I totally agree that you find the root of the problem, I have previously made some "schemes" of the "cycle" I used to go through with SI. Nowdays I usually exercize, or just sing a song haha :)
i think rubber band snaping is only helpful if it is used to help while a person is getting to a point where you over do cutting constantly and should only be uesd untill a person is more mentaly stable
I had stopped cutting sometime ago, some months actually. But naah, life is too much of a shit. When i am depressed, and when i cant say anything to anyone so i cut. Cause thats the only way to vent myself. Wrote poetry, but was even refrained from that...... Life is nothing more than me being a pet-dog, there's no such thing as freedom. I know today i cant stop myself. The way i did today.
Just Awesome I am part of your website Is any thing i can do for you send me Mesage I use Any thing rite Self injurer pain kiling pain Who knows whats going on in side my Head I swear its kiling
I think the whole idea of using the ice cube or rubber band is not to recover so much as to get you through tough times until you do recover. I've used the rubber band and its' gotten me past a moment in time but the recovery part of my journey was completely separate from that.
i have a friend that says she going to start cutting, im a cutter myself and i told her not to do it that she will never beable to stop. she just tells me that she can controll it and she wont to it that often i try to tell her that she wont be able to controll it and it really scares me that she say that shes going to start i dont want her to go through what i have went through.. do u have any tips on what i should say to her or any thing pleas help..
i never did use the ice cube but when i stopped self harming i stopped imediatley! and restrained myself from doing it and when im upset now, i get urges to doit but i again restrain myself further and sumtime as a relife i pick up the blade the i use/used and hold it in my hand, put it on my arm but dont cut. it kinda gets rid of the urge just but knowing that if i move ill cut my self but at the same tim knowing i have the choice to say no and put it down. doesnt work all the time for me but..
One good thing that I used to do was eat very hot peppers..not the pickled kind, but fresh ones. I actually asked a doctor if this was a form of self injury, since I have the disorder and it sort of made him think. He told me that was interesting. The only thing is that it does not feel the same as cutting and so, I often don't think to do it, but I suppose that it is better than cutting in some way.
I supose I am a self injurer I love the pain that hot things bring and I will try exotic spicy foods (they bring the best pain) I never thought about it that way untill I read your coment.
I did the rubberband thing and it was helping..until a couple of days ago. I was using thick rubberbands, because they were stronger, but I was so upset that I snapped them before I could let go. Then, I wound up doing even worse. They seemed like a great alternative, but they just were not strong enough...My therapist told me that if you have this disorder as a way of coping, the urge will just always be there. So, it is a neverending battle for all of us.
I definitely agree about the potential problems with doctors and therapists...some can be REALLY good...but occasionally not so much. My very first time in the hospital my doctor was a jerk...he actually made me cry...and didn't help me and discharged me when he shouldn't have, and I unfortuantely attempted suicide as soon as I was out...luckily when I went back in I got a different doctor and got MUCH better treatment ^_^ Don't be afraid to ditch a bad doctor!
I know what you mean about the docters being there just to get paid i have had 1 like that but i am happy to say that i have a verry good one now and i do like her i did have a hard time opening up to her like you said but i am verry lucky and i hope you and every one else finds someone who they are happy with.... but i personaly dont agree with your opinon about God but that is fine i am open to opinons
i self injure. I hit my ankle with a hammer everynight till i fall asleep. I always hit my legs, knee cap or shin with hammer, wrench or something before bed. I am 27 been doing it since I was 14. If i was you I would get help before you end up like me
My boyfriend doesn't like the idea of me wearing rubber bands as something else either. I don't know why, but he doesn't like me to be hurt in any way.
"I don't know why, but he doesn't like me to be hurt in any way" think about that for a second.....keep thinking about what you just said about him....you still thinking? *GASP* could it be because he loves you?!
One thing that has helped me once (not sayin it will help anyone else) is actually WATCHING self injury documentaries that DO say TRIGGERING-for some odd reason, seeing those pictures eases my anxiety...i know wierd
Why is it so hard to find anyone to talk to about these sort of things? The only person I can talk to does so on the conditition there's s** after. Have found GP is wonderful for it however.
I don't know what I'm saying, it's 4 am and I'm high as hell.
my persenal thing was like i thought if i start cutting the step 2 suicide get easy er and some times nothing even happend that day and i was sitting in my and i just snapped for nothing
i get that you have come up with some ways to deal it everything, but you never really seemed to talk like you got really depressed or suicidal. (not juging, just an observation) but its really diffrent cause when i try to stop cutting everything just gets really hopeless and i become really suicidal and am not able to deal with it very well. do you have any other ways or any other advice or something to help, please?
I think you're great, you should have high self esteem hun! Have you talked to anyone else about being suicidal? I worry about you. Feel free to message me.
so i have had suicidal thoughts also and the best way that helps me is to talk to some one that you trust, just talk, you dont have to tell them every thing just a few things, just to get things off you mind and stuff, i have only one person that i can to trust and i just found out that she also has thought about suicide, and that kinda made it better for me just knowing that your not alone and other people are going throu it to really helps, if you need some one to talk to i am here for you
I find that as time went on for me, the cutting got wose....from one or two cuts a day with a knife....to 20 cuts with a razor. I've always found it stupid when people say things like..oh just hold some ice instead of cutting...yeah but its still self injury! also, i never think of self injury as THE problem...it is a problem but its not THE problem...its just a side effect. I trying drawing on my leg with a red pen...and right afterward i grabbed my razor...if anything it made it worse!!! :)
I used to cut myself when I was younger. I asked Jesus to save me from my sins and my depression. We've fought a long, hard battle together against it, and finally, it's gone. Just ask him, and he'll do it for you. It's what he died for- to forgive us and heal us. Don't knock it until you ask him.
you really should check out my video about this subject - for the record I used to be a devout Christian... The video is called "religion has let God down part 1 and 2), I am sorry, but religion and asking God/Jesus to help you is not the answer to everything and I would hate anyone reading this to get their hopes up that it is. Take care.
I am doing A Level psychology and will go on to do a degree. I want to be a psychotherapist or psychologist or therapist etc. I want to help people, and be someone who understands =]
I think that it all boils down to an inability to cope with emotions in some way. You don't really need to be "triggered" by something in that sense of the word, you can just have emotions inside you don't know how to deal with in a healthy way, so you have a physical reaction to an inner feeling. If you want to talk more about it, message me :) Take care.
