A common criminal at least gets the opportunity to defend himself and be heard. I wish my ex wife would grant me that right.Loosing your kids because your ex has them trained to hate you is like having your heart ripped from you chest time and time again. Now I have a grand child,,Knowing my grand child is not and option for me,,,I have to ask what on earth have I done to have such a big part of my life taken from me? The coward will not communicate to even say why.
poisoning her mind against me. i'm keen to speak to children who have reconciled with the alienated parent and how the relationship has progressed. i would also like to be informed if anyone knows of any documentaries, i could become involved with so that i can help make this condition better known. any contact from the alienated arent would also be welcomed.
i'm not divorced, i was never married. my xe and i split up when my daughter was about 9 months old. and i havent really speant any quality time with her at all. she celebrated her 4th birthday last october. because i cant afford to travel up to see her and i cant quit my job, because i pay maintenance, to move closer to her i never see her. her mother has told every lie imaginable in court to try and stop contact and as soon as my daughter is old enough to understand i'm sure she will begin
I am so sorry to hear that and just know you are not alone.. I have been living in that pain for close to 3 years... I call all the time and never get to talk to him.. I use youtube!! He sees me, they are dated, he knows Im healthy and missing him and loving him and that I am proud of him! The videos do not lie, she does. Watch them please and consider reaching out like that!!! Chris Belanger to Weston Belanger on google or on youtube.. God Bless
Mothers commit 3 times the abuse on children these days as Fathers and 4 times the amount as kidnappers. As a matter of fact. Mothers make up 49% of all kidnappings. This is a cold Fact with proven data. I don't like how these women keep pointing out that it's not just men doing this. They are trying to make you assume it's men doing and that only some women are. When in fact is is mostly women abusing children. The world needs to wake up and stop believing these old myths.
Parental Alienation Syndrome is totally false theory. It is so wrong. It has no scientific support at all. People think that way are ill. No one can turn the kids against any parent if they are good. My ex constantly bad mouth about me, and the kids never make any allegation at all. They know how bad their dad is. They told me that, "We dont want to have anything to do with him." It is psydo science. It put so many children in the abusers hand. It is so dangerous to the children.
The best chance for a guy to get anything fair in family court is to fight the way I fought when I got full custody of my daughter WITHOUT an attorney.....See me at ----------> HowIgotCustody dot o-r-g or dot c-o-m
Feminists are doing a good job guilting the policy makers into tipping the scales of justice in their favour.
This is not justice for the kids that get caught in the middle. I can hear the surgeon snipping the factory closed already. Then I can hit n run without guilt.
@Spadadiforza I am a long time feminist& look forward to the time when the scales r better balanced with jobs/pay scale,etc bet. men & women.But I believe in PAS and I think many women (and men) who consider themselves feminists recognize this stuff happens.As a therapist, I helped a male client, a good father work thru the system 2 get 2 see his children& help get some protection for his son who was really maliciously emotionally abused by a sick mother.This is not a black/white issue
Very true and he asks to spend time with me too. We as parents should be there to protect the Child's best interests including supporting requests to see the other parent regardless of personal gripes. It just doesn't work that way and sooner or later, men will just say no to getting women pregnant. F this.....I'm getting fixed and the next femme that tells me I got her prego , i'll laugh and walk.
And what the hell makes me a control freak, selfish and vindictive? I am not retaliating in any way and I continue to pay child support, out of pocket medical expenses, child care etc etc....and All I ask is for 20% of time share with my child. Get real.
I have been a victim of parental alienation for the past 5 years, the worst kind of abuse aimed at innocent parties.I feel extremely let down by the legal profession,they failed to see past the charming mask of a man who is a vicious control freak,manipulative,aggressive, using every type of bullying tactic there is, they failed to see how serious the situation is and still is.He is now remarried to his perfect accomplice and together they brainwashed my children against me. There are no words
The vast majority of Parental Alienation child abuse springs from false abuse allegations used in divorce primarily BY mothers to win all. Twin inseparable crimes: False abuse allegations & parental alienation child abuse, serious twin abuses supported and rewarded BY our "justice" system. When the 1st crime happens the 2nd follows.
It's politically correct to say, "Parental Alienation is gender neutral," if not simply denying it altogether.
As a child I was a victim child for PAS against my mother from an abusive father. As a Parent I'm a victim from my wife using PAS upon my son, used as a weapon to comfort her guilt of adultery against her husband. THIS EXISTS and for anyone who says it does not exist go FUCK OFF.
WE NEED HELP IN GETTING MEDIA ATTENTION FOR THE INJUSTICE IN THE COURT SYSTEM AND CSE AGAINST NON-CUSTODIAL PARENTS WHO ARE GOING THROUGH PARENTAL ALIENATION AND BEING ACCUSED UNJUSTLY!! LOOK UP GUY RIGHTZ on FACEBOOK, who is fighting for his freedom and others in the same situation.
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PAS - refuge of the chronically broken-hearted, lacking critical thinking skills and susceptible to unethical medical entrepreneurs and unscrupulous lawyers who play on their emotional suffering for a fast buck. Dr. R. Gardner, who coined the term PAS, also advocated against mandatory reporting laws for child abuse!
No professional association has recognized PAS as a relevant medical syndrome or mental disorder. PAS has been called "simplistic" and lacking in objective research.
@gregory mantell - Please have another show on how parents can stand up for their rights by not letting the courts force you into forfeiting your equal time to your children. And please have your viewers sign the petition for equal parenting rights at my YouTube channel @ sherrypalmer1 Petition to Take Children out of the Middle. Thanks and I look forward to more of your shows.
@realzoomy are you ok?.....your obsession with pedophilia is alarming...see if you can answer this question?....what would you say to a woman who is being alienated from her children? and what would you say to a man that is?
I took a course with Dr. Major, she was absolutely wonderful/committed and helped to educate me regarding the PAS situation I was dealing with ... my ex rewarded our kids for telling lies and punished them for telling the truth or expressing any sort of love for me... I fought a myriad of false accusations over 6 years, dealt with a situation with is now a basis for an upcoming film called What Tigers Do ... eventually the courts figured it out and I have full custody of our kids but PAS is real
This is a very real issue. I have lived through this and PA is child abuse. I advocate that you make the judges, congressmen, and officials in your community aware of the facts concerning alienation by an offending parent. The resulting damage on the child is devastating. The child is a part of both parents, when they are turned against one, they in essence are turned against themselves. It is very sad that parents who are targeted often feel helpless and give up. We never quit loving our kids.
@realzoomy you can get help for your blindness. Alienation is not too dissimilar to the belief that the earth was flat. Of course we know its round and more than 6000 years old and alienation will become accepted into the mainstream belief. try helping children by understanding this problem
@CounsellingQld Yes, I do need help at some point, as I have catteracts and am indeed going blind. But I see very well what the human traffickers and paedophiles are up to, as does God. You say I need help, but I fear you will never take the help offered by Jesus as a cure for your wickedness, repentance and forgiveness.
@realzoomy sorry, but wicked I am not and I don't need forgivness from your god/jesus/totem or anyone elses....let me say that you never consider the dynamic process that happens to women and men in the PAS process. It s a tragic abuse of parents and child. PAS has no relation to child abusers and human traffickers. Just think of all the people/children you could help if you fell off your high and mighty superstitious perch.
@CounsellingQld You PAS (invented by paedophile) worshippers make me laugh. You always trot out this tired old insult "YOU NEED HELP" and you really cannot hack it when you get outed for what you really are. The times of paedophiles life of Riley is coming to an end.Jesus said "The truth shall set you free" and victims of paedos have been turning to Jesus and finding they are not alone. The human trafficking regime is being broken up, the police are on to it praise the Lord!
@CounsellingQld The arrests have started, the police have been reinvigourated, they have been purging their forces of paedophiles, the Madelaine McCann investigation has been reopened, its all good news for children and very bad news for paedophiles and human traffickers, plus corrupt people who support and make money by supporting them.
My children have endured nearly nine years of Extreme Parental Alienation. And the father not only abuses them with alienation, but physically, verbally, emotionally. The youngest was just beat and when she found the courage to speak to authorities the father retrieved her and to silence her voice she has been missing since Jan. 7th, 2010. I am trying to reveal all the lies to Free our children from this abuse and loss of years of joy.
