Exploring Shyness - Part 1

[destruct2construct]

i just dont believe that this chick is shy, im shy and know. shes prob been programmed by tv shows to act the part for some reason. i cant even make a youtube video, i couldnt have the confidence to finish college. etc...

[snatchface9]

I have a huge crush on this girl <3

[NPACT1]

shyness anonymous, people trying to get help with shyness, NO ONE SHOWS UP to meeting. lol

[exeuroweenie]

Unless it affects your life adversely,I don't think shyness is inherently bad.It's better than being overbearing and buffoonish.

[TheDaddyandTheBaby]

I want her to be next ex-wife.

[CleverDjembe]

You are beautiful I want to kiss you and lick your beautiful eyes :)

[raccuia1]

darling go to doctor and get help

[bcroadbuilder]

This girl is very good looking and should have no problem being shy men should be waiting in line ups for you

[Spram2]

@bcroadbuilder Yes. Attractive shy women are still attractive and men don't give a crap if they're shy. Us shy men on the other hand are screwed, there is nothing NOTHING more unnatractive to a woman than a shy man.

[SocialAnxietyDr]

Hey everyone. I am currently working on a video and blog series about overcoming social anxiety. I have a PhD in psychology and decided to upload some material because I find so few professionals sharing their advice and expertise. Please look me up and check them out. I hope they will be helpful

[danndan6]

I've already seen this video before but you're so damn pretty I feel like a freak watching it again. Can u make some more please. U really have stunning features

[23rdofMarch]

You are so brave for making this video! I'm so glad you did though, because now I know I'm not the only one who feels rejected when someone doesn't give me any feedback within 10 seconds.

Have you tried joining toastmasters at all?I heard it was a great environment to help you become less shy and a better speaker.

Good luck!

[PliableGreyness]

ugghh.. i know this stuff too well. she expresses it very well what goes on in the mind of a shy individual. geez. shy people unite! we will be good together cuz we will understand eachother. =)

[CamNM1991]

You're a beautiful women It really makes me think how people become so shy. Please make more videos : )

[binsmyth]

I am also extremely shy. I don't talk much so i am really afraid to talk one on one conversation. So i avoid lots of encounters. I hate the awkward silences that i cause when talking to someone. I hope you overcome the shyness. And you are really cute.

[alaindiazaran]

shyness can be devastating to one's life but what you need to undesrtand is that it's all in your mind all your behavors are genarated by your mind only your looks and physical thing can't be changed so what happens is we let our mind control us rather than us control our mind it took me a bit of time to realize this so you need to try controling your thoughts and not your thoughts control you be think about what you're thinking

[getoversocialanxiety]

Thinking about what can go wrong when making cold calls can really make it even worse. Unfortunately if you think negatively, your minds starts to expect negative outcomes. Try catching yourself thinking negatively and then switch your focus to something else. Switching focus to positive things can really help you, but you need to keep practicing. So at least try it out and see for yourself if it helps.

Andrej

[yabitchonmydikk]

you seem like a really sweet girl, you dont need to be shy : )

[MrJonnyboyification]

i meant to say i really hate shyness but love your video,you did a great job :) dont think i could do it

[MrJonnyboyification]

i really hate shyness!

[conan1174]

You did fine. I'm a bit shy around people myself until I get to know them. It's just something you have to work at everyday. The one thing you can't do is ascribe negative attitutdes or thoughts to people who you pass by if they don't make eye contact with you, greet you, etc. It doesn't mean that they have a particular view of you or are ignoring you, it's just that they probably had a lot on their mind, were focused on something else etc.

[MrCharrrles]

good luck on getting 6 billion views! But seriously you should make more videos, maybe your confidence will improve :D

[TwatfinderGeneral]

Such a beautiful woman!

