To say that to your family may come across as a little weird to you guys, but I think what she is really trying to do is communicate her contentness. I think she is trying to say to you guys "it's guna be okay" so you will not worry. Does that make sense? My grandma in-law died a couple months ago and she would always talk openly about death and it freaked us out. But I know now that it was because she wanted to lighten the mood and let us know she was okay with it. Hope your mom is well...
I don't know if this will help, but it sounds to me as though your Mom has found peace with her mortality - the aspect of this you seem to have grasped...
However, what it sounds to me, is that she's also trying to communicate this to you (her family) in such a way as to help ease your 'concerns' by expressing herself in such a way as to share her joy in finding that peace; rather than have you all 'fussing' around her getting worried.
I've probably not worded it right, but I hope it helps :-)
I've noticed this attitude frequently in many types of believers in a personal afterlife. It's more emphatic in deeply addicted Christians & Muslims, who can work themselves up enough to willingly fly planes into buildings, or vote for republicans, when they know that such actions will cost people their lives. In such a mind, important components of their humanity seem to be forgottn, like honor, empathy & humility, causing them to commit a far more damning sin than all others combined; hubris.
One of the things I have been blocked by Christians for saying is that Jesus says he is more important than your family (Luke 14:26). According to this and other verses (Luke 9:60) Jesus should come first in your life. This is one of the problems I have with Christianity in that it would seem that people who depend on you are more important than an omnipotent God that would be just fine without your help.
Well, assuming she's a Christian and you're family is, she's got everything to gain and nothing to lose. I know that's "Pascal's Wager" and doesn't exactly help, but on another note, you should spend time with her as long as you can, and still be with her when God "draws her #." You should also know you have my prayers and condolences as well.
My mother, who became an atheist late in life, battled cancer for 10 years. While I wouldn't say she was "excited" about dying, when she discovered her time left was extremely limited, she took comfort in the knowledge that the battle, and the pain would soon be over.
My mom used to say those same types of things when she was sick, only she wasn't religious at all. But she missed my dad who was already deceased so she would talk about being with him again.
In the last year of my grandfather's life, he was very ill with multiple cancers. His life was agony. He prayed every day that he would die, so his misery would end.
It was very difficult to hear, even though I understood it. And at the same time, the doctors kept wanting to operate (on an 89-yr old man), and my attitude was "let him go". So even though I knew it was the best way, hearing him HATE his life was very hard.
Not exactly the same situation, but I have some clue how you feel
I accept your conditions and wouldn't comment if I hadn't experienced exactly the same.
My Nan (Father's Mum) said she enjoyed her cigarettes because (as she coughed hard) each one brought her closer to Jesus. I was about 7 years old at the time. I asked her why she didn't just kill herself?
She said that it was a sin.
I asked her why wasn't smoking a sin if it was going to kill her anyway.,
She called me a cheeky brat and said it was different, blowing smoke into my face.
I feel very strongly that when someone is ready to move on that everyone else should respect their decision. Many people would rather leave the earth when they still have their dignity. Individuals know when their quality of life has been reduced because of age related health problems and they should be allowed to make their own decision when the time is right for them. Having said that, I wouldn’t want my mom to go unless she was in constant pain (physical or mental).
Hi Losoyo. In my family these kinds of things are said constantly. Maybe she feels that she has done a fine job here on earth and is ready to move on to the next realm. Its also sounds like she is wise and has some good years left. I feel we have to let them go to truly love them. My grandmom is 96 and she is ready. She says if you live too long it can suck because you have to see all your life long friends leave.
I know what you mean. Its weird to hear your mom say she excited to "go". Ive heard that myself a couple times. Not bashing, but just remember she thinks shes going to be in a much better place. And then its just chilln and waiting on you guys ya know. If I believed that I would be happy about it to. If you needz to talk you got my skype
When my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she similarily had no fear of death and like your mom, was a firm believer in Christ. I was a theist at the time but I had rejected Christianity. But all the same was okay with Mum's beliefs. The rest of my family were horrified how Mum and I could openly talk about death and her funeral. But we could because she had absolutely no fear of death. The way I see it is it's your Mom's choice and if it brings her comfort, what harm can it do?
When I was a missionary, I wanted to die. I really wanted to become a matyr, mostly because I'd rather die when I knew I was faithful as opposed to risking the possibility of later falling away.
I lost my son five years ago, I know he is with the Lord now. Maybe your mom is trying to put your heart to rest letting you know that she is excited to meet Jesus so that you will be happy for her and not mourn for a long period of time. I'll pray for you and your family. God bless you and your mom!
To say that to your family may come across as a little weird to you guys, but I think what she is really trying to do is communicate her contentness. I think she is trying to say to you guys "it's guna be okay" so you will not worry. Does that make sense? My grandma in-law died a couple months ago and she would always talk openly about death and it freaked us out. But I know now that it was because she wanted to lighten the mood and let us know she was okay with it. Hope your mom is well...
fruitikay 4 months ago
I don't know if this will help, but it sounds to me as though your Mom has found peace with her mortality - the aspect of this you seem to have grasped...
