Spiritual Journey of Single African American Women

[The47890]

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[Venustarr]

In God's eyes, I am already married. I don't want a "government contract" with my man. Only God can ordain a marriage covenant, not man....that's my opinion.

[TheKnowledge4ya]

The lady that is 42 and a virgin is beautiful =)

I would have a crush on the lady with the gray hair, she has a very comforting spirit and I am a woman.

I hate the fact that a disgusting infected dude infected his wife he needs to get stomped to a mush.

[agray77]

The truth is..there is a greater amount of social strain upon the black community. And it is more difficult for us to stay within close relationships; of any perm. types. Also; black women are too often expected to ignore this problem; which causes more stress & depression within those relationships. Showing compassion would help.

[twandapalmisanokbi]

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[Van2Dan]

Another part of the reason why more and more afro-american women are single is because in the U.S. there are more afor-american women then afro-american men!

[Van2Dan]

Well I think that part of it, more and more afro-american men don't want afro-american women! For some reason I guess, more afro-american men want women outside of their race! But I could be wrong! In case I'm wrong please don't hate me!

[AllPro777]

@Van2Dan

Generally, a man will take whatever is available and tend not to have as many requirements for a mate as women do. As a black male, I can say that I've never cared about race, I've always just wanted a good human being.

[gaiphicl]

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[danielsani]

I am accomplished single man can you not find me??? This is a big treat to black population. Take care my sisters and brothers.

[danielsani]

I am accomplished single man can you not find me???

[levar1979]

I wonder, why won't a lot of African American women consider black men from other nations? In that case, they have a lot of options...I guess. Or do they specifically want African American men, versus, Kenyan, Nigerian, Jamaican, Dominican, Brazilian, European, and so forth?

[giggilamour]

My take is: One I agree with BlackTantraGoddess,a man is a man.Color has nothing to do with Love and Happyness.Sometimes a woman superior demeanor may be an invisible barrier to most men and a total turn off to some.I suggest these women to seek alternative ways to meet men ,such as cruises,Dating services,internet dating sites.With Good Intuition and street smarts(PI anyone?),you can weed out the Losers,gold diggers and serial daters(Killers?) from these dating alternatives and get a good man.

[YahSedQanu]

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[oshea90220]

Ive had Black men from other countries tell me how horrible they see Blacks of America are towards one another, to their women and to themselves as individuals and if someone from another ethnic group appreciates me for who I am and how God made me love, Im running with it and wouldnt turn back and Id give them Black men my respect they can have my respect as I walk away and Jill Scotts song, How It Make You Feel, can echo in their heads and Id have no shame

[oshea90220]

And Black men more than likely do understand us better but, do they really care? Because if they did they wouldnt do half the stuff they do to us as a people as a country whatever country that may or may not be and most of all as Black women and I refuse to allow someone to belittle me and let them get away with it maybe your European Black men are better than our American ones

[oshea90220]

They do not have to go for just Black men but other ethnic groups too. The problem in that is, though they can look somewhere else most other ethnic groups (individual people within the groups) are either afraid of us (as a people), are racist towards us, are afraid of what people would think, and or, are afraid to simply approach a Black woman.

[YahSedQanu]

sister, take it from me, It is a step down the ladder to have an IRR! I used to say I date any man I would like (I did date black men but next to it also Euro)! European men are ALWAYS racist you'll know as soon as they react to your speech or even knowledge! I think a black man to understand me better then any man! So NO we need to turn back to ourselves and find love amongst our own people!

[oshea90220]

i disagree i'v been to London (that's the U.K but... lots of Europeans there too and they share their money, they have the Euro and the Pound) and i find that i receive more respect out there than i do here and most of which didn't come from "Black" men and to say that we should stay within our own ethnic group is silly because in reality we're all one group that has different skin tones. p.s no one said you had to date a European... there are other groups of people out there besides "White".