I get what you are saying, but if that is the case then finding this inner feeling and learning what it is would help me to stop, right. Well then how would I go about finding this inner feeling?
the way you describe how self injurers become secluded and have a hard time talking to people is dead on, especially for me. thanks for these videos :]
Kudos to you for having the intestinal fortitude for speaking up and speaking out. The world needs a lot more people like you who gives of their time and experience freely. As a cutter and also a social worker, I have a lot of insight and empathy regarding self -injury and all types of psychological diseases. You will be in my prayers often. Don't let ANYONE discourage you from doing what you do! You have excellent insight and a fine heart and what you do is appreciated!
Sometimes if i feel bad and feel the urge to cut, i write small poems.. It doesnt always stop me from it or help it, but it clears my mind a bit, and takes it off my chest.
You know, I posted once on a livejournal community, about how I want to stop cutting, and I don't know how, and all my father ever told me was that I needed Jesus, and how much that pissed me off.
And someone replied, and said "Actually, I think you do need jesus."
Haha.
I can't stand it.
No offense to people with religion, but in my opinion its just a big cover up, because of how hard it is for us to just believe in ourselves.
well for me i just said one day im not going to do this anymore and so far ive stopped for two months... but im on the verge of relapsing im trying my best not to though.
Also I have had a few phychiatrist and counsillers and I have to say, I have one who actually seems to care and I think that made the biggest difference - if you don't like your counsiller, phychiatrist, occupational theripist etc then ask if you can see another one, they won't be offended, it is there job.
I've tried elastic band, ice-crushing etc, but nothing seems to work. Talking to friends works sometimes and I used to, but now tbh I don't want to put it on them. X
watching this made me feel less..alone. i HATE therapists/psychs. it seems like all they want to do is medicate. i had one therapist who talked to me for like 15-20 minutes, told me to keep my mouth shut and dont talk back to my parents even if i think im right, and prescribed me prozac..in 15 minutes =/ Worst medication ever! =/
Docters && therapists and whatever are frigging close minded idiots... You tell them everything and they dont give a damn, they just want you to shut up so that they can stick you in a psycho house, so they can make more money off you...
In a previous video you mentioned that the safe alternatives recovery place treats SI different from drug addictions and such by forcing SIers to quit cold turkey. I was thinking that maybe things like the ice cube trick and the rubber band could be ways to help wean the urge. Not that it should take the place of anything else, but I thought possibly it could be used to help curb the urge, so to speak. Just an idea.
i want to stop my si i started when i was ten and well i moved school and all the kids no the i burn my self and they all find it weired but the reason it that i am scared they are going to tell my mum so i want to stop i have done the icecube and it did not work can i have some tips
Id just like to really praise you. iv seen alot of viedeos on here about self harming and yoour video is the only one thats i have sat and watched and thaught that you wernt just attention seeking. people are crying out for help. and you seem to be alot of peoples answer
It's true. Not many people understand, which is why I dont talk to people about it. Its scary to tell someone and it's even scarier when you think the person you are telling doenst understand :(.It really does make you feel very much alone.
Does anyone else have particular songs/music that they listen to when theyre going to cut? I seem to and Im starting to think thats a bit weird, am I alone here? Its not like im saying the song makes me self injure (im not that dumb) but some songs just seem to enhance the experience you know? Ive been trying to quit but living on my own its too tempting all the time, ive got no-one to turn to.
Hey you're not alone. I do have certain songs I like to listen to before or during self harm. I have a playlist for it, as weird as that sounds. I have had hundreds of people tell me the same thing. No, the music doesn't make you cut, but it's all a part of the ritual of cutting - down to where you do it, how you do it, and what you listen to. It's hard when you live alone, trust me I do too. Take care :)
@ IAmTheTragedy I listen to certain songs when I cut too. A lot of self harmers I know do aswell, think its more normal (if thats the right word) than you think. By the way like your music IAmTheTragedy, not that im gona use it to cut but totally relate to the lyrics.
You, and every other SIer out there, should listen to the song "Breathe Me" by Sia. It really communicates the feelings of self injury effectively, and this coming from someone who self harms. The song is based on Sia's own experiences, and it is very beautiful.
wow great vid. i have gone to a therapist and he was homophobic. wich made things worse for me in the end. he kept trying to turn me straight. i was more suicidal after then what i went with. of courc im in a small town i dont get many options. and ive lost all my friends here, and im still not comfortable talking to my family. i have no wher to go. ive opened up to people and in the end they break my heart.
I know it can feel hopeless a lot of times, I know that it seems like nothing works because a lot of stuff DOESN'T work.. But I do believe there is hope, and I do believe we can get through this. You aren't alone, and I hope that you know there are people who will support you and who do understand. Take care :)
Im surry but im a Christian, i go to church every Sunday and i love God but i still hurt myself ya know so i dont think God is the only one who can help "self injurers" over come things..... maybe im just unwilling to let him help me idk i just dont agree with you.
You don't understand S.I. Its hard to understand "God" is not going to help some on with S.I. its hard to stop and it takes a long time for some one to stop its like an addiction its hard to stop I know I've been cutting for four years now and I can't stop I've tried to let "god" help me but it didn't help
I don't understand S.I.?...i cut myself for over 2 years...i think i understand self injury. And to inform everybody...i have started self injuring myself again...so i guess i was wrong...god can't cure you...i'm not sure anything can stop this....
I 'm sorry I thought you were just another annoying ass thinking they know whats going to help people I'm very sorry but I thought wrong. I've been feeling that no one knows what what they are saying when they talk about S.I. and what can "cure" S.I. because I've tryed alot of different things to stop from cutting my self and they don't work for me I'm sorry that I misunderstood what you were saying, and I'm sorry if I was the one who made you start to S.I. agian because of my rude comment
well that's ok...i'm going to councelling in january and a program that is suppossed to teach me how to not cut myself...but whatever idk if it will work...but it wasn't you who made me cut again so don't blame yourself...
It's been three months since I've cut. I've tried to get better with a bunch of different ways, and I'm still not really better, but one thing that really helped me was the realization that my pain was not IN my wrists, and that cutting into it was never going to fix the pain, but that the pain was much deeper inside, and much harder to get at. I'm still depressed but I'm learning to just live with that instead of cutting as well. Not sure if this helps...
I like here. Im 50 and life has almost always been a bitch for me. G-D want help. Just never give up, what ever helps you in this life. Learn how not to feel.Good people feel to much.
Agreed. We need more therapists that aren't shocked/ disgusted/ confused by self injury...therapists who actually care and who don't use transparant "empathy" techniques that feel totally manipulative and empty.
