Hey from the first words I felt that you deserved all my support. That doesnt mean SHIT in carnal reality, but at least you know that a Spanish young guy nicknamed SporadicTroll sympathizes with you and likes your way to talk and think.
And I would love to have such a good relation with my parents that we can live together. As far as it seems nowadays, I cant live much more time with them, but also neither live without family.
In any case, good luck and I am enjoying your videos ;)
A criticism of the 99% though: As a supporter of both this movement and the zeitgeist movement, I must say that I really don't think the protesters have a full understanding of the true problem as they're allowing the law to evict them, The legal system is simply corruption management and when I hear on TV about the evictions, I get a sick feeling in my head because this movement is hope for me.
not to sound like a nutcase but my personal theory as to why the west looks down on adults living with parents is because it ruins the 'ideal' of striving to own property, taking out morgages and living out the capitalist dream.
the state wants us to believe that money and success is more important then family.
I'm new to your channel and don't know you. You ARE a very strong person. Get the support you need FOR YOU, so you can endure this challenge. You have my total support
You obviously have a great deal of strength. I hope it helps to some degree to get this out and share it with us all. To the degree that it is possible over the internet, you have support.
Watching this video was like sittin' with a friend who is going through a hell of a lot... good thing I had a cup of coffee handy. I just want you to add me to this list of folks who are listening. Oh! And your self-correction from "strong woman" to "strong person" at the end really made me smile. From my perspective, you so obviously DO have that strength. Peace.
Are you sure? Because I don't see too many other people here on the tubes that have the courage to be so open and real about their lives. I know I don't most of the time. And we all have these kind of situations coming. Yet I see you facing it with courage and determination, you are not shying away from the tough questions. I admire and respect that.
I wish I could be there to give you a big hug. Hang in there my friend.
You're not alone. Our system has collapsed and a LOT of people our age have had to go back to one parent or another. I spent a lot of time with my father just teach his old ignorant ass how to eat a diet that won't kill him in the next year or two- considering all of his EXTREME heart problems. I'm in my own cabin on family property, but most of my neighbors are family. If I had to just be on the street, I'd have to go back to making/selling drugs to survive. What's worse? Home or drugs?
I think of you often, youre in my heart. My husband sells life insurance for a living. He works with the only company that has a whole life policy that actually lets you use part of your insurance benefits before your death, so when youre sick, broke, need to pay bills sct, you have the money to do that. It is an amazing program that everyone should have because at the end of the day, none of us knows what can happen and most are not prepared. =( Im glad youre getting things in order for them.
Man, that's all tough stuff. I can't really say anything that wouldn't appear mindlessly optimistic or patronising; I guess all I can say is I feel for you.
There was a period in my life where I wanted to get away from my mom in part because of her health. For the last 30 years of her life she spent battling with diabetes and went through multiple amputation surgeries. I honestly believed she was going to die back in the early '90's. I moved out and got married, leaving my brother to take care of her. Turns out that I was the only person in the room with her when she died.
Shit sucks man. My parents are both on disability as well, and my mother has had health problems since an on the job injury in 1992. My dad and his wife struggle every month to make it, and they have a stack of unpaid medical bills, due to his health problems. Hope things get better for you and yours man. Good people shouldn't suffer, but unfortunately they seem to be the ones that always do.
This is so hard, to see your parents get old. I would say that we were fortunate that our dad passed away rather quickly, but our mum suffers from dementia, can't remember what she did 2 minutes ago, is on medication, forgets to eat, feels no hunger, looses more and more weight, she is about 85 pounds, and has a vivid imagination, not always to our benefit, accuses of a lot of things, and we love her so much.
It's good to see you around, Michael... I'm going through nothing at all like what you and Rich are, and I don't envy you. Financial, emotional and domestic turmoil all at once... You've heard me mention my father a lot throughout my YT "career", and I will continue to mention him. The reason you never hear about my mother is that I haven't spoken to hear in... it'll be 3 years as of December 22nd. She has Borderline Personality Disorder, and she hurts everyone around her. Cowardly or...