I'm a NOW member, long-time feminist and also a psychotherapist who has seen parent alienation syndrome. It was the mom and it was pretty bad. As the speakers said, it can be either gender.I wrote to NOW &asked them to reconsider their position on this.I have seen many more cases of the father being a problem when parents separate but it doesn't matter who is behaving badly...it hurts children, period. So, this syndrome can be used I think, to help the courts deal with one parents' craziness.
Well, do they put drug addicts in prison? and sometimes they commit crimes along with addictions, including horrible abuse of their own children.
So, we should calm down and realize that parental alienation syndrome would kick in high gear if we said this was a crime punishable by jail. That is doing what this video says to NOT do.
FYI. But treatement, awareness, education and rehabilitation should be enforced if the alienator persists.
Im 30yrs old and wish my mom would have told me what a asshole my father was when i was a kid..I was mad when i found out what kinda person my father is....
try a ( child custody predator for benefits ), meaning kidnapper using the incompetence of the family court system. Kidnapper above the law has now been documented multiple cases in Georgia. Cps corruption.wmv
I agree 100% that this is one of the cruelest things a parent can do. I think it is usually done in divorce and can also be done in any other argument a parent has with someone where the parent is mad at someone so the parent brainwashes the child or children into thinking the person they are mad at is bad. This is morally wrong for the parent to do and most especially when its the child's other parent.
Like the lady said, this is gender neutral, my daughter is a victim of this type of thing. Her ex husband is doing everything he can to take the kids away from her. He files false complaints with the child welfare protection services. He coaches the kids on what to say and convinces them that false memories have happened. Her daughter has even said to her "Yes it did happen, you just don't remember". The daughter is under 10 yrs old.
Im being Alienated now. Been charged criminally on 6 charges is false sexual assault charges here in Canada. Mentioned this alienation in court now the crown prosecutor is going ballistic saying I am slamming a crown witness.
Visit the website HowIGotCustody dotcom to see a father's account of how he overcame this corruption and got custody WITHOUT an attorney and how he's helped many others get custody WITHOUT an attorney.
Excellent video. PAS certainly does exist and the feminazi's that deny it are probably the biggest perpetrators.
PAS is child abuse.... and yes I am a woman...I also detest feminazi man hating women. Not all men are bad. There are good dads. And any father is better than no father.
Most who are the alienator's are sociopaths and narcissists. Have you heard of maternal alienation. Google it. This is what happened to me. My Ex the step father was going after my daughter sexually. He is a narcissist too.
My son's father took in my daughter as his own her entire life. The father caused so many problems their entire lives, that when he took me to court when my son was 13, I let him go hoping the fighting would stop. He is now 16 and I haven't seen him since (justice is only for the rich). I feel bad for my son, but more so my daughter, who never had her biological father, ignored now by the person she always viewed as her father...and now lost her brother.
I don't trust either of my parents anymore because of this. When I was a toddler they would fight almost every day, screaming and cussing at eachother. I remember that, but they each tell stories about how the other parent would do this sneaky stuff, like drugs and even threaten the other one. At first all I wanted was the truth, but after 9 years of it I gave up. I was sick of hearing "I love you, I would never lie to you" from both of them. But I still can't stand to even imagine them crying.
My ex handed me an Anti-harassment court order from my 20 year old daughter...and the judge (Judge Nault of Issaquah, WA) gave 5 yrs. no contact, based on hearsay...and he gave no reason I did an Appeal ProSe, and a Trial Brief (which my daughter never responded to, so all may be dismissed soon.)
~~ I would like to do a civil case against my ex....for actual & punitive damages, FOR$10K...FOR Parental Alienation thru manipulation and intentional infliction of emotional distress....
PAS is not recognized by the Diagnostic and Statical Manual for Mental health, North America's "bible" for assessing and diagnosing mental illnesses, Wikipedia refers to it as "Junk Science". Yet Dr. Major in this video characterizes a percentage of "alienating" parents as being so obsessive as to be unworkable, and that for a child to be rescued, to be removed from that negative influence. This to me, sounds like mental health issues, whether temporary or not.
Because if PAS was accepted,then there would be one less tool to destroy the male.Sure it happens to women,but it's the majority of women who are committing PAS. Want reality?...imagine if the father was the primary PAS practicer,i think most know the answer to that one.
I would ask the DR. if PAS could be linked to postpartum depression,and/or mental illnesses? Because this is the worst thing you could do to a child.
I dealt with this myself, and in fact studied with Dr. Major to help arm myself for what I was dealing with ... Now the subject matter is the basis for an upcoming movie called "What Tigers Do," which I think carries a vitally important message for dads and moms alike ... just make sure you're fighting for the right reasons ...
i would like to see more support for the fathers fighting for there kids . This can take years, please leave a message of support on my song My Baby Had No Choice, thanks for this upload, it makes it so clear.
Hwat if the Mother are Right?. Maby some perents should be ekssamend as well as the children. the 48 -56 generation have lost there ability to differ good from Not good.As a generation, not as idividuals thoug,,Maby its the price for letting sexual emotion before child wallues? what do i know i was born in the 70 ties
I spent two years in court trying to straighten things out ... I gave up ... I thought it would be too much for Aaron, my son. I was accused of inappropriate sexual conduct and more. The first judge wanted proof. 5 judges later nothing changed in the courtroom, I had to pay to see my son. I believe the courts are aware: It all comes down to money.
This happens on many levels and it is never acceptable to do this to a child and their other parent. We all know people who do this. When you hear a friend or family member demonize their own child's other parent you should say something. Don't just listen, nod or agree.
Say very strongly 'don't do that, it is wrong!" Sometimes it’s all the wider family around the child doing this to the estranged parent. This is such obvious and destructive child abuse.
I was abused in this way It has destoryed many parts of my life i grew up extermly poor with out my father and turned to a gang life to find out at the age of 23 found out that my mother lied about my father being a pedife who moesled me and my sister. he died at 46 of a heart atttack. I feel deep pain every day and live life with much regret
I think you can still do something about it. if your father had been convicted, you may be able to get the record straight through legal channels. Your mother should also face the consequences of her lies that destroyed you and your father.
knowing a man who is a gay, non biological father who has fallen through the gaps in Alberta he has experienced precedent setting, media banned trial, court of appeal and it still continues.....Help.
@mixerNack cuz they are f'n psychotic...i haven't seen my kids in over three years and the bitch keeps peppering me with legal bs to where i can't scrape the funds to address visitation and custody. i took the high road but it all fell apart and i cracked under the strain.
@mixerNack Often there is a grudge between the parents during or after a divorce and one parent uses the child to hurt the other parent even in some cases use the child to get the other parent sent to jail in some occasions (at least in Sweden it have happened) because the child have been brainwashed to "remember" things that never have happened like child molestation.
Feel free to send a direct msg if you want to talk more about it.
Parent alienation can be subtle. I have experienced it in many forms. I am not the custodial parent of my only son, who just turned seven years old. His mother, my ex wife, has alienated my son from me on numerous occasions.
@Saxxyman There is endless of examples I can line up where accusations against the man like rape and child molestation have gotten men sent to jail only to have the truth come out many years later that it was all BS accusations. A social worker have told me that during a seminar she attended that if the man tells a story straight through he is lying and if a woman is changing the story all the time she it telling the truth as she is in shock and that is why it can change.
kiviaavikko . this is such an ignorant comment, quite bullying too! .You have no right to instruct others on what they should do. For a child's well-being it is important to have two mentally healthy parents. When a child is used by one parent against the other it's as though even the good parent has been removed.Children need a reference point to formulate healthy attitudes..WHAT WOULD YOU REPLACE PARENTS WITH?
Another example of medicalization gone mad. There is no such thing as parental alienation "syndrome." There is only alienation. Stop masquerading life's problem's as diseases and disorders!
So what happenes to a parent who turns a kid against the other parent and gets custody of the kid. Will the kid grow up believing they have a bad parent who they need to avoid.
THIS IS THE MOST EVIL CRIME IN OUR SOCIETY IT'S LIKE PERPETUAL RAPE. IT'S GOT TO BE STOPPED AND PEOPLE DOING THIS SHOULD BE SEEN AS NONCES (PEOPLE WHO HURT CHILDREN AND THE VULNERABLE)
I was still married to the man who alienated my son from me. M ex-husband is a very sick man. He has brainwashed my son who now as an adult is in a lot of pain due to the confusion. His father has projected his bad relationship with his mother onto our son, also I'm being blamed for getting into his head which is what his dad does. I was made so sick I could not leave my husband as he told me I'd lose my son completely. I had M.E.
