Can we be friends then?!? Cause I could really do with someone like that?!?
My love complex is also bit confusing, if I could love someone as much as I love what I do (costume design) and/or my close friends I think that amount of love would scare me.Which is probably why since I have gotten serious about what I want to do with my professional life a year ago my once fairly active love life disappeared. Kinda worrying for a 19 yr old really!!
I've actually found your way of thinking to be very difficult. I had a friend I liked and I figured as long as he was happy, but it didn't work that way, but I suppose thats something else entirely... I wish you all the best with your search for love. (Mine has failed...)
I have the love complex of always being interested in someone who doesn't really know me or notice me :/ Then I'm far too shy to talk to them and after that become slightly depressed at the fact that I am so shy. Also at the fact that they will never know and probably never notice me, causing me to become detached from the world as much as possible. To try to spare the heartache :(
My sister is a bit like you, because she wants to fix people, and she hopes she can meet a guy who she can fix and then he can fix her and it'll be awesome. But my dad doesn't think it's a good idea.
I always start liking a guy or a girl who doesn't like me back and then I'm always heartbroken when it's over or if it doesn't work out at all. But the up side to that is I always learn a lesson or two
I'd also like to say that I know you'll find the love of your life, Myles. From subscribing to your channel, I've come to see all that you have to offer to everyone in the world. The girl who will someday be the recipient of the majority of that is richer than a multi-billionaire.
If I had only one wish in this world, it's that I find someone as caring, funny, intelligent, enthusiastic, empathetic, outspoken and passionate as you are.
My love complex would be that I crave to have that one special someone, to know is always there for you, and that you're there for them, but whenever I try to be with someone, I end up pushing them away, afraid that if I don't do it, they will, and in the process, break my heart that I've already had to put back together numerous times. (Wow, run-on sentence much?)
I'm the same as you, Myles, only I don't easily detatch from the people I've helped. It's hard for me to cope with the fact that the person I'm interested in is already taken. I know this sounds a bit irrational, but sometimes I wonder if I'll die alone.
but im allways attracted to guys who are really funny. im never really that bothered what they look like, but there allways someone i can talk to and have a laugh with for hours :L
i've never had a boyfriend and i'm almost 15. all my friends have and i feel so left out. and every guy i seem to like either lives far away from me or thinks i'm just some ugly bitch. o__o
@EmilyMayLYVA It's okay. I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend either. Sure, sometimes you feel lonely and when your friends are dating people you're kinda jealous but not and they don't really get it. But, look at the positives. No one has ever broken up with you or cheated on you =D
There is definatly someone out there for you Myles!!
And my problem (which really isn't a problem but just the way life works) is that I like this guy (which is the first guy I've really ever liked) and I don't see how it is humanly possible for him to like me back.. Thanks for the video :D
Sadly, in the 19 years I've been alive, I've never fallen in love. I don't think you're "doomed" to living the single life. It's very likely you will fall for an unattached girl and from there, work out a relationship together. Good luck.
Haha, kudos to you for wearing your hair natural. I love curly hair (I've got it myself).
i rlly liked this girl, but i twas hard becuase 3 boys alsked her out at the same time (ish) i was one of them, and i didnt get picked, wich did make me sad but i waited and waited convinced that if i put all my dedication to it, it would work, she split up with him and i waited about a month after to let her setle but when i alsked her she had allready got her eyes on someone else :'(
I am the same way. I just have a lot of issues, like just recently I was with a guy who never had a girlfriend and lack of confidence. He was also getting over a dramatic childhood situation. Once He began to become confident once again, and he had learned to channel his depression, I pushed him away. I felt my job was done. Although I still have issues, and wish someone for once would show me they can help me just as much as I help them. I guess I am on a search for a happy medium.
i've come to realize that when i was with my ex, i would get angry alot (although I never showed it) because there were so many little things she did, that pissed me off, but once we broke up (which wasn't because of those things) that I realized, i could care less wether she does those things, i just wanted her back.
I constantly fall for guys who are completely wrong for me...they treat me badly and belittle me. Then the guys who are perfect, who actually want me and i know will be the best im never attracted to them and end up keeping them as friends. They are the best friends ever but cant bring myself to that other place where they are....O_o
I hold in firm belief though that everyone has someone out there suited to them and will be everything they want/need!! Just keep looking ^_^
Thanks for sharing. I guess I'm realising more about myself in that way all the time, after 3 big relationships over the past 5 years. I realise I find it difficult to not be wanted-loved by a guy -and I think I've been like that as long as I liked boys! So when I am single (i.e now) I have to try to come to terms with the fact it is OK to have NO guy in my life right now. And I do struggle with it, therefore I know it's a bit of a 'love complex'!
There is this guy who I'm absolutely in love with. At first I thought it was just a normal teen crush, but the fact that I try to not like him and have failed for the past 4 years kind of tells me otherwise. Now rather than befriend this person, I either A. try and stay far away or B. act like a total jerk to him...Here's hoping that it's just a terrible crush in the end though. I don't believe in having more than one love....
I have a hard time keeping people with me because of the issues in my mins. I have a considerable amount of mental instability and insecurity that often leaves people wondering about how much they could possibly put up with before they snap.Anxiety,poor self image, agoraphobia,and a whole bevy of things that can tweak someone's mind to the point of insanity upon repitition.
I just figure one day,I'll find someone who likes maintaining me. Because im very loveable after if you do.
You will find someone someday, theyre is everyone for someone, and someday teh person that you need to help, will need you as theyre help. the other people that got different boyfriends just probably were not for you, and everything happens for a reason, so mayyybe you are suppose to be alone at this time, but dont worry you will find someone ^.^ who needs you just as much as you need them.
gosh i have to major dilemmas....being shy and when i first see a guy i judge him on looks....which i know is really bad.....any advice for fixing that.....especially the shyness part
im pretty much an impossible person. I like somebody that's older and we occasionally talk. But when i do get a boyfriend, i tend to be with them for a long time and when I break up with them, im always somehow jealous when they go out with someone else, it's horrible. D:
Maybe you should try being with a man.... I dont mean to be straight out gay or anything. I just believe that if you feel stuck with a particular type of person or gender try seeing what it would be like with a another gender or as another gender. Dont take this the wrong way either and think Im suggesting being a tranny. Basically broaden your vision as a human being a see things as what they are. Gay straight bisexual. Male or female. It doesnt matter. People are people.
you're the sweetest person, one day you'll find someone who doesn't need fixing in your eyes and you'll love her and she'll love you back. it's as simple as that. the more worked up and worried you get about these things the harder it is to be happy. x
i used to do that. its not good. i fix them to where they are better in my mind then i let them go because i dont think they need me anymore but it only hurts me in the end. be careful
there is this girl i like. so i befriended her. like you did, i helped her with her problems. then she didn't need me anymore. so i ceased to exist for her. 1 1/2 years ago i last visited her. after that she blocked any contact i tried to make.
then in two days she'll have been with her boyfriend for a year. that's my birthday, yay.
but i don't feel jealous or anything, i thought that was strange before watching your video. i just feel happy for her. if she is happy without me ... so be it.
I can like a guy alot untill he kisses me. I've just never felt like it's been right except once. Maybe I'm just not that into kissing, or maybe the ones who kissed me sucked at it. idk... it's really annoying.
I'm in love with someone way too perfect for me. Hes the most amazing person I have ever met, and I feel so privileged to just be able to talk with him and make him laugh. Hes in love with someone else, and like you, so long as the one I care for is happy, I am.
I wish I could fit it all into one comment, but I know I won't manage to.
Theres two parts to it.
One, as I'm submissive/perfectionist/ex-mormon, I'm vulnerable, making me easy to take advantage of. And so I have been. Making me loose all trust in people.
And Two, I hate being a burden, in any way shape or form, and I don't want someone to get attatched to me only to lose me. Or vice-versa.
There's plenty of details I could put, but best not to.
Well I have a load of issues..And I know a few guys who are in love with me, does that mean they only love me because of how awful my life can be sometimes? D:
I'm still in love with my ex.... He's my best mate. We broke up cos we annoy each other sometimes and he didn wanna end up hatin me. I'm now afraid I'll never be able to stay with someone, cos if it couldn't work with him, then nobody is gonna understand how I think and see the world quite as he did. :/
Aren't love complexes borne out of a fear of commitment..? I think a fair example is our parents, who seemed to have got past that 'rescuing another' stage and who managed to establish stabler love paths and longevity, whether adventurous or boring times filled the day.
