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  • This is my second favorite It Gets Better video after Dan and Terry's. I book marked this for a pick me up when I need it.

  • This is my favorite It Gets Better video. You two are wonderful.

  • Both of you are so happy <3 I hope to be this happy with the love of my life someday. The part I have to get through? Telling my mother I'm transgender. She already hates my guts for being openly pan-sexual. She might not say it to my face but I hear her talking crap about me behind my back. And it hurts. I can only picture what she'd said when I tell her I'm actually a boy. She already talks about my short hair cut. I'm not proud to say I'm a 18 year-old boy and I'm scared to tell her.

  • We're so happy you wrote! We're blessed at our church to have a young transgender man whose first venture out into the world as himself was to come to church. Truthfully, I don't think any of us really clocked him as a transgender man for a few weeks, and when we did, mostly as a result of him sharing his story with us, we were delighted to get to know him. I don't think of him as trans. He's just a guy. There are people out there waiting to meet the guy you are. Mom can't rule your heart.

  • I love you guys! :)

  • Can you be my grand dads, please?

  • Of course we will be your grandparents. You will need to run away from home occasionally, and we'll make tea and scones for you and hide you upstairs. We'll give you books to read. There are some wonderful accounts of lesbians in Paris in the 20s that you shouldn't pass up. Good for lesbians and gay boys as well! We'll deny to your parents that you are hiding out.

  • AWESOME!

  • My Christian sister thinks I'm the cruelest person alive for being transgender female to male. She refuses to call me anything but by my female name and pronouns. I feel like crying every time she says that to me. I really am happy to have found this video, specifically. Most videos are about getting away from those who don't accept. But I want to help everyone in the world be happy too, since I have experienced some intense happiness. It's just difficult, being hated by those who want to love.

  • This made my heart happy. :) you guys are the best!

  • I love you guys.

  • I love so many of the It Gets Better videos, but this is my hands-down favorite. You two not only say "it gets better," you show it through your humor and your obvious love and fondness for each other. Thank you so much for sharing.

  • how cute are yall!!!

  • I keep watching your video again and again. I think you guys are really cool and I wish I knew people like you. Harry, as a fellow bow-tie wearer I must say that that is a particularly handsome one. :)

  • Man! They are great!!!!! haha make more videos...

  • LOL

  • It just astounds me how two people still love each other so much after so many years, and people still call their relationship less legitimate than those of a straight couple whose members absolutely cannot stand each other.

  • that was a beautiful couple. They give a true insight as to how much better it gets.

  • "You don't have to like Broadway music."

    "No, you have to like Broadway music."

    ROFL.  Amazing.

  • Cutest couple ever.

  • A disco song:)

  • Sorry to hear your tragic stories. Shame on abusers. Thank you for speaking out!

  • YOU GUYS ARE THE CUTEST, HOLY MOTHER OF GOD. Thank you so much for being beautiful. 

  • You two are hilarious and adorable! I hope to have such a great relationship with my partner when we're your ages. I wish you two have a great long love filled life :D

  • I think this is my fav its get better vid. Two people who obviously are very in love with each other surviving the hell that was there high school experience and finding fulfillment in their lives. Very happy u guys posted this.

  • "Nobody knows why that's funny"

    "Nobody knows what that is"

    Such a pistol. Wish my grandparents were that funny.

  • Great message. Thanks. 12 years ago I was enrolled in an ex-gay ministry. I was so confused and one of the things that helped me to come out was speaking to an older gay couple who had been together for over 25 years. The ex-gay ministry had told me that there was no such thing as a long term gay relationship. Seeing couples like you really gives hope to younger people that they can look forward to spending a life with someone they love. Thanks so much for sharing!!!

  • Excellent! You guys are marvellous. Thank you so much. I love you xo kb

  • Come on you two. Do some more vids for us. This was brilliant!!!

  • You guys are the best

  • Now I know I can grow old with fashion sense and humour. Thank you so much, guys :-)

  • This is hands-down the best It Gets Better video I've seen. There's nothing better than showing *exactly* how it gets better -- in-jokes you've clearly had since forever, teasing each other, long sloppy kisses. You guys rule so unbelievably hard.

  • 7:06 omg I laughed so hard. ORCHESTRA NERDS FOREVER

  • The one on the left sounds like Benjamin Linux from Lost. Is he EVIL? No, perhaps not.

  • @jdavidharper

    I'm guessing there's a good chance the one on the left IS EVIL. But their left or yours? Hard to say…

  • You guys are awesome - thanks for speaking out. :)

  • You both are great. Greetings from Germany.