[0xXZOSOXx0]

Regarding feedback, I didn't think any of those negative things about you, it was brave of you to put it up there

[gerbilstars]

You did a wonderful job expressing yourself in this video!! : )

There are millions of people who have S.A.D!! I have a less severe case but we're in this together. :D

Nosocialanxiety's channel on youtube is very helpful to start changing. <3

You are a wonderful person and you did an amazing job on this video! It was extremely brave of you to take this step in your journey of changing your shyness! : )

[KawaiiHanamii]

but i think, ... you don't have reasons to be shy, because YOU'RE SO BEAUTIFUL! really... you're really beautiful, even if i don't know you very well... be strong! ^^

[KawaiiHanamii]

i feel very "complexed" ( i dont know if this is the word, im not english sorry ) .. about my own image, because... i have acne, and i have.. kinda bad teeth, i'm healthy, but my teeth in the front, i don't know how to explain it, but they are kinda weird, i think japanese has this concept i think it is "yaeba".. and i try to hide my mouth all the time, i cant smile and show my teeth ( AND THE WORST IS I'M LAUGHING ALL THE TIME )... i feel so bad, T-T i hate that i am so shy

[KawaiiHanamii]

i know exactly what you feel.. and i can't even imagine how was your school and college years... the public speak, all that... because i'm going trough that right now T-T ... i'm only 14, but i feel so bad, so bad, sometimes i feel like crying, like... just yesterday my french teacher commented about me, in front of the class, she said something about me being shy, and i just... didn't know what to say, i blushed so hard, T-T and then i felt like crying... god, really! it's so bad...

[BellaaMarlene]

until you have it everyone says just deal with it. when your an emo fag, cry all the time & turn beat red over the stupidest things i am turning insane & my brain turning to mush. & parents act like its your fault, why not newter those fags. i wouldnt care if either mom or dad got shot they deserve it for being selfish and ruining someone's life without thnking about the consequences of passing on their disease

[danndan6]

Is it me or is she not the most georgeous woman ever? Like how on earth does someone that beautiful get to the mental state whereby they doubt their appeal?

[RB902050]

I've gotten so tired of being shy, I firmly believe I may have the plan to finally defeat my shyness. Though, it won't happen overnight, the majority of my shyness stems from childhood bullying and severe inferority complexity. I feel anyone can overcome shyness if they take up some sort of adrenaline sport and do it with passion. Trust me, done right, a day of vigourous exercise along with adrenaline is like a natural way of being drunk.

[danndan6]

LOL, you are actually incredible. Like, no joke, you are stunningly beautiful.

[dancesonpoles]

Omg...I feel this exact same way all the time. I'm seeing a therapist now. And I just want to say, you are beautiful.

[IAmIntelligence]

i want to flirt with her, back, but too nervous too, and

I worry that other people might stare at me if I flirt with her,

so should I just stop thinking about the other people around me, and take

deep breathes, then look her in the eyes, just long enough to flirt back, but then

if I do that, what do i say when she talks to me, because I don't want to studder, or say something the wrong way.. or even just freeze up altogether.

[IAmIntelligence]

Women make me so shy, they make me the most shy.. and just watching this video of you talking about this makes me shy, because of your beauty.. but I need help with something, because there's this woman I like, and she flirts with me, and I'm so shy that I can't flirt back to her because she makes my face flush, and she is extremely beautiful, and I'm a fat guy, and have very little money, but she likes me... anyways I was just wondering, how do I overcome this.

[Ali666able]

wow i cant believe you are shy ??? that makes me feel a whole lot better because you are beautiful and seem very nice and if even you can have these thoughts and feelings then i guess its easier for me to swallow :) i think when you talked about yourself even tho you said it wasnt easy it was very endeering, likable and uplifting :) thanks

[slicknicknirvana]

I alwyas tell people im shy.then when they meet me,im sometimes talkative and funny and outgoing and theyre like,youre not shy.one girl said,you thin kyour eshy just because youre not lousd and obnoxious and i said yeah.

