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My partner of 8 years has a social phobia he has only ever gone out with me six times and our son durning Christmas when we all meet his famliy .
I don't know what to do any more i love him but i feel that he doesn't want to go out because he is a shamed of us that is why he doesn't want to go out with us.what can i do to help him i am scared our son will be just like him.
@ethengar11 He's not ashamed of you. He's probably ashamed of his very self. Don't ask me why, I don't know either... Most of the times, social phobia's associated with a quite low self-esteem and lack of confidence (usually for no apparent reason). If you don't love yourself then HOW ON EARTH are u going to become capable of loving somebody else, truly?? And with that I don't mean he doesn't love his family. He does but he isn't STRONG enough to live up to your social expectations together...
@ethengar11 He's not ashamed of you. He's probably ashamed of his very self. Don't ask me why, I don't know either... Most of the times, social phobia's associated with a quite low self-esteem and lack of confidence (usually for no apparent reason). If you don't love yourself then HOW ON EARTH are u going to become capable of loving somebody else, truly?? And with that I don't mean he doesn't love his family. He does but he isn't STRONG enough to live up to your social expectations together...
@ethengar11@ethengar11 He's not ashamed of u. He's probably ashamed of his very self. Don't ask me why, I don't know either... Most of the times, social phobia's associated with a quite low self-esteem (usually for no apparent reason). If you don't love yourself then HOW ON EARTH are u going to become capable of loving somebody else, truly?? N' with that I don't mean he doesn't love his family. He does but he isn't STRONG enough to live up to your social expectations together...
@ethengar11 Your partner is defineately NOT ashamed of you or your son. He has social phobia which has nothing to do with how he feels about you or your son. Social phobia is an illness that concerns him and the anxiety that people may judge and analyse him. So dont blame yourself. His illness has not even a tiny thing to do with you or your son
I hate when people answer these videos with things like "its all in your head" or "you just have to learn to deal with it" and all that BULLSHIT. some people just cannot deal with it. society things to believe that we are just disposable people. we are not understood or aqccepted. we are expected to adapt. well some people are not capable of adapting and everytime someone feeds us that line of crap it just makes our situation more difficult to live with
Thank you very much, this seem like a practical guidelines.
I'll try to practice them, at least, I might have a little progress instead of getting worse.
The worst part is the decision, when there's a party invitation and you imagine the worst feeling that can happen to you when you get out there, that keeps me from going out most of the time.
jackbornin1992 has made a comment on Recovery from Social Phobia:
"SA is not a severe disorder. that is bullshit it just takes courage and determination to go through with things. this is the problem with the net people get together who are socially anxious and get themselves down reinforcing in their minds about how bad it is until everyone starts to think they are mentally ill. it just takes balls! "
No, it is not that easy at all. The underlying cause of my social phobia is giftedness and isolation during childhood. That's something you cannot easily dismiss. The net helps (anxious) people to connect to each other. I met many interesting net people in real life.
okay firstly sorry for using language like bull shit
but no i disagree with you and stand by what i said. the internet is bad for socially anxious people!
it happens so often like this-you'll join a site, and start saying about how awful youfeel about your life and how you feel theyll never change. then youget comments back and talk through virtual conversations instead of going out into the real world with real interaction! so the negativeity carries on and on and you dont improve at all
I'm a female :-) and English is not my mother tongue. But if anybody wants to send a corrected version to me, please don't hesitate to send a message.
Dont listen to that twit seikogoldwatch2009. He is to put it bluntly a windbag who craves attention. If there is a question out there regarding any subject matter in any given field, he has all the answers. Dont believe me, just ask him.
i dont know but i 2days ago went to our place(its an unbuilted house)went to draw and i had my hair so messy!i did it!I went out like that i tried not to think bout it and i did maybe so,and yesterday i went to super market wearing a jacket around my belly!Yeah i did and i try no to feel ashamed,im starting overcoming it,and bout the tip4 ive sung in front of an audience and cuzs of the disorder,ive sang so badly...
even though others after said me,wonderful voice!,theyv heard not my best ofcurz
Another thing...the journal idea is great too. No, it won't cure you overnight (and won't cure you at all just on its own) but it's a good way of keeping track of your thoughts. I started a journal for my clinical experiences at uni and found myself writing a lot about SA, so i decided to start one just for SA as well. When you read over it you can really identify where your thinking went wrong and try and apply that next time you're in an anxiety-provoking situation.
The first tip was interesting. I was kind of aware of my prejudices against others but underestimated how much they contributed to my SA. For example, when I see a girl that obviously puts a lot of effort into her appearance, I automatically dislike her and think she'll hate me; she's better than me. I'm hardly anxious at all around less confident-looking people that are a lot lower on the social ladder. It's very tiring sorting through the people you like and don't like all day, every day.