  • Absolutely wonderful, hilarious, heartbreaking and heartwarming. You had me chuckling from the start with y'all's gentle mocking of each other, crying in the middle with your stories of adolescent torture and survival, and happy for (and envious of!) the tremendous love, devotion, compassion and passion you so clearly have for each other. ROCK ON GENTLEMEN!!!!

  • You guys, you made me cry. Wish you were my "grandparents"

  • This Episcopalian loves you. <3 Thanks for making this wonderful video.

  • This made my day.

  • This is beautiful! It's my favourite It Gets Better video of the ones I've seen. You guys are such an inspiration.

  • hugs-I wish you were my neighbors too.

  • you guys are so cute

  • Harry & Wayne, from a fellow composer & "old gay dork," your vid is very moving. Thank you! Pax....

  • No, Harry and Wayne: you are WAAAAAY cooler than my grandparents!

    Here's hoping you both live to 120.

  • Awe they are so cute together! :)

  • THIS IS THE BEST.

  • You two ever see a documentary called Trembling before G-d? You would probably find it interesting.

  • @ACE7Drew Loved the movie. Can't recommend it highly enough to all.

  • oh my god will you adopt me and be my adorable old gay grampas?

  • @HKTeeVee I wish you lived nearby. We could start with a cup of tea.

  • Adorable!

    It's funny. I've been watching these videos and hearing all of this good news and I knew it already and hearing all of this bad news that I hadn't been fully aware of.

    It adds up and adds up and at a certain point it begins to feel as if gay teenagers are truly heroic towering figures just for having the patience to wake up and go to school in the morning and hang out with those homophobic idiots.

    There are heroes among us, and we didn't even know.

    Bravo!

  • Hahaha you two are so modernized.

  • You two are great! And I agree, EVERYONE should like Broadway musica!

  • I love you guys! Kids today need more role models like you!

  • I'm muslim and support gay rights, as a result i've been involved in heated debates. My response is simple: there's no way God would abstain love; there's no way God would be mad at someone for loving someone else. In fact I believe God would be mad or saddened by those who did not express love because of the recipents sex. In the future we'll be laughed at; they'll say - "societies were against people for loving truly". Anyway, i'm always happy to see a man of God being real. God bless you boys

  • @SarahAli88 I'm so touched you wrote. There are so many ways I hope it will get better is that Christians in the west will start to see more and more the beauty in Islam. If my Christianity can't see the beauty and truth in another religion, then I live in a prison. Assalamu alaikum.

  • @SarahAli88 Just curious, but as far as you know, are there any Muslim communities or mosques that support gay members? Or atleast have a dont ask dont tell policy? Just wondering if theres any welcome places for gay muslims to go. Doesn't apply to me as I'm neither, just wondering what the situation is there.

  • @ACE7Drew I've been looking around for support for you. It's difficult, because it's hard to know sometimes how safe support sites are or groups. The one that seems like a good place to start is hwww . al-fatiha . org/. That seems really genuine to me and I've found articles in other places supporting that. I know from friends who have visited Arab/Muslim countries that there are always connecting places, but that's about as much as I know.

  • @harrykell Oh buddy, I'm straight and Jewish, but I do appreciate the response. Hopefully someone who's looking for support will read that. I was just curious as I've read and heard many examples of harsh treatment in those communities, and am hoping that it will get better. Continued luck to both of you.

  • how do you reconcile being or accepting gays with christianity? I am a supporter of gay rights, womens rights, having fun, etc but i find so many of my personal beliefs don't align with what many christians want me to believe. I believe God sees all of us as equals and loves us all, but so many "christians" spread hate. I want to find a community where people the way I do, but I haven't been that lucky yet.

  • @Meliasaurus First of all, it means a lot that you posted here. I don't know your situation, though, so it's hard to know how to advise. Are you young? Older? Do you live in the country? In a city? If you want to post info like that here or send it to me privately c/o this channel, I can make better suggestions for finding support. Remember, love wins out in the end, and progress is continual. Hang in there!

  • You dudes are beautiful...... Post more and help those kids! I bow to your wisdom guys. Good job.

  • You are both fabulous. I wish I could hug you both.

  • Oooh, i have to tell you, i am from Germany, where being gay is (most times) not such a big deal nowadays, but i greatfully appreciate how you guys show, how great life can be, being gay. You're so funny and really encouraging for many people out there!!! Although i really would have liked to hear you singing a broadway song in the end ;)

  • SOOOOOO ADORABLE!