@musicaldawnings My sons brainwashing is so absolute that my son now believes the lies of his father. His father can somehow ( I don't know how he does it) blame all that he does onto me. I didn't want to rip my son in half by pointing out what his father is up to. His father works for social services in Merseyside. My sons attitude is strange yet superficially he seems sociable.
I am dealing with this situation at the moment. The scariest thing is unless someone has experienced it first hand they just don't believe it's real. What breaks my heart is whats happening to my daughter.
@fordsfolly i am dealing with this and it has come to the extreme of false allegation of child abuse against my boyfriend... and believe me I am very protective of my children and due to all the dads actions...and all the times my kids have come back from their dads ranting and raving accusations to me and my boyfriend its hard to believe its true. its the fault of the harrassive dad and I totally agree with you is that NO ONE who has been through such a whirlwind can even fathom any part of it.
@fordsfolly i really wish someone would have turned me onto PAS i could have stopped it along time ago.. but my fault in trying to keep the kids father in their life.. look where it got us... just evil pure evil.....
wife told my family that she thought I loved our kids more than her. I didnt know she talked to my family let alone competed with the kids! her mom tells my oldest that I am the devil. Granny refused to pay her rent-share, didnt bother looking 4 a new place. Took our daughters room from them. now im gone and decides to pay her rent-share. wife changed oldest's school to "protect" them cuz she "has taken them b4" from me, so i get supervised visits.1x a mo.2hrs.$70. more civil, less P.O.
False alegations lead to parental allienation child abuse: Twin crimes.
This can lead to murder of that real abuser (mom). I saw another murder in the news - result of mom's false allegations followed by parental alienation & more abuse, ending in her murder.
People are easily sidetracked, forgetting the mom was a horrible abuser. Most of all they are blind to the ultimate abusers, driving the whole mess for profit and power - the state (legislators, family courts, DV coalitions...).
Dr Major says 1:30 "Dr Jane Major: Normal people dont act like that: normal people solve their problems as they develop. They dont escalate their problems with drama and come in with all kinds of false allegations and create mayhem. Especially they dont use their child as a pawn.
Its the worst case scenario of child abuse because children are having their will and their choice taken away from them.
This is very sad when one parent makes the children hate the other. But what about the parent that uses the other parent as an excuse not to see thier children what syndrome is that?
I too have been a victim of my ex of 25 years. My kids are more or less grown up now, but she has stopped me seeing them. There are some really good web sites out there, pointing out almost everything that she has done that sounds familiar. I just wish that someone was taking control of this type of vicious, abusive woman and stopping it. The message from the experts is, dont ever give up; and dont give up hope. You never want to be accused of not trying.....
@dickdastardly999 I'm all tried out!! 21 years, kids don't know me and I don't know them. They are a product of their evil Mother, with no influence from me. The bomb she dropped ( false sex abuse claims) did it's intended purpose. The kids are grown, brainwashed and gone. I might as well be and move on.
PAS is something that's very common in Sweden where it is accepted by the justice system and the social authority's. Fathers gets punished and even sent to jail because of lies from the mothers. I remember a court case where the father was sent to jail because the mother had a diary with all kinds of horribly accusations against the father and he was sent to jail. In court of appeal the truth came out that the mother had fabricated it all and she was NOT punished for destroying a mans life.
@Deji1987 what a terrible miscarriage of justice!! No matter what the label and calling it an illness, isn't rapist considered mentaly ill? They are punnished! This is a horrible crime and it should be punnished on the same severity as what it would do the accused!
An excellent book comes out in September 2010; a horrendous story of parental alienation and a corrupt family court, hidden beneath a lighthearted story of a dog, and bound to bring tears to your eyes. It's a true story, three years in writing... for a preview check out my blog. God bless...
NO ONE should EVER, especially not children, be treated in such a horrible way! Please do all you can to get yourself happy and healthy! One or both of your parents have issues, and it is not right to make you suffer because of them!
I speak from the point of a mother who's children have suffered for years at the hands of their pretty much insane father and stepmother. Just remember who you are, and know that you have power and the right to be happy!
@BuhByeUnicorn speak to your doctor he may be able to arrange a type of counselling where you are supported in a nurturing manner as you start to strip away the layers of pain, you have been betrayed..Blessings
I divorced my ex nearly five years ago and have been married going on 3 years. Ever since we divorced with joint custody my ex has been trying to get sole custody ever since. This is a 10 & 13 year old. I haven't seen them in months and have a court date 1/27/10. I don't have money for attorney and this is straining my current marriage. I have another son. Am so tired of fighting I wish I could just disappear.
I am so sorry at what you are going through. Please hang on as your children need you. taking an X to court repeatedly is a sign of abusive behavior. your X sounds obsessed and selfish.
My step-daugthers are ruined by this....the legal system has to stop being so cheap and actually "do what's in the best interest of the children", they do what 's in the best interest of the lawyers. Children are being ruined and society will pay the price and the children will suffer.
Not only parents can do this, but grandparents as well. I was widowed and my inlaws told my very young children that I killed my husband ( he died of cancer). My children not only were turned against me but feared for their own lives. It took a great deal or re building trust to help my children gain trust in me but also to feel safe and secure.
You do need to move on from the divorced person but keep in mind the person that you love and always send them love. To let them know you love them is very reassuring to them when they begin to question their ABUSER.
when a child is asked if they like the other parent and they don't have a reason why except for well, mommy or daddy doesn't - that is child abuse. when are people - the adults who are supposed to be an example for their children. grow up!! maybe we should call the adults children and the children adults.
I am a Dutch woman and I do not understand everything in this video. Who wants to write the text for me in document or make the english titles in this video? I would be very grateful to you. Maybe I can use this to get my son back who is a victim of PAS. I haven't seen him for almost two years know.
Just letting all you dads know that whenever you see your kid if you say "your mother is trying to turn you against me" is not always tactful and it can work against you if your kid has a strong reaction to it. Best way to over come it my advice would be to keep persisting but very important let the kid see no confrontation between you and the mum. even better don't communicate at all or evenbn better still be nice to the mum if you kind of know what i mean bcoz your kid will pick up on this!!
This lady know exactly what she is talking about. I was a good dad who loved his son. Was looking forward to a life time relationship/friendship with my kid. This was done to get back at me for divorcing her. She also did this to my son to accept the man she moved them in with. This is child abuse. The worst kind. Not only was I removed from his life, my parents were as well.She has low self esteem and must have all of my sons love. He has been her pawn long enough.
Another point is this. We must not give children the message that when a parent acts in a dangerous way, that it is all right. In my opionion, this is the MOST IMPORTANT point of protecting a child's psyche as well as the MOST contraversial and it is in this point that these attempts to help the child is lost.
To clarify...just because the mother mentioned some examples, what you need to understand, dear host of this show, is these personalities are truly are carelessly dangerous to their children and it is very important to get some kind of restraining order.
Excellent Video about how severely children are abused by PAS. I have seen childrens lives destroyed by the ignorance that still exists about PAS in our society. We need to applaud those with the courage to confront this form of child abuse in our courts and society. Please send this video to judges, attorneys, law eforcement, child psychologists and anyone working to assess the best interests in the future of a child.
Please share this knowledge to help the suffering.
great video more parents who alienate should receive a copy of this!! They have no idea how much damage they are doing to their own flesh and blood :(
I passed it on to a friend of mine who goes through this same exact thing with his son being brainwashed by the mom
do you happen to know at what age kids actually feel hate on their own accord under normal circumstances without being manipulated or brainwashed into it ?
Wow I wanted to learn more about PAS because I am a DV survivor and my child has been returned to me following visitation badly injured and doctors to cps to therapists have said dont send this child back. This year my child started to say the other parent was hitting, hurting, and touching sexually. I didnt want to believe this. My child persisted and showed all the signs of being abused. I had to ask the courts for help Now I see that both the abuse & PAS apply to the other parent.
FUCK ALL OF THE CRUEL WOMEN WHO DO THIS TO THEIR CHILDREN IN THE NAME OF LOVE. They only love one person, themself. If the children need to be used as a pawn, TO BAD. They just want their way.