Another handful of "You just have to..." tips. Guess what ? That simply doesn't work, if it was that easy, i'd have overcome my social phobia since a long long time !
very nice tips! i liked the one about working hard on it! learn as much as possible, if something doesnt work, go ahead and try new technique's. search until you find it, thats the fun part about SA, you re learning some things that you wouldnt bother without sa.
you have it, and you need to have the worth for yourself to learn this things, so that you can maintain a nearly normal life, thats my experience. Every year i feel a little bit more advanced
These are great tips!
7thvirgo 1 month ago
while u sleepin, we eatin
locateyourhuevos 4 months ago
Hi guys if u ever wana talk or chat im here i'd like to get to know people with the same problem as me xxx
yazmin584 4 months ago
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AwwwMuffinz 11 months ago
My partner of 8 years has a social phobia he has only ever gone out with me six times and our son durning Christmas when we all meet his famliy .
I don't know what to do any more i love him but i feel that he doesn't want to go out because he is a shamed of us that is why he doesn't want to go out with us.what can i do to help him i am scared our son will be just like him.
ethengar11 1 year ago
@ethengar11 He's not ashamed of you. He's probably ashamed of his very self. Don't ask me why, I don't know either... Most of the times, social phobia's associated with a quite low self-esteem and lack of confidence (usually for no apparent reason). If you don't love yourself then HOW ON EARTH are u going to become capable of loving somebody else, truly?? And with that I don't mean he doesn't love his family. He does but he isn't STRONG enough to live up to your social expectations together...
LGBTPrideVIII 10 months ago
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@ethengar11 He's not ashamed of you. He's probably ashamed of his very self. Don't ask me why, I don't know either... Most of the times, social phobia's associated with a quite low self-esteem and lack of confidence (usually for no apparent reason). If you don't love yourself then HOW ON EARTH are u going to become capable of loving somebody else, truly?? And with that I don't mean he doesn't love his family. He does but he isn't STRONG enough to live up to your social expectations together...
LGBTPrideVIII 10 months ago
@ethengar11 @ethengar11 He's not ashamed of u. He's probably ashamed of his very self. Don't ask me why, I don't know either... Most of the times, social phobia's associated with a quite low self-esteem (usually for no apparent reason). If you don't love yourself then HOW ON EARTH are u going to become capable of loving somebody else, truly?? N' with that I don't mean he doesn't love his family. He does but he isn't STRONG enough to live up to your social expectations together...
LGBTPrideVIII 10 months ago
@ethengar11 Your partner is defineately NOT ashamed of you or your son. He has social phobia which has nothing to do with how he feels about you or your son. Social phobia is an illness that concerns him and the anxiety that people may judge and analyse him. So dont blame yourself. His illness has not even a tiny thing to do with you or your son
raccuia1 5 months ago
thanxs nice tips!: )
xxLilJXxX 1 year ago
I hate when people answer these videos with things like "its all in your head" or "you just have to learn to deal with it" and all that BULLSHIT. some people just cannot deal with it. society things to believe that we are just disposable people. we are not understood or aqccepted. we are expected to adapt. well some people are not capable of adapting and everytime someone feeds us that line of crap it just makes our situation more difficult to live with
SunimZen 1 year ago
Thank you very much, this seem like a practical guidelines.
I'll try to practice them, at least, I might have a little progress instead of getting worse.
The worst part is the decision, when there's a party invitation and you imagine the worst feeling that can happen to you when you get out there, that keeps me from going out most of the time.
shymermaid1 1 year ago
Thanks!
aaa333ify 1 year ago
at anxietyace . com it shows how to stop panic attacks
pratinus 2 years ago
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REXXORDER 2 years ago
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pratinus 2 years ago
Good advice, I liked it. I added it to my personal playlist on motivation.
But next time, do try to use a spell-checker. I noticed a couple of errors.
CountDOODOO 2 years ago
this didn't work for me
memyself447 2 years ago
ONLY WAY IS TO FACE YOUR LIFE
REXXORDER 2 years ago
To reply to the following (removed) comment:
jackbornin1992 has made a comment on Recovery from Social Phobia:
"SA is not a severe disorder. that is bullshit it just takes courage and determination to go through with things. this is the problem with the net people get together who are socially anxious and get themselves down reinforcing in their minds about how bad it is until everyone starts to think they are mentally ill. it just takes balls! "
QuestForRecovery 2 years ago
No, it is not that easy at all. The underlying cause of my social phobia is giftedness and isolation during childhood. That's something you cannot easily dismiss. The net helps (anxious) people to connect to each other. I met many interesting net people in real life.