[YahSedQanu]

... sis! I am a EUROPEAN BLACKWOMAN! I was born and raised here got my education here, my carreer, my friends... I LIVE in EUROPE! So, between you and me I think I am the better equipt to judge. You feel you get more respect here... maybe that is b/c your attitude is more open towards european men, then your own? I never complain about what I did or didn't do in the passed! I just conclude that I love blackmen more then any other they are the salt of the earth and we owe them our respect!

[oshea90220]

Not so and just like I said before you do not have to go for just European men and thats nice and all that youre from Europe but, the Black men doesnt love you (not all but, a lot of them) and I say a man is a man I do not care where they come from who they are or what ethnic group theyre from because just like I said before

[oshea90220]

were all one group (that constantly loves to hate one another). As long as people keep having this mentality that I have to stay with my kind and you have to stay with yours nothing is going to get better in biblical days it wasnt Black and White, it was them over there and us over here, they who worship this and those that worship that and I think thats how it should stay. I know that Europeans can be racist

[oshea90220]

racist are where ever you go you cannot escape them but, you cannot condemn all (or most European people) European men just because of a fraction of the people and I am not more open to European men I like American men just the sameand when I say European I mean theyre from Europe not that theyre Caucasian.

[oshea90220]

Most black men go out with whomever they feel like going out with and wouldnt turn back a glance for a Black female so why the hell would I give them the glory by giving them respect, when they do not make me or any other Black female feel like crap about how God made us

[impatientwithdesire]

@oshea90220 This video made me cry. I did not understand it to be this bad.

[oshea90220]

... Ill give them all the freakin respect they want (heck, even the Caucasian men are more or are becoming more open to our natural hair than most Black men) when they start showing Black women respect I just might do the same I have to say though this is mostly for like, the American Black men from what I can tell from the U.K. most Black women can be as God made them and not think about it

[YahSedQanu]

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[tbursee]

Well here is the problem . These women seem to want to use " The Lord" as a back drop or safety net for a husband. and I agree is you get oen, thats where it will come from. But have you ever stopped tothink, that maybe God does'nt want you married? I mean if God is big enough to do everything else he wants to do , then why should marrying you off be a problem? Besides ,single brothers dont obsess over a mate the way single black women do.

[CONGLOMERIDE]

These woman really need to get their heads out of the clouds and stop waiting for "God".. to send them someone

This is why so many black people are so fucked in the head about things because of the superstitious bullshit that they have been indoctrinated with.

[liyish]

I think it is because of eligible black men shortage...

[EricaYE6]

Single black women, don't just stop here in the US! Broaden your horizons. There are beautiful black men everywhere--Canada, Europe, the Caribbean, Africa, Latin America, Asia, ect. In a world's view, black is the majority! Don't give up on your dreams and heart's desires. God bless my sistas.

[billjesusgates]

i recommend these women to contact local prisons to find pen pals. typically 75 % prisoners are black males.

[CONGLOMERIDE]

HaHaHaHaHa!!!

[batcher63]

My fsvorite part was when she said "One this as women we cannot do is waste time....TIME."

[Janissi42]

Please just don't listen. Let's look at this scenario: Let's take a pie. Let's break that pie up into several categories. The pie represents black men (remember we only make up 13% of the population). 1. Black males incarcerated; 2. Black males who are gay; 3. Black males married; and 4. Black men who are thugs. That doesn't leave a whole let left over. So way is that solely the black female's fault. I do agree that sisters should begin to consider other races. I did, and trust, I am so happy.

[Janissi42]

Funny how people want to place all the blame of black female singleness solely on the black woman's shoulder. Let's look at the numbers (as stated in this piece). There are more black women than black men. Many black men are in prison, gay, etc., thus diminishing the pool of prospective mates. Could it be that black men just aren't like they used to be. Let's face it - black men are not perfect.

[Janissi42]

I hear black men say there are no good black females out there, so does that mean there is something wrong with those black men who cannot (or choose not to) find good sisters?

