Hi, I would like to thank-you so much for this post, I am just at the beginning of my journey and going through some hard times and It really did help me a lot, had me thinking tomorrow is another day and I really need to take care of myself first before anyone else, and its not that I am selfish but this is how I got here in the first place by not putting me first. Thanks again.
wow im so impressed you put this up and your keeping it up. shows alot of guts. everyone feels this way and its crazy your just showing us that fragile side that everyone has. your real
get over the drama...men will come and go. if you love him but he leaves u, then be sad, but get over it fast. do stuff to make you feel alive again.. :)
I'm sorry if this sound bad,but honestly you inspired me to work more on myself. I do work,but I'm screwd up.. I mean... I'm so ashamed to say it, but I'm bulimic.. and I wanna stop,because it's gonna ruin my life,so the only way is to "Lose it The Hard way"like your title.I don't know how to handle deppression without turning to food too..!Your heart is AMAZING and PURE! and I wanted to THANK YOU so much for your honesty!!I've watched yoru vid. and I can say that I see myself in u.Take care hun
be gentle with yr self you are only human , better still go get puppy from animal shelter , its best healing, and its ok to be venerable that also is human trait , you are beautiful
Hey girl! I've gone through the same thing as you and I understand your feelings. Those feelings are very bad and stop thinking about it. Please cheer up okay? I do some of my favorite things to depress my anger. I hope you can get over it soon. I'm also trying to lose weight right now.And I'm 180 pounds right now. Good luck to you for your weight loss goals. ='D
Sweetie you are awesome...!! You dont have to shed your tears... because you know how to manage yourself and take care of yourself. be strong, be courageous, and be positive. you will love and live forever.
Wow, my girlfriend just did the same thing to me and ironically is also losing weight.... this is going to sound bad, but at least you feel bad about doing it my girlfriend on the other hand can care less.... but Im on a weight lost crusade and I'm also feeling pretty broken right now and going through peaks of feeling sound and depression. Im in the anger stage right now, border line depression at the moment.... I hope this comforts you somehow. Hopefully it does. It will get better.
hey shanti :) i hope you feel better now just telling you that ive loved this guy since i was 8 i have loved this guy for 10 years and i still have not told him and i go through all these stages continuously so don't worry you learn to deal with it...i have :)
I know just how you feel. I'm a very obsessive person and there's just a huge range of things that I go through DABDA with. It's actually become my way of life, I'm never actually happy... I never feel at peace. I'm always depressed about something. I feel that wave of horror almost every day. It's terrible. I hope you feel better ASAP.
Shanti i hope you feel better sweetie! This video is refreshing in a weird sense. Because it reminds me that even the strongest can feel defeated. You will get thru this, I will get thru my own defeats as well. Thanks for posting
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Oh Shanti....this is four days old so you are likely in a much better state but wow what a big disappointment and loss... and I'm here if ya wanna chat....
No one is perfect, everyone has flaws and people can't always be stong 24/7. However, you're strong for posting this video and showing the world that the strongest aren't really as strong as they appear. well done! I'm proud as is everryone on here. You're in my prayers (:
You first..thats what we tend to forget. We're so busy thinking about everyone else and we stop caring for ourselves. no matter how strong we are heartbreak can break through the armor. its ok, we are not perfect so don't feel embarrassed to express yourself through dabda. Cry, scream, meditate cuz its ok to do you!
thank you for sharing so much of yourself - i'm sure this wasn't easy to do - but i hope you did feel better after you were able to make this video. sometimes you just need to say it and process things out loud to get to the next step. the pain we feel with loss and heartbreak i believe is getting us ready to truly appreciate the love that is just around the corner for us :) it will mean so much more having suffered somewhat to get there. not unlike a weight loss goal? ;)
i can understand what you are going through in some ways. It is so hard and sometimes things are too difficult to be strong while going through. I wish there was something i could do to help you through this. Just think about how many of us care about you so much. including me. you are a wonderful person shanti and anyone would be so lucky to have you. love and miss you shanti <3
heartbreak is the most painful thing i have ever had to go through. I have been in love with my best friend for 4 years and just in the past few months i have come to realize that fantasy will NEVER happen. I have gone through all the stages quickly like you said, but now am stuck in the middle. I have not had true acceptance yet and i cannot imagine every having it. I basically block him out of my life right now so i dont have to feel pain.
is this such a touching video. U will get there hun. U will b fine. Like u said u have reached number 4 of the 5 stages....next stage Acceptance :) u'll b fine. Keep ur chin up x remember u have all ur friends and family for support plus all ur youtube subbies r there for you x
You'll get there Shanti!! Don't feel like you have to be strong....things in life happen that make us stronger, so don't expect yourself to be strong all the time. That is the only way to grow!! MUCH LOVE, you are doing great!!!!!!! XOXO!
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.
Just don't think too much about it! Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. A bad day or week is NOT an excuse to give up.
You felt bad, you cried, you didn't clearly think about your goal anymore, that's ok!!! But for now: Get up, be happy. You're a healthy and beautiful women. So what?? :))
Firstly Im sorry I haven't been around lately. Secondly we got your back. You ARE a strong person and just for doing this video you have proved that. Take your own advice and take care of yourself things will turn around.
I am sorry you are felling so sad. It sounds like you have the right mindset and things wont get out of control. It's great that you have good friends, I do also, but I am not always good at reaching out to them, I need to learn to do that more. I hope you feel better soon.
I wanna give a A big HUG from back in Seattle. I know exactly how you are feeling. I'm in the same place ( as far a loving someone for a long-time ) and it isn't just meant to be. I know that doesn't make it any easier, but know there are others out here, that know what your going through, and noone is perfect and expects you to have your life in order 24/7.
a beautiful video. thk u for putting it up even when it was hard for u.this video does not make me believe or see you as weak or low but still as my inspiration & my mentor. I appreciate the realness. ur human & I luv that even in tough times u still stay focus.ur not a fake or act like a robot & put up a front. even in the hard time you set yourself aside for 11m for me a person who needs this video to continue on this weight loss journey. Hope u feel better & rember like youve said baby steps
As you said, maybe the exercise would help, but finding the motivation is tough when you're feeling depressed. Just don't forget to find the motivation again when you're feeling better (I'm sure you won't have trouble there, but I felt the need to say it anyhow. lol).
Wow, you have like 226 comments. That must be hard to go through. But you've def touched me. I know what your going through, I know where your at. And I'll probably be there again at some point. So thank you for showing me that i'm not the only one that feels shitty in a sea of happy people. It was so encouraging to hear you talk about DABDA.
I just watched one of your first videos and I have to say, you've come a long way and I'm very proud of ya! Now you go thru a very difficult time and I know how that feels, I've been there to many times before... Kiha kaha! (Maori for "be strong!") Much love from NZ to you!
