The last word on uglyness.

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

You were so sweet! I'm glad I got to know you on YouTube before you left us. I miss your responses to my comments but thankfully your videos live on.

[juanperez43]

@nEWwORLDhOARDER is she dead?

[nEWwORLDhOARDER]

@juanperez43 She was a breast cancer survivor and her last vids implied that it had returned. I have not seen her on here for years and this was her passion so I have to assume that if she were alive she'd be on YouTube. It was amazing to feel like I actually knew someone I never physically met and feel the profound loss of her virtual friendship when she passed away.

[TheBookfan]

You're beautiful.

[curea229]

Why did you cut your hair??

[KJS72]

Want me to paint you?

[KJS72]

...with or without hair.

[KJS72]

You are so very beautiful

[phaedress]

How sweet!

Paint me bald, if you like...:)

Please let me know how it goes.

[greenflakes69]

true beauty cannot be seen nor even touch.....but just felt in the heart. if you have a good heart you can never be ugly

[wonstah]

cancer

[pao7779]

:) just THANX!!

[kilroy2point0]

I just saw this for the first time. I loved it!! I hope you are well. Its been a while.

[phaedress]

Hey, thanks and hello to you, too.

I'm...well... yes: well. :)

[UpDownMostly]

This was great!

[phaedress]

Hey, thanks.

What's new in three months?

[zareave]

dude i'm not going to lie, hair is an adornment and makes everyone look prettier, but you can tell someone is beautiful and has good bone structure if they look good bald (which you did in your pic) and I know that's a weird backhanded compliment, but the way i see it hair frames a person but if the image is beautiful itself, being bald is like being without your embellishment, but you still have a pretty face, i think we all judge ourselves to harshly.

[phaedress]

I don't think we're too hars as much as we pick the wrong things to focus on.

[GodsReflex]

i am ugly, fugly duckly mugly yuckly,ugly.

[Annetjie]

Great vid, thanks for sharing it with us. Made me think that I probably judge my self way too harshly.

[phaedress]

Thanks for your comment Annetjie. You got the point precisely!

[atree3]

hard to believe you ever thought that . . .

[phaedress]

I'm sure you know better than anyone on YT how malleable our perceptions are.

I've missed so much of your work, but I'm planning on a long visit soon.

[T2ariadne]

I like your style of sharing a message.

Anne

[phaedress]

It's so fantastic that you are here.

I was thinking about our day by the cabin; the music, the lake, the visit with Judy...

nice times.

[SwimCharSwim]

your new video made me discover this gem i've never seen. i do miss your commentary and esp. seeing you.

i hope that whatever you are doing off youtube is bringing you joy - but do come back on once in while and say hello.

i'm glad you know how beautiful you are, it would be such a shame for you to not see it when it's so obvious.

peace,

dave (dkrikori)

[phaedress]

Hey Dave,

Thanks for stopping by. I've been away for health reasons, but I'm hoping I'll be back for a bit.

So much has changed! Any news you care to share?

peace, indeed!

~phae

[JST1234567890]

utube said i posted too many comments - has i got a big mouf - ugly ugly. kant i knot spull - stewpid ugly guly. 28-40-56 definitely - ugly ugly ugly. Please (or Plezz) put me in the prototype blender and under current chic tractor so i might be barbie fashionable for 15 minutes and go er go er go what whererwear.

I amz me welecome to unique world. You don't know it you taste it and you try besides you and the rest of us will dye. Now pink ! there is a colure. UGLY-UGLY

[phaedress]

A most amusing comment.

[HarrySca]

I don't think your ugly at all, I mean your not supermodel but that's just fake shit anyway.

[kaqs8994]

you're precious! and beautiful, too, inside and out...

[dieguillo1982]

I think you are hot!! baby ;)

[shamanizing]

i liked it when your hair was a mess, just before you got the hair cut, but you are very beautiful person and brave to put this on youtube

peace n blessings

Ken

[Princess1Sammy1Jo]

heyy i was reading your other comments and realized you were czech too...hi 5...i am czech too...have you been to czech republic lately??prague is absolutly beautiful..i go every 2 years to meet my grandparents..im 14..i was born in australia but go to czech rep often...so i count myself as czech :D

[Princess1Sammy1Jo]

shame on you people who wrote nasty coments....phaedress is beutiful inside and out...regardless what you say...but seriuosly you people (not gonna write names) who wrote insults to this person are lowlife ugly losers...i bet that hurts...and its also the truth you are ugly on the inside and the inside matters most coz no one would want to be with a rude person such as the people who insulted this women.