I think god teaches us through pain. Not "saving" you might have demanded a courage in you to speak up & help some of us who were made to feel wrong and alone.
what is the website adress i'd really like so see it and share more with ppl too. u definetely have good points to make thank u for giving me more insight on myself it really helps
yah..when i had to cancel one of my sessions with my theripist. she wrote back saying ok..but next time you will still have to pay for your session..and it killed me. thinking she really cared..i mean ..y am i paying someone to so called "lisen"
Today i was mad and upset after going for a walk around town and everyone being so unpleasant. People giving nasty looks instead of just returning a smile..... when I got home it was real hell, I felt so upset.
They are fascists in this town, with a horrendous recent history, and yet they like to portray themselves as the creme de la creme. Just 5 mins drive away is another town, a different world entirely, with both feet on the ground.
They still vote for the fascist party in this town...
Just think how delusional Freud was, and then consider that he is one of the most prominent psychoanalysts according to the mainstream... then consider the business aspect of medicine, patients become consumers and guinea pigs, and the whole point of health-care is lost... this is what we have.
Maybe it would be much more useful to organize meetings... to try and identify the cause, and help elaborate strategies, because at least the group will have interest and knowledge to resolve issues.
I really struggle with cutting and if I get the urge I go work out(Cause I need to lose weight) or I talk to my best guy friend but that doesn't always work.
i tried the ice cube thing, but it didn't really work for me eventhough i can see how it would work for others. talking is a good way but its the hardest :( i wrote an english essay a few weeks ago about my experiance and it helped. i could let you read it?
would like to read your essay, if you'd let me :) I have heard of a while bunch of things therapists say to do, but everyone's different. You can send it to me here, or send it to the email on my profile page (it won't let me put emails in a comment.) thanks!
Yeah, I have had them tell me that too. It shows that they have NO idea why we SI in the first place... Needless to say I don't recommend anyone actually do that.
Hmm. Interesting. I believe differently. I'm a conservative evangelical Christian and I believe that God will never let me down. Sometimes all my friends are busy and can't talk to me or something, so I talk to God. He's someone I believe will always be there to listen. And because he's intangible and complete and perfect in love and grace, I know He will never turn away from me.
But anyway, that's just what I believe. I also rely on friends, too. And family some. Mostly friends and God though.
That can also hurt yourself too, though. Coping mechanisms are coping mechanisms, no matter what they are. I think people should let their emotions out in a healthy way, instead of masking them with a physical action - since that's basically what self injury is.
the ice thing is still harm though.some people may be able to buld up to no harma and to stop cutting they use the ice trick and buld up to no self harm at all. some people need to stop like that -snaps fingers. with no slowly or fast building up nothing.
its hard eather way though but you people can do it. personally is syopped cold turkey but did it again and stopped again.
That's what I am saying, ice cubes and rubber bands are still harm, and don't get to the root of the problem. Coping mechanisms are harmful to your mental health no matter what they are. I agree with you. Lots of people relapse, but the important thing is to take it 1 day at a time. Take care :)
Ice cubes and rubber bands are still avoiding the reasons you want to self harm in the first place, so I don't condone anything like that. It's best to deal with problems instead of trying to bury them in other activities. But, different strokes for different folks :) Take care.
thanxs...... for sharing all u do with everyone..... it helps me 2 try new things and see if they work to help me stop cutting...... i love ur videos..... i have watched a lot of them...... and my friend who know i cut myself...... i give them the link to some of ur videos..... and know they understand more then they did from what i was saying....... thank u.....
Yeah, if you do things like ice or the rubber band trick, it's still a "coping mechanism", and therefore doesn't resolve your inner problems, which is the root of the issue, I think. Getting your mind off it by being creative in other ways is the best way to go, or doing healthy physical things :)
I never really thought with you, but I think you are rigth. I am atheist, and I have thought many times that everything would be easier, if I would believe in God and have a religion, but then I would hate myself for doing it, because that's just not me. I'm not believing in God, and it wouldn't be me, if I would try lie to myself to feel better. That wouldn't work.
part two: And then I agree with you about the hurting with ice or stuff. I thought about this before, and you've got to take the problem at the roots. You can't just say 'Stop to self injure from now on'. It wouldn't work, because there would still be a whole in you telling you that something's missing there. At some time you started with it, because of something and if you can't solve or get along with this root of your self injury, you can't cope. Well, that's my opinion about it.
Even if you've crossed the 5 years of being clean, which usually makes therapists think you've coped.. If you still can't handle situations which made you start self injury, there is always the possibility to start again.
It's very hard to work on why you started with it, but I'm trying to do so. If it works, I will be one of the happiest people in the world, because you know, it's not like I'm sad right now, but self injury became the way I handle emotions. So yeah, the thing is, let emotions out on art, sports and stuff, but think about why you do. Or something like that.
mostly for me anyway i've probably relied on many different things.For example I used to have a boyfriend who didn't like self injurers and he looked down on them.He didn't know I was one so I tried to stop but my need to cut was greater than my need to stop for him.After that I relized I don't really want to stop.I've tried so many times but for other people but not for me.I want to stop a little but I don't really care as much except for stopping for other people not myself.
hey.thanks for posting your videos...youre very brave.I hope youre more OK..
i injure myself for about two years...after one year,it became an obsession for me.i realised that i wasnt okay,so i was trying to stop..and well,i stopped for one whole year...it was one of the hardest things in my life.but..as the time went,all my thoughts were connected with cutting..i did it again.after 1year.nobody knows about my pain...and im trying to stop again.i wanna get rid of that shit thats killing me :(
i found something that helps me a bit , wrapping a rubber band round my wrists and pinging it whenever i get an urge to cut..its not the same as cutting but its something..
that works for some people, not for others. to me, i think it's important to get to the root of the behavior instead of replacing it with another, even if it's not as dangerous.
agreed, completely. you should hear some of the JOKES therapists have asked me to do instead of self injure. It was demeaning and patronizing. I am sorry your therapist did that :( that's always a bad sign.
god, a website would be so cool. i get so fed up of people's beliefs that if you self injur, you are an "emo". people always make that link, and im fed up of being called "emo". nice video!!!!!
I used to self injur and i know people are going to disaprove or somethin but God saved my life sorry if i'm giving false hope 2 people but it's true. Don't get me wrong things never got any easier but I realized that there is a God who wants a close relationship with me, that saved my life; I always have God. I hope i don't have a relapse, i can't stop self injury for myself, there isn't any motivation, if i felt alone I would self injur, but I know God is here. Sry if that offended anyone.