QuestForRecovery 2 years ago 2
okay firstly sorry for using language like bull shit
but no i disagree with you and stand by what i said. the internet is bad for socially anxious people!
it happens so often like this-you'll join a site, and start saying about how awful youfeel about your life and how you feel theyll never change. then youget comments back and talk through virtual conversations instead of going out into the real world with real interaction! so the negativeity carries on and on and you dont improve at all
jackbornin1992 2 years ago
First of all, these do not help with Social Anxiety Disorder. Anyone who trusts this idiot who can't spell, I don't know what to tell you.
seikogoldwatch2009 2 years ago
dont be so rude hes only trying to help people!
jackbornin1992 2 years ago
I'm a female :-) and English is not my mother tongue. But if anybody wants to send a corrected version to me, please don't hesitate to send a message.
QuestForRecovery 2 years ago
sorry! :D
jackbornin1992 2 years ago
Most of the tips are acceptable forms of treatment for social anxiety.
oystagoymp 2 years ago
Dont listen to that twit seikogoldwatch2009. He is to put it bluntly a windbag who craves attention. If there is a question out there regarding any subject matter in any given field, he has all the answers. Dont believe me, just ask him.
burgett727 2 years ago
i dont know but i 2days ago went to our place(its an unbuilted house)went to draw and i had my hair so messy!i did it!I went out like that i tried not to think bout it and i did maybe so,and yesterday i went to super market wearing a jacket around my belly!Yeah i did and i try no to feel ashamed,im starting overcoming it,and bout the tip4 ive sung in front of an audience and cuzs of the disorder,ive sang so badly...
even though others after said me,wonderful voice!,theyv heard not my best ofcurz
psarakiapolla 2 years ago
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have a look at my video its very interesting and helps! its about the link between social anxiety and body language.
MRah92 2 years ago
Another thing...the journal idea is great too. No, it won't cure you overnight (and won't cure you at all just on its own) but it's a good way of keeping track of your thoughts. I started a journal for my clinical experiences at uni and found myself writing a lot about SA, so i decided to start one just for SA as well. When you read over it you can really identify where your thinking went wrong and try and apply that next time you're in an anxiety-provoking situation.
mauerbluemchen0 2 years ago
The first tip was interesting. I was kind of aware of my prejudices against others but underestimated how much they contributed to my SA. For example, when I see a girl that obviously puts a lot of effort into her appearance, I automatically dislike her and think she'll hate me; she's better than me. I'm hardly anxious at all around less confident-looking people that are a lot lower on the social ladder. It's very tiring sorting through the people you like and don't like all day, every day.
mauerbluemchen0 2 years ago
i have social phobia and depression, Vilift is helped me to overcome all of these and i am very thankful about it.
swastedcat 2 years ago
i am very thankful about knowing Vilift too, it's really the best pill for me.
happilylil 2 years ago
I've had social phobia for years..
DOES CBT WORK? Is there anything else?
Thankyou
robert666090177 2 years ago
thanks for uploading. I find stuff like this helpful.
some very helpful tip(p)s there! :)
jackbornin92 3 years ago
Marinator7
Your a Moron!
marge1212 3 years ago
I agree!! like to see him upload something as beneficial as this. lol
jackbornin92 3 years ago
tip1.. learn how to spell tip
vegunited06 3 years ago
there are an hand full of approved technics like
-daily progressive muskel relexation.
-lot of sports
-self support groups, more times a week
-konfrontation therapy
-systematic desensitization
-5 times fruits and vegetables per day
or new for me is nlp or hypnosis
i do some of this things since years and as older i become it becomes little easier and easier
jonruel 3 years ago
lol... i eat vegetables 5 times/day and still have social phobia
n1ghtnite 3 years ago 5
Another handful of "You just have to..." tips. Guess what ? That simply doesn't work, if it was that easy, i'd have overcome my social phobia since a long long time !
toutencarbone 3 years ago 8
haha. either or
mikerotethis 3 years ago
very nice tips! i liked the one about working hard on it! learn as much as possible, if something doesnt work, go ahead and try new technique's. search until you find it, thats the fun part about SA, you re learning some things that you wouldnt bother without sa.
8000dollar 3 years ago
you have it, and you need to have the worth for yourself to learn this things, so that you can maintain a nearly normal life, thats my experience. Every year i feel a little bit more advanced
jonruel 2 years ago
Congratulations on spelling tip wrong...
Marinator7 3 years ago