[rhcpzena]

I am a black woman who learned early in life that there is no bigger enemy to the american black woman than the american black man. I do not believe that every black man is evil and I am not prejudice, I give everyone I meet a fair chance. however, even as a young child, I was treated badly by black males for being poor, having dark skin and

[BicWild]

these women have insecurities and nothing is good enough for them they are so brainwashed they'd get with a white garbage man before they get with a black doctor because he has "too much going on" or because he makes them feel more insignificant because he can have "other women"....these women are faking sane...

[TheWOSA]

0:21 she say she was celibate for 8 years.

women with her good looks make me wonder what she was doing before those 8 years of celibacy, prolly messing wit the ganster thug, does she have kids? whats the prob? I know guys approach her daily and she prolly turned down the good men 8 or 10 yers ago, Shes fine as hell too!

[TheWOSA]

if she does have kids then its too late, once a female has kids in the wrong way she threw her chance out the window and there is no 2nd chance for black single moms men dont want a pre made brady bunch to be responsible for . . . .

[TheWOSA]

but i just want to know more about the women, their past, they way they carry themselves, and maybe we can analyze why they are single

[powertoachieve]

Once a woman past her forty's and claims she can't find a good men. Maybe it's time to look deep to yourself and say: Maybe I'm the one that's not good, the one with the problem.

[ClarenceCM3]

If there are so smart and can be a stock broker and lawyer solving other people problems, why arn't they smart enough to find a good man for themselves LOL.

[crpdm1965]

Because most men are married and whats left are the losers.

[ClarenceCM3]

Well how come some women are able to find good men? When ever I see something that people want "it", but can't can't get "it", but other people "are" able to get "it", I don't blame the "it".

[ClarenceCM3]

i blame the the people who can get "it", because the people who got "it". proved that it's possible to get "it".

Maybe these women should learn from the the woman who got a good man. Instead of playing the victims and blaming the men.

[crpdm1965]

I have done it enough alone !!

GOD its your turn !

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[porkernomore]

There is a viable soultion to the single black ladies phenomenon....why not partner up with non-black men? Anglo men have always looked desirable to me. Then there are the Asians, Mexicans, Arabs, First Americans, Italians and other Europeans...so many men to choose from...no woman has to go through life without a man.

[darlene362538]

This documentary sounds like a lot of the same 'ol same 'ol to me. The women on this film are single for a reason........and it ain't because of a shortage of men. They need to look at themselves in the mirror and figure out what it is they're doing wrong, in their search for companionship. If you keep saying there are no good men out there, you pretty much have determined that you won't find one.

[PepperPoppers]

Taking away just what he said...the already married, the gay, and the undesirable that leaves you with hardly any good eligable single black men. So that's the problem. Not black women. Why should a black woman lower her standards just so she can call herself married. Thats when its time to look outside of her own race.

[555order]

Hey PepperPoppers, understandable but that way of thinking is why these women are complaining why they can't find a man. Pointing fingers ain't gonna get a person nowhere except alone & bitter. Put God first and the rest will follow. God bless you & all out there!!!

[vanityrose12]

@PepperPoppers well i respect the fact that you have an opinion but i would like to point out that good BM get pass over because their "to nice"...i'm not pointing the finger at you but i've had it happen to me more than once......that speech that goes something like this "i think you have a good head on your shoulders and i do find you attractive but your just not my type" which is code for your to boring.....then that same woman will turn around and say their are no good ones left

[1luving]

I think that instead of focusing on this sad reality the focus needs to be on what can be done so that black women can live happier lives in their search for a mate. But I'm glad the film seems to be honest in regard to black womens' feelings. Lying to yourself with the "I don't need a man" bs does more harm than it helps because it sends the wrong message to men. It's one thing to learn to be happy living single and another to pretend to be content.

[laburnum12]

HOLD UP did she say she was 45 an still a virgin.. WHAT DOES THAT MEAN???? That says to me she hasnt had sex with a man. Not saying shes gay but makes you wonder.

[1luving]

I took it as she had been saving herself for marriage.

[Twanyala88]

It surprises me that so many black women are single Thang. I am black men and go to university of davis CA. I am looking to have relations with a black woman because I want my kids to be full black like my family. Is that racist? any how if any of you want to talk me hit me up. The dating seen is hard out here. I am a fair looking guy and athletic built so yeah hit me up.