I have definitely been in your position and what I can say is continue with your great mindset, do what it is that makes you feel good, and keep remembering that you have some great friends and family around you. You'll get through it, and I know you know that. :)
hey shanti, sorry you're having such a rough few weeks, go to the gym you wont feel depressed focus on your weightloss goals and other things, go running it works and it helps!
You are so amazing and I'm going through the same thing, the five stages. You're so brave for sharing and it is great to see that you're a real human being hehe :) x Take care of yourself before taking care of anyone else
Oh Shanti, thanks for sharing. I know its tough, but belive me, you will get through this. Just give it time. Surround yourself with good friends and you will be fine.
It is okay to be sad sometimes that is a part of being huma and growth you will get through this and get back to the wonderful person that you are take care of yourself and get back to enjoying your life and getting healthy.
I've had a lot of personal and secondary experience being in love with someone who you simply can't have. Its a way to keep yourself from being happy. I know its not something anyone would do knowingly, and its SOOO difficult to let go of. Just know that there is the right person out there for you.
And, yes, exercise dammit. I know you don't feel like it, but once you start it may feel good. You'll get your endorphins going, and that's like eating chocolate, except its good 4 u!
u know i fell exactly the same i just broke up whit my bf of 8 years the worst its that i love him so much but he says that he has to put in order his life, his carreer and i dont know i fell so lost so fat so sad acctually i fell like crying all day but im still waaiting for his call saying he wants me back i dont know waht to think or do. but i completly understand that u have to do the 5 stages and the most important it that u are strong and that u will find the way its all going to be good
I've never commented on your videos, but I couldn't let this opportunity go by...
You already know exactly how you can get through this without turning to food... You said it yourself - surround yourself with people who truly love you.
Know that you are inspiring in both the bright shining moments and in the dark miserable ones. We're all rooting for you, and you WILL move past this.
I don't normally comment on your vids because I figure they get lost in the crush anyway. Just thought I'd leave this thought: Pain is a teacher and a motivator. Learn what you have to from this and use it to move on and come out of this stronger. Anything else keeps you in pain and holds you back. You have a lot of people offering sympathy, so I'll just wish you strength.
to help, you should think of all the things that could be worse. it has helped me in some very nasty, terrible breakups and hardships. you crying makes me want to hug you. a million times over, if i could, id fly there right now, just so you're not alone.
Hi Shanti, hang in there. I know it doesn't feel like it right now but you will be ok. I know you're not technically going through a breakup from this person, but it might help to do the exercises in "Its Called a Breakup Because its Broken" and journal each day how you are feeling. I've been through heartbreak and it was what really helped. *Big hugs*
No Way! I don't believe for one second it's Jason. It's somebody we have never heard of and its her own business whoever it is...... Stay strong Shanti! If the one you love you can't have, don't sweat it too much b/c God has your soul mate on their to you. When he gets there you'll forget all about that other guy and this video. We love you girl.
Huh, some of your comments are so cruel and so private. To tear a person apart online, must be really easy, and obviously in someway really comforting for you. In my opinion this is just a sign of weakness and infantilism. Pathetic!
Wow. I do have to apologize for being upset about you putting down an ultimatum about Jason. I had no idea you were lovers. I hope your heart heals soon. I've put the pieces together and I understand, Shanti. Sounds pretentious, but I do.
shanti it is ok to be vulnerable and i would make a video responses if i didnt look so silly with my swollen eyes when i cry but please dont delete this vid bcuz u r helping people or going to help them with this i guarantee it and when u get pass this hard time u can look back and know that you got through and the worst is not going to be forever even if things r so bad u cant remeber when something good didnt turn to something bad so hang in there it will pass I promise : - )
i know, greg lost his job and is now moving to california to comfort shanti in 'her' time of need. is it jason's baby? is the wizard gandalf behind all of this? the prayers are coming in from south america. and the dish ran away with the spoon.
It was hard watching this video without crying with you. I'm sorry for what you are going through, I really do wish you the best and just know that things will get better. I appreciate you showing us your "vulnerable" side, i know that's really hard to do.
To the viewers: It's not Jason. If u watched the whole video you'd hear her say that Jason was there to help her in her time of need so I kind of doubt that it's Jason. But still anythings possible.
To Shanti: Be strong. We're all here for you. You may not know us, but we know you. And we know that you're a strong, amazing person, who has a great life so far and will always succeed. This stuff happens to all of us. It's human nature. Be strong. We're here for you. Always&&forever <3
meh. it's not the things she does that bother me, we all follow our heart, but it's the almost blind self-will and disregard for responsibility and consequences that bothers me. no one is immune.
also, those people that run interference and criticise anyone that doesn't toe the line on here and stick to the plot as shanti writes it, is disconcerting. defend her at all costs/broken halo. she's a grown woman, she can face reality with us all.
duplicity and contradiction. credibility? character?
Rough spots just allow you to realize your still human. It'll give you drive once you overcome it to be successful in the next time you need to help YOURSELF. It's okay to allow yourself to feel the things you do so that you have a better understanding than to occupy your mind with a distraction. Those thoughts will still be there. But you will overcome it. You will move on and you will feel true happiness. Just let yourself feel human for a while. It'll all work out. I have faith in you.
This is such an awesome video! By sharing you are giving all of us advice. I've had my heart broken... a couple times too... and finding some creative hobbie has been good for me... I usually paint something horrible. Thank you for sharing this beautiful vid! =)
You made me cry....be strong.... beleive in yourself. You don't have to be perfect or the best or strong all the time. It's human to feel ups and lows.. Just remember..... Don't be to hard on your self... and tomarrow is a new day!!
does anyone else find antishay skanky... like jerry springer skanky! is this how is goes antishay? u fuck a gay man ...while u have a boyfriend -- another man u met on youtube-- after dumping another man in WA--now one man wont leave his spouse for u--even after u raised money for him and u move to CA for him-- yuck Jerry Springer nasty ..damn u got rejected by a schmuck!
so why are you posting on here and taking the time to watch this video? if i don't like someone i certainly don't go out of my way to watch their videos on youtube. so what was the point of this? just wondering why you felt that you need to make fun of a complete stranger and put her down. do you feel better now? i hope you at least got THAT much satisfaction. grow up.
oh... LMAO.. it's another one of those people that make a fake account just to leave a nasty comment. probably from someone on here that normally leaves nice ones, and this time wants to speak his or her mind. classic. hope they had fun amusing themselves. what is wrong with people??? now i've seen it all on here.. lol. making a fake account so they can get away with being mean. nice.. real nice..
yeah finney....i was so taken by that nasty comment that i too clicked to see the face behind the nastiness...and of course..the account was closed. shanti...hugs!! i have been there too..like so many...and believe it or not it is when my runs pick up speed and intensity and i feel like i can just tire myself out and think till i exhaust myself...if nothing else..it helps me sleep on those nights where you cant shut your brain down long enough to rest. u r in my thoughts!