Once you've done the fixing, it's probably the hardest part, to continue, to commit and find meaning in a relationship. But I'm convinced our parents handled it better (ok, not everyone's) but times and mindsets have changed...
I, also, am always looking for girls with some sort of problem but that at the root are good people. I suppose I've accepted that long-term relationships just aren't for me.
I use to be really bothered by the notion that I might never settle down and get married, but I now look forward to being a life-long independent. Imagine the amazing things you can do when you don't have to convince your significant other to let you do things. A collection of close friends can replace that anyway.
I know plenty of guys that like me, but I see them as friends. The guys I fall for are the ones who I can't have for whatever reason. My problem is that I want a serious relationship, with someone who I can share everything with and will truly care about me. It's just so hard to find someone like that. I've only ever had one true boyfriend and I messed that up completely with my insecurity. I have three cats now, imagine how many I will have in 20 years time, I can bet I'll still be alone then!
guys with problems or issues like to spend time with me becouse i listen to them and dont make any assumptions. i like to help but mostly it turns out that the guys just want to chare their misary with me so they dont have to bary all by their own.. hm i could go on for ever with this :p so much compications..
sometimes i wonder if love really exists or if its just a egoistik feeling.. ah i'm not good in explaning
My Love Complex is that I'm in love with someone who's just broke up with me for no apparent reason. He said he loved me too but his behaviour is just so unlike him. We'd been together a year last month. I'm confused by it all
xD Kinda ironic, we just did a peice about first loves in english today. I got an A (highest in class ^.^ )
Well.. I go out with people, and it's great and ladedar, then I get bored. I just want people I can't have, because it doesn't bore me, the risk that is. Which is annoying, cause I feel the same as you xD I will die with many cats by my side.
Perhaps you feel that those with problems are the only ones that are going to need you. Isnt your major dealing with helping people? Find someone as has the same passion for helping people, and you can help eachother help others.
I tend to date guys who are on the wrong path, who are undecided about what to do in life, then I "fix" then, in the sense of helping them cope through all of their troubles and cleaning them up, eventually we end up just being friends, where I, the good Samaritan, end up finding them a girlfriend, or helping them pick out engagement rings..I just want them to be happy no matter what, but I forget about myself.
My love complex sucks. I always like someone and I'm too scared to tell them. So I never do and I just watch while they have boyfriends/girlfriends. I seem to be the 'FILF' and that's it lmao.
im in the same boat but she doesnt have a bf id say my "love complex" is that to many girls say im to nice and that they need someone a bit more rough not to say im a fag like lol ive had 14 years of martial arts under my belt and that not an euthism lol or a brag just that girls tend to see me more as a friend someone they can talk to... but yeah to me love is all emotion packed into one thats why its confusing! great video myles!
Whenever I find someone new, I compare them to the person I loved most; they're never as good as that person, in any way, so my relationships since that person have never been too good.
My problem is being too affectionate, and too interested. Not in a clingy, I-need-to-be-around-you-all-the-time, were-you-just-staring-at-her-butt, type of way. But in an I'm-honest-with-you-you're-honest with me, way. I have these really great conversations, and connect with guys, but they're never interested, and I wonder if it's because I'm not a conquest, just a person who wants to have a real relationship.
Apparently guys like the chase and then for it to continue to some degree... so I've been learning how to do this!
But it is not natural to me! I am thankful that I have had boyfriends where I didn't have to do this at all, it was just open and expressive in a fun,natural way.
It's hard to understand the chase part, but I do know that there were times when I got something that was hard to get or forbidden and it really turned up the heat! So, I say play around with it all!
My Love Complex is that i always end up choosing absolute dicks to go out with, which for a long time put me off wanting to have a relationship. its really annoying!
My love complex is that guys tend to get bored with me, they see me more as a friend to talk to about video games. Really though, I give tons of affection and go on fun dates and everything. :P Oh well, my youngin' self shouldn't be complaining.
My "love complex" is the fact that I'm perpetually single. I've had one boyfriend, and since then, I have been single for three years straight. I'm always "the friend". No one ever seems to see me as more. :(
My love complex would definitely be falling for people I can't have long term...people who live abroad or are just wrong for me on too many levels! Everything seems to simple with the people who are around me - I guess its the impossibility that keeps me interested!
I've just got over someone who I'd had the strongest feelings for...for 2 years. Ugh. I didn't get treated to well by him. Now we probably won't speak to each other ever again..which is good and bad.
Now there's someone else...but I don't want to get attatched to anyone. It's rubbish.
love is a confusing thing like letting yourself be totaly vunerable with another person is scary and then the thought of losing that is even worse but its worth it i think you just need someone that you like for them as much as you like helping them someone taht you know that you will still wanna be with after youve rode in on your white horse and saved =) the right girl is out there thats what i think anyway
I don't see the point in being faithful to a girl, in my first ever really serious relationship i was totally faithful, even though i got offers from girls i liked even more than my girlfriend, i said no, only to find out that she'd cheated on me a few times. Now i'll never be in a committed relationship, but most girls don't like that :( lol
my prob is right now im kinda in love with someone i cant be with due to distance..damn am i outta luck haha, and i so know what you mean about trying to fix the girls probs
There is NO WAY that YOU will be left on the shelf. Not in a MILLION YEARS!!
How about this? A male/female knows that you are her soul mate & you cannot recognize/believe this. Because I do believe that only a small percentage of people find that kind of thing in life.
I'm one of those girls with issues... mostly because I always fall for the guys I know deep down I can never ever have for one reason or another. I always have issues with picking the right person... I dwell on things for too long, and I get too involved with my own feelings. I also overthink EVERYTHING to the point that it gives me a headache. I just wish someone would set me up with someone they think will be good for me because everyone else is always better at picking guys for me than I am.
OMG i no exactly what you mean, like i like to try to help people but mainly cuz i have alot of problems and the fact that i go through them and the thought that others go too cause me pain as i dont want anyone to feel as terrible as i do sometimes as they really dont deserve it! But then i just mess things up, and yer push people away and its like =/ maybe i should keep myself to myself but now am getting help for that from my councellor and my bf has helped me ALOT to overcome my issues :D
I think its very easy to fall in love with your idea of someone, but when you truly get to know them, you kind of back away because ur idea of them is different. =]
comitment issues,h8 them -_- i suffer 4m them 2, my longest relationship, - one when i was 12 lol, is a week, cause once i get in2 one i start panicing and ask do i actually really like the person or nt, when in reality, i've never actually gone out wit some1 ive actually like liked.i think i picked up the habit of making myself not like them 2 nt get hurt, & also cause a friend at the time i picked it up always wanted them =S its gotten 2 the point where i cnt c myself ever getting married lol
it would be silly to say that i've legit fallen "in love" so much that i would want to spend the rest of my life with a person.
however i must say, there has been one time where i felt amazing emotion toward someone, however, in the end, it was a matter of what they wanted most. and that was to be single and able to mingle...
long story short - i meet guy. guy likes me and i like guy. guy has issues with ex. i fall in love with guy. we get together then break up. he gets close to his ex then they have big argument. he comes back to me. happens for about 4 months. he gets really close cos she's going to uni. he uses me for sex. he tells me he doesn't want to see me again. i tell him where to stick it. worst part - i still love him =/
It's so great how you can open up and talk about things like this, it makes me want to talk too! ^^ I have a tendancy to fall for any guy I'm around for more than a day, it's annoying. I'm also the kind of person that admires from a distance and never says how I really feel... ah well, one day maybe...
I think I'm attracted to broken hearts! I've lost count of the number of times I've been the rebound girl. My latest broken heart is a guy I met at a party about 6 months ago. He was quiet and removed from the group. Long story short I caught him trying to slit his wrists as he had just been dumped. I spent abount 7 hours talking him round ect. He went back to his girlf for a while but came back to me when they split. I know he will drop me as soon as I have made him feel better. They all do.xDx
I've only fallen in love once, and he has a girlfriend. Like Myles, I'm happy to see that he's happy, but it also kills me a bit inside to know that I'm not part of that. I love him so much, but because of the situation I feel like I'm doing something horrible by loving him :( sometimes I even push him away, but then I come back because his friendship means too much *sigh*
Sometimes If you care about someone but its never going to become a relationship its hard. But apparantly in time we all move on... just gotta wait for that to happen :)
Don't over-think it. Don't love someone too much. When people cheat, or find out they bf/gf has been cheating on them, they must let go. Don't fight over it. Just call it off, and go get drunk to ease the pain.