[angelamogoo]

Shes Ugly Like hell and Has My Balls in her Mouth One time

[Philosopher665]

Ugh...I loathe my uglyness.

[TheClash1985]

Thank you for sharing this. You're beautiful and you kick ass!!!

[sillysillytom]

BRAVO! Thank you... this inspires.

[james0458]

i agreed i dont know why im struggling toknow if i am beautiful or not and it hurt soo bad at the moment im working oso hard to hide it :( belive me i envie you alot :(

[allS0uthpark]

UR Gay

[phaedress]

Well, in some senses of the word and/or times, sure.

What of it?

[mkmusic06]

AGREED, Mellophae! By the way, what the hell was that on your tongue???  Ha ha!

[blueclouds4me]

Oh my gosh Phae, I LOVE your haircut:) Adorable! BUT, the real issue is I wish YOU could see what WE see, and the BEAUTY WE see in YOU!

Hug Life, Marylou ^-^

[upabittoolate]

are you kidding? that haircut is very becoming, lose those sideburns because you have the most delightful, rounded cheeks. as a man whose always been considered handsome, i have to remind people that im 10x smarter than i am handsome & tall & 1000x more humane. shallow people dont get that. im thankful that an artist showed you your beauty. as a man im proud that another real man showed you that looks dont matter. what really jars me is that you persevered. bless you.

[ravenlaughs]

I just wanted to interject something if I may?

You have a classic beauty to you.

I am talking about the Hollywood starlet classic.

Just thought I would point that out in case no one else took the time to.

Shoot a vid in black and white and you will see what I mean.

:D

[northernxstar]

She really does! Thats what I was thinking, and Phaedress that was a beautifully inspiring video! The image you're sending with this video is great. Thank you.

[ButterRivaLs]

And I could see you in 20s garb easily, especially with the haircut. : )

PS Seeing our own beauty is something no one can give us.

[clattybrown]

prt 2 hate mail is common usually by others who have nothing to share but their own hatred and hate only generates hate

You are stronger than that, you burn them with Love

[phaedress]

"burn them with Love"

That is fantastic!!!

[clattybrown]

my wife says you have beautiful fine features, she likes to draw and was awed by your video too, thank you so much for simply being you Merry Xmas and a wonderful new year

as they say hope its better than last but not as good as next

[phaedress]

Thank your wife for me. I was counting on people seeing the beauty in the character portrayed and thus realising how ephemeral and subjective is our self-criticism.

When I look (today) at what I looked like then, I see quite clearly how pretty she was.

[clattybrown]

same goes for aging  as a child we feel adults have it all and as an adult we tend to feel the want of childhood tipsy turvy world

You are beautiful inside and out, someone is very lucky to share you with you and others have been lucky to have shared that moment with you

[edenbainbridge]

i think you are beautiful. realy :)

[clattybrown]

There is no such thing as ugly (your are not)

One mans (mankind) poison is another mans treasure great vid and very open honest words truth is we never see ourselfs as others do, we see inside ourselfs through our own eyes in a mirror, being pretty is what you say, not caring anymore media puts a so called perfect woman/man in our heads Barbie V Actionman and we all know how plastic they are please stay pretty (free)

[minex17]

Hello,I watched your latest video and I read the sadness from your eyes when you approach to the camera.Some people they call names to people but how human they can be? Actualy they are far been human cuz they look only outside and not inside of a person and dont see the light.5 stars

[hunterjumper95]

did u have cancer?? cause my mom had cancer & she had to get her head shaved & she thought she was ugly but i told her, dont talk about your self that way! you look beautiful! always think positive!

[M0NSIEURchi]

...and I want you to know it was seeing this that inspired me to stick my kite in front of my iSight cam. Wasn't sure about doing that. So you can call that a result, eh? :) MC

[M0NSIEURchi]

All of the above.

I understand a bit about the importance of language though because the reduction of Welsh spoken in Wales affected the strength of the Welsh culture, identity, etc. This is why very few anglophones have heard of the brilliant Welsh philosopher Cedric of Monmouthshire.

[M0NSIEURchi]

Yes, you are beautiful. And you look a bit Eastern European to me.

[phaedress]

really now? Eastern European?Could it be because I was born in Prague, do you think?

(I assumed you knew that when you mentioned the Intralingua guy.)

[M0NSIEURchi]

I had the thought first, then I saw you mention the country. Didn't know which city, though.

Not sure I understand that dispute, though I do recognize the importance of language - as you point out in your n-word vid.

[phaedress]

Which dispute? Czech-slovak, Esperanto-intralingua, marxist-capitalist, east-west???