Hey Shanti, just wanted to know that you have done it again, in a video where you feel lost and don't what to do, you have still helped someone, which of course is me... Your last statement TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF really made me think about alot of things, thanks
You will get through this... You have done terrific so far, We are all here to support you... I'll be praying for you....
thanks for keeping it real and letting us in on this. i'm sorry you are going thru such a sad time. you are not a failure. you are not weak. you are human. i'm not gonna act like i have some great advice or some cliche like: "hang in there" "keep your head up" " this too shall pass".
i'm just gonna say i am so sad that you are going thru this and i hope you get to feeling better soon. but please don't turn to junk food for solace. it'll only make you feel worse. ((BIG HUGS))
Don't be so hard on yourself, get out of your own head for a while - I find exercise and meditation is good for this - find your own peaceful place, good luck this week.
Guard and protect your progress no matter how vulnerable you get. Feel good about your accomplishment (which has been no small feat) and know that the rest will pass and work itself out. Sometimes life is a shit storm but it doesn't stay that way. The storm comes and goes and comes again but so does the sunshine.
No I meant Robert. I can't see what Jason sees in him. He's meek! He has no backbone and no opinion. He is apathetic.
I like Jason. Jason is obviously stuck in that his relationship with Robert has been going on for so long. I can understand how hard it would be to leave Robert for anyone, best choice would be Shanti.
It's called reality, heard of it? BTYL is not a fictional TV show. It's not a daytime soap opera. I am not a fictional character who only exists as a series of 10-second cameo appearances, with no character development beyond that. Believe it or not, I actually have an entire life and personality beyond those tiny clips you see. Your comments are both rude and uninformed.
Bwahaha! Am I getting under your skin much? Cry to someone who cares, and no that wouldn't be Jason, either! Rude comments are a trolls specialty. Thank you for the compliment!
I think you need a good run... or to beat on a punch bag. Food is definately not the answer. It always made me feel worse, not better. And think positive, but think about something beside "Shawn". Move on. That is part of life.
what comes to mind is: o, what a tangled web we weave... Shanti, i'm sorry to see you feeling so bad, i hope you start feeling better soon. you're a smart girl and i know you will make it through with more lessons learned.
Don't feel stupid, to feel these things are normal... I'm going through the EXACT same thing. An ongoing battle within to accept some things that just are never going to happen again, no matter how much I may want it. I'm a very strong minded person, but I break as well... and it's OKAY. You're human.
I know what you're going through. I've been going to see a psychologist and it's helping a lot. Maybe you should consider, I always feel very liberated afterwards. I hope you feel better. -hugs-
i feel for you. i went through the exact same thing and every day i hoped that it would get better. i think the best thing for a break up is to constantly everyday get over that person. it's a hard thing to wake up and deal with but as time goes on and the acceptance comes into play (as you've mentioned) we somehow get better.
I posted you a video response....it hasn't it showed up yet. I know you will pull through this.....it is hard I know from personal experiences at the moment. Life is hard and has a lot of heartache. Take care Antishay, there is a lot of people that you inspire so please keep going for them.
I mostly watch your videos because I try to eat raw so I stumbled across your channel and really love it for the most part but I have to comment on this. I take it from the other comments this is about Jason, why in the world would you both do that to Robert? I am sorry but that is horrible and Robert is the one who has my sympathy. Cheating is never ever right.
The encouraging thing here is that you are going through something difficult and feeling every feeling instead of burying them under food....it'll pass and you'll be stronger for it.. hang in there babygirl your doing fine!
Shanti, I never wrote here, but I watch all the time, an you are a great inspiration. You really are!
I'am sorry, that you feel so bad, but still I'have to tell you, don't think about the things you are supposed to do, or think, or the way others expect you to act, or be! Just live it! Live the pain and the depression..later you will "use" this experience for something good! And, hey, don't get used to it very much. Everything is only temporary! :-) Take Care!
feel better and keep your head up you are a strong woman who is going thru life. you have a gift to motivate and inspire but you are human like everybody else. what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.
Shanti, don't you dare listen or pay any mind to the hater comments. Those people are miserable, sick minded fucks that are just trying to get their rocks off by provoking you.
I'm a new sub, but from what I've seen from your videos - your personality and general aura is just so beautiful. You are incredible person that has accomplished so much. Don't waste time on unrequited love, move on and find a way to work around the situation.
I don't have any amazing advice....All is can say is....I know where you are...in that feeling even if it wasn't the same situation...Depression stinks...it's horrible no matter what the cause. I will pray for you.....
Shanti, all things considered you are really doing great. Heartache can be the most destructive of the emotional disasters that we are faced with and yet you're moving swiftly and deftly through. There are a hundred ways to get caught up, and while lying in bed all day is one of them, you dragged yourself up after some time and made a cathartic video. You are an enviably strong woman and the fact that you haven't been filling the gap with sweet and/or salty indulgences speaks volumes. Smile!!!!
<3 You are never alone... and it's wonderful that you have the support system that you do. It's heartbreaking to see your pain,but the only one who can get through this is you... Curl up and watch sex in the city again all the way through, it always helps me... find more ways to laugh... you are good at that! Things will get better, it just sucks right now.. ((hugs))
You do NOT look awful. You look beautiful and pure and honest. If you feel like going towards food in these times, continue to vlog even if you don't even post them. Maybe even watch them and pretend it's someone else on youtube- and pretend to write comments to them!! Just a wee suggestion!
take things slowly hun.. ive recently struggled through a depressive period.. not heart break or anything just for no reason!! but i know how you feel from my past.. dont rush yourself because thats when we start to sabotage ourselves!!
in losing weight, we have to face our stuff and not stuff our face that is what makes it hard. feel the feelings, and when you are ready, you will be able to let go. Letting go is hard, but you are human. eventually you will look back and understand, but understanding isn't part of "it" now, so don't try and understand it. Don't go by your "feelings", just feel them and learn from them. Just remember that this too shall pass and you will get through it. Don't rush the process and don't fear it.
We all have to go through rough spots, very little by little it will get better, unfortunately grieving is always done the hard way as well. I hope you feel better very soon.
Thank God you have wonderful friends that support you and are there for you in your time of need. Most of us have dealt with heartbreak and I can understand how you feel. Hope you feel better soon... You're a great person just because you have feelings doesn't make you weak it makes you human.