Ugh, where do I even start? Well, in short, I once got dumped by a guy because he cheated on me, and I think because of that I'm now to get close to anyone. There is this guy who likes me, but I'm afraid we just end up hurting eachother and I'm afraid to feel that pain over again. So I'll just keep my distance from anyone that might possibly like me.
I just do the same and that is pure love. To care about so, no matter if s/he ends with you or if s/he becomes just a friend. We will definitely be with so or with different people, but just on the right time and we need to be prepared for that by knowing ourself better.
I'm too young for as complicated love issues as I have right now, I went out with this boy my best friend liked, he didn't like her but liked me back but then he really changed dramatically and was all 'yeah I lied to you about me so you'd like me etc', because my best friend had liked him, I was allowed to and even if she said it was okay... not allowed. Now I have a new bf with a similar issues, they were never really my friends and I'm not morally allowed to date whoever I like now... oh wow.
I met this Belgian girl a few weeks ago. I met her just a few hours before she left to go back. Call me a fool, but I think I've fallen in love with her and I have a feeling I will never see her again...
I'll probably be alone for the majority of my life... well "unnattached", i'm quite... inward and don't open up very easily in that way. Instead i make friends very easily. I have been in love twice, but i dumped both of them, first cz i wasn't ready and my head wasn't in a good place, i could see i wasn't making him happy and second because he wasn't a nice person :(
i wish more people thought like this, and the fact you actually have good intentions towards girls, and like that you've helped them out. you truely are just a lovely guy, and i really hope you find someone perfect for you :)
Most of the time, the person I'm with had a great relationship before, the break-up had been terrible and I was the one to fix it all.
The thing is, when he finally is fixed, he doesn't like me anymore or the most common kind: he finds "a great and adorable girl" (I know that for sure, I got it 5 times).
So I guess it's always complicated, but we need to make the best it when we can.
Damn the same with me, I feel like a damn Mother Teresa...all guys learn on ME how NOT TO behave in a relationship and all of them find a happy gf afterwards...and I always end up being alone...WTF?:D
Well i don't believe in love... i believe it existed many years ago,.. but people lost all meaning for it when politics and materialism came into the picture... im happy alone at the moment but still sometimes scared that this is it and theres nothing left for me if i don't believe in love.
Well, when I didn't love my bf-s so much, I never had trouble breaking up with them (I used to do that after 3 months always)But when I found guys I LOVED, I became stupid, weak, dependant and no guy likes that anymore, so they treat me like crap and I cannot break up with them although I am not afraid to stay alone or anything....I lose my self esteem and feel worthless so much...Btw Myles, already told you this, but you are attracted to the wrong type of girls...:)
dont go out with guys who treat you like crap, hon - it will only do you no good :S
i believe that there's someone out there for everyone (even though my past experiences say otherwise) but yeah - love is bittersweet to say the least!
Thank you for answering my comment, I was really surprised someone wrote back...Yeah actually life is complicated, but I know I also made mistakes (like losing my own personality in the relationship) so now I am trying to get my busy happy life back so I don't have time to start thinking about things...:) But at the end of the day it would be good to fall asleep in someone's arms...:(
I'm in actual love with a girl at my school, we are both 15 and in the same classes for like everything. But she is with another guy, one of my friends, I wish i could be with her because every day pains me but i know she wont break up with my friend or vice versa. However I also know that she likes me because her and my friend had an argument because she told him she liked me. So things are looking up i guess
yeah I have my own issues with love, too. I really care for this guy that doesn't notice me in the least. I mean, he knows I exist, but it's not the same. that's how a lot of crushes go for me. hell my last boyfriend dumped me and fell for my sister 6 months later.
Current situation for me is that i really like someone, and theyve told me they like me aswell, but we cant be together because she is freins with my ex and doesnt want to hurt her. despiote the fact my ex is now sleeping around and doesnt like me. but, the girl i like is way to good for me, would tnever like someone like me, and now, since nothing is happening, im starting to think nothing will ever happen. but, im the same as you myles. if she is happy, then that makes me happy.
for some reason, I am attracted to guys until they start to show that they like me back, and then I am repulsed by them from then on. Its happened with every single guy that's liked me back except one, and that one exception was wonderful and things were going great, but then one month after he (the exception) kissed me, he died in an auto accident. I'm not very lucky in love
I have this weird thing that I fancy someone but whenever that person admits to liking me, I freak out and totally fall out of love. It makes me wonder if I can ever be in a relationship. I truly get irritated when someone tells me they like me. Even if I've been pining for the person for years, its like a bucket of ice or an emergency stop button. I hate it when my friends of either sex couple up. I feel possessive of them even if I don't fancy them. I don't like couples but maybe I'm jealous.
I'm 20 and never been in a relationship of any sort. I'm always one of the guys or that rubbish. And whenever someone fancies me, I freak on them. Guess word spread around and guys just decided to stop asking so I don't bite their heads off. They just go for friends. And now, I don't know what I can do to change it. Not that I really mind, but sometimes I just wonder if I had the choice then it would be nice. Or I would just go mental biatch on the unsuspecting dude again :(
In short, I really liked this guy and he liked me, but then he got a girlfriend as we hadn't admitted it to eachother, after a while he realised his girlfriend wasn't really right for him and after about 3 months he's broken up with her and we're seeing what happens, but he's leaving in 2 weeks for quite a while and who knows what'll happen next. But I completely understand the want for the person you care about to just be happy. I always said I just wanted him to be happy. It's hard.
I'm in love with someone who lives hundreds of miles away, in London. I myself live further north, near Manchester.
I feel the same as you, Myles, I always prefer people who are in touch with their emotions, I want someone who will cry, and let me help, someone who will really love me, which I believe I have found, but as said, I am so far away from her.
I'd love to meet you, you seem like the person who would make a perfect friend for me :P
I'm currently in love with someone who's with someone else. But he's really happy and for me that's the greatest gift of all. I do love him but we both know that despite our connection our ages and just where we are in life are at odds with each other. Right now he loves and needs her more than he needs me, which is heartbreaking but I'm trying to cope with it.
Myles, i have the same complexes as you , i go for the same girls, and if they are happier without me than with me or something cimilar, i let them go. I thought i was the only one who does something like this. You prob never WILL read this comment though, but your not alone in acting like you do. :)
I guess me makes 3 ^_^ I know exactly what you mean though, sometimes you have to let go, however hard it may be. Infact I'm having the same problem right now, and it sucks.. =/
one of us has to be the sole strong person. I think if you can get into a relationship where you can feel supported by whoever you are helping as well, then this need to help won't feel so one-sided. The most important thing is working towards the both of you being strong and happy together- the time after you have 'fixed'.
My boyfriend suffers from mania, depression and extreme fatigue, and it was very odd starting to go out with him. Unlike your experiences, I had no idea of his issues until I was gradually initiated into his world of not seeing the point in work, school or life. I promised to myself and him that I wouldn't give up on him because of these problems, and I want to see him through to the other side of it all. I think strength comes from knowing that neither *continued*
Funny thing is that many girls I knew take all that "fixing" stuff too seriously and think I'm trying to hit on them. Then they blame me if they disappoint themselves, because I only wanted to help them in a friendly manor. It's not a romantic comedy plot, so please stop living in a dream girls/women xp (not all of you, no offense whatsoever..only the inmature ones)
Wow Miles that was a really insightful video and its pretty amazing you can see your own relationship complex.
I seem to always want to have options and the point where i feel my lowest is when i have none. Then when those options are ones i want to take i still get scared about whether or not it will all work out.
Youre not the only one that likes to help or fix people.. I do the same.. unfortunately I seem to forget about taking care of myself in the process sometimes..
Yeh, I've learned one thing throughout the years. You gotta be a kind of 'mysterious dickhead' from time to time if you wanna keep your woman attracted to you. Even if they don't admit it, women like the kind of men like that Sawyer guy from Lost series.
We really don't. Just be yourself, don't put on an act.
Women can be initially interested in that kind of person because it feels exciting and like you're special if you get the guy to change. But no one likes a dickhead, and the only thing that's worse than a dickhead is a person who's a dickhead intentionally.
But hey, who am I to talk? My complex is that I can't spot when a guy's completely insane and wrong for me.
