Here in Switzerland, it's just a reflex to say: I'm good, what about you... or something similar. The thing is though, nobody really gives you an honest answer and really also don't care...
Once, I was on an airplane going to Hawaii, and I got lucky enough to be in first class. The lady that sat next to me though? Gave me two long lectures. I was sketching something from a coloring book (yeah, i know, i'm a dork) and she ranted about how people need to use their artistic abilities. She also lectured me on how boyfriends will never be my best friends, and to always stick with my girls.
She also had like, 8 cups of wine... didn't even need to say "What's up"
@Tellmetojinxit I ask random people when I take the train to Oxford with a group of friends asking people " How're you" Only a few people ever say "I'm good", and it's VERY rare that they say "I'm good, yourself?" But I like it when people ask me how I am... atleast they'd listened... And I'd be more than happy to have a conversation with them :P
I think "What's up?" or "How's it going?" are just greetings and nothing more. In Hawaii it's "Aloha." Way back when, it used to be,"How do you do?" Isn't that a great one? How do I do what??? Ten years from now it'll be something else... but all in all, I think they are just greetings to say something to someone that says, "I see you there and I'm not ignoring you." No one really has the time or the intent to hear a strangers day, which could turn in to their life story... lol.
this guy is a dick and DOESNT CARE , talkin shit bout elderly , the man says he feels bad cuz his wifes sick , ,, your a loser dude,, and u start every vid with "hows it going" u dont even realize it, dummy
This is going to sound stupid, but when someone asks me how I am, I usually just say, and I am not lying, "I don't know." I don't know what to say! It just doesn't register in my mind to say fine or whatever. It is just a normal day. Nothing exciting has happened, and I'm not anticipating anything on normal days, so I guessmy way of saying fine or okay is just "I don't know."
Hehe... I know this is old but... I've always been fascinated by this. :)
My conclusion is that most responders are really saying the equivalent of "I don't want to be rude, so I'll respond...". I also believe people may usually ask "How are you?", as a way of gauging an on-coming pedestrian's threat or sanity level, when that person looks "questionable". Bottom line though... no one really cares how your doing. They just want to go about their day.
you know i say good how about becuse i dont really want to tell people not becuase i dont care but becuase i think people who ask me really dont care about me there just trying to be nice. you know so i always say im good how about you. even if im not.
lol. I would have confused you. I generally stop, stare for a moment to gather what just happened, then reply. "I'm here." If someone asks me how I am, unless they just walk off, then I grumble at how inconsiderate they are....
Well when i respond hey what's up or how are u I don't want to talk about it, it s a bad day or just don't care about my day good kinda bad that when I respond like that
I have something similar to this happen every day at work, usually in the upwards of 10 or 20 times in an 8 hour shift. I work at a Starbucks inside a grocery store and I always begin an order with someone by saying "Hi! What can I get for you?" And people will respond with "Oh I'm fine, thank you. How are you?" This use to trip me up but I've gotten use to it. And I've come to realize that people just aren't paying attention. I've gotten some very interesting conversations from these mishaps.
i think you answered your own question in the video by your response to the elderly man who probably never gets a sympathetic ear. we've become insensitive, jaded and basically uncaring.
but come on, if you're asking eveyone 'how it going?'' well at least the alone guy beside the newpapers is honest to you and talks to you about is entire day and life xD
I work in retail as a cashier so I have this habit of either saying "Hi, how are you?" with a big smile OR "Good. How are you?"/ "Good, thanks for asking." -- all depends on my mood though :P
I live in austraila (not sure if thats relevent) and when i ask
"how are you?" they say "good" but the thing that buggs me
NO ONE EVER ASKS ITS BACK EXEPT ME!!! Me and a bunch of people went to get our pictures taken and when i went ubto the booth he asked how are you? I anwered and asked back abd he said "Wow. No one ever asks me back!"
its frking stupid !1 i live in holland and if i ask how is it going (in duthc) THEY DONT AWNSER OR SAYINGG IM FINE ...NOTHING ELSE i laughed very hard aboout this vd nic work
I think, actually, that we answer "How's it going?" when asked "How's it going?" because it's not so much a genuine question anymore as it is a simple greeting. It has become an equivalent of "Hey", "Hi", or "Hello". It's not that we don't actually care about the answer, it's just that we don't really expect to get one because that wasn't our intent when saying the phrase. All we want to do is give a greeting, not ask about your life story. Ah, the evolution of language!
That's something I've learned while working fast food. This is how it went most of the time (with me starting the convo):
"How may I help you"
"Hi how are you."
"I'm doing fine, how are you?"
"I would like a number..."
And that's IF they didn't interrupt me with MY response. It's just rude in the end, so why even bother. Save your breath, because you're saving my temper that way.
see i always say hi and hows it going to the people im walking by and all they answer is " how are you " so then i just turn around and say well im good, then they just walk away! its like come on does anyone have a casual conversation anymore. and when im asked how are you i usually say hi im exellent then ask them the same question. But it never happens to me anymore.. makes me sad. it also makes me feel like no one really cares about me or what i have to say. my friends ignore me too..
Usually, people that say "Hey, what's up?" or "How's it going?", I just like...raise my eyebrows and smile. It's kind of rare when I say "Good and you?"
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
lol thanks. i saw a news stand and an old person and i told my friend i was with to go say hi to him. he asked how his day was doing and the old man talked for about 2 hours. LOL!!!!
i usually say "im fine, how are you" or if im mad, i say the same thing, and i will always have a welcoming smile while im at it, so people wont worry if im depressed or something, i dont like worrying people
My response is usually an "I'm fine." Cus I'm too pessimistic to say 'wonderful' and I'm too optimistic to say 'terrible' I had a strange combination of parents.