...not, I am a better person for having distanced myself from her. She only wants to destroy everything. I know that sounds melodramatic, but it's nothing but the truth. When I ceased communication with her, she was in bad shape physically. She was supposedly being tested for non-Hodgkins lymphoma and sarcoidosis, but that's only a possibility. She lost her ability to tell the truth, and to feel and exude love. Never thought I'd cry about her, but I am doing so now.
i was wondering where you have been...i have been infrequent on here, but i still hadn't seen vids from you very much.i hope things get better,but while you may think you are not strong,i am pretty sure you learned more from watching your mom than you realize.glad you have some family around you to help out some, too.
Hang in there man, a rough situation only builds character.
I think your wonderful for helping them like this. I worked in a nursing home and saw many a resident hardly ever visited, almost forgotten. They were there for you so its only logical you help them.
As for moving back home, do not feel bad. I'm in my 40's and never ever moved out of the nest. All my siblings did and I saw no reason to being that I live in a 5 bedroom house. Why pay some landlord when me and my girl can live here?
Doesn't sound too heartless. Sounds like a heart in an awfully hard position.
If you need an ear, or such like, you know where to contact me right?
My mum is having a really really hard time with her sisters right now, both ill, both with hoarding tendencies. It's really though on her, I can't imagine how tough it is one you right now.
my heart goes out to you and your struggle. seems that more than heaven allows that you have to take care of both your dad and your mom, along with all the other things that have a ripple effect from their illnesses. SUPPORT!
I feel for you. I can say quite categorically having lost both it's far harder to lose your mother, and anyone I know in a similar situation has felt the same. I could speculate about the reasons but I don't think that's pertinent here. I can relate about parental control freakery. It took me literally a years hard labour to sort through my mothers house which was filled with every last thing she couldn't let go of, which included anything that came into the house. Used envleopes, brochures (m
@Loreleila out of date packets and tins of food, clothes etc. Yet curiously in the last 6 months of her life she entirely let go of control and handed it to me, which was an interesting switch and responsibility. When doctors asked her what she thought or wanted she'd turn to me and say 'what do I want?' knowing I knew her mind better than she did. I know how hard this is for you but I would also say savour it, because when it's passed what you look back on will matter. Here if you ever need it.
@Loreleila My dad appears to be the "hoarder". He's even got an old car sitting out in the garage that he won't let us sell.
The hardest part with my mom is that she always handled the finances. I don't know how she managed to handle all of this!
I have actually watched my grandmother surrender her control, especially since my grandfather died earlier in the year. It's so strange because, she, like my mom, has always been a powerful force.
I think its cool you live with your mom and dad.. I had a good friend who lived with his parents until he turned 35..then he got married and moved out...and bought his house with cash..BOOYA
@Elenkhos hehe, well, I don't know if that will be the case for me. I am definitely not bringing in the cash I did before I moved back to my home town. Maybe when things settle down I can get back to some "normalcy"... whatever that is.
Sorry to hear it, but glad you posted. I moved back home to help care for my Mom who had brain cancer. The first half was nice, feeding her pancakes every morning and watching her grow fat. In the second half I watched her turn into skeleton. Cruel joke. Take care. :)
Two hours of sleep? I don't think I could function. I bet you're as strong as your mom. It just seems like she's stronger because she did it all on more sleep. Let those jokes roll off your back. Those people aren't thinking. Multigenerational households used to be the norm. Family members did for each other what everyone (ok, not quite everyone) has to pay strangers to do now.
@thethegreenmachine My grandparents moved in with my aunt and uncle, rather than going into elderly care of any kind. It wasn't until my grandfather was within weeks of death that he was put into hospice care. That was only so they could manage his pain better and he was starting to get really violent due to his dementia.
I know this makes me sound like a conservative... but I think family is something that has been lost in the West.
@tattooskin72 The conservatives aren't really conservatives. Their ideas about keeping us so poor (by not "penalizing the rich for being rich") that people have to move hundreds of miles away to find decent work and both parents have to get full time jobs is the biggest factor that's destroying families and family values. So, even if you are a conservative, you're not one of those conservatives. We should seriously go on the offensive against them for their claiming of that word.
I understand, from a personal point of view-but also from a professional one. The mental and physical stress of taking care of a loved one can wear family members out, and if someone is trying to deal with it alone, its even more difficult. Be sure to eat right and rest when you can.
You know, role reversal is a strange feeling. You're taking care of them now.
