Ryan, Thank you for sharing this deeply personal letter with us. I know when you decide to give it to your mom she will need time to accept it. She will I pray be accepting and supportive realizing how much you mean to her. She may be upset with her self for not seeing your pain and the thought of almost losing you forever. Your family will need time to accept the facts just as you have, please let them have it. Stay strong and true to yourself.
That sounded great...I'm sure your mom is going to take it as well as she possibly can based on what you wrote. If you need more help then check out the video "High School Senior "Comes Out" in Assembly"
I commented earlier, and after thinking about something you said - 'I believe that if you're a guy, you should act like one,' I'm back to add a thought about it. That's exactly what I thought for years, but I've come to believe that if he is not hurting others by it, a guy should behave the way he is comfortable behaving. For you (and for me) that means masculine mannerisms and activities, but other guys who might come across as more effeminate or 'flamboyant' are not necessarily 'acting.'
Ryan, this letter was really touching. I really hope that things go well with your mom. Just know that I'm here for you and will always support and accept you just the way you are.
Coming out is always difficult, but I think this letter shows just how mature and thoughtful you are. I think your Mom will be able to accept it. Hang tough man, and keep us posted.
Ryan, my heart goes out to you. It's never easy coming out to your mother. When I was about your age I was watching a movie with my mother where the leading character came out to her mother.I thought this would be a good chance for me to start a conversation about me. With that my mother turned to me and said "If any of my kids told me they were gay, I would probably disown 'em." It took quite a few years for me to come to terms with that statement, but she now knows and loves me just the same.
I think she'll take it well and reaffirm her love for you. The letter obviously came from your heart and she will recognize that. Stay strong my friend.
listen... you have no reason to be sorry as we are born who we are.. it is not a choice.. so accept yourself and if those around you do not.. then they were not a friend..
(a real friend ) to start with..
I came out to my mom and dad when I was 16.. to my surprise .. my mom told me we already knew and were just waiting for you .. as for my friends most said you are still bill.. :)
so.. hold you head high.. and just be your self.. just in a few minutes you have touched my heart.. good luck..
Part 2.. Some parents say gay slurs not even realizing it’s hurtful... some do... whatever your case may be I’ll be sending you good vibes in hoping your mom takes it ok. Remember, you have known who you are for a long time, she has not, so give her time if she needs it. Best wishes to you buddy and if you EVER want to talk let me know and I’ll be there ASAP. ~Russ
Part 1.. Ryan, You’re an Awesome young man! Your not alone by a long shot! I along with thousands have been in your shoes and are here to tell the story. It’s Wonderful that you know what you want out of life so PLEASE make sure you live so you can be married, and have that family you want someday. There's someone out there for everyone..... You’ll find life to be rewarding in so many ways by being able to just be yourself. Do not be sorry for who you are. You are one of many Millions!
Ryan, I forgot to tell you, if you want to talk, just pm me and I will give you my number. I will be out for a bit but am on YT pretty much 24/7. We care a lot about you. You are not alone. I've alerted my subs and friends and they respond pretty quickly, as you see below. See, in 2011, we lost many young people due to suicides. Some were because of gay bullying, others were kids who just couldn't "take it anymore." It was hard for us to take. Timmy
Good luck with the letter. I hope it goes well for you and that you and your mother grow closer because of the truth you have chosen to share with her. You should definitely surround yourself with good friends before you tell family members. Also, the mother-like figure in my life used to make gay jokes but she was the first family member (second person) I ever came out to. She was so supportive and loving, so I don't think gay jokes are a telling sign of a parent's reaction.
terrific, but its not a burden its just being yourself. It everyone else that tries to make it a burden. so many of us have blue eyes and ab positive blood and so many of us are gay. It might be a while longer before everyone looks at it that way but no matter how long it takes it will still be the truth. your gqay, i,m gay so lets just enjoy being who we are. If you found someone your age, even if it just starts online it will amke things so much better
Trust me, when you are in your 20s and with your amazingly hot boyfriend, you are going to look at all the low points in your life and say "Yup...i overcame that shit". Well done and good luck :) x
ryan, we do not know eachother but if you need someone to talk to im available. came out at 14, and luckily i am fully accepted but please don't hurt yourself or worse... there is nothing wrong with you, nothing of you has changed. I pray that she can still accept you. (one of timmys subs) and i will talk to you :)
Ryan, my dear child, please do not do anything to hurt yourself! We have lost too many of our children and I will not take any more suicides! There is help and support out there. Sub my friend rfritz09 There should be a hotline on his channel. Be true to yourself and hang in there! My subs will see this and will talk to you! Timmy
:)
rpdmercenary 1 month ago
Ryan, Thank you for sharing this deeply personal letter with us. I know when you decide to give it to your mom she will need time to accept it. She will I pray be accepting and supportive realizing how much you mean to her. She may be upset with her self for not seeing your pain and the thought of almost losing you forever. Your family will need time to accept the facts just as you have, please let them have it. Stay strong and true to yourself.
beefree2003 1 month ago
That sounded great...I'm sure your mom is going to take it as well as she possibly can based on what you wrote. If you need more help then check out the video "High School Senior "Comes Out" in Assembly"
That's what I based the letter to MY parents on.
Jessolor 1 month ago
Stay strong brother.