Anyways, I think the reason why people say things like that is because of habit. It defines a lot of what we do. We see other people doing it and we never get scolded for an impersonal greeting. And anyways, most people (not just us snooty Americans) are completely self-absorbed and don't care. I have little choice but to care.
I used to take things very literal and if asked a question like "how are you", "how's it going", etc., I would tell them-in detail. I wasn't trying to "unload" on anyone--I was just giving an honest anser. My mother then explained to me that these were just greetings to acknowledge your existence and be "friendly"; they don't really want to know how you're doing they are just saying "hello". This answer made NO sense to me at the time, but I eventually learned to accept it as illogical but true.
im gonna do that! im gonna be in the halls at school and walk up to some sixth grader (im in 8th)and be like "hows it going" and if they say good, im gonna turn around and walk with them, starting up a conversation
Years ago I was depressed & lonely, I used to get angry when people asked "how are you', cause I know they really didn't want to know. I would just say fine thanks though sometimes I would reply 'do you really want to know'
Now when I say 'fine' its usually cause I'm not. If I reply 'good thanks' I really am ok & if I reply "good thanks how are you" it means I'm also willing to talk to the other person. I really don't like asking someone how they are unless I am willing to listen.
@chickinchainmail I don't walk around smiling.Who does? My family would ask me, "Is something wrong?" my response evolved into, "If there was something wrong, and I wanted you to know, I'd talk about it" Maybe my normal face is just ugly, at work, people would call me grumpy. It hurt my feelings a lot. I would be stuck at work for another 6 hours trying not to cry. Got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore, and I put in my 2 notice but quit before the end of that night.
Hey! That's so interesting! I'm not English or American or whatever. English is not my mother language. And this happens to me so often... I meet a person I know and he asks me "How is it going?" so I start to answer and he.... is already talking to somebody else! Or, even before I start to answer, he is 10 meters away. and I'm always like "Why the hell was he asking?" and here's the secret! he didn't care! :D
I always thought "how's it going?" to be more like hello, or good morning. Personally I don't care to hear someone's ailments when I have plenty of my own.
lol i think you answered your own question, though, when the old man started talking your ear off. maybe most polite people don't want to make a stranger's ear bleed, so they respond with a polite mimic of your question, in the hopes that you won't talk their ear off, either.
i usually answer "all right" or "I'm alive, so the day could be much worse." my fiance always goes into grand detail on how crappy our life is with complete strangers.
though i am considering answering "purple" next time.
This is an interesting sociological study. I myself tend to give diffurrent answers depending on who is asking and what they ask. If I know you, you are more likely to get a fairly detailed response to a greeting like How's everything going for you? If you ask me what's up the answer will be 'Everything over my head.' and the reply to how are you is normally "I'm not dead.'
For people I don't know I'll reply in a friendly way with a positive response and a smile.
I tend to confuse people. When someone asks me how I'm doing in passing, I answer with a single, non-related word, like "purple". It makes people stop, turn around, and question you usually. It makes them pay attention.
@Gannon141 Right now I am in the hospital and so my answer is usually "Alive" right now. My nurses like it because they know a few days ago the alternative was an almost certainty. My family was told I wasn't going to live to see June 1st. I was in a coma until a few days ago.
I live in a small A%^ town where we have no choice but to talk to creepy old people. But I'm also one of those people that just can't be mean unless needed.
And besides they're just some old lonely person that wants to be seen.
but hen the start talking the don't stop.
so i see you point, i have more experience than necessary n the subject.
Great Observation(?) the last 5 seconds made my day^^
The funny thing is that the People replied to you, even if they're repeating what you say.
I live in Germany in a small town and everytime i said: Hello to the people they just ignored me and went on like they saw a ghost or somethin. So you kinda can be happy living at such a place with this kind of people.
This actually vary from country to country I think. Cuz' here in sweeden we don't ask "how is it going" if we don't want to know, or don't know the person. "how are you/how is it going" do we only say to people we know. And if youre asked you say either "good, and how are you? " or "it's ok. You? " , if a person said it's ok you are supposed to ask why. And to strangers we just say "hello" or maybe "Hi, nice to meet you.". And it's VERRY rare to say hello to a stranger on the street.
when pepole say whats up and im having a good day ill say good and then thell walk right on by but if im having a bad day ill say alright and thell walk right on by if im on the internet and some one says hows it goin and im having a good day ill say fine and theyll walk right on by but if im having a bad day and i say allright everyone trys to avoid me its very very anoying
dude people say whats up and walk away or good imagine you come up to someone and ask whats up and he starts telling you that his back hurts his ass hurts his wife is cheating on him and stuff imagine what the world would be like
We just don't want a conversation. If I say "bad, my day was shit," people are going to ask, "why?" I son't want to vent to them... that's what my dog is for :3 JK-- I talk to my parents/BF.
when people asked me whats up i used to stare at them cuz i didnt know how to answer that. then i asked a person how i was to respond to that and he said that i could just say the sky or my penis or something. so now when people ask me whats up i say my penis. its not better than just staring at them like i used to, but i at least respond now
I greet about 500 people a day. I get about 15 of the guy by the newspaper stand a day They hold up the line sometimes for hours and get you cussed out for your slow line by all the others in the line who think that it is your relative because they are telling you their life story. The im good line is one said out of politness Yes complete strangers dont usually care how your doing they just check to make sure they still have their wallet and move on.
I don't think but many people use it because it's simple and quick to say it, it's one of the first word that comes to your mouth when something doesn't happen as we want or imagined ; )
haha! I have a couple older relatives, and during the holidays, you have to be REALLY carefull not to get cornered by them or else they will talk to you FOREVER about something totally boring. -_-
dude what a bad experiment, ppl say whats up back to u because they want to be respectful and not just say good and leave it as that
u get it? if u walking by a person and ask hows it going they are gonna be polite and ask u the same, now if u actually stopped u might get further into the convo. its just like saying hey, and hey back whats not to get?
its like saying have a good day and then them saying have a good day back..
so true, I always say "waht's up?" or "how's it going?" when I totally don't give a shit about the other person. Now when I DO care, I usually say "Fine thanks, and you?", or "I'm fine, how are YOU doing?" lol you totally opened my eyes....
