Whenever I held hands in public with my ex-bf, it wasn't about showing 'we' gays have the right to do so...we did it, because we loved eachother. You don't need any other reason!!
When my family went on vacation in San Francisco in 2004 we were out shopping and a gay couple walked by the open store front holding hand and my Dad was furious. He didn't approach them about it, but was made the his children (me and my brother) saw it. IN SAN FRANCISCO OF ALL PLACES!!! We couldn't care less. I guess this is one of the few things the younger generation just understands better then their parents.
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This is one of the millions of things I've considered during my time in the closet and I decided that I'd do it if my boyfriend (when I get one, that is) is up to it, I'll do it also. It'll be difficult, but it's just bullshit to be afraid of holding hands in a public place. That's just utterly WRONG, and until we start doing it without their approval, they won't give it their approval.
We're either not out there enough, or we are too out there. Unfortunately, the ones that are really out there give the rest of us a bad name too often.
Honestly, I don't want to see straight couples holding hands let alone gay couples. It has nothing to do with visibility and acceptance for me. I think relationships should be private, whether it is straight or gay.
Smokeshaft. I refer to you assertion that 10% of the population is gay. This is a false claim based off an old scientific study which has since been debunked. The actual estimate is around 2-3%.
it's great news that you did not actually see anyone tell their children to turn away because of such an "unsavoury sight"! I'm glad that in Poland people ceased to stare at most ethnic minorities (the seeing of which is still a rarity), yet it's probably going to take a big chunk of time until people start reacting the same way to gay couples:) Cheers everyone!
Dude i love your videos! You need to move to Seattle where being gay/bi is a non-issue. btw I spent a week in Paris this past summer and didn't see ANY same-sex couples... what gives?
I agree with you. I think another major issue that the community has to address is the lack of leadership. Currently, there is no figurehead that we can point who we can say is leading the charge for equal rights. The black community has several prominent leaders who are the figureheads of the black community. But who are the prominent leaders and figureheads for the gay community? There are none, and that is a serious problem.
I understand your aim to gain visibility, but there are many issues that need to be addressed first. hate crimes, lynchings, legal rights, widespread negative portrayals, precedence as an insult, education and access to information. visibility is a personal choice, and the more the cultural climate changes from hostility to acceptance, the more people will choose to be visible.
It's not that I don't understand the hardship of tackling homophobia in public, because it is awkward and a test of courage...but simultaneously it is a necessary step to achieving equality. The more we do to fight bigotry, by showing ourselves in public, the better our future as a community will be.
We live in Taiwan, and my husband and I hold hands, cuddle, and neck as much as the straight couples do. Of course, in Taiwan, there is none of that gay terror that you find in the West. We never feel afraid. People do tend to point and giggle occasionally, and that's Ok. At least they learn. In the States, I think you have some seriously sick people to deal with. Nevertheless, I think someone, sooner or later, has to sit at the front of that bus, and refuse to budge.
Holding hands in public is great, but there are very tangible consequences as you know. I wouldn't hold it against anyone who decided they didn't feel comfortable at any particular time and place. Having said that, I'd expect a little more at Disney... :P
Yeah people who are LGBT don't show affection too much in public because of homophobia and biphobia. I'm glad when I see these couples holding hands because I think everyone should show affection when in love regardless of sexual orientation.
That's awesome that you went to Euro Disney, is it similar to the ones in the States?
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sirbestnameever 11 months ago
Whenever I held hands in public with my ex-bf, it wasn't about showing 'we' gays have the right to do so...we did it, because we loved eachother. You don't need any other reason!!
gyqz 1 year ago
When my family went on vacation in San Francisco in 2004 we were out shopping and a gay couple walked by the open store front holding hand and my Dad was furious. He didn't approach them about it, but was made the his children (me and my brother) saw it. IN SAN FRANCISCO OF ALL PLACES!!! We couldn't care less. I guess this is one of the few things the younger generation just understands better then their parents.
hop208 1 year ago
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TheCoolball7 1 year ago
This is one of the millions of things I've considered during my time in the closet and I decided that I'd do it if my boyfriend (when I get one, that is) is up to it, I'll do it also. It'll be difficult, but it's just bullshit to be afraid of holding hands in a public place. That's just utterly WRONG, and until we start doing it without their approval, they won't give it their approval.
