys to not intimidate them and to sound more relatable since they are straight and all macho.
Eyesiq 1 year ago
"Hey, this is Jared and..." (oooooh he's not wearing a shirt, yummm) <what happened in my mind when the video started
Eyesiq 1 year ago 7
i love your "girly" voice
shelselovering 1 year ago
Jared- I totally agree with you. When I speak, most times it is with a masculine sensibilty. Then when I get around people who know I am gay the "queen" comes out in me (which can be fun.) How come your picture is not up under staff on the Showcase website. I totally love my 09 Orange Fit Sport. Honda rocks.
Blueaveo3568 1 year ago
So far I've never seen those two vacuums in the same room together. For all I know it could be a Superman/Clark Kent sort of deal.
weskos 1 year ago
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COOLEST VACUUM CLEANER EVER!!!
STAUBSAUGER!!!
I have the same thing about the voice thing.
hanger77 1 year ago
COOLEST VACUUM CLEANER EVER!!!
STAUBSAUGER!!!
I have the same voice thing.
hanger77 1 year ago
Hell Yeah. That is an awesome Vacuum Cleaner in the background. Where did you get it?
Voice thing: Same here.
hanger77 1 year ago
Jared, I love you! Haha, and don't forget... I'm always watching you! ;)
whysoserious34 1 year ago
LOL I so do the same thing too xD
I like how u did the "girly" voice and I know you probably heard this before but loveee your voice hehe
LoLoGirl404 1 year ago
what song was that?
Raych260 1 year ago
Love your video. Cool...
Counselorrob 1 year ago
wibble =)
rebelred1001 1 year ago
this is a great video...something i think about a lot. as a black person, i am well aware of how i speak (it's been said that i don't have a "black" voice, and i'm pretty okay with that). i think most of us have our different voices or tones, and it's just a natural thing. however, it doesn't stop me for being almost paranoid about the way i talk in certain situations.
dontyoudar 1 year ago
It's a sociological thing, everyone alters their speech patterns and even how they inflect their voice depending on their company. :D
namesRhard1 1 year ago
I have been told that I don't sound gay but when I tried to put up my own videos they sounded so gay that I deleted them. I don't think your voice sounds gay. Nice chest and really cute vacuum cleaner.
curnon69 1 year ago
omg i do the exact same thing!!!
selness10 1 year ago
I like you.
thatguyulike 1 year ago
I think everyone does that. I do at least. We all have a character that we must play around certain people. I feel it to be as interesting as you do. I've always thought the same thing, and seriously had discussions on it with others. That's one of those "lunchtime discussions''. It's cool to get everyone's viewpoint on this idea that we talk differently around others.
brotherman154 1 year ago
I have a phone voice too but only when I'm talking to people who I don't know well.
I vary my tone when talking with friends a lot ;P Especially when its sarcasm or something similar I will lower my voice or make it higher and lots of different things, I cant really remember now I think about it ;P
RandomNameName 1 year ago
Oh great, now you have me self conscious about the way I talk to everyone. Thanks a lot Mr. Montgomery.
Agriking 1 year ago
I'm a gay guy with a particularly deep kind of monotonous voice. Most people consider the way I speak to be very proper, but when I'm around actual posh people they remind me words ending in an E sound I pronounce very deep. But I will admit that when I see a cute guy I become a lot more chatty and authoratative, but I can do a kind of raspy surfer guy/rockstar voice when I'm with friends just for fun.
MrTwentington 1 year ago
Hi i think you are completely right, it is wired , i do the same thing. My voice becomes higher when I'm around girls and more masculine around guys
(when i came out none of my male friends believed me)
cool vlog
oferarubas 1 year ago
I don't think masculinity and feminity have anything to do with sexuality. Like you said you have gay and straight men and women whose voices are on a whole spectrum of tones and pitches. Keep making vids like this I enjoy watching them <3
danthmn 1 year ago
i know i definitely have my phone voice, and my talking to grandma on the phone voice... dunno about other voices... but people have said that i sometimes slip in and out of an australian/south african accent ... weird :D:S
OMGitsSeppie 1 year ago
i love your vacuum cleaner... it's like your sidekick :P
OMGitsSeppie 1 year ago
602? you live in my same area code... weird
21lifeflux 1 year ago
I do that too, sometimes I talk quite "girly" but most of the time it's normal,like my voice is just w/e, and when Im around different groups of friends I tend to talk a bit differently too but I can't help it xP, it's just what happens and how my voice and its tone come out xD
You have an awesome phone voice btw xD if I talked to you over the phone, even if I didn't know what you looked like or anything at all I would be like ">.> this guy is pretty awesome and super nice..."
cautionMCRfan 1 year ago
Yes that sounds very foresty. I imagined an RPG game, if you were in a forest then that's what the music would sound like.
