TMates FTM- 35- Leah- Advice

[ThatPunkBrent]

well it's hard for me to give advice cause i am the guy in the relationship..but i always correct people..if they ever mislabel me or assume i am a lesbian cause i am with other lesbians i just say i am a guy..and that is that useally

[shazbat1984]

Slashemp, that sounds kinda sweet.

I dunno, when I'm out with my bf, people tend to assume we're dykes, which, as you say, is not neccessarily a derogatory, but at the same time is not the case. I guess it would depend on how safe I felt the space was - like if there were a couple of friends there, one of us would probably say something (or a friend would), but if the space is a bit more hostile, then I'm not going to out him without permission.

[slashemp]

I ran into a similar problem when I was dating, my bf and I would be out and I would suddenly stop passing as male and people would assume we were just a straight couple. He was in this weird "gay overpride" stage (as I like to call it) and so was always quick to correct people and make sure they knew we were a gay couple. I'm pretty non-confrontational, but it felt really nice to have him reaffirm my identity like that... Dunno if this helps at all, or if it's what you were asking for...