I have an almost identical narrative to yours, just wanted to show some support and that i completely understand where your coming from. i've never been more happy. its sometimes tough knowing that others may perceive me differently but i've learned to not to let my "femme-ness" or perceived femme identity emasculate my genderqueer identity. being with someone butch doesn't make me any less genderqueer. hope this helps :)
I think it would be really, really, really stupid for people to hate on you or think it's weird for you to be with a butch. That's homophobia. I'm glad you're feeling happy! :)
@TheSLOfox I concur. It's ridiculous how prevalent that kind of homophobia is, though. Agh. I really feel for older butches who had even more of that homophobia to deal with in their communities. It's a damn shame.
i think... that's a "phase" you're going through.. when you realize what you really want, this will ultimately help you realize "who" you really are... i've been with a butch for a decade now, i'm "the girl" in our relationship. but when i was younger i wanted to be butch, went on for a year. eventually i realized i'm truly attracted to women with a masculine essence about them and that i would love to be made love to by somebody just like that...
@wyxle Are you saying that you think my attraction to butches is just a phase? What exactly do you mean? Are you saying that I'm actually a femme? Are you saying one or both of those things? Because if so, you can take your invalidating and misgendering bullshit and fuck right off. You do not know me better than I know myself.
@ashtreechill i never claimed i know you. i just based my comment on my experience. i'm not saying that the same thing will happen to you, that you'll become a femme in the end, wow that's so limiting, don’t you think?
@wyxle@wyxle What you seem to be missing is that I have already, in fact, chosen. I know who I am-- a butch who is into other butches. That is the whole point of this video. Telling anyone, but ESPECIALLY a non-gender-normative queer person, that a truth they've discovered about themselves and have chosen to share with the world is a "phase" is extremely offensive. It's not helpuful--it is invalidating and insulting.
@ashtreechill it's a phase, in the sense that you are discovering this part of yourself. it's like sitting behind the wheel and seeing a fork in the road overhead. Eventually, you’ll have to choose. you overlooked the more important part of my message, "when you realize what you really want it'll ultimately help you realize who you are" -our choices define who we are. it just made me sad that you misread the whole thing, i got you mad even. sorry i thought i'm helping. i'll just shut up
I definetly know what you're going through lol its tough, as "female" i dated femmes but was intrigued by butches, now that I'm trans and comfortable in my body i am definetly more attracted to masculine people
I have an almost identical narrative to yours, just wanted to show some support and that i completely understand where your coming from. i've never been more happy. its sometimes tough knowing that others may perceive me differently but i've learned to not to let my "femme-ness" or perceived femme identity emasculate my genderqueer identity. being with someone butch doesn't make me any less genderqueer. hope this helps :)
Re253 3 months ago
@Re253 Thank you so much for the support! :) It definitely helps.
ashtreechill 2 months ago
I think it would be really, really, really stupid for people to hate on you or think it's weird for you to be with a butch. That's homophobia. I'm glad you're feeling happy! :)
TheSLOfox 3 months ago
@TheSLOfox I concur. It's ridiculous how prevalent that kind of homophobia is, though. Agh. I really feel for older butches who had even more of that homophobia to deal with in their communities. It's a damn shame.
Thanks! :)
ashtreechill 2 months ago
i think... that's a "phase" you're going through.. when you realize what you really want, this will ultimately help you realize "who" you really are... i've been with a butch for a decade now, i'm "the girl" in our relationship. but when i was younger i wanted to be butch, went on for a year. eventually i realized i'm truly attracted to women with a masculine essence about them and that i would love to be made love to by somebody just like that...
and BE LOVED by somebody just like that...
wyxle 3 months ago
@wyxle Are you saying that you think my attraction to butches is just a phase? What exactly do you mean? Are you saying that I'm actually a femme? Are you saying one or both of those things? Because if so, you can take your invalidating and misgendering bullshit and fuck right off. You do not know me better than I know myself.
ashtreechill 2 months ago 2
@ashtreechill i never claimed i know you. i just based my comment on my experience. i'm not saying that the same thing will happen to you, that you'll become a femme in the end, wow that's so limiting, don’t you think?
wyxle 2 months ago
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wyxle 2 months ago
@wyxle @wyxle What you seem to be missing is that I have already, in fact, chosen. I know who I am-- a butch who is into other butches. That is the whole point of this video. Telling anyone, but ESPECIALLY a non-gender-normative queer person, that a truth they've discovered about themselves and have chosen to share with the world is a "phase" is extremely offensive. It's not helpuful--it is invalidating and insulting.
ashtreechill 2 months ago 3
@ashtreechill
I am also a butch who is attracted to other butches!Too bad its very difficult to find another butch loving butch in the place I live...
MyLongestJourney 2 months ago
@ashtreechill it's a phase, in the sense that you are discovering this part of yourself. it's like sitting behind the wheel and seeing a fork in the road overhead. Eventually, you’ll have to choose. you overlooked the more important part of my message, "when you realize what you really want it'll ultimately help you realize who you are" -our choices define who we are. it just made me sad that you misread the whole thing, i got you mad even. sorry i thought i'm helping. i'll just shut up
wyxle 2 months ago
I definetly know what you're going through lol its tough, as "female" i dated femmes but was intrigued by butches, now that I'm trans and comfortable in my body i am definetly more attracted to masculine people
brodydaniel44 3 months ago
@brodydaniel44 Yeah, it's funny how that works out, huh? Thanks for commenting :)
ashtreechill 2 months ago