Day For Night: Recognizing Teenage Depression (5 min.)

[N00BKiller740]

My parents don't understand me.They don't get me if I try to talk to them they yell and don't want to help they try to send me to a therapist and it doesn't help at all.My parents don't see what really goes on in my life online to my friends then If i try to outgrow my family they don't want me to grow up and this is madening and I try to get help also on my FB my post for help and aknowledgement and no one responds do I need to almost KILL MYSELF TO BE RECOGNIZED

[hcolover2000]

Like I feel sad a lot but I usually just fake a smile so no one questions me but I do cry my self to sleep a lot so I dont really think I am depressed but idk

[AyoGottaLetGo]

Come on, everything seems way too easy. Yes, i have talked to a psychiatrist plenty of times and i also talked about it with my family and some friends. Guess what? It's not even close to getting better.

[spaghettiisFOB]

in 3 hours my counselor told me i needed to be more cheerful for $250. My dad told me that in 5 seconds for $10...

-.-

[RandomMcJagger]

@spaghettiisFOB Well yep they are over paid assholes...

[Bandee808]

i'm unsure of what is wrong with me, but i know something is. i feel so distant from everyone, sometimes i get so angry or irritated, i find myself overwhelmed, i don't sleep much, and i feel like everyone's against me. please help me.

[JAMSTAR111]

@Bandee808 I feel exactly the same way as you do mate, just know you're not alone :)

[sweethart633]

i was depressed for a long time know i happy cheerfull

when i'm depressed i tell my friends first and they try to help me

[McflyLover930]

I have told someone. 4 people actually. They cared at first, but now they think I'm over it. And one thinks it's just a phase.

I've never felt so alone in my life.

[RandomKPluver]

I feel the same as the girl at 2:42, the only problem is, by holding it in all this time, I'm confused I'm even depressed, everyone else says "you're not depressed!" so it's to the point where I can't even get the words out to talk. Drugs, alchohol, and sucicide are not options, though, I'm way to much of a chicken.

[GraphiteBlimp]

My girlfriend has bipolar disorder(manic depression) and I've noticed that she does feel a lot better when we talk things out. My mother doesn't like the idea of me going out with her because she says, "if you happen to have a child with her, she might get postpartum depression and try to kill your child." That kind of advice is just what a person can't hear when they have a problem like depression. I actually felt depressed after my mom told me that >_>

[depressedteens]

@GraphiteBlimp Anyone can get postpartum depression, that is not "a bipolar thing". Many people live happy, productive lives with bipolar disorder. Ignorance is what makes people afraid; if you can learn more and help educate your mom, she may not change overnight, but it can help.

[LRW96LIVE]

@GraphiteBlimp I have a friend who was in a possition like yours, she was very depressed and people were worried about how she could hurt him (or a child) but they had an understanding, and once they got married she wasnt depressed anymore, she has a life, kids a husband, everything she wanted, your mom may have a point but its not always the case, honestly if you like this girl then you go out with her, make you and her happy, your mom will understand eventualy, my friends mom did.

[TheCommentBandit]

i dont kow if i would be considered depressed or not, but it sure feels like it. i feel like if i tell my parents theyll b all "its ur fault u brought all this strife upon yourself"

[209musicfan]

what song is at the end?

[ravensymone200]

I wish telling someone was as easy as it sounds... i cant imagine what my parents would say if the found out how i feel 75% of the time...

[kclubb]

Per my prev remark, I have now moved to a different state, I know noone, and well, because of my apperence I keep to myself and work to keep food in my stomach and a roof over my head... I'm hopeless, just look at my 1 or 2 vids I've ever posted and you'd know what I mean... I quit taking care of myself in highschool cause I was constantly being made fun of and eventually just gave up... I know about 4 people here in denver, co now outside of work... guess it's just hopeless at this point..

[depressedteens]

I know what you mean about secrets. It's not that I don't trust people but it always feels safer to tell them to folks who don't live near me! The internet is good for that, for sure.

It's really hard to start in a new place. Other than meeting friends of friends, it's really difficult to meet people if you don't go out of your way to do so! And without the confidence that people'll give you a chance, that's hard to do.