Joziaac 1 year ago
We're either not out there enough, or we are too out there. Unfortunately, the ones that are really out there give the rest of us a bad name too often.
Honestly, I don't want to see straight couples holding hands let alone gay couples. It has nothing to do with visibility and acceptance for me. I think relationships should be private, whether it is straight or gay.
MrStrav81 1 year ago
Smokeshaft. I refer to you assertion that 10% of the population is gay. This is a false claim based off an old scientific study which has since been debunked. The actual estimate is around 2-3%.
P.s. you're fucking hot, come to Australia!
ottopotomas 1 year ago
Ohmygosh you are soo intelligent! and cute! :D
TelepathicPebble 2 years ago 3
that is a great theory now if i had a boy friend i don't know if i would i would be kind of scared i fear mean people
blue2kid3 2 years ago
it's great news that you did not actually see anyone tell their children to turn away because of such an "unsavoury sight"! I'm glad that in Poland people ceased to stare at most ethnic minorities (the seeing of which is still a rarity), yet it's probably going to take a big chunk of time until people start reacting the same way to gay couples:) Cheers everyone!
SasTheVirtuous 2 years ago
I don't hold hands with guys because I'm fairly independent but I'm not afraid to kiss a boy in public and often do when I'm with someone
Something to consider
anarch17 3 years ago
Dude i love your videos! You need to move to Seattle where being gay/bi is a non-issue. btw I spent a week in Paris this past summer and didn't see ANY same-sex couples... what gives?
johnvlogs 3 years ago
Exactly the point.
There shouldn't be "gay rights" or "gay marrage".
There should be "rights" and "marrage" and that's it. For everyone. End of.
DhiscoStu 3 years ago 26
I agree with you. I think another major issue that the community has to address is the lack of leadership. Currently, there is no figurehead that we can point who we can say is leading the charge for equal rights. The black community has several prominent leaders who are the figureheads of the black community. But who are the prominent leaders and figureheads for the gay community? There are none, and that is a serious problem.
arcoles4 3 years ago
I understand your aim to gain visibility, but there are many issues that need to be addressed first. hate crimes, lynchings, legal rights, widespread negative portrayals, precedence as an insult, education and access to information. visibility is a personal choice, and the more the cultural climate changes from hostility to acceptance, the more people will choose to be visible.
Hotarunix 3 years ago
It's not that I don't understand the hardship of tackling homophobia in public, because it is awkward and a test of courage...but simultaneously it is a necessary step to achieving equality. The more we do to fight bigotry, by showing ourselves in public, the better our future as a community will be.
Smokeshaft 3 years ago 5
We live in Taiwan, and my husband and I hold hands, cuddle, and neck as much as the straight couples do. Of course, in Taiwan, there is none of that gay terror that you find in the West. We never feel afraid. People do tend to point and giggle occasionally, and that's Ok. At least they learn. In the States, I think you have some seriously sick people to deal with. Nevertheless, I think someone, sooner or later, has to sit at the front of that bus, and refuse to budge.
nicksum29 3 years ago 4
Holding hands in public is great, but there are very tangible consequences as you know. I wouldn't hold it against anyone who decided they didn't feel comfortable at any particular time and place. Having said that, I'd expect a little more at Disney... :P
jmurphy95 3 years ago
Yeah people who are LGBT don't show affection too much in public because of homophobia and biphobia. I'm glad when I see these couples holding hands because I think everyone should show affection when in love regardless of sexual orientation.
That's awesome that you went to Euro Disney, is it similar to the ones in the States?
robertsolace 3 years ago