My point is that you can easily get bored with a guy who's being a wuss and agrees with you on everything, because of fear of being dumped when he doesn't, don't you? Every girl I know agrees that nice guys are good for husbands, but not for boyfriends/lovers ;>
"Every Girl" You Know Does Not Mean Every Other Female Out There...
To Be Fair I Would Much Rather Have The Wuss Over The Dick Head... I've Been With A Few Dick Heads Before And Trust Me Those Are The Guys Who Will Be Alone And Unhappy
Exactly. And it's not like the world is divided into dickheads and wusses (this is starting to sound like Team America :D), there are people who are genuine and have their own opinions and aren't arogant or moody about it.
You are so young and show wisdom and generosity here. I'm thinking...yes, definitely. Some day you will be ready to stop being the fixer and find someone with whom you can grow together. But you have lots of time...enjoy the ride. :)
I am always making sure, that everyone around me is happy. I always help people, whereever I can. But I am always the one, that is left behind, left alone.
Kind of sucks, but I am always glad, when I see how everything is working perfectly fine in the other persons live, who used to be my friend.
But my love complex right now is, that I am not sure, if love is really worth the pain that always comes at the end, so why fall in love?
I was in a relationship for a year, long distance. And he cheated on me 7 times. He was also my first love, it's been 2 years, and I'm still completely in love with him.
Dude i just gave up on it a while ago I wont even say the word anymore it just seems that most guys are jerks anyways so why take a chance anyways to get hurt again you know and everynow and then tho i come accross a good dude and i scare myself out of it like woha what happend last time
My problem is that i always want the guys i can't have, the ones that are amazing and sweet and nice to me, yet never want to be WITH me. Then when i finally do find a guy that i feel a true connection with, i get incredibly attached, i put my everything into making it work, just for someone or something to come and knock it all down. Leaving me in pieces EVERY time, and it's happening right now, and i don't know how much more of it i can take. Im fed up of being a nervous wreck & feeling crap!
Can we be friends then?!? Cause I could really do with someone like that?!?
My love complex is also bit confusing, if I could love someone as much as I love what I do (costume design) and/or my close friends I think that amount of love would scare me.Which is probably why since I have gotten serious about what I want to do with my professional life a year ago my once fairly active love life disappeared. Kinda worrying for a 19 yr old really!!
mariposamonroe 1 year ago
To make it short: the timing is never right. But that's only one part.
I don't allow people to get close to me on an emotional level.
affenonkel 1 year ago
ah wow, just like me
AstarealRomance 1 year ago
I've actually found your way of thinking to be very difficult. I had a friend I liked and I figured as long as he was happy, but it didn't work that way, but I suppose thats something else entirely... I wish you all the best with your search for love. (Mine has failed...)
HolyShitBurger376 1 year ago
I have the love complex of always being interested in someone who doesn't really know me or notice me :/ Then I'm far too shy to talk to them and after that become slightly depressed at the fact that I am so shy. Also at the fact that they will never know and probably never notice me, causing me to become detached from the world as much as possible. To try to spare the heartache :(
loveyoutas1 1 year ago
ive got 2 love complexes at once i like both girls but there both taken. :(
craigh937 1 year ago
Maybe you will fall in love with a girl with issues that can never be solved or helped. :P
RhetoricalQnA 1 year ago
Most of the people I've really liked only thought of me as a friend, and the only relationship I've been in crashed and burned.
But never mind.
One of my friends always say that if you let something go, if it's meant to be it'll come back. Maybe that'll happen for you Myles :)
GraciePlusOne 1 year ago
My sister is a bit like you, because she wants to fix people, and she hopes she can meet a guy who she can fix and then he can fix her and it'll be awesome. But my dad doesn't think it's a good idea.
AnonimosArtist 1 year ago
I always start liking a guy or a girl who doesn't like me back and then I'm always heartbroken when it's over or if it doesn't work out at all. But the up side to that is I always learn a lesson or two
SearchedtheCity 1 year ago
I'd also like to say that I know you'll find the love of your life, Myles. From subscribing to your channel, I've come to see all that you have to offer to everyone in the world. The girl who will someday be the recipient of the majority of that is richer than a multi-billionaire.
If I had only one wish in this world, it's that I find someone as caring, funny, intelligent, enthusiastic, empathetic, outspoken and passionate as you are.
grayeyeswatching 2 years ago
My love complex would be that I crave to have that one special someone, to know is always there for you, and that you're there for them, but whenever I try to be with someone, I end up pushing them away, afraid that if I don't do it, they will, and in the process, break my heart that I've already had to put back together numerous times. (Wow, run-on sentence much?)
grayeyeswatching 2 years ago
I'm the same as you, Myles, only I don't easily detatch from the people I've helped. It's hard for me to cope with the fact that the person I'm interested in is already taken. I know this sounds a bit irrational, but sometimes I wonder if I'll die alone.
GlitchedLink1 2 years ago
I've never really had a boyfriend, tbh.
but im allways attracted to guys who are really funny. im never really that bothered what they look like, but there allways someone i can talk to and have a laugh with for hours :L
Gee1078 2 years ago
Honestly? The hero complex bugs me. Not all girls want to be rescued, even if you think they need to be.
tamzinrose 2 years ago
i've never had a boyfriend and i'm almost 15. all my friends have and i feel so left out. and every guy i seem to like either lives far away from me or thinks i'm just some ugly bitch. o__o
EmilyMayLYVA 2 years ago
@EmilyMayLYVA It's okay. I'm 18 and I've never had a boyfriend either. Sure, sometimes you feel lonely and when your friends are dating people you're kinda jealous but not and they don't really get it. But, look at the positives. No one has ever broken up with you or cheated on you =D
tamzinrose 2 years ago
@EmilyMayLYVA i know exactly how you feel, and im almost 14 :/
Gee1078 2 years ago
There is definatly someone out there for you Myles!!
And my problem (which really isn't a problem but just the way life works) is that I like this guy (which is the first guy I've really ever liked) and I don't see how it is humanly possible for him to like me back.. Thanks for the video :D
sourpatchtkids 2 years ago 2
sweet
TheBrananna 2 years ago
Even if I was single, you'd never be able to fix me. :P
Don't worry Myles your time will come. x
missimoinsane 2 years ago
"once i've fixed it" - that's a very vain thing to say...
sounds like all you need to find is a girl whose problem you can't fix. shouldn't be that difficult, really :-P
also, the fool-proof trick to finding love is not to look for it =)
zucchina89 2 years ago
I always hear the same things from guys....
"your not the type i usually go for": Which makes me think am I anybodys type???...
and
"Why wont you let me in": refering to how i feel / think about things , which is something I find very hard to tell people
PhotosCatchMemories 2 years ago 6
Sadly, in the 19 years I've been alive, I've never fallen in love. I don't think you're "doomed" to living the single life. It's very likely you will fall for an unattached girl and from there, work out a relationship together. Good luck.
Haha, kudos to you for wearing your hair natural. I love curly hair (I've got it myself).
yehyeh22 2 years ago 8
whoa, you're really fucked up.
:D
I like boys I can never ever have, cause when I have them, I loose my interest. XD
TzernohSyeme 2 years ago
i rlly liked this girl, but i twas hard becuase 3 boys alsked her out at the same time (ish) i was one of them, and i didnt get picked, wich did make me sad but i waited and waited convinced that if i put all my dedication to it, it would work, she split up with him and i waited about a month after to let her setle but when i alsked her she had allready got her eyes on someone else :'(
ROC3ER 2 years ago
I am the same way. I just have a lot of issues, like just recently I was with a guy who never had a girlfriend and lack of confidence. He was also getting over a dramatic childhood situation. Once He began to become confident once again, and he had learned to channel his depression, I pushed him away. I felt my job was done. Although I still have issues, and wish someone for once would show me they can help me just as much as I help them. I guess I am on a search for a happy medium.
SingMeALullaby16 2 years ago 3
hahaha 666 ratings
but i have to say, this is a great video
i've come to realize that when i was with my ex, i would get angry alot (although I never showed it) because there were so many little things she did, that pissed me off, but once we broke up (which wasn't because of those things) that I realized, i could care less wether she does those things, i just wanted her back.