I reckon people reply "I'm good" or "Whats up" because 10% of people would talk to you for ever! Its just a quick and polite response to say "I'm fine". It sure is better than just ignoring you.
Thank god for headphones! Only take them off when you need to talk! ha ha
...On my work here in every single morning when I barely walk in an office I immediately get that stupid question "How is it going?" What the hell can I say? What is going? Nothing happened yet so far :) So, you American better tell why. Thanks for video :) P.S. What's up?
Hey man, is that OK what I just said? This is exactly I still can't understand since my arriving to the USA 6 years ago. In the very beginning I even was trying to tell people asking me something like what's up what I'm going to do. Then I got it's nothing to worry about, just say anything back even a simple Hi...
Something like this happened ( 2:09 ) to me about 8 months ago. My dog got out so I ran after her. I couldn't get her to come with me so I was running back home to get a ball when someone said Hi, I said Hi back and suddenly the guy talked for 10 MINUTES about how he had spent almost his whole life in the estate anyway, I was hardly listening to what the guy said and when he stopped I said CYA, he said bye then I ran off. I got my dog back in though.
I get the point of the video... we were talking abou this is in class.
It's called phatic talk. You don't care about the answer, it's about "Establishing relationships" and/or "acknowledging other people's presence" (Quotes because that's how it was written in the book).
I'm from Finland, and we here don't usually say "What's up" or anything like that when meeting somebody, only people who know each others ask that.
And when you ask it from your good friend, she/he answers usually something like "Nothing special" or just "good", because she don't have anything intresting to say.
If somebody asks me "What's up?" in messenger, I answer usually "Good/Bad, I'm (something what I'm doing)/(or something intresting what happened today).
But I think it pretty weird to answer to question with question..
i love this video!!! btw i already said this but i reallllly miss someone and im alone alot and i hatttee being alone which sounds rly pathetic but yea..thers my complete answer to your question :D just felt like i had to tell you!
In my country you would be killed for talking to a complete stranger. So many mean people around here. I loved the ending of the video, good advice xD
I'm right in the middle. When people say something like "How's it goin?" or something like that, I sometimes say "pretty good" or I just say "Hey" but other times I will say something like "Sup?" but that's rare. I usually say "Hey" or something.
This is actually a pretty neat experiment and the answers were pretty..expected. Wow..That's actually pretty interesting when you think about that....
That's so funny. As a person who works at Wal-Mart, I hear that and say it all day long, and lately I've been asking my customers why they say it too. XP It's just our way of being polite in the short amount of time passing the stranger I think. ;D
Oh and I learned something else too. Usually if I ask the person how's it goin, and they reply with not too good, or i've been better or something like that, STOP talking to them, cuz that's just an invitation to keep the huge conversation goin that's on the tip of their tongue. XD
yeah, well, maybe we should care what they have to say. are we really so wrapped up in our own lives that we can't help someone out? What if they remember for the rest of their lives, "this person helped me out, maybe there are other caring people like them out there," and it gives them hope every time they feel down?
Heh, hey, Hallmark cards have a lot of meaning, if only people would take the time to think about them, instead of laughing at the corniness of them. ;P There, now I'M a hallmark card. ;D And yup, you're probably right.
I think people say hey after someone else says how's it going, because we've just kind of adapted that as a way of saying hello. Hey, how's it going isn't really a question anymore, it's just another way to say hello, hi or hey.
And sometimes, it's not because people don't care, people don't respond with a legitimate answer (like the guy on the bike) because they've got a place to be, they don't really have time for a conversation.
Unlike the old guy, he was standing alone, he had the time.
Actually, when I ask people "how's it goin?", i'm actually interested in whatever they have to say... and when people ask me, I usually give them a very quick expressive yet honest answer... and their reaction tells alot about them as a person.
for the most part, those phrases just morphed into other ways to say "hi/hello".
when i get "what's up?", i usually reply "nothing (you?)", as in nothing important, or nothing i want to talk about. if i have something to do or talk about, then i'll mention it.
if i get "how's it going?/how're you doing?", i reply fine/good. if i'm not really feeling either, i just go "ok", because i don't want to go into why i'm feeling less than fine in passing.
i think it also depends on how well we know who's asking. if we run into a friend or someone we know pretty well, we'll most likely answer freely and actually have a conversation. but if we're just meeting strangers in passing, we just stick to the generic stuff and keep going, unless for some reason an actual back-and-forth starts up.
=) I care...if somebody asks me "how's it going?" I reply back to them dependant where I am...if at work I of course respond with "good" and ask them back (work at a coffee shop) or somewhere else not at work I'll tell them good or could be better...when I ask them "how's it going" and notice a lot of them time it's "hello (smile)" of course if I know them they let me know lol. the tourists don't always see me for who i am haha it's all good, I won't stop being me XD
i've noticed this same thing. whenever somebody says "how's it goin" i always tell them how my day is, whether its pretty good, or could be better or pretty shitty. and its always followed by asking them how they're doing. almost none of them respond. about 75% of the ones who say anything back are old people. people just arent friendly enough lol
Hahaha, this is a really interesting video. I was wondering about that too. As for me, I only ask "how are you" if I really care and I want to hear how someone is feeling at the moment. I don't use it as a greeting.
Today I'm feeling EPIC ! :D
IraLive1 1 month ago
they say good or fine because thats just wat they do
Gabrella4429 1 month ago
Here in Switzerland, it's just a reflex to say: I'm good, what about you... or something similar. The thing is though, nobody really gives you an honest answer and really also don't care...
