The Bomb in the Brain Part 3 - The Biology of Violence: The Effects of Child Abuse

[rabchild]

Ok, I had to stop at about 10 minutes in because he launches into territory where his terminology goes awry, he begins quoting scientific hypotheses, as in the mirror neurons/empathy link, that have little actual scientific backing and then goes completely off the rails into territory, in this case the "low seratonin (a hormone ???) = increased aggression, which is a case where correlation does not equal provable causation. He's got the right idea overall IMO but this needs revision.

[rabchild]

Hippocampus is associated with short term more than long term memory.

[OpiatedBliss]

27:50

LMAO!!!!!!!!! says a lot about the conservative right

[LietMonty]

yes broken brain, can't wait for the fix video.

[LietMonty]

grrr this didn't save. Look my ma locked me in basement & sent fire to door so i can burn to death, when I suicidal she strangle me with scarf & said she want to see what it look like to see someone die, when I didn't clean room she hunt me with loaded gun & told me sis to be witness to my death. Now ma hallucinate with the devil and she is terrorized. I have 100s dreams she try murder me. She said when pa die if I don't live with her she kill herself.. Any rude people here you DIE!

[milpool21]

Thank you Stefan, you are making me a better person.

[NordenzurZukunft]

Will you raise my future children? lol

[HamOnCan]

I wonder where I'd rate on the trauma scale, 5 years of war, platoons of bombers closing in, skimming over the rooftops on their nightly airraid missions, night after night.after night. Make big splash on floor, missing top rung on ladder. . have my ragdoll tossed out, from somewhere here a primal scream. sound of shock & YOUR THUMB is going to fall off if you keep that up. stop on spot. Spot, the dog, died after I fell in the water with him, I turned green for ever so long. my 1st 5 years.

[laurajdahl]

I resent the statement that "boys are hit more". You didn't live it so shut up!

In my home boys were more important than the girls. Yes all were beat but the boys would receive gifts. Girls not.

[jee0013]

@laurajdahl I was beat more than all of my siblings combined because I broke things because I was curious whether it be a small toy or an appliance. It's quite sad actually because i was the youngest female and I was just a curious kid! my brothers were not beat much at all. I used to think the girls were beat more, but it was just me :/

[laurajdahl]

Not all abused people become abusive or become sexually impulsive. I disagree with some of this "study". Try living it, then tell me your experience... Not some study.

[laurajdahl]

why do some people who were abused become too concerned with other people feelings over their own?

[GetMeThere1]

ANY kind of punishment for children is...practically INSANE. First, it's treating children like ANIMALS who must be TRAINED to behave in "acceptable" (i.e., useful to the owner) behaviors--instead of ENLIGHTENING young humans about the possibilities and potentialities of life.

And SECOND, even with animals which are trained, methods of POSITIVE reinforcement (rewards) are now universally recognized as far more efficient than methods of NEGATIVE reinforcement (punishment).

[cherrypie5195]

@w00taz Mensas IQ-test on Internet I and with no PTSD i guess. LOL

[w00taz]

I'm 16 yo and scored 9 on ACE and yet I got 131 IQ on Mensas IQ-test. Guess I'm just superior, or every1 else might be inferior, hmm... I think I'll go with the former.

[lavendertucker]

This video series is fantastic and I am so grateful for your putting this together. I have been advocating for my 3 stepchildren for the past 11 years, all diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and Fetal Alcohol Syndrome Disorder (but probably would be diagnosed Developmental Trauma Disorder if it was in the DSM). I wondered if you have recognized the extremely tragic combination of FASD children who are then neglected and abused. The brain is broken before they are even born.

[stefbot]

@lavendertucker Yes, I have heard about that, and I think it is truly tragic, to start life with such damage to the brain, thank you so much for taking such a strong stand to help your stepchildren – although I think given your love and compassion, the prefix 'step' is unnecessary, they are just your children imo...

[lavendertucker]

@stefbot We live in Concord, NH and are having an uphill battle with the school districts and court systems for our two boys who are 14 & 15 yrs old. The older one has violence issues. We're concerned that the younger one will become violent if continued to be exposed to stress at school. I wish I could transplant the info from your series directly into the judge's, Guardian ad Litem's, Probation Officer's, and the Special Education Director's brains! I emailed it to the the GAL for a start.

[LietMonty]

@stefbot Excuse me I had lots of garbage in life as I already posted. My mom said when I was baby she knew there was something already wrong with me. She said she dropped me on my head on cement as bb and left steep cellar door open and I fell & landed on head twice as infant. I got wooden boards broken on me & hit with horse whip. Text space permitting. I wish find good hubby like you & havea bb via surrogacy & 24//7/365/7 nannies. I RX PTSD, OCD, anxiety, autisic spectrum, etc. Thank you.