I wish I could give you a hug...I'm going through the same thing myself. Hang in there everything will get better and when all is said and done you will stronger for it!
right reason) you can do nothing about it except to accept it. If you wanted to you could "force" him to love you by being exactly what he expects in a woman but in the end it would collapse and you will have lost time in the process. Believe my experience, go with the flow. Things have to be obvious. That the only way to work out a "true" and strong love.
Instead you should prepare for a good person which will have the quality that the other doesnt have : recognize your beautiful you.
don't force you to do other things not to think about your love problem : on the contrary think clear about it otherwise it will always be there.
Imagine you could make this guy love you by magic. imagine you have this power. after a few days it would seem wrong and his "love" would have no value to you.
So you have to accept that even if you were with him that would not change a thing : you have to both love each other. its a 2 persons process. if he doesnt want to (for whatever wrong or .....
Well I was going to ask why I hadnt heard from you in a while... but I just got your update on youtube... I'm sorry that you are feeling so blue, and wish I could give you a hug. LOL, or come over and smoke some hookah lol.
Anyway, you mentioned one thing that intrigued me...you said that you had never gone through depression before as a thin person, and didnt know what to do with yourself in order to cope, without turning to food.
Hi, I would like to thank-you so much for this post, I am just at the beginning of my journey and going through some hard times and It really did help me a lot, had me thinking tomorrow is another day and I really need to take care of myself first before anyone else, and its not that I am selfish but this is how I got here in the first place by not putting me first. Thanks again.
traceyken04 1 month ago
wow im so impressed you put this up and your keeping it up. shows alot of guts. everyone feels this way and its crazy your just showing us that fragile side that everyone has. your real
Neonicypoles 8 months ago
i dont understand what happened did she leave her current boyfriend for someone else???
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get over the drama...men will come and go. if you love him but he leaves u, then be sad, but get over it fast. do stuff to make you feel alive again.. :)
stfuih8ulol 1 year ago
I'm sorry if this sound bad,but honestly you inspired me to work more on myself. I do work,but I'm screwd up.. I mean... I'm so ashamed to say it, but I'm bulimic.. and I wanna stop,because it's gonna ruin my life,so the only way is to "Lose it The Hard way"like your title.I don't know how to handle deppression without turning to food too..!Your heart is AMAZING and PURE! and I wanted to THANK YOU so much for your honesty!!I've watched yoru vid. and I can say that I see myself in u.Take care hun
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sexaylettejess 1 year ago
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palestinianpatriot91 1 year ago
be gentle with yr self you are only human , better still go get puppy from animal shelter , its best healing, and its ok to be venerable that also is human trait , you are beautiful
Rachna888 1 year ago
I really like your videos! at least you are being honest about life and sharing it ....thanks
kyoum1 1 year ago
Hey girl! I've gone through the same thing as you and I understand your feelings. Those feelings are very bad and stop thinking about it. Please cheer up okay? I do some of my favorite things to depress my anger. I hope you can get over it soon. I'm also trying to lose weight right now.And I'm 180 pounds right now. Good luck to you for your weight loss goals. ='D
hugs and kisses,
hui min(call me Jesse)
mcrhuimin 1 year ago
Sweetie you are awesome...!! You dont have to shed your tears... because you know how to manage yourself and take care of yourself. be strong, be courageous, and be positive. you will love and live forever.
johnpm29 1 year ago
men..................
1lifevest 1 year ago
Wow, my girlfriend just did the same thing to me and ironically is also losing weight.... this is going to sound bad, but at least you feel bad about doing it my girlfriend on the other hand can care less.... but Im on a weight lost crusade and I'm also feeling pretty broken right now and going through peaks of feeling sound and depression. Im in the anger stage right now, border line depression at the moment.... I hope this comforts you somehow. Hopefully it does. It will get better.
ZomgJiggles 2 years ago
What did he get married
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iamsuvd 2 years ago
hey shanti :) i hope you feel better now just telling you that ive loved this guy since i was 8 i have loved this guy for 10 years and i still have not told him and i go through all these stages continuously so don't worry you learn to deal with it...i have :)
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you look you could use a hug :( and jus spill your guts, cry your eyes out. let it out! keep your chin up and smile :)
starrsel 2 years ago
DABDA......F
Don't forget about "F"......for Forgiveness.
Forgiveness for yourself for whatever it may be........ There is no where in stone it says you have to be strong 24/7.
You do YOU... (you may be over this by the time this is posted, but as you make yourself public, take your own advise "Take care of yourself".)
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Honey, I am sorry you have felt like this. I know what you mean. But I know you are better now because of your updates. Your an amazing girl!
Yellowskye 2 years ago
I know just how you feel. I'm a very obsessive person and there's just a huge range of things that I go through DABDA with. It's actually become my way of life, I'm never actually happy... I never feel at peace. I'm always depressed about something. I feel that wave of horror almost every day. It's terrible. I hope you feel better ASAP.
ByeByeBelly 2 years ago
Shanti i hope you feel better sweetie! This video is refreshing in a weird sense. Because it reminds me that even the strongest can feel defeated. You will get thru this, I will get thru my own defeats as well. Thanks for posting
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h0tdietsforgirls 2 years ago
Do u have an email where I can write you something personal?
Batgirl0425 2 years ago
Oh Shanti....this is four days old so you are likely in a much better state but wow what a big disappointment and loss... and I'm here if ya wanna chat....
XOXO
Josie
josielenore 2 years ago
well, been there shanti, life goes on, thank GOD!!! get better girl!
simplystrick 2 years ago
That's in an episode of 'House' the 5 stages.
No one is perfect, everyone has flaws and people can't always be stong 24/7. However, you're strong for posting this video and showing the world that the strongest aren't really as strong as they appear. well done! I'm proud as is everryone on here. You're in my prayers (:
x
xrussiantoadx1 2 years ago
You first..thats what we tend to forget. We're so busy thinking about everyone else and we stop caring for ourselves. no matter how strong we are heartbreak can break through the armor. its ok, we are not perfect so don't feel embarrassed to express yourself through dabda. Cry, scream, meditate cuz its ok to do you!