[txbtc2]

Hi, its important to understand you are not the only person to feel and act in this way. By the very nature of your video, you are very sensitive, and by the way you feel you may be stupid if you say the wrong thing, it is an example of your intelligence, as stupid people don't worry about what they say. You need to talk more about how you feel, without being ashamed of it, take care.

[82arlavall82]

The feelings you describe match exactly how I feel in social situations. The larger the group the more shy I get, because it's that much more people that think about what they think of me. And the few times I do talk all I can think about is what they are thinking and what I can say next. I also have trouble making eye contact for more than 2 seconds at a time and everyone probably thinks that I'm rude or something.

[zwu19413]

You are gorgeous so I'm sure most people who talk to you probably feel a bit shy as well :)

[nameless615]

I think you are very brave for doing this video. Thank you. I know it took alot of courage. I have been shy for most of my life and I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes I am able to hide it..but inside is a constant struggle. People who are not shy just don't understand and think it is silly...they just can't relate...by doing this, you have helped many of us...I THINK YOU ARE GREAT!!!

[Elemarth]

You should make more videos!

[MrJonnyboyification]

you did a good job making a video , i would never be able to talk into the camera , the feeling would be like somebody pointing a gun at me, so i avoid.

[lalabEsjen]

@MrJonnyboyification Yeah she is tough.

[RinEdition]

I wanna give you a hug. :( Nobody thinks those things of you! From this vid you seem like a great, honest person.

[shthd84]

Fuck you shyness, will you ever die, why you gotta intefere with my life, why you gotta let everyone know, just hide it, I know how to be, yeah, its impossible to hide, why are you doing this to me shyness

[TheHeyCarly]

I feel the exact same way

[menonfire12]

I love your eyes

[YupItsMe4]

you are super super sexy

[lifeternal88]

I'm exactly like you. I just wish other people understood! If it werent for the internet, i'd stil be thinking i was the only one who felt like this.

[maisma7]

@lifeternal88 i kno but i still feel alone though every1 around me is loud an happy while im trying not to be noticed

[kpchawaii]

I notice alot of the personal anxiety turn out to be amazingly beautiful girls..It's a sad world we live in when even an intelligent beautiful, or even not so beautiful person cant see themselves for all that they have to offer..

[Orlando2914]

Seriously Why? Your beautiful and eyes are amazing. Ive dealt with shyness in my days, but for recently i realized you have to value yourself, value your opinion. Fuck everyone else. Of course this doesn't go away over night, try to hold eye contact, even if makes you a creep don't worry you'll get comfortable. It takes trying to start a new habit, or breaking old habits. Don't be sorry I'm that you did this. =] Good luck

[willz1804]

Let me just say i think you are very pretty, i liked this video and i am also shy.

SHY PEOPLE UNITE! :)

[TashaFierce19]

I completely understand what you are going through. I feel the same way you do with a few situations that you explained in your video. I appreciate how brave you are in doing this video and representing for us "shys" out there. I wish I was as brave as you! :)

[preciousmuysic]

you don't look like a shy person at all haha you're really cuteee too! being shy isn't a bad thing, i think everyone has a portion of shyness in them.. just need to take little steps to realize things

[JoeyHD2]

dude are u a newb celebs=celeberaties Lol

[JoeyHD2]

being shy sucks its like a cancer that and reality least for me its both shyness mixed n wit reality and it sucks azzzz

[xxthunderbird46xx]

I wish you would do more videos. I understand how you might feel but I really think that making more videos and getting feedback (in the form of comments) will help give you more confidence and make you feel really good about yourself. This confidence will help you express yourself in a more manageable way when you meet someone in real life. From what you've described, I think your condition is reversible..not overnight, but with patience and persistence. I wish you the very best in life.

[girlrange007]

where is part 2? :p

[Dan261178]

Well done for speaking out on here,you spoke from the heart and told everyone how shyness affects you.I really hope making this video helped you to feel better as it makes me feel better to know I am not the only shy person.Thank you.