To some people that can be very motivational. To others, they may scoff at that notion. I personally think that you need to rely on YOURSELF to stop SI'ing, and even if you give God the credit, it's really something you did because you are a strong individual. Good luck in your recovery. I made a vid about this called "religion has let god down" btw.
i like it and i had a really ruff day today, im 11 years old, ive NEVER self injured, only with a pencil one time, but i always want to. and tomorrow i keep saying im gonna commit suicide, and my mother said i better go to a therapist...but she doesnt really care about me...my life is a mess...EVERYTHING is a mess...literally...help??
Thanks for sharing. Your experience is hard and I can understand recalling my harsh experiences at a young age of 12. Suicidal thoughts crossed my mind at that age. You can overcome this.
i have a question about religion and self injury. everyone i know believes that self injury is against god and you will go to hell...wat do you guys think?
You definitely will not go to hell for self injuring. its a mental illness, although many religious leaders will tell you that your body is a temple and cutting yourself is like cutting God. However, I know I am forgiven regardless of WHAT I believe in, and if there is a God, I should hope that god would be a forgiving one, since SI isn't usually about trying to sin.
i really loved this. i would just like to say first that i'd really love to be apart of what you're doing. i am a recovered SI but i struggle with it every day. i'm starting a project called "awareness is contagious", focusing mainly on self-injury. i'd really like to talk more about it with you, as well as everything you've talked about.
thanks for saying that if you have no one to talk to you are always there... i have no friends no one ever wants to listen and they always just dismiss my problems and say get over it quit being emo.. I AM NOT EMO!!! i just wish that there was someone who would be there for me....
Sweetie, is there any reason why you blocked me? I tried to send you a message the other day... hope all is well, and if you blocked me, maybe you won't be seeing this... xo
i know :/ lol funny you should mention that, because i always look a little "special" in the still-frame youtube picks. ah well, unless i do a dramatic pause at about 10 minutes in one of my videos there's not much i can do. ;)
I am searching for those who are lost..who feel hurt..who feel hopeless..I was put here to help others
ichimarukills 1 year ago
I totally agree that you find the root of the problem, I have previously made some "schemes" of the "cycle" I used to go through with SI. Nowdays I usually exercize, or just sing a song haha :)
kotathatsme 1 year ago
i think rubber band snaping is only helpful if it is used to help while a person is getting to a point where you over do cutting constantly and should only be uesd untill a person is more mentaly stable
koolalice1 1 year ago
I had stopped cutting sometime ago, some months actually. But naah, life is too much of a shit. When i am depressed, and when i cant say anything to anyone so i cut. Cause thats the only way to vent myself. Wrote poetry, but was even refrained from that...... Life is nothing more than me being a pet-dog, there's no such thing as freedom. I know today i cant stop myself. The way i did today.
mroutcast87 2 years ago
Just Awesome I am part of your website Is any thing i can do for you send me Mesage I use Any thing rite Self injurer pain kiling pain Who knows whats going on in side my Head I swear its kiling
Turkishhuman 2 years ago
I think the whole idea of using the ice cube or rubber band is not to recover so much as to get you through tough times until you do recover. I've used the rubber band and its' gotten me past a moment in time but the recovery part of my journey was completely separate from that.
shaydeelady 2 years ago
i have a friend that says she going to start cutting, im a cutter myself and i told her not to do it that she will never beable to stop. she just tells me that she can controll it and she wont to it that often i try to tell her that she wont be able to controll it and it really scares me that she say that shes going to start i dont want her to go through what i have went through.. do u have any tips on what i should say to her or any thing pleas help..
thank you for reading this..
soarh1 2 years ago
i never did use the ice cube but when i stopped self harming i stopped imediatley! and restrained myself from doing it and when im upset now, i get urges to doit but i again restrain myself further and sumtime as a relife i pick up the blade the i use/used and hold it in my hand, put it on my arm but dont cut. it kinda gets rid of the urge just but knowing that if i move ill cut my self but at the same tim knowing i have the choice to say no and put it down. doesnt work all the time for me but..
mysexyspongebob08 2 years ago
im really glad i found this video. it really helps. thanks!
slipknotmaggot54 2 years ago
One good thing that I used to do was eat very hot peppers..not the pickled kind, but fresh ones. I actually asked a doctor if this was a form of self injury, since I have the disorder and it sort of made him think. He told me that was interesting. The only thing is that it does not feel the same as cutting and so, I often don't think to do it, but I suppose that it is better than cutting in some way.
TheonlyNeurotica 2 years ago
I supose I am a self injurer I love the pain that hot things bring and I will try exotic spicy foods (they bring the best pain) I never thought about it that way untill I read your coment.
DreamsofCentaurs 2 years ago
I did the rubberband thing and it was helping..until a couple of days ago. I was using thick rubberbands, because they were stronger, but I was so upset that I snapped them before I could let go. Then, I wound up doing even worse. They seemed like a great alternative, but they just were not strong enough...My therapist told me that if you have this disorder as a way of coping, the urge will just always be there. So, it is a neverending battle for all of us.
TheonlyNeurotica 2 years ago
thnx for the vids they are a big help
dragonfablelore69 2 years ago
I definitely agree about the potential problems with doctors and therapists...some can be REALLY good...but occasionally not so much. My very first time in the hospital my doctor was a jerk...he actually made me cry...and didn't help me and discharged me when he shouldn't have, and I unfortuantely attempted suicide as soon as I was out...luckily when I went back in I got a different doctor and got MUCH better treatment ^_^ Don't be afraid to ditch a bad doctor!
Feenrai 2 years ago
I know what you mean about the docters being there just to get paid i have had 1 like that but i am happy to say that i have a verry good one now and i do like her i did have a hard time opening up to her like you said but i am verry lucky and i hope you and every one else finds someone who they are happy with.... but i personaly dont agree with your opinon about God but that is fine i am open to opinons
1993rockergirl 2 years ago
i self injure. I hit my ankle with a hammer everynight till i fall asleep. I always hit my legs, knee cap or shin with hammer, wrench or something before bed. I am 27 been doing it since I was 14. If i was you I would get help before you end up like me
Hateeternal2009 2 years ago
I tried doing that but I have this "friend" who would take my rubber bands and break them if he saw me wearing them...
littlelycan 2 years ago
My boyfriend doesn't like the idea of me wearing rubber bands as something else either. I don't know why, but he doesn't like me to be hurt in any way.
EpithicaxXx 2 years ago
"I don't know why, but he doesn't like me to be hurt in any way" think about that for a second.....keep thinking about what you just said about him....you still thinking? *GASP* could it be because he loves you?!