DarkTrunksGeorgeSim 1 year ago
I think most of this change comes from what one has in common with a certain group. When I hang out with my Political Science friends, I speak more intellectually because we're often addressing politics. When I'm with my clubbing friends, I talk with strange voices and leave out the intellect. Changing with different groups of people doesn't mean that one isn't being his/her true self. That person is being a different part of his/her self. We are all multi-faceted in our personality traits.
apophisrah 1 year ago
I think everyone does change their voice depending on the situation and what kind of environment you are at. Human instinct I guess. :]
ericos 1 year ago
I do it with out if thinking about it.
when around my straight friends i am more straight, around gay friends more myself.
Texasred63 1 year ago
I find that I, involuntarily, change vocabulary and accents depending on which group I'm with. If I'm with my family for example, I speak like the northern Luxembourg dialect that I was brought up with and if I'm with friends, only 20 miles further south I speak with the southern Luxembourg accent. It's really weird when both groups meet and I suddenly become conscious of how I switch between the two. I don't think I change my mannerisms a lot, but my 'groups' are quite similar to each other.
SteltekOne 1 year ago
lol the way i talk, and i hate thats its different, actually depends on who i'm talking to. gender is usually irrelevant. It totally depends on how well I know the person and the relationship we have. ya. <3
JaykXD 1 year ago
No dude I get you. I'm not "girly" but i am gay. So I TOTALLY get you. I'm in highschool but I teach acting classes. Like you I have my Job voice. (phone voice) or for me my (teacher voice) Which is different from everything else! I have my more manly guy voice and my less manly voice.....yea. I feel you man =P
Gregscrazyvl0g 1 year ago
I don't know if you did it on purpose, but I couldn't stop staring at the vacuum.
jiklar 1 year ago
i think your very sexy!
jchicky 1 year ago
I didn't quite think "foresty..." I actually thought "air hostessy". Hmmm hostessy. Wow that sounded smutty O_O
iamahumanboy 1 year ago
Shhh, I'm listening to the vacuum behind you speak! Oh, and he sounds girly.
fflybz 1 year ago
My voice sounds dreadful in any case. Whether it be in a straight, girly or gay style :(
Auringossasiisain 1 year ago
Lulz, I still think it is funny that you live so near me! We like should like totally go shoppppiiiiinnngg!!!!!! Hahaha, if I had any money, that would be cool. Are you more near PV or Fashion Square?
JaredInABottle 1 year ago
Fashion Square. and yeah, it's pretty crazy :D
PickThisCar 1 year ago
@PickThisCar What the HELL are you doing way over there in fancy ville?
JaredInABottle 1 year ago
I know what you are talking about because my straight friends have asked me why I don't talk like a gay guy. I really am not sure why people have these weird stereotypes I think people are just people and if you like a person it should not matter how they talk. I also think its normal to change how you talk around different people.
FalcinNecro 1 year ago
i love your chest. :)
morbus3000 1 year ago 2
wtf!!! why ther's no one who's gay and who's like you here in italiy??? i hate italy!!! i love you!!! xDDD would you marry me?
MrSamvise 1 year ago
People talk how they talk. The problem is gender expecttions and some people don't expect other people to break those kinds of expectations. And besides that it's only natural the way we talk changes with the people we are with, all our behaver is situational and dependent on context, so why would speach be any different?
0spots0 1 year ago
I think you're vacuum cleaner evolved halfway through the video.
TheRobotanist 1 year ago 2
so few people are picking up on that...
PickThisCar 1 year ago
low cut shirt-ness <3
LifeDuzntGivMeLemons 1 year ago
I do the same thing! like i'm all "guy" like when i'm around my straight guy friends. PLUS speaking to you on Skype, i've seen you speak very up and down. it's awesome! <3
OH and YOU'RE VACUUM changed suddenly.
i'm gonna ask you next time we chat and see how i talk. haha.
johneepixels7 1 year ago
Well I just think you are who you are and you talk the way you talk. I notice myself changing up my talk all the time but most of the time it is kind of hard to change the way I talk because I'm very country!