[JonB20]

Why is shyness seen as a lack of confidence. Shyness is about being comfortable with self, rather than having the need to be social.

Shy people and be quiet and confident.

Just because shy people to not fit in with the loud mouth norms, doesn't mean there is something wrong with them.

[JoeyHD2]

@JonB20 yah its easy to not b shy online cus its the internet but n real life its diff for those who are shyy pain n the ass and true u not gnna get what u want if ur gnna b shy and what if u want to b famous a celb/wrestler u know u cant b shy wit that shit

[JonB20]

@JoeyHD2 Hey I'm naturally shy too, I don't see it as a fault. Being shy, I have learnt more about the universe than an outgoing person would.

What are a celebs?

People who require idolisation to overcome their own inner shyness.

[ohfuqyes]

I can totally empathize with you...I hate giving presentations in front of the class, i just gave a powerpoint the other day for my art history class and i was so damn nervous that i couldn't catch my breath....weird phenomenon.

[cruss8880]

you know what really helps me? in the morning before i go to school i look in the mirror and tell myself all the good things about me each morning. It's helped build my confidence in school and around people. Also when you start feeling anxious what i do is i take a deep breath through my nose and release it slowly through my mouth.

[cruss8880]

you know what really helps me when i wake up in the morning before i go to school i look in the mirror and tell myself the good things about me and it has helped boost my confidence around other people. Also when you start feeling really anxious try taking a deep breath through ur nose and release it slowly out of your mouth it helps to calm me down alot. i really hope this can help :)

[jtsix6]

Part 2!?

i actually enjoyed watching this video, i was really interested in what you had to say

[boribori90]

you're not alone in how you feel

[Alfacuria]

Is there a difference between shyness and social anxiety? or are they the same?

[highestking2010]

I wish I was 20 again.

[CSquire82]

I'm pretty shy too. Sometimes I feel I'm the only shy person in the whole world! Of course it's not true, we can have an idea of how many people have to deal with shyness just by reading the comments here. And, by the way, you don't seem to be shy! At least not as shy as I am, I think I'm not brave enough to make such a video... :)

Some people here wrote that being a shy man is a lot worse than being a shy woman. I completely agree with them.

[slicknicknirvana]

@CSquire82 Being a shy man is a lot worse because youre supposed to be the aggressor.

[linuxguy2009]

Your perfect don't change a bit. Your very cute.

[c00smeen]

man...u are gorgeous and very brave to talk to 1000's of people...I like shy girls because they are smart and funny...I used to be shy but someday I just said ''fuck it, life's to short, what's the worst thing that could happen, what is the worst thing that the person who I was talking to can do to me''...and that worked pretty well I guess...talking to people helps u get over being shy so fast that u can't believe it...anyway that's how I did it...rock on

[jjojjorge]

I think I used to be shyest person ever, but who knows... =) Besides, people are going to talk anyway, and most are insensitive...

[flowersgirls2009]

How about trying toastmasters. I am the same way you are but in my major and in my career I am going to have to give oral presentations. So I decided to join toastmaster next month. Hope it helps.

[dubbymacky]

try prozac it helped me alot!

[dongee232menn]

i think u r very pretty. i am also shy, and i think it was very courageous of u to make this video..

[Slimboyfat1979]

Very well put. I can relate to how you feel. Good luck :)

[oliviazski13]

I know how you feel. In social situations I feel what you described. One thing that helped me a little was going to online social sites where you can talk openly with others. I've been doing that lately and it's helped me a little. Again, I don't know if you feel this, but did you (or anyone else here) feel like you can make friends and be yourself for a while, but then after some time you feel like you can't keep those friends? Anyways, that's how I feel. So, yeah I'm pretty shy too. :/

[lowprofile164]

i feel shy wen i speak to new people sumtimes... i just think that if i speak to a new person and they say something negative back to me then its not worth me wasting my time speaking to them anyway... i think that wen people respond back to you in a negative way its because they themselves are scared so they hav to put on a fake act which isnt really them... i find that one helps me to meet people and keep up a positive attitude, hope that helps you

peace

[cards412s]

you do not seem shy, you seem cool and in control

[MKARMY01]

good video. I'm shy as well so good to see someone who acts and talks the same, but you did well!