DreamsofCentaurs 2 years ago
One thing that has helped me once (not sayin it will help anyone else) is actually WATCHING self injury documentaries that DO say TRIGGERING-for some odd reason, seeing those pictures eases my anxiety...i know wierd
6SUPER6KAWAII6 2 years ago
It made me want to stop for a minute or two...I agree with you on that.
ohioanalily 2 years ago
Why is it so hard to find anyone to talk to about these sort of things? The only person I can talk to does so on the conditition there's s** after. Have found GP is wonderful for it however.
I don't know what I'm saying, it's 4 am and I'm high as hell.
59redhead 2 years ago
i self injure so i DON'T commit suicide. Self injuring is what saved me.
MrCoinoperatedboy 2 years ago
my persenal thing was like i thought if i start cutting the step 2 suicide get easy er and some times nothing even happend that day and i was sitting in my and i just snapped for nothing
vklasener 2 years ago
im emo n im 11 i self harm and i dont know whyy?
THEGTAGODOFWAR 2 years ago
I'd love to be able to talk to you, but I just. I dunno. I stuck at talking to people I don't really know.
EpithicaxXx 2 years ago
i agree... some things you need stronger coping ways than others.
XMixedXEmotionsX 2 years ago
i get that you have come up with some ways to deal it everything, but you never really seemed to talk like you got really depressed or suicidal. (not juging, just an observation) but its really diffrent cause when i try to stop cutting everything just gets really hopeless and i become really suicidal and am not able to deal with it very well. do you have any other ways or any other advice or something to help, please?
MushiMushi100 2 years ago
Talking about anything...It doesnt work...
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fluterify 2 years ago
Chatting with you isn't a waste, don't say that! I will message you asap and we can chat elsewhere aside from comments. Take care until then.
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
Thank- You! :/ :)
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I think you're great, you should have high self esteem hun! Have you talked to anyone else about being suicidal? I worry about you. Feel free to message me.
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
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Because the times we have talked you seemed really genuine and nice, and I am a good judge of people. Everyone deserves to be great, yes you do hun.
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of course you deserve to live. everyone deserves to live... why do you feel that way? it's not right.
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fluterify 2 years ago
so i have had suicidal thoughts also and the best way that helps me is to talk to some one that you trust, just talk, you dont have to tell them every thing just a few things, just to get things off you mind and stuff, i have only one person that i can to trust and i just found out that she also has thought about suicide, and that kinda made it better for me just knowing that your not alone and other people are going throu it to really helps, if you need some one to talk to i am here for you
cheerjellybabe 2 years ago
sometimes i feel like cutting i just sit here and watch a really long video of yours and the feeling passes
rugrats1212 2 years ago
I am glad the longer videos can be of some use to someone... I am glad you are able to resist the urge. :) Take care.
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fluterify 2 years ago
You don't know me, I'm here if you need someone to listen.
FriendlyPorcupine 2 years ago
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fluterify 2 years ago
No worries mate.
Let me know if you need me. :]
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fluterify 2 years ago
I find that as time went on for me, the cutting got wose....from one or two cuts a day with a knife....to 20 cuts with a razor. I've always found it stupid when people say things like..oh just hold some ice instead of cutting...yeah but its still self injury! also, i never think of self injury as THE problem...it is a problem but its not THE problem...its just a side effect. I trying drawing on my leg with a red pen...and right afterward i grabbed my razor...if anything it made it worse!!! :)
morikahjo 2 years ago
I used to cut myself when I was younger. I asked Jesus to save me from my sins and my depression. We've fought a long, hard battle together against it, and finally, it's gone. Just ask him, and he'll do it for you. It's what he died for- to forgive us and heal us. Don't knock it until you ask him.
ceceliawas 2 years ago
you really should check out my video about this subject - for the record I used to be a devout Christian... The video is called "religion has let God down part 1 and 2), I am sorry, but religion and asking God/Jesus to help you is not the answer to everything and I would hate anyone reading this to get their hopes up that it is. Take care.
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
I am doing A Level psychology and will go on to do a degree. I want to be a psychotherapist or psychologist or therapist etc. I want to help people, and be someone who understands =]
COBHCBloodJunkie666 2 years ago
That's a great goal, good luck to you - we need more people like you in this world. Take care!
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
I hope you make it! We need more people like you in thus world (:
BloodyCrumpet2 2 years ago
i totally agree if u loose tht one thing thts holding u together u will be back on the road
Firestargirl95 2 years ago
What if you don't really know why you SI? It's just something you can't control, you just do it! I don't know what triggers it.
krisgallia99 2 years ago
I think that it all boils down to an inability to cope with emotions in some way. You don't really need to be "triggered" by something in that sense of the word, you can just have emotions inside you don't know how to deal with in a healthy way, so you have a physical reaction to an inner feeling. If you want to talk more about it, message me :) Take care.
xsullengirlx 2 years ago
I get what you are saying, but if that is the case then finding this inner feeling and learning what it is would help me to stop, right. Well then how would I go about finding this inner feeling?
krisgallia99 2 years ago
cutting's like a drug.once you start, you cant stop.take it from personal experience.
keeptherainsilent 2 years ago
the way you describe how self injurers become secluded and have a hard time talking to people is dead on, especially for me. thanks for these videos :]
ktar007 2 years ago
Kudos to you for having the intestinal fortitude for speaking up and speaking out. The world needs a lot more people like you who gives of their time and experience freely. As a cutter and also a social worker, I have a lot of insight and empathy regarding self -injury and all types of psychological diseases. You will be in my prayers often. Don't let ANYONE discourage you from doing what you do! You have excellent insight and a fine heart and what you do is appreciated!
Mike from Canada
the2ofme 2 years ago
Sometimes if i feel bad and feel the urge to cut, i write small poems.. It doesnt always stop me from it or help it, but it clears my mind a bit, and takes it off my chest.
Thanks for a nice video;)
marinaalens 2 years ago
You know, I posted once on a livejournal community, about how I want to stop cutting, and I don't know how, and all my father ever told me was that I needed Jesus, and how much that pissed me off.
And someone replied, and said "Actually, I think you do need jesus."
Haha.
I can't stand it.
No offense to people with religion, but in my opinion its just a big cover up, because of how hard it is for us to just believe in ourselves.
reallyreally17 3 years ago 2
:( oh dang I'm not recovered I guess. it happened to me too, my friend I had stopped and now shes not there, and I got worse :(
Arylacrade 3 years ago
well for me i just said one day im not going to do this anymore and so far ive stopped for two months... but im on the verge of relapsing im trying my best not to though.
CreationX2 3 years ago
I am clean as of 4 months now, And I have develpoped a few of my own ways to stop.
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pinkmonkeysrock11101 3 years ago
I'm about the same... I can only go a week before I can't handle it...