  • Crying again as I watch this...as I did with that councilman from Ft. Worth. Bravo.

  • okay, i love you two. can i send you cookies?

  • you too are awesome! people like you are the reason why i believe in gay marriage

  • hahaa, I wish these guys were my grandparents

    A+ video guys

  • I love this video! You two are so wonderful and positive and affirming! I hope when I'm your age my partner and I can make a video like this....well, lets say I hope I DON'T have to make a video like this. Anyway, you're both such fun and so funny and inspiring. Keep up the good work!

  • I'm proud to say that I cried (yeah like a little girl). Because people out there are brave, and they care. And you two are just the greatest. I hope the kids take this to heart and please know IT GETS BETTER. I know its hard, I have been there. Thinking this is it, but I survived and for that I'm greatful. Fight for yourself. You are worth it.

  • Thank you, you give me hope

  • I love these two guys - I wish they were my neighbors so I could visit with them every day. Fantastic. I watched their whole video with the biggest dorkiest grin on my face and a bit of a tear, too. Thanks for speaking to our LGBT kids.

  • @libsechumanist I wish you were our neighbor too!

  • @harrykell So, when are you moving to the neighborhood? Huh? When? Seriously, you guys really gave this gay-adjacent het woman a warm fuzzy feeling and some hope that we'll get through this stupid time we're in, where some Americans still don't have the same rights simply because they are gay or lesbian. It's astounding, but it is coming to an end - It (Is) Get(ting)s Better. And you guys make me smile. ;-)

  • you guys are amazing, sweet and fun! thankyou for your honesty & the effort you put to get the message out, and of course your humor!

    big hugs!! :*

  • what a wonderful message from an often forgotten part of our community....some of the disrespectful comments posted here show the kind of churlish exclusion and bullying that is becoming so obvious....if we are lucky, we'll live to be this old and wise!

    Thanks Harry and Wayne!! Nuff respect......

  • This video is so cool :) I have never experienced something as difficult as you have, I am not gay, but I still know no one should ever be afraid to be what they are! I am so glad that my parents taught me to accept and respect everyone and that love is the most important thing in life. And I am extremely happy for everyone that finds love, or just peace in life. Accepting yourself is hard enough without everyone else making it harder for you

  • You guys are WONDERFUL!!! I hope that's my and my girlfriend in another decade or so. We've got 25 years together so far and it *does* only get better and better.

  • You two are the coolest old gay dorks on YouTube.

    Truly inspiring in so many ways.

  • @sawedoffshotgun It isn't easy being a dork, gay or straight. But I'm prouder of it than I know how to say. Thanks for seeing the best in us!

  • @sawedoffshotgun I've never been called anything sweeter than old gay dork. Well, not on the internet. Thank you!

  • Crazy old people on YouTube lawl. I am a troll, BUT I LOVE IT!!!!!!!

  • Why did you say not to watch the Kiss, Is it not in your heart, it's not right. Be honest about Gay lifestyles, kids need help with problems. We are failing our children by not teaching good values, like to not bully other children or tease people diferent, but more importantly, by telling the truth, not denying truth. It does far more damage to lie to spare feeling than to be honest, and its usually the one lying that's sparing feelings, his own. We need the real truth to dispel dispair, God's!

  • @SeekTruthinLight We didn't warm people not to watch until it was too late! That was so people could laugh at us, give a chance to young people, gay and straight, to say "ewwww" as is their right to do when watching old people, gay or straight, kissing. We've gotten SO MUCH good response to the kissing, and I'm really glad you brought it up. I was a little nervous about posting it on FaceBook, but I'm really glad I did. Thanks for commenting.

  • This is fantastic.

  • W. T.  F.

  • @Andrewnetwork We couldn't agree more.

  • I adore this couple! And they're absolutely right - librarians rock!

  • Hahaha awesome video

  • i'm transgender. grew up scary methodist where gay was evil. parents and sister became episcopalian when i went to college. met my wife (15 years ago) who is jewish. i eventually became jewish of my own accord. she is in her 4th year out of 5 at the reform jewish seminary studying to be a rabbi. we can both say with total confidence that reform rabbis (which includes women and LGBTQ people) can be trusted confidants, pastors and resources for LGBTQ jewish youth. you both are delightful! be well.

  • @Zedie36 I'm so happy you pointed this out! I've checked in with a lot of the respondents here, and there are many young people actually watching these videos and reading these notes. Perhaps some of them will also find their way from the dark side of Christianity to the gentle light of Shabbas with chosen families and chosen faith practices that are, indeed, based on the God of Love, and to the brightness of the Sabbath and her God. Remember: Reform Judaism.