[depressedteens]

Do you ever look at guys/gals who seem like total D*bags and wonder how it is that they can put themselves out there, and why anyone would want to talk to them? (ok, maybe that's just me!). The point is that its possible to do better than you've been doing, and it's worth it. Sometimes you just need help finding another way to go about stuff. (Anyone else who's been there, feel free to chime in on this!)

[depressedteens]

p.s. I did look at your videos :-)

[stephenville100]

thanks for this video is helping me alot with my depression...knowing that i am not the only one....even when i just feel it

[depressedteens]

I'm glad it helped. Thank you for leaving a nice comment!

[isawadeadfrog]

Depression and severe social paranoia for nearly two years, arent I doing great. Yet no one knows... It's wierd how a smile can fool people.

[depressedteens]

Please at least consider the possibility that you CAN feel better and do better than you are, if you haven't already. No one deserves to feel bad all the time.

[kclubb]

prob not the best person to talk do but at this point, a friend in my life would be nice... and it's funny that only people that knotice you are depressed are probably people that are in your shoes.. that's something somone told me at one point weather or not it's true IDK but it seems to be an accurate statment

[jimmervision]

bleh, now i think i may have found out that i have depression...which is kindda weird since i never really considered the possibility, and im in my second year of psychology...kinda embarrassing to just realize it now, and in the middle of class too xD. Too bad my pride in paying for help from a professional is keeping me from seeking this happy way of seeing life that everyone seems to be talking about...either that or im just a natural pessimist. though its really annoying to be sad and stuff.

[depressedteens]

hey, I'm sorry you feel sad. :-( even just being a natural pessimist, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy says that changing how you think can change how you feel.

[depressedteens]

That we all make cognitive errors that feed into our outlook on life, and this influences our actions, which influences the world around us, which then can feed back into our negative thoughts (if that makes sense!) In other words, you can just be a 'pessimist', but there's help for that. If I explained that wrong, sorry, I'm not a therapist myself. Do what you need to do to feel good; you're worth it!

[ilovejensen09]

i can go own about how i feel but theres no point

[ilovejensen09]

i tried to talk to my theripist but she wont shut up long enough for me to say how i feel. I cant talk to my mum she will think i am doin it for attention. i sometimes talk to my friends but they feel bad cos they dont know wat to do. am tryin to deal with it but is so tiring on my own and in the past i have came so close to ending it.

[depressedteens]

What is your therapist's deal? Is there maybe a way you can let her know, nicely, that you want to focus on something else? It's your time, YOU can tell HER what it is you need!

[sparklez1000]

I think i'm suffering form depression. I'M NOT SURE I have some days where i can be really happy and i can chill with a few friends but der are times when i feel really low and i would really hate to see my friends, and i find it hard to sleep, i Constanly feel tierd beause of my lack of sleep and i cry for the most stupidest things and i get really angrey for a reason i don't even know. I don't know what i have but i hate feeling like this.

[depressedteens]

don't worry if its 'really depression'. no matter what you call it, if you have a lot of days like that, its worth getting help! just talking to someone doesn't hurt.

[kclubb]

until they tell your secrets to the public.... and it happened to me... prob why I'm in such protective shell and just avoid people now... At least on YT, people don't know me

[ericparsons79]

I'm depressed and have been before. I've had 2 therapists and they both sucked. I have no one else to turn to

[depressedteens]

What happened with those therapists? Do you think they're all bad, or maybe one of em'll really help?

[ericparsons79]

They just never cut to the chase and help me with the problems. it was more like venting, so in the end i stopped seeing them and had the same problems

[depressedteens]

you may wanna look into DBT (dialectical behavioral therapy) - therapists generally aren't supposed to tell you quite how to handle stuff, but DBT has a rep for being more into breaking stuff down practically!

[Shadowsi]

I was so close to being diagnosed with depression. Then, instead, I was given a leaflet and was told to go away. Darn medical community.

[depressedteens]

What kind of leaflet???

[azteckike]

i hope one day i can say the same!...........

[sekcwunn]

i cnt talk to nowunn cuz i feel as if they dont wanna listen x

[tostrong4you]

my guidence councelor is as useless as a burnt match.