[forestcre]

teda prazanda!.. a mluvis jeste?

[phaedress]

Ano, ale netvrdim ze spisovne. :)

[forestcre]

tak to ja zasadne take ne :)

[ChameleonArt]

Geautiful, especially the last 30 seconds, what you say. 100% genuinely perfect. Everyone shines. Not ALWYS feeling like they do, but they DO. I hope that more people come to recognize that, thank you for this video! Anne

[atree3]

eye of the beholder, and all that

thanks

[NYCHARLEM212]

Wow ya new haircut looks good

[1nalawest]

wow.. thast was prety deep. 5 stars

[undiesinabunch]

I'm curious how you could have possibly grown up thinking your were anything but gorgeous.

[phaedress]

Becuase many people took it upon themselves to tell me so.

I often had a few extra pounds. That's enough in today's society.

[Lingacreations]

What a beautiful and personal movie. I loved it :)

[phaedress]

Thank-you. When I watched your Beautiful video I thought of sending you this. How sweet that you found it!

[aoibheil]

phaedress, I love this video. Thankyou.

Thankyou for speaking from the heart, for speaking the truth, and for reminding me how much I judge others by their appearance, though I try not to.

You made me feel beautiful and you helped me to see the beauty in others more clearly.

[nikitejay]

How nice...You are so nice. You make me feel like there's hope for this world.

[NessBarga]

i love your videos, they are very inspiring and thx for the comments *~ness

[neo3210]

the first thing i thought when i first saw your video is that i might fancy you...but then i kicked myself and told myself to stop it... i think you are atleast a 7 out of 10 and your composure and style when you perform is definately 10/10!! he's lookin at YOU kid!!!

[phaedress]

(((blush!)))

[cowboymike1982]

Cowboymike was here...

[pissantpunk]

By the way, you are NOT ugly in the least.

[pissantpunk]

Quote from you, "Ugly is calling other people names".

[Amiduffer]

Hey Phaedress, nice vid! You are kind of pretty. I think really beautiful people are handicaped in a way, odd as that sounds.

[phaedress]

I know what you mean...people who are extremely attractive can't relate to others normally.

However, I deeply believe that everyone is beautifull.

[pissantpunk]

So long as they agree with everything you have to say and don't contradict in any form or fashon.

[phaedress]

I am really sorry. Usually I don't do that. I'm rather fragile at the moment.

[pissantpunk]

It's ok, I'm over it. I hope you are too.

[phaedress]

Well...sorta...except the lingering affection I always feel for anyone clever enough to pull back from the brink of conflict. :)

[pissantpunk]

Wow... now I'm feeling all gushy after that.

[phaedress]

LOL

Make love not war...hehe

Well, not LOVe, but peace and understanding...and didn't we just prove some grreat cosmic point about conflict in miniature here?

Have a great day, er..pissant

[pissantpunk]

I would have to say we did! My name is Jeremy, by the way. And you have great day too!

[LapDog12]

Great video!

[TheJoyofSOF]

Wow - That was intense! It's interesting how our perceptions are skewed, for whatever reasons.

[phaedress]

Quite right. We almost never have an accurate view of ourselves.

That's what we need other people for.

[positivesue]

What a beautiful video....and person:-)

[FrankHarkate]

I have a message to deliver to the cute people of the world...if you're

cute, or maybe you're beautiful...there's MORE OF US UGLY MOTHERFUCKERS

OUT THERE THAN YOU ARE!! So watch out.

Frank Zappa

[inmendham]

beautiful video!

[ozgleegirl]

Thank you, this really touched me very deeply!

[phaedress]

Thank-<I>you!<I/>

I have been moved by how many people have responded favourably to this little story.

[lacy10169]

All mt life I was teased for being "ugly", people who know me say I'm beautiful and I still feel ugly, watching your video puts it all together for me. Thanks you.

[Cybil017]

Couldn't have said it any better myself!

[BuzzieinNJ]

That was really touching.  Your not only beautiful, you have a beautiful soul.

[mars812]

i loved your video it's really awesome and thank you i hate when i let people get to me when they say im ugly.. and your beautiful for letting people see your soul i wish i had something better to say but u basically left me with no words...

[LostSoulDX]

Wow, what an awesome video. All your videos are just so good! It really inspires me.

[phaedress]

Thanks for watching, LSDX!

[swunger]

Wow...you brought tears to my eyes. I sent this video to my two girls. My fondest hope is that we all learn from the wisdom contained in your video.

[phaedress]

hank-you for that. It was a very personal story that seems to resonate with people.

