Working Moms vs. Stay at Home Moms

[kimkrisrich]

I wish I would of watched the whole show because from the looks of it, the mother who recorded it, is a working mom and skipped most of the good stuff that backs up a stay at home mom. Ugh I can't believe they're saying kids will learn more from daycares if the kids from some of my relatives who are stuck in daycare are always sick :/ How can they learn if they always got the darn flu. I'm glad Ive been a stay at home mom for my one and only son and cherished everything with him!

[BRIANNAistalksick]

I'd kill myself if I had to be a baby factory/caretaker for the rest of my life. Forget that!

[MsSooRandom]

This is really sad because there are mothers out there who think that working mothers are bad parents and if the child is acting up in any sort of way, they use the "well if she wasn't working maybe her kid(s) wouldn't act this way" speech (some w/ passive-aggressive tones others not) It's almost like a way for them to look down on others. The same applies when roles are reversed, it's really pathetic and I've seen happen too many times. Grow up and mind your business!!

[1ssny]

I have found that alot of the SAHM's that I know are very nasty when it comes to this topic. There is no alternative in their world and they assume every mom can and should stay home. They actually frighten me!!

[StephanieLin]

It's funny that this is even an issue for most upper middle class white families. My mom didn't work because she wanted to get out of the house, she worked because she had to for us to survive. I certainly don't wish she hadn't brought me into the world simply because she didn't have every waking second of every day to devote to me. What people don't realize is that yes, being a SAHM is a full time job, but working AND being a mom is TWO full times jobs.

[BRIANNAistalksick]

Oh GOD, these nazi stay-at-home-moms need to get a grip and join us in the twenty-first century. If you're truly self-satisfied being at home with the kids (which, by the way, your husband also helped to create--but no one's giving him shit, are they?)...then fantastic for you. If you want to venture outside of the family unit to rake in some extra cash (or simply to make a name for yourself), then equally fantastic.

[LeahWalentosky]

My grandparents would of lost a farm that was in the family for 150 years if my grandmother didn't work in the 1950s. My grandfather already had three jobs.

[AlbertaRose94]

OH good grief! I remember this episode. He delibrately pitted the two groups against each other. It SUCKED and completely turned me off of Dr. Phil.

[ndyt]

the issue is supervision, the majority of kids with working parents are latch-key-kids that have little to no supervision. That's what I would have said to that fat pig of a man.

[MelissaRisdon]

I believe it is naive to simplify such a complex problem by blaming the issues of today on whether mom's are working or staying at home. It takes a family to raise a child, so why don't we stop hating one another and realize that everyone is doing what they believe their best is. A lot of today's problems are due to blame and making someone wrong when the truth is you don't know what the person's intimate situation is.

[nigella4me]

Why on earth do you want to have children if you don't want to stay home and care and love for them. Especially in todays world, why in the world would you risk your child being hurt by someone? Children are not toys to be picked up and played with when you have the time. Look around you people. Kids today are a mess, drugs, violence, pregnancies, suicides, etc. Children are supposed to be loved by their mom, not just taken care of. Open your eyes women, our children are lost for a reason.

[ashatbulaparanormal]

@nigella4me I was raised by a stay at home mom!! I'm a high school drop out,pregnant at 15,did drugs and drank,was in a violent marriage that took 5 1/2 years to get out of, thought about suicide on more then one occasion and other things I won't mention on here.But I would like to say this, the kind of stuff you mention is going to happen rather a house hold has a stay at home mom or a working mom. Women can only make decisions on what is best for her family.

[LeahWalentosky]

@nigella4me My mother worked to pay my way through collage, thats taking care of me. Both of my grandmothers worked. One to keep the family farm (her husband had 2 jobs) The other to keep a roof over their children's head and food on the table. My parents turned out fine, and I turned out fine. Taking care of your children is more than just feeding them, love is more than just cooking a meal. It is sacrfice and we all make it our diffrent ways.

[MelissaRisdon]

I find it interesting the amount of emotions working moms vs. stay at home mom's evokes in women. Why is it necessary to cut another woman down? Why do we not trust each other and believe that each of us is doing what we belief is best for ourselves and our families? I find some of the comments belittling, judgmental and come across with a very accusing tone. Divorce, moving, working, day care are all difficult decisions. Why is it necessary to ridicule those that make different choices?