[ghetto262yt]

ok.... do you want to have "relations" or do you want a relationship. clarify that.... you might get more responses.

[djcateyez]

I have accepted that this is the life that Black women today have to live. It's very hard I just hope that Black America gets it together so that the little Black girls of tomorrow don't have to live life with this loneliness.

[AntoinetteWolf]

I thought I was just renting a love movie. I lOOOOVVVE this documentary. I am so encourages and don't feel alone. This movie was a breath of fresh air. I want to live pure and holy and open to the adventure God has for me. He has been so faithful after my divorce!! Please watch this movie.

[girl123boy456]

The black male loosing his place as Alpha Male & not wanting that place back while the black woman is still reigning Alpha Female has made the 2 incompatable although they are of the same species. Even successful Black men are not (Alpha Males) they are just successful males. The black woman has a problem with this truth but it is a reality that only the males themselves can change.

[shaquittaboo]

single black men have too many options so thier living thier lives dating a lot of women and sleeping with them also they get use to going out with a lot of women and choose that lifestyle over settling down and getting married.

[lafemmefidele]

If black women want to marry we have choices outside of our race and country. If we are not willing to accept those choices, then we have chosen to remain single. God always provides, but we may not have what we originally expected to have, and that is of course, the black man. I grew up thinking I would marry a black man too. But God opened my eyes so I can be happy with a godly man of a different color and perhaps even from a different country. God loves us all regardless our color.

[Machelle3200]

Well black women need to realize that being single is just the way its going to be. Im divorced dont date, im celibate and that's the probably the way it's going to be. If these sucessful women can't find anyone doesn't leave much hope for the rest of us.

[theweakarefree]

this is so sad

[xXNubianQueenXx]

Until Black women realize that slavery created our 'MATRIARCHY' which is an offense

to men- we will go no further as a people.

God's design for the family is Male headship

not what the white man set up in slavery and what we hold so dear today!

There is no shortage of BM, but there is a shortage of men who can stomach bossy, controlling church women out of the will of God. The bible teaches Godly submission, but the Black church DOESN'T!

WATCH- 'ARE BLACK WOMEN THE ENEMY?' PT 2

[quemacha]

Submission should be mutual between husband and wife - see 1 Corinthians 7:1-5.

[VAIO294]

quemacha ~ You posted a year ago that "submission should be mutual between husband and wife",, yet the BIBLE does not command the husband to be submitted to his wife...That is a false teaching by church feminist to undermine male leadership and headship in the family and in the church.

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[quemacha]

How do you understand a husband's responsibility in 1 Corinthians 7:1-5?

[VAIO294]

Hi Que ~ 1 Cor 7:1-5 speaks about sexual relations between husband and wife.. that a husband should not withhold sex from his wife.

They don't say the husband is to submit his Headship to the WIFE, or that the WIFE becomes HIS head.

Husbands are to Love, respect, and honor his wife, be a provider for his family, the spiritual leader, and be submitted to CHRIST, not submitted to the Wife.

BW's rejection of BM Headship in the home is one reason the blk family is mostly non-existent.

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[quemacha]

What is your opinion of Sarah Palin and her family situation?

[VAIO294]

Que ~ I think Sara Palin acknowledges her husband as the head of the house.. If she doesn't, she's out of order with God's arrangement for the family... And if Todd believes that Sara is HIS HEAD, he is also out of order.

Role reversal in the Black community, whice goes back to white slave masters using the black woman to dominate the Black man to strip him of power, dignity, and respect, has basically destroyed the black family.

Even in the Church, when WOMEN dominate, men leave.

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[VAIO294]

Also...There are many white men who love to have a woman dominate them, even sexually dominate him... Todd may be one of those....

But, having a femiminst in the home normally ends in divorce... "Strong Independent Black Woman" is code for Black Feminist... This basically makes a Black woman a MAN with a vagina... Black men do not love MAN with a vagina, nor are we drawn to that.