FEAJramdomfilms 2 months ago
Once, I was on an airplane going to Hawaii, and I got lucky enough to be in first class. The lady that sat next to me though? Gave me two long lectures. I was sketching something from a coloring book (yeah, i know, i'm a dork) and she ranted about how people need to use their artistic abilities. She also lectured me on how boyfriends will never be my best friends, and to always stick with my girls.
She also had like, 8 cups of wine... didn't even need to say "What's up"
dramakittymeow 2 months ago
i say delightful!
112887db 2 months ago
Wow, now I'm going to pay more attention to my responses to people. (:
confusdsincbirth 3 months ago
Yeah stay away from the oldees on their bike too. Got a lecture from a lot of them.
EpicJellyCake 3 months ago
Whenever I ask people how they're doing, I look straight at them. Cause I sincerely want to know if they're alright.
1377master 4 months ago
I always think of this video whenever someone asks me " how're you?"
Craig6623 4 months ago
@Craig6623 I do too lol ..... some people arent just doing it to be nice ... they actualy want to know the people their passing on the streets.
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@Tellmetojinxit I ask random people when I take the train to Oxford with a group of friends asking people " How're you" Only a few people ever say "I'm good", and it's VERY rare that they say "I'm good, yourself?" But I like it when people ask me how I am... atleast they'd listened... And I'd be more than happy to have a conversation with them :P
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Craig6623 4 months ago
I think "What's up?" or "How's it going?" are just greetings and nothing more. In Hawaii it's "Aloha." Way back when, it used to be,"How do you do?" Isn't that a great one? How do I do what??? Ten years from now it'll be something else... but all in all, I think they are just greetings to say something to someone that says, "I see you there and I'm not ignoring you." No one really has the time or the intent to hear a strangers day, which could turn in to their life story... lol.
starpainter4u 4 months ago
this guy is a dick and DOESNT CARE , talkin shit bout elderly , the man says he feels bad cuz his wifes sick , ,, your a loser dude,, and u start every vid with "hows it going" u dont even realize it, dummy
oiyabastard 5 months ago
This is going to sound stupid, but when someone asks me how I am, I usually just say, and I am not lying, "I don't know." I don't know what to say! It just doesn't register in my mind to say fine or whatever. It is just a normal day. Nothing exciting has happened, and I'm not anticipating anything on normal days, so I guessmy way of saying fine or okay is just "I don't know."
MCLegoboy 6 months ago
whenever someone asks me i always reply with the same frikin' thing: im alright how are you.
undeadwarrior159 6 months ago
Hehe... I know this is old but... I've always been fascinated by this. :)
My conclusion is that most responders are really saying the equivalent of "I don't want to be rude, so I'll respond...". I also believe people may usually ask "How are you?", as a way of gauging an on-coming pedestrian's threat or sanity level, when that person looks "questionable". Bottom line though... no one really cares how your doing. They just want to go about their day.
-Jeff
JeffTrier 7 months ago
you know i say good how about becuse i dont really want to tell people not becuase i dont care but becuase i think people who ask me really dont care about me there just trying to be nice. you know so i always say im good how about you. even if im not.
shelbyhazle1 7 months ago
Lol nice vid :0)
ramseybugs 8 months ago
omg you really think about things ur one of them smart pplz huh?
twilightedfreak 11 months ago
dont you mean RUN!!! FFS
monsterr444 1 year ago
you're mission in this video is a daily moment for old people no offense to you all ;)))))
Hellislose 1 year ago
lol. I would have confused you. I generally stop, stare for a moment to gather what just happened, then reply. "I'm here." If someone asks me how I am, unless they just walk off, then I grumble at how inconsiderate they are....
ookamiAte 1 year ago
Well when i respond hey what's up or how are u I don't want to talk about it, it s a bad day or just don't care about my day good kinda bad that when I respond like that
longbui100 1 year ago
I have something similar to this happen every day at work, usually in the upwards of 10 or 20 times in an 8 hour shift. I work at a Starbucks inside a grocery store and I always begin an order with someone by saying "Hi! What can I get for you?" And people will respond with "Oh I'm fine, thank you. How are you?" This use to trip me up but I've gotten use to it. And I've come to realize that people just aren't paying attention. I've gotten some very interesting conversations from these mishaps.
Bunniesan 1 year ago
could your smile be any more fake? Lol
PhenixReviewz 1 year ago
The end made me lol so hard. XD
GamingRaptor027 1 year ago
i think you answered your own question in the video by your response to the elderly man who probably never gets a sympathetic ear. we've become insensitive, jaded and basically uncaring.
craniumcrush 1 year ago
but come on, if you're asking eveyone 'how it going?'' well at least the alone guy beside the newpapers is honest to you and talks to you about is entire day and life xD
camstorys 1 year ago
I work in retail as a cashier so I have this habit of either saying "Hi, how are you?" with a big smile OR "Good. How are you?"/ "Good, thanks for asking." -- all depends on my mood though :P
jonarita69 1 year ago
u make a good point with the old people thing i did it to my neighbor and he wud not stop talking about WWII and im like o i gotta go lol
xGloriousDeathx 1 year ago
75 YEAR OLD STALKERS BY NEWSPAPER STANDS 'AHHHHH'
33Qazz33 1 year ago
I live in austraila (not sure if thats relevent) and when i ask
"how are you?" they say "good" but the thing that buggs me
NO ONE EVER ASKS ITS BACK EXEPT ME!!! Me and a bunch of people went to get our pictures taken and when i went ubto the booth he asked how are you? I anwered and asked back abd he said "Wow. No one ever asks me back!"
this made me feel good
Cholleca 1 year ago
what about the people how say hi?
geodonsmbfred 1 year ago
One time, I asked someone who was crying, "how are you?" and they said, "wonderful. How are you?"