TylerTR4G3DY 2 years ago
I constantly fall for guys who are completely wrong for me...they treat me badly and belittle me. Then the guys who are perfect, who actually want me and i know will be the best im never attracted to them and end up keeping them as friends. They are the best friends ever but cant bring myself to that other place where they are....O_o
I hold in firm belief though that everyone has someone out there suited to them and will be everything they want/need!! Just keep looking ^_^
MsFlowers12 2 years ago 2
Thanks for sharing. I guess I'm realising more about myself in that way all the time, after 3 big relationships over the past 5 years. I realise I find it difficult to not be wanted-loved by a guy -and I think I've been like that as long as I liked boys! So when I am single (i.e now) I have to try to come to terms with the fact it is OK to have NO guy in my life right now. And I do struggle with it, therefore I know it's a bit of a 'love complex'!
Ah.. feels good to just say it.
Hellotisme 2 years ago
i have only properly liked 3 guys in the past 6 years.
and the one i like now, is the biggest chance with a guy ive ever had.
but (like in most cases).. he isnt single.
and he sure doesn't act like it.
ive built this picture of his girlfriend in my head, shes the complete opposite to me.
ohwel.
PunkiePiee 2 years ago
I have the same complex as you .__.
syarconde 2 years ago
There is this guy who I'm absolutely in love with. At first I thought it was just a normal teen crush, but the fact that I try to not like him and have failed for the past 4 years kind of tells me otherwise. Now rather than befriend this person, I either A. try and stay far away or B. act like a total jerk to him...Here's hoping that it's just a terrible crush in the end though. I don't believe in having more than one love....
miathenonjedi.
SallyTheJedi 2 years ago
I have a hard time keeping people with me because of the issues in my mins. I have a considerable amount of mental instability and insecurity that often leaves people wondering about how much they could possibly put up with before they snap.Anxiety,poor self image, agoraphobia,and a whole bevy of things that can tweak someone's mind to the point of insanity upon repitition.
I just figure one day,I'll find someone who likes maintaining me. Because im very loveable after if you do.
ewtasha510 2 years ago
You will find someone someday, theyre is everyone for someone, and someday teh person that you need to help, will need you as theyre help. the other people that got different boyfriends just probably were not for you, and everything happens for a reason, so mayyybe you are suppose to be alone at this time, but dont worry you will find someone ^.^ who needs you just as much as you need them.
Jessiyxx 2 years ago
your hair looks just like mine:O
arntis01 2 years ago
gosh i have to major dilemmas....being shy and when i first see a guy i judge him on looks....which i know is really bad.....any advice for fixing that.....especially the shyness part
tluver45 2 years ago
tluver 45
you could try to "not care to much" it's really hard I know, but in the end a talkaktive person is more fun (: hope you make it <3
syarconde 2 years ago
im pretty much an impossible person. I like somebody that's older and we occasionally talk. But when i do get a boyfriend, i tend to be with them for a long time and when I break up with them, im always somehow jealous when they go out with someone else, it's horrible. D:
nonchalantnicole 2 years ago
Maybe you should try being with a man.... I dont mean to be straight out gay or anything. I just believe that if you feel stuck with a particular type of person or gender try seeing what it would be like with a another gender or as another gender. Dont take this the wrong way either and think Im suggesting being a tranny. Basically broaden your vision as a human being a see things as what they are. Gay straight bisexual. Male or female. It doesnt matter. People are people.
reigma135 2 years ago 2
you're the sweetest person, one day you'll find someone who doesn't need fixing in your eyes and you'll love her and she'll love you back. it's as simple as that. the more worked up and worried you get about these things the harder it is to be happy. x
chloemayo36 2 years ago 2
i used to do that. its not good. i fix them to where they are better in my mind then i let them go because i dont think they need me anymore but it only hurts me in the end. be careful
missmegan3147 2 years ago
there is this girl i like. so i befriended her. like you did, i helped her with her problems. then she didn't need me anymore. so i ceased to exist for her. 1 1/2 years ago i last visited her. after that she blocked any contact i tried to make.
then in two days she'll have been with her boyfriend for a year. that's my birthday, yay.
but i don't feel jealous or anything, i thought that was strange before watching your video. i just feel happy for her. if she is happy without me ... so be it.
finnieminnie 2 years ago
u sound like nany mc phee
KKEEAANNUU1994 2 years ago
I can like a guy alot untill he kisses me. I've just never felt like it's been right except once. Maybe I'm just not that into kissing, or maybe the ones who kissed me sucked at it. idk... it's really annoying.
pumpkon 2 years ago
Oh don't even get me started! :P
geezabird 2 years ago
I'm in love with someone way too perfect for me. Hes the most amazing person I have ever met, and I feel so privileged to just be able to talk with him and make him laugh. Hes in love with someone else, and like you, so long as the one I care for is happy, I am.
bipolarcosplay 2 years ago
I know how you feel, Myles. The guy I like has a girlfriend! I seem to always target the impossible.
tomwellingsjuliet 2 years ago
I wish I could fit it all into one comment, but I know I won't manage to.
Theres two parts to it.
One, as I'm submissive/perfectionist/ex-mormon, I'm vulnerable, making me easy to take advantage of. And so I have been. Making me loose all trust in people.
And Two, I hate being a burden, in any way shape or form, and I don't want someone to get attatched to me only to lose me. Or vice-versa.
There's plenty of details I could put, but best not to.
xSinesthesiax 2 years ago
It will come along one day Myles, the real thing!!!!
You knowz it
Statue0f 2 years ago
I am single too for a looong time!
But I really dont care too much because i believe that it is happenning for a reason and i am ok with it!
Dancing in the air...I am single I don`t care!!!!!!!!
Kelly!!!!!!!
You can always love me instead!!!xxxxx!
babusitter 2 years ago
Well I have a load of issues..And I know a few guys who are in love with me, does that mean they only love me because of how awful my life can be sometimes? D:
LittleEmoKiddXBiteMe 2 years ago
I'm still in love with my ex.... He's my best mate. We broke up cos we annoy each other sometimes and he didn wanna end up hatin me. I'm now afraid I'll never be able to stay with someone, cos if it couldn't work with him, then nobody is gonna understand how I think and see the world quite as he did. :/
Niamhello 2 years ago
Aren't love complexes borne out of a fear of commitment..? I think a fair example is our parents, who seemed to have got past that 'rescuing another' stage and who managed to establish stabler love paths and longevity, whether adventurous or boring times filled the day.
Once you've done the fixing, it's probably the hardest part, to continue, to commit and find meaning in a relationship. But I'm convinced our parents handled it better (ok, not everyone's) but times and mindsets have changed...
LikeMindedIncident 2 years ago
I'm so not a relationship expert, so I don't think I can say anything that will help. This video kinda got to me though.
I hope you feel better soon x
iliveinmyhead 2 years ago
I, also, am always looking for girls with some sort of problem but that at the root are good people. I suppose I've accepted that long-term relationships just aren't for me.
I use to be really bothered by the notion that I might never settle down and get married, but I now look forward to being a life-long independent. Imagine the amazing things you can do when you don't have to convince your significant other to let you do things. A collection of close friends can replace that anyway.
blinx615 2 years ago
aww miles, you won't ever be a loner because there will always be plenty of fragile souls in this world to fix : )
pandoooche 2 years ago
I know plenty of guys that like me, but I see them as friends. The guys I fall for are the ones who I can't have for whatever reason. My problem is that I want a serious relationship, with someone who I can share everything with and will truly care about me. It's just so hard to find someone like that. I've only ever had one true boyfriend and I messed that up completely with my insecurity. I have three cats now, imagine how many I will have in 20 years time, I can bet I'll still be alone then!
paperclipsplane 2 years ago
guys with problems or issues like to spend time with me becouse i listen to them and dont make any assumptions. i like to help but mostly it turns out that the guys just want to chare their misary with me so they dont have to bary all by their own.. hm i could go on for ever with this :p so much compications..
sometimes i wonder if love really exists or if its just a egoistik feeling.. ah i'm not good in explaning
and sorry for my bad writing :s
Beccination 2 years ago
My Love Complex is that I'm in love with someone who's just broke up with me for no apparent reason. He said he loved me too but his behaviour is just so unlike him. We'd been together a year last month. I'm confused by it all
love4musicuk 2 years ago
The 13th was my bday lets just pretend u did love on tht day 4 my 16th. Love i love well im attracted to peoples imperfections. I makes no sense.
orangeNikkikaur93 2 years ago
No..You don't make any sense at all..
LittleEmoKiddXBiteMe 2 years ago
'You live under the delusion that you can fix everything that isnt perfect ,thats why you choose people who have issues you dont love, you need'
That is why you become detached once they are fixed.