What is also becoming alarming is the increased role of grandparents in these cases.
What your seeing is the end of the institution of marriage. It's far easier not to marry and have agreements drawn up. Marriage will become so bogged down by so many people having "rights" that the two most important people, the husband and wife, won't have any.
There IS a way around PAS and that requires greater involvement of the family courts monitoring both sides to guard against it.
I'm a member of a local parental rights group and I see this all the time.
This officer is the rarity, and she should be commended, but erring on the side of protection of the child screws the falsely accused. What she doesn't address is the punishment for making the false allegations, and how to mend those problems. The appearance of truth is exactly what slimey attorneys do--they coach how to make this happen. WHAT DO WE DO TO GET OUR CHILDREN BACK!!!!!!! HELP!!!!
take a messy divorce, a greedy x, and you have false allegations. I know, because I went thru it.
rob a bank, your on video, drugs, your caught with drugs. stolen car. you get caught with stolen property. but, "he touched me" where is the evidence? where is the prosecution for EITHER spouse making false allegations? all here should view false allegations solutions team & i am a member. usually men HAVE 2 prove that accusations haven't happened. please google FAST & you will see what i went thru!
Excellent video! I was and still a victim of PAS. I have not seeing my two daughters since they were eight and four for the past six years. PAS is a very sad, frustrating and serious debilitating dilemma in a divorce case. I took the high road and it is not easy living with the decision because you question yourself if you did the right thing.
Taking the high road is not an easy choice! I also had to take the high road when my son was 13, after continuously trying to make the courts realize. My son was threatened by his father to lie on the stand and then I knew I was only causing my son more harm by pursuing my ex-husband. My son is now 19 and we are now finally to have a relationship. Unfortunately, I have to still step back and allow him to come to me, but I continue to let him know I will always be here for him.
Wow, what a consolation to find this video. It's high time the word starts getting out. I was a targeted parent many years before I'd even heard of PAS. My ex wife is determined to make our children enemies of me and is currently asking the court to limit my parenting time to supervised visitation as though I were a child molester. Preferably she wants to eliminate all parenting time that I deserve to have with the kids.
i am currently going through this and have been for 4 years constantly having to defend myself against untrue allegations by my sons mother. the law in scotland is a total mess regarding this subject.. i just wish my ex would die and maybe i could have a normal relationship with my 6 year old son
Sadly, this PAS video is all too real. The legal system is easily subverted since they have no equal checks/balances. All famiy, relatives and friends suffer. You can be taken to court & lose everything if you lack some in CS payments, even if Ex denies court ordered visitations...yet visitation orders are rarely enforced at all. I've posted it on MySpace hoping that someday my kids will watch. But they are in the 15% of obsessed alienators, so I doubt they'll ever care.
wow you are a typical deadbeat mom. sure you made every effort to develop a relationship btwn your ex and his kid. alcoholism is an illness-whats being a moron?
A pro-active NGO in Malaysia PEMALIK is extremely concerned about the future of children in the background of selfish parent(s) pursuing matters for the benefit of themselves over children. A very immature disgusting side of themselves with lack of understanding of marriage vows. These cheats show their ugly self in society. Judges are to deal with such bad people.. who have put priority for themselves with the test of time.. It's in times like these we separate one from the other..
N.O.W. knows that PAS exists. N.O.W. also know that if society acknowledged PAS, women would loose their legal advantages in divource court. That's what makes N.O.W. a bunch of liars.
BTW - most alienators are women. It's a load of bunk that just as many men do it. Women are awarded custody %95 percent of the time, and it's usually the custodial parent who alienates.
It might be true that men are mainly alienated but I am a woman and this is happening to me. My drug addict acoholic hopefully soon to be X has been brainwashing my now 13 year old since she was 2. This man has abused me mentally and physically now since I met him in 1998. I have let many times with my daughter throughout the marriage finally I escaped with my life on February 2007.
so true, so true, so true. this is a great and accurate overview.
munciephotography 1 week ago
another syndrome?? it's too obvious, another drug to sell? watch the marketing madness documentary
PopilOctavian 2 weeks ago
A common criminal at least gets the opportunity to defend himself and be heard. I wish my ex wife would grant me that right.Loosing your kids because your ex has them trained to hate you is like having your heart ripped from you chest time and time again. Now I have a grand child,,Knowing my grand child is not and option for me,,,I have to ask what on earth have I done to have such a big part of my life taken from me? The coward will not communicate to even say why.
holdersteven 1 month ago
poisoning her mind against me. i'm keen to speak to children who have reconciled with the alienated parent and how the relationship has progressed. i would also like to be informed if anyone knows of any documentaries, i could become involved with so that i can help make this condition better known. any contact from the alienated arent would also be welcomed.
daweseyco1 1 month ago
i'm not divorced, i was never married. my xe and i split up when my daughter was about 9 months old. and i havent really speant any quality time with her at all. she celebrated her 4th birthday last october. because i cant afford to travel up to see her and i cant quit my job, because i pay maintenance, to move closer to her i never see her. her mother has told every lie imaginable in court to try and stop contact and as soon as my daughter is old enough to understand i'm sure she will begin
daweseyco1 1 month ago
I am so sorry to hear that and just know you are not alone.. I have been living in that pain for close to 3 years... I call all the time and never get to talk to him.. I use youtube!! He sees me, they are dated, he knows Im healthy and missing him and loving him and that I am proud of him! The videos do not lie, she does. Watch them please and consider reaching out like that!!! Chris Belanger to Weston Belanger on google or on youtube.. God Bless
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classaction666 2 months ago
Mothers commit 3 times the abuse on children these days as Fathers and 4 times the amount as kidnappers. As a matter of fact. Mothers make up 49% of all kidnappings. This is a cold Fact with proven data. I don't like how these women keep pointing out that it's not just men doing this. They are trying to make you assume it's men doing and that only some women are. When in fact is is mostly women abusing children. The world needs to wake up and stop believing these old myths.
SacredSocietyAP 4 months ago
Parental Alienation Syndrome is totally false theory. It is so wrong. It has no scientific support at all. People think that way are ill. No one can turn the kids against any parent if they are good. My ex constantly bad mouth about me, and the kids never make any allegation at all. They know how bad their dad is. They told me that, "We dont want to have anything to do with him." It is psydo science. It put so many children in the abusers hand. It is so dangerous to the children.
willis446 4 months ago
@willis446 You are full of shit. There are millions of kids going through this. You are ONE person with your own story.
SacredSocietyAP 4 months ago
It is NOT equal women do it FAR more than men do. At least here in the good ole USA.
MsExoticBliss 5 months ago
I'd like to see the movie.
SpeakaDaEnglish 5 months ago
The best chance for a guy to get anything fair in family court is to fight the way I fought when I got full custody of my daughter WITHOUT an attorney.....See me at ----------> HowIgotCustody dot o-r-g or dot c-o-m
prosedad1 6 months ago
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Feminists are doing a good job guilting the policy makers into tipping the scales of justice in their favour.
This is not justice for the kids that get caught in the middle. I can hear the surgeon snipping the factory closed already. Then I can hit n run without guilt.
Spadadiforza 7 months ago
@Spadadiforza I am a long time feminist& look forward to the time when the scales r better balanced with jobs/pay scale,etc bet. men & women.But I believe in PAS and I think many women (and men) who consider themselves feminists recognize this stuff happens.As a therapist, I helped a male client, a good father work thru the system 2 get 2 see his children& help get some protection for his son who was really maliciously emotionally abused by a sick mother.This is not a black/white issue
suetiggers 3 months ago
@MtEvols
Very true and he asks to spend time with me too. We as parents should be there to protect the Child's best interests including supporting requests to see the other parent regardless of personal gripes. It just doesn't work that way and sooner or later, men will just say no to getting women pregnant. F this.....I'm getting fixed and the next femme that tells me I got her prego , i'll laugh and walk.
Spadadiforza 7 months ago
@MtEvols
And what the hell makes me a control freak, selfish and vindictive? I am not retaliating in any way and I continue to pay child support, out of pocket medical expenses, child care etc etc....and All I ask is for 20% of time share with my child. Get real.
