BDSM Discussion#4 - Romance in a D/s relationship

[JenTehLuv1]

My Master and I have been in a relationship for almost four years. We love eachother and our relationship in our lifestyle just improves our experience when it comes to sex, not the other way around. We are lovers first and foremost, everything else comes in second.

Some people get confused that BDSM is all about sex and it has little to no effect on the mental and emotional state of those who are involved. Does BDSM require love? No. But I personally couldn't do it without it.

[crysmorr]

@coyote7272 define normal?

[romeojulie1972]

I really enjoy your videos - very informative and I will recommend them to all newbies in the scene!

[coyote7272]

DBSM, you people are sick freaks who deserve to die. It's disgusting and you have mental issues. I'm a fan of school shootings and mass murder and I'm very comfortably calling you freaks a bunch of sick twisted fuckheads.

[brie9mo]

@coyote7272 I'm glad you are so sure of yourself. About the being a fan of school shootings and things of that sort, i would suggest you see a psychiatrist about that.

That is unless you are planning on killing him/her as well. Oh and by the way, it's BDSM not DBSM, and it's nice to have sane people comment on the fetish :)

[coyote7272]

Freaks.

[brie9mo]

well im not the one saying that i like school shootings and mass murder. sure we have a very odd fetish, but that dosn't make us freaks....

[coyote7272]

You don't get it... I said that because it's the only to fix people with such screwed up lifestyles, same could go with bullies or criminals. That's what it takes for people to smarten up and be normal or decent.

[brie9mo]

ah, and calling us freaks really makes us want to listen to what your saying?

[coyote7272]

well there's no reasoning with you retards, you'll always come up with some bullshit excuse to why you like to call your boyfriends "daddy" or pretend you belong to someone else or beat your girlfriend like a fucking abusive pervert. Straight to the point.

[brie9mo]

sure, just because we like stuff you don't like dosn't mean were abusive or retards. sure some of us are extreemests with it, but its a very small persentage...asshole!

[edwong3]

Look in the mirror!

[1110JTR]

No. just No.

[SummerSunshine1988]

Did this guy just fall off the face of the Earth? He hasn't posted anything new in quite some time.

[RavenTDA]

Aww you seem so in love when you talk about your beloved. I hope my realtionship with my Master will turn out to be a beautiful marriage like you guys have. Thank you for talking about the romance and realtionship side to D/s. It's simply not spoken of enough.

[Vickster122162]

"Come on baby make it hurt so good

Sometimes love dont feel like it should

You make it hurt so good" I think these lyrics from the John Cougar Mellencamp song pretty much sums it up. :-)

Love feels differently for each individual person. Some like roses and wine, some like whips and chains.

[mikecool37]

Beautiful words spoken.

[9885882]

very well said and rare approach for D/s relations! congrats!

[pebbles0200]

great point about communication.. communication is what holds a D/s relationship together whether it's based on love or not.. and keep in mind that in D/s relationships what you see (especially in public) is not usually what is going on under the surface. and kudos for hitting on the importance of after care.. thats so commonly looked over

[Alexandra21221211]

Very well said :)

[submidniterose]

Thank You Sir. i await Your video.

[submidniterose]

Sir, i have listened to each of Your series in order and found myself somewhat confused. In my training, i was taught that the D/s lifestyle is surrounded by the BDSM relationship. In Your vidoes, i heard the D/s refered to as a relationship and a reflections to the "play" side of it. In this submissives opinion, i believe a better topic to talk about would be the 7 protocals and the 12 rights we, as submissives have. Also more indepth on the Safe, Sane, and Concensual Creed.

[mstrjay]

I understand your confusion, and it is to be expected depending on your training and experience. There are many types of relationships, some of which contain the traditional aspects of what most people think of BDSM, and some that do not. Instead of concentrating on one approach or one type of relationship, I am trying to look at the broader commonality that bind us.

[mstrjay]

I have not covered SSC in detail since that is well covered in other videos dealing with the physical aspects of the relationship. However, I will do so in a future video.

[ogrish84]

When are you going to make a new video?

[Andoreasu]

Could you talk about bondage? Have you ever tried it? What are your experiences about it?

[mstrjay]

I have done a quite a bit with bondage, from ropes to chains. I will cover this in a future video.

[Jayslace]

Why, yes You have, Sir... In service, beloved

[JadasJourney]

Exactly what I hoped to next hear! Your perspective!

[gennaiosskl]

hello friend. I like very much your way of thinking.

Everybody has to know that people like us are very romantic and sensitive. D/s lifestyle is healthy and it can be very romantic.

[oapel]

Hello, i have seen your series form 1 to 4 and i just have to say, ceap up the good work. Realy great "philosopis"!