  • You two are too cute!

  • I don't really have anything terribly original to say, just really enjoy your video. You two are adorable and you can smooch any darn time you want to. As much as I want to hate the haters, in the end I just feel sad and sorry for them. They're jealous more than anything. They miss out on the best that life has to offier, and what is better than love?

  • Thanks guys from a Baptist boy who grew up in Alabama and moved to California and has been a loving relationship for FIFTEEN YEARS! You too can find that special someone! Don't give up!

  • Thank you for sharing this! You two are great role models.

  • Amazing. Thank you you, gentlemen.

  • You two are adorable! This video completely brightened my day. 

  • These guys are great. Hysterically funny and touching. We should all be so lucky.

  • You two are a wonderful example of what a loving relationship can be. How well you support and compliment each other, so evident in even this nine minute video. Lucky ducks, you.

  • ok im just gonna pretend you are my parents.

  • @ZeBeFruity So we'll expect you for Thanksgiving.

  • @ZeBeFruity Well we're going to pretend you're here for Thanksgiving and Christmas!

  • @harrykell thanks dad. xo

  • "Its the youtubes...like the kids do."

    I love you guys.

  • You two are adorable and fabulous! Thanks so much for posting this.

  • I seriously LOVE LOVE LOVE you guys! Thank you for being FABULOUS! :oD

  • People need to grow up and learn to mind their own business...let what people do what makes them happy even if they're gay...live your own life and stop interfering with other people's life...

  • wish you guys were my grandpas

  • I want to be this old with my partner.

    You guys send a great message!

  • Thanks for this fabulous video, you guys are adorable. (It's always great to see things like this coming out (no pun intended) of my home state, too. ;-) )

  • Lol they barely know how to work the camera

  • You guys are awesome!!!!

  • Its okay, we knew that there plenty of gay Priests out there.

  • Thanks you two. This, and you, are wonderful!

  • "No, you have to like Broadway music." Had me laughing my head off. You two are amazing. Thank you.

  • ...and another thing ,if we have separation of Church and state...then why can't gays get married in the U.S.? Because some Churches don't want in to happen dosen't mean the States can't allow same sex marriage. A marriage license is issued by the Government not the Church,thus not the Church's business. Maybe the Governement is just as guilty as the haters for making a big deal about same sex marriage.

  • You guys are great to watch! Your bantering made me smile a lot. I was raised in my teen years by my 2 gay dads and I am so thankful for them and all they taught me about love and acceptance. You guys remind me of them. :)

  • It feels really good to know that religious people like Wayne accept homosexuality and know what some of us kids are going through. Much love to you both, God Bless!

  • @arvyknowsbest I JUST WENT to your Yourtube Channel and listened to the English cover of Matryoshka! I'm blown away. I know I'll be going around with that beat in my head for days! THANK YOU. And know that we are thinking of you--and that you will meet people like us, and more importantly, wonderful young people, and you'll dance together and sing and--"If you please will you keep dancing more and more?"

  • @harrykell Thanks very much! It means a lot to hear that from you. Thanks for the good wishes, and I wish you all the happiness in the world!

  • HAHAHA...you guys are funny. I am a Christian also and when you remove all of the bullcrap that bigots have added to God's word you'll see that God loves everybody. Kids don't give in to the haters.

  • Wayne, you remind me a lot of Mr. Rogers, and I mean that in the best way possible. I grew up watching Mr. Rogers, and your whole demeanor and attitude brings back fond memories. :) I wish the best for both of you.

  • @Wes964 We have to take turns being Mr. Rogers. Dan Savage hasn't covered this on his "Savage Love" podcast or in his column, has he?

  • Aww! I love seeing happy gay couples!

    Don't listen to the haters - you two are awesome and inspiring! Keep kicking!!

  • I would trust that priest with my sons any day.

  • LOL your fabulosity will shine through

  • 5:55 - 6:08 awwwwww

  • LMFAO. HELL YES. =D

  • i want to go to his church! LD

  • cute!! you two should make more videos together!!

  • you two made my day.

    this was so great to see.

  • This is soooo sweeeeet !!!!

  • Harry, just change your video setting so that the comments will have to be approved by you first. This way you don't have to modify so much.

  • @dudess4rent I have been trying to figure out how to do this for an hour! Any hints? Thanks.