@phenixwryter I've been arguing with my sister a lot... so this has all definitely put a strain on our relationship. Thankfully, we always manage to patch things up.
and the role reversal is definitely strange, especially when it comes to my mom. I'm just not used to seeing her like this.
You have so much on those gorgeous shoulders of yours! Having to take care of both your parents while trying to deal with your own shit .. must be hard! My mum slogged her guts out for years and never got anywhere for it! I wish I had the money to make her life better. If I win the lotto, I'm buying my mum a house .. and yours too! xx
@karmagirl74 Yeah, I have that same dream of winning the lotto and making it all better for my parents. And of course, a holiday to Australia would be nice too ;)
I have a lot of empathy for your situation, and I hate to say this, but it's probably going to get worse. You may need to consider selling the house and moving your parents into an Elder Care Community of some sort.
@zarkoff45 Selling the house will do nothing to help the situation. It's already at that "worse" point. That's why I am working with lawyers and financial counselors. Hopefully it will all be taken care of. My mom and dad are lucky to have decent insurance, right now... so even in home hospice care will be available to my mother when that time comes. Right now I can handle most everything... even though it does wear me down. I feel lucky compared to premed2 cause I do have some help from family.
I'm the next in line legally when it comes to money in my house, my dad will give away things that cost thousands then want to buy the newest thing which cost even more when what he had was perfectly fine. He has no concept of money at all. Maybe your mom can set things up for you like that?
@MistressArte We are pretty much doing that. The situation is a bit more difficult when it comes to the house... that's why I am speaking with a financial counselor and a lawyer. Because my parents didn't work well together on the finances, my mother was basically screwed by the mortgage company. It's pretty complicated and my sister is actually lucky I haven't knocked her on her ass because it's pretty much her fault... but she'd never admit it.
Hey from the first words I felt that you deserved all my support. That doesnt mean SHIT in carnal reality, but at least you know that a Spanish young guy nicknamed SporadicTroll sympathizes with you and likes your way to talk and think.
And I would love to have such a good relation with my parents that we can live together. As far as it seems nowadays, I cant live much more time with them, but also neither live without family.
In any case, good luck and I am enjoying your videos ;)
SporadicTroll 2 months ago
@4:11 Thank you, michael.
A criticism of the 99% though: As a supporter of both this movement and the zeitgeist movement, I must say that I really don't think the protesters have a full understanding of the true problem as they're allowing the law to evict them, The legal system is simply corruption management and when I hear on TV about the evictions, I get a sick feeling in my head because this movement is hope for me.
This is my input.
InsanityComplex1 3 months ago
not to sound like a nutcase but my personal theory as to why the west looks down on adults living with parents is because it ruins the 'ideal' of striving to own property, taking out morgages and living out the capitalist dream.
the state wants us to believe that money and success is more important then family.
good to see you again too!
detr1mentalist 3 months ago
I'm new to your channel and don't know you. You ARE a very strong person. Get the support you need FOR YOU, so you can endure this challenge. You have my total support
rriverstone1 3 months ago
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You have the strength.
GodlessManitoban 3 months ago
I just went through the cancer thing with my friend of 13 years. He passed away on 10/20/11.
GodlessManitoban 3 months ago
You obviously have a great deal of strength. I hope it helps to some degree to get this out and share it with us all. To the degree that it is possible over the internet, you have support.
Hugs.
pookabun 3 months ago
Watching this video was like sittin' with a friend who is going through a hell of a lot... good thing I had a cup of coffee handy. I just want you to add me to this list of folks who are listening. Oh! And your self-correction from "strong woman" to "strong person" at the end really made me smile. From my perspective, you so obviously DO have that strength. Peace.
Elaina43 3 months ago
My dad has named me his executor - and Rich's situation has me scared practically blind. I salute you both!
Elaina43 3 months ago
I lost my mother to cancer last december and my father is sick but he lives over 1000 kilometers from where I am.
How ever I´ve decided ti quit my work, sell the house and moving down there to be able to take care of him.
Brainiac1056 3 months ago
"I don't have the strength that my Mom has..."
Are you sure? Because I don't see too many other people here on the tubes that have the courage to be so open and real about their lives. I know I don't most of the time. And we all have these kind of situations coming. Yet I see you facing it with courage and determination, you are not shying away from the tough questions. I admire and respect that.