Spadadiforza 7 months ago
I have been a victim of parental alienation for the past 5 years, the worst kind of abuse aimed at innocent parties.I feel extremely let down by the legal profession,they failed to see past the charming mask of a man who is a vicious control freak,manipulative,aggressive, using every type of bullying tactic there is, they failed to see how serious the situation is and still is.He is now remarried to his perfect accomplice and together they brainwashed my children against me. There are no words
MsAmethyststar 7 months ago
Parental Alienation is NOT gender neutral.
The vast majority of Parental Alienation child abuse springs from false abuse allegations used in divorce primarily BY mothers to win all. Twin inseparable crimes: False abuse allegations & parental alienation child abuse, serious twin abuses supported and rewarded BY our "justice" system. When the 1st crime happens the 2nd follows.
It's politically correct to say, "Parental Alienation is gender neutral," if not simply denying it altogether.
addvoc8 7 months ago
@addvoc8 isnt it gender neutral if both men and women do it, ive seen hundreds of cases of PAS by both genders
CounsellingQld 7 months ago
its not mental illness it is called being a control freak, selfish and being vindictive all without consideration for the childs best interest.
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@Spadadiforza You got it.
williejenkins666 7 months ago
@Spadadiforza That is exactly what it is. Is simply being manipulative. The politicians are a perfect example of "alienators".
MGGoblin 7 months ago
As a child I was a victim child for PAS against my mother from an abusive father. As a Parent I'm a victim from my wife using PAS upon my son, used as a weapon to comfort her guilt of adultery against her husband. THIS EXISTS and for anyone who says it does not exist go FUCK OFF.
athaskins 7 months ago
WE NEED HELP IN GETTING MEDIA ATTENTION FOR THE INJUSTICE IN THE COURT SYSTEM AND CSE AGAINST NON-CUSTODIAL PARENTS WHO ARE GOING THROUGH PARENTAL ALIENATION AND BEING ACCUSED UNJUSTLY!! LOOK UP GUY RIGHTZ on FACEBOOK, who is fighting for his freedom and others in the same situation.
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For everybody who says this isnt a syndrome you have to FUCK OFF. I LIVED THROUGH THIS.
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laberthier 8 months ago
PAS - refuge of the chronically broken-hearted, lacking critical thinking skills and susceptible to unethical medical entrepreneurs and unscrupulous lawyers who play on their emotional suffering for a fast buck. Dr. R. Gardner, who coined the term PAS, also advocated against mandatory reporting laws for child abuse!
No professional association has recognized PAS as a relevant medical syndrome or mental disorder. PAS has been called "simplistic" and lacking in objective research.
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@gregory mantell - Please have another show on how parents can stand up for their rights by not letting the courts force you into forfeiting your equal time to your children. And please have your viewers sign the petition for equal parenting rights at my YouTube channel @ sherrypalmer1 Petition to Take Children out of the Middle. Thanks and I look forward to more of your shows.
SherryPalmer1 8 months ago
PRAISE THE LORD! The police are reinvestigating the historic abuse
realzoomy 8 months ago
@realzoomy are you ok?.....your obsession with pedophilia is alarming...see if you can answer this question?....what would you say to a woman who is being alienated from her children? and what would you say to a man that is?
best if you stick to your god
CounsellingQld 8 months ago
I took a course with Dr. Major, she was absolutely wonderful/committed and helped to educate me regarding the PAS situation I was dealing with ... my ex rewarded our kids for telling lies and punished them for telling the truth or expressing any sort of love for me... I fought a myriad of false accusations over 6 years, dealt with a situation with is now a basis for an upcoming film called What Tigers Do ... eventually the courts figured it out and I have full custody of our kids but PAS is real
TargetPractice08 8 months ago
This is a very real issue. I have lived through this and PA is child abuse. I advocate that you make the judges, congressmen, and officials in your community aware of the facts concerning alienation by an offending parent. The resulting damage on the child is devastating. The child is a part of both parents, when they are turned against one, they in essence are turned against themselves. It is very sad that parents who are targeted often feel helpless and give up. We never quit loving our kids.
HoofPros 9 months ago
Parental Alienation Syndrome was invented by a paedophile and is a great money spinner for corrupt lawyers.
realzoomy 10 months ago
@realzoomy you can get help for your blindness. Alienation is not too dissimilar to the belief that the earth was flat
CounsellingQld 8 months ago
@realzoomy you can get help for your blindness. Alienation is not too dissimilar to the belief that the earth was flat. Of course we know its round and more than 6000 years old and alienation will become accepted into the mainstream belief. try helping children by understanding this problem
CounsellingQld 8 months ago
@CounsellingQld Yes, I do need help at some point, as I have catteracts and am indeed going blind. But I see very well what the human traffickers and paedophiles are up to, as does God. You say I need help, but I fear you will never take the help offered by Jesus as a cure for your wickedness, repentance and forgiveness.
realzoomy 8 months ago
@realzoomy sorry, but wicked I am not and I don't need forgivness from your god/jesus/totem or anyone elses....let me say that you never consider the dynamic process that happens to women and men in the PAS process. It s a tragic abuse of parents and child. PAS has no relation to child abusers and human traffickers. Just think of all the people/children you could help if you fell off your high and mighty superstitious perch.
CounsellingQld 8 months ago
@CounsellingQld You PAS (invented by paedophile) worshippers make me laugh. You always trot out this tired old insult "YOU NEED HELP" and you really cannot hack it when you get outed for what you really are. The times of paedophiles life of Riley is coming to an end.Jesus said "The truth shall set you free" and victims of paedos have been turning to Jesus and finding they are not alone. The human trafficking regime is being broken up, the police are on to it praise the Lord!
realzoomy 8 months ago
@CounsellingQld The arrests have started, the police have been reinvigourated, they have been purging their forces of paedophiles, the Madelaine McCann investigation has been reopened, its all good news for children and very bad news for paedophiles and human traffickers, plus corrupt people who support and make money by supporting them.
realzoomy 8 months ago
My children have endured nearly nine years of Extreme Parental Alienation. And the father not only abuses them with alienation, but physically, verbally, emotionally. The youngest was just beat and when she found the courage to speak to authorities the father retrieved her and to silence her voice she has been missing since Jan. 7th, 2010. I am trying to reveal all the lies to Free our children from this abuse and loss of years of joy.
realexhousewifeoc 10 months ago
PAS is not real! it can not be proven. it is peoples opinion...Did any actually see the other parent do it? no
blackout560 10 months ago
@blackout560 you go girl!
jhofffilms 10 months ago
@jhofffilms exuse me? girl...i dont think so bud
blackout560 10 months ago
I'm a NOW member, long-time feminist and also a psychotherapist who has seen parent alienation syndrome. It was the mom and it was pretty bad. As the speakers said, it can be either gender.I wrote to NOW &asked them to reconsider their position on this.I have seen many more cases of the father being a problem when parents separate but it doesn't matter who is behaving badly...it hurts children, period. So, this syndrome can be used I think, to help the courts deal with one parents' craziness.
suetiggers 11 months ago
The dr. states it's "thee WORST form of child abuse'!!!!
Then this should be a CRIME!!!! Punishable by imprisonment!!!
sunset305 11 months ago
@sunset305
Well, do they put drug addicts in prison? and sometimes they commit crimes along with addictions, including horrible abuse of their own children.
So, we should calm down and realize that parental alienation syndrome would kick in high gear if we said this was a crime punishable by jail. That is doing what this video says to NOT do.
FYI. But treatement, awareness, education and rehabilitation should be enforced if the alienator persists.
wwwpower1 11 months ago
Im 30yrs old and wish my mom would have told me what a asshole my father was when i was a kid..I was mad when i found out what kinda person my father is....
amandagates28 1 year ago
try a ( child custody predator for benefits ), meaning kidnapper using the incompetence of the family court system. Kidnapper above the law has now been documented multiple cases in Georgia. Cps corruption.wmv
lukilotus 1 year ago
What if its a GRANDMA that turned a child against a mom?
djkissbird 1 year ago
I agree 100% that this is one of the cruelest things a parent can do. I think it is usually done in divorce and can also be done in any other argument a parent has with someone where the parent is mad at someone so the parent brainwashes the child or children into thinking the person they are mad at is bad. This is morally wrong for the parent to do and most especially when its the child's other parent.