Innergoth333 3 years ago
Also I have had a few phychiatrist and counsillers and I have to say, I have one who actually seems to care and I think that made the biggest difference - if you don't like your counsiller, phychiatrist, occupational theripist etc then ask if you can see another one, they won't be offended, it is there job.
RippedUpPaper 3 years ago
I've tried elastic band, ice-crushing etc, but nothing seems to work. Talking to friends works sometimes and I used to, but now tbh I don't want to put it on them. X
RippedUpPaper 3 years ago 2
This video was posted on my birthday =)
watching this made me feel less..alone. i HATE therapists/psychs. it seems like all they want to do is medicate. i had one therapist who talked to me for like 15-20 minutes, told me to keep my mouth shut and dont talk back to my parents even if i think im right, and prescribed me prozac..in 15 minutes =/ Worst medication ever! =/
cutiepopsgirl 3 years ago 3
Docters && therapists and whatever are frigging close minded idiots... You tell them everything and they dont give a damn, they just want you to shut up so that they can stick you in a psycho house, so they can make more money off you...
B3happeh 3 years ago 4
In a previous video you mentioned that the safe alternatives recovery place treats SI different from drug addictions and such by forcing SIers to quit cold turkey. I was thinking that maybe things like the ice cube trick and the rubber band could be ways to help wean the urge. Not that it should take the place of anything else, but I thought possibly it could be used to help curb the urge, so to speak. Just an idea.
TheNextQuery 3 years ago
you are really great and voicing the things in my head.
I've been struggling with trying to quit...but my problem is that I don't want to quit, i just don't want my best friend to be sad..
It hasn't worked very well.
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krisgallia99 3 years ago
i want to stop my si i started when i was ten and well i moved school and all the kids no the i burn my self and they all find it weired but the reason it that i am scared they are going to tell my mum so i want to stop i have done the icecube and it did not work can i have some tips
brokenhope13 3 years ago 2
Id just like to really praise you. iv seen alot of viedeos on here about self harming and yoour video is the only one thats i have sat and watched and thaught that you wernt just attention seeking. people are crying out for help. and you seem to be alot of peoples answer
doubledang34 3 years ago
It's true. Not many people understand, which is why I dont talk to people about it. Its scary to tell someone and it's even scarier when you think the person you are telling doenst understand :(.It really does make you feel very much alone.
spx105 3 years ago 2
Does anyone else have particular songs/music that they listen to when theyre going to cut? I seem to and Im starting to think thats a bit weird, am I alone here? Its not like im saying the song makes me self injure (im not that dumb) but some songs just seem to enhance the experience you know? Ive been trying to quit but living on my own its too tempting all the time, ive got no-one to turn to.
IAmTheTragedy 3 years ago
Hey you're not alone. I do have certain songs I like to listen to before or during self harm. I have a playlist for it, as weird as that sounds. I have had hundreds of people tell me the same thing. No, the music doesn't make you cut, but it's all a part of the ritual of cutting - down to where you do it, how you do it, and what you listen to. It's hard when you live alone, trust me I do too. Take care :)
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
@ IAmTheTragedy I listen to certain songs when I cut too. A lot of self harmers I know do aswell, think its more normal (if thats the right word) than you think. By the way like your music IAmTheTragedy, not that im gona use it to cut but totally relate to the lyrics.
hurtslikehell1983 3 years ago 2
Thanks, wow im normal, thatll be a first! Lol
IAmTheTragedy 3 years ago
You, and every other SIer out there, should listen to the song "Breathe Me" by Sia. It really communicates the feelings of self injury effectively, and this coming from someone who self harms. The song is based on Sia's own experiences, and it is very beautiful.
GDGspire 3 years ago
wow great vid. i have gone to a therapist and he was homophobic. wich made things worse for me in the end. he kept trying to turn me straight. i was more suicidal after then what i went with. of courc im in a small town i dont get many options. and ive lost all my friends here, and im still not comfortable talking to my family. i have no wher to go. ive opened up to people and in the end they break my heart.
bobby472 3 years ago
i have tried everything. nothing works.
i feel as if i am the only one going through this. (although i know that i am not)
IAATSIkmw 3 years ago
I know it can feel hopeless a lot of times, I know that it seems like nothing works because a lot of stuff DOESN'T work.. But I do believe there is hope, and I do believe we can get through this. You aren't alone, and I hope that you know there are people who will support you and who do understand. Take care :)
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
You are a really nice person. It is good you posted this.
ethereal14 3 years ago
u sud try to be a theropist ud be realy gd
0nixi02 3 years ago
all i can think about it cutting when I want to. And nothing helps me take my mind off it! SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME FIND SOMETHING! I feel so hopeless!
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BVolleyball2012 3 years ago
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um...i agree with some things in this video, BUT...i think that God is the only one that can help you overcome this and other things.
BVolleyball2012 3 years ago
Im surry but im a Christian, i go to church every Sunday and i love God but i still hurt myself ya know so i dont think God is the only one who can help "self injurers" over come things..... maybe im just unwilling to let him help me idk i just dont agree with you.
ordinaryface 3 years ago
And you really should try letting God help you! Maybe that's why still SI. Just putting two and two together here.
BVolleyball2012 3 years ago
You don't understand S.I. Its hard to understand "God" is not going to help some on with S.I. its hard to stop and it takes a long time for some one to stop its like an addiction its hard to stop I know I've been cutting for four years now and I can't stop I've tried to let "god" help me but it didn't help
lalaladoom 3 years ago
I don't understand S.I.?...i cut myself for over 2 years...i think i understand self injury. And to inform everybody...i have started self injuring myself again...so i guess i was wrong...god can't cure you...i'm not sure anything can stop this....
BVolleyball2012 3 years ago
I 'm sorry I thought you were just another annoying ass thinking they know whats going to help people I'm very sorry but I thought wrong. I've been feeling that no one knows what what they are saying when they talk about S.I. and what can "cure" S.I. because I've tryed alot of different things to stop from cutting my self and they don't work for me I'm sorry that I misunderstood what you were saying, and I'm sorry if I was the one who made you start to S.I. agian because of my rude comment
lalaladoom 3 years ago
well that's ok...i'm going to councelling in january and a program that is suppossed to teach me how to not cut myself...but whatever idk if it will work...but it wasn't you who made me cut again so don't blame yourself...