I wish I could be there to give you a big hug. Hang in there my friend.
CanadienAtheist 3 months ago
You're not alone. Our system has collapsed and a LOT of people our age have had to go back to one parent or another. I spent a lot of time with my father just teach his old ignorant ass how to eat a diet that won't kill him in the next year or two- considering all of his EXTREME heart problems. I'm in my own cabin on family property, but most of my neighbors are family. If I had to just be on the street, I'd have to go back to making/selling drugs to survive. What's worse? Home or drugs?
bamboo4tameshigiri 3 months ago
I think of you often, youre in my heart. My husband sells life insurance for a living. He works with the only company that has a whole life policy that actually lets you use part of your insurance benefits before your death, so when youre sick, broke, need to pay bills sct, you have the money to do that. It is an amazing program that everyone should have because at the end of the day, none of us knows what can happen and most are not prepared. =( Im glad youre getting things in order for them.
jakluk4 3 months ago
*Hugs * and more *hugs* for you and your family ....that's all
verodefacto 3 months ago
Man, that's all tough stuff. I can't really say anything that wouldn't appear mindlessly optimistic or patronising; I guess all I can say is I feel for you.
niriop 3 months ago
There was a period in my life where I wanted to get away from my mom in part because of her health. For the last 30 years of her life she spent battling with diabetes and went through multiple amputation surgeries. I honestly believed she was going to die back in the early '90's. I moved out and got married, leaving my brother to take care of her. Turns out that I was the only person in the room with her when she died.
deepashtray 3 months ago
Shit sucks man. My parents are both on disability as well, and my mother has had health problems since an on the job injury in 1992. My dad and his wife struggle every month to make it, and they have a stack of unpaid medical bills, due to his health problems. Hope things get better for you and yours man. Good people shouldn't suffer, but unfortunately they seem to be the ones that always do.
ThePunkReturns 3 months ago
This is so hard, to see your parents get old. I would say that we were fortunate that our dad passed away rather quickly, but our mum suffers from dementia, can't remember what she did 2 minutes ago, is on medication, forgets to eat, feels no hunger, looses more and more weight, she is about 85 pounds, and has a vivid imagination, not always to our benefit, accuses of a lot of things, and we love her so much.
ekhaat 3 months ago
i'm 38 and still living with my mom........i'm with ya bro
lionn420 3 months ago
It's good to see you around, Michael... I'm going through nothing at all like what you and Rich are, and I don't envy you. Financial, emotional and domestic turmoil all at once... You've heard me mention my father a lot throughout my YT "career", and I will continue to mention him. The reason you never hear about my mother is that I haven't spoken to hear in... it'll be 3 years as of December 22nd. She has Borderline Personality Disorder, and she hurts everyone around her. Cowardly or...
InModiasWeTrust 3 months ago
...not, I am a better person for having distanced myself from her. She only wants to destroy everything. I know that sounds melodramatic, but it's nothing but the truth. When I ceased communication with her, she was in bad shape physically. She was supposedly being tested for non-Hodgkins lymphoma and sarcoidosis, but that's only a possibility. She lost her ability to tell the truth, and to feel and exude love. Never thought I'd cry about her, but I am doing so now.
InModiasWeTrust 3 months ago
Whatever time you have left with your mother, savor it. Out of self-preservation, mine is gone. I never got to say goodbye...
-Modias
InModiasWeTrust 3 months ago
Two hours? You gotta get more sleep!
Parents are hard.
TheLaughingOut 3 months ago
Sorry to hear about your situation. I wish you and your family the best and hope that the bad things all come out in the wash, in time.
ChameleonLost88 3 months ago
I feel for you. We just had to bring in Hospice for my step mom. Man what a mess!
tecnoblix 3 months ago
Good luck man, remember to take some time out for yourself. You will be no good to them if you get depressed.
Redpilldown 3 months ago
Sorry to hear about mums cancer Michael, I wish her the best.
If you ever wanna talk just pm me mate
gingergreek 3 months ago
i was wondering where you have been...i have been infrequent on here, but i still hadn't seen vids from you very much.i hope things get better,but while you may think you are not strong,i am pretty sure you learned more from watching your mom than you realize.glad you have some family around you to help out some, too.
practicalmagic9 3 months ago
Hang in there man, a rough situation only builds character.
