This video was PAINFUL to watch because it spoke to me in soooo many ways. I DO feel your angst dear and am happy to share my story of finding a happier road on this journey we crossdressers live.
I understand your dilema Dana! For sure, there is always going to be a large element of risk in coming out to your wife or family: however, if she > they truly love you, she > they will understand; empathize with you, and even support you.
Giving up Dana forever would be the worst thing you could possibly do.....for she is a part of you as much as your male everyday persona is a part of her.
By putting an end to this expression of your inner feminine, you would not be living true to yourself, and would consequently feel the loss of identity as well as harmony: which would in turn affect your psyche in a negative way, and potentially lead to clinical depression.
I would strongly suggest that you continue to embrace Dana with every fibre of your being.
What is more, you seem to have something of a flair for creative writing which could be channelled through her?
I agree with xdress17j, its a matter of balance if you arent going to come out with it to your wife, which is really hit or miss with not much grey area. i enjoy what i do to a certain level then it has to be reality, and you are the only judge of that...more discussion certainly welcome, i feel for you...
Well it looks like you got a lot of positive comments on here. Personally I would ditch the wig you had on at the end section of the video and go for a straight haired look and that dress you wore at the beginning was much better also. I'm not sure if your wife knows but I would tell her, in my opinion most women I have spoken to like guys who crossdress. Be true to yourself and to those you love
I love the clip Dana but not sure if I agree with comment from genogeno1234, I don't know if your wife would understand (I hope she does or has) but my wife couldn't understand my desire or need to crossdress but I wish you the best of luck :)
i think your wiife would be understanding if you told her. You look beautiful as a woman and you deserve a woman who will accept your feminine self as well as your masculine self. They are out there, and I wouldn't settle for anything else.
@DanaM71: Art....tis...tic... value of...the ti...tle?
LOLOLxxx
Please come back to ground reality. We are living on Earth, not some fantasy dreamlands you are living in, though you literally ARE living in some CD realm.
The curse of crossdressing is the binge and purge cycles. It never really leaves, I don't think its something that needs fixing but rather you need to find that comfort zone and balance in your life. Yes you need to be responsible but you also need to be happy. Each of us has a different balance, just find what works for you, enjoy it and be safe.
Let's face it...we all binge and purge, but never really can quit who we are
@xdress17j This particular purge session was especially cringe-worthy: Planet Aid is a front organization for the Danish cult Tvind, and next time, Dana should give that stuff to actual charitable organizations, like Goodwill.
Dana, my partner is a crossdresser. When I found out he was posting photos of himself and youtube vids, I was utterly destroyed. I honestly think once something has become a compulsion (the photos/youtube stuff) then it is a problem. For gods sake, forget about the ego massages and sad little affirmations and validations ("You are so hot", "So very beautiful", etc) - are these comments worth risking anyone's happiness? Really? If you cant stop youtube, you had better get some psychiatric help.
The dose of reality hurts. I have to balance your advice with notes like from jeannacd below. But yours is more critical. I think I'll hide my more gratuitous videos now...
@jackieme1961 May I ask what's wrong with showing pride in something that took a lot of hard work to achieve? Now if he were trying to cheat on you while en femme or insisted on having sex while crossdressed I could understand that, but seeking external confirmation of passability of his feminine persona is fine IMO. (However, I regard the more sexual comments as unbelievably creepy, and likewise if your partner is a fetishist, especially if he has put in so little effort, he doesn't even pass.)
Dana, You are so very beautiful. You have helped me more than you will ever know. I to have responsibilities, and a family and I am just beginning my journey. I am also in the closet, and am scared of the consequences. But I gamble and continue to dress. As you say, it is something you just can't stop. the way i put it "It just feels right"So, i say "THAK YOU"!! for all your help. I hope to accomplish as much as you have. I can only hope that I can "pass" some day, but isnt that the curse?
I like the dress, it gives your body wonderful shape and it looks tight giving you good figure. And i love your black slides, what size are those? I hope you didn't donate those, i would buy them. ;)
that dress was lovely & really suited you & i'm sure you know as well as I do you can't hide your desire to dress as a woman, tell your wife what you do I didn't & she found my clothes but she said if I had told her she would have supported me but because I didn't we are now seperated!!!
I ran across this video by accident. I am a straight married woman. I see nothing wrong with what you are doing. If your wife and family except you cross dressing than the hell with the rest. If cross dressing makes you happy than by all means do it. You are hurting no one. I respect you for being who you want to be. BTW, where did you get that dress you had on? I love it. Looked pretty damn good on you too. Have a great day.