MrToeFungus 1 year ago
its frking stupid !1 i live in holland and if i ask how is it going (in duthc) THEY DONT AWNSER OR SAYINGG IM FINE ...NOTHING ELSE i laughed very hard aboout this vd nic work
kuiperkill 1 year ago
I think, actually, that we answer "How's it going?" when asked "How's it going?" because it's not so much a genuine question anymore as it is a simple greeting. It has become an equivalent of "Hey", "Hi", or "Hello". It's not that we don't actually care about the answer, it's just that we don't really expect to get one because that wasn't our intent when saying the phrase. All we want to do is give a greeting, not ask about your life story. Ah, the evolution of language!
pottermaniac4292 1 year ago 3
could you do that again ? :) like ask people.
and I hope you 're doing well yourself :p
Dreamer4Dreamer 1 year ago
I LMFAOED When The Old Guy Was Chatting With U
kaykay8100 1 year ago
That's something I've learned while working fast food. This is how it went most of the time (with me starting the convo):
"How may I help you"
"Hi how are you."
"I'm doing fine, how are you?"
"I would like a number..."
And that's IF they didn't interrupt me with MY response. It's just rude in the end, so why even bother. Save your breath, because you're saving my temper that way.
PurpleKetchup42 1 year ago
ha i will
syfearsniper 1 year ago
the question has no meaning anymore. I think "I love you" is going the same way in the US. everybody says I love you like 10 times a day...
black4pienus 1 year ago
i said meh...
bakonfreek 1 year ago
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FINE
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shilakhayam444 1 year ago
FINE
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shilakhayam444 1 year ago 11
see i always say hi and hows it going to the people im walking by and all they answer is " how are you " so then i just turn around and say well im good, then they just walk away! its like come on does anyone have a casual conversation anymore. and when im asked how are you i usually say hi im exellent then ask them the same question. But it never happens to me anymore.. makes me sad. it also makes me feel like no one really cares about me or what i have to say. my friends ignore me too..
TheVanilleFan 1 year ago
12 different kinds of medicine....LOL
ranzarock53 1 year ago
i liked the face u made in 2:10
TheSharpmarksman 1 year ago
How are you cory ? :)
outpost94 1 year ago
endind xD
jonde1123 1 year ago
Usually, people that say "Hey, what's up?" or "How's it going?", I just like...raise my eyebrows and smile. It's kind of rare when I say "Good and you?"
rockrkid101 1 year ago
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Dude, I say hay whats up AND hows it going, to people and I DO CARE what they say.
bluephoenixfireflame 1 year ago
that schnauzer looks EXACTLY like my friends dog
TheYoungestof6 1 year ago
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Man u know it just a greeting cmon.
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
tim3094 1 year ago
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Man u know it just a greeting cmon.
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
tim3094 1 year ago
Man u know it just a greeting cmon.
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
tim3094 1 year ago
Man u know it just a greeting cmon.
I alway tell people how i realy am it doz get me some funny looks and some people have commented wow u really say how u r!
anyway what your problem ya saying it a empty phrase when some one speaks to you u say avoid them thats just silly.
Heres a good 1 i do.
when in a shop and your asked can i help you. Say maybe what can u do? that puzzels that ass off them and your just responding to what you are asked go figure that!!!
tim3094 1 year ago
lol thanks. i saw a news stand and an old person and i told my friend i was with to go say hi to him. he asked how his day was doing and the old man talked for about 2 hours. LOL!!!!
stonejones1 1 year ago
The next time someone asks me how im doing, im going to bust out a 4 hour essay on how my life is going :)
AmusingYeti 1 year ago
i usually say "im fine, how are you" or if im mad, i say the same thing, and i will always have a welcoming smile while im at it, so people wont worry if im depressed or something, i dont like worrying people
Kyoko8587 1 year ago
My response is usually an "I'm fine." Cus I'm too pessimistic to say 'wonderful' and I'm too optimistic to say 'terrible' I had a strange combination of parents.
Anyways, I think the reason why people say things like that is because of habit. It defines a lot of what we do. We see other people doing it and we never get scolded for an impersonal greeting. And anyways, most people (not just us snooty Americans) are completely self-absorbed and don't care. I have little choice but to care.
ShiebL 2 years ago
IM ALIVE!! AND THATS ALL DAT MATTERS!
sakusaskue 2 years ago
I either say, "i'm ok" or "I'm alive" or "not so great, but I'll be ok." I rarely say 'fine', but then people get irritated with me XD
Delockony0kkp 2 years ago
now i know never to talk to ppl by news stands lol
breezyhope14 2 years ago
hi hows it going......... now lets just see what you say?
gothicgman 2 years ago
0:57 its when you start your evil look or your look of "I got a crazy idea,that may work!" till 1:08
I LOVE THAT FACE!MEANS SOMETHING COOL WILL HAPPEN!
Bibimykitty 2 years ago
I used to take things very literal and if asked a question like "how are you", "how's it going", etc., I would tell them-in detail. I wasn't trying to "unload" on anyone--I was just giving an honest anser. My mother then explained to me that these were just greetings to acknowledge your existence and be "friendly"; they don't really want to know how you're doing they are just saying "hello". This answer made NO sense to me at the time, but I eventually learned to accept it as illogical but true.
CatGotYourTongue91 2 years ago 2
im gonna do that! im gonna be in the halls at school and walk up to some sixth grader (im in 8th)and be like "hows it going" and if they say good, im gonna turn around and walk with them, starting up a conversation
SasukeIsPwnage 2 years ago
Years ago I was depressed & lonely, I used to get angry when people asked "how are you', cause I know they really didn't want to know. I would just say fine thanks though sometimes I would reply 'do you really want to know'
Now when I say 'fine' its usually cause I'm not. If I reply 'good thanks' I really am ok & if I reply "good thanks how are you" it means I'm also willing to talk to the other person. I really don't like asking someone how they are unless I am willing to listen.
chickinchainmail 2 years ago 33
@chickinchainmail I don't walk around smiling.Who does? My family would ask me, "Is something wrong?" my response evolved into, "If there was something wrong, and I wanted you to know, I'd talk about it" Maybe my normal face is just ugly, at work, people would call me grumpy. It hurt my feelings a lot. I would be stuck at work for another 6 hours trying not to cry. Got to the point where I couldn't take it anymore, and I put in my 2 notice but quit before the end of that night.
