BDSM Discussion#1 - D/s Relationships Part 1

[FelidaTehGeek]

Very brave video to make, and highly appreciated. As a Domme I am often considered "abusive" by vanilla people who do not understand the finer mechanics of my relationship. Looking in from the outside people often do not see that what we engage in is safe, sane and consentual and gives both me and my sub exactly what we both need to be happy with each other, that I do not "abuse" him, but actually care for his needs more than one would in a vanilla relationship.

[KpMissPanda]

i think this is fabulous and very true. thank you for your lovely lovely view. You do the BDSM world justice. <3

[romeojulie1972]

really really informative - and to my experience, completely true!!!

[ChibiBritishGir]

That's an odd point of view, but it only works if it works for the person - just like the bit you said about a submissive man trying to be dominant or a dominant woman trying to be submissive. For me, Master and I are quite the opposite of that - Master is my Master for a reason. And I like it that way. I exist to serve him, and only so in the way he'd desire - though that doesn't mean he'll force me against my will to do something I don't want.

[brie9mo]

I agree completely. I am a submissive, and I have the hardest time admitting that to vanilla people. Simply because being "submissive" automatically pastes "doormat" on your forehead, but that isn't nesicarily true. Sure i am a submissive in a D/s relationship, but I'm not a doormat.

As for the abuse, amen!

[zeclawness]

Thankyou so much for this. I really enjoyed it, and truly clarified some of my doubts.

[Goobian]

Like the saying goes the submissive has all of the power. I agree with you. I have met some strong submissives in my life. And they don't take any bullshit from anybody. It takes a lot of trust to be in a BDSM relationship and I think that is the quality of it.  That is what I see in it with my gf. It makes me happy to roleplay with her to show that i trust her and she is worthy of trusting.

[rgey4]

I totally agree!

[Vickster122162]

I agree a D/s relationship must have balance. My male submissive and I have equal worth, we both have a say in our relationship it is just that our roles are different.

I really find it disturbing how many people equate submissive personalities with weakness. I find nothing could be further from the truth. It takes a lot of strength to submit to someone.

[coldblue29]

I definately enjoyed it, its a very good view of the Ds perspective

[R10241917]

The Supreme Soviet frowns upon your shenanigans.

[ferretmaniam]

Well spoken... I'll be following your other posts as well and am looking forward to them. Most of my "vanilla" friends have no clue about D/s, M/s relationships except the preconceptions that prevail, and I for one, lack the patience to even go there with them anymore.. lol. I'll steer em to you.

[librastorm9]

wow - thank you for helping me define - in my mind - what i have always known to be true! and it makes my chosen path that much easier to negotiate! not as an equal, merely as an equal chosen role! i look forward to watching more of what you have to say! and i agree so totally about the abuse! been there - don't want that! many blessings further!

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[amindfulangel]

Fabulous! It is so nice to see someone who is able to give an explanation without it being completely sexually based.  Thank you!

[melainadecuir]

i found this very interesting and would like to thank You. i look forward to viewing Your next video.

[ginginnyme]

"To serve and obey" in the old wedding vows to me IS making the woman somehow less, if it isn't so, why did only the woman have to say it?

[Devvus]

Well said insight on D/s, its a good thing that there are individuals like you who discusses plausible BDSM understanding, which BDSM is often misunderstood. Keep up the good talks!

~Devvus~

[DadSteve]

Excellent video - I have receomended it to the sub boys I mentor online. Can't wait to see the rest of them.

Dad Steve - Allentown, PA

[TsarObezyanka]

Hey Steve, I have heard of Allentown from Simple Life :P

[Pupcan]

Wow...

I couldn't find anything this useful on the web 10 years ago. (It's dang hard to wade through all the smut to find the one-in-a-million bit like what you have here. BTW, I like your red-and-blue analogy. Also, the boss-and-doctor example of dominant-but-not-superior is an elusive concept that I've found difficult to put into words for a long time. Thanks big time for posting this video onto Youtube.

[babyduck198718]

I absolutely love being in a bdsm relationship. :) I think it is a beautiful lifestyle. And D/S is in ALL lifestyles. It really is. Example: boss/ employers. I think you are exactly right. Equal is not best. I do think we should have dominance and submission. Thank you.

[michechi03]

i agree with You. i also delve greatly into a Master/s,ave relationship and i am glad to here someone explain it the way You do

[histrblmkr]

great video.... I think we've met at Shadowfind in Niles

[lisaa316snj]

obedientgiggle smiles after seeing this video

[Andoreasu]

The "serve and obey" subject has been lately a problem in occidental society they are misunderstanding everything, as you say the dominant position doesn't make you superior and we have to learn to respect each others needs and uniqueness. Knowing what our role is as social beings is esencial in our life, it has a lot to do with understanding our limits and our abilitys it helps us choose a carrer, a work, a lifestyle and when you are older to not regret what you did with your life jaja

[radimsch]

I like your explanation of sub/dom being equal, and celebrating our uniqueness, while getting along with everyone else who has their uniqueness :-)

[ginginnyme]

Why is the whipping cross called the "St. Andrews Cross"?

[pebbles0200]

The name comes from the Crux decussata (diagonal cross) and it is said that's what St Andrew was martyred on. It has other names like X-cross and saltire cross but St. Andrews Cross is just the most well known.

[ginginnyme]

Thank you pebbles0200, I appreciate you informing me. It has always mistified me.

[Littleone89]

Great explainations :)

[torbjorn85]

Finely som one how can put the finger on wats the most inporten in any relation are

Torbjorn85

[floggerman]

Interesting discussions and POV. Are you against sex?

[mstrjay]

No, sex is fantastic, and my beloved and I enjoy it a great deal. However, sex isn't the only aspect of the relationship that is at work. D/s is about service, be it in the bedroom, or elsewhere.