Thank you! Comments like yours mean a lot. The biggest issue is that I keep this desire hidden from everyone, including myself most of the time. So no one would guess that I do this, and, to top that, no one would guess that I've gotten this proficient at it! Thank you for the comment on the dress, too! I have found that polyester wrap dresses work best for my body. I think it is from Kohls. I will have a great day--you too!
Dana - DON'T GO. You are such an inspiration to me (and others from reading your messages). Your new outfit and appearance are just amazing, the straight hair style makes you look years younger and your slim body is just awe inspiring, I wish I could be your size. Please reconsider not leaving us - you tube will be a lesser place to visit..... take care, love Cherylanne (UK).
I love your smile. It really enhances your beautiful sensuality! You really should consider making more videos, because for myself, it helps empower me as a male to female transgender Non--Op! You're giving strength where it's needed by the rest of us, girl...!!
Dana have you lost the plot darling, your new hairstyle has knocked a few years off you, can see the way you dance girl. If you have to go underground for a wee while, why did you not give the clothes to a charity shop. You are an inspiration to us all, DON'T GO.
I will gladly yell at you. MORE MORE. lol Would love to see you in this dress with you old wig. I think you look much better. If you do not put on any more videos then thankyou very much. I have enjoyed them all. Perhaps we will see or meet up on Facebook. Bye for now Julie from Canada, a devoted fan.
Well, I will admit that I might have gotten a little carried away with showmanship (show-woman-ship?) and perhaps I was a little more dramatic than necessary! :)
Dana you please you can't just leave youtube and not been the gorgeous woman have gotten to know so well,and adore watching her videos it would be a really shame to lose such a good youtube friend if you where to leave know,Since you come a long why frrom just posting body pictures and your legs to actally coming out here on yooutube as,As the lovely classy woman that Dana is please please still Dana i'd miss you if leave for good and go underground like you wrote.
Dana is not going away. I guess I made this a little difficult to interpret...probably on purpose because I haven't sorted it all out yet myself. But I am going to back off on the "pushing the boundaries" path I've been following lately, and I need to remove my ego from the picture and stop posting stuff on YouTube just for attention. Dana is a part of me forever and it would be silly to let her go.
This video was PAINFUL to watch because it spoke to me in soooo many ways. I DO feel your angst dear and am happy to share my story of finding a happier road on this journey we crossdressers live.
Ultimateamy 5 days ago
arent you worried your wife may find this on youtube or some1 you know does
pritamxm 6 days ago
envious of your calves
djw80158 1 week ago
Lots of writing.
TheGreytights 3 weeks ago
You are incredibly beautiful. Do what makes you happy.
elvis3700 3 weeks ago
I understand your dilema Dana! For sure, there is always going to be a large element of risk in coming out to your wife or family: however, if she > they truly love you, she > they will understand; empathize with you, and even support you.
Giving up Dana forever would be the worst thing you could possibly do.....for she is a part of you as much as your male everyday persona is a part of her.
hicm1of12 3 weeks ago
By putting an end to this expression of your inner feminine, you would not be living true to yourself, and would consequently feel the loss of identity as well as harmony: which would in turn affect your psyche in a negative way, and potentially lead to clinical depression.
I would strongly suggest that you continue to embrace Dana with every fibre of your being.
What is more, you seem to have something of a flair for creative writing which could be channelled through her?
hicm1of12 3 weeks ago
One other thing (if you don't mind me saying?) you look even better as a woman than you do as a man.
hicm1of12 3 weeks ago
dont women get suspicious when you go in the womens restroom and they discover you have a dick and balls??
Fredengle 1 month ago
@Fredengle
No, the air horn and neon sign give it away first
DanaM71 4 weeks ago
@DanaM71 & fredengle....lmao
Hbot69 2 weeks ago
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ozarkmtnlake 1 month ago
nice crossdressing! check me out(;
BlueCrossDresser 1 month ago
I agree with xdress17j, its a matter of balance if you arent going to come out with it to your wife, which is really hit or miss with not much grey area. i enjoy what i do to a certain level then it has to be reality, and you are the only judge of that...more discussion certainly welcome, i feel for you...
PantyKeep 1 month ago
Well it looks like you got a lot of positive comments on here. Personally I would ditch the wig you had on at the end section of the video and go for a straight haired look and that dress you wore at the beginning was much better also. I'm not sure if your wife knows but I would tell her, in my opinion most women I have spoken to like guys who crossdress. Be true to yourself and to those you love
TalkToTheBody 1 month ago
I love the clip Dana but not sure if I agree with comment from genogeno1234, I don't know if your wife would understand (I hope she does or has) but my wife couldn't understand my desire or need to crossdress but I wish you the best of luck :)
SuperFTD83 1 month ago
i think your wiife would be understanding if you told her. You look beautiful as a woman and you deserve a woman who will accept your feminine self as well as your masculine self. They are out there, and I wouldn't settle for anything else.
genogeno1234 3 months ago
@genogeno1234
Thank you so much!