However, what it sounds to me, is that she's also trying to communicate this to you (her family) in such a way as to help ease your 'concerns' by expressing herself in such a way as to share her joy in finding that peace; rather than have you all 'fussing' around her getting worried.
I've probably not worded it right, but I hope it helps :-)
BrianJ1962 4 months ago
I've noticed this attitude frequently in many types of believers in a personal afterlife. It's more emphatic in deeply addicted Christians & Muslims, who can work themselves up enough to willingly fly planes into buildings, or vote for republicans, when they know that such actions will cost people their lives. In such a mind, important components of their humanity seem to be forgottn, like honor, empathy & humility, causing them to commit a far more damning sin than all others combined; hubris.
DonQuixotedeKaw 4 months ago
One of the things I have been blocked by Christians for saying is that Jesus says he is more important than your family (Luke 14:26). According to this and other verses (Luke 9:60) Jesus should come first in your life. This is one of the problems I have with Christianity in that it would seem that people who depend on you are more important than an omnipotent God that would be just fine without your help.
happyjesus123 4 months ago
Whatever works. Honestly.
violentlygraceful 4 months ago
Well, assuming she's a Christian and you're family is, she's got everything to gain and nothing to lose. I know that's "Pascal's Wager" and doesn't exactly help, but on another note, you should spend time with her as long as you can, and still be with her when God "draws her #." You should also know you have my prayers and condolences as well.
jcrebel18 4 months ago
My mother, who became an atheist late in life, battled cancer for 10 years. While I wouldn't say she was "excited" about dying, when she discovered her time left was extremely limited, she took comfort in the knowledge that the battle, and the pain would soon be over.
TheNakedAtheist 4 months ago
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My mom used to say those same types of things when she was sick, only she wasn't religious at all. But she missed my dad who was already deceased so she would talk about being with him again.
sewbuttns 4 months ago
In the last year of my grandfather's life, he was very ill with multiple cancers. His life was agony. He prayed every day that he would die, so his misery would end.
It was very difficult to hear, even though I understood it. And at the same time, the doctors kept wanting to operate (on an 89-yr old man), and my attitude was "let him go". So even though I knew it was the best way, hearing him HATE his life was very hard.
Not exactly the same situation, but I have some clue how you feel
SiriusMined 4 months ago
I remember my mom saying a similar thing. I think its a way a person can see hope past this life. It can make you feel bad for a while though.
GnosticMayhem 4 months ago
I accept your conditions and wouldn't comment if I hadn't experienced exactly the same.
My Nan (Father's Mum) said she enjoyed her cigarettes because (as she coughed hard) each one brought her closer to Jesus. I was about 7 years old at the time. I asked her why she didn't just kill herself?
She said that it was a sin.
I asked her why wasn't smoking a sin if it was going to kill her anyway.,
She called me a cheeky brat and said it was different, blowing smoke into my face.
calmreason 4 months ago
I just hope things will be better for your mother.
TruthofthePeople 4 months ago
I feel very strongly that when someone is ready to move on that everyone else should respect their decision. Many people would rather leave the earth when they still have their dignity. Individuals know when their quality of life has been reduced because of age related health problems and they should be allowed to make their own decision when the time is right for them. Having said that, I wouldn’t want my mom to go unless she was in constant pain (physical or mental).
tex959 4 months ago
Hi Losoyo. In my family these kinds of things are said constantly. Maybe she feels that she has done a fine job here on earth and is ready to move on to the next realm. Its also sounds like she is wise and has some good years left. I feel we have to let them go to truly love them. My grandmom is 96 and she is ready. She says if you live too long it can suck because you have to see all your life long friends leave.
princenoobsauce 4 months ago
losoyo
I know what you mean. Its weird to hear your mom say she excited to "go". Ive heard that myself a couple times. Not bashing, but just remember she thinks shes going to be in a much better place. And then its just chilln and waiting on you guys ya know. If I believed that I would be happy about it to. If you needz to talk you got my skype
TheViolentBuddha 4 months ago
Maybe she thinks it'll be comforting to you and your family. That she is not worried and she doesn't want you to worry.
I don't know. I found this video through Dar.
It's a horrible thing to think about. I just recently like days ago lost someone to cancer.
GodlessManitoban 4 months ago
When my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer, she similarily had no fear of death and like your mom, was a firm believer in Christ. I was a theist at the time but I had rejected Christianity. But all the same was okay with Mum's beliefs. The rest of my family were horrified how Mum and I could openly talk about death and her funeral. But we could because she had absolutely no fear of death. The way I see it is it's your Mom's choice and if it brings her comfort, what harm can it do?
ThomasTrue 4 months ago
When I was a missionary, I wanted to die. I really wanted to become a matyr, mostly because I'd rather die when I knew I was faithful as opposed to risking the possibility of later falling away.
Coquipirate 4 months ago
@Coquipirate And what you just said is one of the scary things about religion,
tex959 4 months ago
I lost my son five years ago, I know he is with the Lord now. Maybe your mom is trying to put your heart to rest letting you know that she is excited to meet Jesus so that you will be happy for her and not mourn for a long period of time. I'll pray for you and your family. God bless you and your mom!
AwaitingHisReturn777 4 months ago