UltimateAnonymity 2 years ago
thank you for sharing so much of yourself - i'm sure this wasn't easy to do - but i hope you did feel better after you were able to make this video. sometimes you just need to say it and process things out loud to get to the next step. the pain we feel with loss and heartbreak i believe is getting us ready to truly appreciate the love that is just around the corner for us :) it will mean so much more having suffered somewhat to get there. not unlike a weight loss goal? ;)
artgirl1015 2 years ago
i can understand what you are going through in some ways. It is so hard and sometimes things are too difficult to be strong while going through. I wish there was something i could do to help you through this. Just think about how many of us care about you so much. including me. you are a wonderful person shanti and anyone would be so lucky to have you. love and miss you shanti <3
kristine0002 2 years ago
heartbreak is the most painful thing i have ever had to go through. I have been in love with my best friend for 4 years and just in the past few months i have come to realize that fantasy will NEVER happen. I have gone through all the stages quickly like you said, but now am stuck in the middle. I have not had true acceptance yet and i cannot imagine every having it. I basically block him out of my life right now so i dont have to feel pain.
kristine0002 2 years ago
is this such a touching video. U will get there hun. U will b fine. Like u said u have reached number 4 of the 5 stages....next stage Acceptance :) u'll b fine. Keep ur chin up x remember u have all ur friends and family for support plus all ur youtube subbies r there for you x
JOAELLIS 2 years ago
You'll get there Shanti!! Don't feel like you have to be strong....things in life happen that make us stronger, so don't expect yourself to be strong all the time. That is the only way to grow!! MUCH LOVE, you are doing great!!!!!!! XOXO!
luvuhunny 2 years ago
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect. It means that you've decided to look beyond the imperfections.
Just don't think too much about it! Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. A bad day or week is NOT an excuse to give up.
You felt bad, you cried, you didn't clearly think about your goal anymore, that's ok!!! But for now: Get up, be happy. You're a healthy and beautiful women. So what?? :))
Rosane18 2 years ago
Please see private message. xoxo
dwilliams19831 2 years ago
Firstly Im sorry I haven't been around lately. Secondly we got your back. You ARE a strong person and just for doing this video you have proved that. Take your own advice and take care of yourself things will turn around.
Stefan x
19george 2 years ago
I am sorry you are felling so sad. It sounds like you have the right mindset and things wont get out of control. It's great that you have good friends, I do also, but I am not always good at reaching out to them, I need to learn to do that more. I hope you feel better soon.
SupraWes 2 years ago
Oh Shanti,
I wanna give a A big HUG from back in Seattle. I know exactly how you are feeling. I'm in the same place ( as far a loving someone for a long-time ) and it isn't just meant to be. I know that doesn't make it any easier, but know there are others out here, that know what your going through, and noone is perfect and expects you to have your life in order 24/7.
:)
celinejen 2 years ago
a beautiful video. thk u for putting it up even when it was hard for u.this video does not make me believe or see you as weak or low but still as my inspiration & my mentor. I appreciate the realness. ur human & I luv that even in tough times u still stay focus.ur not a fake or act like a robot & put up a front. even in the hard time you set yourself aside for 11m for me a person who needs this video to continue on this weight loss journey. Hope u feel better & rember like youve said baby steps
TheJnespino 2 years ago
As you said, maybe the exercise would help, but finding the motivation is tough when you're feeling depressed. Just don't forget to find the motivation again when you're feeling better (I'm sure you won't have trouble there, but I felt the need to say it anyhow. lol).
Best wishes to you! *hugs*
kristalshyt 2 years ago
Wow, you have like 226 comments. That must be hard to go through. But you've def touched me. I know what your going through, I know where your at. And I'll probably be there again at some point. So thank you for showing me that i'm not the only one that feels shitty in a sea of happy people. It was so encouraging to hear you talk about DABDA.
tina2cool 2 years ago
Just remember, there are plenty more fish in the sea.. it will get better..
blondiechicknz 2 years ago
I just watched one of your first videos and I have to say, you've come a long way and I'm very proud of ya! Now you go thru a very difficult time and I know how that feels, I've been there to many times before... Kiha kaha! (Maori for "be strong!") Much love from NZ to you!
gusto68 2 years ago
i've been there before i feel you nobody is perfect
jenniferhenry35 2 years ago
Shantiiiiii :(
I have definitely been in your position and what I can say is continue with your great mindset, do what it is that makes you feel good, and keep remembering that you have some great friends and family around you. You'll get through it, and I know you know that. :)
maimingbetty 2 years ago
Hey umm i really dont know what to say. I just want to give you a big hug and tell you that everything is going to be ok.
God Bless
ChrisBatista1983 2 years ago
Antishay, isn't it harder to make a video and gather all your thoughts than respond to an August 9th email?
highbury10 2 years ago
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HelloKittyKneeSocks 2 years ago
hey shanti, sorry you're having such a rough few weeks, go to the gym you wont feel depressed focus on your weightloss goals and other things, go running it works and it helps!
freedomiswithin 2 years ago
lol... PMS
ishurgrl 2 years ago
You are sooo brave to take this personal experience and share it with us. Thank you for showing us you are as human as everyone else. You inspire me.
dazydrvr 2 years ago
You are so amazing and I'm going through the same thing, the five stages. You're so brave for sharing and it is great to see that you're a real human being hehe :) x Take care of yourself before taking care of anyone else
WikidLovely 2 years ago
Oh Shanti, thanks for sharing. I know its tough, but belive me, you will get through this. Just give it time. Surround yourself with good friends and you will be fine.
TheGirlygirl76 2 years ago
It is okay to be sad sometimes that is a part of being huma and growth you will get through this and get back to the wonderful person that you are take care of yourself and get back to enjoying your life and getting healthy.
yvette800 2 years ago
I've had a lot of personal and secondary experience being in love with someone who you simply can't have. Its a way to keep yourself from being happy. I know its not something anyone would do knowingly, and its SOOO difficult to let go of. Just know that there is the right person out there for you.
And, yes, exercise dammit. I know you don't feel like it, but once you start it may feel good. You'll get your endorphins going, and that's like eating chocolate, except its good 4 u!
cheyroze 2 years ago
u know i fell exactly the same i just broke up whit my bf of 8 years the worst its that i love him so much but he says that he has to put in order his life, his carreer and i dont know i fell so lost so fat so sad acctually i fell like crying all day but im still waaiting for his call saying he wants me back i dont know waht to think or do. but i completly understand that u have to do the 5 stages and the most important it that u are strong and that u will find the way its all going to be good
rominapilar 2 years ago
I've never commented on your videos, but I couldn't let this opportunity go by...
You already know exactly how you can get through this without turning to food... You said it yourself - surround yourself with people who truly love you.