[ashatbulaparanormal]

@MelissaRisdon I have to agree with you a lot on this issue.what decisions we as mothers makes is what is best for our family not someone elses. Every house hold is different.I worked and my kids turned out just fine.Their are caring and loving adults and never get into trouble.

[Emrald70]

(last comment)

ok i know many of u will be offended by my comment, so i'l try to end on a good note

if u really feel thta u NEED all this stuff and NEED a part-time job then why don't u work part-time until ur child can be asked about it (8-12, mbe even 7)

ask them if they would mind u working a little extra, and outline the benefits to them of you working extra hours

then theyd be included and can learn a bit of independance in the process

[MelissaRisdon]

I personally find a lot of your assumptions offensive. They are very judgmental, assuming and generalizations. It seems that you have a few experiences that you are generalizing onto all working mom's and that is just not true. What's about trusting other women that they are making the best decisions based on the options they have in front of them?

[ssny1234]

@Emrald70 So, I should ask for permission from my children to work? Who's in charge here, the children? I don't think so.

[Emrald70]

also ur constantly going on about bills and money troubles

but ur the ones who got that £50,000 loan for that state of the art car, when buying a used one would be cheaper and save on waste

ur the ones who wanted satellite, and 3 working computers in the house

yes, some essentials need to be paid for, but whats the point of all this material stuff if u constantly have to keep working endless hours to pay for it

[Emrald70]

i'm all for equal rights guys trust me

but it seems to me that parents these days chose to have kids, then somehow think that the kids OWE them for being born

that's why they divorce, and re-marry so quickly and constantly chenge their lives by moving them away from their friends or school usually for THEIR careers

ur kids didn't choose to be born, U chose to have them U are responsible for them

[ladyEulaelie]

...there is nothing that replace the family structual unit that we had in our grandparents generation before they torched everything with the women's work movement.

Before this era we had the most impeccable family structure. I'm not saying that women shouldn't have rights and should only concern themselves with learning the ways around the home.

I support equal education and career opportunities for both men and women. I also support women, who do want kids, being stay at home moms.

[ladyEulaelie]

Dr. Phil missed the point. Its not about kids doing better in school or getting more gold stars than other kids in day care. We live in a world where our children are constantly subjective to every form of living and philosophy of life.

Parents have to be the beacon of light to guide their kids with their wisdom of the world or else there is a major chance of having young adults who are deeply confused and lost.

Yes, both parents can still work and their kids have a decent upbring but...

[ladyEulaelie]

God willing, I'm going to find a man who doesn't mind working 2 jobs if necessary to support his family and I'm going to be a stay at home mom. No other Job is more important to me than being a parent.

Tell the women's movement to take their garbage instruction manuel on how to run the lives of women and shove it in the trash!

If it means not living in a big fancy house; having a big fancy car; and making major cut backs, so be it!! I'm just as happy.

[Emrald70]

i don't think it is about ruining women's lives

i think they try to encourage women to think of themselves and no one else

i mean, its' all about "their" jobs and "their" rights

i'm all for equal rights, but there are other ppl in the world besides women

[ladyEulaelie]

@Emrald70

The women's rights movement has never encouraged women to do what is best for them and to put their families interest at heart. Its always been that the woman who works is super woman and the woman who stays at home watches dr. phil all day and sticks pinesol soaked rags behind picture frames. They perpetuated the stereotype that stay at home moms are religious, uneducated, submissive, dragged down, naggy women who make their husbands suffer by forcing them to work more.

cont.

[ladyEulaelie]

@Emrald70

If we get really honest and say the truth. The women's movement was always around but it wasn't till Rocafella put his money behind it that the women's movement took off and became what it is today. Rocefella wasn't concerned about women's rights. He only cared about himself and the elite that excluded the poor, minorities and women.

If you look it up for yourself you will see that the purpose of the WRM was to put women in the work force so they could tax more ppl and Cont.

[ladyEulaelie]

@ladyEulaelie

...to break up the family unit so that the government would have more authority in the training of children than the parents.

I'm not making that up. I wish that wasn't true.

[Bluntsorjoints]

I wish my wife would work.

she Bitches and bitches about being bored and how we need more money.

driving me to an early grave I tell you what.

[macaylasmommy1122]

what a bitch, not all of us WANT to work, some of us HAVE to work to provide for our families. She is an ignorant woman if she thinks it is just a choice.