Gowalum 1 year ago
Like the lady said, this is gender neutral, my daughter is a victim of this type of thing. Her ex husband is doing everything he can to take the kids away from her. He files false complaints with the child welfare protection services. He coaches the kids on what to say and convinces them that false memories have happened. Her daughter has even said to her "Yes it did happen, you just don't remember". The daughter is under 10 yrs old.
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kzkleyoile 1 year ago
Im being Alienated now. Been charged criminally on 6 charges is false sexual assault charges here in Canada. Mentioned this alienation in court now the crown prosecutor is going ballistic saying I am slamming a crown witness.
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aweinsto 1 year ago
Visit the website HowIGotCustody dotcom to see a father's account of how he overcame this corruption and got custody WITHOUT an attorney and how he's helped many others get custody WITHOUT an attorney.
prosedad1 1 year ago
Excellent video. PAS certainly does exist and the feminazi's that deny it are probably the biggest perpetrators.
PAS is child abuse.... and yes I am a woman...I also detest feminazi man hating women. Not all men are bad. There are good dads. And any father is better than no father.
blueshadowes 1 year ago
Most who are the alienator's are sociopaths and narcissists. Have you heard of maternal alienation. Google it. This is what happened to me. My Ex the step father was going after my daughter sexually. He is a narcissist too.
memories4me 1 year ago
My son's father took in my daughter as his own her entire life. The father caused so many problems their entire lives, that when he took me to court when my son was 13, I let him go hoping the fighting would stop. He is now 16 and I haven't seen him since (justice is only for the rich). I feel bad for my son, but more so my daughter, who never had her biological father, ignored now by the person she always viewed as her father...and now lost her brother.
33dolce 1 year ago
I don't trust either of my parents anymore because of this. When I was a toddler they would fight almost every day, screaming and cussing at eachother. I remember that, but they each tell stories about how the other parent would do this sneaky stuff, like drugs and even threaten the other one. At first all I wanted was the truth, but after 9 years of it I gave up. I was sick of hearing "I love you, I would never lie to you" from both of them. But I still can't stand to even imagine them crying.
RelegasianChaos 1 year ago
My ex handed me an Anti-harassment court order from my 20 year old daughter...and the judge (Judge Nault of Issaquah, WA) gave 5 yrs. no contact, based on hearsay...and he gave no reason I did an Appeal ProSe, and a Trial Brief (which my daughter never responded to, so all may be dismissed soon.)
~~ I would like to do a civil case against my ex....for actual & punitive damages, FOR$10K...FOR Parental Alienation thru manipulation and intentional infliction of emotional distress....
marypoppins2009 1 year ago
PAS is not recognized by the Diagnostic and Statical Manual for Mental health, North America's "bible" for assessing and diagnosing mental illnesses, Wikipedia refers to it as "Junk Science". Yet Dr. Major in this video characterizes a percentage of "alienating" parents as being so obsessive as to be unworkable, and that for a child to be rescued, to be removed from that negative influence. This to me, sounds like mental health issues, whether temporary or not.
DiaryofaDivorcedDad 1 year ago
@DiaryofaDivorcedDad
Because if PAS was accepted,then there would be one less tool to destroy the male.Sure it happens to women,but it's the majority of women who are committing PAS. Want reality?...imagine if the father was the primary PAS practicer,i think most know the answer to that one.
I would ask the DR. if PAS could be linked to postpartum depression,and/or mental illnesses? Because this is the worst thing you could do to a child.
Knowing my child hates me,is killing me...slowly
ZOMBIELANDakaUSA 1 year ago
I dealt with this myself, and in fact studied with Dr. Major to help arm myself for what I was dealing with ... Now the subject matter is the basis for an upcoming movie called "What Tigers Do," which I think carries a vitally important message for dads and moms alike ... just make sure you're fighting for the right reasons ...
TargetPractice08 1 year ago
i would like to see more support for the fathers fighting for there kids . This can take years, please leave a message of support on my song My Baby Had No Choice, thanks for this upload, it makes it so clear.
martineric1966 1 year ago
Hwat if the Mother are Right?. Maby some perents should be ekssamend as well as the children. the 48 -56 generation have lost there ability to differ good from Not good.As a generation, not as idividuals thoug,,Maby its the price for letting sexual emotion before child wallues? what do i know i was born in the 70 ties
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binga7300 1 year ago
Hwat if the Mother are Right?. Maby some perents should be ecsamend as well as the children.
binga7300 1 year ago
I spent two years in court trying to straighten things out ... I gave up ... I thought it would be too much for Aaron, my son. I was accused of inappropriate sexual conduct and more. The first judge wanted proof. 5 judges later nothing changed in the courtroom, I had to pay to see my son. I believe the courts are aware: It all comes down to money.
jcutrock 1 year ago
This happens on many levels and it is never acceptable to do this to a child and their other parent. We all know people who do this. When you hear a friend or family member demonize their own child's other parent you should say something. Don't just listen, nod or agree.
Say very strongly 'don't do that, it is wrong!" Sometimes it’s all the wider family around the child doing this to the estranged parent. This is such obvious and destructive child abuse.
twolittletears 1 year ago
I was abused in this way It has destoryed many parts of my life i grew up extermly poor with out my father and turned to a gang life to find out at the age of 23 found out that my mother lied about my father being a pedife who moesled me and my sister. he died at 46 of a heart atttack. I feel deep pain every day and live life with much regret
B1azinNinja 1 year ago
@B1azinNinja
I think you can still do something about it. if your father had been convicted, you may be able to get the record straight through legal channels. Your mother should also face the consequences of her lies that destroyed you and your father.
alfalfafalafelmafia 1 year ago
knowing a man who is a gay, non biological father who has fallen through the gaps in Alberta he has experienced precedent setting, media banned trial, court of appeal and it still continues.....Help.
scattzke 1 year ago
No child should be alienated from it parent and good or bad, they should spend 50% with each in the case of a divorce.
Even if neither the child nor any of the parents doesn't want each other, they must be forced together and wall the house's door of that home.
That's would be much better our already screwed up "modern" medieval society.
BullshitWatcher 1 year ago
Why does the parent get so obsessed ?
mixerNack 1 year ago
@mixerNack cuz they are f'n psychotic...i haven't seen my kids in over three years and the bitch keeps peppering me with legal bs to where i can't scrape the funds to address visitation and custody. i took the high road but it all fell apart and i cracked under the strain.
100daveschwarz 1 year ago
Ive been readin lots about this. Can someone explain why the parent does try to do this ?
mixerNack 1 year ago
@mixerNack Often there is a grudge between the parents during or after a divorce and one parent uses the child to hurt the other parent even in some cases use the child to get the other parent sent to jail in some occasions (at least in Sweden it have happened) because the child have been brainwashed to "remember" things that never have happened like child molestation.
Feel free to send a direct msg if you want to talk more about it.
Deji1987 1 year ago
Parent alienation can be subtle. I have experienced it in many forms. I am not the custodial parent of my only son, who just turned seven years old. His mother, my ex wife, has alienated my son from me on numerous occasions.
huffandpoot 1 year ago
@Saxxyman There is endless of examples I can line up where accusations against the man like rape and child molestation have gotten men sent to jail only to have the truth come out many years later that it was all BS accusations. A social worker have told me that during a seminar she attended that if the man tells a story straight through he is lying and if a woman is changing the story all the time she it telling the truth as she is in shock and that is why it can change.
Deji1987 1 year ago
kiviaavikko . this is such an ignorant comment, quite bullying too! .You have no right to instruct others on what they should do. For a child's well-being it is important to have two mentally healthy parents. When a child is used by one parent against the other it's as though even the good parent has been removed.Children need a reference point to formulate healthy attitudes..WHAT WOULD YOU REPLACE PARENTS WITH?
musicaldawnings 1 year ago
Another example of medicalization gone mad. There is no such thing as parental alienation "syndrome." There is only alienation. Stop masquerading life's problem's as diseases and disorders!
kiviaavikko 1 year ago
OMG!! im goin threw this right now!!,im gonna fight for custody!! Im a great father.
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musicaldawnings 1 year ago
So what happenes to a parent who turns a kid against the other parent and gets custody of the kid. Will the kid grow up believing they have a bad parent who they need to avoid.