FaeFaeore 1 month ago
Hey! That's so interesting! I'm not English or American or whatever. English is not my mother language. And this happens to me so often... I meet a person I know and he asks me "How is it going?" so I start to answer and he.... is already talking to somebody else! Or, even before I start to answer, he is 10 meters away. and I'm always like "Why the hell was he asking?" and here's the secret! he didn't care! :D
Pe2805M 2 years ago 4
I always thought "how's it going?" to be more like hello, or good morning. Personally I don't care to hear someone's ailments when I have plenty of my own.
untmdsprt 2 years ago
lol i think you answered your own question, though, when the old man started talking your ear off. maybe most polite people don't want to make a stranger's ear bleed, so they respond with a polite mimic of your question, in the hopes that you won't talk their ear off, either.
i usually answer "all right" or "I'm alive, so the day could be much worse." my fiance always goes into grand detail on how crappy our life is with complete strangers.
though i am considering answering "purple" next time.
silverladylove 2 years ago 3
I ALWAYS WONDER THIS!!
And nobody I asked could give me an answer...
Baby324567 2 years ago
who cares?
pouts1231 2 years ago
i SAW this happen.... guy #1 said hi to guy #2 and guy #2 punched guy#1 in the face.
0oDaFUZZo0 2 years ago 2
This is an interesting sociological study. I myself tend to give diffurrent answers depending on who is asking and what they ask. If I know you, you are more likely to get a fairly detailed response to a greeting like How's everything going for you? If you ask me what's up the answer will be 'Everything over my head.' and the reply to how are you is normally "I'm not dead.'
For people I don't know I'll reply in a friendly way with a positive response and a smile.
Dragdamar 2 years ago
I tend to confuse people. When someone asks me how I'm doing in passing, I answer with a single, non-related word, like "purple". It makes people stop, turn around, and question you usually. It makes them pay attention.
RayneyNight 2 years ago 44
@RayneyNight - going to try that lol. It's could be fun :D
BelieverOfDragons 2 years ago
@RayneyNight I DO THAT TOO! OMG!
Gannon141 1 year ago
@Gannon141 Right now I am in the hospital and so my answer is usually "Alive" right now. My nurses like it because they know a few days ago the alternative was an almost certainty. My family was told I wasn't going to live to see June 1st. I was in a coma until a few days ago.
RayneyNight 1 year ago
@RayneyNight Bummer...
Gannon141 1 year ago
@RayneyNight this made me smile.
gamma830 1 year ago
I live in a small A%^ town where we have no choice but to talk to creepy old people. But I'm also one of those people that just can't be mean unless needed.
And besides they're just some old lonely person that wants to be seen.
but hen the start talking the don't stop.
so i see you point, i have more experience than necessary n the subject.
Have a good day! :)
KSMSFB23 2 years ago
I said Hi.. To someone he gave me the middle finger... i don't know why
RAJASERVER 2 years ago
I totally agree with you.
Monetsuoku 2 years ago 2
if you did that to me i'd just nod and look away. Or seem petrified like a rabbit caught in headlights.
chrysakitten 2 years ago
that's not good.. you waste a whole lot of time with fun n frenzy stuff. can't you just give a 5 minute happiness to a 70 years alone .. So mean..!!
fizakhanz 2 years ago
I always reply with "I'm good. How are you?" I love to know whats going on with people.
MMFvideos301 2 years ago
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chocolaterulz89 2 years ago
Great Observation(?) the last 5 seconds made my day^^
The funny thing is that the People replied to you, even if they're repeating what you say.
I live in Germany in a small town and everytime i said: Hello to the people they just ignored me and went on like they saw a ghost or somethin. So you kinda can be happy living at such a place with this kind of people.
Akriema 2 years ago 2
people where i live in california don't care either it gets really annoying
11SoniaOnio11 2 years ago
stay away trust me lol
christopher9399 2 years ago
wow im amazed, where the hell is this place everyone is so nice lol . if it was in nyc ppl be like fuk u. or either no answer
theplyr 2 years ago
This actually vary from country to country I think. Cuz' here in sweeden we don't ask "how is it going" if we don't want to know, or don't know the person. "how are you/how is it going" do we only say to people we know. And if youre asked you say either "good, and how are you? " or "it's ok. You? " , if a person said it's ok you are supposed to ask why. And to strangers we just say "hello" or maybe "Hi, nice to meet you.". And it's VERRY rare to say hello to a stranger on the street.
ad0xa 2 years ago
stay away trust me
diegoortizechague 2 years ago
when pepole say whats up and im having a good day ill say good and then thell walk right on by but if im having a bad day ill say alright and thell walk right on by if im on the internet and some one says hows it goin and im having a good day ill say fine and theyll walk right on by but if im having a bad day and i say allright everyone trys to avoid me its very very anoying
unknown68652 2 years ago
haha jibber
pringding87 2 years ago
When someone says what's up, I say "Whatever's not down". Its true, quick and ends conversation... :\
moo872 2 years ago
dude people say whats up and walk away or good imagine you come up to someone and ask whats up and he starts telling you that his back hurts his ass hurts his wife is cheating on him and stuff imagine what the world would be like
xXxDarkCrossxXx 2 years ago
I would totally just say, "decent." No good, no bad, no questions. Bye person I don't really care for! :D
UmbreonLover67 2 years ago
We just don't want a conversation. If I say "bad, my day was shit," people are going to ask, "why?" I son't want to vent to them... that's what my dog is for :3 JK-- I talk to my parents/BF.