I think your wonderful for helping them like this. I worked in a nursing home and saw many a resident hardly ever visited, almost forgotten. They were there for you so its only logical you help them.
As for moving back home, do not feel bad. I'm in my 40's and never ever moved out of the nest. All my siblings did and I saw no reason to being that I live in a 5 bedroom house. Why pay some landlord when me and my girl can live here?
stonedcommander 3 months ago
Doesn't sound too heartless. Sounds like a heart in an awfully hard position.
If you need an ear, or such like, you know where to contact me right?
My mum is having a really really hard time with her sisters right now, both ill, both with hoarding tendencies. It's really though on her, I can't imagine how tough it is one you right now.
Keep your chin up my friend.
TheBoyFromNorfolk 3 months ago
@TheBoyFromNorfolk If I could get the time to get on skype or anything, that would be great.
I hope your mom is taking care of herself through all of it.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
@tattooskin72
Give me a time and date, and I'll do my best to be there. You've got my e-mail right?
My mum has my dad to lean on, which is good. Make sure you know of people who you can lean on, no man is an island.
TheBoyFromNorfolk 3 months ago
hey man you can do it i know you can it wont be EZ but you sir a strong
kainniak1 3 months ago
Make sure you get some support for you. X x x
AuntieDiluvian 3 months ago
love you, michael.
abbynormal0ne 3 months ago
That was actually a really good video. I'm sending positive energy your way!
PaperStory 3 months ago
my heart goes out to you and your struggle. seems that more than heaven allows that you have to take care of both your dad and your mom, along with all the other things that have a ripple effect from their illnesses. SUPPORT!
astrolabe1976 3 months ago
@astrolabe1976 thanks... happy that you've been here from the start.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
I feel for you. I can say quite categorically having lost both it's far harder to lose your mother, and anyone I know in a similar situation has felt the same. I could speculate about the reasons but I don't think that's pertinent here. I can relate about parental control freakery. It took me literally a years hard labour to sort through my mothers house which was filled with every last thing she couldn't let go of, which included anything that came into the house. Used envleopes, brochures (m
Loreleila 3 months ago
@Loreleila out of date packets and tins of food, clothes etc. Yet curiously in the last 6 months of her life she entirely let go of control and handed it to me, which was an interesting switch and responsibility. When doctors asked her what she thought or wanted she'd turn to me and say 'what do I want?' knowing I knew her mind better than she did. I know how hard this is for you but I would also say savour it, because when it's passed what you look back on will matter. Here if you ever need it.
Loreleila 3 months ago
@Loreleila My dad appears to be the "hoarder". He's even got an old car sitting out in the garage that he won't let us sell.
The hardest part with my mom is that she always handled the finances. I don't know how she managed to handle all of this!
I have actually watched my grandmother surrender her control, especially since my grandfather died earlier in the year. It's so strange because, she, like my mom, has always been a powerful force.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
Sorry for all the shit you're going through Michael. *hugs* we all support you here. :)
StanMarsh1 3 months ago
I think its cool you live with your mom and dad.. I had a good friend who lived with his parents until he turned 35..then he got married and moved out...and bought his house with cash..BOOYA
Elenkhos 3 months ago
@Elenkhos hehe, well, I don't know if that will be the case for me. I am definitely not bringing in the cash I did before I moved back to my home town. Maybe when things settle down I can get back to some "normalcy"... whatever that is.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
Hey mate, you look like Devin Townsend! In case you wondering, that's a compliment.
orton011 3 months ago
Sorry to hear it, but glad you posted. I moved back home to help care for my Mom who had brain cancer. The first half was nice, feeding her pancakes every morning and watching her grow fat. In the second half I watched her turn into skeleton. Cruel joke. Take care. :)
premed2 3 months ago
@premed2 you're such a good person, hang in there
premed2 3 months ago
@premed2 It's definitely a cruel joke. I really do wish I could sit down and have a face to face with you.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
@tattooskin72 Skype?
premed2 3 months ago
Two hours of sleep? I don't think I could function. I bet you're as strong as your mom. It just seems like she's stronger because she did it all on more sleep. Let those jokes roll off your back. Those people aren't thinking. Multigenerational households used to be the norm. Family members did for each other what everyone (ok, not quite everyone) has to pay strangers to do now.
thethegreenmachine 3 months ago
@thethegreenmachine My grandparents moved in with my aunt and uncle, rather than going into elderly care of any kind. It wasn't until my grandfather was within weeks of death that he was put into hospice care. That was only so they could manage his pain better and he was starting to get really violent due to his dementia.
