You seem like a smart girl,your also pretty,do you date outside your race ? i do , i know a couple white guys that would treat you like gold as long as you don't get ghetto on them,lol.... !
till the next best thing come along. Face it a Man wants a women that can lead and when we see you Black women that make Bad choices we think with our dicks and say " well she fine you i will just try to fuck cause that ass Fat or some other bullshit" He will not marry her Unless she starts off in the right direction and start getting Money. Then once these Black women get used ALL up they want to RUN to church and find GOD!
You might not like my comment but here it goes. I see you have the same issues most black women over 35 single with kids.. looking for love ... the reality is your just a victim of your bad choices your life is what you make it ....
@123henry1 Right on,theses women want you to be save them after they have kids and have All those Dicks in their hands. That's the line you give to a Jump off that thinks she is your women, she broke got a kid and look like she over 30. Men Not checking for women like that,now if she had Money she provably wouldn't be with that man Now. BLACK Women turn their nose up at a Good man when their doing good and when their broke all you get is nagging and complaining! Sounds like she in house Pussy
Your instincts wil tell u. If he don't wants u, he don't. Logic and Love surpasses everything. Learn to have a sense of humor and be open-minded. If he talks about financial issues and he tells u he don't wanna break up w/ u and it's causing u to have spin-arounds, FAUK IT! Leave that nigga, and then come to ME LOL!!! I'm very open-minded and I love to cater to my women as long as we're in one accord. I am not into BS drama and I'm laid-back w/ a great sense of humor.
It sounds like you're very mature and honest with yourself about the situation. You're honest with your fears and desires so you have half the battle. The two headed monster in relationships is money and sex, but a drop in emotion probably isn't emotion at all. It's just affection. If you stick it out it will come eventually. He doesn't sound so bad.
girlfriend you not a quiter you just not a time waster i get that all the time i'm like you if i see it's not working i leave fast quick i'm getting older i just don't believe wasting time anymore
@haywerth, you are a wise man. You are right I have expected far more from him than I have in the past and it has damaged our relationship. I have done some self reflection and realize that Love is not just a word its a action. I think I need to let him go for now and if its meant it will mend itself. The big talk is tonight! wish me luck!!!
I salute you for being so open about your relationship. And it's for this reason I will be as honest as I can.
As men, when women we are in relationships with perceive us as having shortcomings, or are willing to “overlook” shortcomings, we pick up on that.
Relationships are NOT hard work, contrary to popular wisdom. Relationships are easy. So when a relationship gets to be too hard, that’s when I know I’m with the wrong person.
Also, you made an excellent comment starting at 2:58, in part "Money wasn't right a year ago." I would say that that yes, your money hasn't changed in a year but I bet your expectations HAVE changed. And that's the key.
@rj lol. You maybe right I may need to stop dating all together. I've been told that before but is the alternative to become a spinster? I have been married twice and I have three children from those unions. But what I am learning is there is something about me and my thought pattern that brings me to the place of going it alone. I a runner by nature don't want to b that girl anymore but I also don't want to stand still and let a train hit me!
I really do feel for you Sis. Been there. Done that. How far of an emotional race you're going to run is up to you. Unfortunately you can't change his thinking, his actions, or his emotional availability no matter how hard you try. That stuff is his and only he can turn those screws to make the relationship fit again or not. You may have hit the nail on the head in part one: "I'm afraid of the pain." Again, unfortunately, you're already feeling the pain.... and I'm so sorry for that.
Sounds like you're not prone to dating or relationship. You're 41 years old now. At your age you should be happily married with children. A man is not perfect, many woman expects for guys to be a prince charming that they're looking for. Well news flash, men are human too and we (Men) have flaws. You should quit dating. You're just not prone.
Sweetheart, when dating just be yourself. Do not alter or change your personality just so that you can meet your BF standards. None of us on this earth are perfect. We all have flaws. If you reach a point in the relationship where he screwed up, Do not be mad at him, instead try to correct him, try to make him a better man. Try having a one on one talk with him. If you're not happy with him then just simply let him know that you want to move on.
now that I've seen this part, I realize that my last comment probably wasn't much help. haha. the last guy I was with had a few shortcomings that I tried to overlook. ex: he had a great heart and was a beautiful person, but he was a stoner and a drinker. now, I know that I would not want to, let's say, have kids w/ someone like that. So I had no problem when what we had kind of died off. now with guys I meet I think "would i want kids w/ him?" if the answer is no, that's how I know when to quit.
You seem like a smart girl,your also pretty,do you date outside your race ? i do , i know a couple white guys that would treat you like gold as long as you don't get ghetto on them,lol.... !
sn9696 4 months ago
till the next best thing come along. Face it a Man wants a women that can lead and when we see you Black women that make Bad choices we think with our dicks and say " well she fine you i will just try to fuck cause that ass Fat or some other bullshit" He will not marry her Unless she starts off in the right direction and start getting Money. Then once these Black women get used ALL up they want to RUN to church and find GOD!
Kenleighsway 5 months ago in playlist More videos from TLDTHEAUTHOR
You might not like my comment but here it goes. I see you have the same issues most black women over 35 single with kids.. looking for love ... the reality is your just a victim of your bad choices your life is what you make it ....