[rbt72]

many people make the point about the girls beauty, over and over again.

she is still shy......

as for shy guys, think of david beckham, he is still shy.

[civicinfo]

I used to be shy.

Lifes too short.... and then you die.

Just get on with it. Nobody is perfect.

Ps.You are beautiful.

[JasonUK79]

I can relate to you very well. I wish you well for the future. :)

[squeephish]

I relate to you so well. Wow. Has posting this helped? Have you found anything else that helps? I really do empathize. *hugs*

[pancakes3003]

i can tell she is shy because she doesnt make much eye contact with the camera.

[dirtypaper]

you're faking this right? if not i'm sorry but i can't believe someone like you could be shy, i mean your so pretty....

[rome877]

Very understanding and clear video, are you Dutch by any chance ?

[Chrisguy42O]

your my life story.

[938608]

your not shy your HOT!

[SilentlySuffocating]

Very sincere and very beautiful :-)

[geobreezy]

speak up bitch ur not shy

[EsotericFantasy]

dont be mean

[guyselastein]

nlp. and you're beautiful

[koreadude]

and this is the one most important thing: MOST IMPORTANT!

true friends will like you and appreciate you for WHO YOU ARE. only associate yourself with friends who will like you for you are. if you meet a person who doesnt like you for who you are then MOVE ON. find better people to befriend with

[koreadude]

also remember, the more you talk and spend time with that person then the more you will be comfortable with that person and the easier it will be for you to be yourself with that person! overall the more you talk and spend time with the person then the closer and stronger and better the friendship with that person will be! hope this helps! you can overcome it! you can do it! i was able to! you can too!

[koreadude]

i hope this helps! ill tell you my solution:

okay just remember, people love to talk. we as a species are social butterflies and love to communicate! remember if your with anyone and i mean anyone, they want you to talk! they dont care what you say they just want you talk! humans like to communicate, and if you can form some kind of communication with them, ANY KIND OF CONVERSATION, then they will be satisfied.

[koreadude]

omg i totally feel you! i feel the same things you do and it often prevents me meeting and making good friends with people i see! about two years ago, my shyness become a really terrible issue and it prevented me from talking and befriending numerous people i met! i got so sick of it that i eventually came up with a solution to deal with this frusterating social anxiety! 2 years after i came up with this solution i become more confident, more talkative, and more comfortable around people!

[JateIsFate]

well you do not have to worry about your looks, that's for sure :) I'm pretty shy myself at times, it's aweful. But maybe seeing a psychologist or therapist could be of help to you?

[Shane2day]

Can anyone answer my question especially if your female?,are females attracted to shy guys especially if their cute or do they perfer confident assertive and outgoing guys?.

[shewshew22]

we want more videos!!! I know how u feel I am shy at times I think one thing that helps is to have a spouse

[TheInfinityOfStone]

I have no faith anymore in overcoming shyness. It's almost genetically based, and enhanced by environment settings. It's been with me forever, and probably will be with the lot of you for the rest of your lives.

You can mask it, but you'll find yourself gradually sinking back into your old skin.

[uninsomnia89]

@TheInfinityOfStone Im making big progress

and I have had it from the moment I was born

[plumerjr]

An excellent video. I'm disappointed there was no more videos. I know how she feels.

[bingepunk48]

omg I think im in luv u got the prettiest eyes

[Lisa3679]

Some shy people have learned how to fake not being shy so that we can function in society. Faking certainly doesn't get rid of our shyness, but it helps us cope with other people socially. I have a good job and I am good at what I do. I am not unattractive. People shouldn't think that we can stop being shy because we are attractive. It is not easy to get over shyness, especially for those us who are also introverted. I don't think men really like shy women because we have a hard time opening up.