MagicalMoore 2 years ago
Makes sense, but...Umm...I dunno. If he loved them he would know
love4musicuk 2 years ago
hey you replied ^_^ ! Thanks...that kind of makes sense...
My honour. xxx
90sChildNadia 2 years ago
My 'love complex' is that I've liked a certain guy for almost three years and we're good friends-but that's all he sees me as.
Also how do you know you're 'in love' Myles? What's the difference with that and being infatuated? love xxx
ps. recently subscribed after finding you :)
90sChildNadia 2 years ago
Infatuated I think is when you are obsessed in a way that is not bi-directional with that of concerned.
And thank you for subscribing =] x
Blade376 2 years ago
I tend to be afraid of living my life alone aswell. But thats because I think I scare guys a bit.
But the reality is, there are 6 bilion people in the world, lets keep hope that at least 1 of them is somebody you could spend your life with. :)
likeme188 2 years ago
xD Kinda ironic, we just did a peice about first loves in english today. I got an A (highest in class ^.^ )
Well.. I go out with people, and it's great and ladedar, then I get bored. I just want people I can't have, because it doesn't bore me, the risk that is. Which is annoying, cause I feel the same as you xD I will die with many cats by my side.
BlackAndWhiteButtons 2 years ago
This is a really sweet video (:
& You should leave you hair natural in all your videos, as it looks nice as it is!!
charaxm 2 years ago
You're never going to love a woman until you truly fall in love with yourself. You can't give somebody what you don't have.
And you can't 'fix' anybody else until you care for yourself. It might be cheesy and overstated, but it's the truth.
~Mama Red
erinnsong 2 years ago
I completely agree, although I'm a woman in this case. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, because I wasn't happy.
I figured out I wasn't happy with myself, which effected the relationship and made him unhappy a lot of the time with the way I acted..
I love him, but he deserves someone else.
briesandwich 2 years ago
Perhaps you feel that those with problems are the only ones that are going to need you. Isnt your major dealing with helping people? Find someone as has the same passion for helping people, and you can help eachother help others.
nicolcacola 2 years ago
My "love complex" is very similar to yours Miles.
I tend to date guys who are on the wrong path, who are undecided about what to do in life, then I "fix" then, in the sense of helping them cope through all of their troubles and cleaning them up, eventually we end up just being friends, where I, the good Samaritan, end up finding them a girlfriend, or helping them pick out engagement rings..I just want them to be happy no matter what, but I forget about myself.
The crux of being a psychologist*
tesoro1478 2 years ago
My love complex sucks. I always like someone and I'm too scared to tell them. So I never do and I just watch while they have boyfriends/girlfriends. I seem to be the 'FILF' and that's it lmao.
oliviauncensored 2 years ago
im in the same boat but she doesnt have a bf id say my "love complex" is that to many girls say im to nice and that they need someone a bit more rough not to say im a fag like lol ive had 14 years of martial arts under my belt and that not an euthism lol or a brag just that girls tend to see me more as a friend someone they can talk to... but yeah to me love is all emotion packed into one thats why its confusing! great video myles!
alkuri 2 years ago
My love complex is that I have no love life
But hey Myles, I need fixing!
You could fix me & I won't ditch you like all those other chicas!
:D
SuperPandaPants 2 years ago
Whenever I find someone new, I compare them to the person I loved most; they're never as good as that person, in any way, so my relationships since that person have never been too good.
pfftyousuck 2 years ago
its actually like listening to myself talk
completely respect where you're coming from
and just to let you know, you're not the only one
tinyosmosis 2 years ago
My problem is being too affectionate, and too interested. Not in a clingy, I-need-to-be-around-you-all-the-time, were-you-just-staring-at-her-butt, type of way. But in an I'm-honest-with-you-you're-honest with me, way. I have these really great conversations, and connect with guys, but they're never interested, and I wonder if it's because I'm not a conquest, just a person who wants to have a real relationship.
hellolover99 2 years ago
to hellolover99:
Apparently guys like the chase and then for it to continue to some degree... so I've been learning how to do this!
But it is not natural to me! I am thankful that I have had boyfriends where I didn't have to do this at all, it was just open and expressive in a fun,natural way.
It's hard to understand the chase part, but I do know that there were times when I got something that was hard to get or forbidden and it really turned up the heat! So, I say play around with it all!
karenergy 2 years ago
My Love Complex is that i always end up choosing absolute dicks to go out with, which for a long time put me off wanting to have a relationship. its really annoying!
StarShineTwinkee 2 years ago
My love complex is that guys tend to get bored with me, they see me more as a friend to talk to about video games. Really though, I give tons of affection and go on fun dates and everything. :P Oh well, my youngin' self shouldn't be complaining.
Arubberduckiedied 2 years ago
My "love complex" is the fact that I'm perpetually single. I've had one boyfriend, and since then, I have been single for three years straight. I'm always "the friend". No one ever seems to see me as more. :(
childoftheking568 2 years ago
My love complex would definitely be falling for people I can't have long term...people who live abroad or are just wrong for me on too many levels! Everything seems to simple with the people who are around me - I guess its the impossibility that keeps me interested!
tisarific 2 years ago
You're still young.....no need to wonder if you'll be single forever. One day you'll find the right girl. :)
Lacybunny 2 years ago
You should keep your natural hair more often. Looks good on you. =)
katteithel 2 years ago
I fall for people with problems too...
I've just got over someone who I'd had the strongest feelings for...for 2 years. Ugh. I didn't get treated to well by him. Now we probably won't speak to each other ever again..which is good and bad.
Now there's someone else...but I don't want to get attatched to anyone. It's rubbish.
Phreeck11 2 years ago
love is a confusing thing like letting yourself be totaly vunerable with another person is scary and then the thought of losing that is even worse but its worth it i think you just need someone that you like for them as much as you like helping them someone taht you know that you will still wanna be with after youve rode in on your white horse and saved =) the right girl is out there thats what i think anyway
beckygunning 2 years ago
I don't see the point in being faithful to a girl, in my first ever really serious relationship i was totally faithful, even though i got offers from girls i liked even more than my girlfriend, i said no, only to find out that she'd cheated on me a few times. Now i'll never be in a committed relationship, but most girls don't like that :( lol
IslaFan 2 years ago
my prob is right now im kinda in love with someone i cant be with due to distance..damn am i outta luck haha, and i so know what you mean about trying to fix the girls probs
brandybemyname 2 years ago
Glad you made this video...it helps =]
mitchpsp 2 years ago
turn Gay men asr easy and you can never truly fix them =D
DJE179 2 years ago
There is NO WAY that YOU will be left on the shelf. Not in a MILLION YEARS!!
How about this? A male/female knows that you are her soul mate & you cannot recognize/believe this. Because I do believe that only a small percentage of people find that kind of thing in life.
Thecheekofitall 2 years ago
gay.
kewballl 2 years ago
I'm one of those girls with issues... mostly because I always fall for the guys I know deep down I can never ever have for one reason or another. I always have issues with picking the right person... I dwell on things for too long, and I get too involved with my own feelings. I also overthink EVERYTHING to the point that it gives me a headache. I just wish someone would set me up with someone they think will be good for me because everyone else is always better at picking guys for me than I am.
sara4886 2 years ago
how do you get over someone ? ive tried going out with other girls but its the most regretfull thing ive ever done.
ruri17 2 years ago
OMG i no exactly what you mean, like i like to try to help people but mainly cuz i have alot of problems and the fact that i go through them and the thought that others go too cause me pain as i dont want anyone to feel as terrible as i do sometimes as they really dont deserve it! But then i just mess things up, and yer push people away and its like =/ maybe i should keep myself to myself but now am getting help for that from my councellor and my bf has helped me ALOT to overcome my issues :D
XSuzzersX 2 years ago
WOw.. that's exactly how my life is =/ it's not like it's a bad thing... it's just that we care little about ourselves compared to others
FLORENAS 2 years ago
I think its very easy to fall in love with your idea of someone, but when you truly get to know them, you kind of back away because ur idea of them is different. =]
RejandLauren 2 years ago
comitment issues,h8 them -_- i suffer 4m them 2, my longest relationship, - one when i was 12 lol, is a week, cause once i get in2 one i start panicing and ask do i actually really like the person or nt, when in reality, i've never actually gone out wit some1 ive actually like liked.i think i picked up the habit of making myself not like them 2 nt get hurt, & also cause a friend at the time i picked it up always wanted them =S its gotten 2 the point where i cnt c myself ever getting married lol
0Geisha0 2 years ago
i love your hair like that!
and maaan, i guess as a 16 year old girl
it would be silly to say that i've legit fallen "in love" so much that i would want to spend the rest of my life with a person.
however i must say, there has been one time where i felt amazing emotion toward someone, however, in the end, it was a matter of what they wanted most. and that was to be single and able to mingle...
ahhh adolescence.
jessiemetcalfe 2 years ago
long story short - i meet guy. guy likes me and i like guy. guy has issues with ex. i fall in love with guy. we get together then break up. he gets close to his ex then they have big argument. he comes back to me. happens for about 4 months. he gets really close cos she's going to uni. he uses me for sex. he tells me he doesn't want to see me again. i tell him where to stick it. worst part - i still love him =/
DawnIsNotCool 2 years ago
you've really depressed me :(
but ure awsoem anyways :D
mygreenbanana 2 years ago
It's so great how you can open up and talk about things like this, it makes me want to talk too! ^^ I have a tendancy to fall for any guy I'm around for more than a day, it's annoying. I'm also the kind of person that admires from a distance and never says how I really feel... ah well, one day maybe...