DanaM71 3 months ago
Hello. WHERE's the 'PUBLIC' you titled and claimed of?
Beginningless 4 months ago
@Beginningless
Sorry that you didn't see the artistic value of the title!
DanaM71 4 months ago
@DanaM71: Art....tis...tic... value of...the ti...tle?
LOLOLxxx
Please come back to ground reality. We are living on Earth, not some fantasy dreamlands you are living in, though you literally ARE living in some CD realm.
Beginningless 3 months ago
I think you are a beautifl person, both inside as well as out
elvis3700 4 months ago
@elvis3700
Thank you SO much! :)
DanaM71 4 months ago
@DanaM71 You are truly a remarkable woman.
elvis3700 4 months ago
This video is the epitome of madness.
jelewis2 4 months ago
@jelewis2
The comment is the epitome of valueless
DanaM71 4 months ago
u should invest in better heels...
Natasha26 4 months ago
@Natasha26
What does "better" mean?
DanaM71 4 months ago
@DanaM71 Gee Dana, open a dictionary once in a while... *sigh*
Natasha26 4 months ago
The curse of crossdressing is the binge and purge cycles. It never really leaves, I don't think its something that needs fixing but rather you need to find that comfort zone and balance in your life. Yes you need to be responsible but you also need to be happy. Each of us has a different balance, just find what works for you, enjoy it and be safe.
Let's face it...we all binge and purge, but never really can quit who we are
Good luck
xdress17j 4 months ago
@xdress17j This particular purge session was especially cringe-worthy: Planet Aid is a front organization for the Danish cult Tvind, and next time, Dana should give that stuff to actual charitable organizations, like Goodwill.
jelewis2 4 months ago
@jelewis2
It was staged for the purposes of the video. I threw out stuff that was quite worn out. I kept my nice things.
DanaM71 4 months ago
yes you r so beautiful i'd take u out sexy
newguy6058 4 months ago
Yo are so beautiful!!!
elvis3700 4 months ago
I hope things turn out all right for you.
michaelottinger 4 months ago
Love to see more of you on you tube, your so pretty and ladylike, well done!
yknip123 4 months ago
Dana, my partner is a crossdresser. When I found out he was posting photos of himself and youtube vids, I was utterly destroyed. I honestly think once something has become a compulsion (the photos/youtube stuff) then it is a problem. For gods sake, forget about the ego massages and sad little affirmations and validations ("You are so hot", "So very beautiful", etc) - are these comments worth risking anyone's happiness? Really? If you cant stop youtube, you had better get some psychiatric help.
jackieme1961 5 months ago
@jackieme1961
The dose of reality hurts. I have to balance your advice with notes like from jeannacd below. But yours is more critical. I think I'll hide my more gratuitous videos now...
DanaM71 5 months ago
@jackieme1961 May I ask what's wrong with showing pride in something that took a lot of hard work to achieve? Now if he were trying to cheat on you while en femme or insisted on having sex while crossdressed I could understand that, but seeking external confirmation of passability of his feminine persona is fine IMO. (However, I regard the more sexual comments as unbelievably creepy, and likewise if your partner is a fetishist, especially if he has put in so little effort, he doesn't even pass.)
jelewis2 4 months ago
Dana, You are so very beautiful. You have helped me more than you will ever know. I to have responsibilities, and a family and I am just beginning my journey. I am also in the closet, and am scared of the consequences. But I gamble and continue to dress. As you say, it is something you just can't stop. the way i put it "It just feels right"So, i say "THAK YOU"!! for all your help. I hope to accomplish as much as you have. I can only hope that I can "pass" some day, but isnt that the curse?
jeannacd 5 months ago
You are very beautiful
elvis3700 5 months ago
you Dana-glasses or not----still way HOT!!!!!
thekarenheart 6 months ago
the only person cutting you up is yourself! do what you want. does it really matter what others think?? no.
mensamoo 6 months ago
With what I see at Walmart you would definitely class the place up, go for it.
Genderbender2010 7 months ago
I like the dress, it gives your body wonderful shape and it looks tight giving you good figure. And i love your black slides, what size are those? I hope you didn't donate those, i would buy them. ;)
ErnestoLS 7 months ago
@ErnestoLS
Thank you! The heels are from Frederick's of Hollywood. They look great, but they slip off too easily when wearing hose! And I kept them! :)
DanaM71 7 months ago
Start a new trilogy, soon. Slimdog3 has it correctly: you are waaaaay cute and showing signs of confidence.
nonsuchperson1 7 months ago
@nonsuchperson1
you never know!!! ;)
DanaM71 7 months ago
that dress was lovely & really suited you & i'm sure you know as well as I do you can't hide your desire to dress as a woman, tell your wife what you do I didn't & she found my clothes but she said if I had told her she would have supported me but because I didn't we are now seperated!!!