[jacorbuser]

for men, your shyness is not a problem, as long as you are pretty...no guy will prefer an unattractive but outgoing girl...i dont say stop being shy because you are pretty. i say you dont have it worst. u still can live happily. but wanna know the story for a shy guy!!?? it is pure drama...

[Lisa3679]

jacorbuser,

It has been my experience that men don't stay long with shy women. My introversion is worse than my shyness. I can't even make a video because of it! How can I live happily simply because I am a shy woman? I really DO want to know what it is like for shy guys, but I don't meet men. Because of my rejection from outgoing men in my past, I am not really open to men. It's just not worth it. Tell me about your drama. How do you know women are not going through some of the same things?

[jacorbuser]

i take this comment back!! :) i've seen it  with my own eyes. very hot girls can be shy too. now i believe shyness has nothing to do with outlook. i guess even if you are a hot girl, you will live a lot of difficulties if you are shy.

[adessia2001]

@jacorbuser I just wanna say my shyness is a problem at work..what not...ppl make fun of me cause of it. Most ppl find me attractive...call me crazy but i feel i dont need friends to be happy......i love art and books...i dont see myself as attractive at all

[adessia2001]

@jacorbuserdoesn;t matter if you're attractive at all...trust me

[jacorbuser]

this girl is shy!!??? i dont understand...

she can find a job easily, she doesnt need to be best in class, she will be asked out a lot so that she can find an outgoing guy who likes her...so wheres the problem?? there are many SHY people who are not ATTRACTIVE...imagine their living...lonely

[Candeeta4u]

Honey you are terribly mistaken if you think looks have anything to do with being an introvert. You can become shy from being unattractive (shying away frompeople), but introversion is something inside not on the outside

[StarkPalm]

Darlin', some corrections: You can be an introvert and not be shy. I think you meant to say is, "You can become self-conscious (not shy) from being unattractive if you allow opinions to affect you that way". It'd be sad to let your statement of misconceptions go unchallenged. Stick to what you know, like YOUR fixation with looks; 3x in two sentences. Shyness can protect from the abrasiveness of people as well as inhibit a personal flourishing.

[razryan]

being attractive and bieng shy have no link.

[joshua87497]

i have been told by many that im atractive but because im so shy i cant seem 2 form a relationship. i would realy like to speak to people suffering from shyness so we could tackle our problem together

[TheCricketDawg]

Wow. You look like Cameron Diaz and Leslie Mann. Awesome. But yea, shyness is a curse. It's gotten me denied from 12 interviews. I'm only 20, finding a job should not be this difficult. I can't stand stuttering or choking all the time. It's also slowed me down from getting promotions, getting more friends, and getting a date with a girl that likes me.

[cloudyskii]

one of the nicer things to come out of this video in general is reading about so many ppl who face a very similar problem,atleast doesnt feel so alone anymore!

[BadassMMA]

I sometimes think that I am good looking and girls think that I am that too but I´m too shy to talk to girls that I don´t know. I have been a little shy my whole life. It sucks. I know that girls care more about a guys personality and that he´s funny etc and I am that when I´m not shy.

[danndan6]

@BadassMMA you have it right on the nail. i am also good looking and have a great personality but when i'm anxious and shy, no one sees it. my advice....go into the deep end. it can be hard but just do it

[blankie123]

ive been really shy just like you ever since i was very young. i have trouble talking even in a group of friends of 3 or more people. i think if you just carry on with your daily activities and not giving "shyness" any thoughts you will eventually grow out of it. for instance, before working at my job i could never talk on the phone with my coworkers nearby, but since i have to do it everyday, i've out grown that and also can now speek up at meetings. good luck to you!

[acmgirl21]

I'm 23 and I just started a job my first job ever after college. In this job i'm the only woman in a big group of guys at night that are kind of obnoxious and abrasive.which i don't mind.just don't put the attention on me, you know? but they do.and it's usually when i'm busy with something they will try to joke around with me and i freeze up. they say 'what's the matter,you can't do two things at once?' then laugh. these things play in my head over and over. when i get home i can't sleep.

