if you look at it you keep trying to support your own conclusions.The main question is what do you want out of life.Instead of always looking at the people of the evil conglomorants.look at how you can better yourself and not worry about what other people think of you.The other question is are you happy.money is not everything, but happiness,someone told me along time ago happiness is healthy without it we are lost souls.
OMG you are so fucking cute!!:) Sorry had to be said XD gonna continue watching your videos, family member gave me your username and glad he did:) I am trying to get help going thru the transition of female to male.Know this will help but can't say I am not nervous but very happy at the same time to have found your page:)
Despite the fact that i was your age in the far distant past, i remembering wondering how to determine what the "right" answers were to some of the big questions about how to live. For me, it took another 15 or 20 years of living & learning before i had some confidence that i knew some of those answers.
But i'm a slow learner- i'm sure you'll come up with your answers to the questions you raised in a much shorter time!
most women want to wear makeup (or nice clothes) and use it to improve their appearance. Looking at it as some unwanted but necessary task in order to "pass" seems like a more masculine type of thinking. Are we just trying to re-create womanhood or are we women?
I think I keep hearing you say that you need money or you need hormones to become more feminine. I'm a very frugal person and I've discovered that the major part of being "passable" is mental. It's really about putting yourself into the feminine box and staying there. When i was gender queer I realized I was gender queer for other people. Not sure if that's how you feel BUT if there's one thing I've learned it's believe and you will become. Stop preventing yourself from transition
hi Kit! Thanks for responding to my post, I really enjoy the easy fem series and I hope you share some more of your ideas.
I think part of what I feel, is that I resent the structural constraints of femininity and that sometimes I feel a need to conform when I would prefer not to in order to be the way I want in the world. I don't know if that's very clear, its' still a forming thought in my head.
However, I think that you're right in that sometimes I use this resentment to mask my own insecurities about failing some standard of femininity and is keeping from transition. I read your comment last night and it definitely gave me some stuff to chew on and also got my ass over some insecurities. Today I walked up to the mac counter today and asked them what foundation color they thought was best for me and some help covering facial hair.
I'm glad you're challenging femininity from the trans side of womanhood, if you know what i mean. I kind of feel ya on how it can be annoying that society doesn't see women who aren't feminine as 'less ladylike' or whatever. Going the transmasculine route, I found that some 'manly things' like taking up space a lot just didn't work for me, so I agree it's better to be natural even if you're still trying to learn social cues and those things.
thank you for the compliments! I think that it is really helpful for ourselves to always be questioning what is a woman or a man as we make ourselves into one or whatever else we may choose.
if you look at it you keep trying to support your own conclusions.The main question is what do you want out of life.Instead of always looking at the people of the evil conglomorants.look at how you can better yourself and not worry about what other people think of you.The other question is are you happy.money is not everything, but happiness,someone told me along time ago happiness is healthy without it we are lost souls.
dickeybrian9 3 hours ago
OMG you are so fucking cute!!:) Sorry had to be said XD gonna continue watching your videos, family member gave me your username and glad he did:) I am trying to get help going thru the transition of female to male.Know this will help but can't say I am not nervous but very happy at the same time to have found your page:)
MsTentacleRape 1 month ago
Despite the fact that i was your age in the far distant past, i remembering wondering how to determine what the "right" answers were to some of the big questions about how to live. For me, it took another 15 or 20 years of living & learning before i had some confidence that i knew some of those answers.
But i'm a slow learner- i'm sure you'll come up with your answers to the questions you raised in a much shorter time!
es4331 6 months ago
most women want to wear makeup (or nice clothes) and use it to improve their appearance. Looking at it as some unwanted but necessary task in order to "pass" seems like a more masculine type of thinking. Are we just trying to re-create womanhood or are we women?
elind85 6 months ago
Like that flower tree thing on ur wall <3
miinsaa 9 months ago
I think I keep hearing you say that you need money or you need hormones to become more feminine. I'm a very frugal person and I've discovered that the major part of being "passable" is mental. It's really about putting yourself into the feminine box and staying there. When i was gender queer I realized I was gender queer for other people. Not sure if that's how you feel BUT if there's one thing I've learned it's believe and you will become. Stop preventing yourself from transition
TransDIYer 11 months ago
@TransDIYer
hi Kit! Thanks for responding to my post, I really enjoy the easy fem series and I hope you share some more of your ideas.
I think part of what I feel, is that I resent the structural constraints of femininity and that sometimes I feel a need to conform when I would prefer not to in order to be the way I want in the world. I don't know if that's very clear, its' still a forming thought in my head.
PapayaKaia 11 months ago
@PapayaKaia
However, I think that you're right in that sometimes I use this resentment to mask my own insecurities about failing some standard of femininity and is keeping from transition. I read your comment last night and it definitely gave me some stuff to chew on and also got my ass over some insecurities. Today I walked up to the mac counter today and asked them what foundation color they thought was best for me and some help covering facial hair.
Thank you Kit!
PapayaKaia 11 months ago
PapayaKaia!
That's a really cool name!
I'm glad you're challenging femininity from the trans side of womanhood, if you know what i mean. I kind of feel ya on how it can be annoying that society doesn't see women who aren't feminine as 'less ladylike' or whatever. Going the transmasculine route, I found that some 'manly things' like taking up space a lot just didn't work for me, so I agree it's better to be natural even if you're still trying to learn social cues and those things.
BlacklitFloater 1 year ago
@BlacklitFloater
thank you for the compliments! I think that it is really helpful for ourselves to always be questioning what is a woman or a man as we make ourselves into one or whatever else we may choose.
PapayaKaia 11 months ago