SuperFTD83 8 months ago
I ran across this video by accident. I am a straight married woman. I see nothing wrong with what you are doing. If your wife and family except you cross dressing than the hell with the rest. If cross dressing makes you happy than by all means do it. You are hurting no one. I respect you for being who you want to be. BTW, where did you get that dress you had on? I love it. Looked pretty damn good on you too. Have a great day.
3slimdog 9 months ago
@3slimdog
Thank you! Comments like yours mean a lot. The biggest issue is that I keep this desire hidden from everyone, including myself most of the time. So no one would guess that I do this, and, to top that, no one would guess that I've gotten this proficient at it! Thank you for the comment on the dress, too! I have found that polyester wrap dresses work best for my body. I think it is from Kohls. I will have a great day--you too!
DanaM71 9 months ago
hahahahah this shit is fuking hilarious.
DCUnderdog3000 9 months ago
Dad! What the f**k are you doing? Can you get me some chocolate milk while you're there?
stinkingjew 9 months ago
sexxxy
marissapinkchaos 9 months ago
Dana - DON'T GO. You are such an inspiration to me (and others from reading your messages). Your new outfit and appearance are just amazing, the straight hair style makes you look years younger and your slim body is just awe inspiring, I wish I could be your size. Please reconsider not leaving us - you tube will be a lesser place to visit..... take care, love Cherylanne (UK).
PS - Did I say DON'T GO!!!
cherylannemk 10 months ago
I love your smile. It really enhances your beautiful sensuality! You really should consider making more videos, because for myself, it helps empower me as a male to female transgender Non--Op! You're giving strength where it's needed by the rest of us, girl...!!
Robbi165 10 months ago
@Robbi165
Thank you for giving me an easy out if I decide to change my mind!! :)
Of course, I'll have to endure getting yelled at! :)
DanaM71 10 months ago
COL!! (crying out loud) We'll miss you. But I can understand "responsibility". HUGS
rikkir 10 months ago
Dana have you lost the plot darling, your new hairstyle has knocked a few years off you, can see the way you dance girl. If you have to go underground for a wee while, why did you not give the clothes to a charity shop. You are an inspiration to us all, DON'T GO.
zellbahn760 10 months ago
@zellbahn760
I only threw away my old and worn out stuff--I thought it made a more dramatic ending! :)
DanaM71 10 months ago
@DanaM71 Yeah, but you could of stiil given it to a charity organisation for resal,e if it was still of reasonable quality though.
zellbahn760 10 months ago
I will gladly yell at you. MORE MORE. lol Would love to see you in this dress with you old wig. I think you look much better. If you do not put on any more videos then thankyou very much. I have enjoyed them all. Perhaps we will see or meet up on Facebook. Bye for now Julie from Canada, a devoted fan.
julie1tca 11 months ago
@julie1tca
Well, I will admit that I might have gotten a little carried away with showmanship (show-woman-ship?) and perhaps I was a little more dramatic than necessary! :)
DanaM71 11 months ago
Totally chickening out!!!!!
You love being Dana and soon enough you will want to dress up again.
Don't go around giving a bunch of lame excuses about upsetting others. It's your life!
Sometimes you just have to jump in the deep end.
A year ago I made the plunge and I have no regrets.
Staceyrae100 11 months ago
Dana you please you can't just leave youtube and not been the gorgeous woman have gotten to know so well,and adore watching her videos it would be a really shame to lose such a good youtube friend if you where to leave know,Since you come a long why frrom just posting body pictures and your legs to actally coming out here on yooutube as,As the lovely classy woman that Dana is please please still Dana i'd miss you if leave for good and go underground like you wrote.
torontoteddy62 11 months ago
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that was stupid havent u learned that purging will not keep her out of the spotlight she needs to be seen let her out
CHERYLCDTV 11 months ago
that was stupid hvent u learned that purging will not kep her out of the spotlight she need to be seen
CHERYLCDTV 11 months ago
You're happy as Dana.
I hope you're happy without her.
jimisru 11 months ago
@jimisru
Dana is not going away. I guess I made this a little difficult to interpret...probably on purpose because I haven't sorted it all out yet myself. But I am going to back off on the "pushing the boundaries" path I've been following lately, and I need to remove my ego from the picture and stop posting stuff on YouTube just for attention. Dana is a part of me forever and it would be silly to let her go.
DanaM71 11 months ago
beatiful dress
Dafnetv7 11 months ago
Nice figure gurl.
Go for the rest of us.
JessicaKeys96 11 months ago