[zerodegree273b]

I think you're very pretty... The hair will grow back, dont worry about it. Im completely bald and I like it!

[phaedress]

Bet you're a guy!

[7forheaven]

People are only ugly when they're evil! Nice persons could never be "bad looking". You're a nice person, I guess! Greetings from Austria :)!

[phaedress]

Thanks for the vote of confidence.

Austria is a lovely place; one I want to visit. I took a train from Italy to the Czech Republic once, and the scenery was spectacular!

[JadedIllusions27]

I love this video Phaedress favorited!:o)

[phaedress]

Thank-you. :)

Oddly, True Love and self-confidence have been but two of the "gifts" of cancer.

[WoosterFanGirl]

Great stuff hon. *favorited*

I still feel so shy a lot, but I'm getting over it. And life's more fun when you don't let yourself feel "ugly".

;-)

~L~

[phaedress]

really? Wow. That's amazing.

[NiteBlogger]

This vid hits me on so-o many levels - in your description you say "for anyone who is less than perfect" you surely had to know - you meant the whole wide world! :) Wonderful vid made almost perfectly by sharing a part of your journey AND one of my fav bands, the Cowboy Junkies playing my fav song...many thanks to a beautiful lady. :)

[phaedress]

Yes, you are quite right that I meant everyone :)

I saw the CJ live the the first time I heard them, and they instantly became a part of my soul.

Thanks for your kind words.

[NiteBlogger]

Just saw them last Sat in San Diego - been 'groupie' since 1990...that song is "our" song (first concert HE too me to) LOL not only are you beautiful - you've got great taste...

[DawndeeDALLAS]

Awsome vid...I think you are beautiful inside and out. It is a wonderful thing to find the real meaning in life. Thanks for the cry...Peace~

[icecorescientist]

I hope this gets featured, its a strong testament to

survival, and to the beauty in all of us.

[phaedress]

Thank-you SO much!

[icecorescientist]

ten stars for a beautiful woman

[angeleyz63]

Wow! this was deep. I can't believe you used to think that about yourself. You are beautiful to me. Thanks for sharing your story. Ah a man can make all the difference in how we think of ourselves, huh?

[phaedress]

Yes, as much as I believe in self-determination, love changes everything!

[TimeCodeMechanics]

What? OMG! You're serious right? Why on earth would you think you were ugly? You're a cutie. You can be hot or not at your choosing. I mean look at freaking Fergie. You don't think she's hot do you? Without the make up and hooker clothes she's pretty basic and so are the Pussy Cat Dolls and Ashely Judd (without the make up). What am I missing? Haircuts cute by the way.

[phaedress]

Thanks for your compliments.

I put my face on Yt shortly after going through chemo, all puffy and bald, and some people felt they had to tell me how awful I looked. I also noticed this was happening to other women who were not in their twenties or weighed more than 100 lbs. I know beauty is subjective and used myself as an example to encourage others.

[whysoblind]

this is true

[nise612]

there should be more people like you in this world!!!

[iseehaters]

i think your hot ... and a great video.

[phaedress]

Thanks ISH! This video has become my own private compliment generator.

Vanity, thy name is Phaedress! hehe

[iseehaters]

if you ever need anything let me know.. my office is always open..

[craigzwicker]

5 stars. you look good.

[noahsark1962]

5 stars:)Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and everyone sees beauty in different things.Great vid.

[MacBraveheart]

Aww- that is such a nice video. I believe Ugly to be a State Of Mind. Like you said- ugly is behaviour and not a person. YOU are quite the prettiest person on You Tube today, and that is honest feedback here! LOL! So there. Let them put that in their pipes and smoke it.

[phaedress]

Aww...blush! That's very nice of you to say Mac. Thanks.

[xForeverMinex]

<b>right!</b>nobody is ugly!

it´s just someone like one thing and the other one likes something else.

and everone who trys to bitch around just feels not comfortable with his own way to look.sorry for my bad english, hope i did no missed the point.byebye

[phaedress]

You said it quite well, xx.

Thanks.

[geno1960]

That was a beautiful video And your Beautiful too.

[phaedress]

thanks gene, I'm glad you approve..:)

[meisterlx]

"don't ever let anybody for any means tell you that you're ugly" - if any1 tells me that, what shall i do? lol

[jeffreysquirrel]

that was beautiful

[tinosvblog]

well, if you call youself ugly well what i am than suppose to be haha :-D i gues there are nomore uglier than me :-p

[awalkingenmity]

Thank you. That was really nice to hear<3

[bobsully]

cool video...and introduction. I have subscribed.