UmbreonLover67 2 years ago
really? cuz when My friends and I do that it's more like
" What's up"
"Nothing"
CONVERSATION ENDS
LorenISmyName 2 years ago
when people ask me "whats up?"I say "everything" and walk away.
jad653112 2 years ago
when people asked me whats up i used to stare at them cuz i didnt know how to answer that. then i asked a person how i was to respond to that and he said that i could just say the sky or my penis or something. so now when people ask me whats up i say my penis. its not better than just staring at them like i used to, but i at least respond now
Rashanga 2 years ago
its da same wit walmart greeters
Cycostickman 2 years ago
3:39 - 3:45
rhymed!
blue98starwars 2 years ago
Why was the old guy saying "There are 12 or 13 types of medicine..." ?
MariahModestyMcKay 2 years ago
Whats really pisses me off is when I cant even get out the im fine and you line when they ask me first its how are you give me a pack of marlboro';s
NoReboundsPlease 2 years ago
I greet about 500 people a day. I get about 15 of the guy by the newspaper stand a day They hold up the line sometimes for hours and get you cussed out for your slow line by all the others in the line who think that it is your relative because they are telling you their life story. The im good line is one said out of politness Yes complete strangers dont usually care how your doing they just check to make sure they still have their wallet and move on.
NoReboundsPlease 2 years ago
I think that's just a reflex like when you're hurting you say "ouch" or "fuck" it depends ^ ^
or it may be a form of politeness, respect for you answer ...
uknown2424 2 years ago
I think 'fuck' is a very polite word :D
Ocrun 2 years ago
I don't think but many people use it because it's simple and quick to say it, it's one of the first word that comes to your mouth when something doesn't happen as we want or imagined ; )
I'm french but I say many times too XD
uknown2424 2 years ago
haha! I have a couple older relatives, and during the holidays, you have to be REALLY carefull not to get cornered by them or else they will talk to you FOREVER about something totally boring. -_-
flower303 2 years ago
how are you doing "high" lol
Pugzillas 2 years ago
"Pretty good, you?"
wcooper97 2 years ago
LOL i love how at 4:17 your face transforms!
Zer0Hr 2 years ago
dude what a bad experiment, ppl say whats up back to u because they want to be respectful and not just say good and leave it as that
u get it? if u walking by a person and ask hows it going they are gonna be polite and ask u the same, now if u actually stopped u might get further into the convo. its just like saying hey, and hey back whats not to get?
its like saying have a good day and then them saying have a good day back..
AnhKiaa 2 years ago
so true, I always say "waht's up?" or "how's it going?" when I totally don't give a shit about the other person. Now when I DO care, I usually say "Fine thanks, and you?", or "I'm fine, how are YOU doing?" lol you totally opened my eyes....
whirly1300 2 years ago
SYLAR
PwnedHaxor 2 years ago
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PwnedHaxor 2 years ago
if that person is above 75 and they smile like this when they see you :D stay away
bonesaw667 2 years ago
I reckon people reply "I'm good" or "Whats up" because 10% of people would talk to you for ever! Its just a quick and polite response to say "I'm fine". It sure is better than just ignoring you.
Thank god for headphones! Only take them off when you need to talk! ha ha
GrantRimington1 2 years ago
This is why I don't go outside.
CrazyDogLady04 2 years ago
Its a conversation starter.
Monkeymja 2 years ago
so i took you advice and the next time i see a smiling old person i am going too beat him/her the hell down
(joking)
geometrololi 2 years ago
poor man victim of the babbling old man(-; lol
geometrololi 2 years ago
...On my work here in every single morning when I barely walk in an office I immediately get that stupid question "How is it going?" What the hell can I say? What is going? Nothing happened yet so far :) So, you American better tell why. Thanks for video :) P.S. What's up?
amperial2008 2 years ago
Hey man, is that OK what I just said? This is exactly I still can't understand since my arriving to the USA 6 years ago. In the very beginning I even was trying to tell people asking me something like what's up what I'm going to do. Then I got it's nothing to worry about, just say anything back even a simple Hi...
amperial2008 2 years ago
i think the reason why ppl just say "good" or "what's up" is because they don't want to talk at the time
DancingWithChickens 2 years ago
Something like this happened ( 2:09 ) to me about 8 months ago. My dog got out so I ran after her. I couldn't get her to come with me so I was running back home to get a ball when someone said Hi, I said Hi back and suddenly the guy talked for 10 MINUTES about how he had spent almost his whole life in the estate anyway, I was hardly listening to what the guy said and when he stopped I said CYA, he said bye then I ran off. I got my dog back in though.
iMac1787 2 years ago
I get the point of the video... we were talking abou this is in class.
It's called phatic talk. You don't care about the answer, it's about "Establishing relationships" and/or "acknowledging other people's presence" (Quotes because that's how it was written in the book).
shifre 2 years ago
Hah, I totally understand this video. :D
I'm from Finland, and we here don't usually say "What's up" or anything like that when meeting somebody, only people who know each others ask that.
And when you ask it from your good friend, she/he answers usually something like "Nothing special" or just "good", because she don't have anything intresting to say.
Saukki12 2 years ago
If somebody asks me "What's up?" in messenger, I answer usually "Good/Bad, I'm (something what I'm doing)/(or something intresting what happened today).
But I think it pretty weird to answer to question with question..
Saukki12 2 years ago
"Fine" is just the generic answer, I think. Like I'll have totally horrible days and still answer that. xD
margarom 2 years ago
i love this video!!! btw i already said this but i reallllly miss someone and im alone alot and i hatttee being alone which sounds rly pathetic but yea..thers my complete answer to your question :D just felt like i had to tell you!