Know that you are inspiring in both the bright shining moments and in the dark miserable ones. We're all rooting for you, and you WILL move past this.
waywardgypsy 2 years ago
im really glad you shared.
i feel like everyone I know, including me, is going through such a rough spot.
i hope you get to feeling strong again soon.
iatemyhomework 2 years ago
<3 Shanti you'll get through this.
agentacey 2 years ago
I don't normally comment on your vids because I figure they get lost in the crush anyway. Just thought I'd leave this thought: Pain is a teacher and a motivator. Learn what you have to from this and use it to move on and come out of this stronger. Anything else keeps you in pain and holds you back. You have a lot of people offering sympathy, so I'll just wish you strength.
shed4life 2 years ago
to help, you should think of all the things that could be worse. it has helped me in some very nasty, terrible breakups and hardships. you crying makes me want to hug you. a million times over, if i could, id fly there right now, just so you're not alone.
be strong, and it WILL get better. very soon.
jenniphergreer 2 years ago
Hi Shanti, hang in there. I know it doesn't feel like it right now but you will be ok. I know you're not technically going through a breakup from this person, but it might help to do the exercises in "Its Called a Breakup Because its Broken" and journal each day how you are feeling. I've been through heartbreak and it was what really helped. *Big hugs*
BissNikk 2 years ago
Shanti I have been eating bad lately too, I think you turn to comfort food its ok right now. Your body needs to eat that then let it
julia86sed 2 years ago
the best video ive ever watched on youtube, your so brave and honest with this video , its probubly helped more people than you know,
harrrrriet 2 years ago
Love to you Shanti. I hope you will feel better soon. xoxo
GlaamourPusss 2 years ago
*hugz* I can't remember if I've commented on your videos before..but I love them all and I really hope you feel better soon :)
MyPointOfView79 2 years ago
Man it would suck to be Greg right now, being dumped for a married GAY guy, I sure hope he can rebound.
Oh and 4,000 people were buried under rubble in Indonesia today, so things could be much worse.
morimotodevo 2 years ago
Its not very nice of you to say that, she is already very upset
julia86sed 2 years ago
I don't get it? Why is she crying? What happned to who and when?
Crazzzybabie 2 years ago
No Way! I don't believe for one second it's Jason. It's somebody we have never heard of and its her own business whoever it is...... Stay strong Shanti! If the one you love you can't have, don't sweat it too much b/c God has your soul mate on their to you. When he gets there you'll forget all about that other guy and this video. We love you girl.
MsShorty240 2 years ago
((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
AthenaLolita 2 years ago
Huh, some of your comments are so cruel and so private. To tear a person apart online, must be really easy, and obviously in someway really comforting for you. In my opinion this is just a sign of weakness and infantilism. Pathetic!
Kinga30 2 years ago
Wow. I do have to apologize for being upset about you putting down an ultimatum about Jason. I had no idea you were lovers. I hope your heart heals soon. I've put the pieces together and I understand, Shanti. Sounds pretentious, but I do.
HelloKittyKneeSocks 2 years ago
shanti it is ok to be vulnerable and i would make a video responses if i didnt look so silly with my swollen eyes when i cry but please dont delete this vid bcuz u r helping people or going to help them with this i guarantee it and when u get pass this hard time u can look back and know that you got through and the worst is not going to be forever even if things r so bad u cant remeber when something good didnt turn to something bad so hang in there it will pass I promise : - )
AlreadyAmazing 2 years ago
is "eric" Jason???
Im confused and obviously being nosy right now...haha
prettyinpurp 2 years ago
i know, greg lost his job and is now moving to california to comfort shanti in 'her' time of need. is it jason's baby? is the wizard gandalf behind all of this? the prayers are coming in from south america. and the dish ran away with the spoon.
curtmathew 2 years ago
It was hard watching this video without crying with you. I'm sorry for what you are going through, I really do wish you the best and just know that things will get better. I appreciate you showing us your "vulnerable" side, i know that's really hard to do.
x4brok3nprom1s3x 2 years ago
To the viewers: It's not Jason. If u watched the whole video you'd hear her say that Jason was there to help her in her time of need so I kind of doubt that it's Jason. But still anythings possible.
To Shanti: Be strong. We're all here for you. You may not know us, but we know you. And we know that you're a strong, amazing person, who has a great life so far and will always succeed. This stuff happens to all of us. It's human nature. Be strong. We're here for you. Always&&forever <3
ziKaMina72 2 years ago
meh. it's not the things she does that bother me, we all follow our heart, but it's the almost blind self-will and disregard for responsibility and consequences that bothers me. no one is immune.
also, those people that run interference and criticise anyone that doesn't toe the line on here and stick to the plot as shanti writes it, is disconcerting. defend her at all costs/broken halo. she's a grown woman, she can face reality with us all.
duplicity and contradiction. credibility? character?
curtmathew 2 years ago
Love ya girl. <3
I've been going through DABDA for a while so I feel your pain. It was hard watching you cry. :(
theallnaturalme 2 years ago
shanti;
stay truely strong; being strong is showing your feelings and emotions
no matter how hard
know that you have support, whether its friends,family, AND the support of you veiwers
we love you :]
mkaypittsburghchamps 2 years ago
You look beautiful, Shanti!
Jessismac 2 years ago
We love you Shanti!!!
jacob0923 2 years ago
Rough spots just allow you to realize your still human. It'll give you drive once you overcome it to be successful in the next time you need to help YOURSELF. It's okay to allow yourself to feel the things you do so that you have a better understanding than to occupy your mind with a distraction. Those thoughts will still be there. But you will overcome it. You will move on and you will feel true happiness. Just let yourself feel human for a while. It'll all work out. I have faith in you.
MissionBig2Small 2 years ago
shanti
showing that you can be vulnerable in front of people proves even more how amazing and strong you are
I'm not sure what to say that might help
other than fine someone to talk to
find something constructive to channel your feelings
I wish I could make it all better for you
but you will come out of it stronger and with experience under your belt
don't forget that you are loved yourself!
Kail221991 2 years ago
This is such an awesome video! By sharing you are giving all of us advice. I've had my heart broken... a couple times too... and finding some creative hobbie has been good for me... I usually paint something horrible. Thank you for sharing this beautiful vid! =)
Fatdissolver 2 years ago
Girly I love ya. This storm shall pass. :)
numberonedefender 2 years ago
it's totally Jason! Greg is the man, you passed up an awesome dude!
SovereignShepherd 2 years ago
I think they're just called 'the five stages of grief'
girlbonez 2 years ago
Thanks for being real and showing that you are not perfect.
labplanalp 2 years ago
You made me cry....be strong.... beleive in yourself. You don't have to be perfect or the best or strong all the time. It's human to feel ups and lows.. Just remember..... Don't be to hard on your self... and tomarrow is a new day!!
ShellyGreetsTheWorld 2 years ago
Shanti..I hear you! I've been there. I still go there. Ups and downs...the human condition. You are beautiful!