THIS IS THE MOST EVIL CRIME IN OUR SOCIETY IT'S LIKE PERPETUAL RAPE. IT'S GOT TO BE STOPPED AND PEOPLE DOING THIS SHOULD BE SEEN AS NONCES (PEOPLE WHO HURT CHILDREN AND THE VULNERABLE)
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I was still married to the man who alienated my son from me. M ex-husband is a very sick man. He has brainwashed my son who now as an adult is in a lot of pain due to the confusion. His father has projected his bad relationship with his mother onto our son, also I'm being blamed for getting into his head which is what his dad does. I was made so sick I could not leave my husband as he told me I'd lose my son completely. I had M.E.
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musicaldawnings 1 year ago
@musicaldawnings My sons brainwashing is so absolute that my son now believes the lies of his father. His father can somehow ( I don't know how he does it) blame all that he does onto me. I didn't want to rip my son in half by pointing out what his father is up to. His father works for social services in Merseyside. My sons attitude is strange yet superficially he seems sociable.
buildsbest 1 year ago
I am dealing with this situation at the moment. The scariest thing is unless someone has experienced it first hand they just don't believe it's real. What breaks my heart is whats happening to my daughter.
fordsfolly 1 year ago 2
@fordsfolly i am dealing with this and it has come to the extreme of false allegation of child abuse against my boyfriend... and believe me I am very protective of my children and due to all the dads actions...and all the times my kids have come back from their dads ranting and raving accusations to me and my boyfriend its hard to believe its true. its the fault of the harrassive dad and I totally agree with you is that NO ONE who has been through such a whirlwind can even fathom any part of it.
aatorres5 1 year ago
@fordsfolly i really wish someone would have turned me onto PAS i could have stopped it along time ago.. but my fault in trying to keep the kids father in their life.. look where it got us... just evil pure evil.....
aatorres5 1 year ago
wife told my family that she thought I loved our kids more than her. I didnt know she talked to my family let alone competed with the kids! her mom tells my oldest that I am the devil. Granny refused to pay her rent-share, didnt bother looking 4 a new place. Took our daughters room from them. now im gone and decides to pay her rent-share. wife changed oldest's school to "protect" them cuz she "has taken them b4" from me, so i get supervised visits.1x a mo.2hrs.$70. more civil, less P.O.
inklove878 1 year ago
Great information !
MrTeamroper1859 1 year ago
False alegations lead to parental allienation child abuse: Twin crimes.
This can lead to murder of that real abuser (mom). I saw another murder in the news - result of mom's false allegations followed by parental alienation & more abuse, ending in her murder.
People are easily sidetracked, forgetting the mom was a horrible abuser. Most of all they are blind to the ultimate abusers, driving the whole mess for profit and power - the state (legislators, family courts, DV coalitions...).
addvoc8 2 years ago
Dr Major says 1:30 "Dr Jane Major: Normal people dont act like that: normal people solve their problems as they develop. They dont escalate their problems with drama and come in with all kinds of false allegations and create mayhem. Especially they dont use their child as a pawn.
Its the worst case scenario of child abuse because children are having their will and their choice taken away from them.
anthonygreenit 2 years ago 2
This is very sad when one parent makes the children hate the other. But what about the parent that uses the other parent as an excuse not to see thier children what syndrome is that?
evilgypsygurl 2 years ago
To all experiencing this evil syndrom- This will help you get through it as it did me
Gods Word Romans 12-14 and 12-17- 23
Old Testament God says Deut 32-35
Read these words and remember and Gods Wisdom
Italiangent1 2 years ago
I too have been a victim of my ex of 25 years. My kids are more or less grown up now, but she has stopped me seeing them. There are some really good web sites out there, pointing out almost everything that she has done that sounds familiar. I just wish that someone was taking control of this type of vicious, abusive woman and stopping it. The message from the experts is, dont ever give up; and dont give up hope. You never want to be accused of not trying.....
dickdastardly999 2 years ago 2
@dickdastardly999 I'm all tried out!! 21 years, kids don't know me and I don't know them. They are a product of their evil Mother, with no influence from me. The bomb she dropped ( false sex abuse claims) did it's intended purpose. The kids are grown, brainwashed and gone. I might as well be and move on.
Saxxyman 1 year ago
@dickdastardly999 last statement well put...
aatorres5 1 year ago
PAS is something that's very common in Sweden where it is accepted by the justice system and the social authority's. Fathers gets punished and even sent to jail because of lies from the mothers. I remember a court case where the father was sent to jail because the mother had a diary with all kinds of horribly accusations against the father and he was sent to jail. In court of appeal the truth came out that the mother had fabricated it all and she was NOT punished for destroying a mans life.
Deji1987 2 years ago
@Deji1987 what a terrible miscarriage of justice!! No matter what the label and calling it an illness, isn't rapist considered mentaly ill? They are punnished! This is a horrible crime and it should be punnished on the same severity as what it would do the accused!
Saxxyman 1 year ago
An excellent book comes out in September 2010; a horrendous story of parental alienation and a corrupt family court, hidden beneath a lighthearted story of a dog, and bound to bring tears to your eyes. It's a true story, three years in writing... for a preview check out my blog. God bless...
graciownsme 2 years ago
@graciownsme I don't know how tto check blogs can you send me a link
mandi1marie89 2 years ago
This hurts more than anything in the world... im 17, and it still hurts me as it did when i was 8.. and more that I understand what it is..
BuhByeUnicorn 2 years ago
I am SO SAD for you, Darling Child!
NO ONE should EVER, especially not children, be treated in such a horrible way! Please do all you can to get yourself happy and healthy! One or both of your parents have issues, and it is not right to make you suffer because of them!
I speak from the point of a mother who's children have suffered for years at the hands of their pretty much insane father and stepmother. Just remember who you are, and know that you have power and the right to be happy!
ladyfuschia 1 year ago
@BuhByeUnicorn speak to your doctor he may be able to arrange a type of counselling where you are supported in a nurturing manner as you start to strip away the layers of pain, you have been betrayed..Blessings
musicaldawnings 1 year ago
@BuhByeUnicorn
do something about it while you still can. tell the court about it. expose it. This at least would get some of this guilt off of your chest.
alfalfafalafelmafia 1 year ago
I divorced my ex nearly five years ago and have been married going on 3 years. Ever since we divorced with joint custody my ex has been trying to get sole custody ever since. This is a 10 & 13 year old. I haven't seen them in months and have a court date 1/27/10. I don't have money for attorney and this is straining my current marriage. I have another son. Am so tired of fighting I wish I could just disappear.
Gameleech 2 years ago
I am so sorry at what you are going through. Please hang on as your children need you. taking an X to court repeatedly is a sign of abusive behavior. your X sounds obsessed and selfish.
kv1901 2 years ago
Thanks, you just made my day.
Gameleech 2 years ago
My step-daugthers are ruined by this....the legal system has to stop being so cheap and actually "do what's in the best interest of the children", they do what 's in the best interest of the lawyers. Children are being ruined and society will pay the price and the children will suffer.
ageovlove1 2 years ago
Thank you so much for posting this. I've been looking it up online but just thought about Youtubing" it. Thank you so much.
HardRokMiner 2 years ago
Not only parents can do this, but grandparents as well. I was widowed and my inlaws told my very young children that I killed my husband ( he died of cancer). My children not only were turned against me but feared for their own lives. It took a great deal or re building trust to help my children gain trust in me but also to feel safe and secure.
ickybird 2 years ago
Oh ya this happens... I believe you.
ageovlove1 2 years ago
You do need to move on from the divorced person but keep in mind the person that you love and always send them love. To let them know you love them is very reassuring to them when they begin to question their ABUSER.
buildsbest 2 years ago
when a child is asked if they like the other parent and they don't have a reason why except for well, mommy or daddy doesn't - that is child abuse. when are people - the adults who are supposed to be an example for their children. grow up!! maybe we should call the adults children and the children adults.
senseofwonder007 2 years ago
I am a Dutch woman and I do not understand everything in this video. Who wants to write the text for me in document or make the english titles in this video? I would be very grateful to you. Maybe I can use this to get my son back who is a victim of PAS. I haven't seen him for almost two years know.