FantasyGirlQueen 2 years ago
that might be true for some people not all
redcomet1996 2 years ago
people consider "whats up" or "hows it going" as ways to say hello.
kokoroyer 2 years ago
i just say nm, you?
hiitsme3love128 2 years ago
In my country you would be killed for talking to a complete stranger. So many mean people around here. I loved the ending of the video, good advice xD
VladimirRothar 2 years ago
fake,fake, fake!
just kidding, but that is one thing that doesen't stop to amaze me, why do people from youtube think that everything is fake... : )
trhnpc 2 years ago 4
I'm right in the middle. When people say something like "How's it goin?" or something like that, I sometimes say "pretty good" or I just say "Hey" but other times I will say something like "Sup?" but that's rare. I usually say "Hey" or something.
MyNameIsTylerY 2 years ago
you r so right! sometimes people just dont realy care. they just want to get rid of you. great experiment by the way!
howling4you 2 years ago
ya i realy could care less about other peoples day
but i say sup to people and give them a peace sign so haha you missed one XP
XxXxCAJUNxXxX 2 years ago
rofl the ending!
kokoroyer 2 years ago
This is actually a pretty neat experiment and the answers were pretty..expected. Wow..That's actually pretty interesting when you think about that....
yaknowyoda 2 years ago
People don't care
Eh,Such as life =\
CanaanSGl 2 years ago
That's so funny. As a person who works at Wal-Mart, I hear that and say it all day long, and lately I've been asking my customers why they say it too. XP It's just our way of being polite in the short amount of time passing the stranger I think. ;D
ashwinchester 2 years ago
Oh and I learned something else too. Usually if I ask the person how's it goin, and they reply with not too good, or i've been better or something like that, STOP talking to them, cuz that's just an invitation to keep the huge conversation goin that's on the tip of their tongue. XD
ashwinchester 2 years ago
yeah, well, maybe we should care what they have to say. are we really so wrapped up in our own lives that we can't help someone out? What if they remember for the rest of their lives, "this person helped me out, maybe there are other caring people like them out there," and it gives them hope every time they feel down?
Do I sound to much like a Hallmark card?
randomjuff 2 years ago
Heh, hey, Hallmark cards have a lot of meaning, if only people would take the time to think about them, instead of laughing at the corniness of them. ;P There, now I'M a hallmark card. ;D And yup, you're probably right.
ashwinchester 2 years ago
When I worked retail, I made it a point to never ask. Instead, I would ask, "Is there anything I can help you with?" or something along those lines.
SqueakDance 2 years ago
very nice video man! High 5! Check out mine ^^
Zahtael 2 years ago
LOLL stay away from ppl near the newspapers
Jack8248 2 years ago
sup?
smellpickle 2 years ago
I think people say hey after someone else says how's it going, because we've just kind of adapted that as a way of saying hello. Hey, how's it going isn't really a question anymore, it's just another way to say hello, hi or hey.
And sometimes, it's not because people don't care, people don't respond with a legitimate answer (like the guy on the bike) because they've got a place to be, they don't really have time for a conversation.
Unlike the old guy, he was standing alone, he had the time.
whenpigeonsfly 2 years ago 4
i agree w/ whenpigeonsfly. and the video was removed D;
Overtheedgevideos 2 years ago
btw, do you realize the irony behind starting this video with "Hey what's up? This is Mr Safety..." lol
;-D
grumbada 2 years ago
Actually, when I ask people "how's it goin?", i'm actually interested in whatever they have to say... and when people ask me, I usually give them a very quick expressive yet honest answer... and their reaction tells alot about them as a person.
grumbada 2 years ago
you know whats really annoying is that some percent of people you ask them how they are doing and they say fuck you or fuck off
Joe198969 2 years ago
ive noticed when i asked someone whats up they always reply whats up?
actually it mostly only goes with 'sup BUT thats an abbreviation and with whats up they always answer ...
hmm...
these questions haunt me
CheeseOnBurntToast 2 years ago
only 30,909 views? wow. considering how long ago this was uploaded. One of your infamous lost videos in your collection. I'm favirouting this one.
b0w5er 2 years ago
for the most part, those phrases just morphed into other ways to say "hi/hello".
when i get "what's up?", i usually reply "nothing (you?)", as in nothing important, or nothing i want to talk about. if i have something to do or talk about, then i'll mention it.
if i get "how's it going?/how're you doing?", i reply fine/good. if i'm not really feeling either, i just go "ok", because i don't want to go into why i'm feeling less than fine in passing.
freshPrincess626 2 years ago
i think it also depends on how well we know who's asking. if we run into a friend or someone we know pretty well, we'll most likely answer freely and actually have a conversation. but if we're just meeting strangers in passing, we just stick to the generic stuff and keep going, unless for some reason an actual back-and-forth starts up.
freshPrincess626 2 years ago
o_o... He looks evil at 1:00
notheycant 2 years ago
=) I care...if somebody asks me "how's it going?" I reply back to them dependant where I am...if at work I of course respond with "good" and ask them back (work at a coffee shop) or somewhere else not at work I'll tell them good or could be better...when I ask them "how's it going" and notice a lot of them time it's "hello (smile)" of course if I know them they let me know lol. the tourists don't always see me for who i am haha it's all good, I won't stop being me XD
raspberrytwist 2 years ago
i've noticed this same thing. whenever somebody says "how's it goin" i always tell them how my day is, whether its pretty good, or could be better or pretty shitty. and its always followed by asking them how they're doing. almost none of them respond. about 75% of the ones who say anything back are old people. people just arent friendly enough lol
clamobin 3 years ago
people just dont want to open up to stranger
jizay147 3 years ago
Hahaha, this is a really interesting video. I was wondering about that too. As for me, I only ask "how are you" if I really care and I want to hear how someone is feeling at the moment. I don't use it as a greeting.
BAkos 3 years ago
whats up man... srry just trying to be annoying
rooftopscreamers 3 years ago