123henry1 6 months ago
@123henry1 Right on,theses women want you to be save them after they have kids and have All those Dicks in their hands. That's the line you give to a Jump off that thinks she is your women, she broke got a kid and look like she over 30. Men Not checking for women like that,now if she had Money she provably wouldn't be with that man Now. BLACK Women turn their nose up at a Good man when their doing good and when their broke all you get is nagging and complaining! Sounds like she in house Pussy
Kenleighsway 5 months ago in playlist More videos from TLDTHEAUTHOR
Menopause??
MachinateTDK 10 months ago
U may be too beautiful for me and may be way out of my league, but fauk it let's do it!
and stop worrying about relationships. I'll say it again, establish an open-minded sense of humor!
WizzoPro9476 11 months ago
Your instincts wil tell u. If he don't wants u, he don't. Logic and Love surpasses everything. Learn to have a sense of humor and be open-minded. If he talks about financial issues and he tells u he don't wanna break up w/ u and it's causing u to have spin-arounds, FAUK IT! Leave that nigga, and then come to ME LOL!!! I'm very open-minded and I love to cater to my women as long as we're in one accord. I am not into BS drama and I'm laid-back w/ a great sense of humor.
WizzoPro9476 11 months ago
Don't fret. Have a sense of humor and if it don't work out, fauk it! U seem to be a sweet sister.
WizzoPro9476 11 months ago
I will say that some of these comments are downright "ig-nant" and if you listen to em you'll be twice as miserable than before.
kevinferere 11 months ago
It sounds like you're very mature and honest with yourself about the situation. You're honest with your fears and desires so you have half the battle. The two headed monster in relationships is money and sex, but a drop in emotion probably isn't emotion at all. It's just affection. If you stick it out it will come eventually. He doesn't sound so bad.
kevinferere 11 months ago
girlfriend you not a quiter you just not a time waster i get that all the time i'm like you if i see it's not working i leave fast quick i'm getting older i just don't believe wasting time anymore
kahua33 11 months ago
Hey TLd maybe you just talk to much, let a man be a man. And you aint perfect yourself either
whitebitchnigga 11 months ago
@haywerth, you are a wise man. You are right I have expected far more from him than I have in the past and it has damaged our relationship. I have done some self reflection and realize that Love is not just a word its a action. I think I need to let him go for now and if its meant it will mend itself. The big talk is tonight! wish me luck!!!
TLDTHEAUTHOR 1 year ago
Madam:
I salute you for being so open about your relationship. And it's for this reason I will be as honest as I can.
As men, when women we are in relationships with perceive us as having shortcomings, or are willing to “overlook” shortcomings, we pick up on that.
Relationships are NOT hard work, contrary to popular wisdom. Relationships are easy. So when a relationship gets to be too hard, that’s when I know I’m with the wrong person.
Haywerth 1 year ago
Also, you made an excellent comment starting at 2:58, in part "Money wasn't right a year ago." I would say that that yes, your money hasn't changed in a year but I bet your expectations HAVE changed. And that's the key.
Haywerth 1 year ago
@rj lol. You maybe right I may need to stop dating all together. I've been told that before but is the alternative to become a spinster? I have been married twice and I have three children from those unions. But what I am learning is there is something about me and my thought pattern that brings me to the place of going it alone. I a runner by nature don't want to b that girl anymore but I also don't want to stand still and let a train hit me!
TLDTHEAUTHOR 1 year ago
I really do feel for you Sis. Been there. Done that. How far of an emotional race you're going to run is up to you. Unfortunately you can't change his thinking, his actions, or his emotional availability no matter how hard you try. That stuff is his and only he can turn those screws to make the relationship fit again or not. You may have hit the nail on the head in part one: "I'm afraid of the pain." Again, unfortunately, you're already feeling the pain.... and I'm so sorry for that.
simplyme922 1 year ago
Sounds like you're not prone to dating or relationship. You're 41 years old now. At your age you should be happily married with children. A man is not perfect, many woman expects for guys to be a prince charming that they're looking for. Well news flash, men are human too and we (Men) have flaws. You should quit dating. You're just not prone.
r25rjr 1 year ago
Sweetheart, when dating just be yourself. Do not alter or change your personality just so that you can meet your BF standards. None of us on this earth are perfect. We all have flaws. If you reach a point in the relationship where he screwed up, Do not be mad at him, instead try to correct him, try to make him a better man. Try having a one on one talk with him. If you're not happy with him then just simply let him know that you want to move on.
r25rjr 1 year ago
----Show this guy these videos and get his reaction. If he's any good he'll be willing to let go but won't want to.....
IbnSheba 1 year ago
now that I've seen this part, I realize that my last comment probably wasn't much help. haha. the last guy I was with had a few shortcomings that I tried to overlook. ex: he had a great heart and was a beautiful person, but he was a stoner and a drinker. now, I know that I would not want to, let's say, have kids w/ someone like that. So I had no problem when what we had kind of died off. now with guys I meet I think "would i want kids w/ him?" if the answer is no, that's how I know when to quit.
downthestreetteam 1 year ago