Love you!
imahappycat 2 years ago
does anyone else find antishay skanky... like jerry springer skanky! is this how is goes antishay? u fuck a gay man ...while u have a boyfriend -- another man u met on youtube-- after dumping another man in WA--now one man wont leave his spouse for u--even after u raised money for him and u move to CA for him-- yuck Jerry Springer nasty ..damn u got rejected by a schmuck!
jineele 2 years ago
so why are you posting on here and taking the time to watch this video? if i don't like someone i certainly don't go out of my way to watch their videos on youtube. so what was the point of this? just wondering why you felt that you need to make fun of a complete stranger and put her down. do you feel better now? i hope you at least got THAT much satisfaction. grow up.
finneyfaery 2 years ago
oh... LMAO.. it's another one of those people that make a fake account just to leave a nasty comment. probably from someone on here that normally leaves nice ones, and this time wants to speak his or her mind. classic. hope they had fun amusing themselves. what is wrong with people??? now i've seen it all on here.. lol. making a fake account so they can get away with being mean. nice.. real nice..
finneyfaery 2 years ago
yeah finney....i was so taken by that nasty comment that i too clicked to see the face behind the nastiness...and of course..the account was closed. shanti...hugs!! i have been there too..like so many...and believe it or not it is when my runs pick up speed and intensity and i feel like i can just tire myself out and think till i exhaust myself...if nothing else..it helps me sleep on those nights where you cant shut your brain down long enough to rest. u r in my thoughts!
MANICMAMASITA 2 years ago
most people are nasty. it's hard these days to find people that are real... people never cease to amaze me. one of the worst creations. lol..
finneyfaery 2 years ago
Hey Shanti, just wanted to know that you have done it again, in a video where you feel lost and don't what to do, you have still helped someone, which of course is me... Your last statement TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF really made me think about alot of things, thanks
You will get through this... You have done terrific so far, We are all here to support you... I'll be praying for you....
KeepiNiTTseXXi 2 years ago
Yeah.
I'm going through the same thing.
I believe you'll be fine.
I've been through a heartbreak too recently, it's painful.
Don't worry, I will be praying for you.
Happiness is only temporary and can change from moment to moment. Enjoy it while it last and remember it when things are bad.
valerieluvamador 2 years ago
Don´t give up
I Know the difficulties that you are passing , but please don´t give u
i´m from Brazil
And south america is praying for you
viwishmaster 2 years ago
thanks for keeping it real and letting us in on this. i'm sorry you are going thru such a sad time. you are not a failure. you are not weak. you are human. i'm not gonna act like i have some great advice or some cliche like: "hang in there" "keep your head up" " this too shall pass".
i'm just gonna say i am so sad that you are going thru this and i hope you get to feeling better soon. but please don't turn to junk food for solace. it'll only make you feel worse. ((BIG HUGS))
freshfoodiefitness 2 years ago
Don't be so hard on yourself, get out of your own head for a while - I find exercise and meditation is good for this - find your own peaceful place, good luck this week.
lin55385 2 years ago
Guard and protect your progress no matter how vulnerable you get. Feel good about your accomplishment (which has been no small feat) and know that the rest will pass and work itself out. Sometimes life is a shit storm but it doesn't stay that way. The storm comes and goes and comes again but so does the sunshine.
AprilDawn555 2 years ago
Thank you for being YOU- and sharing this with us
hugs xoxo and lots of <3
EstherofSuza 2 years ago
Robert is a schmuck anyway. Look at him, he's a wuss. Who would want him!
EtoileDanse 2 years ago
I think you meant to say Jason is a wuss!
jineele 2 years ago
No I meant Robert. I can't see what Jason sees in him. He's meek! He has no backbone and no opinion. He is apathetic.
I like Jason. Jason is obviously stuck in that his relationship with Robert has been going on for so long. I can understand how hard it would be to leave Robert for anyone, best choice would be Shanti.
EtoileDanse 2 years ago
I love being talked about like I'm a character in a TV show. That's awesome.
horkology 2 years ago
Robert? You are my favorite part of the yellow line videos, you're a cutie. Sorry about your troubles. Mean people suck!
MsLulu99 2 years ago
Thanks, MsLulu. You're sweet.
horkology 2 years ago
Uh-huh, it is called Below the Yellow Line, heard of it?
EtoileDanse 2 years ago
It's called reality, heard of it? BTYL is not a fictional TV show. It's not a daytime soap opera. I am not a fictional character who only exists as a series of 10-second cameo appearances, with no character development beyond that. Believe it or not, I actually have an entire life and personality beyond those tiny clips you see. Your comments are both rude and uninformed.
horkology 2 years ago
Bwahaha! Am I getting under your skin much? Cry to someone who cares, and no that wouldn't be Jason, either! Rude comments are a trolls specialty. Thank you for the compliment!
EtoileDanse 2 years ago
Robert! I feel so terrible for you....I hope you're okay. What a crazy situation.
Alot2LoseLaura 2 years ago
You're such an inspiration! Thank you for your videos. You will feel better, take it from someone who knows. And I know.
Ellalla 2 years ago
im depressed alot, dont feel different!
angielova 2 years ago
you are AMAZING !!!!! AMAZIINGG !
letgomyeggo911 2 years ago
I think you need a good run... or to beat on a punch bag. Food is definately not the answer. It always made me feel worse, not better. And think positive, but think about something beside "Shawn". Move on. That is part of life.
shesakura 2 years ago
I'm wishing you health and happiness.
LosingInCA 2 years ago
"hug" i heart you... all my love.
factorychip 2 years ago
what comes to mind is: o, what a tangled web we weave... Shanti, i'm sorry to see you feeling so bad, i hope you start feeling better soon. you're a smart girl and i know you will make it through with more lessons learned.
silyrabbit68 2 years ago
hugs shanti..... acceptance wiill come hun :)
AK
AKphoto101333 2 years ago
Don't feel stupid, to feel these things are normal... I'm going through the EXACT same thing. An ongoing battle within to accept some things that just are never going to happen again, no matter how much I may want it. I'm a very strong minded person, but I break as well... and it's OKAY. You're human.
msQuintessential21 2 years ago
Shanti, it is normal to feel down once in a while. I wish the best for you... You are a true inspiration <3<3<3
RoseyNYstar 2 years ago
maybe she should tell the truth! what a liar!
jineele 2 years ago
Hey Shanti,
I know what you're going through. I've been going to see a psychologist and it's helping a lot. Maybe you should consider, I always feel very liberated afterwards. I hope you feel better. -hugs-
Dominic
dominic122289 2 years ago
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Kinga30 2 years ago
Good luck Shanti! It's okay to feel down!
makeupbynight 2 years ago
i feel for you. i went through the exact same thing and every day i hoped that it would get better. i think the best thing for a break up is to constantly everyday get over that person. it's a hard thing to wake up and deal with but as time goes on and the acceptance comes into play (as you've mentioned) we somehow get better.
i know that it'll get better for you. *hug*
leraloses 2 years ago
I posted you a video response....it hasn't it showed up yet. I know you will pull through this.....it is hard I know from personal experiences at the moment. Life is hard and has a lot of heartache. Take care Antishay, there is a lot of people that you inspire so please keep going for them.
ausweightloss 2 years ago
I mostly watch your videos because I try to eat raw so I stumbled across your channel and really love it for the most part but I have to comment on this. I take it from the other comments this is about Jason, why in the world would you both do that to Robert? I am sorry but that is horrible and Robert is the one who has my sympathy. Cheating is never ever right.
