#systemcruntchsness valid points go for both men and women. but even talking sometimes doesnt work or truly reach the person. not to say the effort to do so would be fruitless. ive learned when to fold my cards.
HOW TO APPROACH the before mentioned situations: not one likes being called out and here is how its done. DOn't --> "you need to change. bla bla bla sick of your shit. bla bla. do this do that." DO ----> " hey im noticing some things that we could improve in our relationship. point out own faults and let them know their faults. make list of ways to improve, change etc... share with them, and put some ideas out how to make it worth. don't make it seem like you are just finger pointing".
IF they don't put forth the effort forward then you need to get on their Ass in a nice way and make sure they do. make sure you do what you should be doing to help them and make sure you notice that if they are Really changing. some people fake the change to keep the girl/guy so watch out for that. be patient them BUT don't tolerate bullshit that shouldnt happen. IF you give them a reasonable ammount of time to change or put effort forward and they don't then its time to start looking elseware
IF you are one of the people that isn't half bad and you are stuck with someone who is, then here is how the problem needs to be dealt with. You tell the person you are with that they need to change and you give them reasons why and cause and effect etc... you need to communicate its not just you that believes this ( unless its someone thing in their interactions that just is limited to you and them. ) . THENyou need to inspire them to change, assist them, and EXPECT them to put effort forward
Quite a few times there are the "bitches" that go with out with the "assholes" and they both go through a shit-storm and all I have to say to both of them is "lol karma got you." But there are times a genuinely nice girl will get stuck with an asshole or a genuinely ( confident guy ) will get stuck with a bitch. part 5 next
part 3: The women that go out with assholes knowing they are beforehand do so because the benefits( short term superficial benefits ) of being with him outweight the long term effects and risks. The short term benefits could be vacations, lots of money spent on the girl, good sex, funny jokes etc... with the higher than ussually risks being cheating, beatings, poor treatment, betrayal, other forms or abuse and manipulation... etc... part 4 next
Part two. Some assholes are obviously assholes and some women choose to date them because they see that the guy has something to offer them even though they know he is an asshole ? why do they do this ? Because they lie to themselves and tell themselves that "hey maybe he is an asshole to other people but surely not too me ? right ?" the problem is that an asshole is gonna be an ass to you even if he doesn't want to because that is how he has conditioned himself to interact with other people.
WHY women like assholes: first off assholes become confident by being an asshole. it requires confidence to be an asshole becomes you put yourself in situations that require you to be a tough guy in the first place so you have to be strong, smart, deceptive, and a dick. The problem is that women can't see the difference between the confident nice guy ( of which there are few ) and the confident asshole ( of which there are many ). part one of my opinion
@adjei88 women probably assume ur anasshole becuz theirs douchbags who pretend to b nice. pretend to bew confident. andthey mess it up for the REAL nice guys who deserve a chance. women are no different. we can b assholes too. im sry they assume the worst of you. no one shouldhave topayfor someone else's wrong doing.
i'm pretty confident, and i aint an asshole. and girls are always like "you're just pretending to be a nice guy" and i'm like No! dont label i'm neither a nice/douche right i'm me and i do not want to feel like i have to posture or have to change my persona in order to please some one!
In my opinion the guy the ends up being a jerk or asshole is the one that can really get what he wants just by talking. Guys that will tell you just want you want to hear and are bad mouthing you on the other end. Portraying confidence and having it are two separate things. Hopefully you get other comments that help this all make sense.
#systemcruntchsness valid points go for both men and women. but even talking sometimes doesnt work or truly reach the person. not to say the effort to do so would be fruitless. ive learned when to fold my cards.
Vamsol 3 weeks ago
HOW TO APPROACH the before mentioned situations: not one likes being called out and here is how its done. DOn't --> "you need to change. bla bla bla sick of your shit. bla bla. do this do that." DO ----> " hey im noticing some things that we could improve in our relationship. point out own faults and let them know their faults. make list of ways to improve, change etc... share with them, and put some ideas out how to make it worth. don't make it seem like you are just finger pointing".
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
IF they don't put forth the effort forward then you need to get on their Ass in a nice way and make sure they do. make sure you do what you should be doing to help them and make sure you notice that if they are Really changing. some people fake the change to keep the girl/guy so watch out for that. be patient them BUT don't tolerate bullshit that shouldnt happen. IF you give them a reasonable ammount of time to change or put effort forward and they don't then its time to start looking elseware
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
IF you are one of the people that isn't half bad and you are stuck with someone who is, then here is how the problem needs to be dealt with. You tell the person you are with that they need to change and you give them reasons why and cause and effect etc... you need to communicate its not just you that believes this ( unless its someone thing in their interactions that just is limited to you and them. ) . THENyou need to inspire them to change, assist them, and EXPECT them to put effort forward
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
Quite a few times there are the "bitches" that go with out with the "assholes" and they both go through a shit-storm and all I have to say to both of them is "lol karma got you." But there are times a genuinely nice girl will get stuck with an asshole or a genuinely ( confident guy ) will get stuck with a bitch. part 5 next
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
part 3: The women that go out with assholes knowing they are beforehand do so because the benefits( short term superficial benefits ) of being with him outweight the long term effects and risks. The short term benefits could be vacations, lots of money spent on the girl, good sex, funny jokes etc... with the higher than ussually risks being cheating, beatings, poor treatment, betrayal, other forms or abuse and manipulation... etc... part 4 next
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
Part two. Some assholes are obviously assholes and some women choose to date them because they see that the guy has something to offer them even though they know he is an asshole ? why do they do this ? Because they lie to themselves and tell themselves that "hey maybe he is an asshole to other people but surely not too me ? right ?" the problem is that an asshole is gonna be an ass to you even if he doesn't want to because that is how he has conditioned himself to interact with other people.
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
WHY women like assholes: first off assholes become confident by being an asshole. it requires confidence to be an asshole becomes you put yourself in situations that require you to be a tough guy in the first place so you have to be strong, smart, deceptive, and a dick. The problem is that women can't see the difference between the confident nice guy ( of which there are few ) and the confident asshole ( of which there are many ). part one of my opinion
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
Can't hear the girl on the right. mic is too far away and she is not talking loud enough.
SystemCruntchsness 1 month ago
lol
memo144 4 months ago
ya'll sum fat niggas
antdez1 4 months ago
@adjei88 women probably assume ur anasshole becuz theirs douchbags who pretend to b nice. pretend to bew confident. andthey mess it up for the REAL nice guys who deserve a chance. women are no different. we can b assholes too. im sry they assume the worst of you. no one shouldhave topayfor someone else's wrong doing.
Vamsol 5 months ago
i'm pretty confident, and i aint an asshole. and girls are always like "you're just pretending to be a nice guy" and i'm like No! dont label i'm neither a nice/douche right i'm me and i do not want to feel like i have to posture or have to change my persona in order to please some one!
Adjei88 5 months ago
In my opinion the guy the ends up being a jerk or asshole is the one that can really get what he wants just by talking. Guys that will tell you just want you want to hear and are bad mouthing you on the other end. Portraying confidence and having it are two separate things. Hopefully you get other comments that help this all make sense.
sukosaki 5 months ago