[Ujak118]

@tostrong4you . ikr? fuck these counselors and shit. if u want to talk about suicide or fuking lashing out, all they will do is turn it into a fucking national crisis with cameras and cops coming in to arrest u or some shit. in one way, counselors could help, but i honestly think most of them ARE FUCKING USELESS HUMAN BEINGS WHO GET PAYED FOR NOT HELPING OUT ANYONE!!!!!!

[jedicaptain41]

@tostrong4you I totally agree with you. I went to see my counselor at my university who happens to be the head of counseling. He simply told me to "stop mucking around and get over things or go somewhere else". I mean if things were that easy then why the fuck do we need them for. Most counselor's are not trained to heal depression.

[kclubb]

now that I have grown up I still am lonely, the only thing I feel people want me for is for my talents I have... I long to have someone to be friends with... no matter what I do I can't changed my past... I hate my appearence, I hate my voice, and no one bothers to look on what's on the inside of a person, so I am damned in life... it's nothing I can do about it... If only someone cared about me and really did might I find something in my life to charish.. I'm damned no matter what .....

[depressedteens]

K,

It's hard to go against the habits & fears of 12 years. Believe me, I've been there; I can say honestly I didn't know how. To say "try harder" isn't always the solution, sometimes it's knowing what to do, and getting the initial confidence -THAT can make a big difference in how people perceive you. If other people think you suck, then you will think you suck, and then other people will think you suck, it's a self-perpetuating thing. Therapy really helped me; maybe give it a try?

[kclubb]

Sadly I did, I went to several sermons on it and also talked to a trained person, I just couldn't (can't) find a way to deal with it... It's like I'm fine for a while then I out of nowhere for sometimes no reason get overly depressed... (cronic depresssion)... nothing helps anymore and people wouldn't understand me... I figure anymore when I'm not working it's better for me not to be social cause then at least I don't have to deal with rejection...

[depressedteens]

It can take a lot to find the right treatment regime for you. People are different, so- there are many kinds of therapy, and therapists; what can be a good fit for one person may not work for another. medication may also be necessary (a doc can determine that). You said you have talents that people seek you out for - it probably took a lot of practice and many tries to get good at the thing you do. Happiness has to be cultivated in the same way! It's definitely worth trying again, and again.

[kclubb]

I've never had any real friend though my whole high school, actually I was the one people made fun of... I couldn't bare to tell anyone about it but just held it in... so one day after I got out of high school, I tempted to try and step out of the 12 year shell I had built up and well turns out it made it worse off than it was at the time...

I love helping people out and I never expect anything in return, not friendship or anything though I always wish I could have a friend...

[saridavid]

Hi....I feel sad to read how you feel....I used to feel the same but i start going 2 church and iam finally getting better, it was like I was lost, but is only one thing I can promise you "GOD IS HEALING"

[blurpy123]

i always feel depressed if i dont go to a party or i dont get invited somewere

[DRiPPz6800]

work***

[Selfinjurer]

i feel like I'm trapped in a person i hate and there is nowere but down

[depressedteens]

is there anyone you can talk to about how you feel? Sometimes just talking can make a real difference. Here's a good hotline to start with 1800-273-TALK. No one should feel bad all the time; be good to yourself - there IS help and you CAN feel better.

[DRiPPz6800]

i've gotten help

i've talked about it

i keep positive

and nothing seems to worse...

[depressedteens]

I know when you're low it seems like this is how it's always been/going to be, even if you try to keep positive. but it can be better, just..sometimes talk isn't enough. most people end up trying a lot of different things before they find what works for them. whether it's finding *the right person* to talk to, or it's medication, or it's little things you do to change your life. That probably sounds overwhelming, but just focus on the next step, don't worry about the rest.

[209musicfan]

compared it to a couple what? What did the first girl say?

[cmdreams101]

"a cup with holes leaking out and looking for the right tape to keep it all together again

[depressedteens]

Calling a talk hotline might be a good start. Sometimes just talking can help. If not, they can help refer you to someone who can help. 1800-273-TALK is a good one.