[CanEHdianRocker]

I with countless others suffered child abuse. My father was never around, and my Mother had no idea how to be a mother. I have those blank spots, which I am sure I could dig out if I truly thought about them. I was hit, belted with many different objects, grabbed, and pushed. I do recall my fingers being burnt for playing with matches. I am now in my mid 30's. I am single. I have explosive anger, and I usually fail at relationships and making friends. This documentary explains WHY :(

[DayMare2000]

The strange part about this was that I was *born* into childhood trauma. I was abused by my biological father, raped by him, and verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused by my mother. Slight physical abuse was also present, but it wasn't that bad. The odd thing is that, despite all of this, I have a tremendously powerful memory. I remember things back from the crib! And in detail! I can even tell you what I looked like, my mother looked like, colors, shades, the texture, etc. Whole past vivid.

[menonfire12]

THANK YOU!!!!

[survivalstuffonline]

I appreciate the time you spend to put together and share these videos and knowledge with others. Much respect my friend!

Very interesting series.

[humacyrnus]

I lol'd so hard at the bear part!

[IterProLibertasV]

@humacyrnus haha, so did i

[kittencartman]

Where's part 4 please?

[caveden]

What exactly do you mean by "spanking"? (I'm not an english native speaker)

The word sounds something strong, but in the video it seems you mean any little use of force, like for instance, pulling the ears of a little child who is really testing the limits of their parents, would you include that in "spanking" as well?

[newjoiseyboy]

@caveden Would you pull your wife's or friends' ears if they were testing your limits?  If not, why not?

[caveden]

Because with adults you can have normal conversations.

They won't start a scandal in public, crying for you to buy them something, for instance.

I'm not saying it's ok to hurt kids, please don't get it that way. I just don't see how it is possible to *never* use any minimal level of force neither ignore (neglect) them when they try to push the limits... kids are constantly trying to see how far they can go, if you always do them everything they'll end up abusing and will grow up too pampered.

[Jcolinsol]

If your interactions with a child are respectful to the child, that is, if you treat a child like an adult, the child will learn to interact more reasonably.

The reason a child behaves "abnormally" is because they have been treated like infants.

When interacting with an unreasonable adult, would you pull their ear or strike their buttocks?

[caveden]

I am not responsible for the actions of any adult Jcolinsol. This comparison just doesn't fit.

A parent can't just leave alone his kid as you can do with a "unreasonable" adult.

Anyway, just don't be paranoiac. Of course violence can do horrible things to kids, I don't argue that. But letting kids do whatever they want without ever imposing limits and eventually punishing them won't be such a good idea either.

[Jcolinsol]

You're getting a little emotional. I wonder why that might be. Where did you get "paranoiac"?

Um, I never said that children should be allowed to do whatever they want, I simply disagreed that using physical coercion was an appropriate means of checking their behavior. Why is it that you only see violence as a way to achieve compromise with a child? You wouldn't use violence with an adult.

[caveden]

Comparing little kids to adults is nonsense, you can't treat both alike.

Let's say, your kid does something wrong. You can't use any sort of physical violence, not even minimal, like dragging him by the arm or pulling the ear. You say something as "go to your room, you're punished" (or whatever) and he just ignores you, or even worse, start crying laud enough to bother the whole building.

What do you do?

If it was an adult, I would just kick him out of my home. Would you do this?

[Jcolinsol]

As I initially stated, a child will react reasonably if you treat them reasonably.

You say it's nonsense, but you have not provided a salient argument for why I'm supposed to agree with you. Why are children less worthy of respect than adults? What is it about children that makes violence appropriate for them, but not for adults? Is it the fact that they are not fully cognitively developed? Is it the fact that they haven't developed fine motor skills yet? Help me out here.

[Jcolinsol]

I have worked in childcare, and I have never, ever, had to implement force to get a child to behave. It is just unnecessary.

You cannot make an assertive statement, particularly when advocating violence, and then refuse to defend it. Well, you can, but it highlights how baseless your opinion is.

[LTBL88]

@caveden The statistics show that physical punishment and force INCREASE THE OCCURENCE OF UNDESIRED BEHAVIOR in a child that is acting out. You can try and rationalize abuse all you want (maybe because you do it to your kids and can't face the truth?), but the scientific facts speak for themselves.

[Geneticfitness]

@caveden have you ever heard of a dictionary?