Zalsia 2 years ago
I think I'm attracted to broken hearts! I've lost count of the number of times I've been the rebound girl. My latest broken heart is a guy I met at a party about 6 months ago. He was quiet and removed from the group. Long story short I caught him trying to slit his wrists as he had just been dumped. I spent abount 7 hours talking him round ect. He went back to his girlf for a while but came back to me when they split. I know he will drop me as soon as I have made him feel better. They all do.xDx
DINGONERD 2 years ago
I love your natural hair
hydedudes 2 years ago
a very... enlightening video. One of my favourite SSS's. more of these please.
mrfreeman1995 2 years ago
I've only fallen in love once, and he has a girlfriend. Like Myles, I'm happy to see that he's happy, but it also kills me a bit inside to know that I'm not part of that. I love him so much, but because of the situation I feel like I'm doing something horrible by loving him :( sometimes I even push him away, but then I come back because his friendship means too much *sigh*
lunaticaution 2 years ago
Sometimes If you care about someone but its never going to become a relationship its hard. But apparantly in time we all move on... just gotta wait for that to happen :)
xoxlornzxox 2 years ago
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xoxlornzxox 2 years ago
I can't talk about it.
VzDkz 2 years ago
I like your natural hair a lot, keep it this way!
nelhert 2 years ago
Don't over-think it. Don't love someone too much. When people cheat, or find out they bf/gf has been cheating on them, they must let go. Don't fight over it. Just call it off, and go get drunk to ease the pain.
johnanth 2 years ago
Ugh, where do I even start? Well, in short, I once got dumped by a guy because he cheated on me, and I think because of that I'm now to get close to anyone. There is this guy who likes me, but I'm afraid we just end up hurting eachother and I'm afraid to feel that pain over again. So I'll just keep my distance from anyone that might possibly like me.
5/5 for cuteness in ur vid ^^
Angrahius 2 years ago
You're like a non-religious God? Sorr if that makes no sense at all. x
CharleiighChiing 2 years ago 2
I just do the same and that is pure love. To care about so, no matter if s/he ends with you or if s/he becomes just a friend. We will definitely be with so or with different people, but just on the right time and we need to be prepared for that by knowing ourself better.
PoppysCornerShop 2 years ago
I'm too young for as complicated love issues as I have right now, I went out with this boy my best friend liked, he didn't like her but liked me back but then he really changed dramatically and was all 'yeah I lied to you about me so you'd like me etc', because my best friend had liked him, I was allowed to and even if she said it was okay... not allowed. Now I have a new bf with a similar issues, they were never really my friends and I'm not morally allowed to date whoever I like now... oh wow.
iLuvGerardWayAndMCR 2 years ago
wtf i tried correcting a bloody typo an.... nm. stuff this lol, it's not even important.
rabbitspliff 2 years ago
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s2MeJustYou 2 years ago
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rabbitspliff 2 years ago
apologies for the typo
rabbitspliff 2 years ago
I met this Belgian girl a few weeks ago. I met her just a few hours before she left to go back. Call me a fool, but I think I've fallen in love with her and I have a feeling I will never see her again...
AmaneSuganami 2 years ago
I'll probably be alone for the majority of my life... well "unnattached", i'm quite... inward and don't open up very easily in that way. Instead i make friends very easily. I have been in love twice, but i dumped both of them, first cz i wasn't ready and my head wasn't in a good place, i could see i wasn't making him happy and second because he wasn't a nice person :(
i quite like being independant and single mind :)
iLostTheGame27 2 years ago
i am really lazy so i never try to get in relationships if i get in to a relationship where i don't "love" the girl i just don't try
magneticmax 2 years ago
i wish more people thought like this, and the fact you actually have good intentions towards girls, and like that you've helped them out. you truely are just a lovely guy, and i really hope you find someone perfect for you :)
jazzitsme123 2 years ago
you will NOT be alone and single for the rest of your life 'cos you're too awesome
JustPapps 2 years ago
I'm the transition girl.
That's seems to be my issue. I'm fixing people.
Most of the time, the person I'm with had a great relationship before, the break-up had been terrible and I was the one to fix it all.
The thing is, when he finally is fixed, he doesn't like me anymore or the most common kind: he finds "a great and adorable girl" (I know that for sure, I got it 5 times).
So I guess it's always complicated, but we need to make the best it when we can.
Pilgrimdreamer 2 years ago
Damn the same with me, I feel like a damn Mother Teresa...all guys learn on ME how NOT TO behave in a relationship and all of them find a happy gf afterwards...and I always end up being alone...WTF?:D
xxxAngelikaxxx 2 years ago
Well i don't believe in love... i believe it existed many years ago,.. but people lost all meaning for it when politics and materialism came into the picture... im happy alone at the moment but still sometimes scared that this is it and theres nothing left for me if i don't believe in love.
anastasia19993 2 years ago 2
Just broke up with a girl I've been going out with for a year, and then 2weeks later went out with someone else.
She hates me now. I can't make up my mind weather I'm on her side or my own...
AndyisLazy 2 years ago
Eh,this happens to everyone /:
I liked a guy,he was crushing on another girl,blah blah,same as everyone else.
Oh well.
Deekaytm 2 years ago
Well, when I didn't love my bf-s so much, I never had trouble breaking up with them (I used to do that after 3 months always)But when I found guys I LOVED, I became stupid, weak, dependant and no guy likes that anymore, so they treat me like crap and I cannot break up with them although I am not afraid to stay alone or anything....I lose my self esteem and feel worthless so much...Btw Myles, already told you this, but you are attracted to the wrong type of girls...:)
xxxAngelikaxxx 2 years ago
dont go out with guys who treat you like crap, hon - it will only do you no good :S
i believe that there's someone out there for everyone (even though my past experiences say otherwise) but yeah - love is bittersweet to say the least!
jonomurphy3 2 years ago
Thank you for answering my comment, I was really surprised someone wrote back...Yeah actually life is complicated, but I know I also made mistakes (like losing my own personality in the relationship) so now I am trying to get my busy happy life back so I don't have time to start thinking about things...:) But at the end of the day it would be good to fall asleep in someone's arms...:(
xxxAngelikaxxx 2 years ago
It's the least I can do :):P
Yeah good, get back on your two feet hon and ignore him :)
You'll find someone else - someone WORTHWHILE - who's arms you can sleep in sometime so dont worry!
I'm only 18 but my experiences have been BLEH! but oh well :)
jonomurphy3 2 years ago
I have a problem like yours.
I'm in actual love with a girl at my school, we are both 15 and in the same classes for like everything. But she is with another guy, one of my friends, I wish i could be with her because every day pains me but i know she wont break up with my friend or vice versa. However I also know that she likes me because her and my friend had an argument because she told him she liked me. So things are looking up i guess
ScreamoPwnsAll 2 years ago
Cute
Duganoff09 2 years ago
I have that shirt :)
CoinInsertion 2 years ago
Aww i want a guy to fix my problems and give me security. :D
Alayneee 2 years ago
Jeez, love, don't even get me started... I don't like to whine :)
I really like your hair btw, you should wear it like this more often :)
CecileW93 2 years ago
My situation is similar to yours, in that I like someone with a girlfriend.
She doesn't seem to appreciate him in the right ways, for example the way he sees the world is not only entirely original but also kind of beautiful.