[xRhythm]

I'd just ignore them if I were you but if it gets out of hand you have to stand up for yourself.

Guys like that get their confidence in belittling someone especially when hes with a group of other guys. You have to get assertive with guys like that because when they realize that you won't stand up for yourself they'll just go to the next level.

You have to make it clear that you don't like what they're doing around you. Tell them to go away. If he makes a remark about you say something back.

[CookieFridays]

You're gorgeous girl! Really It's been months since you posted this video so hopefully you've made some progress in the shyness area.

I'm also really trying to get over my (severe) shyness because it's basically debilitating and frustrating. I'm learning not to care and trying to just be confident in myself. In this life, the only person that is really important to please is -ourselves-.

[brucewestmk2]

I totally understand what you were saying about feedback in conversation, when I speak to someone and they don't respond I wonder if they care what I'm saying or are even listening to me, my heart races and I wonder what I've said wrong... By the way, you are very pretty!

[lehgriffin]

I feel what youre saying. Some of the most beautiful people are the shyest people.

[ArgiveIce]

A. Shyness is acutely more serious where initiative is expected; and it can be devastating when things go wrong. Unfortunately, those are usually life changing situations. I suspect that you've taken the drastic step of making a video because some aspects of your life seem surreal because of it.

[ArgiveIce]

B. As bad as your shyness is, is there some mundane, everyday trigger that intensifies it? For me, it's teasing and that perceived humor at my expense. And then theres hell on earth: when you approach that special someone who overwhelms you and your mind goes blank and it feels like youre about to make a running leap off a building.

[ArgiveIce]

. . . . . I'm also facinated/irratated at the boorish expectation of engaging eye contact. Shouldn't it get longer as you get to know a person? Communication, in any form, should grow as a relationship grows; especially eye contact. Ill repeat what I said in an earlier message, your video is a real tonic to the subject. Intelligent and succinct, it's nice to see someone trust reason and go out of that comfort zone to improve their quality of life. Take care.

[SuperBob909]

Sorry i don't want to come across as a jerk but you are young attractive woman when you are a shy guy average in the looks department you really don't have it to bad.

[JamesEdward67]

Am I alone in thinking that this beautiful young women doesn't have much too worry about? She looks like Oscar winning actress Emma Thompson doesn't she? The resemblence is uncanny! I am a fairly shy man and shy men have it several zillion times worse than shy women - I think. But good luck to her because she's really nice. Yield a sigh.

[seanburke100]

JamesEdward67, She's probably not terribly aware of how she "looks" to everyone. Attractive or unattractive, if you are shy or introverted, you are overly self-conscious which is a tough thing to live with. You don't ask to be that way and always wonder why. I recall being afraid at the sound of my own voice as a young girl. It's a mystery and, yes, it's genetic.

[RabidKyuubi]

you're definitely not alone.i can be really lively when i'm around people i know,but i'm the complete opposite with people i don't.i even get shy around family members...

[minkaboo]

Tho I've lived here for 25+ yrs, I remember what it was like learning Eng at first. U sound perfect tho. And it's ok to feel shy, allow urself to feel shy w/ ppl until u get to know them, then u'll naturally feel more comfy, but give urself 1-3 mos, as long u need to. Try experimenting w/ some "safe" strangers at first. Lots of love.

[minkaboo]

Wow, you're really brave. You didn't look shy AT ALL. Maybe it's b/c you have a beautiful face, startlingly green eyes that I'm so distracted to even notice if you're anxious or not. If you need + feedback from ppl ur talking to, try smiling every after each pause & chances are, they'll smile back when responding. I also noticed that u have a slight accent. Is English ur 2nd language? I have shyness b/c it's that way for me.

[jukijunk]

I totally feel what your saying.