[f417h]

Thank you

[andrewh817]

It's not surprising that exercise has such a massive effect on our brains. We still have evolutionary traits that make it feel good to push our bodies past the comfort zone that still exist even though most of us don't need to push ourselves to survive.

[Mastikator]

Keep in mind that a parent is likely to have been treated worse than it treated its kids. Now extrapolate that 2000 years back into the past and it's no wonder why people had constant hallucinations who were infanticidal psychopaths.

I suppose that means there's a trend for the future to be better, and hopefully if people know all this it'll get there a bit sooner.

Thank you so much Stef for making this. You're doing the world a favor.

[k0n14k]

Ann Lander's poll study is easy to be misinterpreted in this context.

The answer would be "No" even with very happy parents who already had children and do not plan to have more.

[stefbot]

That's not what was asked - the question was: "If you had to do it over again..."

[evolvedtripple6]

Great video! This stuff is so important if the world is ever going to wake up from the Matrix....

[PsyogiBottoms]

Again, enlightening, terrifying, and educational - excellently done as expected.

As a suffer, I completely agree and can check off the boxes as you move along as though you are reading my bio. Frightening shit.

However, now I know where my anxiety, panic disorders come from (knew that my brain must have damage) as they were always uncontrollable and without reason or warning.

Agoraphobia has only set in recently as I entered my 40's - a sever distaste for being in public or dealing with them.

[wispaintstyle]

Good vid stef. I'm developing a thought on how this might relate to the "is liberty hopeless" discussion.

[RevDevilin]

False premise, "we are not borne violent" genetically inherited memories, we are born with many memories already hard wired in our brains, although learned behaviour plays a far more significant role in human brain development, to ignore billions of years of genetically inherited behaviour is Foley

[DCLugi]

I suppose if we are born affectionate, curious and not violent then the question, "Where did it all begin?" comes to mind.

[Jcolinsol]

I think he's speaking simplistically.

I don't think that people have any inherent tendency towards either violence or compassion, we just have reflexes that drive our reactions to experience. We develop complex psychological thought systems around our experiences of trauma and validation.

Historically there was a greater restriction of resource availability, which means more potential trauma, and thus a greater tendency towards violins.

[DCLugi]

Yes, that makes sense.

[f417h]

Merci

[Deathinmusic]

Thank you Stef. This is important information.

[lnd3005]

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[okcupidvitame]

THANK YOU for giving this subject attention.

[NeuroParadise]

I can just imagine all the mums of adhd kids thinking oh my god did i abuse my son by going to work when they were under 4!!

[PsyogiBottoms]

As a child that was regularly abandoned at school yards and events I can say - yes they did. As my mother spent all her time working so she wouldn't have to deal with being nurturing or empathic, instead she could just hand me a $20 or buy me an extravagant gift that somehow made up for the fact that my father was a passed out drunk and she was gabbing as work all day forgetting to pick her kid up from school or leaving him standing around for hours alone in malls while she shopped.

[stefbot]

Please accept my deepest sympathies my friend, that is all truly horrendous... [hug]

[PsyogiBottoms]

Thanks Steph - Its really funny as she likes to claim it was her giving me my freedom, she praises herself on how independant I was - making PB&J by myself at the age of 2, cause I had to push the chair to the counter, climb up and feed myself.

That somehow gets rationized into - independent. lol

Just like the myriad trips to hospital for falling out of trees or getting hit in the mouth with a swing at 18 months.

yeah - it is frightening, and amazing any of us are completely mental.

[NeuroParadise]

hiya yes check this out, when i had kids and decided to stay at home with them my mum made me feel like a leech on society. Said that i needed to "get out of the house" etc. I told her the reason she went to work and left me with a childminder was cos she couldnt hack it ! haha whose right now mum lol

[LLCoolPass]

@PsyogiBottoms i often forget about this aspect of the abuse i experienced

[Stargazer5781]

Right, I'm gonna go exercise now. Great video Stef, as always!

[Paddis92]

A few years ago I lived in a foster home where I wasn't treated nicely so to speak. I remember very clearly that I would get into a fistfight every single day. Sometimes with students, sometimes with teachers. Looking back at myself today I'm of course very sorry for what I did but I'm also happy to not be that person anymore.

I think this video should be shown to parents and teachers all over the world. This is probably the best video I've ever seen, thank you.

[PsyogiBottoms]

I agree completely, however the narcissistic parents that perpetrate these acts of abuse and violence on their children can not accept responsibility or blame for their actions. (i,e. I've tried lol)

The only way I have been able to reach my damaged parents is through their own abuse story and helping them to understand that though they are accountable for the abuse - it is understood they were damaged themselves.

However, I don't think they ever truly except the responsibility for themselves.