But there's nothing I can do about that :)
omgitsmegx 2 years ago
yeah I have my own issues with love, too. I really care for this guy that doesn't notice me in the least. I mean, he knows I exist, but it's not the same. that's how a lot of crushes go for me. hell my last boyfriend dumped me and fell for my sister 6 months later.
antigonegrey 2 years ago
Current situation for me is that i really like someone, and theyve told me they like me aswell, but we cant be together because she is freins with my ex and doesnt want to hurt her. despiote the fact my ex is now sleeping around and doesnt like me. but, the girl i like is way to good for me, would tnever like someone like me, and now, since nothing is happening, im starting to think nothing will ever happen. but, im the same as you myles. if she is happy, then that makes me happy.
DirEnGreyRule 2 years ago
its lovely that youre willign to let someone you like that much go if shes already happy
but dont worry
You WILL find someone, its so obvious. SO many people come on youtube just to stare at you :L
everything will end up okay (:
xxx
xyourpoisonx1 2 years ago
for some reason, I am attracted to guys until they start to show that they like me back, and then I am repulsed by them from then on. Its happened with every single guy that's liked me back except one, and that one exception was wonderful and things were going great, but then one month after he (the exception) kissed me, he died in an auto accident. I'm not very lucky in love
Ginnylore 2 years ago
Didn't notice your hair there:p it looks good ;D
steffieiih 2 years ago
Love is not easy, but it lightens up your day if the girl is nice to you, :)
ThatSnorlax 2 years ago
I have this weird thing that I fancy someone but whenever that person admits to liking me, I freak out and totally fall out of love. It makes me wonder if I can ever be in a relationship. I truly get irritated when someone tells me they like me. Even if I've been pining for the person for years, its like a bucket of ice or an emergency stop button. I hate it when my friends of either sex couple up. I feel possessive of them even if I don't fancy them. I don't like couples but maybe I'm jealous.
maea05 2 years ago
I'm 20 and never been in a relationship of any sort. I'm always one of the guys or that rubbish. And whenever someone fancies me, I freak on them. Guess word spread around and guys just decided to stop asking so I don't bite their heads off. They just go for friends. And now, I don't know what I can do to change it. Not that I really mind, but sometimes I just wonder if I had the choice then it would be nice. Or I would just go mental biatch on the unsuspecting dude again :(
maea05 2 years ago
In short, I really liked this guy and he liked me, but then he got a girlfriend as we hadn't admitted it to eachother, after a while he realised his girlfriend wasn't really right for him and after about 3 months he's broken up with her and we're seeing what happens, but he's leaving in 2 weeks for quite a while and who knows what'll happen next. But I completely understand the want for the person you care about to just be happy. I always said I just wanted him to be happy. It's hard.
waknob 2 years ago
I'm in love with someone who lives hundreds of miles away, in London. I myself live further north, near Manchester.
I feel the same as you, Myles, I always prefer people who are in touch with their emotions, I want someone who will cry, and let me help, someone who will really love me, which I believe I have found, but as said, I am so far away from her.
I'd love to meet you, you seem like the person who would make a perfect friend for me :P
Xinghoa 2 years ago
I'm currently in love with someone who's with someone else. But he's really happy and for me that's the greatest gift of all. I do love him but we both know that despite our connection our ages and just where we are in life are at odds with each other. Right now he loves and needs her more than he needs me, which is heartbreaking but I'm trying to cope with it.
CheekTV 2 years ago
Myles, i have the same complexes as you , i go for the same girls, and if they are happier without me than with me or something cimilar, i let them go. I thought i was the only one who does something like this. You prob never WILL read this comment though, but your not alone in acting like you do. :)
Xerothn 2 years ago
I guess me makes 3 ^_^ I know exactly what you mean though, sometimes you have to let go, however hard it may be. Infact I'm having the same problem right now, and it sucks.. =/
JokerProof 2 years ago
one of us has to be the sole strong person. I think if you can get into a relationship where you can feel supported by whoever you are helping as well, then this need to help won't feel so one-sided. The most important thing is working towards the both of you being strong and happy together- the time after you have 'fixed'.
QuirkyWitch 2 years ago
Firstly, your hair is loverly.
My boyfriend suffers from mania, depression and extreme fatigue, and it was very odd starting to go out with him. Unlike your experiences, I had no idea of his issues until I was gradually initiated into his world of not seeing the point in work, school or life. I promised to myself and him that I wouldn't give up on him because of these problems, and I want to see him through to the other side of it all. I think strength comes from knowing that neither *continued*
QuirkyWitch 2 years ago
Funny thing is that many girls I knew take all that "fixing" stuff too seriously and think I'm trying to hit on them. Then they blame me if they disappoint themselves, because I only wanted to help them in a friendly manor. It's not a romantic comedy plot, so please stop living in a dream girls/women xp (not all of you, no offense whatsoever..only the inmature ones)
Itsooz 2 years ago
I tend to become friends with people like that.
With relationships though, I tend to not talk to the person I fancy, I always try to avoid him. xD
Becky2266 2 years ago
Wow Miles that was a really insightful video and its pretty amazing you can see your own relationship complex.
I seem to always want to have options and the point where i feel my lowest is when i have none. Then when those options are ones i want to take i still get scared about whether or not it will all work out.
benji3111 2 years ago
Youre not the only one that likes to help or fix people.. I do the same.. unfortunately I seem to forget about taking care of myself in the process sometimes..
EvieGurl6 2 years ago
dude i hear that!:) your not alone
lexthegoose 2 years ago
you wont remain single myles. You seem like a really nice genuine guy. People like that are hard to find x
ZombiesAteMyParents 2 years ago 2
Yeh, I've learned one thing throughout the years. You gotta be a kind of 'mysterious dickhead' from time to time if you wanna keep your woman attracted to you. Even if they don't admit it, women like the kind of men like that Sawyer guy from Lost series.
Itsooz 2 years ago
We really don't. Just be yourself, don't put on an act.
Women can be initially interested in that kind of person because it feels exciting and like you're special if you get the guy to change. But no one likes a dickhead, and the only thing that's worse than a dickhead is a person who's a dickhead intentionally.
But hey, who am I to talk? My complex is that I can't spot when a guy's completely insane and wrong for me.
notasfunnyaswethink 2 years ago
My point is that you can easily get bored with a guy who's being a wuss and agrees with you on everything, because of fear of being dumped when he doesn't, don't you? Every girl I know agrees that nice guys are good for husbands, but not for boyfriends/lovers ;>
Itsooz 2 years ago
"Every Girl" You Know Does Not Mean Every Other Female Out There...
To Be Fair I Would Much Rather Have The Wuss Over The Dick Head... I've Been With A Few Dick Heads Before And Trust Me Those Are The Guys Who Will Be Alone And Unhappy
AliceKate1992 2 years ago
Exactly. And it's not like the world is divided into dickheads and wusses (this is starting to sound like Team America :D), there are people who are genuine and have their own opinions and aren't arogant or moody about it.
notasfunnyaswethink 2 years ago
You are so young and show wisdom and generosity here. I'm thinking...yes, definitely. Some day you will be ready to stop being the fixer and find someone with whom you can grow together. But you have lots of time...enjoy the ride. :)
Illuminatta 2 years ago
this sounds so weirdly like my live...
I am always making sure, that everyone around me is happy. I always help people, whereever I can. But I am always the one, that is left behind, left alone.
Kind of sucks, but I am always glad, when I see how everything is working perfectly fine in the other persons live, who used to be my friend.
But my love complex right now is, that I am not sure, if love is really worth the pain that always comes at the end, so why fall in love?
NinLor 2 years ago
I was in a relationship for a year, long distance. And he cheated on me 7 times. He was also my first love, it's been 2 years, and I'm still completely in love with him.
rebekaahx 2 years ago
Dude i just gave up on it a while ago I wont even say the word anymore it just seems that most guys are jerks anyways so why take a chance anyways to get hurt again you know and everynow and then tho i come accross a good dude and i scare myself out of it like woha what happend last time
nonamelids 2 years ago
My problem is that i always want the guys i can't have, the ones that are amazing and sweet and nice to me, yet never want to be WITH me. Then when i finally do find a guy that i feel a true connection with, i get incredibly attached, i put my everything into making it work, just for someone or something to come and knock it all down. Leaving me in pieces EVERY time, and it's happening right now, and i don't know how much more of it i can take. Im fed up of being a nervous wreck & feeling crap!
geebum89 2 years ago
"Myles the fixe