MsLulu99 2 years ago
**hugs**
RIGirl82 2 years ago
Oh, and one more thing! You don't look awful!!!You look a bit sad and tired, but still beautiful!
Kinga30 2 years ago
The encouraging thing here is that you are going through something difficult and feeling every feeling instead of burying them under food....it'll pass and you'll be stronger for it.. hang in there babygirl your doing fine!
olly02169 2 years ago
Shanti, I never wrote here, but I watch all the time, an you are a great inspiration. You really are!
I'am sorry, that you feel so bad, but still I'have to tell you, don't think about the things you are supposed to do, or think, or the way others expect you to act, or be! Just live it! Live the pain and the depression..later you will "use" this experience for something good! And, hey, don't get used to it very much. Everything is only temporary! :-) Take Care!
Kinga30 2 years ago
feel better and keep your head up you are a strong woman who is going thru life. you have a gift to motivate and inspire but you are human like everybody else. what doesn't kill you will make you stronger.
flowerchildtmp 2 years ago
we are human! and thank u so much for sharing! but where is your bff when all this is goin gon - where is jason?
rachellefromcali 2 years ago
sorry shanti!!!!! hugs hugs xoxox
rachellefromcali 2 years ago
Shanti, don't you dare listen or pay any mind to the hater comments. Those people are miserable, sick minded fucks that are just trying to get their rocks off by provoking you.
I'm a new sub, but from what I've seen from your videos - your personality and general aura is just so beautiful. You are incredible person that has accomplished so much. Don't waste time on unrequited love, move on and find a way to work around the situation.
<3
hiddenstrength 2 years ago
I don't have any amazing advice....All is can say is....I know where you are...in that feeling even if it wasn't the same situation...Depression stinks...it's horrible no matter what the cause. I will pray for you.....
allisonpacino 2 years ago
Shanti, all things considered you are really doing great. Heartache can be the most destructive of the emotional disasters that we are faced with and yet you're moving swiftly and deftly through. There are a hundred ways to get caught up, and while lying in bed all day is one of them, you dragged yourself up after some time and made a cathartic video. You are an enviably strong woman and the fact that you haven't been filling the gap with sweet and/or salty indulgences speaks volumes. Smile!!!!
impendingrapture 2 years ago
<3 You are never alone... and it's wonderful that you have the support system that you do. It's heartbreaking to see your pain,but the only one who can get through this is you... Curl up and watch sex in the city again all the way through, it always helps me... find more ways to laugh... you are good at that! Things will get better, it just sucks right now.. ((hugs))
FindingKristy 2 years ago
You do NOT look awful. You look beautiful and pure and honest. If you feel like going towards food in these times, continue to vlog even if you don't even post them. Maybe even watch them and pretend it's someone else on youtube- and pretend to write comments to them!! Just a wee suggestion!
s2macdon 2 years ago
**Hugs Shanti** <3 Rachele
Rachele77 2 years ago
I feel you completely....I'm really really sorry you're feeling this way...I know you'll be ok..take care
bridgetvdp22 2 years ago
take things slowly hun.. ive recently struggled through a depressive period.. not heart break or anything just for no reason!! but i know how you feel from my past.. dont rush yourself because thats when we start to sabotage ourselves!!
take care hunni..
hugs..
kirsty x
glamaura 2 years ago
I am am sorry you are going thru this hun.
gemsa1987 2 years ago
mourning is healthy & normal...you'll know when you're done with this stage. Don't rush thru it. Everything in it's perfect timing .xxxxx
rosealvarezc21 2 years ago
in losing weight, we have to face our stuff and not stuff our face that is what makes it hard. feel the feelings, and when you are ready, you will be able to let go. Letting go is hard, but you are human. eventually you will look back and understand, but understanding isn't part of "it" now, so don't try and understand it. Don't go by your "feelings", just feel them and learn from them. Just remember that this too shall pass and you will get through it. Don't rush the process and don't fear it.
kaziemae 2 years ago
We all have to go through rough spots, very little by little it will get better, unfortunately grieving is always done the hard way as well. I hope you feel better very soon.
blueverucasalt 2 years ago
You can go through these stages at any time, in my opinion it depends how long it lasts and how to cope with it.
I am a master psych. major and i always remember the acronym
curleegirl68 2 years ago
Thank God you have wonderful friends that support you and are there for you in your time of need. Most of us have dealt with heartbreak and I can understand how you feel. Hope you feel better soon... You're a great person just because you have feelings doesn't make you weak it makes you human.
Keep up the good work...
MrsEveryday 2 years ago
u must b a scorpio
503408 2 years ago
I wish I could give you a hug...I'm going through the same thing myself. Hang in there everything will get better and when all is said and done you will stronger for it!
Vannabanana46 2 years ago
right reason) you can do nothing about it except to accept it. If you wanted to you could "force" him to love you by being exactly what he expects in a woman but in the end it would collapse and you will have lost time in the process. Believe my experience, go with the flow. Things have to be obvious. That the only way to work out a "true" and strong love.
Instead you should prepare for a good person which will have the quality that the other doesnt have : recognize your beautiful you.
languagemachine 2 years ago
don't force you to do other things not to think about your love problem : on the contrary think clear about it otherwise it will always be there.
Imagine you could make this guy love you by magic. imagine you have this power. after a few days it would seem wrong and his "love" would have no value to you.
So you have to accept that even if you were with him that would not change a thing : you have to both love each other. its a 2 persons process. if he doesnt want to (for whatever wrong or .....
languagemachine 2 years ago
i just wanna grab you out of the screen and hug you, 'cos i know exactly how you feel :(
yeshowrandomalexis 2 years ago
i hope the acceptance comes quickly. i hate that you're going through such a low spot. focus on you. love yourself.
jenthehell 2 years ago
do you love jason? weird!
NaeRae86 2 years ago
argh, i cant post my letter on here, its too long. I wrote to you instead on the other site, OKC. Hugs to you Shanti! Feel better!
LOL, I expect that your apartment will be super clean by the end of the week :)
APrinceinHiding 2 years ago
Well I was going to ask why I hadnt heard from you in a while... but I just got your update on youtube... I'm sorry that you are feeling so blue, and wish I could give you a hug. LOL, or come over and smoke some hookah lol.
Anyway, you mentioned one thing that intrigued me...you said that you had never gone through depression before as a thin person, and didnt know what to do with yourself in order to cope, without turning to food.
APrinceinHiding 2 years ago
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HRDillon 2 years ago
((hugs))) that's all I can really say girl! luv ya :)
2kute2bbig 2 years ago