Dr. Gordon Neufeld- What Makes a Child Easy to Parent

[InTeNsItYuNdEfInEd]

Hello, Dr. Gordon. I want to play a game..

[007nadineL]

By Alice Miller, Ph.D.: Understanding the cycle of abuse

Humiliations, spankings and beatings, slaps in the face, betrayal, sexual exploitation, derision, neglect, etc. are all forms of mistreatment, because they injure the integrity and dignity of a child, even if their consequences are not visible right away.

However, as adults, most abused children will suffer…, **AND let others suffer, from these injuries.

[007nadineL]

Hello. Stranger Care... you know... DAY CARE. Can you think of anything more prevelant in our society in the last 30 years??? !!!!

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[Jpizzle7777777]

What Dr. Neufeld is saying is that parenting without a context doesn't work. The context here being the relationship with the child. So, it would follow that simply applying a bunch of parenting skills, without the context of having developed a proper relationship with the child, is what doesn't work. So it is this lack of relationship context, which causes parenting skills to fail or to become redundant.

[tsicotte]

The concept that parenting skills don't matter is one of the more absurd things I have heard in a while. He has many good points to make but the way he writes off parenting skills is a little silly really.Just saying it doesn't make it true. He says the same parents with the same skills may still have a child that acts out. Yes, because kids are different and good parenting skills include being flexible and changing our approach. Also the connection we have with our kids is a parenting skill.

[mrbigbird56]

How succinct you have been in relating this important truth! Just this talk alone is a big "aha" moment and puts into words what I have always sensed in my heart. You're right - parenting isn't just about skils, it is about being someone your kids can love, admire, and respect.

[ParentsPartner]

This man actually has the true gold in terms of answers to parenting, families, schooling and society. Much more attention should be given to his teaching.

[melidi7]

hold on to your kids is one of the best parenting books around.

[beyondthesquare]

I am reading one of his books at the moment, Hold on to Your Kids, and it is brilliant, I am sso imoressed I am buying another for a friend and will recommend it to all my friends, great book! Thank you for your amazing insights.