Delftsblauw100 2 years ago
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buildsbest 2 years ago
Another top forget about the person you divorced. Move on ennjoy life however hard that may be
purp13hayz3 2 years ago
Just letting all you dads know that whenever you see your kid if you say "your mother is trying to turn you against me" is not always tactful and it can work against you if your kid has a strong reaction to it. Best way to over come it my advice would be to keep persisting but very important let the kid see no confrontation between you and the mum. even better don't communicate at all or evenbn better still be nice to the mum if you kind of know what i mean bcoz your kid will pick up on this!!
purp13hayz3 2 years ago
This lady know exactly what she is talking about. I was a good dad who loved his son. Was looking forward to a life time relationship/friendship with my kid. This was done to get back at me for divorcing her. She also did this to my son to accept the man she moved them in with. This is child abuse. The worst kind. Not only was I removed from his life, my parents were as well.She has low self esteem and must have all of my sons love. He has been her pawn long enough.
gotmildew 2 years ago
Another point is this. We must not give children the message that when a parent acts in a dangerous way, that it is all right. In my opionion, this is the MOST IMPORTANT point of protecting a child's psyche as well as the MOST contraversial and it is in this point that these attempts to help the child is lost.
dancersok 2 years ago
To clarify...just because the mother mentioned some examples, what you need to understand, dear host of this show, is these personalities are truly are carelessly dangerous to their children and it is very important to get some kind of restraining order.
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mellydad 2 years ago
Excellent Video about how severely children are abused by PAS. I have seen childrens lives destroyed by the ignorance that still exists about PAS in our society. We need to applaud those with the courage to confront this form of child abuse in our courts and society. Please send this video to judges, attorneys, law eforcement, child psychologists and anyone working to assess the best interests in the future of a child.
Please share this knowledge to help the suffering.
CRServices 2 years ago 13
great video more parents who alienate should receive a copy of this!! They have no idea how much damage they are doing to their own flesh and blood :(
usefulinfo2view 2 years ago 11
good video
lots of great info
T H A N K S
I passed it on to a friend of mine who goes through this same exact thing with his son being brainwashed by the mom
do you happen to know at what age kids actually feel hate on their own accord under normal circumstances without being manipulated or brainwashed into it ?
(or if they hate on their own at all ?)
downtowncowtown 2 years ago 2
huntinforit is a WORTHLESS IGNORANT FUCK.
TheStennerGlen123 2 years ago
Your replies are vulgar and ignorant. The minute you vulgarize you comments you show your ignorance. I'd be embarrassed if I were you.
conniemolen 2 years ago
Wow I wanted to learn more about PAS because I am a DV survivor and my child has been returned to me following visitation badly injured and doctors to cps to therapists have said dont send this child back. This year my child started to say the other parent was hitting, hurting, and touching sexually. I didnt want to believe this. My child persisted and showed all the signs of being abused. I had to ask the courts for help Now I see that both the abuse & PAS apply to the other parent.
whentube1 2 years ago
fukutoobtheycensor
huntinforit 2 years ago
I would hope they sensor you! You have a potty mouth and nothing of intelligence to share.
conniemolen 2 years ago
utubecensors
huntinforit 2 years ago
U R AN IGNORANT WORTHLESS FUKKHEAD.
TheStennerGlen123 2 years ago
please watch your vulgar mouth. The minute you speak with vulgar vocabulary you loose you credibility.
conniemolen 2 years ago
FUCK ALL OF THE CRUEL WOMEN WHO DO THIS TO THEIR CHILDREN IN THE NAME OF LOVE. They only love one person, themself. If the children need to be used as a pawn, TO BAD. They just want their way.
huntinforit 2 years ago
MEN DO IT TOO!
ladyfuschia 2 years ago
YOU ARE AN IGNORANT FUCK.
TheStennerGlen123 2 years ago
This has been flagged as spam show
YOU ARE AN IGNORANT WORTHLESS FUCK.
TheStennerGlen123 2 years ago
You may have some valid points but your vocabulary negates your comments. Yes, youtube should censor YOU.
conniemolen 2 years ago
What is also becoming alarming is the increased role of grandparents in these cases.
What your seeing is the end of the institution of marriage. It's far easier not to marry and have agreements drawn up. Marriage will become so bogged down by so many people having "rights" that the two most important people, the husband and wife, won't have any.
There IS a way around PAS and that requires greater involvement of the family courts monitoring both sides to guard against it.
naughtystepUGC 2 years ago
JAJAJAJAJAJAJ...dont worry....blablabla
MrSilencios 2 years ago
I'm a member of a local parental rights group and I see this all the time.
This officer is the rarity, and she should be commended, but erring on the side of protection of the child screws the falsely accused. What she doesn't address is the punishment for making the false allegations, and how to mend those problems. The appearance of truth is exactly what slimey attorneys do--they coach how to make this happen. WHAT DO WE DO TO GET OUR CHILDREN BACK!!!!!!! HELP!!!!
anonymoususerindenve 2 years ago
take a messy divorce, a greedy x, and you have false allegations. I know, because I went thru it.
rob a bank, your on video, drugs, your caught with drugs. stolen car. you get caught with stolen property. but, "he touched me" where is the evidence? where is the prosecution for EITHER spouse making false allegations? all here should view false allegations solutions team & i am a member. usually men HAVE 2 prove that accusations haven't happened. please google FAST & you will see what i went thru!
awbplg 2 years ago
No entiendo esta manera de pensar
TheStennerGlen123 2 years ago
Excellent video! I was and still a victim of PAS. I have not seeing my two daughters since they were eight and four for the past six years. PAS is a very sad, frustrating and serious debilitating dilemma in a divorce case. I took the high road and it is not easy living with the decision because you question yourself if you did the right thing.
jshoyo 2 years ago
Taking the high road is not an easy choice! I also had to take the high road when my son was 13, after continuously trying to make the courts realize. My son was threatened by his father to lie on the stand and then I knew I was only causing my son more harm by pursuing my ex-husband. My son is now 19 and we are now finally to have a relationship. Unfortunately, I have to still step back and allow him to come to me, but I continue to let him know I will always be here for him.
cwkaplan39 2 years ago
Wow, what a consolation to find this video. It's high time the word starts getting out. I was a targeted parent many years before I'd even heard of PAS. My ex wife is determined to make our children enemies of me and is currently asking the court to limit my parenting time to supervised visitation as though I were a child molester. Preferably she wants to eliminate all parenting time that I deserve to have with the kids.
Thanks,
Joe
celaya101mtz 2 years ago 2
i am currently going through this and have been for 4 years constantly having to defend myself against untrue allegations by my sons mother. the law in scotland is a total mess regarding this subject.. i just wish my ex would die and maybe i could have a normal relationship with my 6 year old son
DUmfk2 2 years ago 4
thank you for this please visit my pas yu tube kind regards to all suffering this terrible trauma of PAS and te child abuse that it is
PASCRAA 2 years ago 3
Sadly, this PAS video is all too real. The legal system is easily subverted since they have no equal checks/balances. All famiy, relatives and friends suffer. You can be taken to court & lose everything if you lack some in CS payments, even if Ex denies court ordered visitations...yet visitation orders are rarely enforced at all. I've posted it on MySpace hoping that someday my kids will watch. But they are in the 15% of obsessed alienators, so I doubt they'll ever care.
dwightfan2 2 years ago
wow you are a typical deadbeat mom. sure you made every effort to develop a relationship btwn your ex and his kid. alcoholism is an illness-whats being a moron?
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freak701Juniper53590 2 years ago
A pro-active NGO in Malaysia PEMALIK is extremely concerned about the future of children in the background of selfish parent(s) pursuing matters for the benefit of themselves over children. A very immature disgusting side of themselves with lack of understanding of marriage vows. These cheats show their ugly self in society. Judges are to deal with such bad people.. who have put priority for themselves with the test of time.. It's in times like these we separate one from the other..
pemaliktube 2 years ago
N.O.W. knows that PAS exists. N.O.W. also know that if society acknowledged PAS, women would loose their legal advantages in divource court. That's what makes N.O.W. a bunch of liars.
BTW - most alienators are women. It's a load of bunk that just as many men do it. Women are awarded custody %95 percent of the time, and it's usually the custodial parent who alienates.
jhan6120 2 years ago 3
It might be true that men are mainly alienated but I am a woman and this is happening to me. My drug addict acoholic hopefully soon to be X has been brainwashing my now 13 year old since she was 2. This man has abused me mentally and physically now since I met him in 1998. I have let many times with my daughter throughout the marriage finally I escaped with my life on February 2007.
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