[joezzq]

onw word "Aaaaaw" :)

[klcdesign01]

How profound and RIGHT you are! Bless your heart. And, btw, you are FAR from being "ugly".=)

[sprichbeeke]

You are soooo Beautyful!!!Radiating spirit ..soal and creativity..and also externally you look great and the haircut looks good...

[phaedress]

Gosh, beeke, you'd think I created a compliment generator with this vid. It is not easy to maintain the humble spirit when sweet folks like yourself insist on lauding me.

Ah, such is the burden LOL.

[ManiacPower]

What a beautiful person you are :)

[Mellomel]

Love the hair cut! Love you too!

[guitmartiman]

From my perspective, you appear to be beautiful inside, outside or without hair. And that's the truth!

(I had to make two comments because this went over 500 characters and I couldn't decide what to leave out!)

[phaedress]

Jack; That is incredibly sweet of you to say. Thanks!

It's so ironic that my rant against judging people by appearance has caused so many people to call me beautiful. I like it, though I feel guilty, as if I'd been fishing for compliments..which I wasn't.

I agree: there is no excuse for being ugly on the inside.

[guitmartiman]

As Forest Gump's mother might have said, "Ugly is as ugly does." And that's the truth. Doug Batchelor puts it another way. He says there are basically four different kinds of people in the world in terms of beauty or the lack thereof. There are beutiful ugly people, ugly beutiful people, beautiful beutiful people, and ugly ugly people. Most of us are not really ravishingly beautiful on the outside, but there is no excuse for being ugly in the inside.

[dadhiltonmps]

U R quite attractive, Phaedress. I like short hair & the color becomes U.

"cat"

[Heidiscope]

I like your hair like that, on the end of your video, but yes in the end it doesn't really matter what hairstyle you have or anything else. It's the right attitude which matters and i think you've got that covered.LOL

[AirWave66]

Wow!! What an amazing video, it moved me.

[dadhiltonmps]

You're beautiful. I used a bald actress from Geneva, Switzerland in many of my projects. This look is intriguing; nevertheless, it is more than the hair that makes you YOU. I like your sentiments and philosophy. Glad that I subscribed to your channel.

"cat"

[timetobeyouronlyone]

oops, i clicked on post comment too early!

heres what i wanted to say :

It doesnt matter what people think, as long as you know who you are :) <3

[timetobeyouronlyone]

Aww.. Your beautiful! Love the hair- used to have that haircut like..couple of years ago :) My friend just had hers done like that in the summer :D lol Its gonna be in mode :D lol

xoxox

It doesnt matter what

[Adrienne007]

you're an absolutely beautiful person. your soul is blinding :) im subscribing

[sarahmayco]

i think you are way cute

[nyOPERAguy]

love it. excellent

[av1976]

WOW, very nice video!!!! You made me smile:) and I agree with you on this:) thanks for the video

[maximumjla]

there are alot of ugly people here, BUT you're not one of them.

[phaedress]

thanx max...i hope you're speaking figuratively.

:}

[LaserDeathRay]

You have been doubly blessed with both inner AND outer beauty....enjoy what you have for as long as you have it.

Go ahead and flaunt your..(ahem) attributes, my dear, ...you're too wise to be vain.  Cheers.

[phaedress]

Thank-you my friend. You did, after all, make that (utterly irrelevant and totally sweet) comment on my re:Atheist video long ago. So I know your heart's in the right place, though I'm still mulling over yur use of the word "boobs", but I'll let you in on that secret another time.

[LaserDeathRay]

Like I said before phaedress, you ARE an attractive woman. Of course, you DO have an inner beauty and that's important. But don't de-emphasize the beauty that's found in your flesh.

Yes, attractiveness is no substitue for character but it doesn't make you shallow to "revel" in your beauty.

It's valuable because it is a gift that not all of us receive; it's valuable because it is transitory ( time will destroy everthing. )

[phaedress]

revel, revel revel! tehee!

Good to hear from you, LDR.

((hugs!))

[phaedress]

Note to people leaving comments: As VioletKitty so aptly put it, "we are in screwtube mode". I get messages saying someone's replied or I reply to someone..and then it vanishes. So be patient, I'm not ignoring you!

Thanks for all your kind and heartwarming responses.

[Kratzlaff]

your so beautiful inside and out!

[mizdarkeyes]

Brought tears to my eyes; thank you SO much! You truly ARE beautiful. *smile*

[phaedress]

Miz Darkeyes:

A tear and a smile is a nice combination.

I smile warmly in your general direction!

[CrbnMnxide]

Awesome video, thanks.