BVolleyball2012 3 years ago
It's been three months since I've cut. I've tried to get better with a bunch of different ways, and I'm still not really better, but one thing that really helped me was the realization that my pain was not IN my wrists, and that cutting into it was never going to fix the pain, but that the pain was much deeper inside, and much harder to get at. I'm still depressed but I'm learning to just live with that instead of cutting as well. Not sure if this helps...
trixy219107 3 years ago
I like here. Im 50 and life has almost always been a bitch for me. G-D want help. Just never give up, what ever helps you in this life. Learn how not to feel.Good people feel to much.
johnathan343 3 years ago
maybe you should consider being a therapist yourself? I think that you would do a fantastic job :)
raybean7 3 years ago 3
Agreed. We need more therapists that aren't shocked/ disgusted/ confused by self injury...therapists who actually care and who don't use transparant "empathy" techniques that feel totally manipulative and empty.
...and by "we" I guess I mean me. : )
steelstrings87 2 years ago 3
thats so true ande your the reason why i want t be a therapist thank you!
weightlessdoII 2 years ago
I think god teaches us through pain. Not "saving" you might have demanded a courage in you to speak up & help some of us who were made to feel wrong and alone.
Kuwangatank 3 years ago
what is the website adress i'd really like so see it and share more with ppl too. u definetely have good points to make thank u for giving me more insight on myself it really helps
Myoosikismylove 3 years ago
yah..when i had to cancel one of my sessions with my theripist. she wrote back saying ok..but next time you will still have to pay for your session..and it killed me. thinking she really cared..i mean ..y am i paying someone to so called "lisen"
helpplease08 3 years ago
Today i was mad and upset after going for a walk around town and everyone being so unpleasant. People giving nasty looks instead of just returning a smile..... when I got home it was real hell, I felt so upset.
They are fascists in this town, with a horrendous recent history, and yet they like to portray themselves as the creme de la creme. Just 5 mins drive away is another town, a different world entirely, with both feet on the ground.
They still vote for the fascist party in this town...
divinacomedias 3 years ago
I wouldn't want you to refrain from injuring yourself, I want you to find the happiness that releases you from your hurt.
divinacomedias 3 years ago
Religion is like sore full of puss. The church is a den of vipers and thieves... Christ himself said so.
No more moneychangers in the temple...?
"Vatican Bank"
"Liccio Gelli"
google if in doubt
divinacomedias 3 years ago
Is self-injury the materialization of an invisible pain, as an expression of that pain?
To me, this would indicate that the source of the pain should be identified and neutralized...
Does this sound right?
divinacomedias 3 years ago
Just think how delusional Freud was, and then consider that he is one of the most prominent psychoanalysts according to the mainstream... then consider the business aspect of medicine, patients become consumers and guinea pigs, and the whole point of health-care is lost... this is what we have.
Maybe it would be much more useful to organize meetings... to try and identify the cause, and help elaborate strategies, because at least the group will have interest and knowledge to resolve issues.
divinacomedias 3 years ago
Send me a mail...
divinacomedias 3 years ago
I really struggle with cutting and if I get the urge I go work out(Cause I need to lose weight) or I talk to my best guy friend but that doesn't always work.
SelfishFake 3 years ago
i tried the ice cube thing, but it didn't really work for me eventhough i can see how it would work for others. talking is a good way but its the hardest :( i wrote an english essay a few weeks ago about my experiance and it helped. i could let you read it?
0oemz1992 3 years ago
would like to read your essay, if you'd let me :) I have heard of a while bunch of things therapists say to do, but everyone's different. You can send it to me here, or send it to the email on my profile page (it won't let me put emails in a comment.) thanks!
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
i sent my essay but i have no idea if it worked?
0oemz1992 3 years ago
Once a psychologist told me to use a red pen to draw on myself instead of using a knife, I thought it was kinda funny.
swatterme 3 years ago
Yeah, I have had them tell me that too. It shows that they have NO idea why we SI in the first place... Needless to say I don't recommend anyone actually do that.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
Hmm. Interesting. I believe differently. I'm a conservative evangelical Christian and I believe that God will never let me down. Sometimes all my friends are busy and can't talk to me or something, so I talk to God. He's someone I believe will always be there to listen. And because he's intangible and complete and perfect in love and grace, I know He will never turn away from me.
But anyway, that's just what I believe. I also rely on friends, too. And family some. Mostly friends and God though.
TheLonerFernclaw 3 years ago
the best thing is to hit the wall, try it
pnkkiwi 3 years ago
That can also hurt yourself too, though. Coping mechanisms are coping mechanisms, no matter what they are. I think people should let their emotions out in a healthy way, instead of masking them with a physical action - since that's basically what self injury is.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
i have that necklace i love and it and i like your videos
courtneyryan8 3 years ago
the ice thing is still harm though.some people may be able to buld up to no harma and to stop cutting they use the ice trick and buld up to no self harm at all. some people need to stop like that -snaps fingers. with no slowly or fast building up nothing.
its hard eather way though but you people can do it. personally is syopped cold turkey but did it again and stopped again.
wo0owe3 3 years ago
That's what I am saying, ice cubes and rubber bands are still harm, and don't get to the root of the problem. Coping mechanisms are harmful to your mental health no matter what they are. I agree with you. Lots of people relapse, but the important thing is to take it 1 day at a time. Take care :)
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
i heard someone once say that holding a icecube real tight in your hand and stuff like that
wo0owe3 3 years ago
Ice cubes and rubber bands are still avoiding the reasons you want to self harm in the first place, so I don't condone anything like that. It's best to deal with problems instead of trying to bury them in other activities. But, different strokes for different folks :) Take care.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
thanxs...... for sharing all u do with everyone..... it helps me 2 try new things and see if they work to help me stop cutting...... i love ur videos..... i have watched a lot of them...... and my friend who know i cut myself...... i give them the link to some of ur videos..... and know they understand more then they did from what i was saying....... thank u.....
Pyroxbrit 3 years ago
I find that only ice works but I still feel like I'm self harming and it makes me uncomfortable.
Physically doing other things helps a lot.
Good luck to anyone who is trying to quit.
usernameabz 3 years ago
Yeah, if you do things like ice or the rubber band trick, it's still a "coping mechanism", and therefore doesn't resolve your inner problems, which is the root of the issue, I think. Getting your mind off it by being creative in other ways is the best way to go, or doing healthy physical things :)
Thanks for the note, take care.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
I never really thought with you, but I think you are rigth. I am atheist, and I have thought many times that everything would be easier, if I would believe in God and have a religion, but then I would hate myself for doing it, because that's just not me. I'm not believing in God, and it wouldn't be me, if I would try lie to myself to feel better. That wouldn't work.
Bleistiftspitzer 3 years ago
part two: And then I agree with you about the hurting with ice or stuff. I thought about this before, and you've got to take the problem at the roots. You can't just say 'Stop to self injure from now on'. It wouldn't work, because there would still be a whole in you telling you that something's missing there. At some time you started with it, because of something and if you can't solve or get along with this root of your self injury, you can't cope. Well, that's my opinion about it.