  • @harrykell My Videos, Edit, and under "Comments" choose the approval only option. :)

  • @kragey Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  • @harrykell Any time! :D

  • This is so adorable beyond words. You two give everyone so much hope. <33

  • "No, you have to like Broadway music."

    lol! XD

    I love watching old couples interact, whether they're gay or straight. They're just so hillarious.

  • You guys should have your own show you both are adorable! Great message of love!

    This was the best "It Gets Better" clip.

  • I went through a lot of the same things, not for being gay, but for having red hair. Fire crotch, flamer, and agent orange were a few of my favorite names. You guys are awesome. It gets better.

  • I love you guys!!!! Group hug!!!!!!!

  • @haaaaayaaaaaa

    Probably the same way people who believe dinosaurs and bears were not created at the same time manage to be Christians.

  • Haha hilarious. I'm happy to see that this was on the front page, and I'm actually surprised there aren't a bunch of hate comments, assuming you don't have some super moderators deleting posts haha.

  • @ZiggyOsiris I've been moderating like crazy. I don't want anyone coming into the "It Gets Better" project finding hate. I love deleting the hate!

  • @harrykell Haha ok well then it's at least nice to see the hate filtered out!

    Thanks for helping this. It's a couple years too late for me, but I'm sure it's helping a lot of people.

  • @ZiggyOsiris ehem thanks for making this*

  • omg you two are sooo cute!! wayne singing single ladies was adorable :))

  • you guys are adorable and amazing good for you :)

  • ...Well, personally, I could not care less about sexual orientation of other men, and I am straight...

    As long as the mortality tax keeps up with the birth rate well, it is fine by me...

    Meaning: I CERTAINLY would not back up the idea of a 100% gay world, we would all go to hell for that just for the reproduction issue... But, the gay people that there is now... Well, it does not seem to have affected us in any way, so, yeah, who cares except homophobics... You do that...

  • @ThatarYavetil We, as a species, definitely aren't having any problem with the birth/mortality rate. You got that right.

  • Haha you two are hilarious. Much love from a heterosexual. Carry on the good work. Education and Liberal thinking will free our society from the hate of the close minded.

  • Aww this was soo cute! i love you guys! =]

  • That stuff you went through is just terrible. I don't understand how anyone can treat any living thing the way they treated you during high school. The people who are homophobic because of the Bible are the people that anger me the most. The Bible also says that men can sell their daughters into slavery, and that disobedient children should be stoned to death.

  • thank you harry and wayne.

    you have made a very powerful video for our young lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgendered brothers and sisters.

    i am so please to see an older, proud gay couple stand up and be counted with a message of hope and encouragement.

    every gay person must remember god created them as they are, and to be proud of his blessing. and being gay is a blessing.

    thank you!

  • You guys are featured on YouTube front page! Congrats!

  • awesome vid. thanks for sharing! you guys can't pass as grandparents, maybe uncles!! :)

  • @massmayhem12 God didn't write the Bible. Men did. Just because they say (and Christians say) it is the "Word of God" doesn't mean it actually is. And if God is supposed to be a loving, merciful and forgiving God, he will forgive and judge accordingly. That is not up to us. Just saying.

  • eww, old people kissing

  • @Jurassicparkz08 I love these comments about old people kissing. Because, really, they have a point. Not one that counts for much, but they do have a point!

  • @Jurassicparkz08 It's worse than the "Saw" movies!

  • You guys are great. I'm straight, and an atheist, but I support what you stand for 100%. Thanks guys, you really help kids who struggle with their peers/adult figures because of their sexuality, and you really help the world become much less ignorant. :^D

  • i personally am straight but i do agree that homosexuals are beeing discriminated in the society i dont get why do some people get offended with gay people...........

    they are just humans it does not matter wether you like man or woman, if you like Guro hentai thats different haha!

  • the youtubes xD

    you guys are awesome! you should make more videos; you're very entertaining with your banter! :D

    stay gold, harrykell, stay gold (maybe i did use that from the outsiders... it applies to the situation, though! :D)

  • 5:00 Survival Tips: "your parents. . . are. . .crazy." Thank you guys for the vid. it's a good one. Thumbs up.

    Bless you two old sweet-hearts.

  • @fuzzynippleman I went onto your channel and listened to Nina Simone singing "I Got Life!" In case anyone misses it, it is a Broadway song. But it's transmuted into something even more fabulous than B'way by the incomparable Simone. It's politics. It's style. It's culture. It's race. It's fantastic. But I remember her when…

  • it is unbelievable that there is still a world out there, that objects to love!!! You guys are so sweet and definitely should not have been through all of these struggles!! Many heartfelt greetings from a straight girl in germany