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[xXNubianQueenXx]

For decades we've heard BW say "I don't need a man" and tell each other "you don't need a man"!

We've heard man bashing that no other race of women have done. There is reaping and sowing right? This is the period of reaping.

Time to focus on raising Black boys to be intelligent enough for future wives,

loving enough for wives,

it starts with mom. If mom neglects her

sons, they will grow up to love white women and other women. Instill racial pride in them.

Dating wm will only curse us more!

[frogcombat]

That's disgusting and offensive, while I will not report it.

"Time to focus on raising Black boys to be intelligent enough for future wives."It doesn't say Black wives! It does say

"raising Black boys to be intelligent enough." Ms Nubian Queen(whatever that means)It seems to me that someone has a hypocrytical monkey on their back. How can boys be raised to be intelligent enough for future wives when boys on average are already more intelligent than girls?

Don't start me on love or the facts!

[blackwolvie]

i agree totally,look at what's happening now in terms of BM/BW relationships,a whole slew of sistas now have to eat their "WORDS",oh so u don't need a man huh? not a problem,u can bet ur last dollar that brotha is going 2 find a woman (not necessarily a BW)who will appreciate him 4 who he is and what he can offer in terms of love and affection,it seems like shit has backfired against u but what can

u do? oh i know make some cry-for-help video such as the above or go on Oprah and rant and rave.

[missfashunoitall]

I think the reason these Women are not finding anyoe is because they are soo unhappy with where they are and where theyve been. God want us to be thankful for the moment we are in , if we are constantly focused on what we dont have, bad vibes come from us and push good mates away.Stop believing the stats and start leaning on God's word.

[jdj0096]

I don't think this video is one of desperation. Study these womens lives, go the website...big timers. Have gone on with their lives and have prospered greatly. I understand what you are saying about the stats deal. But I applaud these women for being honest. It would be awesome if more of our men an women marry. What a force! Two saved individuals going forth in life. I am 23, and I wouldn't mind that in the future...but highly satisfied in God. God knows us and some peeps have greater needs.

[missfashunoitall]

I hear what you are saying but there is more to happiness in life than being "big time" and these Women know that now.

[xXNubianQueenXx]

This video gives no solutions whatsoever.

Come to my videos and see what thousands of people comment about.

'A Black Woman's Worth!' pt.1 and 2

[krayzienita02]

Let me guess...you consider yourself to be a good man LOL...YOU MAKE ME LAUGH...HA. (yeah real good man calling females who have said nothing to offend you bitches...LOL) MORON. You have already proven their point by opening your mouth.

[nosugarcoatn]

Oh Please! Your mind is to low for me. You talking about clubs and I am taling about money. GROW UP! You get your sorry ass out the clubs. ROFL!

[nosugarcoatn]

The word Good is realive. Who judges if you are good or not? Many men say they are good but can't balance a check book and can't hold thier ejacualations. ROFL!

[CosmoHunter24]

Interesting perspective.

[conunDUM]

29 law degree no children 4 1/2 yrs celibate my ex is latino. he said he doesnn't feel like a man bc he cant "bring home the bacon." my heart is broken and he's tripping over money that hasn't been an issue bc I am frugal! In 4-5 years I will adopt with or without a soulmate. Soulmate looks thought provoking, uplifting and jam packed with spiritual confirmations; where can a pick up a copy? Thanks for using what God has given you.

[nosugarcoatn]

I do pray the Universe send you a WODNERFUL man!

[BlackTantraGoddess]

We black women have to be more open to love. Generation X & Y black women are choosing to open up to love with non-black men. My finace is white, and many of my gfs are with other men also. We refuse to be alone. A good man is a good man. And some of want to be with other men too!

[quemacha]

I agree. It's a good idea to be open to men of all races, also men who are younger, earn less or are in non-traditional professions.

[BlakeBarbieDoll]

@BlackTantraGoddess I agree, that is the solution!

[orlandomagic654]

Who cares how much money these women have? Funny how they don't mention how good there personalities are.