JamaicaLaQueen 1 month ago
I commented earlier, and after thinking about something you said - 'I believe that if you're a guy, you should act like one,' I'm back to add a thought about it. That's exactly what I thought for years, but I've come to believe that if he is not hurting others by it, a guy should behave the way he is comfortable behaving. For you (and for me) that means masculine mannerisms and activities, but other guys who might come across as more effeminate or 'flamboyant' are not necessarily 'acting.'
trisshandy 1 month ago
Good luck with coming out to your mom :) Hope all goes well.
OneAndOnlyBillyJ 1 month ago
Ryan, this letter was really touching. I really hope that things go well with your mom. Just know that I'm here for you and will always support and accept you just the way you are.
Hugs
HotMissa 1 month ago
@HotMissa thank you missa <3 appreciate it!
ry989 1 month ago
@ry989 You are very welcome
HotMissa 1 month ago
Coming out is always difficult, but I think this letter shows just how mature and thoughtful you are. I think your Mom will be able to accept it. Hang tough man, and keep us posted.
omehagah 1 month ago
Ryan, my heart goes out to you. It's never easy coming out to your mother. When I was about your age I was watching a movie with my mother where the leading character came out to her mother.I thought this would be a good chance for me to start a conversation about me. With that my mother turned to me and said "If any of my kids told me they were gay, I would probably disown 'em." It took quite a few years for me to come to terms with that statement, but she now knows and loves me just the same.
RonOin2ron2 1 month ago
Great letter, Ryan. You know what you want in life, and I'm sure you'll get it. I hope your mom is there for you all they way.
trisshandy 1 month ago
I think she'll take it well and reaffirm her love for you. The letter obviously came from your heart and she will recognize that. Stay strong my friend.
alaninnh 1 month ago
listen... you have no reason to be sorry as we are born who we are.. it is not a choice.. so accept yourself and if those around you do not.. then they were not a friend..
(a real friend ) to start with..
I came out to my mom and dad when I was 16.. to my surprise .. my mom told me we already knew and were just waiting for you .. as for my friends most said you are still bill.. :)
so.. hold you head high.. and just be your self.. just in a few minutes you have touched my heart.. good luck..
Indyboy51 1 month ago
thanks everyone :) appreciate the support
ry989 1 month ago
Great Letter. Good Luck with coming out.... Let us know how it goes.
thatawkwardmoment01 1 month ago
@thatawkwardmoment01 thanks dude! definitely will
ry989 1 month ago
congratulations, i hope all goes well... and i wish to pass on the best advice that was ever given to me about coming out to you:
"You are young and just be brave, being who you are is the next step in discovering who you will become for the rest of your life."
hope most of all you feel better, and free and wonderful :) because you are
KyletheMeep 1 month ago
Part 2.. Some parents say gay slurs not even realizing it’s hurtful... some do... whatever your case may be I’ll be sending you good vibes in hoping your mom takes it ok. Remember, you have known who you are for a long time, she has not, so give her time if she needs it. Best wishes to you buddy and if you EVER want to talk let me know and I’ll be there ASAP. ~Russ
Rfritz09 1 month ago
Part 1.. Ryan, You’re an Awesome young man! Your not alone by a long shot! I along with thousands have been in your shoes and are here to tell the story. It’s Wonderful that you know what you want out of life so PLEASE make sure you live so you can be married, and have that family you want someday. There's someone out there for everyone..... You’ll find life to be rewarding in so many ways by being able to just be yourself. Do not be sorry for who you are. You are one of many Millions!
Rfritz09 1 month ago
Ryan, I forgot to tell you, if you want to talk, just pm me and I will give you my number. I will be out for a bit but am on YT pretty much 24/7. We care a lot about you. You are not alone. I've alerted my subs and friends and they respond pretty quickly, as you see below. See, in 2011, we lost many young people due to suicides. Some were because of gay bullying, others were kids who just couldn't "take it anymore." It was hard for us to take. Timmy
timmythegreat1000 1 month ago
Good luck with the letter. I hope it goes well for you and that you and your mother grow closer because of the truth you have chosen to share with her. You should definitely surround yourself with good friends before you tell family members. Also, the mother-like figure in my life used to make gay jokes but she was the first family member (second person) I ever came out to. She was so supportive and loving, so I don't think gay jokes are a telling sign of a parent's reaction.
tommyjoe48 1 month ago
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rocky315w 1 month ago
terrific, but its not a burden its just being yourself. It everyone else that tries to make it a burden. so many of us have blue eyes and ab positive blood and so many of us are gay. It might be a while longer before everyone looks at it that way but no matter how long it takes it will still be the truth. your gqay, i,m gay so lets just enjoy being who we are. If you found someone your age, even if it just starts online it will amke things so much better
rocky315w 1 month ago
Trust me, when you are in your 20s and with your amazingly hot boyfriend, you are going to look at all the low points in your life and say "Yup...i overcame that shit". Well done and good luck :) x
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Good job bro! How did she take it?
cocoyodariver 1 month ago
ryan, we do not know eachother but if you need someone to talk to im available. came out at 14, and luckily i am fully accepted but please don't hurt yourself or worse... there is nothing wrong with you, nothing of you has changed. I pray that she can still accept you. (one of timmys subs) and i will talk to you :)
SlimShaney08 1 month ago
Ryan, my dear child, please do not do anything to hurt yourself! We have lost too many of our children and I will not take any more suicides! There is help and support out there. Sub my friend rfritz09 There should be a hotline on his channel. Be true to yourself and hang in there! My subs will see this and will talk to you! Timmy
timmythegreat1000 1 month ago