[Shane2day]

I to have those kind of social anxities,been and shy is so so fustrating as im sure u can relate to,it feels like your a prisoner in your own body,unable to connect with people,have friendships and relationships also been hesitant,passive,to quiet,lack of assertiveness and way to self conscious,it must have taken courage and effort to make that video,so well done.

[debi2cutensweet4u]

I understand how you feel. I am chronically shy as well. I hate speaking in front of large groups of people or speaking for more than a few seconds. I get uncomfortable around people. I also read too much into people's reactions (or lack thereof) when they speak. I am looking into therapy because I really start to hate myself when I have to meet new people. I will pray for u and hope u work on ur problem :) Also u r very pretty. :)

[youbananabuoy]

Good video . . . hey, you have enough confidence to put your face on youtube and talk about shyness, way more bravery than me in putting up a slideshow. . . so good for you :)

I feel the same way, however I'm a guy, so no offense, i believe i have it harder than your . .. in this society men are supposed to be forthcoming .. .especially in relationships, so because of my shyness, I've done nothing in my life with regard to women

[FuckUTubeWithLube]

Just be glad you're a woman. A man who sufferes from shyness has it 10000 times worse than any woman.

[pimpthemhos]

oh you'll get some feedback from me alright.

[pimpthemhos]

And you are not ugly you are hot as hell.

[pimpthemhos]

Could you speak more loudly. I had to turn the volume of my speakers all the way up to be able to hear you. By the way I have a huge problem with public speaking and all people in general also.

[Balling117]

but really TURN UP THE VOLUME "CANT HEAR A WORD"

[texaspete33]

your telling this lady to speak up. do you understand shyness?

[Balling117]

Turn up you volume damnit..i couldn't hear anything. i just started at you...in an uncomfortable way?!?! just kidding :D u look nice though

[troyal7563]

This is very striking: it seems to echo my thoughts. Hearing these ideas from the outside really re-contextualizes my own fears of inadequacy. I also especially understand the isolation that develops after one graduates and how it reinforces one's shyness. Do not apologize for "rambling." Also, people don't judge your words as harshly as you think. Finally, your willingness to share this betrays a courage that justifies your words' existence. Your speech has improved MY day and I am grateful.

[tacoma200]

Thanks for sharing. I'm shy around people I don't know or in social situations and I feel like it's holding me back from many opportunities to meet great people. Your definately not alone. Thanks again!!!!!!

[sacredrealm]

I feel exactly the same. I get all the same things. I also find eye contact difficult and feel like i sound stupid when talking to someone. It can definatley get in the way of things, and also make me feel stressed, but i do try and look at the positive side of it, that its just part of me and there are good things about it when compared to some overconfident loud people who pretend to be something there not and follow everyone else, atleast in my mind.

Thanks for the vid

[seanburke100]

sacredrealm, to an introvert, holding eye contact is so terribly personal, too intimate. I've only mentioned this once to a family member, but sometimes I feel as though I can see through to someone's soul when I look at their eyes. I sometimes avert my own for that very reason. Not always, but sometimes.

[soup17]

I keep posting more videos. I can relate completely.

[tenshigirl25]

you're so beautiful, whatever you are insecure about, try to nip it in the bud and change your thooughts.

We all make choices and if u take a chance, your life may take a turn in a better direction. trust me, you have a lot going for you and although there's nthing wrong with being shy, other people are missing out on what u have to offer..more importantly what you have to offer for yourself.

[olawunmim]

i feel exactly the same way - i've been shy my whole life

[rawjor]

you are so pretty...I picture your one of those girls in my class that are smart...independant brave...etc.. but I think everyone has something holding them back.. sorry to hear i hope you get better...

I've always been shy but I thought it was part of life? Today I just felt so lonely so I just googled this subject and youtubed it.

I am in my third year of college so i am almost done i guess....

[shykareninpaloalto]

Good introduction. I also blush a lot. Have you thought about therapy? What state do you live in?