[QTPATUTY21]

what if ppl do no , but cant or dont want to help you?

[209musicfan]

what song is at the end?

[gstyzzer321]

I'm 17 and am dealing with depression. My family can't afford to get me professional help, though. It really sucks because I don't like my guidance councelor, either. I've had a few failed attempts at suicide, and was addicted to cutting for almost a year and a half, but I don't know what'll happen next. I just have to grit my teeth and say "I'll make it today." =/

[bhaynes575]

Hi there: I have a daughter your age going through depression who is also 17. Please go to your regular doctor and they can prescribe medicine that will help you and it will not cost a great deal of money. You need something to help you get through the days. All my best to you.

[depressedteens]

Wonderful suggestion, bhaynes. Gstyzzer, any way you can switch guidance counselors? Most people go through a couple before they get to someone they're really comfortable with. And it's important you're with someone who works for you, because this is for your wellbeing!

[ChrisDawg432]

Im getting really iratable and angry, i get really tired easily, im not doing as well in school, im getting headaches, and im starting to lose intrest in things i used to love doing. I feel weak all the time too. am i depressed?

[depressedteens]

Hi Chris, it does sound a bit like it (especially since it sounds like *you* think so, which is the important thing) there's no way to tell without talking to you. Is there a trusted adult you can talk to?

[elliot6602]

If you can't talk to your parents about it write it down and slip it under their door or something I wrote it down for my doctor so I didn't need to tell him because it was hard to talk about it

[depressedteens]

Great suggestion, Elliot.

[imabananaonweeed]

thanx Elliot, thats such a good idea :)

[overdosisbringslife]

no it isnt, you cant just get over depression.

Its an illness

[depressedteens]

Thanks for the comment. A lot of people don't understand that depression is a brain illness; we all have to help spread the word for it to get better!

[XoXisDEAD]

im depressed and i just feel so weak just cuz everyone tells me that it isnt that hard to be happy. they tell me to just get over it. is it really that easy?

[badheadache]

omg this video is so fucking retarded.. there fucking actors

[mia0800]

im only 12 and im depressed i just feel like theres a way out but i just cant find it and i just want to sleep and cry all the time i havnt told anyone yet and i dont want to tell my parents that i want a counseller can someone give me some advice?

[westcoastfan26294]

sweetheart, tell your parents. Let them be parents.Its the right thing to do. Talk to them...it will help

[mia0800]

ok thanks

[brushyateeth]

i am 15 and suffer in mu opinon from depression, but i feel like a moran telling them and my parents are the type not to believe me !!! :(

[westcoastfan26294]

is there a school counseller or a teacher u can trust or maybe an aunty or an uncle?

[westcoastfan26294]

if u live in Australia, maybe you can call the kids help line which is 1800 55 1800

[westcoastfan26294]

if u live in Australia, maybe you can call the kids help line which is 1800 55 1800

[depressedteens]

It's good to talk to your parents, like they say. But if you're nervous maybe you can call a hotline too. 1800-273-TALK is a good one.

[huneybunbabycakes]

Just to let you know, I'm 13 and was depressed and self injuring for a while. It's better to tell your parents because mine found out at the absolute worst time.

[flinch89]

i dont feel like do anything anymore, i feel like killmyself all the time,

[simplebutrock]

i honestly cried while i was watching this video.

[kissykissy22]

wow

sounds like complete freedom

[CWgirl08]

This video nails what it feels like to be depressed!!! wow

[denamcgovern]

Communication is a powerful tool. If you feel underwater or good and bad guys on your shoulders. Talk with someone. Communication is powerful!

[vinegarbar]

For me its more like theres the good guy and bad guy on my shoulders and when i get depressed the bad guy like takes steriods or something and starts making me think really bad things

If anyone feels the same please send me a message.

[darkie18]

i tink really bad things but mostly in nighmares.does this happen to you?

[eapoda03]

i know what u mean!!!

[bminternet43]

i liked this

[TolstoyKafkaEvsky]

See "Depressive Realism"

[manu91111]

what song is that at th end

[friendhope]

the world doesn't seem to understand me, locked inside, walking under water i too feel the same way through these quotes and yes i do want to break free