i understand that girl being called no got my parents we told i was difficult and a problem so i never tried to change it till i was 40 i have qulifications in radio and childcare.
i also have writen articals on aspergers and child mental health i even wrote to our dear Tony Attwood i live in england and went to 3 special schools in the 1970,s..jeff .. prove them wrong and enjoy...
The reaction of the cougher to the Aspie should be better also. Instead of suffering an attack from out of nowhere for "just" coughing, the first thing the cougher sees is someone wincing with his fingers in his ears.
Their reaction is, "What's wrong with him?'
Oh he, or I can't take coughing sounds.
Cougher, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, I didn't know. I will be careful next time."
Otherwise the reaction is: "That kid is a bomb with a hair trigger. Don't set him off!"
He can be told the reason why we are doing this is to train the primitive part of the brain to stop the pain quickly and then allow time for the reasoning part to take over.
Coughing cannot be stopped in a proactive way.
But when he puts his fingers in his ears, he lets others know he is experiencing pain while stopping the pain quickly.
Start coughing and have him put little fingers in ear canals immediately to stop the pain.
Then, have someone hold his hands down, so he can't reach his ears and cough longer. Not putting fingers in ears generates more pain longer.
Alternate between the two situations several times till the reaction is automatic.
As an adult, I find the solution is to buy time so logical thought can over ride the consequences of an immediate, "knee-jerk" and invariably bad reaction.
If he is a young adult, maybe he could learn as soon as a cough begins he should immediately put his little fingers in his ears canals to stop the continued pain. The fingers can't reach or damage the eardrum, but blocks sound.
Stopping the pain involves blocking the immediate sound, not attacking the other person.
He can stop pain FASTER with fingers in ears and this could give him enough time to think and calm down.
I feel so much for your problem, I too have a serious anger explosion relating to throat clearing, sniffing and coughing.. It's hard to explian also because it seems so illogical and out of character..
I've had it all my life, I'm now 23 and it's destroyed my family..
@nickicran8 I can feel it. I can feel a certain degree of anger when I encounter such a thing. I tend to say that they should stand a bit farther away as well. But nowadays I've grown to be ok with it, I mean - I DO IT. Why should I not accept anyone else doing it? That didn't add up for me, so even I may feel a certain degree of anger - I don't show it. I'll be more like "yeah, ok." Hehe.
@intheshadeofyou Yes, I agree others shouldn't have to stop their natural bodily functions, but if they can avoid it, then I think that they should consider it, especially if it is a family member. I don't expect strangers to stop lol.
I too have other sensory issues. It sucks.. but I guess it's never really going to be cured.
I also hope that you find a solution that doesn't alienate you from people. :o)
In the past few years I've been able to deal with it better by designating time and specific areas as "safe zones". this allows you to be less rigid in social situations.. Granted I still have to wear earplugs 24/7 but when I'm at home I can use White or Brownian noise to study and to sleep to.
I hope that you find solice soon, it's a devistating situation.
i understand that girl being called no got my parents we told i was difficult and a problem so i never tried to change it till i was 40 i have qulifications in radio and childcare.
i also have writen articals on aspergers and child mental health i even wrote to our dear Tony Attwood i live in england and went to 3 special schools in the 1970,s..jeff .. prove them wrong and enjoy...
petchharrison 1 week ago
my problem is noise or tapping or sudden unepected noise or lots of people talking at once.
jeff aspie 49 lives in the uk ..
petchharrison 1 week ago
I would have punched that teacher.
misspinkpunkykat 1 month ago
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misspinkpunkykat 1 month ago
Part 4
The reaction of the cougher to the Aspie should be better also. Instead of suffering an attack from out of nowhere for "just" coughing, the first thing the cougher sees is someone wincing with his fingers in his ears.
Their reaction is, "What's wrong with him?'
Oh he, or I can't take coughing sounds.
Cougher, "Oh, I'm sorry to hear that, I didn't know. I will be careful next time."
Otherwise the reaction is: "That kid is a bomb with a hair trigger. Don't set him off!"
NumberZeroZeroSix 2 months ago
Part 3:
He can be told the reason why we are doing this is to train the primitive part of the brain to stop the pain quickly and then allow time for the reasoning part to take over.
Coughing cannot be stopped in a proactive way.
But when he puts his fingers in his ears, he lets others know he is experiencing pain while stopping the pain quickly.
NumberZeroZeroSix 2 months ago
@NumberZeroZeroSix - Brilliant! Thank you!
autismhangout 2 months ago
Part 2:
Start coughing and have him put little fingers in ear canals immediately to stop the pain.
Then, have someone hold his hands down, so he can't reach his ears and cough longer. Not putting fingers in ears generates more pain longer.
Alternate between the two situations several times till the reaction is automatic.
As an adult, I find the solution is to buy time so logical thought can over ride the consequences of an immediate, "knee-jerk" and invariably bad reaction.
NumberZeroZeroSix 2 months ago
@NumberZeroZeroSix - Excellent. Thanks for your wise response!
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autismhangout 2 months ago
If he is a young adult, maybe he could learn as soon as a cough begins he should immediately put his little fingers in his ears canals to stop the continued pain. The fingers can't reach or damage the eardrum, but blocks sound.
Stopping the pain involves blocking the immediate sound, not attacking the other person.
He can stop pain FASTER with fingers in ears and this could give him enough time to think and calm down.
NumberZeroZeroSix 2 months ago
I feel so much for your problem, I too have a serious anger explosion relating to throat clearing, sniffing and coughing.. It's hard to explian also because it seems so illogical and out of character..
I've had it all my life, I'm now 23 and it's destroyed my family..
nickicran8 3 months ago
@nickicran8 I can feel it. I can feel a certain degree of anger when I encounter such a thing. I tend to say that they should stand a bit farther away as well. But nowadays I've grown to be ok with it, I mean - I DO IT. Why should I not accept anyone else doing it? That didn't add up for me, so even I may feel a certain degree of anger - I don't show it. I'll be more like "yeah, ok." Hehe.
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@nickicran8 I hope you'll find a solution. I have other sensory issues which makes me extremely explosive and unpopular amongst friends and family.
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@intheshadeofyou Yes, I agree others shouldn't have to stop their natural bodily functions, but if they can avoid it, then I think that they should consider it, especially if it is a family member. I don't expect strangers to stop lol.
I too have other sensory issues. It sucks.. but I guess it's never really going to be cured.
I also hope that you find a solution that doesn't alienate you from people. :o)
nickicran8 2 months ago
In the past few years I've been able to deal with it better by designating time and specific areas as "safe zones". this allows you to be less rigid in social situations.. Granted I still have to wear earplugs 24/7 but when I'm at home I can use White or Brownian noise to study and to sleep to.
I hope that you find solice soon, it's a devistating situation.
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