Take care and stay safe!
Oh yeah I have a big crush on you so anything you do I like so there!
LathanJV36 1 year ago
I'm trying to pay attention to what you're saying but I'm totally distracted by your man cleavage (RAWR!!) Seriously, though, I've noticed that I have a work voice, a mom&dad voice, and a "normal" voice I use with friends.
Kimokalapa 1 year ago
I'm a gay male who confuses the gay stereotype because I am nothing like the stereotype and I sound nothing like it either. That also helps when I don't want people to know.
"Keep up the great work watching me!"
lol
ChaoticSupernova 1 year ago
People often ask if I'm gay because I apparently sometimes "talk gay". I guess my voice isn't as deep as they expect it to be or something.
RoboFillet 1 year ago
I'm gay I talk pretty normal an average.
but when I'm with my girl mates I seem to turn more flamboyant.
But not 'girlie' ha.
But people still pick up on it and say im a fag :(. haha
ohwell thanks for vid bloke!
Haydennn69 1 year ago
I agree that people speak differently around different people.......but what if you happen to meet up with both guys and girls at the same time, then do you behave somewhere in between? hmM....
illZwhY 1 year ago
My voice definitely changes depending on who I'm around. It's not a conscious thing, it just happens.
DorEnErnil 1 year ago
yeah... i went to check out volcanosprinkles ¬.¬
TheFallen7fold 1 year ago
People are complicated. Although some are not.
rianBrich 1 year ago
i do belive that you show more of your 'true' personality while being around people that you feel comfortable with, just sayin'
silharoun 1 year ago
Great you said that, I was just fighting with it in me for some time . trying to speak to anybody in the same way, but then it wasn´t always me and yup, I was also feeling like I´m betraying myself (have to prove something) and acting pose t be super straight.
So, no more fighting, diversification (based on different people) is the way!
Yay! (thumbling all around the room)
Tarhiel 1 year ago
sometimes my voice is girly/childish, and sometimes it's rough like after a cough... it's actually very changing like everything else about me
benzedrine88 1 year ago
=]. i am bi and some of my friends dont no because they dont approve. but i act myself wen im in front of my good friends that kno
TheEliShow2009 1 year ago
My boyfriend slags me for having a "taxi driver" voice-its when we're getting a taxi and my accent gets more "working class" (for want of a better phrase). I have a very sexy phone voice as well I have been told :)
mushacles 1 year ago
yer its like you said, people change their voices for so many things. The way i talk around my family is different to the way i talk to my friends and within my group of friends, i have different ways of talking if you know what i mean. Vocabulary is also a huge part of how i talk. sort of like the formal and unformal thing if you know what i mean,
anyways, love the kirby!
makmegs 1 year ago
LMAO I love this video. I always notice how people talk, I love noticing how people fluctuate the tone of their voice. One thing I ALWAYS notice with a lot of the guys I know is how differently they talk with their guy friends than with their girl friends. But normally I just like looking for accents cos I'm weird like that. :p
Vixtopher 1 year ago
I'm appreciating the cameo's of your vacuum cleaner in your videos lately.
bustersmittymilk 1 year ago
Everyone, myself too, change our voices to fit a situation for 2 reasons. 1-fear of rejection from the person, persons we are talking to. 2- we must talk a certain way doing business, talking with friends, with strangers, our peers, our fellow employees and so on. It's true, if we watch ourselves, we act like actors on a stage most of our day without giving any thought to it.
gateofsunrise 1 year ago
Make a video about your vacuum cleaner. ;)
dereinzigwahrebruno 2 years ago
I find myself toneing it down around straight guys I know. Now, I know I'm not going to scare them because they know me, but still I do it. Odd.
Oh, I liked the "product placement" of the vacuum in the center of the screen. Are you getting a kick-back from Electrolux?
fabulbabe 2 years ago
my voice gets girlier when i'm being really nice/polite ahaha...like when i talk to new people or younger kids or something :P
crayonpainting 2 years ago
true. and I think almost everyone talks differently to little kids :)
PickThisCar 2 years ago