I know this makes me sound like a conservative... but I think family is something that has been lost in the West.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
@tattooskin72 The conservatives aren't really conservatives. Their ideas about keeping us so poor (by not "penalizing the rich for being rich") that people have to move hundreds of miles away to find decent work and both parents have to get full time jobs is the biggest factor that's destroying families and family values. So, even if you are a conservative, you're not one of those conservatives. We should seriously go on the offensive against them for their claiming of that word.
thethegreenmachine 3 months ago
*gives ya' an e-hug*
:)
piprod01 3 months ago
You DO have strength! I am not sure I could manage as you seem to. Anyway, my heart goes to you, these are difficult times. :)
dewinthemorning 3 months ago
You remain in my thoughts, Michael. Best wishes, ArtificialCleverenAI.
fuckoverload 3 months ago
ps. this video made me cry
stephenpaultaylor 3 months ago
And I think it's fine to live with your parents. You obviously care about them and I'm sure they're happy you're there
stephenpaultaylor 3 months ago
get some sleep, beeeaatch!
stephenpaultaylor 3 months ago
@stephenpaultaylor I try to fit some sleep in LOL.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
I understand, from a personal point of view-but also from a professional one. The mental and physical stress of taking care of a loved one can wear family members out, and if someone is trying to deal with it alone, its even more difficult. Be sure to eat right and rest when you can.
You know, role reversal is a strange feeling. You're taking care of them now.
phenixwryter 3 months ago
@phenixwryter I've been arguing with my sister a lot... so this has all definitely put a strain on our relationship. Thankfully, we always manage to patch things up.
and the role reversal is definitely strange, especially when it comes to my mom. I'm just not used to seeing her like this.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
you're taking care of your folks. that is super cool!
dv8tion242 3 months ago
You have so much on those gorgeous shoulders of yours! Having to take care of both your parents while trying to deal with your own shit .. must be hard! My mum slogged her guts out for years and never got anywhere for it! I wish I had the money to make her life better. If I win the lotto, I'm buying my mum a house .. and yours too! xx
karmagirl74 3 months ago
@karmagirl74 Yeah, I have that same dream of winning the lotto and making it all better for my parents. And of course, a holiday to Australia would be nice too ;)
tattooskin72 3 months ago
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stephenpaultaylor 3 months ago
I have a lot of empathy for your situation, and I hate to say this, but it's probably going to get worse. You may need to consider selling the house and moving your parents into an Elder Care Community of some sort.
zarkoff45 3 months ago
@zarkoff45 Selling the house will do nothing to help the situation. It's already at that "worse" point. That's why I am working with lawyers and financial counselors. Hopefully it will all be taken care of. My mom and dad are lucky to have decent insurance, right now... so even in home hospice care will be available to my mother when that time comes. Right now I can handle most everything... even though it does wear me down. I feel lucky compared to premed2 cause I do have some help from family.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
I'm the next in line legally when it comes to money in my house, my dad will give away things that cost thousands then want to buy the newest thing which cost even more when what he had was perfectly fine. He has no concept of money at all. Maybe your mom can set things up for you like that?
MistressArte 3 months ago
@MistressArte We are pretty much doing that. The situation is a bit more difficult when it comes to the house... that's why I am speaking with a financial counselor and a lawyer. Because my parents didn't work well together on the finances, my mother was basically screwed by the mortgage company. It's pretty complicated and my sister is actually lucky I haven't knocked her on her ass because it's pretty much her fault... but she'd never admit it.
tattooskin72 3 months ago
*hugs*
gothatfunk 3 months ago
Hey, nice to see ya.
DiwataMan 3 months ago
@DiwataMan Thanks for watching and listening to my crazy, incoherent ramblings LOL
tattooskin72 3 months ago