Bleistiftspitzer 3 years ago
Even if you've crossed the 5 years of being clean, which usually makes therapists think you've coped.. If you still can't handle situations which made you start self injury, there is always the possibility to start again.
Bleistiftspitzer 3 years ago
It's very hard to work on why you started with it, but I'm trying to do so. If it works, I will be one of the happiest people in the world, because you know, it's not like I'm sad right now, but self injury became the way I handle emotions. So yeah, the thing is, let emotions out on art, sports and stuff, but think about why you do. Or something like that.
Bleistiftspitzer 3 years ago
its not as easy as it might sound...trust me i have been trying for 3 years to find a new way to cope...but its not worked yet.
emocherries666 3 years ago
i chew gum... i know it sounds wierd but it used to work....4 me
Saphiera2007 3 years ago
That's so weird!That's what I do when i'm stressed or scared or nervous.Wow I never met anyone else who did that.
bleedingheart1327 3 years ago
I'd probably started biting my lips or the inside of my mouth or grind my teeth instead of chewing, haha.
junethestrange 3 years ago
difrent poele cut for difrent resons
dirent things work for difrent poeple
666emeth 3 years ago
there not coping skills ther distractions but somtimes thats whats u need until the feeling gos away or becums lees where u can control it
666emeth 3 years ago
brilliantly said about relying on yourself and not another person. :)
praveenathescorpio 3 years ago
mostly for me anyway i've probably relied on many different things.For example I used to have a boyfriend who didn't like self injurers and he looked down on them.He didn't know I was one so I tried to stop but my need to cut was greater than my need to stop for him.After that I relized I don't really want to stop.I've tried so many times but for other people but not for me.I want to stop a little but I don't really care as much except for stopping for other people not myself.
bleedingheart1327 3 years ago
hey.thanks for posting your videos...youre very brave.I hope youre more OK..
i injure myself for about two years...after one year,it became an obsession for me.i realised that i wasnt okay,so i was trying to stop..and well,i stopped for one whole year...it was one of the hardest things in my life.but..as the time went,all my thoughts were connected with cutting..i did it again.after 1year.nobody knows about my pain...and im trying to stop again.i wanna get rid of that shit thats killing me :(
mortishka13 3 years ago
Keep trying and believe in yourself! I've done it, I havent cut in 4 years! It only crosses my mind now and then. You CAN do it!
inuyashafan613 3 years ago 3
i found something that helps me a bit , wrapping a rubber band round my wrists and pinging it whenever i get an urge to cut..its not the same as cutting but its something..
iHATEburberry 3 years ago
that works for some people, not for others. to me, i think it's important to get to the root of the behavior instead of replacing it with another, even if it's not as dangerous.
xsullengirlx 3 years ago
my therapist told me i should draw red lines on my arms.
that made me really angry, i found it highly patronizing and in a way i think it demeaned everything that self injurers go through..
hhhannahhh 4 years ago 2
agreed, completely. you should hear some of the JOKES therapists have asked me to do instead of self injure. It was demeaning and patronizing. I am sorry your therapist did that :( that's always a bad sign.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
god, a website would be so cool. i get so fed up of people's beliefs that if you self injur, you are an "emo". people always make that link, and im fed up of being called "emo". nice video!!!!!
Aidenroxsox 4 years ago
Great Videos.
Kinda Make Me Think.
Swexaiialx 4 years ago
I used to self injur and i know people are going to disaprove or somethin but God saved my life sorry if i'm giving false hope 2 people but it's true. Don't get me wrong things never got any easier but I realized that there is a God who wants a close relationship with me, that saved my life; I always have God. I hope i don't have a relapse, i can't stop self injury for myself, there isn't any motivation, if i felt alone I would self injur, but I know God is here. Sry if that offended anyone.
electricxbeauty 4 years ago
To some people that can be very motivational. To others, they may scoff at that notion. I personally think that you need to rely on YOURSELF to stop SI'ing, and even if you give God the credit, it's really something you did because you are a strong individual. Good luck in your recovery. I made a vid about this called "religion has let god down" btw.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
I tried using every Coping Mechanism possible. It's not the same..
x0toxicfreak0x 4 years ago
you're right... it's not.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
i like it and i had a really ruff day today, im 11 years old, ive NEVER self injured, only with a pencil one time, but i always want to. and tomorrow i keep saying im gonna commit suicide, and my mother said i better go to a therapist...but she doesnt really care about me...my life is a mess...EVERYTHING is a mess...literally...help??
vanessalove21 4 years ago
Thanks for sharing. Your experience is hard and I can understand recalling my harsh experiences at a young age of 12. Suicidal thoughts crossed my mind at that age. You can overcome this.
colormedicine 4 years ago
i have a question about religion and self injury. everyone i know believes that self injury is against god and you will go to hell...wat do you guys think?
morrisalynn 4 years ago
You definitely will not go to hell for self injuring. its a mental illness, although many religious leaders will tell you that your body is a temple and cutting yourself is like cutting God. However, I know I am forgiven regardless of WHAT I believe in, and if there is a God, I should hope that god would be a forgiving one, since SI isn't usually about trying to sin.
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
i really loved this. i would just like to say first that i'd really love to be apart of what you're doing. i am a recovered SI but i struggle with it every day. i'm starting a project called "awareness is contagious", focusing mainly on self-injury. i'd really like to talk more about it with you, as well as everything you've talked about.
send me a message.
xtwstdtncx 4 years ago
awesome, i will send you a message :)
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
thanks for saying that if you have no one to talk to you are always there... i have no friends no one ever wants to listen and they always just dismiss my problems and say get over it quit being emo.. I AM NOT EMO!!! i just wish that there was someone who would be there for me....
sicheerleader 4 years ago
hugs
jesmalu 4 years ago
Sweetie, is there any reason why you blocked me? I tried to send you a message the other day... hope all is well, and if you blocked me, maybe you won't be seeing this... xo
xsullengirlx 4 years ago
sorry i didnt realize i had done that. your unblocked. i was wondering bc ive watched your videos before. .. =-\ sorry
jesmalu 4 years ago
its funny, the picture youtube takes in the middle of the vid almost never dose you justice.
Davethesilentone 4 years ago
i know :/ lol funny you should mention that, because i always look a little "special" in the still-frame youtube picks. ah well, unless i do a dramatic pause at about 10 minutes in one of my videos there's not much i can do. ;)
xsullengirlx 4 years ago